The scatering the ashes scene is sad

Posted by Deep-Neighborhood778@reddit | lebowski | View on Reddit | 81 comments

Am i the only one who thinks this scene is so sad. Not because donny is dead, but because of how Walter reacts to the dude being mad.

The whole movie is light and funny but that moment is heartbreaking: the dude gets mad at Walter for his rant and you can see for the first time Walter being scared of losing his friend. It shows how much of a broken man he is and how much losing the dude would be devastating for him. He loos like a kid who lost his mother in a supermarket

Just have a lot of empathy for him even tho he can be an asshole, kind of explains why hes an asshole sometimes too. Anyway, thats just, my opinion, man.

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Frequent-Interest796@reddit

Just my opinion man…

But, I see the scene different. I see the same Walter, obtuse as ever. He thinks the Dude is yelling at him because he is upset over the loss of Donnie, not his ridiculous eulogy. He comforts the Dude in his time of grief.

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Deep-Neighborhood778@reddit (OP)

Ill think about that next time i watch it, who knows, maybe youre right. (I still think my theory is cuter)

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Alternative-Way-8753@reddit

I didn't like seeing Donny go.

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HankScorpio82@reddit

But I happen to know there is a little Lebowski on the way.

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Brother_Seamus2@reddit

Donny Lebowski is a fitting name.

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HankScorpio82@reddit

Donald Harrington Lebowski.

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Tiny_Mathematician_1@reddit

I take comfort in that

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thai-stik-admin@reddit

It’s good knowing he’s out there, the Dude, tak’in her easy for all us sinners.

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666_april@reddit

You're not wrong, Walter, you're just an asshole.

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GuitarSingle4416@reddit

Walter realized, at that point...he crossed the line.

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fluhatinrapper09@reddit

Line in the sand?

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ccccc4@reddit

Waving the fucking coffee can around??

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Ok_Jicama_96@reddit

MARK IT FUCKING ZERO!!!!

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Herandar@reddit

He wudden't over!

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akuzin@reddit

No that scene was great, again trying to do the right thing and Walter's psychosis just overpowers everything, remember he is the one that got in the car with a bag full of dirty undies and a half assed plan, he takes the Dude's chill attitude and brings out the worst in him

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Tiny_Mathematician_1@reddit

After the ashes, I kept waiting for Walter or the Dude or somebody to give me the answer to the most mysterious question raised in this film:

Who the fuck are the Knudsens?

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MaryAnnZhlotnik@reddit

I’m honestly not sure if you’re joking or not…?

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Tiny_Mathematician_1@reddit

Sorry: /s

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MaryAnnZhlotnik@reddit

lol! I once went to a Lebowski themed costume party dressed as a middle aged white lady and handed out flyers I made of my missing daughter, Fawn Knudsen 😅

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New-Lingonberry8029@reddit

It is so hard to keep her on the farm.

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Tiny_Mathematician_1@reddit

As soon as she saw Karl Hungus it was a foregone conclusion

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OE2KB@reddit

The OP; He's fragile, very fragile!

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Clear_Marsupial808@reddit

Your roll!

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Pwnstix@reddit

Honestly felt the same way about it. A moment of harsh reality in an otherwise ridiculous comedy of errors. And then they hug it out because they're still friends and Donnie would want them to go bowling. Like fuck it, man, they were all happier just bowling anyway.

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Acabfoad666@reddit

Walter stands there like a child, it is so sad.

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FratboyZeida@reddit

Like he just wandered into a movie

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mantistobogganmd10@reddit

It’s a fucking travesty man

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warbastard@reddit

What about that shit about Vietnam?

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FratboyZeida@reddit

This is not a first amendment issue

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no_bender@reddit

Everything's a fucking travesty with you man!

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Elchalecodelana@reddit

Bummer dude... That's... That's a bummer

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TalkingGuns0311@reddit

That's a bummer man.

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Future-Turtle@reddit

Do his tears surprise you? Strong men also cry.

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sorotomotor@reddit

> Do his tears surprise you? Strong men also cry.

I'll be in seclusion in the west wing.

