ULPT Request: long term girlfriend cheated. Looking for deeply annoying but legal revenge
Posted by Thanatos667@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 173 comments
For context, we're both in college, but she goes to a separate school. She is currently in a relationship with her new victim. They had begun seriously seeing eachother months prior to us breaking up. I have heard as much directly from her. He was aware of my existence all throughout. The day before I dumped her, I got up at the crack of dawn to take her to her to class. I held her in my arms as she slept. We kissed. She told me she loved me. I took the time to spiff up her room and get her breakfast. All the while she had already found my replacement. I was actively saving for an engagement ring. The betrayal runs deep.
She is in a sorority. I have screenshots and likely audio recordings of her saying racial slurs (big red flag in retrospect). She is under the legal drinking age, and I have multiple videos of her drinking at college parties.
If you were in my shoes, how would you (I must emphasize LEGALLY) even the playingfield so to speak? Beyond moving on and forgetting she ever existed. Working on that if you could believe it.
ceciliabee@reddit
Honestly, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. And while fucking with her might feel good, caring less than nothing about her again is better.
So I guess maybe unethical, have a funeral for her so you can acknowledge that this bitch is dead to you
_Mayhem_@reddit
1000%. The sooner those of us who have our hearts ripped out understand this, the sooner thatr weight is lifted. Simply NGAF about her or what or she's doing, the better off we are.
Tuckermfker@reddit
I walked by this woman leaving the grocery store about a month ago. She was kind of giving me the side eye as she walked past me. It wasn't until later that my brain went, I think that was my ex from 15 years ago. She just gained weight so I didnt recognize her immediately. The fact that I just walked past her like she was a complete stranger is satisfying, for me. Probably not as much for her. Even if I had recognized her I wouldn't have said a thing. She did me dirty, got knocked up by the guy she cheated with, they barely made it a year, and thats the last I heard about her. I've more than doubled my income, got married, and become a world traveler. She's stuck with her shitty decisions and who knows how many kids at this point. This was a long way of saying, move on, and become indifferent. Don't lower yourself over somebody who is already beneath you.
12345-password@reddit
Damn, went straight to murdering her?
Ill-Firefish-Delete@reddit
Damn. That is some good advice. Feels suspiciously like something a psychiatrist would say! đ¤ I will have to steal this method. Thank you stranger
ceciliabee@reddit
I'm definitely not a psychiatrist but I've definitely seen a few đ... đ
Ill-Firefish-Delete@reddit
All good. Nothing wrong with needing help đ
Fun_Shock_1114@reddit
Opposite of love IS hate. Indifference literally means you're neutral. Stop your spiritual garbage.
mewthulhu@reddit
Just to weigh in on this, I did this with an ex. Instead of caring about what they think, who they were, and what they meant to my life, I just moved on and worked on myself... and honestly, it made her furious. Especially cheaters- they love to have this feeling of the world clamouring for their attention, to be fixated upon by multiple people, they get a huge rush from it.
Think about what hatred really is. Hatred is a deep fixation, passion and emotion centered around a person. Love, is really... that, but positive. On a spectrum of positivity and negativity, sure, they're opposed, but the actual feeding for a narcissist, hating them or loving them, is kinda equal, in a twisted way.
I don't mean this spiritually, I mean literally, rationally, say I love you, and thereby my every thought is about you, I think about you all the time, I fixate on changing your mood... by actions, the difference between this and a deep undying hatred are the same in execution, even if the intent has changed. So I think /u/ceciliabee really hit the nail on the head with this one.
The opposite... would be to simply ignore you, and move on with my life. Instead of spending all my time loving you, or transitioning to another form of fixation around you like a new fix for a drug addiction, I just... leave. Leave, and get on with my life, giving you not a single iota more of my time. When you think about the two options, does hate not feel closer to love than absolute indifference? Psychologically speaking, it's also the most different- there is no dopamine fix from the emotional intensity of our relationship either which way, there is simply nothingness. And at a functional level, hate, love, both are an interaction- therefore, rather than a neutral, could we not mathematically consider action, negative or positive, to be a 1, and inaction to be a null 0?
Don't underestimate how good this advice is because it's often touted by people synonymously with spiritual garbage, I've used it myself as a strategy multiple times and it's changed my life, and enabled me to get to a much better spot because of it.
slackeronvacation@reddit
this was really insightful, thank you! Even though I understood the likeness of love and hatred at surface level, I never really pondered why exactly.
