I just turned 47 today. I still get a card each year from my parents with a check inside. It’s one of the few things that makes me feel young.

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Puzzled_Tomatillo528@reddit

Happy birthday. Should make you feel loved, too. After the age of 18, I just got a happy birthday.. of course, my mom had to remind my dad it was my birthday. Hehe. RIP Mom and Dad.

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Both of my parents gave me cards with checks for my birthdays and Christmas, always with a little note that it was just for me, and that I shouldn't spend it on the kids or something practical. I'm a single mom and they both knew that it was one of the few little splurges that I would get during the year. They weren't huge, but enough that I could treat myself to something that I normally wouldn't.

I lost both of them within the last few years and I miss those cards and them checking in on me to see if I followed their instructions, and how I spent the money.

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missblissful70@reddit

I am 54. I lost my parents in 2018 (Dad) and 2024 (Mom). I miss the things Mom used to send me in the mail!

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Maleficent_Theory818@reddit

I lost my mom in 2022. She was the last person to send me a card on my birthday. This year was really hard.

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RedwoodsareAwesome@reddit

I'm so sorry.

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Realistic-Talk-6857@reddit

I feel for you. I'm sorry. Totally know what youre going through.

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newpthankstho@reddit

The third year is the worst. Not sure why. I am sorry. I have been there.

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RunTimeExcptionalism@reddit

I'm a Millennial who's seeing this because the thread got popular, but my dad is getting up there in age, and it's going to wreck me when I get my last card from him. idk, maybe us olds should start a thing where we send cards to each other.

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chihuahua2023@reddit

I love sending cards to my friends randomly and for birthdays- it’s better than text :)

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Contralogic@reddit

This hit my feelz. Wish you well compadre.

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ChristianMom35@reddit

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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RedwoodsareAwesome@reddit

I'm sorry. May their memories be blessings.

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RollTideMeg@reddit

I've kept all the cards my parents have sent over the past 15 years... In case it's the last one...

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AWlkingContradction@reddit

Same. Sad that I did indeed get the last one from my Grandma who had dementia a few years ago. My Mom said they had such a hard time getting her to sign it because she didn’t know what it was for or what was going on. 😢

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RollTideMeg@reddit

I'm so sorry. Dad has started signing the cards when Mom always did until about 4 years ago. It's hard.

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Anna_Lemming@reddit

I love sending cards and other mail. If you'd like any, lmk! Happy to send it to a non-personal address too. Lost my parents very, very young.

My friends think I'm nuts for enjoying the act of sending snail mail and packages. But I love to do it.

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what-isthis123@reddit

I lost my parents 5 and 3 years ago. My mom would always give me money for my birthday. I had always told her not to, but after a few years I just took it. She was just being mom! I really miss them!🥲

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talazia@reddit

Same. I lost my dad a few years ago and my Mom three weeks before my 50th birthday. birthday celebrations will never be the same.

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mtlaw13@reddit

Same story here :( Lost Mom during Covid '21 and Dad in '10.

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xxshilar@reddit

I was almost the complete opposite. Mom in '10, Dad in '22. Also lost all of his brothers and sister. Never have I felt more alone as I approach 50.

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missblissful70@reddit

I have eight siblings. I am the youngest one. My brother has Stage 4 cancer, and I dread the day we bury my brothers and sisters. I know I will feel very alone then.

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333pickup@reddit

I had many aunts and uncles...21 of them. All of them gone now along with my parents. I have aiblings amd when I get together with them like I used to het together with my extended family there is a ghostly feeling to that. All the people who belonhed to us no longer with us.

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momstera@reddit

I turned 57 on Wednesday. I missed all my mom's homemade cards. I still have a stack of them in my home office.

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ijie_@reddit

Lost my dad when I was 20 years old. I would do anything to be able to hug him again. That’s when I learned to tell my mom and sis I love them, every single day.

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pauliep13@reddit

I was 20 when my mom died, 21 when my dad died. I feel ya.

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Zestyprotein@reddit

My 10 year old gets newspaper clippings from my mom about every other week in the mail. Along with ones for me. And my wife.

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RedwoodsareAwesome@reddit

48, my mom still makes a deal out of my sibling and I's birthdays, and her daughters in laws. She's in her mid 70s...has done this every year of our lives. I'm married, raising a family of my own, check all the responsible adult boxes, but still get excited about my birthday because of my Mom. Starting to get a little emotional about it.

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AWlkingContradction@reddit

Mine still do, and although it's unnecessary at 44 I appreciate that they do.

The best part now though is being the gift giver myself. I enjoy being able to spend more on them now and give them something useful or special that they can appreciate.

That and because I'm childfree and no one can get revenge on me, I get to buy the loudest most annoying toys possible for my brother's kids and all of my 1st cousin's children. Best part of Christmas!

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Musicman1972@reddit

That's so nice. My friend's parents still buy her a coat every few years at Christmas. Just to make sure she's warm in winter.

She's 48.

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PM_YOUR__BUBBLE_BUTT@reddit

My mom still buys me slippers for Christmas every single year. Started when I was 4. Lots of fun ones when you’re little. Then they became more “grown up” ones for a while there. Now I’m in my 30s and a few years ago I dropped hints to her about some really silly ones. She loves the tradition even more now I think, and so do I. Monster paw slippers? Hell yea. Cow slippers? Mooooove over monster paws. Taco slippers? Yum, yes please.

It’s the greatest tradition and I’ve 100% started the same one with my daughter now. I’m gonna be really sad when my mom isn’t around anymore. For this and 1000 other reasons of course.

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AWlkingContradction@reddit

I LOVE THIS. 100 times more fun than "Grandma knits me socks every year" and a fun tradition at the same time.

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grateful_john@reddit

My father passed away last year. He had a thing for buying leather jackets - he would get one every three years, it seemed. He’d offer me his old one (by offer, I mean he would insist I take it). A few weeks after he passed we were at my mother’s, she offered my son and I each a leather jacket - he had two in his possession when he died.

They’re damn nice jackets.

