What was your sex ed experience when you were growing up?
Posted by trailrider@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 186 comments
Seeing the freaking out that some people seem to be having over children learning about sex, gay people, etc. I wonder if my childhood was unusual.
My dad explained the mechanics of sex to me when I was like in the second grade. I remember him telling me that a boy puts his “pee pee” into a girl's “pee pee” and a seed goes in. Not having any clue how the fuck that was supposed to work, I envisioned one of my nuts traveling through my urethra and asked if that didn't hurt? He said no, that it actually felt pretty good. Yeah, I was so confused. LOL.
Both my parents were pretty open when it came to issues about sex. It was the same on both sides of the family as well. They never have anything back. My uncle was a mechanic and lived on the same property as his mom. His garage was lined from floor to ceiling with women in varying stages of dress, including being nude. Of course I spent time out there staring when I was little. I remember the horror of my uncle throwing me under the bus telling Grandma I was out there all the time. Grandma squinted her eyes and asked in her most serious tone if I had been out there staring at nudie pics. Not knowing what to say, I blurted out that they were awfully hard not to notice! She busted out howling and said I was right about that.
The town I grew up in had a drive-in theater. That isn’t unusual but the fact that it showed nothing but porn I think might be. Of course, I didn't think it was weird back then because it was just there. You can see it from a couple different roads. Be driving down and looking over to see a couple girls going at it or a guy getting a BJ or whatever. And no, nobody ever complained. We used to sneak out there as early teens because of course we did. Obviously, this was before the Internet. It was finally closed sometime in the '90s and no longer exists. One woman I went to high school with told me on Facebook a couple years ago that that she could see it from her house. They would just tune in the radio station for the audio and just watch it from whatever window when her parents were gone.
In Middle School, I remember us watching a sex ed presentation during a mandatory assembly. It was memorable because we were all laughing our ass as though being immature middle schooler as the narrator’s monotone voice droned on pointing out the parts to a penis and a vag.
Another time in Middle School during study hall, my friend and I had heard that porn actor John Holmes banged something like 14,000 women in his career up to that point. We got wondering how many women a day that might be and went up to the blackboard to work the math. And the teacher watched us! He knew exactly what we were figuring out cuz we weren't shy about discussing it. To this day, I don't know whether he was interested to answer himself, happy we were doing math, or a combination of both.
We moved out to Ohio for my last year of high school. It was completely different from the school system I grew up in. Like we had a mandatory assembly too. It was a woman weekly begging us not to have sex until we were married. I was laughing in my head because my girlfriend and I was making a beeline for my bedroom almost everyday after class. I also remember being shocked by how many pregnant girls I saw in the school. It's like they had never heard of a condom before.
So how about you all?
Secret_Computer4891@reddit
I had a class at school, a book, and hands on training with a girl.
PracticalPurposes@reddit
School Sex Ed class: "Let's talk about the house on Gland Street". WTF?
Home: [mom leaving to go grocery shopping] Mom: Wanna come with me? Me: No, I'm good. Mom: okay then. Here, read this book. [Tosses "What's Happening to Me?" on the chair beside me.
** She goes, I read, she returns **
Mom: Did you read it? Me: Yep Mom: Any questions? Me: Nope
[End scene]
Myeloman@reddit
Some older kids on the bus (high school age, I was in middle school, we rode the same bus) showed me their books from class and explained a bunch of stuff.
HLOFRND@reddit
My mom drew a picture of a vagina and hymen on the back of a paper plate and told me if I used tampons I wouldn’t be a virgin anymore.
In 4th or 5th grade all of us girls watched a movie called Growing Up On Broadway and IIRC it was a bunch of actresses who played Annie talking about getting their periods.
When I moved in with my dad, he told me I couldn’t date until I was married or have sex until I was pregnant.
That was my sex ed. 😂
FrancinetheP@reddit
Ok it’s the paper plate that makes this memorable.
Possible-Fun4225@reddit
My mother's entire sex ed conversation was telling me that only married couples did it, and my husband would teach me what I needed to know.
My first period involved me freaking out at school in fifth grade when I bled, a sympathetic school nurse awkwardly handing me some pamphlets and my mom taking me to buy pads because only married women used tampons. She didn't take me to a gynecologist either because, again, that was for married women.
I learned the basics in health class, but had to figure the rest out on my own.
FrancinetheP@reddit
Colorfully illustrated children’s books stressing that sex was normal, then my mom’s copies of Our Bodies, Ourselves and Fear of Flying. Mind you this was before the term “sex positive” was even invented.
magerber1966@reddit
Pretty much same for me, except no Fear of Flying. For years I have been trying to find a copy of a book I remember from back then where all of the illustrations were made with cut paper--I remember it being really beautiful and wishing I knew how to do paper cutting like that. Now, I imagine cutting out a penis shape and it just makes me laugh.
In 9th grade, one of our (male) teachers apparently described a woman's orgasm as feeling like walking on really thick foam rubber. Or at least that is the rumor; I wasn't in any of his classes. To this day, I can't figure out how that description comes anywhere near what an orgasm feels like.
And my final story--when I was sixteen, my mother took me to the gynecologist specifically so I could get fitted with a cervical cap. I had never really dated, but she wanted me to be ready for when I got to college just in case (she got married to my dad because she got pregnant with me).
