What are your thoughts on a member of a certain demographic using a phrase that is a slur towards that same demographic?

Posted by Opposite-Scheme-8804@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 462 comments

This month at work, we've had plenty of really interesting and eye opening conversations/exercises around pride. It's been really good. However there was abit of controversy yesterday as one of the lasses in the office called her presentation "D*kes on bikes" about how urban design could be more inclusive for other groups. Another member of the team kicked off over the term and says as a lesbian she finds it horrendously offensive. Whereas the lass who done the presentation said she doesn't find the word offensive and essentially told her to stop being offended/emotional. Just wondering where people stand on it?