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stillfather@reddit

My mother in law sends a check. Actual parents...will probably text.

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Not_A_Beet@reddit

Awww that is so sweet. My mother just insists I pick something out for her to buy online to have delivered to me. I can’t remember the last time she chose a present for me.

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Fantastic_Estate_303@reddit

My grandma used to send me kiddy birthday cards even when I was in my 30s. She just added in the last digit. I miss her

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ClassroomFine6530@reddit

Happy Birthday! So happy you are surrounded by love☺️

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Realistic-Talk-6857@reddit

Yep. Mom still hands me cash.

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Better_Days_56@reddit

My mom used to make hand drawn and painted cards for every birthday and also Christmas and Valentine’s Day. Her dementia became obvious to me when the individual birthday cards stopped about 10 years ago. This year the others stopped because her mind is so confused. 😢. My father was never a big gift giver so now we do all their gifts for them.

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Malapple@reddit

My parents never really did this but my grandparents did, despite me making a great living and them being on a limited income. I actually started saving them until my grandmother told me it was screwing up balancing her checkbook. I still have one from each of them in the desk drawer right next to me. They passed 20+ years ago.

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mooch41@reddit

My mother did the same till she died

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dataarchivist@reddit

Happy birthday! I’m 52 and would get a check, too, till my Mom passed. Turns out my Mom was the card/check instigator.

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Liitlewinemakerme@reddit

Aw that’s sweet.

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Secret_Computer4891@reddit

My dad still send me a $20 bill in the mail, as he has every year since I was 9 or 10.

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sharalasmyles@reddit

Just turned 55 last month and got a card in the mail with a check from my parents. I told them it was not necessary to send me money anymore but they insisted so who am I to tell my parents in their 80's what to do with their money?

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Brilliant_Chance_874@reddit

❤️ for everyone who loves their parents

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hermitzen@reddit

61 and despite me telling Mom to stop sending me money, she still puts cash in with the cards. At least she doesn't write a check equivalent to my age anymore!

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Significant_Ruin4870@reddit

I'm turning 60 soon and my mother still does this. She was sending me checks, which I refused to cash because she shouldn't be spending her retirement money on me. So now she just sends me cash. SMH

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justlkin@reddit

My MIL used to send us checks, which we wouldn't cash because we kept telling her to save her money and use it for something fun. We'll, she just resorted to putting cash in our cards now, so...

My SO plays the game now of slipping the money in her purse when she's not looking. She's caught onto that too now and checks it before leaving our house. 🤣

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steveoa3d@reddit

My dad always did that, $1 for each year…

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ridbax@reddit

Mine too! I joked with him that we were heading into big money once I cracked $50. I miss this annual ritual and the two way ribbing about it.

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matt_heming@reddit

My uncle has sent me a cheque with my birthday age my whole life, and I love it every year. I'm 51

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longtimemt012@reddit

My husband's parents would send $100 and cents corresponding with his age 😆 (a check)

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OnlyGuestsMusic@reddit

My parents started sending me Omaha Steaks.

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CyrusTheVirus76@reddit

My parents have upped the christmas and birthday gifts to 500$ to disperse their wealth without tax!

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ECNV1978@reddit

I’m the same age (47) and any time my dad sees me he slips me a $100 bill. He says that w girl “girl should always have a little fun money at her disposal.” It’s super sweet.

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annnamal@reddit

47 too. Everytime I go on vacation my dad gives me spending money. Every birthday I get cash in a card from my parents.

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slickmartini@reddit

My dad does that too. Will never get tired of hearing that. 💕

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Tasty-Building-3887@reddit

My dad did that for me when I was younger. He died when I was 21.

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slickmartini@reddit

I’m so sorry to hear he passed away when you were so young.

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msssbach@reddit

I still have the last $25 uncashed check my mom sent me for my birthday before she passed in 2014! Love you, Mom. 💕

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ksh1elds555@reddit

You are so lucky! Mine both died when I was in my 30’s. What I wouldn’t give for one more birthday card 😢.

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Shoddy-Safety2989@reddit

We're next. .

Scary.

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Minute-Complex-2055@reddit

I turned 46 on the 25th, and this still hits home.

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Loud_Cockroach_3344@reddit

Yep, early X’er here - my dad passed a few years ago, mom is now in her mid-80’s. She still has the most beautiful cursive writing ever - writes a personal note in the birthday cards and insists on providing a thoughtful cash gift. She also just became a great-grandma and is excited to celebrate yet another birthday!

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Beth_Pleasant@reddit

Hello fellow '78-er! Yes I still get a card with $100 check in it :)

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ThermiteSnake@reddit

I turned 49 this year and it was the first time I didn't get either cash, check or a PayPal. It took me ten years to convince them they didn't have to do that anymore, lol. I still get got a card and that always makes me feel like I am still a kid in their eyes.

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MasterAlchemi@reddit

My mom openly said she’s not going to bother remembering my birthday which explains why she hasn’t for the last few years.

There was hell to pay when I didn’t call her soon enough on Mothers Day though.

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Competitive-Feed-294@reddit

That’s awesome they remember your birthday. 👍

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snootchiebootchie94@reddit

That is nice and so thoughtful! My mom always gets me something for my birthday. She has always been very thoughtful. Currently on her second battle with breast cancer. My father died around 15 years ago. I miss him a lot and wish he could have been alive to meet his grandchildren. Appreciate your parents homie!

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BuckyGoldman@reddit

55 here, and my Parents (now just Mom) still puts a check in the birthday cards for myself and my older brother. Also, on Christmas she still fills the stockings with candy and ~~penny~~ toys.

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MadStephen@reddit

55 here and still get a check from my Mom for my birthday (Dad passed a few years ago). I've kept the last twelve years' worth.

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Federal-Membership-1@reddit

Still get one from two aunts and an uncle. Mom stopped buying me a Hess truck for Christmas at 54.

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OrdinarySubstance491@reddit

They insist I spend my birthday with them, but no, they don't get me anything.

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ShelterElectrical840@reddit

Must be nice. My father’s turned into a mooch. It’s been years since he paid for anything.

