Is it the best performing show since she took over or just overall, taking into account the majority of its run which Stephen did? Also why would it being well performing or being called a jewel mean the people I know like it?

On the contrary, Fry gave it much more of a well blended tone, a mixture of seriousness and humour which kept it grounded and rich. You absolutely need gravitas to host a game show well.

Look I love Fry

Doesn't sound like it, otherwise you'd be able to appreciate the ways in which he's superior. The fact you don't suggests not only a lack for him, but an odd bias.

but she's far more affable than Fry.

She's quite infamously prickly where Fry is famously charming... No idea where you're getting the idea people find her affable.

Fry was like a school master,

Well, because he was a school teacher, it's much of what gave the show its unique character. It's also why he had so much gravitas and charisma.

Toksvig is more like a chum.

To who? She did multiple seasons of bake off with Noel Fielding and when asked about him, acted so EU and dismissive of him it genuinely turned the stomach.

And having met her several times in her position as a patron of Humanist

Ah, that explains it.

I can tell you she's a really kind, funny, decent person.

The person who started off their response to me with an insult is adjudicating on what qualifies as kindness. Very credible.