Men over the age of 30, have you had to be in a fight since you turned 30?
Posted by PaddedValls@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 276 comments
Outside of something like a boxing match, of course.
In my 20s it was more of a risk of bumping into some dweeb who felt the need to prove himself to someone.
Thank god there's barely any risk of that now.
turdkuter@reddit
Ain't nobody got time for that
Jimishine@reddit
The fights you get into in your twenties, stop you getting in fights in your thirties
AtebYngNghymraeg@reddit
Only with the missus. She won. She's got big arms, like her mother.
asoriginalasyou@reddit
I know it’s a joke, and fair enough, but there are plenty of men who are hit by their female (and male) partners.
Any of you reading this, you don’t deserve that, it shouldn’t happen and they are wrong.
Hitting someone regardless of your emotional state is ALWAYS a choice.
AtebYngNghymraeg@reddit
You're, right, of course, and it's not my intention to make light of a serious issue. I think context is important. I wouldn't have made a similar joke if the topic had been domestic violence, for instance, but you make a good point.
shorterbusruss@reddit
Help me out here, Brits... Is this guy what you folks call a "git"?
appeardeadpan@reddit
“Git” is more like “dickhead”. “Wet blanket” is probably more appropriate, someone who likes to “rain on a parade”. A humourless sod, perhaps. A wet wipe
08150D010E@reddit
To help you out, i think you've just qualified.
SadisticTeddy@reddit
Nope, they're making a valid point. Domestic violence against men / by women absolutely happens, and is under-reported because people are worried about not being taken seriously/mocked.
Steppy20@reddit
Nope. They understand the joke, likely laughed at it, and then let everyone else know that domestic abuse is real and you should speak up about it.
Pen_dragons_pizza@reddit
I had to have this conversation with a past gf. She would punch me in the chest as hard as she could but didn’t see a problem with it because she was small and it ‘doesn’t count’ due to how weak she was in comparison to me.
That shit still hurt and it annoyed the hell out of me that she thought it was ok. Obviously bringing it up and telling her to stop made me the bad one.
shorterbusruss@reddit
Lookit dem guns.....
V65Pilot@reddit
My ex hauled off and popped me once. She knew immediately that she had gone a bit far. Now...did I deserve it? Probably, I was being a bit of a prick that day, which is why I didn't hand it right back to her... those are the rules. She had a pretty good right hook. The makeup sex was amazing though.
iGenie@reddit
A few verbals, but nothing that has escalated.
brinz1@reddit
Turning 30 I started doing BJJ. I spar a lot and did a couple competitions.
Since turning 30 I have been in one situation where a drunk hot head tried to pick a fight with me over something stupid at a bar. My entire brain just went
"Fuck this man, there is not a damn thing in this world worth dealing with this bullshit." And I ignored him
NinjafoxVCB@reddit
Only mentally
LemmysCodPiece@reddit
I restrained and then removed a guy with a knife in a cafe.
He was acting weird sat a table. We weren't paying much attention. He then got a knife went towards the waitress and push my kid's pram over. Something just went inside me, next thing I know he is in an arm lock, I calmly gave the knife to my wife and walked him out the door. The police quickly arrived and they found me with him in the road, with my knee in his back.
First-Mistake9144@reddit
Ah Mr Wick, nice of you to join us.
LemmysCodPiece@reddit
Who?
Unlikely-Check-3777@reddit
Eric Wick
LemmysCodPiece@reddit
Still not getting it.
Rancid_Orphan@reddit
Air Wick
Alarmed-Cheetah-1221@reddit
Did they all clap?
LemmysCodPiece@reddit
Funnily enough no.
TheScientistBS3@reddit
Yes! Go on dad! Seriously, it's great that some people are willing to do stuff like this - risky though, when the other person is armed.
LemmysCodPiece@reddit
I thought about that afterwards. But he had knocked over my daughters pram and was going for the waitress, who was a teenage girl. TBF I am 6'4" and am a bit chunky, he wasn't and I got him from behind.
Like I say something clicked inside me, didn't have time to think.
Circadianrivers@reddit
Hell yeah
Nade52@reddit
Every kid looks at their dad as a hero, you’ve just made it a reality.
-AntiAsh-@reddit
My ex's mum used to be a "responsible adult" that used to have to sit in on police interviews with people who were under the age of 18.
One was this kid who punched a Polish chap because of a disagreement in who was next in line at a pizza place on a night out.
One punch was thrown, the Polish guy hit the deck and died. Completely ruined the young person's life and ended in multiple attempts to take his own life. No idea where he is now.
Fighting is dumb.
Major-Bookkeeper8974@reddit
36 - I've never been in a fight, ever.
Moppo_@reddit
Same. I don't even know how it happens.
Pen_dragons_pizza@reddit
The only times it has happened to me is when I was in my teens or 20s.
It would start because a chav would decided to say something at my expense in the street or do something very minor, and because I am an idiot I would be unable to allow myself to look like a mug and walk away. Instead I felt I needed to stand up to people who threatened my pride instead of doing the right thing and just walk it off.
Got punched on the side of the head once as a result, but that’s because I was trying to save my pride towards 3 older guys when I was 18 and alone in town at night.
bjm123@reddit
Not sure laughing is an effective mechanism for diffusing. I’ve never been in a fight. In large part due to the fact that I have zero pride in these scenarios. Someone could intentionally bump into me and I’ll apologise. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.
Gary_BBGames@reddit
You’d be surprised. Some scrote was shouting in my face once and I just told him his breath reeked. He told me to fuck off and walked away.
treeclimbingcamel@reddit
This is almost a psychological trick. I've been bumped into deliberately in a pub once. I apologised to the guy and said I had terrible spacial awareness. Almost removed pride completely. I said it was my fault and it was nothing to do with him doing it to start a fight or prove her was tougher.
SadisticTeddy@reddit
I only recently realised that some people literally can't help themselves - I'd always assumed people who go on about how they 'lost control' were just cunts trying not to be accountable for their behaviour.
BritishBackBacon@reddit
Getting a punch in the nose really gives you a different out look on life. You should try it
spuckthew@reddit
I'm 35 and wouldn't say I've ever been in a "fight", but I did punch a guy in the face when I was at school (Y9 I think?) because he kept making fun of me and it really got to me. He wasn't even the type of lad to get into fights himself, so getting punched probably did give him a new perspective lol.
Thinkinstuf@reddit
Absolutely correct, as tears sting and you can't see
DanThaManz@reddit
Remember getting one of these for not just folding to a bully. It does change one's perspective slightly.
halen2024@reddit
Same here, and I’m 58
Thai-Girl69@reddit
I've been in so many fights and have a criminal record for GBH with intent after putting someone in a wheel chair for 9 months but honestly I really think I'm a nice friendly guy who would help someone out if they needed it. I'm respectful to old people and love animals. 2 nights ago I felt bad after my girlfriend ran over a large insect that I tried to warn her to avoid. I'm in my my late 40's and last go in a fight a couple of years ago. I grew up wanting to read books and study animals but life doesn't really care what you want so I had to either toughen up or become a victim. I went on to be a Royal Marines Commando and went to war in Iraq in the 2003 invasion. These days I see people revealing in their victimhood and getting so much support and empathy for it. I honestly think if I was born a couple of decades later I could have been a really gentle person. I don't wish anyone harm.
