Is it weird that I barely leave the house? Can you relate?
Posted by Apart_Garbage_709@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 332 comments
30F who honestly enjoys staying at home big time. I don’t really go out unless it’s for work, grocery shopping, or taking the bins out. Other than that, I’m perfectly happy being at home.
Should I be concerned about this? Like, is it unhealthy that I don’t really go out much, or is it just a lifestyle preference?
Curious to hear if anyone else is like this.
your_swindon_lot@reddit
You are accountable for living your own life, so if you’re happy then great. But this seems to imply no outdoor exercise (running, walking) and no social life which doesn’t seem particularly healthy or fulfilling to me. Your choice though.
simkk@reddit
Especially good to consider not only when life is going well but when things aren't good.
Do you have a support system if you get ill or need help with something?
What about supporting friends or family if they need it?
Are you an active member of your community and know what's happening that you care about?
Do you want to have a say in the things that may have effects in your way of living? (Voting/campaigning for them)
harbourwall@reddit
Does anyone else really loathe this phrase? I have family and friends, but the idea of 'community' fills my head with committees and jumble sales and passive-aggressive wannabe 'community leaders' and makes my skin crawl.
RufusBowland@reddit
Ahhhh… we must live in the same village. The self-appointed village elders peck my head to the point I check the coast is clear before leaving the house!
Physical-Crow-2154@reddit
Yes I hate it.
Various_Condition985@reddit
love this response! I've heard it said that "everybody wants a village but not everybody wants to be a villager". The ideas here are a great way to be a villager.
cherryandfizz@reddit
How do you get a social life though when you don’t go anywhere. Other than group activities and work?
Wishmaster891@reddit
i go to the gym, why do you need outdoor exercise?
StiffWiggly@reddit
Being in a building 24/7 is not great for your mental health, nor is limiting your physical activity to strictly what you do in the gym usually great for your physical health.
Eayauapa@reddit
Seriously, I'm like a dog. If I don't get myself outside for at least an hour every day I start to go a bit insane, like I genuinely start pacing around talking to myself and disassembling then reassembling random shit that I own
Wishmaster891@reddit
i mean i go out for a short walk at lunch sometimes but my main excercise is at the gym
BigBeanMarketing@reddit
The OP doesn't imply that they leave the house to go to the gym, is the point. I do my exercise at the gym, and I count that as going outside to do exercise.
Wishmaster891@reddit
Thx
losttotheflames@reddit
some people are fatigued man. I’m disabled and personally can think of nothing worse than going out to excersise. I have a treadmill and do floor pilates that’s about it lol. too many people outside. and gyms are a nightmare.
FoxesFan91@reddit
where do you live, piccadilly circus?
losttotheflames@reddit
I have a multitude of reasons to not enjoy being outdoors and perceived by multiple people. I’m not very social. But no, nowhere near Piccadilly Circus because shockingly not everyone lives in London 😏
Chance-Bread-315@reddit
You get mental and physical health benefits from spending time in nature, being active and being around other people.
At 30 you might not find that your health is suffering from this lifestyle, but it's the kind of thing that would massively affect your health as you get older.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
NT people might get mental and physical health benefits from being around other people but not all ND people do 🤣
Tbf I'm sure there are NT people that are quite happy in their own company too.
musicfortea@reddit
Sorry you're being downvoted. I spend most of my time at home where I feel safe and happy.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Thank you. Both me and my partner are ND and we frequently feel like we can bear spending time with people. The overwhelm is real.
The idea that we "need" to force ourselves to be around people because it's "good" for us just feels like a misunderstanding of ND needs. We aren't all round pegs!
Sending you love 💚
musicfortea@reddit
Anyone that isn't ND won't understand. I found a lot of people get tired hearing about, then there are people that are ableist, or both.
I used to have a panic disorder, due to trying to live my life like everyone else around me. Once I started to slow down, and reduce demands my life started to improve. It is still a constant struggle, but at least I no longer have panic attacks adding to more stress and anxiety.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Congratulations on making the right choices for you and your needs. 💚💚
musicfortea@reddit
Thank you. I hope you are doing well.
faroffland@reddit
Jfc people will make anything into a neurotypical vs neurodiverse thing. It’s proven that being outdoors and exercise positively impacts both physical and mental health for the vast majority, NT and ND. We really don’t need to ackshually on something this basic lmao.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Can anyone please point to the part of my comment that said anything about being outside?
I was clearly talking about being with people, not about the benefits of being outside.
And yes it is about being NT/ND because large numbers of people are being diagnosed later in life because they have been failed by a system and society that demanded they fit into NT "norms" which caused them cognitive stress for decades.
I commented because I didn't want OP to be labelled as "weird" by a society that is fundamentally sick to its core.
mightytonto@reddit
Yes, but their point was about leaving the house. I’m not trying to be unsympathetic but why the hell has this turned into an argument with strangers about ND? Why the hell are you having a go at people that are not perfectly in line with you? Just because their opinions aren’t aligned with yours that’s no reason so blame them
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
I didn't make it into an argument. I was saying some ND people don't like being around other people.
Everyone downvoted me to shit because I said some people like something they don't like....?
mightytonto@reddit
No, it was just you circling around to your own topic - which was not the one being discussed.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
You do need to debate this, because you've claimed that it's obvious that going outside benefits your health, but the preceding claim was that going outside and being around other people benefits your health, the latter part of which is highly dubious for someone whose mentality is very far off the average.
I was feeling bad for the person, below me, who was downvoted 18 times for being logical and right. Yet this very occurrence may prove that simply, not all of us gain the same benefits from being in society that others do. Instead, you almost feel 'downvoted', i.e. met with a continual and sort of mystifying disapproval, for merely existing!
theivoryserf@reddit
This sucks, and I get that spending time around people you don't click with can be rough, but there are all sorts of geeky or ND groups that exist these days. Humans generally do much more poorly without some kind of social contact, it's really worth trying to find 'your tribe'.
faroffland@reddit
If you feel downvoted in life I genuinely feel sorry for you and feel like maybe you DO need to be around real people more.
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
Going outside and being around people is good for your health even if you're neurodivergent. It's just not fun. This "must be inverted for me because I don't like it" thing is operating on the same basis that homeopathy does, it's making medical claims based on vibes.
RennaReddit@reddit
I’m ND and mostly happy in my own company but I think even an introverted, ND person needs SOME time outside and with other people. I certainly do. Fresh air and sunshine works for everybody and small gatherings of 2-4 people shouldn’t overwhelm the vast majority of people. I don’t do well with large parties but spending time one-on-one or in small groups is just fine.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Wow. I'm getting downvoted for saying some ND people don't like being around people but you're upvoted for saying "small gatherings of 2-4 people shouldn't overwhelm the vast majority of people".
Wow. I'm not surprised by the lack of understanding of the DIVERSITY of neurodivergence but jeez, global statements about the number of people I should be ok socialising with is just wild.
This is why neurodiversity is completely misunderstood not just by the general public but "professionals" as well.
J0intAccount@reddit
That's not why you're being downvoted.
summerblue_@reddit
Did you miss the "vast majority"?
PushingDaises13@reddit
You can be in your own company in nature. Staying inside unless you’re going to work, grocery shopping and taking the bins out is not good or healthy. Also, sometimes you have to do things that might not be that enjoyable but will overall help you grow as a person mentally and physically.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Where did I say anything about being in nature? I was talking about being with people?
PushingDaises13@reddit
My bad, you didn’t. I misread.
pajamakitten@reddit
You can go outside and exercise alone. Frankly, I prefer doing both alone as a form of meditation.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Where in my comment did I say about going outside?? I was talking about being with people???
Charlie_Yu@reddit
I’m about as un-NT as possible and I find it beneficial to go outside. More sun is good and some exercise is good.
PersonalityTough6148@reddit
Why is everyone commenting about being outside?? Where in my comment did I say about being outside??? I was talking about hanging around with people!!!
