How many family members do you have?

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FireLadcouk@reddit

How does this get passed the mods.

Dumb ass question. Just random numbers coming back as answers. Come on! The stats are easily found online to this question too.

Makes a change from “it’s hot” i guess…

This sub is going downhill

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1968Bladerunner@reddit

Son & daughter, my sister & her daughter - that's all that's left in the UK. Aunt & cousin in Canada, plus his wife & 2 daughters.

Neuf a lot.

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Ill-Basil2863@reddit

My dad has 17 brothers and sisters and they all have between 2 and 6 children each. My mother has 3 brothers and sisters all with 3 children each. So I have a huge family. However, one that size means I am not close to any of them.

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destria@reddit

There's only 12 family members who I really know as the rest live in other countries. Of those, I'm aware of maybe 6 of them but I haven't seen or spoken to them since I was a child. I mean technically I have many more blood relatives than I would know because my grandfather was a polygamist (!) but my mum doesn't completely understand how everyone is related...

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h00dman@reddit

Since marriages and babies my family has grown a lot in the past 10 years or so.

There was a time when Christmases were just my mum, my two siblings, and I.

It was a bit depressing in truth because when I was a kid we'd have us 4, my dad was still with us, grandparents, aunts, cousins, all crammed around a big table on the day.

I'm lucky to have a great relationship with my family, and consider my brother's in law to be actual brothers.

Still a lot smaller than it was though.

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AccomplishedRange671@reddit

My mum’s side, 3 siblings, there’s 28 of us in total, including my child, includes cousins, partners and children. I was closest to my mum’s part of the family. I’m not close to my mother right now, I only really stay in touch with my sister, and uncle, a cousin and her family, she’s had her second child recently.

On my dad’s side I have 5 aunties, 3 uncles, my grandad remaining, 2 brothers, one lives in the Middle East with his wife, they have at least 5 children. The latter having only one child. There’s about 30 cousins. I haven’t unfortunately seen them in about 8 years now, due to personal circumstances. They’re lovely people, but my dad was an out of wedlock child in the 60s, and it was a massive taboo back then, my Nan struggled raising him, and money was always very short. My paternal grandmother’s family is very big as well, but I am not in touch with them. I’m pretty much estranged from most of my family. There’s a couple I know I will never have around my child, they’re just poison. My dad is deceased, so there’s that.

To be honest having a big family isn’t all that built up to be, I was probably the loneliest kid and never felt happy, I became my grandad’s full time carer… I loved it, but at the same time, I was the only one who would sleep 4 hours a day for 3 years, I was the one who had a baby, a partner, a job, whilst caring for him, I did that at age 20. None of the other grandchildren stepped and helped, they would be partying every weekend, whilst I was there wiping his blood and excrement off the floor. It put a strain on my relationship for a while, but my partner is great, she stood by me, and helped me every step of the way. I gave up my university studies to look after him, yeah I felt depressed, I felt like I couldn’t continue, I gave up two years of my life for him and most importantly my grandmother. I felt lonely, I have regrets, I lost friends along the way, I gave up plans, I burned a lot for him, I have only just started to enjoy myself now he’s gone. One of cousins didn’t bother to visit my grandad in those 3 years, some of them, tried to steal credit to the extended relatives, my brother actually stood up for me and that’s what caused my sister to leave the funeral early. One of my relatives, tried to dispute the will, as my grandad left money to my son, in a trust.

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MelodicAd2213@reddit

Mum’s side is Irish and there’s too many than I can even remember, never mind count

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RegularWhiteShark@reddit

I’m close to my mum, sister and brother-in-law. Sis and BIL live about an hour and twenty mins away and I currently live with my mum. I love all three of them to absolute pieces.

I have an aunty I’m semi-close with. See her every month or so. I have two other aunties I send birthday and Christmas cards to and see maybe once a year.

I have a few cousins and a whole bunch of cousins-once-removed. I only know some of my cousins, the rest and cousins OR I’ve never met or only met at my nana’s funeral.

I also have (at least one) half-aunty, but I don’t know who she is.