ShoeNo9050@reddit
You are someone I will strive to be. Almost 28 here and same but seems that's some rookie numbers compared to you
Dissour@reddit
45 - also never been in a fight ever.
urgentassistance@reddit
Same
Jolly-Minimum-6641@reddit
I've been in minor scuffles when I was at school.
But a proper "fight" as an adult? Nope.
MCMLIXXIX@reddit
I got punched in the face once when some pissed up guy tried to jump the queue and steal my (and my then gfs) taxi. Thats about it though.
propostor@reddit
I'm 37. A year or so ago a coked up roid head at the pub biffed my brother for no reason. It was busy and I was extremely drunk so didn't really clock what was going on straight away. Wouldn't call it a fight as such but I launched myself on the guy and said something drunk and angry and had him sort of pinned on the floor. Then we all got kicked out.
I'm not a fighting type at all. Aside from that one fairly recent example, I think my last fight was in my early 20s, and that barely counted as a fight either.
Gary_BBGames@reddit
44 now and never hit anyone, never been hit. Been in plenty of bad situations but always been a talker and managed to diffuse them.
Evening-Web-3038@reddit
Not quite 30 but I have noticed that things have chilled out massively compared to my early 20s and I've kept out of trouble.
A big part of it is recognising when there is "electricity" in the air, as I call it. Very hard to describe here, but in some bars/clubs you can just sense when people are looking at you or the staff/bouncers aren't to be trusted etc. OR when you've overstayed your welcome/when the ghouls are out and about.
PapayaWhite1701@reddit
Well put. 49 years old, never been in a fight. Always been able to de-escalate situations or just be good at not putting myself in that situation. I know what you mean about "electricity". I seem to be able to "feel" an atmosphere and know when it's becoming a problem. At which point we move on. Wife thinks I'm nuts, she just doesn't pick up on the vibe at all.
Pen_dragons_pizza@reddit
I think being older you also just know how to diffuse a situation, even if it’s just a smile or an ‘alright mate’, can do wonders.
BritishBackBacon@reddit
Spidey sense
First-Mistake9144@reddit
Yeah you could call it electricity, I definitely know what you mean.
I just go with “energy” tho. If the energy is off these days, we will usually go somewhere else. Just trust your gut, it ain’t worth it.
SearchStack@reddit
When the vibe gets a bit dark it’s time to exit
Leading_Screen_4216@reddit
Yes! It was 8:50 am on a Wednesday morning on the way to work. It was the most weird experience ever so I'm not going to give any details so-as not to identify myself. I came away feeling really sorry for the guy as he also looked like he was on his way to work, so I can only think he was having my most shit time of it.
Dry_Action1734@reddit
I was in a “fight” in year 7, which is where that shit belongs. No, not since I was 11/12.
TitanFlood@reddit
Alex kicking Sam in the field because Brontay said she liked Sam's 360 no scope on fortnight better than Alex's skibbidy rizzle.
Or something to that affect, I don't know I'm too old for this now.
Medium_Tour_5736@reddit
30 year old here.
I had a few fights in secondary school about 5 or 6. 2/5 where proper fist fights 3/5 where fights that turned into a wrestling battle 😂.
From the age of 18-30. I haven’t had any fights. Just rare altercations on nights out but never escalated into more than probably just shoving someone.
The older you get the more you tend to avoid conflict regardless if you can fold the other person with minimal effort.
Although I would say if someone did swing for me I would protect myself and swing back.
S_K_Sharma_@reddit
Sadly yes (road rage) and I really felt my age tbh.
They guy wrestling me to the ground was 20+ years younger and although we were separated in the end, I've been left more inhibited about a fight situation since.
Opening-Tea-257@reddit
It’s so odd how some people attract fights and others don’t. I have thrown a punch once in my adult life (and in the only circumstances where I think it would be acceptable. Some bloke slapped my then girlfriend and I punched him before I knew what I was doing. Tbh he ran off immediately and I probably did more damage to my hand than to him. I am a very scrawny guy).
But my brother-in-law just used to constantly get in fights in his 20s. He lived in a small town in the countryside and I don’t know if he had a reputation or something because whenever he went out there someone would start on him. He’s moved to the other side of the world now and is a much happier person.
Responsible_Dog_9491@reddit
I’m 77 in Britain and I have never been in a fight in my whole life. I’ve never felt the need and never wanted to be hurt.
EscapeArtist92@reddit
No, not for a long time
NiceCunt91@reddit
I haven't been punched since i was like 15 and that was by a woman. Just sat there and ate them lol.
miked999b@reddit
I'm 54, last had a fight when I was 15.
Surprised I've not had one since, certainly in my younger years, but I'd be equally surprised if I had one in the future.
Forsaken_Star_7109@reddit
34.
Man was groping my best friends wife.
Guy got told she was married leave her alone he continued ( me and male friends didnt know this happened yet )
Next bar we go in other friends wife tells my friend about what happened guy walks in friend follows him to the toilets and paggers him.
Me and other friend outside wife tells him what happens he flies in as well I get them both out before arrested.
As we walk away a man gets in my face for no reason tell him multiple times to leave and continues I throw him away and walk off.
As we are walking away 5 or 6 guys come out and goes to blindside other friend who initiated the beating in the toilets guys a big ex rugby player so guy bounces off him but goes flying into his wife and smashes her into a van breaking her collarbone infront of me.
Me, dont like fighting never have but always able to handle myself grabs him and hit him and 2 others jump on my back but as I move other friend kicks one off me and second just flings off.
Big 6'2 heavy set guy grabs me and puts me into a front face headlock.
As i go to push him up he pushes down and cracks 2 of my ribs and a slipped disc.
I take a knee at this point and thinking im way too old for this shit.
Police come try arresting me explain situation get let go find friends everyone ok go to hospital for the friends wife.
Dont condone violence but the guy deserved his beating in the toilets for touching a woman.
Dont condone it was me who probably came out worst than everyone 😫
_1489555458biguy@reddit
Not a criminal so no.
forbiddentombs@reddit
I have not been in a fight since birth. I'm 52.
Gartlas@reddit
Man I've not been in a fight since I was 18 lol. And even that was because running wasn't an option when this particular incident kicked off.
Since then, I don't think I've had a single scenario where it's even been likely. The closest I've come was making a snarky comment about how quiet and well behaved his kids were to a guy who parked his Mercedes in the last parent/child spot on a Saturday, without any kids with him. Anyway he squared up and threatened to knock my teeth out whilst I was holding my 1 year old, screaming swear words at me, spitting on the ground.
truearse@reddit
Lot of Reddit answers on here..
thrrowaway4obreasons@reddit
Yeah but I do kickboxing. Swift leg kick and he hobbled off thinking again. I’d barely call it a fight.
roasted-narwhal@reddit
I left the army at 22 and have never been in a fight since. I got into a fight in school at 14 after years of being bullied and into a fight at 21 in the army over how something was handled. I was angry when young and leaving the military helped alleviate that anger.
BigDumbGreenMong@reddit
No, but the closest I came was intervening in a situation where some rough looking guy was harassing a woman on the street. Nobody else was doing anything so I went over and challenged him - trying to look confident but inwardly convinced I was about to get my head kicked in - he eyeballed me for a bit then walked off.
