My Serbian husband is in depression (I think)

Posted by Galatiandisgrace@reddit | AskBalkans | View on Reddit | 395 comments

First of all, this is real. So, please make comments on that way. I am a Turkish woman with a Montenegrin husband, who considers himself a Serbian and a very conservative and patriotic person. I know it sounds funny since he has a Turkish wife but I still ask him the same thing everyday. Do you really love me? You are a Serbian nationalist, why are you with me? Wtf? And all kind of womanly questions and he always say you are hot, that’s why. Not a man of many words. I did dna test a few years ago since I have a Bosniak grandfather from Tuzla and wanted to find out my relatives -which I failed- and 40.% Greek 33% Turkish and all kind of other stuff. I come from a very secular family so I really don’t care if I am 100% Greek. I am Turkish. I love Ataturk and the country we built together. So, this year, I asked my husband to take the test. He hesitated first but then said okay in the end because I kinda talk a lot in general. He gave up. He just came out as 59% Albanian. I am not kidding. I was not expecting it either. Now I regret because he is very silent about it. I am trying to say “it is okay, Albanian and Greek were here before our people came and it is very normal to have their background. But I can see he holds a grudge against me over that. Is there any way to make a veryyy nationalist Montenegrin guy (he says everyone that he gave me his surname as a revenge from his ancestors as a joke. That kind of a patriot) feel relaxed after he comes out 59% Albanian? I don’t know the history in detail, were there any time that Serbs and Albanians were in good terms and maybe they fought together against ottomans or something? I am willing to take the blame as an ex ottoman. I just want him to feel goofy again since he actually is, and maybe even buy him a two headed necklace as a joke but I need to make him feel better on that situation beforehand.