ULPT Request: Best way to romantically string someone along for career advancement?
Posted by fuckthemodlice@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 42 comments
I have a side gig in a male-dominated space where success is more about who you know than how good you are.
I’m pretty new to the field and as a woman Im struggling to get the opportunities I need, usually losing out to men who I genuinely think are less talented than me because they’re willing to bro out with and make the gatekeepers feel more comfortable.
Recently one of the gatekeepers has started texting me trying to meet up and is clearly romantically interested in me. I have ZERO desire to sleep with this man, but I want him to think that I might one day and keep this going as long as I can so I can create a network in the space. I’m usually a pretty straightforward person when it comes to sex so this is a little out of my wheelhouse.
Tips?
Marche48@reddit
So basically the other dudes are more likeable than you so your plan was to come to reddit to ask for machievelian manipulation tips?
Its no wonder youre less likeable than them
Just fuckin make googly eyes at him or something lmfao good luck
arrowtron@reddit
Also, bro out with them. They going for cocktails after work? Be there, and keep up with the “big boys”. They want to golf, get a tee time with the brass. Strip clubs on a sales trip? You’re now their wing girl.
patrick-latinahunter@reddit
The way you speak is incredibly cringe.
arrowtron@reddit
What did that add to the conversation, Mr. Latina Hunter?
mangoesforlyfe@reddit
this guys whole account has got to be ragebait
patrick-latinahunter@reddit
It added a lot. Do the world a favor and never talk like that again.
TrickyObjective5323@reddit
Says the guy that wrote (not spoke) “incredibly cringe”.
fuckthemodlice@reddit (OP)
Yes I can do that and I’m actually very fun - The bigger problem is I’m not invited to the outing so no one knows I’m fun. That’s why I’m trying to use this guy to leverage invites for a while - until they realize they like me and I don’t need him anymore.
arrowtron@reddit
There ya go! If nothing else, start doing the inviting yourself!
shockadin1337@reddit
Yeah OP ur missing a huge opportunity here to actually fit in and join them. I also work in an extremely male dominated industry and I have had great success finding opportunities. Being skilled/good at what you do and fitting in with the personalities of those around you goes a long way. In my experience it makes them want to hang out with you more and puts you above most men
att223@reddit
If your a woman and can’t figure it out then it’s probably not possible, show us nudes so we can decided if your hot enough
Distinct-Twist4064@reddit
Cheering you on babe, secure the bag
Mysterious-Status-44@reddit
All this effort for your side gig is actually pretty sad for you. Is “bro out” the new term for networking? Have you thought about trying that out instead of messing with someone’s head?
MisChef@reddit
No but it's definitely a more accurate term. As someone who has been in many situations where I'm the only female/girl/woman, it's my experience that acting like "one of the guys" is good, but being one of the guys, i.e. doesn't give them crap for being a little crude*, and sometimes chimes in with her own crudeness... that's been my M.O.
*As long as it's not directed at me or other women present
PoorPinkus@reddit
tbh a pretty real situation for some people is that they just got out of a really toxic situation and they need time to be themselves before they can trust something romantic again
it's a pretty harmless way to set boundaries, but men also never seem to respect boundaries, this would lead him into thinking that being "reliable" aka helping out and not pushing boundaries is the way to go
this heavily depends on who you're dealing with though
Skeggy-@reddit
If you’re gonna leverage romantic interests with a coworker, shoot for the top. Snag that CEO.
potatodrinker@reddit
Shoot for the stars. If you miss, at least you'll snag Astronomers CEO
Pleaseusegoogle@reddit
But for the love of God don't go to a Coldplay concert together.
potatodrinker@reddit
Foreplay "concerts" are better hehehehe
ACynicalOptomist@reddit
Under no circumstances drink more than one alcoholic beverage in his presence.
Vladof72@reddit
And don't let it out of your sight
Guivond@reddit
Make up a fake boyfriend but keep texting him.
Give off the vibe that you totally would but you have this other guy and you aren't a cheater. He thinks he's got a shot so he'll continue to be nice and you have plausible deniability on why you won't commit. If he gets sick of it and tries to fire or retaliate against you, you can threaten a lawsuit, especially if it's all written in text form.
arrowtron@reddit
Pepper in just the right amount of insults regarding your “boyfriend”. Make him think there’s a chance you’ll end things, and then fall into your targets arms. Give him just enough hope to keep pursuing.
Pls_Dont_PM_Titties@reddit
I would say this is evil but pursuing despite an alleged partner is already shite so it evens out
frittierthuhn@reddit
Game is game
bigdrod68@reddit
Exactly this, but when the BF comes up, your relationship is on the rocks. However, you're loyal. Why don't we reconnect in a couple months.
fuckthemodlice@reddit (OP)
I love this lol
sick-charlie-brown@reddit
You have got to reply if any of these advices work
chasethebassline@reddit
This isn’t going to work. You have to be attractive or have a good personality.
https://i.redd.it/buu8i9msylpf1.gif
fuckthemodlice@reddit (OP)
Definitely more attractive and have a better personality than all these guys so I’m good thanks
chasethebassline@reddit
Dick_Lazer@reddit
I guess if the guy is pursuing her then she’s at least attractive enough for him
Unlucky-Ad-201@reddit
Who says she isn’t hot and has a fantastic rack… I mean, personality?
chasethebassline@reddit
Reddit
NikonShooter_PJS@reddit
The thing about sleeping your way to the top is ... it involves sleeping your way to the top.
If you work with a guy who would conceivably help your career if you put out ... and you don't put out ... you're only hurting your chances.
Unethical people like that aren't going to help you just because they think MAYBE one day you MIGHT possibly give them what they're looking for.
fuckthemodlice@reddit (OP)
In my extensive experience with men - they’re much nicer and more helpful when they think you’re “about to” put out than after you actually put out
Electrical-Yak2514@reddit
You're totally wrong here. There's no such thing as sleeping your way to the top. That was made up by butt hurt reject men when women outearn and outperform them. There's no guy who is going help your career if you put out, like what could he even do in reality? That's so low level and almost of the movies. And yeah unethical people will help you bc they want to be around you and believe that maybe this young woman wants to be around them too even though she doesnt.
NeetDaimyo@reddit
Yeah, all these would come across very transparent if I wasn't getting some.
twatcrusher9000@reddit
Tell them you're a lesbian, they will try even harder to convert you
Electrical-Yak2514@reddit
Act the entire time like you have no idea what he is interested in and form a friendship with him. Meet the people he knows. If he ever makes a pass at you, act totally shocked.
scienceislice@reddit
Hey fyi I just want you to be careful because if you string this guy along and then are forced to reject him (such as if he makes an overt move and you don't go through with it) he may become angry at you. Just be safe, don't take it too far, as assault is a real risk in this kind of scenario.
Technical-Sector407@reddit
Offer to out-bro them. Tell them you worked in an old school cigar shop. Ask when they will go smoke cigars and drink scotch. Spend 5 minutes to learn what Maduro, ring gauges, and wrappers mean. They will think you are the coolest ever.