ULPT: Need to stop my partner's digital stalker from harassing her. It's been 10 years and he's getting more aggressive. Any tips?
Posted by itskarannotkaren@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 71 comments
My fiancée has had this guy harassing her non-stop for the past 10 years. Yes, it's been a decade. Almost twice every month. He's constantly creating fake profiles on different social media platforms, bombarding her with requests and unsolicited phone calls across IG, FB, and Twitter. She usually ignores him since her profiles are private and he can't see our personal lives, but he does know high level details like where we live and work. But he takes it too far by asking her for nudes and saying inappropriate things.
This guy is 100% based in India, and we've reported it to the Cybercrime department but they've not been helpful. Any help would be very much appreciated!
One_Impression_5649@reddit
Send him nonstop dick picks everyday. See if you can automate it so you don’t even need to think about it. Every 2 minutes another dick gets sent his way. Use the same program that scammers use to generate phone numbers so he can’t block it.
art_addict@reddit
I did similar for a friend once… her digital stalker wouldn’t leave her alone. Her digital stalker got the absolute best of my Kylo Ren x General Hux BDSM art collection (and my stash on that phone was huuuuge). I regret nothing. NOTHING. My friend went from daily harassment to a month of radio silence.
Look, when one is being stalked by the crazy, one has to out crazy the crazy. You gotta go all in.
Find his favorite thing. Find out what he dislikes. Ruin his favorite thing for him.
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Leaning towards this, if she'd let me!
bigsillygoose1@reddit
So going off of "destroying what he likes" just photoshop your girl w a huge d .... u could even have her contact him pretending she had that surgery... Hopefully that could do the trick
ilovepeonies1994@reddit
That's the worst idea anyone ever thought of
cmerksmirk@reddit
That could swing the opposite direction and make her a target of his hate instead of his desire. Do not recommend
BikingEngineer@reddit
Forgiveness not permission sir!
Captain_Swing@reddit
"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro."
Appropriate_Shoe_894@reddit
Love Hunter S Thompson ❤️
HereForTheParty300@reddit
This is now my favourite quote 😊
glorificent@reddit
I’m laughing so hard I’m choking - I don’t know what that art collection is, I don’t want to know what it is, but just that phrase has me dead
Razzle-D4zzle@reddit
I uhh, gotta see this art collection please.
billymumfreydownfall@reddit
I low key want to see this collection... no, nevermind!!
Legal-Bowl-5270@reddit
bobs and vagine
l3landgaunt@reddit
This but go all in with goatse
Background_actor412@reddit
I'm sorry but somebody's got to say it... Are you sure this is real? I mean we've all heard stories of people that claim. They're having these problems with this online person and they were making it all up and doing it themselves. I'm just saying it's possible
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Honestly I'm not sure how to prove this without screenshots or without my fiance's consent. Agreed a lot of people fake stories for attention. You're entitled to your opinion of this.
Background_actor412@reddit
No, you don't understand what I'm saying. There was a story in the news not long ago about this kid and some problems at school over being bullied. The bullies started making fake profiles online and sending threats to the kid. However, when it eventually got a whole lot of attention, it turned out the kid was the one creating these fake profiles and sending himself threatening messages. The kid was making up the online bullying. He was even making up some of the people he was "being bullied" by. In that case he was trying to get the kids at school in trouble, but he's the one that got in trouble and got expelled actually.
I'm not saying you're making it up! I'm wondering if she is? And that's what we do here on Reddit.....we come up with all kind of things it could be. All I'm doing is trying to figure out if maybe she's doing all this herself for the attention? I mean it's pretty convenient that the person keeps finding her and yet never gets themself caught. 10 years is a really long time to not even be able to have a search done on somebody's IP address. You don't even know where the person is, so how do you know they're real? For all you know she could be spoofing emails or using some kind of thing that hides where it's coming from. (I can't think of what that's called right now lol)
You've got no motive. You've got no real connection to her. They're not making threats or trying to extort money. Yet this person is taking the time out of their day several times a month for an entire decade just to send her a message? It just seems unlikely that she couldn't just block the person and change her info once and it be done.
The calls coming from inside the house!
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Uumm...to your point that I have no connection to her... she's my person fiancée.
She's also reported and blocked all the fake profiles he keeps creating. He just makes more. It's also a hassle to keep changing your social media profiles. Think about the pain of having to lose all your data. She's tried it twice and it sucks.
Background_actor412@reddit
Okay so was I talking about you when I said you've got no motive? I was talking about the person having no motive and no connection to her.
You're arguing semantics because you know I'm right. There's literally no other reason why you would pick apart something tiny like that when you could tell what I'm saying.
It's just awfully suspicious that no matter what she does this person in supposedly India finds her just to send her a couple of messages every single month. At least you don't have to worry about it escalating because the person doesn't exist
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
You do realize it's not hard to create a fake profile and look up someone's name right? It's not like she's changing her name every month to avoid being found by him.
Anyway, you're right and we're all wrong. Good for you.
onehistoricerror@reddit
Ask me nicely
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
No.
Miami_Mice2087@reddit
use a service like incogni to scrub your information from the web. I use public records for work, whitepages.com is how I find out where you live, if you're still married, if you got divorced, who the kids live with, where, if the father is still involved, what school and church you attend, as well as everyone's personally identifying information for the past 10-40 years.
DogsDucks@reddit
Do you work for them?
https://www.reddit.com/r/de_EDV/s/jnc0tsIELA
Miami_Mice2087@reddit
no. a podcast i like shills it constantly.
The_best_is_yet@reddit
Phewwwww most definitely.