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beneyh@reddit

Immediate family: 2 sisters + 2 step siblings. Dad + step mum. Mum + boy friend. Total cousins 11 (see them all regularly) 1 set grand parents left (see them as often as possible)

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Sulvano@reddit

3

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oudcedar@reddit

We had a cousin fest about 10 years ago - basically anyone who was descended from my grandparents, plus their partners, children etc. About 75 actual descendants turned up from about 120ish that could have come along. There must be another 30-50 now.

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AccomplishedRange671@reddit

Bloody hell! My friend at school was one of 15 kids, his dad was 67 when he had him, same age as my grandfather, they were both born in 1933. He used to sleep in the living room with about 5+ nieces/nephews depending on the day. I’m the youngest out of 6 between my mum and dad, and the only bearer of a grandchild, my mum was ecstatic, yet livid when she found out. I told her when she was 18 weeks due, still remember the anxiety, I told my grandparents first, my nan cried of happiness, my grandad laughed, and said ‘your mum needs to know, but we won’t tell her!’ Yet my Nan told, my uncle, her sister in-law, neighbours, the guy at the corner shop before my mum knew.

She said ‘I’m so happy I’m finally becoming a grandmother, but it shouldn’t be you!’ She became a grandmother at 58. I was 18.

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McSheeples@reddit

Loads that I don't really know, but in reality just my brother left now. I'm lucky we're really close. It's very surreal when I meet people in their 60s who still have their parents and an extended family.

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Mdl8922@reddit

Loads. Wife, 5 kids, 2 siblings, 2 parents, handful of neices and nephews, 4 grandparents, 14 sets of uncles and aunts, infinite cousins.

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BanzaiMercBoy@reddit

You can have my sister free of charge.

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lovedvirtually@reddit

For real. I have four sisters and a brother all free to a good home

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Party-Werewolf-4888@reddit

My Family is huge and ever-growing.

I don't really feel the benefit though. Everyone is selfish as fuck, I could only rely on 1 of my 4 siblings and even then he has 3 of his own kids to take care of so I'd have to be in absolute dire straits to even ask. The other 3 (all older than me) are a mess and more of a burden than a benefit.

Christmas costs a fortune and we never get through it without an argument, I don't go a month without at least 2 birthdays to deal with (i have a week in August when we have 5 family celebrations IN ONE WEEK).

I guarantee that when we reach the stage of caring for our parents it will all fall to me. I have been quite ill over the last 3 years, had a hysterectomy and didn't even get a visit from any of my siblings. Nevermind an offers of support.

Besides having the joy of all of my nieces and nephews, I'd happily do without all the stress.

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Dangerous-Gap-7005@reddit

Just me and my daughter. There are cousins out there, only in touch with one, vaguely.

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anabsentfriend@reddit

What are you counting as family? Cousins? Second Cousins? Third Cousins? Great Aunts?

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sourpatchnova@reddit

I've got my parents and two brothers. Everyone on my mums side has passed away apart from two of my cousins. My dad has four siblings and I think two of them would say hi to me if we passed each other on the street. They've all got 2/3 kids each but I wouldn't know them if I tripped over them.

My parents and my brothers are the only ones I'm really close to. I'll be civil and friendly with the others but I'm not close to them at all. We definitely used to be closer but family drama, moving away for years, etc changes things.

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DameKumquat@reddit

In this country, I have my parents and one kid of a cousin. That's it.

Abroad, I have 25 cousins, a few aunts and an uncle left, and an extended network of a few hundred, any of whom would put me up for a night. Plus about 6 in another country who I don't talk to.

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Pdnl777@reddit

None went no contact with them all. Life’s peaceful now

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Real-Apricot-7889@reddit

I have a fair amount of relatives but doesn’t feel like a big family village. I have one sister and my parents (but they’re separated and I have a complicated relationship with my sister so I don’t see us as a unit). Then I have aunts and uncles, cousins, still have both my grandmas. Plus my husband and all his family!

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E5evo@reddit

If you mean direct family then I’ve got 2 sons, one half sister & one half brother, six cousins plus 2 nephews & 1 niece (who all have kids but I’m not sure which belongs to whom).

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QueefInMyKisser@reddit

Only child, grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles are all gone. There’s one branch of cousins but I haven’t seen them for years.

I suppose it makes me value my friends more, but I don’t turn to them for support, I’m self-supporting.

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klmarchant23@reddit

I’m close to one of my sisters, not as close to my mum and dad, and then not close at all to my other sister.