Chance-Bread-315@reddit
It's good for cognitive health for everyone (NT & ND) to have some in-person interaction with other people vs. being entirely socially isolated. Sounds like OP is probably getting that at work but it's easily lost when you retire.
Not talking about just whether you enjoy it or not, how much time around other people is needed etc etc., but a lack of social interaction amongst elderly people does track with faster cognitive decline from what I've read/heard discussed on the subject.
JDoE_Strip-Wrestling@reddit
Dweeb
LengthinessGlobal138@reddit
The outgoing person who doesn't want to spend every living moment inside is the dweeb?
JDoE_Strip-Wrestling@reddit
Tbh I am exactly the same... Hate going outside unless it's strictly necessary.
(But I was bored at work & so just felt like calling some random person on Reddit, a dweeb) ;D
Blackthorn-2502@reddit
Lockdown is a way of life
WVA1999@reddit
Yes.. The world (Inc. the UK) is a fantastic place, nature to see, physical experiences to enjoy, people to meet, friends to make, etc, etc
The human species has been through battle after battle, disease, natural disasters to ultimately allow us to be here. Use your life.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
You can enjoy so much more of humanity's wisdom through the ages, humanity's experience, by staying at home and reading a book or the Wikipedia, than going out and hearing Bob from Chelmsford's opinions about the weather, or the equivalent, for the thousandth time.
deathbladev@reddit
Reading is not doing. Going out and having experiences in the world is not something that can be replaced by reading. Reading is brilliant but not an excuse to avoid the world.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
Well done, you've won the up/downvote battle.
I'd say you (and those who tapped that up arrow) are greatly overestimating the quality of worldly experience available in the modern UK. Oh, I'll just go and do this amazing thing, oh no, I'm broke and in debt and you never really had the chance to do it anyway, they were just egging you on. It's an absolutely mind-numbing sort of society.
deathbladev@reddit
Why do you care about upvotes/downvotes ?
The UK is an amazing country to go and do so many things - it is spectacularly beautiful and packed full of history. You could have a whole catalogue of adventures in basically any part of the country. Go out and actually talk to people rather than looking down on "Bob from Chelmsford". Put yourself out there rather than criticising others.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
Wow, look, a hill. Oh look, it's green. Oh my God, is that a sheep on it?
What a deep and edifying experience.
Seriously, if you're just milling around in life, commenting on the weather or whatnot, without any concept of philosophy, art, maths, economics, physics, history, liberalism, socialism, Romanticism, fascism, geomorphology, game theory, the Bible, the Qur'an, horticulture, carpentry, etymology, literature... Then you're just wildlife. What is the point of even living such a life as a human being? You may as well be a pigeon.
(And no, you can't go to uni to study such things, so don't come back at me with that. The horrific school system weeds out anybody with a soul and besides, nice degrees, like most things, are reserved for only wealthy foreigners.)
HideousTits@reddit
Gosh. You sound miserable. I hope you manage to improve things for yourself before you run out of time.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
Thanks, wish I had simply become a hermit earlier in life, feels too late now.
deathbladev@reddit
I think it's very unfortunate you have such a negative outlook on life. I hope things get better for you, genuinely.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
Most great authors spent the greater part of their time trying to get the fuck away from everybody else.
If you are possessed of great talent, at some point, other human beings start to take on negative value.
theivoryserf@reddit
Reading and socialising aren't mutually exclusive, and going into interactions with the foresight that someone's existence is boring is going to load the dice against you
Ok-Phase5290@reddit
I love the vast lands
Reesno33@reddit
You're on Reddit mate. It's literally the Rally point for online introverts who dont leave the house.
cherrypez123@reddit
Also neurodiverse folk - many of us also don’t like to leave the house unless we have to. It’s ok and we should normalise it. Especially if you live in a shithole town. Why would you want to go “out” and see that anyway?
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
It's not OK and we shouldnt normalise it. 70% of adults are fat, and growing. 22% of year 6 children are obese, which pretty much guarantees lifelong obesity. A sedentary lifestyle is also the single largest contributing factor of most of the nastiest conditions you can get as you age, including Alzheimer's (fat or not).
If you don't like being around people, that's fine, you don't have to be. Go on walks in the countryside or along canals or something. You can even browse Reddit while doing it, which let's be honest is probably what you're doing inside anyway.
No_Height_2408@reddit
God what a bore to turn this into a health lecture. Different environments suit different people, and their mental wellbeing and that is fine.
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
Lmao "health information is boring", this is why everyone is fat
No_Height_2408@reddit
You are under the impression that you have provided information?
theivoryserf@reddit
We have the same physiology as we had pre-agriculture. Staying in your cave permanently and not talking to people is an indicator and/or cause of depression.
kifbkrdb@reddit
Pre-agriculture, the tribe needed people who were happy to stay in the cave all day looking after those who couldn't move (children / elderly) as well as guarding stores of tools, food etc - these things are just as necessary for survival as going out to hunt / gather.
Until about 200 years ago, it was very normal for people to live in small tight knit communities and only leave their homes to go visit neighbours/family or go to church.
The constant coming and going of modern life isn't normal for humans, it's not surprising many people find it tiring and choose to stay home when given the choice.
HideousTits@reddit
Yes. Small tight knit communities where they interact with friends and family, look after people, and socialise with their church. A thriving social existence.
So exactly the same as most people nowadays who don’t lock themselves inside away from other humans then?
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
The people who are staying in caves because they don't want to be around people aren't going to be the ones taking care of the children and old people though lol. If anything the loners in a pre-agricultural world are volunteering to be the scouts, traders, tree-climbers etc. they're getting the most exercise.
chatinka@reddit
Yes, but seems crucial that those “stay in the cave” people (and indeed their counterparts that ventured out) were basically never not around other people for any substantial amount of time. There’s a huge difference between what you’re describing here and bedrotting alone, not seeing anyone but the Amazon delivery man for days on end, etc.
wildeaboutoscar@reddit
You are assuming you can't exercise indoors though.
I prefer walks but exercise bikes, etc do exist.
Curiousinsomeways@reddit
We really shouldn't normalize it at all.
Doogle300@reddit
You need to accept that not everyone's brain works the same as yours.
Yes, people would benefit from getting into nature, but trawling suburbs and getting shouted at by chavs and pervs is bad for the mental health of those of us who are defined as introverts, or those with social anxiety.
Shaming people who suffer in those conditions is unempathetic, and you won't suddenly convince people who have panic attacks about being outside, that your way is the right way.
Just let people live how they see fit.
HideousTits@reddit
Sounds like you could do with getting some professional help for your social anxiety and paranoia.
Just ignoring the issues and marrying yourself to the idea of never going outside isn’t healthy.
You could learn to be a happier, better functioning person with a bit of effort.
Curiousinsomeways@reddit
No I don't because hiding away has no upside. Also never assume you know about who you are replying to.
theivoryserf@reddit
Yep. Our brains are functionally the same as they were 40,000 years ago. We're adapted to be part of a 'tribe' and spend at least some time active in nature. If you or I don't consciously get out and take part in things, we're inviting issues with our mood at some point.
HideousTits@reddit
It is not really healthy to be a recluse. It might be the easiest and most comfortable choice short term, especially if you have gotten out of the habit of being in public spaces, but it is not good for your mental health or for maintaining social skills.
Everybody benefits from getting outside and having sunlight and fresh air. And everyone suffers if they don’t have a baseline of human interaction. We are all human beings, regardless of neurodiversity, mental health status, or introversion.
cheeky_chilli@reddit
I completely agree. And Thank you, for saying the truth.
cherrypez123@reddit
The only people responding negatively and downvoting obviously feel uncomfortable spending time alone, by themselves for long periods of time. And project that onto others.
Many neurodivergent folk don’t have this issue - and actually enjoy being alone - to recharge and focus on the things they love, without distraction. It’s also because they have such a deep, meaningful and often joyous connection to their inner self - and thus spending time alone.