And that tidbit about cheaters' state of mind was a new information for me as well. Though perhaps, there are different types of them that think in all kinds of ways.
PessimisticMushroom@reddit
I agree with you tbh. I don't agree with this new rewording of the opposite of love. For me, I love something, am indifferent(neutral), or I hate it...
ceciliabee@reddit
From love to hate, you turn the tables, sure, but you're still at the same table. Both are passion and interest. Indifference is walking away.
It's not rewording so much at it is stepping back and seeing the bigger picture.
ceciliabee@reddit
I'm not spiritual lol I'm an emotionally sensitive person who has gone through the process of understanding that openly hating someone so they see how much you hate them and Ooo ohhh they feel so bad because they hurt you awww wow if only they could do right by you - is a fucking fool's game played by the emotionally stunted. Hating them changes nothing, it makes them feel justified because you look like an asshole too.
Take the words at face value and call them stupid and spiritual or think deeper on it, extrapolate, and think the scenarios through. Or, I dunno, keep acting like this person and see how far that gets you, I don't really care either way.
saro13@reddit
Love and hate may be opposites, but theyâre on two sides of the same coin. Instead of playing the coin flip game with them, refuse to play.
EndDesperate8544@reddit
But wait.. am I the only one who wishes OP would post a video of said âfuneralâ so that all the people in their lives know why their relationship ended? And then he can start the âindifference stage?â Is that too petty?
ceciliabee@reddit
That's looping back to performative hatred, it cancels out the indifference
PM_Me_A_High-Five@reddit
Yeah. I did this with my first wife and it drove her crazy. Itâs definitely the way to go.
Twice_Knightley@reddit
Write her a oh bitch uary.
Fubarphantom@reddit
Great idea
Strange-Style-7808@reddit
Former sorority girl.
Create a new email account. Email the videos to the following:
Watch it burn
ilovepeonies1994@reddit
This is great. Remindme! 20 days
Adventurous-Phone118@reddit
Remindme! 15 days
myshuntisnamedgerald@reddit
former sorority girl, i second this. include in the email that youâre confused because you thought her sorority holds themselves to a higher standard than that kind of behavior.
exotics@reddit
Count your blessings that you found out now and before an engagement.
Most unethical thing to do is move on with your life⌠then 20 years from now, when she has all but forced about you, and on her third marriage, slip a piss disc under her door. She wonât have a clue.
_Baccano@reddit
Why is everyone saying piss discs
exotics@reddit
Itâs just what we do here.
9curlyfries9@reddit
What is it actually?
Low_Contact_4496@reddit
You piss on a plate and freeze it, then simply slide under the victim's front door without the inconvenience of having to whip you dick out and piss all over their porch
exotics@reddit
Plus it works for people who donât have dicks.
Low_Contact_4496@reddit
How did I not think of that!? Great, it's about time women and euneuchs finally get equal opportunities to be as immature and disgusting as men
pyro3_@reddit
move on but still think about her 20yrs later đ no thanks
Wonderful_Welder9660@reddit
No you move on but set a reminder to do it in 20 years
dealmaster1221@reddit
That's ethical actually.
Equal-Negotiation651@reddit
lol take the high road down to the valley
lamboworld@reddit
Beautiful
showmethemundy@reddit
The best revenge is to build an awesome life for yourself and she will forever be filled with envy and regret
TheOfficeoholic@reddit
Seems like you dodged a bullet. Count your blessings.
khaotickk@reddit
I was talking with two of my best friends last night with my wife, taking about one of their friends. In the past, their friend slept with a coworker who cheated on his wife and he was livid that she came clean to the wife. There was a no contact order placed because of how much he harassed her outside of work, but they still had to communicate while working. Recently, he got her fired.
Within 3 minutes of them talking about it, my wife found the guys home address, phone number, various social media, place of work, and other personal info with a Google search.
We discussed several ways to get revenge against the guy. Some of those forms of revenge include but are not limited to:
Set up fake dating profiles, telling people they're DTF and to show up at their house to meet up.