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LincolnhamLincoln@reddit

Same and my mom still makes my favorite cake. I know there are only a few of those left so I savor every one.

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

Yep. I get German chocolate cake every year for my birthday. I get to eat is all my self because my wife hates coconut.

Then mom started making her a cake on my birthday as well since she didn't like coconut. I wonder who the favorite is?

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LincolnhamLincoln@reddit

I think we know. :)

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siamesecat1935@reddit

My mom made my cake until I graduated from college! She'd bake it and MAIL it to me there! I have the recipe, but it never tastes the same as when she made it.

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Shorts_at_Dinner@reddit

There’s a lot of comments on here that are sad and heartfelt, but this made me legit tear up.

It’s so hard to enjoy these special moments when we know how soon we won’t have them anymore.

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midniteinthedesert@reddit

same❤️

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janeylaney@reddit

Love this. I’ll be 47 in December, my parents still get me birthday and Christmas gifts. It’s not much but I appreciate it so much.

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Big-Environment-6825@reddit

My mum still calls me 'My boy' 😂

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twiffytwaf@reddit (OP)

Ha, ha. My mom still says “Hey, baby” when she answers her phone when I call.

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roz78@reddit

I turned 47 on the 2nd of this month and my dad gave me a $1000 check. Usually he just takes me out to dinner so it was a pleasant surprise.

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VacationLizLemon@reddit

My 89 year old mother had my brother (with whom she lives) Venmo me money for my 48th birthday.

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PRC_Spy@reddit

I’m in my 50s and live in NZ. My parents still call from the UK and sing ‘Happy Birthday’ (with guitar accompaniment) over the phone.

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grateful_john@reddit

My wife’s parents call her and sing happy birthday every year. No guitar.

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Zestyprotein@reddit

Mine call and sing, but always do it the day before, because they never get my birth date right. I'm 53.

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

My wife gets a check form her grand mother for Christmas. It is split between her brother and sister. The check is for $83.33. That is $250 split 3 ways. it makes me chuckle every time. I even asked her can't you just round it one way or the other. She simply said no its the way I do things.

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NespressoForever@reddit

My in-laws do that for us each year. We're both in our 50's. It's always appreciated.

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siamesecat1935@reddit

I did, up until last year. We knew my mom was going to be applying for Medicaid as she was rapidly running out of money. And even a $10 check would raise red flags! So instead, because its about a 20 mile drive each way to her, she paid for me to fill up my car a few times here and there. Using her credit card. :)

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stromm@reddit

My dad and I would pass the same check back and forth for each of our birthdays. Started on my 21st when he gave me a $25.00 check. We kept changing the name and date. Did that for 20 years. He passed away a week after I gifted it back to him.

And my brother (executor) refused to give it back to me...

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No_Future_9@reddit

I'm 46 and my mother and stepfather come to visit every birthday. They are about 450 miles away but they always make the drive. My birthday falls around Christmas so they would come to celebrate with my daughter and I. This past Christmas will most likely be the last time they do it. My stepfather's health isn't that great so traveling may be tough on him. He did make it out for my daughter's graduation which I was thankful for. Now my plan is to go spend at least my birthday at my mom's house. Maybe Christmas too depending on what my daughter is doing.

My father always flies in for Father's Day weekend. Its a great tradition we have had. If I regret anything in life, it is not living close to him.

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CrustyBatchOfNature@reddit

I stopped getting more than a birthday call around 20 or so. I have struggled with how to tone down what my kids get each year. I still wind up spending $900-1000 on the three of them for Christmas. This year they all turn between 27 and 30 so yeah.... With my first grandchild on the way, it may be time to at least scale it back some.

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angry_old_dude@reddit

That's cool. Every year for my birthday I get a religious card from my Dad where a Mass will be said for me. I'm not particularly Catholic anymore, but it makes my Dad happy. The best part, though, is there's always a personal note in it. That part makes me happy.

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sleebus_jones@reddit

55 here. Mom passed 4 years ago. Dad forgot my birthday this year. Wee.

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eastcoastflava13@reddit

Mom still gets me a AAA membership for my bday.

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PurpleSailor@reddit

Cherish them because there's a good chance that when they're older they might stop remembering to send them. Mom passed this year and stopped sending me cards about five years ago.

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KnowOneHere@reddit

Yes, I get xmas money and birthday money. I look forward to it!

"Now you can pay your power bill. That's a gift". - my dad

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sunsetpoe@reddit

Both my parents have passed. I did inherit an IRA from my mom. I’m required to take out a “minimum required distribution” each year (MRD). I have it programmed to pay out on my birthday, so each year my mom does still give me a check for my birthday.

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Conspiracy_Thinktank@reddit

I get coffee money and I love it. As a father and husband I rarely get any cash to myself so it’s nice to have some treat yo self cash.

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cavis304@reddit

I went back to school at 50 years old to get my master’s degree. When I got my first grade (an A), my Mom gave me $20 in a card just like she did for my kids when they were in school. She passed away last year before I finished my degree. She’s still the first person I want to tell, but she’s not here anymore.

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AnonymousBosch69@reddit

I (55f) lost my dad in 2013, but my mom still sends me a card with a $50 check inside.

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Whole_Craft_1106@reddit

I can’t imagine my mom who is on social security sending me $. Also sending $ to my kid(he makes more than I do!)
We usually do fun things together instead.

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penguin_stomper@reddit

Glad I'm not the only one. I also get a "care package" of snacks.

I do wonder about Mom's mental state sometimes, she's always had a somewhat naive, idealistic view of things, and I sometimes can't be sure if it's a Mom thing or if she actually thinks I still like like a college kid in the dorm.

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ThirstyWolfSpider@reddit

My parents backed off on that when I kept failing to deposit the checks.

They still send them occasionally, at which point they sit on my desk "to be deposited soon" until they mention that they'd really like to be able to balance their checkbook.

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misdeliveredham@reddit

I’d be the same way if checks were under like $50!

