What's the etiquette when you buy someone tickets as a gift, the event gets cancelled and you get a refund?
Posted by AnonymousBanana7@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 32 comments
I bought my dad resale tickets for ELO at Hyde Park for Christmas. I couldn't really afford it but I was really pissed and put it on Klarna. He doesn't expect expensive gifts like that and said it was stupid even though he appreciated it (it's by far the most expensive thing I've ever bought anyone).
The event was cancelled and I'm getting a refund. I'll be getting him something but what's the expectation in this situation? Should it be something of equivalent value to the original gift?
Difficult_Cream6372@reddit
I’m seeing the ELO experience in September. Is it possible they are doing London and could take him to that and add on dinner?
TheLemonChiffonPie@reddit
Seen them before - they are good!
ubiquitous_uk@reddit
I would just offer to get tickets for something else instead as soon as something came up that we wanted to see.
txteva@reddit
I was gifted tickets with another for a theatre show that cancelled in 2020- never got a replacement "gift" that year and didn't think much of it (there was a lot going on!)
But they did gift me & the same friend a bigger gift a few years later (Take That concert) and I've always thought that it was a bit of a 'make up' gift.
I'd suggest trying to gift a similar experience type gift e.g. to a concert or event evening together. He probably doesn't mind if the value isn't the same - it's the experience that matter.
OutrageousRhubarb853@reddit
If it was me (as a dad) I’d be happy if you spent that time with me. “How about we go for lunch or dinner instead?”
Momminmumma@reddit
They also do outdoor cinemas at large country houses that have good films on. One near me is playing The Goonies.
Irritant4O@reddit
Stour head?
A111v3@reddit
Take him out for a decent lunch and a local comedy show or something, tell him you love him and appreciate him for everything he’s done for you and it will probably be the best day of his life since you were born.
Narrow_Maximum7@reddit
Another event he will enjoy, value is not as important
Raephstel@reddit
The important thing is how special the gift is. More money means more options, but it doesn't (or shouldn't) make the gift more special.
You don't have to buy him something equivalent monetary value, just try and find him something special.
raccoonsaff@reddit
I don't thnk matching money/value is important - more just the essence of the gift, so I'd try to find a different event to go to.
If not, I'd find something else I would've wanted to give the person, as if the first gift wasn't bought.
r1Rqc1vPeF@reddit
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Framed ELO Vinyl (or Artwork)
Get a vintage or reproduction vinyl of “Out of the Blue”, “Time”, or another favourite album and have it framed with the artwork. Add a small plaque: “For the gig that didn’t happen — but the music’s still electric.”
“Wembley or Bust” Book + Live Album/DVD
2017 live set was ELO at their best. Wrap up the live CD/DVD box set or Jeff Lynne’s photobook from the event as a reminder they’ve still experienced ELO magic.
Pair with: A note like — “Final gig or not, you’ve already seen the spaceship fly.”
Custom Mixtape or Playlist-Inspired Gift
Create a custom mixtape-style USB, retro cassette, or Spotify playlist called: “Still On the Jeff Setlist” — include rarities, live tracks, and some B-sides.
Bonus: Get a cassette-style USB drive for a retro look.
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👕 4. Retro ELO Tour Tee or Hoodie
Find a high-quality replica tour shirt (maybe from 1978 or 1981) or one that says something like: “ELO: Always On My Mind” Even better if it’s subtly styled and not too merch-y.
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💡 5. Custom Neon Sign or Lightbox
A small light-up display that says: “Don’t Bring Me Down” or “Hold On Tight” — great for their music room, study, or vinyl corner.
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🖼️ 6. Gig Ticket Tribute
If they still have the cancelled ticket, get it turned into a framed print with a caption like: “The last flight got grounded — but the music still soars.”
You could even include a custom-designed “imaginary tour poster” of the gig that never happened.
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🥃 Bonus Thought:
Pair any of the above with a bottle of something nice and a note like: “To toast the gig that never was — and the band that always is.”
evilgiraffee57@reddit
The ticket price was I am guessing huge. What about taking him on a cheap weekend break to the West Midlands? Pub crawl around Jeff's birthplace? The 1970s Birmingham equivalent of doing a weekend in Liverpool for a 1960s Beatles fan. From that time you have ELO, Wizzard, Slade, Black Sabbath etc and they all interconnect/knew each other. In and out of groups. Could be fun and a bonding experience with more meaning and cheaper than the original tickets you bought.
Exact_Setting9562@reddit
Get tickets for an elo tribute band. I'm sure there's at least one around!
sock_cooker@reddit
I don't think he's going to be worried about the value of the gift. Usually after cancelled concerts, they send you paper tickets- perhaps you could have them framed for him? Maybe get a nice bottle of whisky or something he'd like as well.
HoobleDoobles@reddit
Hey him tickets to see the book of Mormons He will need tissues for the tears of laughter
snowdrop0901@reddit
Spend that time together instead, get something nice, and keep most earmarked for another/similar performance.
Got tickets for my mum to see the back to the future musical....then covid hit, full refund for 3 tickets....used them to get 2 better tickets to see something else post covid.
ControlLonely134@reddit
Are you a g&diva by any chance?
takeagamble@reddit
Are ELO touring? I know my dad just saw them in Birmingham, get tickets to another one if possible
Feefbeef@reddit
The cancelled show was billed as their final live performance
wardyms@reddit
Can you buy a ticket for a future gig of there’s?
This is when I find out one of them died or something.
Feefbeef@reddit
This was always meant to be their final live show so a future gig is unlikely whether he recovers or not 😔
Brave_Reaction_4968@reddit
Tbh it's looking a bit dicey for Jeff Lynne.....
Difficult_Cream6372@reddit
Jeff Lynne is very ill which is why it’s been canceled. So yes chances are he may pass/there will be no more tours.
JohnnyOneLung@reddit
https://www.elotribute.com/tourdates.php
Brave_Reaction_4968@reddit
It wasn't about the money, it was about him seeing ELO. And that meant something to him regardless of how much it cost.
So I don't think you have to spend the same value on another present, unless there's something equally expensive that would mean as much.
Ironically, given it was expensive, this is one of those it's the thought that counts moments.
Fizl99@reddit
Equal thoughtfulness, it doesnt need to be equal value
TheDreamIs0ver@reddit
Ask him if there's anything he'd like to do instead
ResplendentBear@reddit
Buy something of similar-ish value. I don't think spending 20% less would be seen as bad if you went a bit over the top before.
VolcanicBear@reddit
It's your Dad. This is more of an "I'll try and find something of equivalent meaning" than monetary value, although I appreciate that may be a challenge.
It was always more about him seeing ELO than the value of the ticket.
JeffBroccoli@reddit
“I owe you one”
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