A year later, I had been dating my boyfriend (eventually my husband, and even more eventually my ex-husband) pretty seriously for about 6 months. I was leaving for college the next morning, and my mom and I were packing. We ran out of packing tape, so I I told her I needed to go out to the drugstore anyway, and I could pick some up. My mom, having no personal boundaries whatsoever, demanded to know what I needed to get at the store. So I told her that I was out of spermicide gel, and needed some more before saying goodbye to my boyfriend that evening. I thought she would be happy to hear that I was being so responsible with using the cervical cap, but no...45 minutes worth of screaming and calling me a hamster (I guess she thought they had sex non-stop, but I never saw any of my hamsters having sex), I was finally able to leave the house and pick up the supplies I needed.
WhiskeyAndWhiskey97@reddit
I got comprehensive sex ed in high school, in a blue state. My teacher showed us various options, including IUDs, and described the surgeries required for a vasectomy and a tubal. She also showed us the proper way to put on a condom.
I now live in a red state. Abstinence-only. If I had children, I'd be the one teaching them how to use a condom.
Sinsyne125@reddit
I actually never had the straight-up sex talk with either parent...
The only kind of talk I had with my father was when I was about 15 or 16 years old, and he walked into my room and basically threw a package of condoms at me... He said, "Wear one of these each and every time... if one of your little girlfriends gets pregnant, your life is over... and you can't come cryin' to me!"
And he was out the door.
RebelStrategist@reddit
My experience was none. None from parents or school.
samuellbroncowitz@reddit
Never had it.
Never got the birds and the bees talk from my parents, and it was never offered in school.
GradStudent_Helper@reddit
Same
_TallOldOne_@reddit
I grew up in a Catholic family and went to Catholic school. The only inkling of sex ed I received was from one very uncomfortable, very gay, priest.
So I did what Catholics kids do. I figured out with a little help from a willing girlfriend.
etjasinski@reddit
Same
Accomplished2424@reddit
Yeah me too. My parents never said a thing.
etjasinski@reddit
I turned out OK I guess
L_wanderlust@reddit
I asked a very smart question and never got an answer from the teacher who seemed unsure “since men don’t have uterus and ovaries, do they have extra room inside? And what goes in that space in boys?” 😂
StOnEy333@reddit
Almost as good as Louie in my 6 grade class who stood up and said “Can a man get pregnant in his butt?” This was in the mid 80’s. lol
GradStudent_Helper@reddit
LOL - poor Louie.
_TallOldOne_@reddit
We are empty inside. But you’ve probably realized that by now.
ChaosAside@reddit
My mom gave me a book that had these felt cut-out pictures and the only one I remember is a couple in bed with their bare shoulders showing.
Then there was the NOVA documentary which actually showed ejaculation at the cervix. This was very confusing to me because I was certain the penis just had to be right at but outside the entrance the vagina.
When my friend told me it went inside I told her that was the dumbest thing I’d ever heard.
And then in middle school, I discovered Wifey.
WonderingHarbinger@reddit
I remember that documentary! I was watching it with my grandmother. We ended up having a conversation about how commercial tv would never get away with showing something like that, and making jokes about the heart attacks the local conservative politicians would have if they saw it.
BuckRio@reddit
Growing up on a farm you learn pretty quick how little babies are made. The bull was kept separate from the cows until one of them went into heat and then we would put her into the corral and let the bull in. Only took but a minute. I asked how long it took people to do it and I remember my uncle saying as long as you want it to LOL.
elphaba00@reddit
From my parents, pretty much nothing. I was an only child, so I never saw my mom get pregnant and ask where the baby came from. When I was really young, my parents sent me to stay with my grandparents for a week. Years later, I found out that was when my mom went to get her tubes tied.
I learned a lot from early 1970s encyclopedias. For the longest time, I thought that a woman just one day woke pregnant. I guess I believed in some form of asexual reproduction, but I didn't know the words. One of my friends finally told me, probably a little embarrassingly late.
As I got older, I remember my mom talking to me about getting my period, but not what that represented. She also warned me about teenage pregnancy and how it would ruin me forever. Again, no real talk on how I would get in that situation, but I knew by that point. When I was in college, I think she wanted to have an after-school special moment and talk to me about oral sex because of the whole Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky thing. And that's when I remember my mom saying it wasn't sex. It was just "fooling around."
jordy1971@reddit
Mom (who had me at 18): “You better not get anyone pregnant.”
And… scene
elphaba00@reddit
My grandma was 18 when she had my mom. My mom's sister was 15 when she had my cousin. My mom: And that's how you screw up your life. You'll never get anywhere
Thanks, Mom.
Unfair_Bluejay_9687@reddit
My grade 5 male teacher sucking on my cock.
Extension-Pea542@reddit
I had surgery the week they did sex ed in gym. As a make-up, I had to take the class one-on-one with my (female) gym teacher. I will never forget her rolling a condom onto a banana and then having me do the same. Easily one of the top five most awkward experiences of my life. I can only imagine how awful it was for her.
Electronic_City6481@reddit
All I remember is the filmstrip in school about erections. Complete with the progressively higher pitched dings accompanying illustrations of flaccid, mid, and raging. lol
Aside from that - catholic upbringing, so it was never once spoken about in the house, because you don’t need to know about it til you are married anyway, right?
Oh, and for the real ones - renting Friday the 13th part 5. Its showtime!
Expat111@reddit
Well. My mother, a nurse, appeared at my school one day and did the Sex Ed class. It was an unexpected and horrifying surprise.
esp735@reddit
I so feel that level of cringe.