No_Mycologist8083@reddit
Post everything public, his pics, name, everything. Contact his mama
buh2001j@reddit
They don’t know who it is
D1rtyH1ppy@reddit
Ask him if he wants to talk about our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. That seems to turn people off
blaspheminCapn@reddit
May I interest you in scientology, brother?
kelsobjammin@reddit
Call the fbi. For real my friend got harassed for her Instagram and snap chat handle. They swatted her families home. Guy was in jail, got out reoffended and is back in jail.
GuestStarr@reddit
FBI has no jurisdiction in India.
LawrenceSpivey@reddit
After a decade, I’d be traveling to India for a sit down.
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Honestly, we've debated whether we should pick up the call and listen to wtf he even wants. Problem is we don't know who he is. He uses the same profile pic in all his fake profiles which is really odd.
One_Impression_5649@reddit
I’m sure there’s some mafia in India that would pay him a visit For you
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
We don't know who it is though :( The profile pic is someone else, that's the first thing we checked.
Temporary-Round-3@reddit
If you can get his ip in the details of the website where you read it, it could narrow it down. Not sure if that can be done off the Plat forms he uses. Anyone?
Also, do a reverse image search and see if he us listed anywhere else, like on reddit or dating apps, Google, anything. That may help.
Major-BFweener@reddit
I’d look into hiring a Indian PI
Willing-Anteater-251@reddit
Probably for $7USD 😂
BubblebreathDragon@reddit
How does he know you haven't changed numbers and that you're still you? ;-) You could be Frank Summers or Brutus Luvemballs.
Thin-Ebb-2686@reddit
Luvemballs, classic! 🤣🤣🤣
barra_giano@reddit
Why bother answering at all?
Like surely if she keeps responding he will keep doing it.
Have you tried not giving a fuck?
Just straight up don't even bother Reading the msg and just block each new account
billymumfreydownfall@reddit
He's located in India - where is she located?
Illustrious_Job1458@reddit
found the stalker
billymumfreydownfall@reddit
Hahaha omg yes, that was such a stupid thing to say!!
The_best_is_yet@reddit
No I think sometimes, depending on the country, options may be different. I don’t think that was stupid at all.
bc60008@reddit
I was going to suggest this, but something told me to search the comments first! 😂 Great minds think alike!
jlscott0731@reddit
Ok, first send a pic/link with IP grabber. Then after you have the info from that, you can find out who he is. When you do, order a book using his info from the Scienceology website using his name and info. This fucker likes to stalk people, so let the real pros stalk him! Next go down and sign him up for the NASTIEST porn shit that you can possibly find. I mean out crazy the crazy here. Send him the most disturbing and gross shit that you can think of! Also when you find out who he is, have that shit delivered to his work for him!!
XiMFiST@reddit
Reach out to kitboga. He specializes in scammers from India. Might be able to get him to work his magic on your problem
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
I thought about this, but Kitboga is focused on catching scammers. I doubt he'd be interested in a stalker but I'll give it a shot.
XiMFiST@reddit
He def focuses on scammers but he's a content creator after all and thwarting stalkers via his skillet is content. I would def give it a shot.
Thegreencooperative@reddit
Getchu a throwaway laptop. Get on YouTube university and figure out how to secure it so you can use it to go on the dark web. Hire someone to find this guys IP. Save up and hire a hacker to 1. Find legal dirt on dude to send to cops/for blackmail. 2. Crash his computer. And 3. Get some info on dudes family. Then, you send his mom receipts of how he been harassing your partner. Then, clown him for not having a computer. Then, blackmail him for some restitution, and if he don’t follow through… send that shit to the cops.
ranchspidey@reddit
Is there any way to contact authorities in India? Or maybe if you know where about he is, you could post in a local subreddit? Sorry this is happening to her.
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
We have. All they've been able to tell us is what state the account is located in :/
rc_gone_rad@reddit
Which state is it?
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Police say it's Hyderabad. But my partner says it's Karnataka because of the way he talks and details about her life she knows. So it's certainly someone from her undergrad days or her neighborhood
rc_gone_rad@reddit
It seems that he has moved from Karnataka to Hyderabad, is there any kind of info that could be derived other than this location, ( example: speech pattern or anything similar) that your partner could identify?
gohoeikuzo@reddit
Have you tried contacting the state police?
Alternatively, if you can find details about his family, give them a call about his behavior and it should stop.
Zazilium@reddit
Are there PIs in India? Could you offer money to some police officers in the country to find the guy and scare him straight?
AKA_June_Monroe@reddit
You need to get rid of your social media and ask those info websites to take down your information!
After_Chemist3425@reddit
Time to get the authorities involved, would you agree?
DamnitGravity@reddit
Yes, because they're always so helpful with these kind of cases when the victim and perpetrator are in the same country, so there couldn't possibly be any kind of difficulty with a perpetrator on the other side of the world to the victim!
mistress6nine@reddit
I have a number of international stalkers and ime ignoring is the only way to go. it’d be a different case if police actually did their jobs but they don’t so that’s been my go-to solution for years now 😔
internet_hero_yams@reddit
Get his mom pregnant
billymumfreydownfall@reddit
Fuck his dad
fastingslowlee@reddit
She can get off social media for awhile
Several-Awareness-78@reddit
Salty-Ambition9733@reddit
Why doesn’t she just delete her accounts, at least for a while.
itskarannotkaren@reddit (OP)
Not delete but deactivated them all for a while. He's relentless.
Atheizm@reddit
Spam subscriptions for his emails and robot calls for his phone numbers. There's a website specifically for this but I forgot the name: Dozens and dozens of spam subscriptions with a click of a button. If you search for it, you'll probably find it.