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wetwater@reddit

I'm 51, and same. I send similar amounts back on their birthdays and about a decade ago I realized they send me $100 and I send them $50 each, so it's a wash. I figured we could skip the money part and mentioned it to my mother.

"Oh! I'm fine with that, but you should still send money to your father."

And when I spoke to him, he told me that was fine but I should still send her the $50.

So twice a year I send them money because otherwise it's going to be nagging that I didn't send money from one that I didn't send money to the other.

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misdeliveredham@reddit

Start sending them $25 each and come out ahead! JK

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jollytoes@reddit

My parents are Jehovah's Witness and don't celebrate the birthdays. For whatever reason they started calling me on my birthday and literally singing the Happy Bday song about ten years ago and every year since. I went a whole childhood without a single bday being recognized and now I get a song. If they live another 20yrs I may get a gift. (To add context to how strange this is for me, I exchange maybe 10 texts and 2-3 phone calls/yr with my parents.)

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misdeliveredham@reddit

I used to know a lot of JW families back in the day and always felt bad for the kids. Wonderful people though, at least to us who weren’t part of the, ahem, their circle. My parents are/were weird in other ways so I feel ya.

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Rich_Group_8997@reddit

My mom doesn't even call or text me on my birthday. It'll probably be the coldest day in hell before she bothers to write me a check. 😕

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NaniFarRoad@reddit

My family never really did birthdays, and never birthday presents. Didn't pay anything for our wedding either, but showed up and ate/drank like all the other guests.

Some parents are shit. I cannot recommend therapy enough!

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Rich_Group_8997@reddit

I've already paid for my therapist's kids' college education. 😂

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Shoddy-Beginning810@reddit

Ive been giving my parents money since I was 35, they lived through the greatest economy the world ever saw and were so lazy they came out with nothing

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misdeliveredham@reddit

If they still gave you like $50, would you be touched or irritated? Considering that it’s essentially your money just making it back to you?

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Mcboatface3sghost@reddit

Was it for $147 bucks?

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misdeliveredham@reddit

Nah prob 47

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majesticalexis@reddit

I’m 47 as well. I have an uncle that still calls me “kid”. Love that.

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Jld114@reddit

My mom did this until this year. This year she Venmo’d me!!

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misdeliveredham@reddit

Love it when our parents get with the times :)

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gumercindo1959@reddit

When I turned 50, my mom gave me $500. Holy shit, it was like Christmas Day x100 and I definitely needed it.

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misdeliveredham@reddit

Now that’s a nice gift! I was really wondering with all those $20 bill parents lol

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Sallydog24@reddit

Yeah I get a $20 from mom, and with the mountain of cash she is sitting on it pisses me off

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misdeliveredham@reddit

Would piss me off too!

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Regular-Prompt7402@reddit

Yeah I get $100 every year. Same since I was 15-16. Somehow my mom has never heard of inflation. Though she complains about prices constantly…

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Fit_Seaworthiness387@reddit

It's the thought that counts.

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misdeliveredham@reddit

What’s with the parents who send small amounts like $20-$60? They don’t understand today’s prices or don’t have much money? No offense just curious

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momstera@reddit

insidepl Om .

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momstera@reddit

Iplon. Bbbbbbn

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No-Mechanic3931@reddit

Checks stopped 2 years ago😞

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pondelniholka@reddit

My parents stopped with the checks at 40 :(

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Scotsburd@reddit

I get a stocking at Xmas with a big gift, a book, perfume and chocolate.

I'm over 55. God, I love them ❤️

And I do the same for my 30 something kids. And always will.

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middleagedouchebag@reddit

Know what I got? A carton of smokes.

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Dickrubin14094@reddit

A couple years ago mine switched from giving cash to sending Amazon gift cards. They wanted me to actually buy something instead of pocket the money or use it toward bills

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Hardjaw@reddit

I'm in my 50s, and I'd say you are still young at 47.

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Casual-Snoo@reddit

Happy birthday 🎂 😎 🎶

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deathproofbich@reddit

I lost my dad in 01 and my mom last year. I miss the unconditional love I felt from them on my birthday. Little things like a card & cake feel huge now.

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gotkube@reddit

Almost 47. Mom died after I turned 19 and have been estranged from my Dad for almost 8yrs now. I haven’t celebrated my birthday in years; not much worth celebrating anymore.

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PaulFern64@reddit

I miss those cards…

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GenXPrince@reddit

51 here.. every Xmas and Birthday.. I get money.. "buy something nice that you actually want" lol

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Betacucktard@reddit

Yup. My 81 year old mama still puts money in my birthday card, God bless her.

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ManateeHoodie@reddit

Way to make me miss my grandma 🙄

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Cubbance@reddit

I'm 50, and my Mom still sends me birthday money. She also still gets me and my siblings Christmas presents. We tell her to stop, because she's on a fixed income, but she really loves doing it, and she's stubborn, so there we are.

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seeingeyegod@reddit

I sometimes do, but it's really random. For some reason certain numbers seem to make them do it. I'll probably get one when I turn 50 in a few years. Very lucky to still have healthy parents.

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Affectionate-Tour-59@reddit

I used to get one from my Dad and Step Mom, but it stopped when she passed in January 2023. My Dad just couldn’t get out to get a card for me anymore😢 He had a stroke a few months before she passed, and lost most of his vision to glaucoma before that. He passed away last June. I still have the last card and some of the money he’d sent🥹❤️ I’ll be 47 in August.

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DeeplyFlawed@reddit

I'm 47 & both of my parents are deceased & I feel like I'm aging in reverse.

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runnergirl0129@reddit

Yes. A check or a coffee gift card. I’m 60 and lucky enough to still get mom and dad cards in the mail.

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virtualadept@reddit

When my parents were still alive, yes, because arguably it's easier than going through a wishlist and picking something that makes no sense to them but I really want.

My in-laws do the same thing.

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hogswristwatch@reddit

Lucky

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drabelen@reddit

I still do. I cash it and return it to my mom’s account (she doesn’t bother checking her acct).