IainMCool@reddit
Not since school. I'm generally a mild mannered pacifist. Closest I've come was a few weeks ago. My blind son put his bag down in a cafe and someone grabbed it. I noticed it was gone and ran outside and saw the person with the bag. I ran after him and snatched it back and was fully prepared to smack the shit out of him if he'd fought back, but he cowered and babbled sorrysorrysorrysorry at me. I was a bit cross.
Valuable-Leading-114@reddit
Some opportunist addict then?
IainMCool@reddit
DIdn't look like it. Other than the fact he was carrying a stolen bag, he was otherwise well-presented. Lanky fucker.
yiddoeagle@reddit
Been attacked a couple of times at work (I work in a psych ward) but it really couldn’t be called a fight, th aggression only came from one side. I think the important thing I’ve taken from those experiences is that the vast majority of people have absolutely no idea how to punch or kick, and that the fear of a punch is far worse than it actually happening
DeathblowMateria@reddit
Never been punched, never thrown one. Managed to talk my way out of it
JustPlayTheGame1@reddit
31- Haven’t had a fight since my early 20s.
Almost got into a fight in a kebab shop about 3 years ago. Kebab shop guy and a customer started kicking off. My mate jumped in tryna cool things down. Customer started shoving my mate, so I manhandled him out the shop. Kebab shop guy did get a smack on the guy while I was shifting him, but that was it.
Dartmoor_Phantom@reddit
35, not been in a fight for 25 years!
Unless you count having to stop my daughter from smacking me when she couldn’t have Peppa Pig.
Theatrical and gentle her smacks may be, it’s still not OK to smack people!
Skyremmer102@reddit
I was in a fight club at work once. Tbh, it was a pain in the arse.
Valuable-Leading-114@reddit
I do feel that this entire thread is largely being answered by middle-class white guys in their 30s and 40s. Be interesting to hear what the experiences of people who aren't white are nowadays in this grubby country
ThingintheNorth1@reddit
Punched at night club . Then they ran away . Probably about 30 then. But that was 11 years ago. Nothing since.
The-Mandolinist@reddit
I haven’t had to be in a fight since I was 18. And that wasn’t a fight really - it was getting attacked, with friends, for no reason by a bunch of pissed up twats in late night Doncaster. We were in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Nothing since. I’m 52.
Xerothor@reddit
I turned 30 in August and I haven't fought anyone since school lmao. Are people really that violent towards you?
MisterD90x@reddit
No, I'm a big guy standing 6'5 160kg, but honestly I'm the typical gentle giant, I don't want to have to fight someone especially young idiots who are trying to "hard"...
If you're going to attack a loved one or a friend then I am most definitely stepping in.
Total-Elephant1062@reddit
46 and never even been close to being in a fight
hotchy1@reddit
About once a year. Mostly shop lifters, who decide to fight back instead of giving back. Im not a super market that can absorbe it, so steal off my shelves its out my pocket.
Tbh none of them are 6ft power houses, just skinny under fed weak addicts, so deal with them swiftly so they can't use weapons and its over quick as they scamper off with nothing but sore ribs. Only had 3 weapons used over the years. 1 gas powered BB gun... lol. 1 knife and 1 screwdriver. All 3 times I wasn't in! They always try it when its the girls working.
Ali_103@reddit
35 and never been in a fight. Got hit once at school age but that’s about it.
I think if a fight happens there’s no winners so it’s best to avoid at all costs. The only way I’d get into a fight is to defend myself (I try and avoid people anyway) or to defend someone else, mainly thinking about family etc.
sgrass777@reddit
I just stare at people angrily and they back down and leave. I'm 6'3 and very well built though 🤣
Equivalent_Ask_1416@reddit
I was surrounded by a group of teenagers accusing me of something I hadn't done. And yes, I was physically surrounded, but I kept my cool and kept walking like they weren't bother me much at all.
Sluggybeef@reddit
Never been in a fight, helps I am good mates with irl one punch man. He would always knock the aggressor out in one hit and then everyone would be overcome with the equivalent of post nut clarity and that would be it
dallasp2468@reddit
I was 20 the last time I got into a proper fight with strangers and lost (we got jumped outside a nightclub) I'm 56 now and haven't had a flight since.
Hi-its-Mothy@reddit
I wonder if this is a regional thing. My partner grew up on Merseyside and said he found it really weird when he went to college in the south, that every night out didn’t end up in a fight. This was in the 80’s though and I don’t recall him mentioning a fight after his mid 20’s, but to be fair, he probably wouldn’t have told disapproving me.
Interceptor@reddit
Only once luckily, many years ago, and I was just over the 30 threshold. A couple of lads decided to go for me outside a kebab shop, no reason, hadn't spoken to anyone, was busily ploughing into a lamb diner when a fist came flying in. Luckily I managed a good swing, one fell over and they ran off. No idea what that was about, maybe I just have a punchable mug.
TSR2Wingtip@reddit
50 here. Other that silly stuff at school I've never been in a fight as an adult. Thank goodness.
Ok_Specialist3693@reddit
Yes around 6, lost 1, these are not pussy slapping get broken up fights, fights where you can get fucking hurt
theMarkyMcMark@reddit
Not fight but punched a neighbour
Asked him to stop leavi6his car running under out bedroom at 5 am (reasonable request. He'd start it up and go in for a coffee for half an hour) I asked politely as we always got on, he got angry immediately as someone had already reported him to the council
Him "suppose you're the cunt who grassed me up?"
Me "no, first time I'm asking, and dont call me a cunt"
We go back and force arguing, I walk away before I punch him
He looks at my wife, and says "if that cunt comes back out here I'll rip his other leg off" (I'm an amputee)
So I flew back out grabbed him in a headlock and punchd him in the face a few times until another neogpulled me off.
Punching hurts, I broke 2 knuckles on my hand and his nose
Metalsteve1989@reddit
Only "fight" i have been in is Sparring in taekwondo.
dazedan_confused@reddit
Nope, tend to use words to diffuse situations. You don't know who has a knife, turning a winning situation into a losing one.
JavaRuby2000@reddit
No not real ones. I did Muay Thai, Kick boxing, BJJ and MMA training well into my 40s. Had a few matches but, even full on MMA is nothing compared to a real street fight (Maybe back in the early days of Pride it was).
Back in my 20s it was a different matter. People would start fights outside clubs or pubs just for the fun of it. I think things have massively chilled out these days. I still go out and see young lads about and none of them really seem to get into fights.
zxcvbnmqwerty12345@reddit
Does fighting to get up from bed counts? 😀
JagoHazzard@reddit
No. The only time I ever got in a fight was in my early 20s, and that was because my drunken idiot friend got lairy with another drunken idiot and ran off. Drunken idiot #2 decided I was fair game. It wasn’t exactly a Hong Kong action movie, just some guy flailing at me while I tried to block him until he fell over.
Legal-Grade-6423@reddit
I’m now 34 and have been doing BJJ for 6 years, haven’t had a fight since I started unfortunately so can’t test it’s effectiveness
SlightlyIncandescent@reddit
35, no not since school.
SchemePale6222@reddit
I’m 47 and the last fight I had was at work 8 years ago.