Fake pregnancy tests
Sign up for websites that they're interested in selling their house, political text messages, Craigslist listings, escort, Scientology, Mormons
Sending Glitter bombs, animal feces, and more
arkensto@reddit
Against men this works best for gay dating sites. Men are 1000% more likely to actually show up at some random house for something like this.
treecastle56@reddit
yea i know this is âunethicalâ pro life tips but sending strange men looking for sex to a womanâs house could put her in serious danger. and could result in police investigation if she calls the cops. honestly, you dont want to be the guy who got cheated on and then became a petty bully after. itâs not empowering it literally just makes people more sympathetic for her because they think âoh heâs a psycho, no wonder she cheated on himâ. best thing is to have control of the narrative where sheâs the cheating moron and youâre the guy who forgot about her immediately bc people like that arenât worth lingering on
lookitsabook@reddit
Maybe I read it wrong but I think they said that it was a male coworker, who cheated on his wife, and the other woman told the wife. Then the male coworker got the other woman fired as punishment. And they were brainstorming ideas on how to get revenge on the male coworker.
It's still a bad idea to send people to his house looking for sex but (if I'm reading it correctly) it's not a woman they're talking about here.
pichael288@reddit
This sounds like it could go wrong in alot of different ways. Definitely don't use it against a woman, but hell even using it against a man could end up really bad. Someone's gonna end up killed or raped or something, people looking for random hookups online aren't usually the most well adjusted people.
khaotickk@reddit
Yes, that is what we were talking about last night with grinder
Equal_Huckleberry_66@reddit
Do all of those
_muck_@reddit
Get into Harvard Law and do better than her.
If you donât know what Iâm talking about, watch Legally Blonde. Youâre in for a treat.
Cheshie213@reddit
What , like itâs hard?
Low_Contact_4496@reddit
Let it go.
I know that sounds stupid, you're legitimately angry and of course revenge is on your mind. But it's not gonna bring you anything. Best thing for you to do is get her out of your mind as quickly as possible. That's gonna take a while, and if I were you I'd be angry as fuck for a while. The revenge you seek won't change that; it's not gonna give you the satisfaction you hope it brings, but will cost you mental and physical energy that she clearly doesn't deserve.
Seems far fetched now, but let it go and a couple of years from now you'll be happy that she showed her true colors well before you were married with kids. Good riddance.
She has committed a deeply immoral act towards you, and you should ask yourself the question if this person is worth you crossing your own moral boundaries for.
Only two things really help in a situation like this: time and therapy.
Best of luck getting through this, I know how it feels. And try be kind to yourself, you deserve that.
fake_slim@reddit
I donât agree with the comments.
You have recordings of her saying racial slurs.Email them to her university and sorority.
To really drive it home try to find the contacts for any sorority members of said race, and send to them too.
Ruin her, she brought this on herself.
les_be_disasters@reddit
I wouldnât drag her sorority members into it but everything else yes.
Dolgar01@reddit
Do you have a friend or cousin she hasnât met?
Get them to contact her new partner and âconfessâ that she cheated on her new partner with them. Get them to do it as a âheads up bro, couldnât live with myself now I found out about you. But man, she is crazy in the sack. Anal on a first date? Woo-wee, canât say I regret it. . .â
He knows she is happy to cheat and the suspicion and paranoia will destroy their relationship.
Other than that, anonymous dropping the racist videos to the correct authorities will also hurt her.
Then there is signing her up as interested to political parties and religious cults (JW, Scientologists etc) will just annoy her.
DudeWithAHighKD@reddit
Sorry but I do NOT agree with most of these comments saying to move on. You deserve to be petty. Give her a small bit of the pain she gave you back. If someone I was considering marrying cheated on me, I'd be going scorched Earth and emailing those videos and voice recordings to the Dean.
WinterHill@reddit
Seriously, this sub has turned into a relationship advice sub/emotional support forum.
People come here for advice about revenge or fucking with their annoying neighbors. And all they get is lectures about how they need to move on. Anything actually unethical is downvoted.
Classic reddit: âHereâs why your question is wrong, and also hereâs the answer to a different question I think you should have asked instead.â
DudeWithAHighKD@reddit
Couldnât agree more.
Equal_Huckleberry_66@reddit
Come on isn't blackmail legal
Just drain her of money until she gives up and then release the files
MsJckson@reddit
Just let it go!!
silianrail@reddit
Ignore her.
Bubbly-Difference225@reddit
Contact the local JWs or similar group pretending to be her and tell them she is interested in signing up.
Planterizer@reddit
Guess her icloud password and delete everything.
CommunityGlittering2@reddit
marry her
Muufffins@reddit
Fuck her dad.
emptiedglass@reddit
Or her mom.
pichael288@reddit
I can't imagine anything worse than my ex moving in with my parents in some kind of three way relationship. Christmas is cancelled forever and you know that asshole is blowing your inheritance (and your dad).