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pareidoily@reddit

My grandma sent me a birthday card with $2 in it for my birthday when I was I think 20 years old. My younger brother called to wish me happy birthday and said Grandma borrowed $2 from him. I laughed and told him I'd send him the $2 back. I never did.

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Neener216@reddit

My mother baked me my favorite cake every year until a stroke robbed her of the use of her left side.

She passed away 12 years ago - now if I want that birthday cake, I need to make it for myself :(

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LifeIsAPhotoOp@reddit

Happy Birthday!

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NanaSayWhat@reddit

That’s beautiful.

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MedsNotIncluded@reddit

No.. they and my sole sibling bit the dust before I became an adult.

Got one from my grandma until fairly recently though.. she changed a lot in her later years

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MaxwellCarter@reddit

I get the same, only it's pineapples (Australian $50 notes)

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smythe70@reddit

Me too, but lost Mom last year so my big sis does it now, makes me happy.

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MNPS1603@reddit

I’m 48, my dad passed in 2021 and my mom is in late stages of Alzheimer’s. For the first year or two I would give my brother and myself Christmas and birthday checks from mom just like they had been doing, but it didn’t feel the same so I stopped bothering!

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meowmeowcatman@reddit

My mom stills sends me and my wife birthday cards (46 and 44) even though I told her we weren’t going to cash the checks.

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Nepenthe95@reddit

I didn't even realize this was a thing until I saw this. Does anyone here do this for their kids?

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featherblackjack@reddit

I told my mom to stop sending me money several years ago lol

She's gone now, but I like to think she put that money in the trust fund.

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StevieNickedMyself@reddit

46 and my parents still send me care packages.

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JeepLover4Life@reddit

I am 60 years old and my mother still sends me money for my birthday and Christmas every year. 💕

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commonguy001@reddit

Both my wife and I get birthday cards with a check from her parents and mine. My MIL also sends a check every Christmas and wants pictures of whatever I bought with it. I won’t lie, I really enjoy it even though I usually don’t need anything.

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DynamiteWitLaserBeam@reddit

My in-laws send me a check every year for my birthday, Father's Day, and our anniversary with a note saying how proud they are of me. I'm 50, and honestly I'm really going to be sad the first year it doesn't happen.

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dperry93@reddit

Enjoy this! My Mom died when I was 4 years old and my Dad died when I was in my twenties. I had my grandparents but they aren't around anymore either.

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Lanky_Marzipan_8316@reddit

I love this. and happy birthday

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thegreatgatsB70@reddit

My favorite memory of my mother is how she would wake me up singing, or start singing when she/I would call me/her on my birthday. When her dementia advanced and she lost her memory, it was the saddest birthday that I ever had. She didn't sing. I have done the same tradition with my daughter, and my wife gets my mother to sing happy birthday to her, and me. It's a great feeling.

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NegScenePts@reddit

52M here...and if it's not a card it's a sly hundy palmed to me when my wife isn't looking, lol.

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kaos95@reddit

I'm supporting my parents, my dad has alzheimers and no way on their state worker pension could my mom pay for the care he needs (I won 3 lottery with none of them actually being the lottery, but I used up all the luck in my family for the next 17 generations . . . so I take care of my people).

My mom still does buy me really neat presents for my birthday, but then again, they live kitty corner around the block from me (our backyards almost touch).

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turbojack6@reddit

Yes and Christmas too, of course there is always something to unwrap, sweater, shirts, pans etc. It’s the $15,000 check that is the bow on those presents. Thank you Mom & Dad

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string1969@reddit

I'm 61 and my mom still sends me a check on my bday

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NoorAnomaly@reddit

My mum sends me money for my birthday still. And my kids.

About 3 years ago, when I got my fancy new job, I wanted to do something for her. So I bought her the closest she'd been eyeing, together with some table lights. Paid for delivery (we're on different continents), which was about the same as the items purchased due to how far away she lives from the store. The outrage and appreciation when she called me was amazing. 💕 I miss my mum...

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SpaceMan420gmt@reddit

My childless (not a bad thing) aunt still does this. I’ll be 50 next year. Im childless too!

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timeless-2@reddit

Yes. And I love it more than they'll ever know. I need to tell them the same.

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Tasty-Building-3887@reddit

Parents gone but my older sis sends me a check every year

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nakedreader_ga@reddit

Not money on my birthday, but every year my dad get’s me Valentines candy.

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sara11jayne@reddit

I’m 54. My mother, 74, sends me Venmo. 🙁

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Katiew18@reddit

Unfortunately both parents are dead ☠️

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Darth_Beavis@reddit

I turned 47 last Thursday. My mom no longer gives me a card, I just woke up on my birthday to see she had sent me a Zelle payment of $100

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RollTideMeg@reddit

I'm about to be 55. Dad still sends me money. I so want to send him something other than a card, but my mom has Alzheimer's and they can't go out to eat and there's nothing he needs. I just call weekly and try to visit two times a year.

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formaldehyde-face@reddit

My dad used to do that. He also sent birthday money to my girlfriend and to my roommate, who had a bad relationship with her mom. I miss that man every day.

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RainbowFuchs@reddit

44, my parents never remember my birthday.

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botblue@reddit

I'm 53. Both my parents are gone. Both of them were born in 1928. Mom died in 2016. Dad died in 2022 (Covid). They always sent money to my daughters for birthday etc. I had been demoted to a birthday phone call since I was 20 something :-)

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Imaginary_Attempt_82@reddit

I get a card and a check too. I’m 46. My husband gets the same thing from my parents and he’s 56.

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RustyDogma@reddit

My mom sent me a card with a dollar for every year on my half birthday. At my 47.5 she forgot. That year I reached out to my dad about possible dementia. Turns out, it was true.

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Jdido818@reddit

Happy Birthday

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No_Star_5909@reddit

Im 51. My pop still sends me $50 for my bday, every year. It's so awesome.

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WinterMedical@reddit

Mine used to always call and sing to me in harmony. Luckily I save one of the voicemails.