TheBraindonkey@reddit
You win
roadtripper77@reddit
By a lot
Expat111@reddit
Thanks. Not sure it’s a win but I’ll take it.
TheBraindonkey@reddit
In GenX land, wins are things you cry about.
RedJerzey@reddit
I had a nun tea h sex ed and put a condom on a banana. Looking back, it sounds way better than my mom doing it...lol
Hifi-Cat@reddit
Wow, that's super bad level of cringe.
wyldginger@reddit
Had the exact same experience, mom was school nurse in grade 5 and she did our sex ed talk. Humiliating
AlmeMore@reddit
My father was a pediatrician in our town. He did the sex ed class for my Hebrew school class in 5th or 6th grade.
yurinator71@reddit
A drive-in in porn theater? Did you grow up in the USA? I just cannot imagine how this was even legal!
trailrider@reddit (OP)
A few minutes outside of Pittsburgh. I also know it had been showing porn for a long time because some old timers told teen me it showed porn when they were my age as well. They said they'd hop the fence wearing ski masks and carrying flashlights to flashlight cars rocking really well while yelling "Intermission time!!!" and run like hell! LOL! It's only in recent yrs I learned other drive-ins show porn as well.
yurinator71@reddit
Wild!
401Nailhead@reddit
Copy of Cherry magazine.
willynillywitty@reddit
They took us to Kinkos
DamarsLastKanar@reddit
If you're faxing for longer than 4 hours, consult your systems administrator.
Stephvick1@reddit
My parents had the joy of sex, they also looked like the couple in the book (70’s version). That was horrifying 🤣🤣🤣
therelybare5@reddit
Dad read this book to me.
I remember the paper cutout animation style. It talked about reproduction of flowers, chickens and dogs. Then it moved on to human reproduction.
ScreenTricky4257@reddit
Our health teacher was a weird old man who had a slate of made-up names that he would use whenever he needed to refer to a young man and young women. Names like Artie Warmenskercz and Cynthia Fithias.
This is the only thing I remember from the class.
The_Brofucius@reddit
Oh.
Yeah.
Well.
Watching Me, My 2 older sisters, (triplets) and my 5 younger sisters (2 Sisters came after I left home) DRIVE OUR PARENTS INSANE!
Good enough for me not to have sex at a younger age.
louse_yer_pints@reddit
At around 13yo a science teacher put a movie on for the class from the 70s that showed a bearded man displaying the mechanics of intercourse with with an equally hairy and uninterested woman. We all knew where things went etc so not much education going on.
hdckurdsasgjihvhhfdb@reddit
My wife’s mother just handed her a romance novel and told her to figure it out
Constant-Space-246@reddit
Molested by the teenage girl who lived in the house behind ours. I was 9. Learnt all the mechanics. Only real question I wondered is why we were not allowed to tell anyone. There's no punishment too harsh for pedos.
emilythequeen1@reddit
I don’t think my experience was like most, reading through these.
And I’m still not like most women.
But I’m ok with that.
NoMoreNarcsLizzie@reddit
My husband's father said "you'd best not get your dipstick wet in Chuck Smith's daughter." 😱 Too late. My husband was 16.🤦♀️😂
CapnAgno@reddit
I learned about sex around age 9 or 10 because I looked it up in the encyclopedia. I got caught and then I got shamed for it.
Lord_of_Entropy@reddit
Our class was segregated into a boys group and a girls group. The boys group had a very red-faced gym teacher go over the topic for a week.
recycledcoder@reddit
Err... the mechanics of it were covered in 7th grade biology.
"The talk" was a little later by my father, themed on Bobby Fischer's rules for playing chess: "Carefully, carefully, and carefully".
The practical exam was in 10th grade, through the good offices of a friend's older sister - wonderful girl, we're friends to this day.
LetheSystem@reddit
Sixth grade, Mrs Meyer, that Nova video "The Miracle Of Life." You know the one: inside view of sex, baby being born.
Annonrae@reddit
I had regular sex ed in school ( the biological stuff: menstruation, STDs, pregnancy, etc. ), but my mom sat me down WAY before that and explained the penis and the vagina to me. I think I was around 7, so second grade in the German school system? I didn't get the birds and the bees. My mom's always been rather...direct.
Fun-Distribution-159@reddit
i was 12, the girl who lived across the street from me was 13, she wanted to have sex and knew how to do it, so we did it. she showed me what to do.
sex@reddit
The backseat of a Buick during homecoming.
babycakes2019@reddit
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
PalliativeOrgasm@reddit
I read my mom’s hardcover copy of It when I was 11. Including the scene that could never be part of a movie. That was … educational.
phillymjs@reddit
I went to 12 years of Catholic school, so my sex education came from the porn I shoplifted or found in a fort in the woods, and a copy of Forever that was also shoplifted.
GandolfMagicFruits@reddit
We had a sex Ed class at our church youth group.
WATAMURA@reddit
There was no "talk" nor do I remember Sex-Ed in the 70s.
I learned about sex from reading Penthouse Letters and my dads stash of porn mags, around 9 or 10.... Just a couple years before I started drinking, smoking, and getting high.
Fillmore80@reddit
Dad's penthouse. I miss forums.
WATAMURA@reddit
I learned a lot about how to please a women from those reads...
funktopus@reddit
My parents gave me a pamphlet that didn't say much of anything. School told us all about STDs and your pecker falling off, oh and how babies grow. Nothing about how the sperm gets there.