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
..with a piss solo
_Mayhem_@reddit
The cover him in piss discs and liquid ass.
quantum_nomad8052@reddit
But leave him unsatisfied
lamboworld@reddit
No, because they will both hate you. ideally, you want to steal him from his S.O.
xOleander@reddit
Buddy, Iâm side eyeing you only finding racial slurs unacceptable now that sheâs broken up with you.
What have YOU said or done that she might also come back and destroy you with?
Tread carefully. Move on.
AdvancedDay7854@reddit
No. All these are wrong and I will tell you why:
They allow her some form of closure on you.
Be the eternal albatross around her neck. You can remind her everyday of what couldâve been.
Give her the best day of her life. Then move on without a word. Block her on everything. No contact. No explanation. Mutually given items left at her door. Like you didnât exist. It will drive her nuts.
id0ntexistanymore@reddit
She's under the legal drinking age and you were saving for an engagement ring?? Just move on. You're clearly young as fuck
OutRunTerminator@reddit
Be the gentleman, be the classy guy, and move on and concentrate on yourself. Ive been in your shoes, and its a tough pill to swallow, but you will respect yourself so much more in the better times to come if you do it this way.
Thanatos667@reddit (OP)
I want to. I want to be a better person at the other end of this. It just burns me inside that she feels as though she got away with it
Cautious_Entrance573@reddit
It may take 10yrs, but she will eventually realize she lost a really good guy that cared about her and it was 100% her fault for making a stupid choice.
And since you will have moved on with your life and found a partner worthy of you, her regret wonât matter to you in the least⌠but, the best revenge at the moment is indifference, and itâs 100% legal. Practice it until you get there.
Thanatos667@reddit (OP)
Thank you. I needed to hear that. I know that day will come. The day she'll eventually look back and take accountability for what she's done. I didn't even cover the half of it. She is a very broken human. I loved her deeply. More than I have ever loved anyone, or anything. I ignored a lot of warning signs. I tolerated a lot of shit I shouldn't have. But I will never be ashamed. I took better care of her than she did of herself. I taught her what unconditional love was. She taught me the importance of loving myself. I want her to hurt like I do, but I'll have to be patient and give karma the time to catch up.
sittinwithkitten@reddit
Eventually, once she realizes she screwed up, you wonât even care anymore.
StrictlyOk@reddit
Cautious_Entrance is right. I dumped my cheating ex (who I planned on marrying) over 7 years ago, was devastated, did lots of therapy, moved on eventually.
Guess who called me up earlier this year because he still thinks about me, but I stopped caring long ago. âDo you ever wonder if we shouldâve stayed together?â
âSure donât. Donât contact me againâ
Forgot all about that until I read this thread, and I forget about him again soon. Itâs incredibly peaceful.
Howeverrrr healing isnât instant and Iâm a petty bitch⌠wait two weeks, photoshop or use an IG filter to add her sorority name/letters in the corner of a pic or video of her drinking (thatâs a BIG no-no. You do NOT wear or advertise your letters while at a party, ESPECIALLY underage), use a throw away email or IG acct and be like âIâm so excited to pledge next year with yâall! My sisterâs friend posted this on her snap the other day and yâall seem so fun! See you soon!! ~~Makaylaâ.
Then, separately send another email with the racist shit, Makayla changed her mind after she was shown that and she takes social justice VERY seriously! Sheâs actually JUST did a vlog about BLM and is now going to make it a two parter. Use slang and stuff you donât use in real life.
Also, send to her parents the racist shit and drinking if theyâd care (anon). If you were close with them at all, let them know now that you broke up with her because unfortunately you found her cheating but you thought highly of them and youâre sorry that your relationship with them is over now (do this now, other stuff wait two weeks). Thank them for being so kind to you.
You could also (wait a couple weeks) and do one of those notifications that tell her a previous partner of hers, tested positive for chlamydia or some treatable STD. I donât exactly know how these work, but Iâm sure you can find a way to spoof it, or a company that sends back notifications like this. Hopefully the new boyfriend finds out and he dumps her.
And, of course, super soaker full of piss. Soak her car
If she accuses you, block her and ignore. You donât need to convince her or owe her any explanation. Let her sweat and not giving her a chance to blow up at you and get her anger out is just.. delicious
Best of luck
LiopleurodonMagic@reddit
A family member of mine cheated on her husband with another married man. She was convinced heâd never do the same to her. We all knew she was wrong. 5 years into their marriage and she caught him with a mistress and learned of multiple prostitutes. Cheaters cheat. 99% of the time they will never change. You are better than this guy and you are better than her. Have some pride in yourself and hold your head up high. You will find the right person and you will look back on this time and respect that you didnât do something petty during a low point.