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theflamingskull@reddit

My aunt still buys me socks for Christmas, and I look forward to them. Nothing special, just black athletic socks.

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GlassHouses1980@reddit

I’m 54 and the sole person that sees my mom on a daily basis. I take care of anything she may need. ( dad passed last year) She always gives me a card with money in it for my birthday. I am going to be so lost when that time comes .

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Prepperpoints2Ponder@reddit

I'm 51. Still get a card with at least 2 gift cards for my birthday and Christmas every year. Mom sends cards to my husband (69) as well.

I tell her constantly that we don't need anything, but she insists.

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TheAmazingMaryJane@reddit

my dad used to send me cheques too, he died in 2017. i remember finding 50 dollars in one of my junk drawers on my birthday in 2018, i thought for sure it was sent by my dad, even though i don't believe in an afterlife. it was just so perfect.

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oldsoulempath@reddit

Yep I still do.

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CynicalDick@reddit

If my parents were still alive and sent me money the only thing I would do with it is take them out to dinner.

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fritzie_pup@reddit

I'm not so much into the whole getting money thing for birthdays..

However, since I was a kid and lottery tickets started being a thing, that became the enclosed birthday tradition annually.

Every year (47 now) I still get a card containing lottery tickets (that never, ever win.. Even the big ticket ones).

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king_of_the_rotten@reddit

I turned 51 today and got a text from my mom. So it goes…🤷🏻

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hoofheartedthistime@reddit

I am 54 and they do the same for me.

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Notabogun@reddit

I give all my kids and their spouses 250$ for their birthdays, the grandkids get 100$, it’s a great excuse for a visit. They don’t need it, they make far more money than I ever dreamed of.

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twirlinghaze@reddit

My husband and I get $10 each for our anniversary and each of our birthdays from his grandpa. It's so adorable lol.

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SaudiWeezie90@reddit

Happy Birthday!!!!

I lost my mom in 2001. She was 54.

I lost my dad in 2022. He was 77.

I still have my stepfather. He is 82. He's the one who raised me and has ALWAYS been there for me. He is my supporter and my encourager.

I will be 60 years old on Tuesday.

I hope you have had the best birthday ever.

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IMTrick@reddit

My parents are both dead, you insensitive clod.

Just kidding. I mean, not about them being dead. They are so, so dead. I meant the other part.

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Dry_Economist4470@reddit

My grandmother sent me $5 every year taped inside a birthday card until she died in 2003

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NotARobotDefACyborg@reddit

Dad passed 30-plus years ago, and Mom just a few years ago. ....that being said, I do still get birthday checks from my one surviving auntie. She's the best.

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Maleficent-Earth9201@reddit

Happy birthday! I just turned the same age today.

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Elizabeth360@reddit

I still get a card on my birthday every year (I’m 53) from the mom of a girl I went to school with through high school. I look forward to her cards every year.

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BombasticMe@reddit

Happy birthday!

48 here! Both of my parents are gone. Hold on to those little blessings.

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StackedBean@reddit

Bday and Xmas both.

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CarisaDaGal@reddit

I’m 47 and my parents still send my husband and I a 600 dollar check each year for our birthdays. Haha it’s super sweet and I still look forward to it

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Phil__Spiderman@reddit

My parents always gave me $100 plus my age. So $112 when I turned 12, for instance. Dad's been gone three years now and I take care of mom's bills and check writing. She still has me write a check to myself for the birthday amount.

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mados123@reddit

Just did recently, and when I saw only my living family member's names on it, I asked my sister to write in the names of my other family members who have passed. Otherwise, it wouldn't have felt right, even though it's reality.

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No-Effort5109@reddit

Yes. I’m 53. I told them it’s not necessary but I love getting something from them. I know it won’t last forever.

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Sad-Duty2370@reddit

I still get a card and $50 from my parents for my birthday. I’ll turn 49 next year. Holy shit. I’m getting old.

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Much_Substance_6017@reddit

I’m happy for you, you still have both parents! You’re lucky! Happy 47th! I turned 47 in January and I’m loving it! ❤️

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No-Chocolate5451@reddit

My dad would call me at the time I was born EVERY year until he passed. I miss him everyday! Treasure these cards! My parents both died within 3 years of each other.

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LayerNo3634@reddit

My mom still sends me a card with $20. It's always been $20.

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Texas_Trish71@reddit

Same, I'm 53. I always get asked by both parents what I want for my BDay or Xmas and I usually ask for money or gift cards.

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pittipat@reddit

When I turned 50, my husband's aunt sent me a birthday card with $5 in it. It was the best!

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My_friends_are_toys@reddit

I'm over 50 and I still get Star Wars Lego from my mom.

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Pitapenguin@reddit

I'm 52 and my mom sends me a birthday card and money, Easter cards, St. Patrick's Day cards, Halloween cards, etc. And she still fills my Christmas stocking and has to give me a present to open. I will be sad when it's over.

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YvonnieAzul@reddit

Yikes, Im 59 and I still get money sent to me via Venmo for my birthday and Christmas from my Mom

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Endless-Non-Mono@reddit

My mom sends me $200 every birthday. The cards ended when I (M47) turned 19. Two of my aunts still mail me comics. They get the bundle packs and send them my way. One of my best friends from high school (F48) coordinates with my wife (F48) and takes me to the arcade on my birthday.

I never looked at it as helping me feel young. It most likely I'm glad they remember and put in work. I do the same for them.

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onehundredpetunias@reddit

In true GenX form, it's really a crap shoot as to whether or not they will even remember that it's my birthday from year to year, let alone send a card or check lol.

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AdComplex1289@reddit

Aww, I'm 57 & my mom died when I was 47. She called me "Bug" (her childhood nickname for me) in the last birthday card I got from her. I kept it for years.

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vettes4vets@reddit

Same. I’m 56 and just like clockwork, Mom hands me a birthday card with $100 bill in it. I’m sure it was less years ago, and has gone up like inflation. But she never misses. You are correct that it keeps you feeling young. Thanks for reminding me I need to tell my mother how grateful I am to have her.