R3bornSh33p@reddit
At 33 my wife was verbally abused on our doorstep so I drove home from work to find the guy. After some door knocking it turns out he was a neighbour backing onto our garden in his mid-late 50s. I calmly confronted him to ask for an apology and he went fucking mental. I then not so calmly proceeded to lay the smackdown on his candy ass.
Only change from my 20s was I had the mental clarity not to throw punches, because fuck me it’s dangerous and I don’t fancy getting locked up for someone else bullshit!
On a side note, the guy was then arrested and sent on a mandatory behavioural course. Turns out he was also abusing his own wife … shock
LostTheGameOfThrones@reddit
I've squared up to a fella who was harassing one of my colleagues who I was on a night out with because he was under the impression that she owed him her number. Didn't escalate to a fight, but I was very clear that he needed to step away.
yourefunny@reddit
Not in my 30s. Several drunken fights on nights out in my late teens and early 20s. Almost got in a fight with a very angry dude in Jordan to protect my GF in my late 20s. But thankfully he backed down.
RootForTheVillains@reddit
When i was 34 I went to Amsterdam,to watch DJ Shadow after leaving the gig I had a bag full of merch. me and my friends went to a few bars I was quite drunk, after leaving a bar a man from inside the last bar followed me and tried to rob me, so I threw my bag to my friend and basically had a fist fight with this scumbag unit he was laying knocked out in the street. Then 3 police vans instantly showed up and arrested the guy, they asked me if i wanted to make a statement back at the station but I just wanted to go to the next bar.
JustEnoughEducation@reddit
Nope, was about 25 last time I was in a fight. No plans to be in another one either.
-mister_oddball-@reddit
Yes. Worked in a convenience store in a very rough area and was attacked multiple times and had to defend myself. The reason I left that line of employment. It's not big or clever .
The_Deadly_Tikka@reddit
I turned 30 9 months ago and no I haven't had a fight since then. However, I grew up in a rough area and refused to hide away in my house so I had my fair share of fights.
mackerel_slapper@reddit
Closest I got was a party when a bloke was trying to start a fight. I said (I was in my 40s he’d be 30s) ‘come on son, time to leave’ and - even more so when I’d later sobered up - much to my amazement, he did.
Remarkable_Effect408@reddit
I had someone try to rob me one night walking from work I told him to fuck off n he tried ti take my phone 🤷♀️
Diligent-Bed3370@reddit
Only fights I get in now are trying to put my socks on.
Dramatic_Strategy_95@reddit
Altercations yes, but nothing that has come to blows.
Lazy-Egg951@reddit
36, most recent scuffle 2 weeks ago with a taxi driver that tought he's owning the road
Thestickleman@reddit
1
Sometimes get close to it at work but that's how it is Fighting is pointless unless absolutely needed
wilddogecoding@reddit
Never been in a fight in my adult life I'm 33, only fight I had at school was like year 8 which lasted about 20 seconds before teachers broke it up.
woodstar11@reddit
I'm 55 and a Prison Officer, so yes and it's not nice and getting harder the older I get. Hopefully in 5 years I can get out in one piece!
Sea_Pomegranate8229@reddit
63 Never been in a fight in my life - been in a war and got shot and bombed - but never been in a fight
SubstantialSnow7214@reddit
My 30s are very different from my 20s. Back then, weekends often meant going out drinking at clubs, where you were more likely to run into people looking for trouble. These days I rarely go out in that way. Instead, my time is spent on things like dog walks, going to cafés with my wife, baking, jogging or gardening.
I have grown up a lot, especially since having children. I feel strongly that getting into fights, or letting yourself be wound up into one, is both wrong and immature. The only exception is genuine self-defence.
Stabbycrab1@reddit
Yep I agree. Only one altercation (just) over 30 I’ve been in where me and a buddy were smoking outside a sport club bar minding our own business.
Two lads walked up and started getting in our faces and after two warnings to back off I pushed the lad, who was chest to chest with me at this point, off to arms length.
The whole thing exploded and next thing it was a 6v2. Apparently I put one in a bin, floored a second and left another with a sore face. The remainder of them started backing off at this point
My friend got dragged out and floored almost right away on the path outside and my main priority was to go scoop him up and get back inside. Luckily someone else who was coming out for a smoke saw everything and went to retrieve him.
I’ve never gone out looking for a fight, but it can happen where you’re forced into a situation and it’s well worth knowing how to defend yourself. Sadly diffusing with words wasn’t going to happen and I learned later the same guys had been kicked out of a nearby bar for the same behaviour
RunningCrow_@reddit
Completely agree. I've been in one altercation as an adult and my friend another which I witnessed. Both were started by the other person and for absolutely no reason. Some people just suck and can't be trusted around alcohol.
Stabbycrab1@reddit
Personally I don’t understand it, I’ve got stupid drunk and never had disagreements. It’s people who say ohh I drank whiskey instead of beer that confuse me. It’s all the same in my experience.
Personally I envy people who drink 6 pints and need a taxi home, would be much more affordable 😂
PurpWippleM3@reddit
48 and I've never had to be in a fight full stop.
Internal-Leadership3@reddit
Never.
I think you're more likely to have a mild verbal disagreement over the pronunciation of the word scone at our age than anything else
PaddedValls@reddit (OP)
Game's scone
Snoo_67993@reddit
It's pronounced scone!
DarknessIsFleeting@reddit
Scone rhymes with gone. This is the prettiest hill I am willing to die on
seven-cents@reddit
No it's not! Its pronounced scone!
shorterbusruss@reddit
Came to the sub (I'm American) to check out various threads in prep for my move to UK in a few months..
Stayed to watch Brits arguing over scones.
KitWith1Tea@reddit
ITS PRONNOUNCED SCONE! 🤣
DontTellHimPike@reddit
A cherry one please, with raspberry jam and clotted cream. Also a large Chai tea and a bag of pickled onion Munster Munch.
Cheers.
PaleMaleAndStale@reddit
In some places it's pronounced Scoone.
DeschainSWNC@reddit
It has to rhyme with 'gone', or my favourite dad joke doesn't work.
What's the fastest cake in the world? wave hands in a magician like manner Scone!
albertsugar@reddit
No point in disagreeing, it's pronounced scone.
badgersruse@reddit
You startin’?!?!?
Sylvester88@reddit
No. I cant fight for shit but ive been bodybuilding for 15+ years. People assume i can fight and it keeps me out of trouble.
SunUsual550@reddit
I got into a fight with the groom, if you can really call it a fight, at my wife's sister's wedding.
Groom was drunk and probably on coke and behaving like an utter wanker. If wasn't the first time and probably wasn't the 30th time he'd done this.
I called him out on his behaviour. He tried to throw a bottle at me but was too pissed, I pushed him on the floor and restrained him while he tried desperately to punch me in the face.
Then the next day we went round telling everyone I jumped him and stamped on his chest and all sorts of bollocks.
When you have chaotic people and alcoholics/drug users in your family sometimes these situations are unavoidable.
EatingCoooolo@reddit
Nope. Haven’t had a fight now for maybe 25+ years.
BarGuilty3715@reddit
I spent my 20’s managing bars/late venues and from that, learnt that if you approach a shit situation with the intent to diffuse it and the confidence that you have 10 bouncers to back you, it usually calms down.