B-READ@reddit
This is a very deep comment, your on the right track
OutRunTerminator@reddit
You are already starting down the right road. Well done Thanatos67.
StickyRickyTheThird@reddit
Tell the new guy. Help a brother out.
Thanatos667@reddit (OP)
He knew about me. He doesn't get that courtesy. You have noble intentions. But she's his problem now
MrsRoseyCrotch@reddit
I donât think thereâs a chance of you not feeling this, tbh.
starkistuna@reddit
The best revenge is just to straight up Block her in every social app, delete all the pics and put her behind you. Ghost her completely. Whenever she gets dumped or cheated and she can't get a hold of you to apologize when she matures is the worse that can happen to her. Also speeds up your healing.
PessimisticMushroom@reddit
Getting one over on her will feel good for a couple of mins, but levelling up your life and winning will be a lifelong reward. I had an ex who ended things with me quite suddenly and was quickly seeing another guy (suspiciously quickly might I add) like 5 years later she send me walls of text and called me up trying to lure me back to her and wanted me to cheat on my current gf with her. It definitely felt pretty good her trying to get me back, but I ended up just blocking her number and continuing to try and improve my life.
kimvy@reddit
Karma remembers everything, even if it takes 20 years (it took 20 or so years for someone to get burned very very hard. would have been better to hard paid at the time).
TubeSockLover87@reddit
Do not engage.
Fuck that bitch, you're opening yourself up to trouble for nothing.
She didn't get away with it.
Electrical_Trip1476@reddit
Being someone like that is its own punishment. Idt it's worth the effort to have anything else to do with her.
Punching_Bag75@reddit
Counter point: revenge is something worthy of self respect
PopComRob@reddit
The best revenge is living well my guy
Used_Olive1403@reddit
Fuck her friends or upgrade with your next girlfriend.
You're allowed to be sad for a little bit. But, move forward youre still young.
pyro3_@reddit
"upgrade" with your next girlfriend? brođđ
ben121frank@reddit
Whatâs wrong with saying that, genuine question? Someone who cheats and uses racial slurs is obviously not a good person, doesnât seem like it would be hard to upgrade in the sense of the next girlfriend being better?
pyro3_@reddit
i can see where you are coming from but i feel like it's not fair to your new partner to think of them as an "upgrade" or like some kind of better version of your previous partner (at least to me, that's the connotation "upgrade" carries)
like, you dated someone who was a piece of shit, and now you're dating someone new who's (hopefully) a good person. obviously you'll compare the two, but it feels demeaning to just think of your new partner as an "upgrade"
if my partner told me "oh yeah you're a real upgrade over my ex" i would not be very happy personallyÂ
Punching_Bag75@reddit
Why wouldn't you be happy being told you're a better person than someone they do not want to be with?
pyro3_@reddit
why am i being compared to their ex i am a different person lol
like do you compare your close friends? "oh yes close friend A is an upgrade over close friend B"đ no one thinks like this
Punching_Bag75@reddit
You're being compared because you're occupying a space someone else did, and your partner is happier.
Their ex is not a close friend. Their ex is gone. Dude, no one thinks LIKE YOU.
....upgrade, mark 3, on the horizon
doublecupp69@reddit
Do you go outside or socialize in real life? I get the vibe youâre chronically online.
pyro3_@reddit
yea i'm chronically online
liedel@reddit
FTFY
pyro3_@reddit
lowk this is petty af its not even unethical lol
mrrooftops@reddit
It's not unethical, but beats ALL unethical tips here - move on and don't give a shit. Nothing hits harder than that... APATHY. Doing something like you want to be told to do just communicates that she still has power over you. In hindsight you will understand this as the most important comment in there for you right now.
trevb75@reddit
Post flyers for a Chewbacca impression contest and list her number⌠tried and true method
Local-Shape@reddit
most powerful move is just living better
kooshans@reddit
OP: "Long term girlfriend"
Also OP: "She is under legal drinking age"
Lol. Sweet summer child.
Maxomaxable23@reddit
Upgrade to a better hotter version of her
Nedonomicon@reddit
The absolute best and most killer revenge is success and indifference
Also date one of her freinds but never ever talk about your ex as if she never existed đ
HommeMusical@reddit
Old guy here.