I'm shocked I knew what to do with my wang other than piss out it. Thank goodness for instincts.
Draun_In@reddit
MyriVerse2@reddit
7th grade, I went to a Presbyterian school. The science teacher was surprisingly cool, and we had a blast.
And she was gorgeous.
Sufficient_Focus4174@reddit
My make sex ed teacher put on a body condom one day. That’s all I remember.
_TallOldOne_@reddit
I either would have died laughing or decided sex wasn’t worth it.
…yeah probably not the later…
Sufficient_Focus4174@reddit
lol I remember it as being funny. Only time I ever saw a body condom was in The Naked Gun movie, so I got a kick out of it. One of my classmates said “I just put it on my penis” which killed!
kalelopaka@reddit
My dad was pretty crude about it, but I grew up on a farm, so sex was everywhere.
JTMissileTits@reddit
I told everyone on the bus. Mom had a pregnancy book and it was very informative and I asked her about it. I was 8. She said she got calls for a year after that.
I think we had something in science class but I wasn't interested because I'd been told already. My mom was pretty informative and realistic about the whole thing. There were condoms in the bathroom etc.
REDDITSHITLORD@reddit
I found my dad's Hustlers.
I ended up with some unrealistic expectations of women.
YouBestProtectYoNeck@reddit
This right here.
LeavHouse@reddit
This right here indeed!
I discovered a copy recently and looked through it. I’d forgotten that it presents man-on-top as a basic fact of reproductive biology.
tpt75@reddit
Exactly this.
geodebug@reddit
Ha ha yeah. Dad gave that to my brother and me.
Over_Concert4436@reddit
🤣🤣🤣🤣 This for me too!
Any-Perception3198@reddit
Omg I remember that book! Cartoon naked people!!🤣🤣🤣
sparkyinlaw@reddit
Yep. That was mine. And I just read this to my son earlier this year. I looked into some of the modern books, but they just made everything way too complicated. This one unapologetically cuts like a knife. You’re educated by the end!
Winter-Macaroon-4296@reddit
My mother's sex talk was "It's something that you do after you are married."
I started buying Cosmo and Danielle Steele novels to educate myself.
Reasonable_Smell_854@reddit
Somebody left a book on my bed while I was at school one day. Still no idea which parent it was. That was the sum total of discussion of sex in my house.
The_Dude_2U@reddit
Babysitter
ThreeFourTen@reddit
I was told the basics at the age of five, by my mother... and this knowledge became the subject of my 'show & tell,' at school, a few days later!
The teacher stopped me, thanked me for my contribution, and sat me down. Mother was called in for a 'chat' after school that day, and I distinctly remember seeing the both of them practically doubled over with laughter, as I waited outside the classroom.
hulachic6@reddit
"Don't have sex until you're married. Because I said so."
SuccessfulTwo3483@reddit
An 80’s adult video we passed around and Playboy magazines. Home economics class in high school where they just touched on anatomy. That’s it. First real gf taught me everything.
BarleyBo@reddit
In 10th grade health class a lady came in and had the class write any questions we had on scrap paper and it went into a jar. She then answered everything that was in that jar. It was a good system. No one was embarrassed to ask and she was honest on everything.
Sufficient_Space8484@reddit
5th grade. We had to go around the class reading the book out loud. I will never forget John’s voice cracking as he read the words “the man places his penis in the woman’s vagina”. The class erupted in laughter. Ms. Coleman was pissed.
Pitapenguin@reddit
"Don't do it" - my parents.
ewazer@reddit
I think we had 1 class with a filmstrip in 5th or 6th grade.
At home, my parents angrily ordered a family meeting and demanded we (myself and my four sisters) better not be having sex and better not get, or get anyone, pregnant. I don’t know which of my sisters was the target, but as a secretly gay teen, I knew they weren’t upset about anything I’d done.
ALL of my sister ended up pregnant as teens btw. Great talk.
wormil@reddit
In Jr High, boys watched a video about penises and sperm, girls watched a video about vaginas and eggs, we did not trade. When I asked my mom, she gave me a book with line drawings of male and female interior biology, no exterior. My friend Patrick brought porn to school and suddenly it all made sense, in theory. It was a group effort, I suppose.
Leicester68@reddit
Finding "Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex But We're Afraid to Ask" in my dad's office and reading it
Tricky_Excitement_26@reddit
My dad had that book on the book shelf, so I read it in grade 5 (1985). Listened to Dr Ruth and Sue Johanson on the radio or watched on TV. Sex Ed in public school started in grade 3. My brother was born when I was in kindergarten, so I had a lot of questions for my parents. They told me the truth, with the anatomical names and everything.
RevolutionaryAd6564@reddit
“Men have baseball bats. Women have catchers mitts. There’s first base…” - literal quote.
Optimal-Ad-7074@reddit
boggle
Optimal-Ad-7074@reddit
my parents had a very pragmatic, very sciencey (mostly) book on the living room shelf called ideal marriage. author someone Van de Velde. almost no social commentary at all, just (iirc) pure physiology.
no idea if they had any notion that it was there, but you can be sure that I read every word in it. basically, I self-educated and lucked into a very objective, factual source as the grounding.
then on top of that I was a massive and eclectic reader, so the socio-emotional aspects mostly trickled down to me that way. I got a pretty good, broad basis.