Big difference between this and being an “incel” or “hermit” whatever negative societal connotation is thrown at genuinely introverted and/or neurodivergent folks.
LengthinessGlobal138@reddit
No we shouldn't
Glittering-Water495@reddit
Do "neurodiverse folk" have anything more interesting to their personality than an opening sentence letting you know how special they feel?
vonthepon@reddit
Special? I'm autistic and mostly feel like a total failure at life.
SergeantBLAMmo@reddit
You live here too? My people! We shouldn't meet!!!
PepperSpree@reddit
Hear, hear!
NaNiteZugleh@reddit
Not introverts, social recluses.
gapgod2001@reddit
Isn't that the same thing?
TheRealSectimus@reddit
I like hanging out with people online. Not so much in person. Even the same people.
SergeantBLAMmo@reddit
Might not even write this reply.
kilowhisky@reddit
Introverts unite! Separately... In your own homes
JLB_cleanshirt@reddit
Remain indoors!
Dangerous-Use7343@reddit
😂
_Beautifully-Broken@reddit
Ain’t that the truth
SunSimilar9988@reddit
Do you say mate to a female?
LDoone374@reddit
Would much rather be referred to as a mate than a female, just saying!
Cute_Researcher_6578@reddit
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
Are you American? This is something people over the pond get upset about but I've never seen it here. It's a purely descriptive term with no hidden agenda among anyone I know.
Zenafa@reddit
No we don't like it here either
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
It must be something young people care about because I've never heard anyone give me satisfying reason that it's offensive.
Shaper_pmp@reddit
Calling someone or something "female" as an adjective is descriptive, and fine.
Calling someone "a female" as a noun either makes you sound like a scientist studying something or an incel trying to objectify them.
LDoone374@reddit
Exactly this!
Shaper_pmp@reddit
Every time I see it now I can't not imagine them as Ferengi from Star Trek.
LDoone374@reddit
I'm English! Like someone says below yes I am female but being referred to as "a female" gives off icky incel vibes to me.
pajamakitten@reddit
Mate is gender neutral.
Turbulent_Elk_2141@reddit
Never call me mate.
Sir if you have to.
If you see me as a mate, just ignore me and move on. I won't answer and you will be ignored.
When I hear them calling themselves, bro', bruh', maty ' or else, I smile and feel sad for them. So much learned at school, do much forgotten.
aphidtriplets@reddit
Do much forgotten indeed mate
hiperdino-@reddit
Alright mate. No one asked.
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
Is this some deference I'm not getting?
I've had someone say "Don't call me mate" before and honestly I've never thought someone was more of a prick.
Turbulent_Elk_2141@reddit
Good for you mate
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
Oh this isn't a reference? 😂
Good luck mate you sound fun
Turbulent_Elk_2141@reddit
Now, there is a good boy 🍒🍒
Apart_Garbage_709@reddit (OP)
Yea 😅 its a British slang we use it alot
steveakacrush@reddit
Why not?
SunSimilar9988@reddit
I said it once and she flipped out
hiperdino-@reddit
Seeing as they just did I'm going to go with "yes".
steveakacrush@reddit
Social distancing since before it was mandatory!
Previous-Mistake530@reddit
I have been considering the same thing. 37M, other than work, food shopping and gym I am largely happy just staying indoors. I like to go for long walks but am very happy just being at home. I regularly do not see or talk to another human being from Friday to Monday and am quite content in this.
Blazing_Ganja@reddit
Get a dog, with the added companionship and exercise I bet you'd actually live longer.
Previous-Mistake530@reddit
I exercise 6 days a week at the gym, don’t drink or smoke and eat very healthy. I’m not sure a dog will help me live longer.
HideousTits@reddit
Your mental health has a lot more to do with your physical health than you might think.
And your mental health can depend quite heavily on your interpersonal relationships.
Human interaction is much more important than you might imagine.
Previous-Mistake530@reddit
To be honest I am much more at peace away from interpersonal relationships.
Previous-Mistake530@reddit
Would suggest cutting out those fry ups, maybe you will live longer.
Blazing_Ganja@reddit
Without a dog that sounds sad mate.
cheeky-ninja30@reddit
Wrong reason to get a dog
nevermind_260@reddit
If you feel happy in your bubble then no problem. It could be down to your environment which possibly makes you feel this way, or the people in that environment.
Specialist_Wash_5219@reddit
It's weird and it's bad. Don't let people gaslight you into living like this. Go outside and do something productive..work with other people to do something productive. Nobody said you have to "enjoy" it, but you have to do something productive.
thegreyman1986@reddit
Yes it’s absolutely unhealthy, but if it’s what you want to do and you don’t have a friend group to socialise with or have hobbies that get you out the house (and/or financial constraints) then so be it.
Other than what you listed, I only leave the house on a Saturday to go watch football - that’s it.
DrinkingPureGreenTea@reddit
Why would you want to leave your house? There's fuck all reason to
wildeaboutoscar@reddit
You should only be concerned if it's stopping you from doing day to day activities. If you enjoy it then there's nothing wrong at all. Some people prefer the indoors.
Personally I agree with you. I enjoy being in my flat, am definitely a homebody. I do a lot of petsitting for family and I'm always so relieved when I can get home to my bolthole.
mightytonto@reddit
Vitamin d and being outdoors are a big factor in mental and physical wellbeing. Don’t look to others to validate nonsense, just get outside a bit and you’ll notice a difference. A sedentary indoor lifestyle is extremely bad for you…
cherryandfizz@reddit
I’m the same, but only because I don’t really know what else there is to do other than shopping, work, cinema or getting food.
carboncopy404@reddit
I think it’s a little odd, don’t you want to experience things or have memories?
NaomiBK29@reddit
Some of my favourite memories were made at home. Bit narrow minded to suggest you have to leave the house to make memories.
carboncopy404@reddit
Obviously memories can be made at home, being a bit reductionist there. Just not sure how many fond memories are made being home alone every weekend as opposed to going out spending time with others/on other activities.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
No, it's way better. Don't know about you, but going out all I get is the constant reminder of being trapped in abject poverty and misfortune.
Staying at home I can at least pretend there are better things to life.
carboncopy404@reddit
This is just a projection of your own pessimism I’m afraid. Going out isn’t a constant reminder of any of those things for me nor a lot of people.
fractal_pilgrim@reddit
Then you have a good life, and I do not. It is very simple, don't understand why the downvotes.
theivoryserf@reddit
The only fond memories I have at home are when other people have been around. Maybe playing music by myself, but that's it.
Radiant_Eggplant9588@reddit
Even if you are an introvert and like to stay at home it's important to push yourself to get out in the world and experience things otherwise you will feel the weight of those decisions when you are older. I spent alot of time in my 20s just playing video games and not going out much which i now regret and wish i could get that time back to have more real life experiences.
carboncopy404@reddit
Completely agree. I’m an introvert as well but feel it’s important to have a mixture of down time to myself as well as going out and doing things/seeing others.
NoAlgae465@reddit
I mean have you been outside? It's a hellscape out there. But really fresh air and movement are critical, especially you get older, so my recommendation is to find something that gets you out of the house. For me I like to take my camera and go on a photo walk.
Worried-Act1145@reddit
As someone in their early 30's i often wonder why I barely see people of my age out and about - I've come to the conclusion they've either had kids and so don't spend as much time out and about or they just stay inside!
cheeky_chilli@reddit
I'm a big homebody. So I definitely relate.
Sirusho_Yunyan@reddit
Honestly, if I could, I'd never leave.. the bins go out more than I do..
Physical-Crow-2154@reddit
Some of these comments are well meaning but show that more extroverted people just don’t get what it’s like.
DragonFeller@reddit
I mean third spaces have all but been destroyed. Where else are you going to go?
Armoredfist3@reddit
Probably one of the most significant things you can do to reduce your life expectancy
UpsetPhilosopher3708@reddit
I’m a 27 year old woman in a rough town, so no I barely ever go out and if I do it’s with my partner. There’s multiple stabbings in my area and I ain’t keen on becoming a statistic, I got food and WiFi at home I’m good.