Appreciate there might be exceptions to this but the majority of people don’t want to fight so if you give them a way out they will take it.
super_sammie@reddit
The thing is unlike you all I’m actually hard as nails and went through a period where I had fights nearly every week.
All jokes aside if I hadn’t joined the prison service I’d be 35 having never fought with another adult. My body also likely wouldn’t be as sore!
Scared-Room-9962@reddit
Nah.
Last fight I had was a drunken brawl with my best mate when I was about 26. Time before that I was probably still at school.
Big-Mongoose-9070@reddit
Yup totally get what OP is talking about.
I am 37 btw.
When i was a teenager, walking the streets on my own or a few friends and bumping into a group of other teens from another school or area was always a bit of a fear and it did happen occasionally and there was tension and somtimes verbals or a fight etc.
There was a local nightclub that started doing under 18s disco nights which used to put every school and estate in a packed room once a month, it kicked off like crazy to the point where after the third event it got cancelled by the police.
Then when i started going to night clubs at 18, you got looks of others of a similar age and you wss wary of your surroundings etc, if rarely actually kicked off but it occassionally did.
I was not perfect in any of the above scenarios either, me and my group of friends could somtimes dish it out as well as recieve it.
Fast forward to about late 20s, the whole thing stopped, anywhere and everywhere i went i was not bothered about who i bump into anywhere and did not feel like i anybody cared about my presence anywhere and i just managed to relax and although i consider myself street wise my guard is down alot more now and so are my peers, it allows for alot better social interactions all round.
Wilberbedford@reddit
Recently in a local high street pub. Some bloke was pinning women in corners and trying to touch them. Managed to get one women frozen in fear so my friend told him to back off. He just started swinging straight away. I proceeded to push the bloke to the floor and bouncers came and took him away. Not really a fight more of a scuffle.
Moving4Motion@reddit
Just once, when gypsies invaded a wedding reception I was attending.
NoBees8008@reddit
Had loads from the ages of around 14-20. After that 0 tbh.
ROM_of_ROMKOM@reddit
I haven't been in a fight since I was 0 years old. 57 now. I haven't done anything to avoid getting in fights, I'm just a normal person doing normal person things, and not fighting is normal for most people.
South_Leek_5730@reddit
I'm not allowed to talk about it. This is the second rule.
James188@reddit
What’s the first?
South_Leek_5730@reddit
The same as the second with less gusto.
TheDayvanCowboy_@reddit
I’ve not been in a fight since I was a teenager, 30 years ago. Children fight, not men.
Super-Hyena8609@reddit
Not been physically assaulted, no. Though I have several times been on the receiving end of verbal abuse from strangers which I suppose could have turned into a fight if I was so inclined.
unskippable-ad@reddit
Once, when another adult man pushed my daughter out of the way at a restaurant so his friends could have a giggle
Spent the night in a cell over it, 10/10, would do again
Sgt_Sillybollocks@reddit
Yes on a night out. My wife got pushed by a drunk guy who was arguing with a doorman as we tried to leave a bar. She fell to the ground so I superman punched him from the step of the bar. He was out cold but I didn't see his 3 friends who then jumped me from behind,got me to the ground and tried beating me with my shoes.
Luckily the door staff got involved and give the 3 guys a tuning. Police were called I was asked to leave the area. I didn't get my shoes back.
CombinationLimp3364@reddit
Once, at work, someone pulled a knife
The door to the ambulance worked wonders, as did the taser from the AFO that arrived very, very quickly
Zealousideal-Ebb165@reddit
Ex boxer here. If you’re fighting in your 30s which isn’t a sport..you’re a gimp
Ok-Machine-3727@reddit
One. Was left with little choice.
Fenris78@reddit
I managed to get myself in a regrettable situation last year, and get myself arrested and cautioned for ABH at the tender age of 45. Never been arrested before and hadn't been in anything resembling a fight in 15 years.
I believe that the original cause of the altercation was fairly noble - I stepped in when I noticed a guy roughing up his girlfriend at a gig. He was super aggressive to me, I called security and let them deal with it and I went out for a vape.
I saw him and his girlfriend leaving, I very foolishly went to say something to him, he was super confrontational again and without going into too many details we ended up fighting and he got hurt more than I did.
I honestly don't feel any remorse. He was fine other just a few cuts. I absolutely shouldn't have put myself in that position, and having to ring my wife from the police station and then explain to work why I missed half a day was massively shameful. But the guy was an incredibly aggressive and toxic little prick who got exactly what he was asking for 🤷🏻♂️
Used_Repeat_6613@reddit
41 and yes sadly it's happened quite recently during a falling out with a family member... They where being really antagonistic towards me and punches would of been thrown if not for the intervention of their mate who dragged them out of my home. The fucker got right in my face, forehead to forehead stuff. Really aggressive... I'm not sure I would of punched them first but thank God for that mate of theirs
Turns out they use cocaine on a semi regular basis and that's turned them into an utter raging a-hole
So yeah, closest I've ever actually gotten into a fight since my early 20s...
MattyLePew@reddit
33m, wife was assaulted today (punched in the face twice and kicked in the stomach) after she approached them for repeatedly hitting their dog.
I was repeatedly thumped in my chest by a female neighbour after I confronted the dad of the woman who verbally assaulted my wife when she arrived home with our kids. That was around 6ish months ago.
Prior to that, I was in a fight against 6 other men/boys when I was drunk. I was probably around 23ish then. I was with ‘friends’ that stood by and let it happen.
Skruffbagg@reddit
I literally just read about this on r/legaladviceuk
MattyLePew@reddit
That’s the one! We were doubting ourselves who was the victim in all of this as there were loads of people that ‘appeared’ that sided with the man that hit my wife. Made us feel like she was in the wrong. In the video you can see the two punches to the face and kick to the stomach my wife sustained.
Seen and spoke about some of replies coming in on her post. Glad to see that people are siding with my wife’s side rather than the other guy.
Skruffbagg@reddit
Pretty shocking really. You wife felt threatened so was defending herself with the pushes. The fact she was then punched and kicked, by a man, is a much more serious assault. You should have had the guy arrested. I would certainly speak to the police (although they’re a joke these days who would rather persecute innocent people that deal with actual crimes).
MattyLePew@reddit
The ‘issue’ we had at the time was that it was our word against theirs, although my wife’s cheek was bright red where she had been punched. We later found the dashcam footage but it was after the police had questioned us.
We will definitely be providing this to the police though.
Downtown-Jump4408@reddit
That’s mad I just read yours wife’s post about a minute ago
MattyLePew@reddit
I was elsewhere with my eldest son and daughter. My wife took our youngest (5yo) back to the car as he was unwell and it was rainy. First thing I heard from it was a phone call telling me she had just been hit in the face and kicked by a man.
I ran back as quick as I could with the kids and he was the one on the phone to the police?… I couldn’t wrap my head around it.
Managed to find the dash cam recordings and (of course) it played out exactly as my wife explained to me. Next thing we knew, she was being questioned by the police.
Such a strange occurrence. We were out celebrating my eldest son’s birthday too. 💩
Awkward_Leopard_6021@reddit
No, not since school.