Unfortunately, I only have ethical advice to give, which is this - the downside for revenge is a lot bigger than the upside, particularly in your case, when you're both young.
You could easily trash your degree, or even end up with criminal charges, and for something that would probably not be satisfying. And this might be true even for legal things.
Here are two proverbs for you: "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves," and "Living well is the best revenge."
If you do well in life, I think there's a very good chance that one day this nasty lady will realize she made a mistake and try to come back and at that point you can say, "I'm sorry, who's this? I don't recognize your name." Yes, it has happened to me. To be honest, it didn't make me happy, but things did work out really well for me in general.
crappy_entrepreneur@reddit
You don't need to ruin her life bud, it sounds like she's on the way to doing that to herself. Go forth and prosper đ
mokicoo@reddit
Tell her âOh, thank god! Iâve been way too much of a coward to tell you that this just isnât working. I mean, Iâm sure thereâs nothing wrong with you or anything.â Say the last part kinda hesitantly. It will drive her nuts for years.
IAmYourFath@reddit
I don't think she'll care.
indigoproduction@reddit
im sure your cooch will smell ok to your next guy.. bahaha
Burn1fo_me@reddit
Wait til she graduates and gets a great job in her career then drop those racist videos. Youâll probably stop caring by the
SetPressure6@reddit
Oh... Fuck sending the drinking videos to the University... THOSE...Go to her Dad.
Now The SLURS..... THOOOOOSE..... Go to the University.
HeyItsMeJC3@reddit
Roofie her Dad with GHB and Viagra.
Put a mask over his face, and drop him off naked at one of the sorority's parties. Hopefully multiple sorority sisters bang her Dad, and get knocked up.
SetPressure6@reddit
If you're gonna send the drinking videos to anyone, THOSE... should go to Dad.... The SLURS....?
Oh, now... now those.... THOOOOOSE go to the University
lexybot@reddit
Fuck her friend
evilbrent@reddit
By wishing her well and moving on with my life.
There's no playing field. There's no leveling it.
She stopped loving you and started loving someone else. It happens. It's never neat and tidy.
If you ever loved her you'll let her go.
If you never loved her, you'll seek revenge. Don't undo what love you had in your heart.
N-Y-R-D@reddit
The best revenge is complete and total apathy.
Commercial_Shift_137@reddit
Donât do a thing. Ignore her.
Crazy-Algae-Stealer@reddit
Use her Sephora points
Live-Motor-4000@reddit
Bruv, let it go. Live your life, you dodged a bullet, go find a better one - enjoy your life as holding into that shit is cancer
paintingporcelain@reddit
I donât know you but you come off as a stand-up guy. Donât jeopardize your dignity for someone that with time you will understand wasnât just the right person for you but not even a good person.
Iâve been in your shoes and said and did stupid shit to lash out on a woman who deserved it. It didnât make me feel better. Donât let her make you look in the mirror and ask yourself, âIs this who I am now?â
In the meantime may I suggest reading a short story âGimpel the Fool â by Isaac Bathshevis Singer. Itâs about a man seeking vengeance but finds the right path.
I hope this doesnât sound condescending but you are a young man who has saved some money. Keep it up whether it be for a ring, a home down payment, and or retirement account.
Best of luck, sir.
Thanatos667@reddit (OP)
You are a gentleman and a scholar sir
paintingporcelain@reddit
No. I am Gimpel. And I am a fool.
mysteriouscattravel@reddit
Easy and straightforward:Â Send the videos to the college/sorority. If the audio recording is a thing you actually have, be wary of if where you are requires consent from both parties to record audio before sending it anywhere.
Still fairly easy, less straightforward: Create a script of rude things she would frequently say or trash she said about sorority sisters. Hire a singing telegram to show up at the house and deliver the message of all her gossip. You could also do this with family members (extra points if they are giving her money for college). Effort is important here; specific details cut really bad.Â
Moderate effort, leaves some up to chance: Procure a computer virus and load it onto a thumb drive. Use your personal knowledge of her and her habits to create the best situation that would lead to her putting the drive into her laptop. The key here is that she picks up the drive herself, and is dumb enough to put it into her computer herself. You cannot be planting this drive yourself among her private property.Â
Other option: Have a buddy get to know the guy at an event or place he hangs out. Have him organically ask about the girlfriend so that he will reveal her name. Buddy says he's heard about her and expresses how brave boyfriend is for dating someone with herpes and remarks on how far medicine has come since his uncle was this age.Â
Everyone is telling you that living well is the best revenge. I'm not sure that living well counts as revenge, but she likely is doing fine wrecking her life herself. Use your unique intimate knowledge of her and her habits to leverage a situation to fit your needs.