SarreMolloy@reddit
My husband went away this weekend. I dropped him off at the train station on Friday night, and didnt resurface from my house until Sunday night when I went back to pick him up 😂 I am such a home body.
Unlikely_Project7443@reddit
Sometimes if the weather is bad I only leave the house on a friday to get my food shop for the week. I work from home, exercise at home, socialise online mostly. However I do go to a lot of gigs, sometimes I can have 2 a week, but mostly it's 2 a month. I do like to go out for a 90 minute walk or a 60 minute bike ride if the weather is nice each day tho.
At the moment I've got a doctors appointment tomo morning. Then a family birthday in 3 weeks. Other than I have nothing social wise in my calender until 9th October.
Academic_Carrot7260@reddit
I don't like leaving the house because a) I spend money when I leave the house b) I dont like people
EatingCoooolo@reddit
When you’re 80 you won’t be going out just 24/7 in the house, if you want to start practicing just waiting till the day you never wake up again then that’s up to you as it’s your life.
cactusdan94@reddit
"can you relate"
Your on reddit mate. There was a post the other day asking if people answer their front door ffs
Dennyisthepisslord@reddit
Unless you have a home gym then yeah it's probably unhealthy physically and mentally.
Scary-Dot3069@reddit
Not gonna say you should be doing a million things out of the house, but life requirements - food shop and work arent enough.
Coming from an introvert who loves to relax at home etc. Get one thing that takes you away from the house, some kind of social hobby thats not work related and takes you to new locations.
Honestly, it may not feel it, but youll be surprised how much beneficial, mentally it is, to just have a fun thing to go and do somewhere.
Its too easy to stay at home, get wrapped up within home life and end up realising youre lonely and getting out of that as an adult is no easy feat.
Modja@reddit
The outside world? What's that? All I know is the four walls!
RoyofBungay@reddit
I follow the roughly the same pattern albeit I 54M work from home as well. I can say for the last 5 years I have not been to a pub or similar nor have I socialised whatsoever. Why? People, that’s all. On my travels such as the supermarket I found many people are self centred in public spaces. Main character syndrome call it what you will. Plus getting older my tolerance for such behaviour becomes less and less. All rather ironic as I am a teacher by trade.
mentaldriver1581@reddit
My partner and I are pretty sociable. That being said, I still inwardly groan when we have a social occasion coming up-especially one involving the in laws.
doge_suchwow@reddit
Early 30s M in London
Total opposite - always out socialising, wouldnt have it any other way
levinyl@reddit
Same here! I much prefer a sunday at home than a whole day of plans - I have kids so not always an option and I feel bad keeping them in all day so end up going out but would happily stay at home
Pass_the_xanax123@reddit
Honestly same here!! I’ve recently bought my own one bed flat with a garden for me and my dog and it’s bliss. I genuinely don’t feel the need to leave much other to walk my dog or pop to the shops, as I even have a remote job. I’ve got my nice Nespresso machine, a cold press juicer, blender, gluten free snacks, 50inch tv.. what more could a girl ask for to live in peace happily.. I’m 34 so a lot of my friends are recently married and having kids which is lovely but really reduces the social activities as we don’t really hang out much anymore. I’ve also travelled a lot of the world, lived in many city’s in shared housing and been a busy body for the majority of my life we earned this chill time 🩷
TopDonutPlainsGopher@reddit
I was you when I was 30 and I was happy about it. I worked in a tiny office with 3 or 4 people.
Then I got a new job in an office of 80 people who lived much more fulfilling lives, they were way more sociable, and I all of a sudden felt inadequate. I got a fresh perspective on how I could/should be spending my free time and regretted how I'd been living between 18-30.
Not saying this will happen to you obviously, but your environments change you. As long as you're happy still being you throughout your life then you're golden.
drtrivagabond@reddit
What did you regret?
TopDonutPlainsGopher@reddit
Not having the holidays, weekends away, restaurant visits, whatever else it might be, that everybody else was having. When the conversation was flying I was only able to listen and not contribute. Made me question what I'd been doing, and that there's life out there to be lived. I've since caught up somewhat and feeling more fulfilled in general.
Birdiefly5678@reddit
If you dont mind, how did you change things?
TopDonutPlainsGopher@reddit
I had to start instigating things. Reaching out to friends and suggesting plans we could do, asking new colleagues if they wanted to do things. Baby steps that became regular steps.
folklovermore_@reddit
Yes, I do wonder if part of this is a product of the pandemic and the overall shift to WFH for a lot of people - like they got used to not having to go to work and then doing things in the evening afterwards (because it's a lot easier to stay out once you're already out), so they gradually just started spending more and more time at home and got used to not going places as much. That's not to say people should feel like they have to go out and do things if it isn't something they they want to do, but more that it's become increasingly normalised to spend most of your time at/near your home.
ahikelover@reddit
Not normal. At least you should go for a walk or sometimes trek in nature once a week.
Forward-Eye2374@reddit
Hey! I'm 32F and I spent the majority of my life going out and seeing friends. Most people know me as someone who you can rarely find at home. I must've visited the majority of bars and restaurants in my city, I travelled on average times a year (to other countries). I was always out and about until about a year ago. Eventually I got bored of all this and started to appreciate staying indoors. I know this is also partially related to anxiety that has worsened in past years but I'd say the main reason is I now love my own company. I started to read more, watch my favourite shoes, cook with music on, I became more frugal and responsible. I am more picky with people I see. And also.. most things you see are very repetitive, especially bars and restaurants.. So yes, nowadays I'm more content and happier staying at home. I visited so many places, experienced so many things, I had enough of it and now I'm ready to relax and do things at home 😉 I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all, the only time it's wrong is when you feel like you're missing something or when you feel isolated, and I don't
haemhorrhoidian@reddit
M53, exactly the same, i wouldn't consider it weird at all, if people do think its weird then its their crazy world, i'm just a small part of it.
StereotypicallBarbie@reddit
I feel like I was a completely different person before 2020!
I used to love going out and doing stuff.. especially on a weekend! These days my “nights out” are walking the dog..
I don’t hate it! I can remember a time when I couldn’t think of anything worse.
folklovermore_@reddit
Same. I look back now and genuinely don't know how I did five days a week in the office (including a commute of at least 45 minutes each way on public transport) and then go out at least three nights a week afterwards and usually once or twice at the weekend as well. I recently had to do a full week in the office due to another commitment and I was knackered by the Thursday! It might also be part of getting older (I'm 37) and a change in personal circumstances where I wanted to spend as little time at home as possible, but now whilst I like going out to see my friends once or twice a week I'm much happier spending time in my flat.
StereotypicallBarbie@reddit
I’m 46 so a fair bit older than you! I was already leaning towards the quiet weekend in life! I used to really enjoy seeing my friends on a weekend though.. the odd cheeky girls trip and wot not! Spend a fortune on clothes and makeup..
Now my friends have to drag me out of the house! It feels like a chore.. And I have a dog now, which I didn’t before! I don’t like leaving her.. I also work from home a lot more (which I love) I really begrudge the days when I have to go into the office.
I’m probably just getting old!
I say since 2020.. but frankly I think lockdowns were the perfect excuse for me to swap my stilettos for comfortable walking boots..
Curiousferrets@reddit
As long as you are happy and not lonely that's fine.
United-Pumpkin8460@reddit
Yes you should be concerned….what’s the answer you are expecting though?
WoodenEggplant4624@reddit
A lot older than you but absolutely identify with this.
FitSolution2882@reddit
Like reddit of all places is going to give a representative answer here.....
Apart_Garbage_709@reddit (OP)
Okay you don't have to be mean about a question I asked
PM-me-your-cuppa-tea@reddit
They're not being mean? They're pointing out that the responses you'll get on reddit will skew one way. Just like if you asked "is it weird I go to the gym twice a day and a run every lunch time, is it weird" on a gym lovers forum you'd get skewed responses.