Kitty_Mombo@reddit
My parents (both medical professionals) did not say a word. The only thing my mom told me was that I couldn’t use tampons cause I would lose my virginity. This is the same mom that was pissed off that I didn’t have my period when I was 11 years old and took me to her old male gynecologist after she gave birth to her marriage saving baby. I was so traumatized having a pelvic exam at 11 years old that I didn’t speak for two weeks. My dad finally realized there was something wrong and asked me what happened and I told him. He confronted my mom and she said she just needed to get my period over with because she wanted to know how closely she had to watch me. I was a neurotic, scared of my own shadow kid who I guess she thought was banging everybody in town. Jokes on her I didn’t tell her I had my period until I was 15, it started when I was 12.
Listen_Lanky@reddit
In high school health class, the wrestling coach showed us how to put a condom on a banana and passed around a display case of birth control.
umbathri@reddit
I know there was something in 5th grade, like to prep you for the changes to your body, growing hair in new places, smelly sweat, and penis growth. But no real sex, baby, or std explanations at all.
No father in the picture to do the talk, but before I was 12 I had a sex ed book stolen from my older brother, plus a few playboys, and even a full on XXX porn video. That definitely made me the source of some of that playground potty talk that clued in the other boys. To me the official sex ed in middle school, split by genders, was rather pedantic and boring. There was a certain amount of pride when one of the Boy Scout leaders called me Dr. Ruth after overhearing a late night chat in our tent.
hellxhorde@reddit
I am gen x we got a sex ed class and thrn got to watch a real life close up of child birth on video lol
teleheaddawgfan@reddit
Self taught.
yurinator71@reddit
My stepmother brought home The Lifecycle Library from the second-hand store she worked at.
Kronos_604@reddit
Most memorable was Grade 8. Teacher allowed students to write any questions on a slip of paper and drop them in an anonymous question box.
At the end of each lesson he would answer as many questions from the box as time permitted. One day the question pulled was "What is sixty-nine?"
He didn't say a word. Just walked up to the blackboard and drew a "6" on its side and then a "9" on its side right on top of it. That was it. Then class dismissed.
Most_Routine2325@reddit
We had a few sex ed classes in 4th grade. I was attending a private school at the time. I never heard anything about it from a school-related entity until high school when we had the optional elective Family Planning, which of course I took. We did the "keep an egg baby from breaking" thing. And learned meal planning and how much shut costs and budgeting. Homemaking stuff. And pretty much did not talk very much about sex or birth control, except condoms. It was the height if the AIDS epidemic so it would have been irresponsible not to. But the whole class was more of a scared-celibate tactic. Parents? They did not cover anything. And the town? Very buttoned up conservative. They would not have allowed a drive-in to play anything even rated R, let alone X.
Tamases@reddit
We had Sex Ed 3 yrs in a row. 3rd grade-6th. This was from '76-'79. By the 3rd year I was desensitized to penis or Vagina or sperm or menstrual cycle or babies growing in a mom. At home Mom made us read "Where Do I Come From" . WILDLY inappropriate for a 3rd grader. I did learn consequences of early sex though. Kinda scared me.
mpete76@reddit
I grew up evangelical and in Alabama, during the Satanic Panic. It was Non-existent.
Xo-Mo@reddit
Single mom, no father figure.
First instruction: my mom's father: Grampa H.... He taught me what my genitals were for (urinating primarily)... He did not cover anything sex educational.
First surprise tight underwear: waking up every morning confused, uncertain what the hell was happening. Mom was never around. Big Bro laughed and ridiculed me.
First form of "education"... groundskeeper handed me a book. It was smut about a young woman discovering her own sexuality, exploring it with someone she cared deeply for, and ending up with a baby bump. Still not 100% sure about how things worked IRL.
Junior High School (8th grade) Health Class: Just after the foodborne illness chapter came the sexual education chapter. Learned anatomy, the inner organs and tubes... Mom signed off on the permission slip to be shown photos of gonhorrea, herpes, and other STDs... We were told abstinence is the only safe way. We were taught that pregnancy always happens any time a boy even touches a girl's privates. We were advised that masturbation is healthy but must be kept private above all other things, never spoken about nor discussed in public or with anyone.
Meanwhile, my big brother was already creating his first baby with a girl in my class. Within the next 4 years, I became an uncle 6 times. I was completely unaware of this until Senior year of high school. I only knew my big brother had a different girlfriend every week and - 3-5 months after he broke up with them, they got really fat. Then they dropped out of school and were never seen again.
My brother was a scoundrel, a player, and currently has 14 kids, with each mother madly in love with him, his own harem of baby-mamas. My little bro has 10 kids with 4 women. I have 0 kids.
Not for lack of wishing, hoping, and trying with my single spouse while we were married.
PRC_Spy@reddit
From parents? Nothing.
At school we just got the 'Biology of human reproduction' which was very mechanical. Nothing about relationships at all, just male and female genital anatomy, what goes where, the menstrual cycle, and please use contraception if you must.
I used to hang out in the public library a lot, so filled in the gaps with books. Alex Comfort 'The Joy of Sex' and various other titles. I became others' encyclopaedia for the names of kinky stuff inappropriately young.
At university, the medical students got a first term lecture on sex with video. So half the university was studying Medicine that day and we filled their lecture hall. Bit late by that point anyway.
Sensitive_Note1139@reddit
We had chickens as a kid. My mom hugged me and told me sex is like what the chickens are doing but it's dirty until after marriage. I thought my dad stood on her back?????