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discontent_otter@reddit

Happy Birthday!

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blacksewerdog@reddit

58 and my parents must have a small party with cake and a card,then no matter what I say my dad slips me 100 bucks.”don’t tell your mom”😂

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InterestingProfile18@reddit

Sweet, Cherish that

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Delightful_Helper@reddit

Happy birthday

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craftyteaspoon@reddit

Mine used to write my birth year inside the card every year. Like I’d forgot when I was born? Then she’d write something about how I was so old but I’d catch holy heck if Imentioned her age at all.

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_53-@reddit

Mom still gives me cash too, for birthdays, Father’s Day, anniversaries etc…she’s great, even though I always tell her to stop.

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Rooooben@reddit

Yep, turned 50 and got some old man t-shirts, and a $100 check, which I did cash.

I didn’t for a while, and my dad complained that I was messing up his checkbook balancing.

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erikjonas@reddit

53, still get dyed eggs and jelly bird eggs for Easter

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Affectionate_Yam4368@reddit

My Grandma used to send me a $2 bill. It's been about 10 years since she's been gone, but I still have an impressive collection of $2 bills

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PennyG@reddit

That is awesome

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udaami@reddit

51.

Every visit Mom says ‘let’s go see if there are any sales for work clothes.’

I leave with 3-4 shirts she’s somehow amazingly got down from like $100 to $7.

And if I get a compliment on the new shirt at work I’m sure to say ‘thank you my mom bought it for me’

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blyss73usa@reddit

My 52 birthday is coming up next Friday, I will let you know if my mom sends me a card. 😅

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steveoa3d@reddit

I’m pushing 60 and my mom used to call to warn me about incoming snow or other bad weather. She passed in 2023, I miss those calls now…

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CallmeSlim11@reddit

I get an envelope with $200.

My Mother is famous for offering people food when they leave, "here, you want cookies! I have cookies for you, take these!" and she'll give you a half empty box of cookies etc. My ex husband was always like WTF? I think it's hilarious.

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I-LIKE-NAPS@reddit

Yes and instead of .00 cents, it's my birthday age.

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jax2love@reddit

My grandfather passed away when I was 38. He always called me first thing in the morning on my birthday every year to sing me happy birthday. Needless to say, my 39th birthday was a sob fest.

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Multizar@reddit

Good for you! I stopped getting birthday gifts from my parents when I became a parent. I told them to spend the money on the kids instead. We still do birthday dinners.

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Floopydoodler@reddit

I’m 55 and my Mom still makes my favorite cake and I get a card and money. She still gives us a little Easter basket too. We have all told her she does not need to do anything, definitely doesn’t need to give us money and absolutely does not need to procure individual gifts for Easter baskets. But she loves doing it for all of us and all the grandkiddos

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Tiktoktoker@reddit

I just turned 48 and I still get them ♥️

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AlliOOPSY@reddit

I used to - lol!! And my special birthday cake, but on my 49th birthday, my mom announced that at 50, I was getting cut off. No money, no cake, just a card. I'm just like, whatever. All I would really want for my birthday is a hug from my dad, and I'll never get that again, unfortunately.

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athenaseraphina@reddit

I didn’t even get that when they were alive! I am your age so you should definitely be grateful. ♥️

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GrumpyCatStevens@reddit

Still get a card with a check from the parents at 57 here...

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Taylortrips@reddit

I miss my parents. Enjoy every second of yours.

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OoklaTheMok1994@reddit

I'm 50+. My mom still gives me a card and $20 in cash on my birthday. I love it.

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Worth_Event3431@reddit

Enjoy those cards. My mom used to send me one every year until she died in 2022. Birthdays without her just aren’t the same now.

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you_know_who_7199@reddit

Your parents have money?! Lucky you!

Seriously, I'm also 47, and my mom usually sends me two cards for my birthday plus a box of the pretzels I like. She signs my dad's name for him... not that he couldn't; he just slows down the process. That's good enough for me!

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TypeNo2194@reddit

Yes! And I keep telling them to stop putting cash in the card. They don’t listen. I turn 47 next week btw. Happy Birthday!

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sekuhn@reddit

I just turned 56 and I still get a card and check from my mom. She does it for my wife too.

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OptimusShredder@reddit

When I was growing up I got a few little gifts from my parents, and my grandparents would send me a dollar for every year I was turning. $15 was the last I got from my grandparents, all of them passed by then. My parents send me cards now with nothing else in them, but my kids who are now 15-21 usually get $50-$100 from my parents(their grandparents) so hey that’s still cool that your parents send you a check with your card. Honestly, I am okay with just getting a card because they spoil the hell out of the grandkids, and that is okay with me!

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Adorableviolet@reddit

50 buck check every year...am 57!

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park2023mcca@reddit

My mom is the only parent left for me or my spouse and she sends both of us a check on our birthday. I'll go one better though.

My wife and I started dating when I was 21 and we got married when I was 27...long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. I got an Easter basket into my 30's from my in-laws. I think it only stopped when we had kids and the "easter bunny" moved on to them. My in-laws were wonderful in a corny way and I loved them for it.

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Select-Current-4528@reddit

My parents have been giving me a hundred dollar bill for decades. Forty years ago, a hundred bucks went a lot further. It’s still my favorite birthday gift.

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colormeslowly@reddit

Never received card nor money from parents and now never will, both long gone.

Broke that curse. I send cards, gifts and money to kids/grands.

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discussatron@reddit

Happy birthday! I got my card & check from my folks earlier this month for my 58th.

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TonyBrooks40@reddit

Yeah. When I was younger she'd give me "$20 for gas money" when I would stop by and see her. Then I became more able to handle myself. Since the pandemic, I've feel onto some bad times, and sadly she started giving it to me again.

I feel like I failed her a bit.

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overmonk@reddit

Man it’s been a while. My mom texted me this year. We’re all pretty much over birthdays.

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hoardac@reddit

Every year. Not looking forward to it stopping.

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Status_Silver_5114@reddit

50+ and I still get birthday money too.