People on reddit are typically more likely to be homebodies so are more likely to say being so is normal.
Wishmaster891@reddit
so what kind of questions can you ask on reddit?
PM-me-your-cuppa-tea@reddit
You can ask any, including the one OP asked. Who said you couldn't?
Pointing out you'll get skewed answers doesn't mean you can't ask the question
Wishmaster891@reddit
I see disclaimers like yours on questions regularly. The person is posting on reddit though so i’m not sure why people feel the need to type things like this
PM-me-your-cuppa-tea@reddit
I just explained what the other commenter meant, you're missing the context of what I'm replying to as OP deleted it.
hiperdino-@reddit
I can see why you don't go out of your way to think that's mean.
YeahOkIGuess99@reddit
Being honest I wouldn't say it is particularly normal - but that's only by my own metrics. It is indeed just a lifestyle choice and if you are perfectly happy, why ask?
Ok_Parking_2320@reddit
I can be at my house for a week or more at a time without leaving. I don't work so that's even worse 😣 The longer I've stayed in, the harder it is to go out.
No_Doughnut3257@reddit
Do you manage to get some kind of exercise?
Apart_Garbage_709@reddit (OP)
I go golfing once a week. Does that count?
Rootes_Radical@reddit
Considering that, I don’t really think your life is that unusual. You go to work, you do your normal errands, you’ve got an outdoor hobby, and outside of that you like your own company.
Crack on
theivoryserf@reddit
Does that person have a support network, though? That's the benefit of making friends - when things go tits up.
DeadBallDescendant@reddit
Funny you should say 'crack on' because I read the original question as "am I watching too much porn"
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
Golfing is less exercise than walking lol
lost_send_berries@reddit
Do you golf alone then?
Is it just golfing or is there somewhere else you go before or after?
Apart_Garbage_709@reddit (OP)
Yes on my own. Sometimes with a friend, but I don't really get to see them very often. And no, I don't go out anywhere before or after. To me, I get some steps, top up the tan if it's sunny, and come back in
missingmileuk@reddit
If you're happy with that then that's fine. Some people live like this but wish they didn't. Each to their own.
TheNinjaPixie@reddit
If you can fit in a brisk 30min walk a few days a week that would be perfect.
Wishmaster891@reddit
So you do leave the house for a hobby
Metori@reddit
Yes.
No_Doughnut3257@reddit
I don’t know, does it?
BOLTINGSINE@reddit
I only like going out when im on annual leave and everyone else is working. The quietness is bliss.
LuckyPercentage5172@reddit
Apart from the gym and going out to get food for me and my dog i don't go out much either, i just don't like that many people to be honest, happy with just me and my dog.
Scotsdee@reddit
I love staying home. My favourite thing to do. Even more so with the darker nights coming in earlier.
FeelinFunPrincess02@reddit
I'm an American & I'm like this 😅
Alarmed_Inflation196@reddit
I think on a certain level we have obligation to our community. We live in it, we benefit from it, we affect it. So it's good to get out and try to be part of the community - help out your neighbour, volunteer, socialise etc. Even if we don't have children we owe it to them to make the place they're growing up in better.
If it's anxiety/fear based keeping you at home, many clinical phycologists agree that it needs to be confronted, step by step, rather than just staying home.
And Vitamin D is so important. As is getting daylight to regulate our sleep etc.
Though I think it does reflect our environment and society. Compare to the Spanish for example, who mostly would be quite confused by the idea of staying home all the time. Why wouldn't you want to go shopping at the exact time as everyone else, when it is busiest, so you can have a 30 minute chat with your neighbour in the queue? Why would you drink a beer at home when you can go to the bar? Etc
Dear_Grape_666@reddit
I'm the same way. It's not like I'm incapable of going out or anything, I just like to stay home out of personal preference. Most of my hobbies are done at home.
I probably am a "typical" redditor in that way though. I'm more introverted, I'm on the spectrun, suffer from anxiety and I also have very mild agoraphobia. Perfect recipe for becoming a bit of a hermit. But I do make a point of going out sometimes, just because I know it's good for me to get out of the house for a little while. I also go for walks since y'know, fresh air and exercise are still important.
Paul2377@reddit
I think lots of people are like this now. Whether it’s because there’s so much in the home to keep people entertained or because the cost of living is high, many people don’t seem to really go anywhere other than work, school etc.
There’s a family of 5 next door to me who hardly ever go anywhere either. It’s been noticeable over the last few weeks because it’s been warm so we’ve both had our windows open. Even over the recent long bank holiday weekend they didn’t seem to leave the house once as I heard the children playing in the garden most days.
Ambitious_League4606@reddit
In summer? It's sunny tho
feebsiegee@reddit
Exactly. If I want to go out I have to slather on factor 50, just to burn anyway because I sweat it all off in 5 seconds. Outside can get in the bin.
Pushing_Prawn@reddit
So you just stayed in all summer?
feebsiegee@reddit
Surprisingly not this year, but I don't like going out very often when it's sunny because of the sunburn
Polz34@reddit
41F and I'm exactly the same. I've lived alone for 14 years (well had a cat for 8 years) and I work on a site with 750 other people, so when I do get home I have no inclination to see people. And even if I do think I'll go out I normally go somewhere with few people.
I like my home, all my shit is here.
cfehunter@reddit
More or less the same except I don't grocery shop. I just get it delivered.
I go to the gym before work, work. Cook. Play games with friends. Only really go out if something major is happening, I don't drink so social drinking isn't really a thing I enjoy... and the pub is basically the English past-time.
Basically I'm out of the house at the crack of dawn, and then very rarely after that. If I trusted my floor you handle me with a loaded bar, I'm not sure I'd ever leave.
DigitalStefan@reddit
Fiancée and I barely leave the house from one week to the next.
Grocery shop is always delivered. Hate going to supermarkets.
We’re saving our pennies at the moment as well because we need a new patio, so no little trips to the garden centre (and their amazing cafe).
Both work from home as well.
Civil-Fan-3586@reddit
Same here. There's only two places I can be found: cab of my truck or my house 😂. I don't care if it's normal or not. That's how I feel and I'm going to stick with it for as long as I can.
FeDUpGraduate87@reddit
You sound like my type! Lol....
I'm the same, I really hate going out. Work, gym and occasional other things. I've a dentist appointment that I wish I didn't need to go to, and I need to go see a solicitor. I'm dreading having to go to!
Apidium@reddit
Tbh my house has all my things in it. I think folks who don't like being in their house are weird. I don't get why you wouldn't like being in there - you sculpted that space.
calming-@reddit
I haven’t left the house, meaning gone somewhere, for over a year, except for doctors appointments.
Heisenberg200099@reddit
In most cases that’s anxiety. Especially if you live by yourself you should make the effort as uncomtas it seems you should put yourself out there. I suffer from anxiety myself and I know the struggle it gets worse if I orgasm with my partner she is the bridge between me and connecting to society. Do what you feel uncomfortable doing join clubs. I’ve recently joined a darts team and i know most of guys there don’t know what to do with themselves. You find serenity with like minds. Once you find that the outside world isn’t as scary as it seems. Take it head on.
EndearingSobriquet@reddit
There's probably a bunch of people over at r/ZeroCovidCommunity/ that can relate.
SufficientBerry9137@reddit
It is unhealthy but it’s also 2025. Leaving one’s house is unpleasant right now. Try to get out when you can.
Ok-Chest-7932@reddit
As long as you're getting enough fresh air and exercise, it's fine.
Doctordelayus@reddit
30M, also living that hermit life
irishladinlondon@reddit
What do you do to help others? No volunteering? No building and maintaining community or the neighbourhood? No involvement in things outside of yourself that benefit others?
appletinicyclone@reddit
I feel like I've read this exact comment before in the Henry subreddit
If youre fine with it and no socially suffering so much or being a full hermit, you do you fam :)
Jolly-Minimum-6641@reddit
I know people who are just constantly on holiday. They don't consider it a day off unless it has a 4am start at Gatwick.