Her "you started your period speech" was handing me a pad that was too big [I was 12], telling me I wasn't allowed to use tampons because they were dirty and a booklet from when she was young about contraceptives. She did make sure to tell me that she wanted me to read the booklet but I wasn't allowed to use anything in it. She never even showed me how to put the pad in my underware.
I so wish Google existed back then. I was so embarrassed and confused I didn't even think to ask my Nana [who was a nurse] about what to do.
My elementary school did a 30 minute class about your periods and other girl stuff but my mom wouldn't allow me to attend.
I don't talk to my mother anymore.
Moar_Donuts@reddit
A 70 year old 200 pound woman with a mole on the tip of her nose sweating profusely trying to tell us about penises and vaginas while we laugh, our asses off. Oh yeah, we were 12 and it was 1981.
donofrioms@reddit
Trial and error !
crobertdillon@reddit
Back hatch of a 78 pinto
Anonymo123@reddit
My birds and bees talk was "don't do anything stupid". About the same quality financial advice that haunted me for decades of stupid decisions.
Whovian73@reddit
Read lots of fiction books. Some were vague, some confusing, others were very graphic.
inhabitshire77@reddit
HBO
lefty1117@reddit
Me and this girl Beverly
DAGB_69@reddit
One of the gym teachers was supposed to teach us sex Ed. Instead he ranted about his ex wife taking his daughters, every lesson was was him ranting like it was his therapy session.
Dubious_Authenticity@reddit
9 1/2 Weeks and late night Cinemax
Tangboy50000@reddit
Our sex ed teacher was a lesbian gym teacher. When she did the demonstration of putting the condom on the banana and told the class that the condom would fit many different sizes and shapes of penises, that one dipshit yelled out “how the fuck would you know?”. Some heads actually exploded and he was sent to the office and got in school suspension.
Limp_Rip6369@reddit
5th grade period talk 6th,7th and 8th grade health was sex Ed. Learned about nocturnal emissions, vas deferens etc. Ovulation. Fallopian tubes and all the stages of the menstrual cycle. Birth control, condoms etc. Had a sex positive person give a talk at the middle school. Could have been Sue Johansson.
We were part of a university study group. Had questionnaires to fill out.
Don't remember sex Ed in highschool.
Salty-Pack-4165@reddit
Being a grandchild of farmers I knew what sex and reproduction was from very early age. I helped my grandpa bring calf to this world around 6yo and that's one of the best memories i have of him. I've seen bulls ,horses and dogs going at it rather often.
Humans were much harder. On one hand everyone pretended nobody had sex yet girls would get pregnant starting about 14. There was a whole lot of hypocrisy about it all around.
Pipesmokinlady7@reddit
6th grade, a book on how periods worked. Sophomore year; about STD's, consent, protection via the video: Time Out: The Truth About HIV, AIDS and you.
In between, the "purity ring" and religious stuff called "True Love Waits". No thanks to the step-monster thinking that I was going to mess around in school. Jokes on her, I am gay and had a girlfriend in the 8th grade.
hatred-shapped@reddit
I didn't learn about sex until I had sex
Robalo21@reddit
My uncle was a sex therapist in New York City, he died when I was 14. We suddenly received a library of Sex books, masters and Johnson, The Joy of Sex. And dozens of others. Some were illustrated. I read them all. I was the best read 15 year old on the subject of human sexuality you'd ever meet...
Equivalent_Tea8061@reddit
Two bluegills circling their nest. My sister asked my mom how did my dad float around the bed.
longipetiolata@reddit
My dad, a doctor, gave a very clinical explanation of sex. Drew basic pictures, primarily of internal parts. But at the end listed some slang terms for sex and body parts. My mom got very angry when I kept saying, “Boner! Boner! Boner!”
I learned about how creating a baby worked from this. The rest of what I learned about what to do and not do was from movies and porn
ChavoDemierda@reddit
Hands on. Nobody ever really explained it to me outside of sex ed.
MK5@reddit
Bathroom walls and my dad's old collection of early 70's Playboys.
lushlanes@reddit
My dads porn that I found.
DMFD_x_Gamer@reddit
Amber Lynn. Tori Wells. Marilyn Chambers. Ginger Lynn. Hyapatia Lee.
All good teachers.
TealTemptress@reddit
My mom gave me a set of 4 books called the body or something.
But then I found Joy of Sex on the basement bookshelf, a box of my Dad’s old Playboys and a case of beer.
theBADinfluence2015@reddit
Porn
observeandretort@reddit
With a MAD magazine cover?
fqdupmess@reddit
Run of the mill sex ed classes talked about stds. I had a subscription to hustler when I was 13 I had that. My parents don't talk about that
Admirable-Lock-2123@reddit
For me it started by finding my dad's Penthouse magazines under the bathroom sink at about 9. Then at 10 it was Letters to Penthouse special. Both times I had an age appropriate chat with dad. Then from there I moved to a neighborhood that had kids 3 years older so got more info from them. The last lesson was by a senior girl during my freshman year before I roamed off to experience the rest with girlfriends over the years.
MedsNotIncluded@reddit
5th or 6th grade biology class in Germany. Regular German school.
shrugs
cassinglemalt@reddit
Hey, we had a Naked Lady drive-in too!