Joshthenosh77@reddit
This is Reddit ! No one here has left there house lol
BritishBackBacon@reddit
What else you going to do on a Saturday? Sit in you fucking armchair wanking off to Pop Idols? Then try and avoid your wife's gaze as you struggle to come to terms with your sexless marriage? Then go and spunk your wages on kebabs, fruit machines and brasses. Fuck that for a laugh. I know what I'd rather do: Tottenham away. Love it!
throwthrowthrow529@reddit
I’ve not been in a fight since I was 18.
I’m an adult, I will likely never be in a fight, the risk reward is 99.99% on the risk side.
I still train boxing/sparring so if I had to throw a pinch I know how… but you have no idea what training the other person has, what weapon they might have, if you hit them first, they might fall funny etc.
Walk away b
Global_Recipe8224@reddit
Waste of time as after everything was split up the partner was having a go at me 🙃
OkChildhood2261@reddit
Not since I stopped going to sketchy nightclubs full of wannabe hard men. Every single fight we got into, without exception, started with me or a friend getting sucker punched without warning.
Mainstream nightclubs are the worst. Hang out with the metal heads instead, those people are all lovely.
GodzillaRoll@reddit
Good question. I'm forty. I work as a solo train conductor in a major metro center for years now. The above posters are right -- I survive mostly reading the vibes of a situation. It helps that I was built to fight in phone boxes so that sort of dissuades most people from trying much of anything on trains. Lots of mean words and stomping.
I am not the biggest guy but I find that if you give off porcupine energy most anti social folks give you room. Could you and your buddies rob me on this train? Sure. But out of four people two are going to remember me when it rains and their joints hurt😆
90 percent of people are absolutely all talk. That crazy upper ten percent is what you look out for!
Overall it's good I've found a way to make my PTSD work for me. Who said I can't be paid to use that baked in hypervigilance.
ApprehensiveAd9202@reddit
A person that knows how to fight carry themselves differently
Once you see a skinny guy beat up the tough looking guy once it fucks with you
You never really know who's about that shit
Ain't it funny that the super muscular fellas are probably not much in a fight but the guy with a slimmer build might just do more damage
kipha01@reddit
I haven't been in a fight since I was about 12 in school, I am 50 now. In my opinion men who get in fights are children who have never grown up.
Rich-Zombie-5577@reddit
I think it may come down to lifestyle. I'm in my early 50s. I haven't been in a fight since secondary school. I witnessed a couple of fights on nights out in my late teens and early twenties, including my mate getting head butted during a pool game. Once I got married, had kids, a home in a nice village and responsibility, the nights out stopped and so did going to places where in general violence might happen ( like town centres on a Friday night).
On the other hand, my father in law is nearing 70 and has been in several fights since I've known him. He lives on a council estate, and his life pretty much revolves around going to his local pub and getting paissed with a bunch of blokes, with colourful nicknames, who seem to have anger issues.
Dense_Professor4596@reddit
It’s a stupid idea! 😂 I tried to intervene in a situation between a young couple, holy shit was he stronger than I remember people being when I was that age. I was on the floor before I knew where I was, I was talking to him throughout trying to get him to calm down and I slowly managed to get back up from what had originally felt like a precarious position (the strength felt formidable for a minute, I thought I was in deep shit! 😂) to have him pinned against a wall where we couldn’t really move or hurt each other. I say that, if he’d moved he’d have had broken fingers because I really did not fancy going again and they were bent back to breaking point and I bloody well meant it at that point as I knew it would have been a case of who’d burned out quicker first time round but I managed to talk him down to where he was telling me what was happening and in the end it was agony aunt time which was a much better scenario in my book.
Woke up the next day considerably uglier than usual, hadn’t felt that during the original burst of adrenaline and I’m not sure if that was punches or the ground, I also felt like an even older bastard than I am by about 20 years. My ego was fairly wounded, hard lesson learned, either he was far tougher than he looked or I’m really not that young anymore. Quite friendly with him now, even if he did destroy my ego that I was clinging to 😂
Lazy-Kaleidoscope179@reddit
In my early 20s last time I had a fight. I won, and I've a criminal record to show for it. 0/10 do not recommend.
RiothamusFootsoldier@reddit
honestly, my worst fear growing up realised in a post. I'm so sorry my man.
MonsieurGump@reddit
Several.
Always unwilling but none that I’ve lost. It comes with working late nights in small bars in sketchy parts of big cities.
Couple of examples include
“Guy that I had to remove for pulling his girlfriend around by the hair who came back drunk the next night looking for trouble”
“Going for an after work drink somewhere with a late license to find the bartender (who I knew) being threatened by a gang of arseholes”.
I’m no fighter, but have a bit of size about me and more importantly was usually sober when faced with drunks.
ruffianrevolution@reddit
That's not fighting though, that's "working with animals" just not in an agricultural setting
MonsieurGump@reddit
Ha. Fair play.
sum-9@reddit
No. Always walk away.
phetea@reddit
Push and shove with the drunken neighbour a few months back. In my early 20's I'd of been out there for the "straightener" he kept asking for but as this was in my doorway and my child was scared I pushed him out of my doorway and simply shutting the door to go be with my wife and kids.
Took a few days pondering and disappointment with myself for "backing down" but ultimately I made the right choice and am more proud now.
NumeroRyan@reddit
Outside of boxing, nope!
I’d be crap in a real fight as rules don’t apply so de-escalate is always the go too.
Rossco1874@reddit
Closest have came is trying to get a drunk guy to leave store i worked in as he started verbally abusing me and my colleagues. Tried to get him to leave and he kept agitating me and got really close to my face at one point where I was prepared to defend myself. Eventually he left but that's as close as have come to an actual fight
rezonansmagnetyczny@reddit
Ive done a lot of pushing people off me, and taking people to the ground before it escalates into a fight.
AonghusMacKilkenny@reddit
No, I've not been in a scuffle since I was in school
SearchStack@reddit
I’ve done kickboxing, boxing and Muay Thai since I was 15, now 32 - aside from sparring at clubs I’ve never been a full fledged fight since I came out of school,
Due-Independence1530@reddit
In my early twenties I had a few when on nights out etc and I put that down to myself being immature.
36 now and have had barely more than a verbal argument with someone for at least 10 years.
Right_Candidate461@reddit
29 here, I've been in 3 fights since turning 18 one ending in me being arrested. I'm a very passive guy and if insults are thrown my way ill just say something witty back if I can and continue doing what I was doing. Some people can't take a comeback too well. I'm glad the nights out are behind me
Tall_Bet_4580@reddit
Usually weekly, sometimes daily all depends on what the shout is and shift. Friday Saturday is a guarantee, usually drink is involved but a few have been just violence. Joys of the job 55 now and retirement is on the horizon I'm actually going to miss hand bags at ten feet which usually ends up with me flipping them and putting the appropriate pressure on a arm lock but I do like the old fist cuffs but with mobiles and cameras things have changed alot.
Therashser@reddit
I was in a local pub when a scrote tried glassing a barmaid, I helped him outside where he began attacking a woman there, all of a sudden there was a brawl with lots of people involved as the scrote had his friends waiting to attack the pub's patrons, the pub closed down years later due to a murder in a similar vein.
cragglerock93@reddit
No, I haven't.
