Able bodied people - have you withdrawn from disabled friends and, if so, why?

I’m disabled, but there was trauma that limited my quality of life before that (and currently) too, so I’ve found that a lot of non-disabled people struggle to just listen when it can’t be fixed, even if you listen to them. I’ve also found that people are often disinterested if you don’t have much going on in your life (which is sadly common for disabled people), so once you’ve exhausted asking/talking about their lives, they get uncomfortable and don’t know what to say/do. Even those who aren’t conscious of it may have that influence their actions. I haven’t personally been lucky enough to meet many non-disabled people who know how to talk to disabled people - especially those who aren’t able to have much going on for them. Non-disabled people tend to forget to try to include them in things too. I think people find anyone who is physically or mentally unwell difficult to talk to and often don’t really try to either. That is sometimes exacerbated by someone who is going through awful things and that’s all they can talk about (they can’t talk about what else is going on if nothing else is going on), but if they listen to what’s going on for others, it really is a shame that people walk away. I know that I don’t have much going on in my life, so I ask about other people and listen to what’s happening for them. I also ask to go out, but they’re busy and I’m nowhere near the top of the list when they do have time to meet up with anyone. I have found it sad and disheartening how few people seem to genuinely care about the answer to “how are you?” Like, I ask because I want to know, even if someone is having a really crap time. Almost everyone else I come across seems to want a generic or shallow answer and don’t seem to know how to respond/react to anything deeper that isn’t super positive. So many people just don’t seem to be willing/able to listen to anyone who is struggling (disabled or not), without suggesting fixes. People reach out and get shut down with “it will get better” or “try ______ (something they’ve probably already tried multiple times)”. Having friends support you through hard times seems to be uncommon, unless you don’t have many really hard times (and therefore usually have fairly neutral/positive life experiences to share). I’ve been good and caring to people, but they already have their own friends, so they don’t stick around. I’d genuinely love to meet a platonically compatible person who is the type of friend I am. I’m there for people, ask about them, hear them out, suggest things to do/see, and end up alone anyway. I wish people would get comfortable with being uncomfortable, so they don’t distance themselves just because someone doesn’t have much going on in their life (not including those who don’t ask about what’s going on for you and only focus on them).