PackageLost1391@reddit
Just leave man. Revenge means you care
Annual_Government_80@reddit
Are any of the videos from the parties held at the actual sorority? If there was underage drinking at the sorority that chapter could be shut down
ShiaLeboufsPetDragon@reddit
lol are you serious? You think there isnât underage drinking at every frat/sorority house?
myshuntisnamedgerald@reddit
speaking from experience, sororities have strict rules about drinking at sorority events or houses. drinking at frat houses gets a pass, but sorority events and houses is a huge no no and could potentially get her kicked out.
Annual_Government_80@reddit
My niece was in a sorority. They had parties offsite and would rent out a local bar. They were supposed to be carded and given a color-coded bracelet whether or not they were of age. Everybody got the same color bracelet.
myshuntisnamedgerald@reddit
Iâm surprised they rented out a bar of all places, but every sorority is different and has their own rules. Of course, underage drinking is always going to happen in Greek life. OP has ex gf underage drinking on video, so I was trying to say that drinking at sorority events or houses - especially on video - is way more likely to face disciplinary action than drinking at a frat house without video proof.
Annual_Government_80@reddit
I agree I think it would take be taken much more seriously being in the actual house.
ShiaLeboufsPetDragon@reddit
Ah gotcha.
saro13@reddit
There is, but Greek societies hate hard evidence of such and having to handle it in some way, whether itâs sweeping it under the rug or actually punishing members
ShiaLeboufsPetDragon@reddit
Makes sense⌠gotta party smart đ
Annual_Government_80@reddit
My niece is sorority had parties offsite all the time they never had any in the house
SnooPandas1899@reddit
she goes to another school, so its easy to just move on.
i get is sucks now in the short term.
get your diploma, a good job, and a good life.
Really_Elvis@reddit
Just let it go Bro. Donât lose your integrity.
adamb0mbNZ@reddit
Just say to her "I guess what everyone said about you is true". Makes people go crazy thinking everyone talks about them behind their back
DemDelVarth@reddit
So many losers in this comment section, this is "unethical life pro tips". Make a fake tiktok account with her name and post the videos and audio's, spread it around. Send the videos to her college and her sorority.
Agile_Rent_3568@reddit
Live your best life, forget her, and move on. Legal and will tick her off when her present lover disappoints.
If you're successful in life, she'll reach out. Slam that door, she ain't coming back.
makinglunch@reddit
Definitely gotta fuck her best friend. Or someone in her friend group.
Pristine-Public4860@reddit
Can we ban "Living your life to the fullest is the best revenge" - I don't visit this sub to hear that nonsense. Crank it up boys and girls, or go to church.
Flux_My_Capacitor@reddit
You knew her very well, which also means you know her kryptonite. You know what she values most in this world. You know what can hurt her to her core. There is your avenue of revenge.
I wonât get into details, but my ex cheated on me and it took some time until I was able to figure out how to get back at both him and her. I donât believe the BS about how the other party isnât to blame. They are absolutely to blame. What I did was not illegal. I suppose one could make the argument that it was immoral, but donât do this kind of cheating shit if you cannot handle the payback. (They were immoral first.) It started out as a âIâm gonna drop this little bomb knowing that I wonât see the resultsâ. Well, it paid off better than I ever expected and I was able to see the results. And let me tell you it was GLORIOUS! Both of them felt the sting of what I did, with the added bonus of it not necessarily pointing back to me.
And this brings me to my other point. Once you figure out what youâre going to do, you tell NO ONE. Donât ever speak about it other than in extreme generalities to random strangers if you need to talk about it at all. Most people will judge you especially if the revenge has unintended consequences.
Yeah, I get it though. Living your best life isnât revenge when the other parties never gave a damn about you in the first place.
Good luck. đ
Pristine-Public4860@reddit
Details, this sub is about details so others can copy your approach.
Captainxray@reddit
Fuck her dad.
in_the_cabbage@reddit
Post a selfie with a hottie and caption âHappy anniversary! Best year of my life!â
Then piss disc the sorority house.
thrftybstrd@reddit
Make a donation to Scientology in her name.
scoscochin@reddit
Indifference & silence are the way.
tgr31@reddit
Make her dad fall in love with you,then marry him, THEN YOU GROUND HER FOR LIFE
B-READ@reddit
I'm very pro doing petty shit to shitty people. If we're talking about an ex girlfriend though, the situation is different. Your best weapon is indifference, just forget her and move on, the sooner you do it the better it is for you. I was kinda in the same situation as you, revenge wont make you fell better, it will make you look as a sore loser
CarrotofInsanity@reddit
Scorch her earth.