I vividly recall asking my dad when I was about 12 if he'd ever been in a fight and his exact words were "no, I'm not a dickhead".
GerFubDhuw@reddit
I've not had to be in a fight since I was a child.
faceplantedyamam@reddit
Yep, through work. Guy hit me with a bottle to kick things off. I didn’t hold back. Got blamed for starting it, got a scar in my forehead for the trouble. He didn’t fare well.
First fight I’ve ever had, don’t wish to repeat it.
Less-Bug-2253@reddit
Depends on your level of idiocy. Idiots get into random fights.
Mred80@reddit
I’m 44. Last fight I had was in 1993
EightStringChugChug@reddit
There was certainly an element of ‘growing up’ that occurred (finally) between say 25 and 30, and I looked at a lot of situations differently.
I don’t think I’ve thrown a punch in anger since 2017, although that was after being slapped in the street by some random scrote.
Independent_Push_159@reddit
I've reached the age of 55 and apart from a bit of a shoving match in my primary school once, have never had a fight with anyone ever. It is possible to avoid those moments.
Fun_Maximum3963@reddit
No. Could have been I suppose but it just seems so embarrassing once you get past 30.
YAMANTT3@reddit
Almost but I didn't let it go that far. A guy got mad because I said good morning and see you later to his wife who works at the local restaurant I usually go to and pick up my order.
He followed me and made her come along to approach me saying, I heard that conversation between you and my wife.
I was walking by and she was getting out of their car and to him, me speaking to her was threatening lol. I didn't even stop, it was a walk by greeting. She knew what I meant.
I could tell none of this was really about me but I was trying not to say anything crazy because she is nobody I would even think about getting with. Like dude, I don't want her...at all. Not one bit. No way. You couldn't pay me to do it.
TheScientistBS3@reddit
41 here, never been in a proper fight. I threw a mate over a table in school because he was persistently winding me up, which I expected to develop into a fight, but he got the hint that I was annoyed...
Other than that, I've never had to throw a punch. I probably could, but I have no desire to.
iamNebula@reddit
One fight ever at uni. That was on a night out, classic. Guy started on me and was drunk af. I did many years of martial arts which finally paid off. I say fight because the guy tried to punch me, missed and I just kicked his leg so hard he collapsed from it being bruised lol.
Would never punch anyone especially never anywhere near their head and in turn face. Just immobilised him and security finished up.
max_r_blue@reddit
Only with their partners, but don't worry, the justice system cares little for domestic violence.
Thrasy3@reddit
Not really (not actually been hit or needed to hurt anyone), usually always room to de-escalate.
christopia86@reddit
No, though there have been a couple of times.
A former friend calling me pathetic when I reported a woman for sexually assaulting me. I walked away, finally wrote him out of my life.
The other time was when a guy was peaking through the changing room curtains at my girlfriend (now wife) when she was trying on some clothes. It was not some innocent accident, he was a pervert. He ran off, we reported him but the staff didn't seem that bothered. It's definitely for the best I didn't hit him, I would likely have ended up with assault charges and more trauma for my wife.
Successful-Tap-50@reddit
No. I’m 5’11” with broad shoulders so probably not an ideal target for some rager who can’t handle 3 mid afternoon shandies. I’m 50 tho so I wouldn’t win a running race with them!
MonsieurGump@reddit
Since turning 50 I could be defeated by trying to reverse a car and sneezing.
First-Mistake9144@reddit
Some of the hardest blokes I know are about that age.
Never too late to get in shape, man.
ResplendentBear@reddit
40s, and no, but I've never been in a fight. I got punched once, but I don't think that counts.
Being tall and big shouldered helps. As does the fact I've never started a fight.
First-Mistake9144@reddit
Being tall and broad is definitely a deterrent almost all of the time.
But occasionally it can also make you a target.
Dissidant@reddit
Mid 40's, and no not on your life
Its funny you mention boxing because the first thing you are usually told is you aren't there to learn how to fight, its how to not have to. I went from teens into 20's and even I know I don't have the engine anymore for that nonsense
First-Mistake9144@reddit
Not since I was a teen tbh with you. I’ve come close a few times. Here’s 2 of my most recents, if you care.
I went to run after my mate who was getting stuck in with 2 guys and a bouncer grabbed me from behind and put me in a headlock. He was asking everyone if I was out so when I realised he was trying to put me out I stopped struggling so he let go. I then bolted, but the fight was over by the time I got there.
You would be surprised how many fights sizzle out before they happen if you just get in a stance (don’t put your hands up, obviously, that’s escalating. Be subtle about it, but if anyone knows a thing about fighting then they will take you a bit more seriously and maybe think twice).
The most recent example of that was last year. There was a pikey bully down the pub, the real loud aggressive kind, throwing his weight and voice around a bit - you know the type. He was just with his Mrs but everyone was basically kissing his ass. Everyone except for me. (lmao I realised how edgy and cool this looks like I was trying to sound)
Anyway it was pissing me off how even my mates were kinda feeding into his shit so I told them to stop doing it and he overheard me. We all went in the smoking area and he’s just stood there staring at me, proper mean mugging. Next thing you know he’s flicked his fag end at me.
Needless to say it erupted as everyone saw what was about to happen. As as he strides over to me I’ve just put one foot back and slightly pivoted. Was honestly about to chin him the second he was in range but he saw the posture and immediately deescalated and apologised profusely.
It was still with that undertone of passive aggressiveness (that obviously only I noticed..) and I watched his hands the whole time but thankfully that’s as close as it got.
Drinking a lot less these days and when I do, it’s either in better places, or we leave at the first sign of bad energy.
blainy-o@reddit
Haven't been in a fight since I was about 13
Lisanolan2010@reddit
39 - last time I was in a fight I was probably early twenties.
mmoolloo@reddit
Same stats here.
V65Pilot@reddit
A few, and I've had my ass handed to me a couple of times.
Exiagureak@reddit
Kinda? I haven't been in a fight but had someone threaten me for like tripping and bumping into them, but diplomacy and good friends de-escalated that and honestly after that they were very drunk but overall a decent person.
Disastrous_Art8256@reddit
I haven’t been in a fight since I turned 18
BroodLord1962@reddit
I'm 63 now and I've not had a fight since I was 15. Getting into fights isn't big or clever at any age.
Deadend_Friend@reddit
I had someone punch me once (far right dickhead who followed me after I'd been arguing with his pals about their views) but I wouldn't call that a fight. I shielded my face, got punched once round the side of the head and he ran away
twoquietsuns@reddit
48 never been in a fight, ever, never thrown a punch in anger either.
PM-ME_UR_TINY-TITS@reddit
Not since school no.
THE-HOARE@reddit
Yes. And all I did is request that we stop. Punches were thrown. However the last thing that I said was stop now ffs I don’t want to punch you again.
Dazzling_Upstairs724@reddit
Last time I ended up in fisticuffs I was unfortunately in my mid 30s.
It was a case of mistaken identity and quickly sorted out after 2 punches thrown.
Weirdly enough, I'm still friends with the guy 👍
Spiritual_Loss_7287@reddit
Does resisting arrest count?
Goblin_Deez_@reddit
Eh, police will call anything resisting arrest, even just yanking your own cuffs to hard. It depends on how far it went I guess.