5th grade: the period film
7th grade: general mechanics and biology, stds,, stds, stds, contraception, contraception, contraception
High school: assorted stds and contraception talk
Senior Year: an apparently experimental program aimed at educating us about HIV/AIDS, because at the time it was brand new information that AIDS can be transmitted heterosexually. Condoms, condoms, condoms
For the record, there weren't any known teen pregnancies in my tiny hs the whole 4 years i was there.
trailrider@reddit (OP)
I learned a few yrs ago that we weren't the only one. I seriously thought we were because ... you know ... porn and all that. LOL!
Man, I tell kids these days it seems so weird to me how HIV is almost a nothing burger these days. That when I was younger, it was a death sentence and truly feared. Like how a pool was drained after a competitive diver hit his head on the diving board and told officials he was HIV pos when he bled into the pool. How Princes Di shocked the world when she touched the hand of a dying HIV patient.
I went to Navy bootcamp in the summer of '90. I'll never forget coming back from a med appt or whatever and walking into the compartment to see a guy curled up on the deck bawling. I'm talking deep heavy sobbing. When I asked what's up, I was told he just learned he had to wear the dreaded red dog tags because he was HIV pos.
When my ships visited ports in Thailand and Subic Bay, Philippines, ports infamous for their sex trade, we were required to have a minimum of 3 condoms on us. If we didn't have them, the Officer Of the Deck ordered us to grab 3 out of a big box filled with them on the deck there. Told me he didn't care if I made balloon animals outta them; that his orders were to see them in my hand before granting permission to go ashore. I remember being horrified when a shipmate of mine bragged about raw-dogging girls in Thailand. We were told the country had the highest HIV rate in the world.
Reba's song She Thinks His Name was John stills sends shivers down my spin. I really can't listen to it.
It was truly scary back then. Today, no big deal. My how times change.
LivingEnd44@reddit
Mostly rumors and limericks.
AnswerGuy301@reddit
Most of it came from AP Bio. Which is kind of unfortunate from the perspective of the school because students enrolled in AP Bio were some of the last people who needed basic sex ed.
This was one of those towns where there were too many little old ladies who would claim to find imagines of the Virgin Mary in water stains on the ceiling to make sure that comprehensive sex education in high school wasn’t a thing.
So rumors about how sex works spread like wildfire, and many of those rumors were just wrong. And of course there was porn. It wasn’t always easy to procure but between signal bleed on cable TV and magazines hidden in boxes in the woods and what not it was out there.
tragicsandwichblogs@reddit
In my elementary school, the fifth graders got sex ed while the sixth graders went to outdoor school for a week. My mom had always been pretty forthright about how sex worked, so I didn't have a lot of questions, but I was confused about how the Pill worked. They did not answer any questions about the Pill.
I don't remember any health education at all when I was in junior high, but we moved after two years. We had a required one-semester class in high school. They did talk about the Pill in that one (other forms of birth control, too).
Any-Perception3198@reddit
The playground at recess lol. No, actually, in 8th grade we had sex Ed (in a catholic school no less) and there was an anonymous ask-it-basket where kids could ask anonymous questions. Honestly, it wasn’t too bad. I learned what a lot of slang meant. Mom talked to me about love more than sex and why you needed to love the person before you had sex. In high school, we watched childbirth films and I was like damn, I liked it better when I thought all babies were born via c section.
Westboundndown787@reddit
The totality of my sex conversation with my father was “keep it zipped up.”
False_Disaster_1254@reddit
my mom was drunk, and she told me she wanted to talk about the birds and bees.
i said ues mom, what do you need to know?
she almost fell over laughing, and concluded that the bird crouches down.
Slim_Chiply@reddit
My father gave me the sex ed talk when I was in the first or second grade too, but then never mentioned it again.
looselyhuman@reddit
I honestly only remember being mortified, and surrounded by a lot of giggling. 8th grade I think, late 80s.
SnowflakeSWorker@reddit
Except it wasn’t, because how many amputees have you had wild group sex with, while being in a swing set up for such activities? And they all were panting over you and each other? Penthouse forum was wild 😂
looselyhuman@reddit
But oh so mild compared to some of the shit I read now, in my private time. Literotica is truly wild, and it's not even the raunchiest smut out there. We're all going to hell.
themodefanatic@reddit
Got the talk from both my mom/dad. Parents very open. Felt I could go to them with any questions and I did.
Also had the classes during what the called jr high back then. And high school.
PrisonCity_Cowboy@reddit
There was zero education. We had older siblings & friends. We stole porn. Some of us lucky ones had cougars & MILF’s before they were even called that. We all fucked like rabbits but pretended we didn’t because we’d burn in hell. 🤷♂️
JustinJustout73@reddit
Cable TV.
Elegant-Sand-9852@reddit
There was a chalk board, a drawing of a "tube" and something about a spermoza. -1983 sex ed
yarnhooksbooks@reddit
I was a prolific reader and when I was 8 or 9 I started checking stacks and stacks of Harlequin Romance books out from the library. I also picked up some things from Cosmo and Seventeen magazines. That was pretty much it. Nothing in school. Nothing at home. The closest I got was when I had my first boyfriend at 16 my mom asked me if I wanted to go get on birth control. I didn’t find out until I was well I to my 20’s that my parents assumed we were getting comprehensive sex ed in school and assumed they didn’t need to talk to us about it. School was in deep rural south. Even abstinence only would have been too racy in that community.
Kanarra79@reddit
Non-existent.
Learnt REAL quick tho.