ShelleysSkylark@reddit
I'm really biased because I'm currently a NEET who can't leave the house; but you do you. You say you're happy, and if your only worry is that people might think your current lifestyle is strange then don't let it bother you
It might do you good to take a walk around any green space nearby at least once a week for that fresh air and exercise though! It's a good time of year for it :)
Equivalent_Row1873@reddit
I don’t even go out for grocery shopping. I go out for a few hours every Saturday for my kid’s practice… but that’s it. I work from home, DoorDash groceries because I don’t drive, workout at home because I don’t gym but just yoga and dance. We do go out once a while but…. I didn’t think anything was wrong with it till I read your post. lol.
Lanky-Amphibian1554@reddit
You will be luckier if you leave the house and make yourself talk with people a little bit.
That said, I don’t get out very much at all due to workload. It’s getting to the point where even I don’t like it.
Alert-Stand-2812@reddit
Have been out 4 times in 2 years.
Ultramolek@reddit
Think of somewhere you would go out and move there
SirChinfor@reddit
I prefer being isolated, as unhealthy as it sounds. It feels safer to me. I feel more secure and less anxious (aside from work).
Gothiccheese95@reddit
Were you like this when you were younger or is it just a recent thing?
Ryuku_Cat@reddit
I haven’t left my house in 13 years due to severe agoraphobia/panic disorder.
Academic_Rip_8908@reddit
I think it's always important to consider if you're happy or feel limited at all.
If you stay inside a lot because you actively enjoy it, and like being at home, then great.
If you feel an overwhelming anxiety about going outside, or otherwise feel limited, like going out to see a friend would be unthinkable for you, then I would recommend therapy.
PepperSpree@reddit
I’ve been indoors since Thursday evening, haven’t seen or spoken to a living soul in that time. I might brave the world tomorrow pm.
Proudly, Part asocial, seasonally ambiverted Introvert
The_Hammer_Time@reddit
I'm the same but mainly because I've always just had social anxiety but I also just prefer being at home anyway, nothing better imo
fridgezebra@reddit
I feel like doing some real life stuff and interacting with people irl is good for me. But not too much
Captain_Kruch@reddit
I leave the house to go shopping, go go work, visit family, and hit the gym. It suits me...
HyperDogOwner458@reddit
I only leave my house if I have to walk the dog, go shopping or have plans with people.
behavedgoat@reddit
I love being home I'm 38 no weirdos freaks pervs . I do my job come home close curtains and it's bliss
confused_mani@reddit
I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy, unless there’s certain aspects of life you’re purposely avoiding for underlying reasons. For example, not going outside for walks because of low mood, not meeting people due to social anxiety.
I’m also a woman in my late 20s, and I’m a major homebody. I love being at home, it’s comforting and I never get bored - there’s always a book for me to read, tv show/movie to watch, game to play. But I struggle with low mood & anxiety and can end up being home for days straight and not taking care of myself (e.g. changing clothes regularly, daily exercise, being outside).
I got married this year, and although I’ve loved this new chapter of my life it’s been so hectic; I found myself yearning my homebody. Last weekend, I agreed to do an inflatable obstacle 5K course because my husband has been wanting to do “fun stuff”. Yes it was fun but I pushed myself out of my comfort zone too much and jumped from a high platform onto a mat. I landed badly and now have a severe ankle fracture that resulted in a week in hospital and major surgery. I won’t be back to my usual self until the end of 2025. Ironically, I’ve got what I yearned for and have no choice but to barely leave the house.
Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit
I am also like this. It was lockdown that made it happen.
I then got diagnosed with ADHD and then in short order, autism.
I work from home, and chat to lots of family and friends (and colleagues, obviously!) online all day. I don't feel lonely 😊
I see people maybe twice a week, either at mine or I go out, to their house, or we have a meal somewhere. Every few months I'll go away to a different town or city to see friends or to catch a show or a gig.
But day to day, I don't see a lot of reason to go outside 🤷🏼♀️ I am not sure what purpose would be? Everyone says I have to go for walks but like...I don't understand just walking with no reason 🤷🏼♀️
xotayo5156@reddit
Whatever floats your boat
---x__x---@reddit
Does taking the bins out count as "going out"?
Peew-P@reddit
Just like me sometimes…
I_wanna_be_a_hippy@reddit
Yes it's quite a problem for me. If I run out of food sometimes I'd rather scavenge the last little bits of what's left in the cupboard rather than just go the shop.
I_wanna_be_a_hippy@reddit
Yes it's quite a problem for me. If I run out of food sometimes I'd rather scavenge the last little bits of what's left in the cupboard rather than just go the shop.
mata_dan@reddit
I would stay home more if I had someone else to enjoy it with, I've only one friend who I let come round!
So I am out plenty.
But most of the best things to do are at home anyway, at least for me. Everywhere else you're either a customer or at someone else's home basically so...
trayC-lou@reddit
36F, I go to work and do the food shopping, other than that I LOVE being at home…everytime I leave I wanna go back home, I dread having to go to fam meals or out for bdays etc. I get such relief when I finally get back home, cuz like all my shit is there and I like being there, so no you ain’t alone!
Blairosaurus@reddit
Home is where my books are! I'm a homebody apart from work, shopping and school runs.
InternationalTop7648@reddit
I was like that. It was one of the main reasons I didn't mind taking a job that worked in the office full time. Until I started this job, I was staying home most of the time and only really leaving the house to go to Tesco.
I don't think it's necessarily bad, but I really felt like my mental health was suffering from staying in all the time, and I feel so much better now that I'm working in an office with people around 5 days a week.
sleepyprojectionist@reddit
I have a triple whammy of being an introvert, being skint, and having some competing medical conditions that leave me with quite low energy.
It also doesn’t help that all of my mates are married and most of them have kids, so if I want to do anything it has to be on their schedule.
I actually had the opportunity to go to the pub with two mates yesterday, but I felt so under the weather that I couldn’t drag myself out of bed.
I definitely exhibit some symptoms of depression and anxiety, but find it hard to break the cycle of just doing nothing.
I don’t mind my own company, but I feel like I have become extraordinarily boring, especially since the pandemic.
Classic-Display-9581@reddit
This is exactly me! (29M) I'd love to chat to someone with a similar outlook to me if you're down. I promise I'm not a weirdo!
Cressyda29@reddit
Nope, not weird. You build your life to suit your needs and wants. You earned the right to do whatever the fuck you want to.
Haytham_Ken@reddit
I used to stay at home a lot. Then I found reasons to leave the house. Whilst I still enjoy my time at home, I'm glad I get out of the house a fair amount. Life needs balance. Some people spend more time at home and some more time out and about. Find the balance that works for you but you never know, you might find a reason to enjoy being out of the house.
Cynrae@reddit
Also 30F, and same. I only really leave the house for work, and just doing so drains my battery so much that I can't fathom doing much else - even something like going out for a meal after work would be unthinkable. My job does require me to attend weekend events regularly though, which kind of forces me to socialise. On my days off, though, you can almost guarantee I'm not leaving the house. I can tolerate being out & about, but I definitely don't thrive there.
Efficient_Bedroom_64@reddit
It’s only unhealthy if it damages your mental health, otherwise it’s each to their own. I’ve begun staying in a lot more as I’m getting older as I’m less up for all the interaction with the world and interruptions. Also I find that so many things have become more expensive at a rate higher than wage growth I’m much more selective.
2cbterry@reddit
I absolutely love being at home. I get it.
1968Bladerunner@reddit
I spend a lot of time home, especially as I WFH & am semi-retired, in addition to being an avid reader.
However, I do go out walking regularly for exercise, fresh air, vit D &, living in a small community, will frequently meet, stop & catchup with someone I know, so a little social element also.
During the colder months the frequency of walks reduces so it feels somewhat like hibernation.
So yes, I can certainly relate, but am content with life as is &, to me, that's all that matters. When I want a change I'll initiate it like an adult!