Send in all your documents to the President of her college⌠or bring them. Have a note that says you expect something harsh to be done with this student. Racism, underage drinking âŚ
And send copies to whoever runs her sorority. Point out racism and underage drinking and tell them she needs to go⌠their reputation is on the lineâŚ
Then send it to a local news organizationâŚ
Guinness@reddit
The best revenge is a glow up and moving on with your life in a healthy way. Trust me if you want to make her hurt, better yourself in a way thatâs glaringly obvious.
I broke up with a girlfriend after two years and I didnât realize how much she was weighing me down. I ended up losing like 60lbs in 2 or 3 months (yes, that fast). I started playing volleyball a ton and the weight disappeared so fast.
She came to visit me a few months after we broke up to see my dog (my dog was heartbroken and missed her). The look on my exâs face when I opened the door was priceless. It was a mutual breakup so I honestly wasnât trying to get back at her at all and I still cared for her as a friend.
But I could tell the look on her face was pure regret.
MaddNurse@reddit
Youâre young, Iâm assuming since youâre in college, learn to move on. It hurts, grieve and get over it. She did you a favor and showed you who she really was. That revenge mindset will eat you up.
81644@reddit
She did you a favor. This wonât cost you any $$$. Could have been married, kids involved, etc.
SprinklesDependent12@reddit
Send racial slur videos to college admissions or to her job if she has one. Post on all social media with a anonymous account. Use a tor browser and VPN to be harder to connect to it. Then get over it and move on.
civil-ten-eight@reddit
Upper deck her toilet
MMMelissaMae@reddit
Youâre both in college. Let it go and move on
You have every right to be hurt and bitter. But yall are unmarried with no kids. You can move on from this
Phill_McKrakken@reddit
Carry this hatred into your next relationship. Let the pain morph your character and personality for the worst. Theyâre all complicit, the whole gender must suffer.
Or donât do this, it will take time to accept whatâs happened to you is wrong. You might not ever truly forgive her, but forgive yourself. The best revenge is you moving on and being better, and then finding someone better.
Life_Acrobat_2408@reddit
Every time i make a non-violent suggestion on this sub, I get a warning or a temp ban. So just sign her up for a bunch of really fuxjed up porn sites if you know her email.
andytagonist@reddit
Probably diametrically opposite of unethical, but Iâm gonna say it anyhow: Youâre not old enough to have had a long term relationship. Move on with your life and donât let yourself be bitter. Just move on. Your future self will thank you.
MalcolminMiddlefan@reddit
You already messed up. You should have gotten revenge before dumping her.
Rude_aBapening@reddit
Plan and execute your escape. Show no emotions. Become stoic. Lock in. Shake any emotions she stirs inside you.
Responsible_Serve_33@reddit
Look up the Reddit Petty revenge. đ
ThenJudgment5064@reddit
Tell her you have AIDS
Brilliant_Reply8643@reddit
Sheâs not even 21? 𤣠dude you got a long way to go
maxpowerAU@reddit
Itâs not that unethical but just move on and deal with your grief and bitterness. Cheaters keep cheating, so if it helps, just know that she will cheat on the new guy too.
Or piss discs
khaotickk@reddit
Piss discs are classic.
Dog shit in a burning paper bag is another great one
pyro3_@reddit
block her everywhere and just move on you will genuinely feel better faster and get better as a person, and she will either not care or not like it, and having been on both sides, it can really suck to see your ex having moved on completely and not care at all
ChadGnarly@reddit
Completely disconnect. Delete her number, get her off all your socials, just pick up and move on. Hurt as long as you need to, but don't seek any revenge. Just move on and never look back.
Not giving them closure drives them fuckin insane after a while.
ReleventReference@reddit
Glitter
Randori68@reddit
Dude, just move on. Don't waste your energy on this.
I know it sucks what happened, but simply put.. She wasn't the one.
fatgamer007@reddit
It's not worth it. It may feel good in the moment but then the pain and betrayal will still feel fresh because you haven't separated yourself from it.
The best revenge is to focus on yourself and build a life better than both hers and the loser she's with
Chreed96@reddit
Catch aids. Message her for one last time.