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karg_the_fergus@reddit

Strong men also cry

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FunkapotamusLamont@reddit

Mind if I do a J?

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Sad_Researcher_3344@reddit

Dude fuckin a

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Levi_Gucci@reddit

That's the scene that makes me laugh the most. Am I wrong?

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Critical-Shoulder873@reddit

No. While it’s definitely sad, it’s also quite hilarious, especially the look on the dude’s face when he’s covered with Donny’s ashes.

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PianoMittens@reddit

I don't think it's unusual to have different reactions to a scene on multiple rewatches, particularly as you get a deeper feel for the characters.

That begrudging pat on Walter's back kills me now. Going from 3 to 2 is very significant, even when Donnie appears to be an incredibly participant in the relationship.

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OxfordisShakespeare@reddit

You’re not wrong, you’re just an asshole.

The scene is played for laughs, but it certainly resonates with a lot of people, including me - the way Walter stands there with his head down, like a big lunk. He’s already lost Cynthia, Donnie, and all those fine young men who died faced down in the muck. He doesn’t want to lose the dude.

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BeaEffigy@reddit

Fuck it Dude. Let's go bowling.

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Upstairs-Quail4519@reddit

I guess that's the way the whole durned human comedy keeps perpetuatin itself down through the generations

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iommiworshipper@reddit

Westward the wagons, across the sands of time…

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FrozenWaffleMaker@reddit

Listen to these two posters. Rambling on.

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AdhesivenessNo1216@reddit

The good lord took him

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Next-Independent-477@reddit

As He took so many bright flowering young men at Khe Sanh, at Langdok, at Hill 364.

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AdhesivenessNo1216@reddit

Everything’s a travesty with you

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dhlthecobra@reddit

Yeah, but… What was all that shit about Vietnam?

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jarheadsynapze@reddit

Well there isn't a literal connection, Dude.

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dhlthecobra@reddit

Walter, face it, there isn't any connection.

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Van-Norden@reddit

Larry, sweetie! The man is here!

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tditman2@reddit

Pilar?

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therealtwomartinis@reddit

Sweetie see down. This man is the police.

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Mr_Salty87@reddit

Oh, no ma’am. We didn’t want to give the impression we were the police, exactly.

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jarheadsynapze@reddit

We're hoping it won't be necessary to call the police, but that's up to little Larry, here.

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0x0ddba11@reddit

Isn't it, Larry?

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redditor100101011101@reddit

Have you never seen grief before?

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TheSouthsideSlacker@reddit

It’s all about friendship and loyalty. Walter is an Idiot, but he’s the Dude’s idiot. And the Dude is Walter’s idiot. They need and love each other. Best hug in the history of movies.

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mxpx77@reddit

What in gods holy name are you blathering about?!

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andytdj@reddit

I always tear up at that hug Walter gives The Dude. The first time Walter drops his bravado and actually apologizes.

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BartStarrPaperboy@reddit

I guess that’s the way the whole durned human comedy keeps perpetuating itself

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LevelGrounded@reddit

Just reading about the scene queues Dead Flowers in my head.

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Ok_Jicama_96@reddit

It's that whole duality of man thing, Sir. Walter is every bit of the stereotypical Vietnam veteran but there's a good guy in there somewhere.

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thefruitsofzellman@reddit

You better get your head and your ass wired together or I will take a giant shit on you.

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jarheadsynapze@reddit

We gotta keep our heads until this whole peace craze blows over.

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pumpkinbot@reddit

Yeah, it's the first time Walter actually backs down, admits he's in the wrong, and apologizes. It's powerful, for sure. Makes me think Walt, despite his brashness and aggression, values the Dude's opinion more than we think.

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DarioJames@reddit

Fuck it Dude. Let go bowling.

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anditcounts@reddit

Bummer. That’s a bummer.

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sci-fi-rec@reddit

Fuck, Walter

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cobarbob@reddit

100%. Walter is all bravado and is underneath an insecure guy. I think the dude knows Walter needs a good friend. Even if Walter can be a difficult friend sometime. The dude abides.

Be like the dude

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