Warriorcatv2@reddit
Yeah I can definitely relate. I always try to go for a 10-15 walk that isn't related to tasks, chores or work. Get some fresh air, stretch legs etc.
You don't think it would make much of a difference but it really does. So long as you do that I don't see an issue.
No-Nefariousness9539@reddit
I am the same, I like the odd outing but love my home comforts and not having to speak to anyone in person but my husband and baby. Life is short - if you enjoy being at home, that’s fine, just make sure you do get out occasionally for some exercise and you’re good.
CrowApprehensive204@reddit
I am a massive home bird, I love pottering around at home, I have no desire for socialisation. I enjoy going for a walk or bike ride but prefer doing that on my own as well.
space_-pirate@reddit
"I'm perfectly happy". Excellent, carry on.
ComeDanceWithMe2nite@reddit
It’s probably unhealthy, yes. Absolutely can relate though with the desire. Once I notice I’ve not been out for coming up a week I’ll force myself out. I’m a remote worker and non driver so get shopping delivered. I reckon I could go weeks without leaving my home but I’ll force myself out to see family and attempt to exercise. I’ve got a lot worse as I’ve got older.
Avacado7145@reddit
If you’re introverted it’s perfectly normal.
FuzzyBagpuss@reddit
I'm content to a point but I fear that my isolation is more due to mental illness rather than being happy alone. I don't really see anyone anymore. I lack purpose, motivation and discipline. I miss having friends.
AnotherYadaYada@reddit
Completely happy to be home. I went out for a few hours today but was so nice getting back.
I’m nearly 50, had 30+ years of being out. I’m more a home person now, we’re all different.
If there’s something worth going out for I’ll do it, but I’m always looking forward to coming home.
Very happy at home and I’m out enough as much as I like.
If you’re content that’s all that matters. If you get unhappy with it, change it.
Annual_History_796@reddit
On Reddit? I reckon most people will.
Free-Frosting6289@reddit
I had a super chaotic upbringing and chaotic 20s. For my 30s now, I enjoy being settled, not going to places too often. I love my flat and the cats and the little sanctuary I've created! I just need peace and quiet for now.
In the future I may develop an urge to be more social and stimulated but for now, I'm content and I can't get enough of being home. I have never had a home, I have never had stability up until 1,5 years ago so now it feels precious and I want to indulge in it.
Rommel_Dachshund@reddit
I love staying in my house. I have dogs that require a 30 min walk twice a day. Do a morning walk through the woods, and afternoon down the river. Beautiful views either way. But still love being in my house. Get a dog if you can manage it as it’s great for your mental health & exercise 🐾
Wide-Error-8165@reddit
I relate to this and in the past I wouldn't have said there was anything wrong with this. But in my personal experience, over the last couple of months I've pushed myself to go out and do more, and put myself in situations where I'm forced to socialise and meet new people in new situations. Let me tell you, it has been transformational.
I would never have considered myself to be depressed or lonely previously, but my life feels like it's taken on a whole new meaning. There is colour and excitement in my life, and the more I've gotten out the more I've felt motivated to seek out new adventures. Humans (especially us introverts) are very good at adapting to our normal, and in adulthood (particularly in our late 20s/early 30s) our world can suddenly become very small.
There's nothing wrong with your normal, but just be mindful that it might hit you one day that there is more you could have been experiencing out of life.
Greggy398@reddit
The number of people who could've been on this earth in your place outnumber the sand grains of the Sahara desert.
I like to recharge at home as well but you only get one life and you'll never be this young again.
I'm feeling the itch to get out, do cool things and meet cool people as much as possible before it's too late.
ogre_tampon@reddit
i like leaving the house to evict renthogs x
wediealone@reddit
Everyone gets on my ass for being a homebody but I’ve literally always been this way. I remember being a kid and being so fucking happy when I reached the age where my parents felt comfortable leaving me alone in the house. Idk man, I enjoy my own company. We have meaningful conversations, we can cook whatever we want for dinner, we can watch whatever we want on tv….its awesome. Lol
With that being said though I get it when people say you need outdoor hobbies and a social life. I do have friends that I see every so often and I go for walks a lot. But my walks are solitary and I’m often listening to music with my headphones on when I do this. Being alone is just peaceful. I grew up in kinda a chaotic household so walking into an apartment where no one is yelling or arguing with each other is pure bliss. Everyone was freaking out during Covid isolation and honestly I thought to myself….What are you guys all panicking about? I’ve been training for this for years! Lmao
talitha235@reddit
I'm just the same. I feel better with minimal human interaction. Solitary pursuits at home are my thing.
Aggravating-Sock9999@reddit
Do you have hobbies? Friends? Interests or passions? Like I can’t imagine you won’t have regrets living like this.
Bigglez1995@reddit
I'm the same as you. I work full time and aside from that, if I am not needed elsewhere, I will be at home, enjoying my free time either gaming, reading, watching tv, in the garden or sleeping. The only issue I have, is the fact that when it comes to dating, almost every single woman on dating apps are gymaholic, travel enthusiasts, so I get 0 matches because I aint about that life. I am happy at least, so it's not as if i'm crying that i'm so lonely, but being the problem at the same time.
-FangMcFrost-@reddit
I'm in my mid-thirties and I much prefer just staying inside my house.
I feel comfortable, safe and I can just be with my own thoughts. I also don't have to deal with people which is a huge plus as I hate people.
I only really leave my house if I absolutely have to.
Minimum_Full@reddit
37M and largely the same routine as yours. I don't think it's particularly healthy and in all honesty I tell myself I'm content, but deep down I don't think I am.
It's tough though, I just don't like how most people are these days so it's hard for me to connect with people easily.
SamVimesBootTheory@reddit
Provided you're not isolating yourself from others and keeping your brain and body active you're probably fine.
There's a fine line to walk between 'preferring your own company/introversion' and 'social anxiety masquerading as introversion'
I'm also quite a homebody who is introverted and has social anxiety (likely in part due to being AuDHD) so I'm speaking from experience there.
Sensitive_Ad_9195@reddit
As long as you’re not having an “Eleanor Oliphant” type situation where you’re reclusive and unhappy, but instead are happy and still getting exercise and social interaction (either in person or not), then I think this is fine.
BlooRox@reddit
Same tbh
befuddled_humbug@reddit
I'm exactly the same as you! It's clean, safe and peaceful. You can shut out all the horrible things going on in the world and just be happy in your own calm bubble.
beepickle@reddit
33 and same. I decided to go to Costco today as I hadn't been out for a few days.. it was absolute chaos. I won't be leaving the house again in a hurry 😂
Techpreist_X21Alpha@reddit
I'm an introvert by nature so going out is not in my nature. But the thing is, theres nothing in town that interests me and going out is expensive. Whether its going out to the cinema or sports centre it costs money.
I generally have an excercise routine that i perform. i also go on my daily walk around town even if there is nothing to buy etc. Its just routine for me.
living in the south, i don't live near any nature walks and whilst i would like to do holidays etc, i'm quite frugal and save money. i mean a travel ticket to london is 40-50 and i could buy a game or a subscription for that price.
Past-Anything9789@reddit
I am the same and definitely relate - but I have a chronic medical condition that causes fatigue and pain. So it's a good job I like being home because I have to spend most of my time there.
That being said, I love seeing people, but I just wish I had a teleportation system to 'beam in' until I'm tired, then 'beam' back to my comfy nest.
DependentBrilliant92@reddit
Idk the answer but same lol
Financial_Prompt_163@reddit
Same 🤣
Njosnavelin93@reddit
I don't leave the house other than work, shops, occasional drive out to kill time.
EnigmaMissing@reddit
I'm nearly 27 and I only go out if I absolutely have to. I'm quite happy living and working at home. There are times I wish I had more reason to get out, because on the very rare occasion I go to things (cinema, theatre, comiccons) I thoroughly enjoy myself and want more
Then I settle back into routine and just live inside some bricks. Some of it is a money thing. Some of it is a motivation thing
People think I'm weird, sometimes. I'm happy just existing XD
Giddyup_1998@reddit
It's only weird/a problem if you haven't left the house in 10 years. Then there's an issue.