Spiritual_Loss_7287@reddit
I didn't call "anything" resisting arrest. This bloke was kicking and punching. Fortunately for me his aim was bad although I did get a dislocated finger. Happy days!
rhetoricalcalligraph@reddit
It totally counts.
Spiritual_Loss_7287@reddit
I should have added I wasn't the one resisting.
myk198@reddit
I'm 36, and no.
There have been times I wanted to help out innocent people getting assaulted, but I knew that if I did so, I'd be the one going to prison, not the criminal assaulting innocent people.
IainMCool@reddit
Why would you erroneously think that?
BigManUnit@reddit
Because people think this due to sensationalized news stories and social media bullshit
IainMCool@reddit
You should read Fake Law by the Secret Barrister to better understand the law and how useful idiots have been manipulated into believing all sorts of nonsense, to their own disadvantage.
bakeyyy18@reddit
He was gonna go full batman but woke judges made it impossible
IainMCool@reddit
Woke judges don't exist. You're absolutely allowed to use reasonable force to protect life and property, and what's considered reasonable is a fairly low bar.
The problem here is people believing the myth that tabloidy bullshit merchants have been spreading for years. Don't fall for it.
MonsieurGump@reddit
But think twice before separating a married couple, you generally end up fighting them both.
Girthy_Coq@reddit
No fights after 14 for me. I'm 54 and I spent most of my career in the oilfield. There isn't even any yelling at most of those jobs as it isn't productive and nobody wants to fight.
eggrolldog@reddit
Remember seeing my dad come home with a black eye at 36 and swore that'd never be me. Last one was at 35, be the change you want.
Goblin_Deez_@reddit
Nope, some younger people tried but when they see you’re just unfazed and perfectly calm they get weirded out and back off a bit.
Part of it is them knowing you’re not looking to fight, another part is the dead soulless eyes of a working man who’s had more stressful days at the office than this one moment lol
Boanerger@reddit
I go to a boxing club once or twice a week, so I obviously get a bit of violence there. But I would seriously want to avoid a street fight at all costs. Hope it stays that way.
Wellidrivea190e@reddit
Never been in one. If one has ever looked like it’s happening I’ve walked away.
MattDubh@reddit
Oh yes. Got assaulted by a neighbour (unprovoked). Assaulting someone in their 60s isn't smart. He ended up with a broken jaw, and legs too shaky to stand. And a visit from PC Plod. His small daughter was watching too. Dumbass.
Gauntlets28@reddit
Last time I was in a fight, I was in school. I'd rather not get into another one, honestly.
QSBW97@reddit
I'm in my 20s but a guy in his 40s tried to fight me in a swimming pool a few years back. I was about to set off for my length and he yelled in my face "NO" and swore at me, he then swam really close past me the next length and I caught him with a kick (Doing breast stroke). He stopped and asked "Do you have a fucking problem?" We had a few words back and forth, then he asked if I wanted to go outside. The lifeguard told him to leave.
h00dman@reddit
37 here, I haven't been in a fight since I was 12/13.
I've used my adult voice a handful of times but that's been the extent of it.
Skruffbagg@reddit
Had to defend a mate that was about to be set upon by 2 absolute neds (see chavs). Put one of them on their arse and the other one shit himself. That was 9 years ago, so I was 34.
ByteSizedGenius@reddit
Not since I was circa 21 and KO'd some prat outside a spoons.
Scumbaggio1845@reddit
Yes but it was of course only to defend myself from somebody under 25
Simbooptendo@reddit
Not yet but in this civil war-bound nation I might have to fight my dad
CurryMonsterr@reddit
I got into an altercation and ended up punching 1 person and choking another. I was not looking for trouble but had no choice but to defend myself and another person that I was with after doing everything possible to try and de-escalate the situation verbally. They were younger lads in their early 20s (chavvy type full tracksuits). The risk these days is that anybody can pull a knife.
As much as I didn't want a physical confrontation it felt pretty nice to choke one with my left arm and give the other one a straight right hand while strangling his friend. I let the friend go and they both walked off throwing verbal insults. Certainly not a situation I want to be in again but punching somebody in the mouth that really wanted it is still quite satisfying.
dvi84@reddit
No. Last fight was when I was years ago and I hospitalised the cunt that started on me. He was apparently “hard” and it became known that I’d battered him. To this day, people are apprehensive of causing trouble with me.
I’m not in any way “a tough guy”, but I did some training in martial arts and boxing in my teens and know where to hit people. It didn’t take a lot to take the guy down. People who act threatening count on intimidation and are usually clueless when it comes to any physicality.
ellessdeemz@reddit
Ooooo you’re hard
No-Decision-6019@reddit
Jay!?
surewhatever01@reddit
A minor scuffle. I wouldn't call it a fight.
Some drunk idiot wouldn't leave my friend alone despite both of us warning him to back off. After the 4th time, I told him to just fuck off as my friend was getting upset. He laughed and took a drunken swing. I blocked it and gave him a little dig in the ribs for his troubles. He took a second shot which I again blocked. By this time the bar staff had noticed and wadded in to break it up before I could hit him again. He got lippy with them so they kicked him out. I got a warning to calm down which I was happy to do now that the problem had been dealt with.
That was about a year ago. Had no problems before or since this.
rst214@reddit
Not 30 yet but had one fight because someone sat on my car to take a photo with it, tried to avoid it but they initiated it with me and a friend of mine
RecentSuspect7@reddit
39 and never been in an actual fight.
I've been on the very edge of being in one but I put up a massive front. Honestly if anyone ever called my bluff I'd have my arse handed
Newreddituserw@reddit
Yes. with my kids, and they always win
RecentSuspect7@reddit
I feel connected to you on a very spiritual level 🤣
reidso22222222@reddit
Constantly with the wife but not physically 😂
Brian-Kellett@reddit
Worked on the ambulances, yes.
Work in a school, yes.
Outside of work, no. Not yet.
Hefty_Anywhere_8537@reddit
Not since my 29s. Nightlife has changed
Exxtraa@reddit
Thankfully not. Was mortified when I fell off my mountain bike a few months ago and face planted the floor and got left with a black eye. I feel like you never see them any more. Any I felt nobody in the office believed me when I said I got it from a fall off my bike
Professional-Day6965@reddit
BaseballFuryThurman@reddit
Nope. In my mid 30s and it's been about 20 years since I last hit anyone or got hit by anyone. Definitely got into the odd disagreement but it's never come to needing to fight to defend myself as an adult, and I certainly wouldn't be the one to instigate it. Truthfully I'm just rarely in a place or situation where someone might want to fight with me for any reason whatsoever.
ruralwritergirl@reddit
This question reminded me! I was forced out of my house on a Saturday night not to long ago. And during my escape home, I saw two men, late 40s at a guess, squaring up to each other outside a dead pub. Was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen. If they knew how muggy they looked, I don’t think they would have stepped out again.
cwci@reddit
Me no. Others my age, yes- but some people go looking for it.
Domb18@reddit
39 and outside of work, no and even work related stuff was more restraining people.
Although I like a scrap for my hobby.
Not been in an actual fight since I was 16.
DiscoChikkin@reddit
Nosworthy@reddit
37 - No
cgknight1@reddit
49 - not at all.
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