And my mom still calls a leaves a msg singing happy birthday. It won’t last forever so each year I get that from her musically is the best part.

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bluepapillonblue@reddit

I get a check, too! And. My aunt sends me a card with $5 and a stick of gum for my birthday. 🥰

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thundercloset@reddit

I discovered this year that my dad was the gift & money giver. Since he passed away last year, my mom hasn't given me a birthday card or gift. Nor did she pay me for doing her taxes, where my dad gave me $100 every year to do them. Whatcha gonna do. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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No_Maintenance_9608@reddit

I’m happy for you that your parents are still around.

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lectroid@reddit

"Here's $10. Go see a Star War." - Mom

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Capitan-Fracassa@reddit

Happy for you. Happy birthday.

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SugarMag1976@reddit

Every year! I didn't even want to think about that stopping.

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Legitimate_Team_9959@reddit

My dad's been gone 30 years this year and my Mom 8. I'd love to get a card or hear their voices again. Cherish it OP!

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rafuzo2@reddit

Same age. Got a graduate degree this year and my mom gave me a Dr. Seuss "Oh the Places You'll Go" card.

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violet715@reddit

Me too! One year they forgot to send me a Valentine and I was seriously devastated. (They never forgot again lol)

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JasterMereel42@reddit

My dad still sends me cards with money for my birthday and Christmas. I just take the money and then put it into the 520 accounts for my nieces and nephews. I don't need the money, and I've asked me dad to contribute to the 529 accounts but "I can't figure out how to do that". So, I'll continue to take the checks and contribute to the 529 accounts for him.

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Kate_Albey@reddit

My FIL is the sweetest. He sends a birthday card each year with cash equivalent to your age! Just a little “pocket money” as my papa would call it.

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twiffytwaf@reddit (OP)

I did get money from my FIL too. He sent a $50 bill. He’s way more trusting of the US postal service than I am!

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gertymoon@reddit

My mother used to always remember and would spend time finding a fantastic card every year for me which was really nice but she forgot this year which was kind of sad. I still have all their cards with cash inside that they've given me through the years, I know one day it'll be a nice reminder.

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BandOfBroskis@reddit

Nope. Birthdays really weren't a big deal in my family... they completely forgot once in my teens (Just like 16 Candles)😂 Not a sob story though because they were great parents just not into the whole B-Day thing and I'm fine w/ that. My wife is super into them and always goes all out for our kids. I think it's a bit much but it's fun when they're young... but I really can't see me sending them money in their 30s and 40s. 😂

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Peterepeatmicpete@reddit

Happy Birthday 🎂

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NotAtAllExciting@reddit

I miss the $50 my Dad used to send on my birthday. For him it was a large gift.

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thingmom@reddit

My dad passed 17 years ago - mom gives me money for bday and Christmas. Also has money for my kids college someday :) sometimes gives me a little extra if she gets money from something or another.

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dreaming_of_beaches@reddit

My parents are passed but I still send my kids (26 and 28) Easter baskets every year and cards/checks for birthdays.

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Pragmatic_Hedonist@reddit

My parents are both passed. I miss my Mom so much. She could drive me nuts like no other. But I know she loved me like no other.

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New-Marionberry-6422@reddit

Very sweet. Enjoy 😊 mine have passed ….

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FadingOptimist-25@reddit

55 and my mom still sends money.

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Stink_Snake@reddit

My father has given me a check for $100 since I can remember.
He doesn't realize the buying power isn't anywhere close to where it was when I was a kid.

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Positive-Froyo-1732@reddit

A check? How grown up. My parents still send me a card with a $20 bill in it. 😁

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Servile-PastaLover@reddit

Mom sent us kids, kids partners, grandkids, and grandkids partners birthday $$$ gifts amount pretty much up until she died. I was 56 when I got my last one.

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Cakegrrl13@reddit

Happy Birthday 🎂

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Cakegrrl13@reddit

My mom texts me at about 11:50pm to wish me a happy birthday. No cards, money, or gifts.

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Buckeye919NC@reddit

My parents have remembered my birthday in over 15 yrs.

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brumac44@reddit

My thing is writing letters and postcards. Drives the kids crazy. I tell them my thumbs are too big for texting

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CharleyDawg@reddit

That’s how I knew my stepmom’s dementia had taken hold- she stopped sending me a birthday card with a check like clockwork every year for 45 years starting when I was 14 years old.

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Audibled@reddit

Similar age. Mom’s dead, Dad forgot my sister and my birthdays, after I reminded him weeks before.

I feel old.

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ghertigirl@reddit

I'm 48 and no longer have parents that are living. Prior to that, my parents bought me amazing presents and my mom, in particular, would buy me lots of new clothes which did make me still feel young. Enjoy it while you can!

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mach1130@reddit

I’m 54 and the youngest. My mom and older sister call me kiddo on occasion. I love it.

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kyote42@reddit

My mom still sends me cookies she baked. Or banana bread. Or both. :) It's really nice.

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Parallel_Path@reddit

Yep. My aunt sends a crisp $20 bill for every birthday. I'm 52.

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catshark2o9@reddit

I wish I did. My parents are both gone now.

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AdultinginCali@reddit

Yep. 51f, my mom still gives me a birthday check every year. It's the best thing ever!

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houseocats@reddit

My dad sends me money at Christmas. I'm 55.

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UberKaltPizza@reddit

I’m almost 60 and my mother in law still sends me a check and a birthday card every year.

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DeeSnarl@reddit

My dad’s been sending me a check that corresponds with my age for many years now.

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EasilyLuredWithCandy@reddit

I turned 50 today! Happy birthday!

My dad gives me $50 and a bottle of booze.

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pmac109@reddit

Mine made me pick up the check for my birthday/ father’s day lunch. I feel like Charlie Brown on Halloween night.

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Starbreiz@reddit

Yes! And it's gotten bigger as I've gotten older. They've planned well for their retirement and it gives me relief. They used to encourage me to save half of all my birthday money as a kid, so this year, I immediately put half into my high yield savings account and bought the new Nintendo Switch with the other half.

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