CheeezBlue@reddit
As the old saying goes use it or lose , if you’re happy doing your thing that’s great but please stay active. Exercise is extremely important for longevity , get the good brain chemicals too woo hoo .
Wolverine-Explores@reddit
I'd question a lack of exercise in your life but if it makes you happy it's okay
SleepySloth2468@reddit
This is a strange one. Someone could be working on their feet long hours and then get home and enjoy a workout on a treadmill, rowing machine, stationary bike, lifting weights in the garage or a TV zumba session.
Just because they aren’t outside it doesn’t mean they don’t exercise.
Enigma_Green@reddit
Similar but somedays go to the gym and go for a coffee somewhrre on my own with my headphones in.
When Autumn comes my favorite time of the year I tend to do more walks with a coffee enjoying the colder weather and wrapping up when I get in.
Best time of year Autumn and Winter cos Christmas comes also.
poptimist185@reddit
Presumably you go out to work several times a week and talk to people there. And you say you golf once a week.
So what you actually mean is “is it weird I don’t have much of a social life?” Which, yeah, maybe. But apparently it doesn’t bother you.
ddmf@reddit
I prefer being at home - I actually find it difficult to go out once I'm home, I'll try to do everything I can when I'm already traveling, like shops on the way home from work.
Not sure if it's because of introversion, or an autism inertia thing - perhaps a bit of both.
tinytempo@reddit
Same. Toying with the idea of getting back into gaming, despite not playing for a good 15+ years.
nacnud_uk@reddit
I've decades on you. Still at it. This is Reddit though, hardly a sane cross section of society.
TheNinjaPixie@reddit
The problem is only when you stay in but hate it. If it's your genuine choice then it's fine. I like being alone but some people would find that lonely. Loneliness is bad, mentally and physically. Enjoying being alone is fine.
feebsiegee@reddit
Not weird at all. I hate being around lots of people, I don't like spending money on myself, I much prefer being at home, with my dogs, playing video games while ignoring my husband
LouLouTing@reddit
31F and I’m pretty much identical to you. Although I do enjoy the odd day out with friends and family, I’m introverted so my social battery for people I know and strangers is much shorter than everyone else’s. I also run my own business 6 days a week so the idea of being outside with people on the 7th day is very unappealing to me.
Being home, with all my snacks, hobbies, my cat and being ugly in peace in my pjs, is my absolute favourite. I’ve always been indoorsy even as a kid. I just don’t like the outside.
There’s no right or wrong way to live life, as long as you’re not being a criminal and you’re happy, you do you girl.
Agreeable_Rub1108@reddit
I love staying at home doing my hobbies etc. I have a very socially demanding job as a teacher so being in my space gives me that mental break that I need.
I do go out for walks etc when the weather is nice but I actually loathe small talk with people, it's so awkward for me.
Probably once a month I head to a big town or city to do some shopping but that's about it.
34F here
oooohshinythingy@reddit
I’m 59. I’m a real homebody. I go out a couple of times a week to the shop then to my mates for a couple of hours. The rest of the time I’m home, extremely rare to have visitors and I absolutely love it. I can’t do with being around people, I have severe anxiety and they overwhelm me
Ofdasche@reddit
Short term it might seem good because you avoid any social conflicts you think you are avoiding this way but you are also reducing the complete bandwidth of life and put a damper on everything. The problem is more that the deeper you get the less control you have of changing directions
oh_f-f-s@reddit
I mean, if you're happy why not?
I do think society and especially social media are geared towards making us feel like we need to do more.
I feel guilty lounging around half the time because I feel I should be doing more with my life
MorningToast@reddit
All of these suggestions from people to get out and enjoy nature are great. With two young children, a field based job and a dog I spend most days outside the house but I still go into the woods once a week on my own for a few hours to just walk about and get trees in my eyes. Maybe give that a go.
Silent-Palpitation74@reddit
32F here and SAME!
AccomplishedRice7427@reddit
I am definitely like this. If I didn't have children I'd never leave except to go running. I force myself to go out places with them (forest school, trampolining, swimming etc) but I find it incredibly hard. 💜
Comfortable-Bug1737@reddit
37 and love being at home
Which_Yam_7750@reddit
It’s your life. You do you. No one here as the right to judge. So long as you’re happy.
Personally I’d recommend everyone find time to get out there and explore the world. Day trips to random places, holidays abroad, expand horizons, experience new things. But that’s just me.
zibafu@reddit
If I can stay home, I will, games need to be gamed after all
But I do leave the house for martial arts classes a few times a week, then it's straight back home 😂
I do like hiking though
But yeah, home is where my stuff is and I don't like most people
Prince100001@reddit
Not weird at all. I prefer staying at home. I'm comfortable, and there is so much to do that keeps me busy.
Norman_debris@reddit
Sounds depressing and unfulfilling.
Mental-Fudge9845@reddit
I’m a similar age and I much prefer to stay in but I’m always feeling obliged to go out and it really has been getting to me lately. Pub after work, meals out, cinema, BBQs etc they all add up and leave me with very little time to myself. I wish I had the strength to just stay in.
cosmic_monsters_inc@reddit
Same but I also wanna meet people 🤷♂️
MDFHASDIED@reddit
38M, barely left the house in like 7 years. Anxiety got bad, developed into agoraphobia I reckon.
macleod2024@reddit
Yep. Can totally relate. I’m the same. I go out for work and the very occasional gig but that’s pretty much it. I truly enjoy just being at home in my own space and silence.
False-Advert101@reddit
It’s not that healthy. You need morning sunlight, nature and community etc. to really get the best out of yourself.
hiperdino-@reddit
It's a bit weird. There's a whole world for you out there.
Real-Apricot-7889@reddit
What about seeing friends and family? And exercise?
Rich-Zombie-5577@reddit
You're fine. Plenty of people are homebodies. For me, especially after work, there is no where I want to be more than at home getting away from the rest of the world.
St_Melangell@reddit
It depends!
Really the only “problem” with being a homebody is if you want a husband and kids eventually - obviously they’re not going to just walk into your lounge. :)
But that aside - if you’re fairly settled in your life and have all the basics you want… well, enjoy guilt-free!
Aggravating-Factors@reddit
Home is my favourite place to be. My Mrs and all my cool shit are here! I only go to the office 2 days a week. Outside of that, I'm generally at home unless im seeing friends, family, going to a gig, or whatever.
Of course, being a recluse is probably not healthy, but there's nothing wrong with spending lots of time in your sanctuary!
Crab-Turbulent@reddit
I love going out but it's all money dependent and now they are going crazy with bus route cuts so it's all very restricting. It was restricting before but now it's so scary with all the changes, they cut a route to a big city a while back and it means I can't reach that city easily anymore. I know I 'should just learn how to drive' but I know I don't have the means for lessons and certainly don't have the means for insurance and other costs associated with cars.
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volunteerplumber@reddit
I think it's a little weird. Times are different now as I have a child and I'm always out, but before having a child and when I was single I was home a lot but still enjoyed going out myself for a walk somewhere quiet.
It's fine being a homebody but try and get some fresh air daily. Even if it's just finding a quiet place and reading a book for 20 mins.
simundo86@reddit
No I’m the same although I do go on a night out a few times a year. Once I been to work and done all jobs round the house I just want to relax. Days off are spent doing jobs that I don’t have time on the evenings. The thought of going out is exhausting to me lol
PotentialAdorable405@reddit
I’d say a lifestyle preference. As long as you’re happy, can exercise and mentally doing well who cares!
I’m 32F and happier being at home whether it’s doing crafts, watching tv, friends coming round or playing with the cats!
Wishmaster891@reddit
If your happy then nothing else matters
MrSteveBob@reddit
You say you're perectly happy with it, that's all that matters
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