I’m not close at all to any of my extended family except my grandma. But I have 2 uncles and 2 aunties all of whom are married with kids and I am not close to them either.

However I am close to my partners mum, step dad, two brothers, two aunties and 2 of her cousins. I’m also going to her cousins wedding in three months. I wasn’t invited to my own cousins wedding.

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-charlatte-@reddit

I’ve got a fairly large family, but we’re extremely spread out across the globe. So I’m not super close with anyone outside of my immediate family, who live in a different country than I do. It’s tough living halfway across the world from most of my relatives but friends become family in that situation.

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MeOldChina321@reddit

No a large family isn`t all it`s cracked up to be, I know someone whose dad had 14 children and half of them don`t speak to each other. One won`t speak to another one if that one speaks to the one they`ve fallen out with.

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Viking-Bastard-XIV@reddit

Just me really, I have a brother who lives in Italy — we speak once a year at most, and then that’s our family line, and name done. We’re both in our mid-to-late 40s so I cannot see him breeding now.

My wife has her dad and son, plus a few cousins. We will get old without family.

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MadWifeUK@reddit

Immediate family: mum, dad, brother, sister, brother in law, sister in law, 9 niblings. Also mother in law, step-father in law, father in law, step-mother in law, sister in law, step-sister in law, step-brother in law, 5 step-niblings in law.

But it's my mum's family where it escalates. My mum is 4th child of 5, she had 3 kids. Her sisters had 2, 2 and 8 kids, her brother had 4. All those kids are married, all have children and I've lost count of how many, and one has two grandchildren. My mum's parents were both from big families; granny was one of 13 and grandad was one of 15. Most of that generation have passed on, but that means I have a whole host of second cousins and second cousins once or twice removed and all that. Added to that, my Granny's mum was the eldest of 7, her mum died when she was 11 and her dad remarried, a woman who had 5 children herself, then they went on to have 6 together. The church was full and they even ran out of standing room at Granny's funeral, and it was all family.

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Aggravating-Ant-6767@reddit

I’m an only child and so is my dad. My parents are the only family I really have other than my fiancé, and whilst I don’t talk to them every week or sometimes even in a month, I would class us as very close. I’ve never missed not having a sibling etc.

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bakedNdelicious@reddit

I had parents and a sibling once. They’re all gone now. I’m 39 and it’s quite lonely. I’m close with my aunt and niece though.

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Single-Aardvark9330@reddit

I guess 16 that I/my parents sort of keep up with, but only 6 that I'm likely to see in a year (excluding weddings and funerals)

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DustInTheMachine@reddit

Tldr: I've got a huge family, choose not to see most of them. Friend has small family but has built their own village with people they have chosen and aren't obliged through blood to spend time with.

My dad is the eldest of 5. My mum is the middle of 3. Mother in law is eldest of 11! I have one sibling, as does my husband. We have 4 children between us.

We live closest to husbands brother and family (3 miles) but only see them at family parties. My brother and his family live 20 miles away and we see them 2-3 times a month.

Both myself and my husband are the eldest grandchildren of our respective families (I'm one of 12, husband is one of 30!! I can't be bothered to count great grandchildren 😂)

We don't see or spend time with any of my husbands relatives really. We all live in the same town. His cousins are a lot younger than us. I have a few cousins I'm in touch with but only see a few times a year.

I see my dad's side of the family as much as can (2-3 times a year) owing to distance. It's mainly Aunts & Uncles. I consider us all close emotionally though.

On mum's side I'm close to one Aunt and one cousin (mother and daughter) to the point my cousin is one of my closest friends. I don't have time for the rest of the family they're not very nice.

So including blood relatives and inlaws our family is huge. Yet we only actually choose to spend time with maybe 10-15 of our relatives.

I do have fond childhood memories of big family parties and bbqs, but as an adult we just don't get together and I don't particularly like a lot of the people these days 😂 I have actively distanced myself and my immediate family from them.

I have friends with no family who have chosen their "village" and they are surrounded by friends they want to spend time with and not people they feel obliged to just because they share DNA.

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BillyJoeDubuluw@reddit

I don’t have siblings but I have a very large family. I’d have to think about it and count how many relatives I have… I’m close to quite a lot of them too.

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