Source: 45M with a 30yo daughter
SnowflakeSWorker@reddit
Yep, 48 with a 31 year old over here. Mom did tell us penis to vagina action, and then a strong DON’T DO IT. She was also a teen mom.
letting-the-light-in@reddit
Catching the last half of a rerun of the ABC after school special “My Mom is Having a Baby” when I was in 5th or 6th grade and asking my much older sisters about it afterwards. They both kept telling me to ask the other one. And finding Playgirls under one sister’s bed. But the best education of all was finding the book “Scruples” on her bookshelf in 8th grade. And getting “Flowers in the Attic” from the Scholastic book order. 😂
pipeuptopipedown@reddit
When I was in second grade, the whole class followed one teacher's pregnancy -- it wasn't discussed a whole lot, as I remember, but we had a table dedicated to embryo/fetal development, with several illustrated books including one with amazing photographs. So in case anyone was curious we could get an idea of what the baby must look like at any given point. It was kind of treated like a science subject -- which it was.
MainlineX@reddit
Woods porn, and dad saying: "if you do it, use a condom". That's it.
yodamastertampa@reddit
We had it in 4th grade, and we were all so confused.
No-Gain-1087@reddit
The playboy channel all fuzzed out lol
CourtCreepy6785@reddit
My older sister's Judy Blume novels (and, yes, this guy thought maxi pads still came with belts well into the 1980s.) My best friend's older brother read Penthouse and we wouold steal copies, so there was that. At some point when I was about 13, my parents left a book called "The Facts of Love" on my bed when I was at school. I had already secretly read it at a friend's house years earlier.
Overall, just really uncomfortable.
saltydancemom@reddit
Small rural town, it was Junior year and 3 girls in the class were pregnant. We already knew.
AdDapper4220@reddit
I’m 28 and just found out sex existed back then
Various_Procedure_11@reddit
Abstinence only. Rural school in the early 90s
barelyquiet@reddit
My Dad reading the book, "Where Did I Come From?" to me and my sisters. I don't ever remember it being weird or gross...just the facts with cartoon pictures
YellowTrickster72@reddit
Very little in school and not a peep from my mother. Wet dreams were a mystery for longer than I care to admit.
DarrenEdwards@reddit
We watched a movie and were asked if we had any questions. We got most of our understanding from "Little Johnny" jokes, made up by older kids who also had huge gaps in knowledge.
Then, in high school a substituted mimeographed some Linden Larouche bullshit about sending gays to an island and everyone would be happy and AIDS would be cured.
The administration never asked her back. Then they set aside 3 days. High school and junior high were separated sometimes by class, sometimes by gender, sometimes in arbitrary small and large groups, sets of active couples, and educated with C Everett Koop videos, Q & A, worksheets, conversations, counseling, listening, and they let us know that there are some things that are done between people and there weren't the usual judgements.
The last was separation by gender. The girls got a teacher that told about her college experiences. The boys got a shop teacher that was the quiet, mild mannered married catholic. We found out that instead of fighting in Vietnam, he was sent to Korea to round up soldiers and prostitutes and to make sure that those with a disease got every shot on time. The guys that didn't ended up with strains that were immune and felt like they were pissing glass for the rest of their lives. He told us about holding down soldiers that would have to get scar tissue ripped out of their urethra.
For two years, that school had almost no shotgun weddings.
ram_mar4112@reddit
Catholic school. Grade 6. After school in the evening. My mom took me to school to learn about it. Entire class was there with a parent. A couple of parents of older students put on the class. They were VERY comfortable talking about this subject. Teacher was there too. They used the proper names of things and also slang terminology so we could understand.
I don’t remember much. Just that I was extremely embarrassed and very uncomfortable. I was very immature for my age. Not childish. Just immature. I wasn’t ready to hear about this topic.
the_spinetingler@reddit
This one time at band camp. . .
RimmerA69@reddit
3rd grade in a catholic school and a friends mom was the teacher.
Ok_Dragonfruit7353@reddit
A 23 year old waitress when I was 16. Had a pretty good idea what was up after that.
Redsmoker37@reddit
I can remember a girl talking about "people humping" when I was in 1st grade, really didn't understand much of what she meant.
I was given the "Where do babies come from" book in 4th grade.
Macropixi@reddit
Dad was an RN, both parents were hippies who were big on education. We were given “The Body Book”
SineQuaNon001@reddit
Non existent. I had to figure it all out over time, by myself, or via the nascent internet. I preferred it that way, my dad had died and I didn't want "the talk" from anyone least of all my mom lol 😄
celticlich@reddit
Third grade maybe, pretty sure we got it in school.
Top_Professor_8260@reddit
Nuns telling us that sex was a painful and disgusting experience that you save for the person you marry.
togocann49@reddit
Porn, the joy of sex, biology class, and the older/other kids lol.
PirateHungry8293@reddit
Hidden porno mags behind my Dads seat in his Semi Truck
rangerm2@reddit
4th grade public school (Charlotte, NC) talked about the mechanics, but there were no graphical images of anything remotely realistic.
The realistic images came from whatever magazine we had access to, and HBO/Cinemax (late night).
As far as learning skills, I learned by doing--mostly trial and error.
Ok_Command_9808@reddit
A video about our changing bodies, and how babies are conceived with a video of a baby being born. Nothing really about use of condoms, STDs, nothing of value. This was in 87 for me. It was 8th or 9th grade.
PXranger@reddit
I watched a bull have its way with one of our ponies.