Clothes shopping as a Gen X Ladyperson

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Alone-Climate6557@reddit

Try J. Crew/J. Crew Outlet. They have some good basics that are flattering and wash well.

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Comfortable-Pea-1312@reddit

In just a few years, I am going full Mrs. Roper. Caftans and chunky jewelry. Can't wait!

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I’m already in my Mrs. Roper era. I have all sorts of caftans. Two for wearing outside the house (one is from the brand Mirth—their stuff is seriously good) and three for wearing around the house. My favorite around the house caftan comes from Barefoot Dreams, it’s SO soft and looks pretty cute too. But I also have a vintage Oscar de la Renta which is silky and fabulous! I do wear it when people come over to my house.

I think I’m headed into my turban era. I’m 54 and sick of doing my hair.

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elphaba00@reddit

There was a documentary I was watching a couple days ago - and I can't remember which one because my mind has gone to shit - and a younger woman was wearing a turban. And I told my husband, "I think I'm going to start wearing turbans." I think he thought I lost my mind.

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iammrsclean@reddit

Well, I love that!!

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Dede0821@reddit

I’m sick of doing my hair

I just got a pixie cut yesterday for the same exact reason, lol. Woke up this morning, ruffled my hair into place, and out I went. Fabulous! I’ll be 54 in a few short weeks.

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Zestyclose_Maybe_953@reddit

Me too, happy early bday!

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Dede0821@reddit

Same to you, happy early B-day! 😊

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Jules-Bee43@reddit

I grew my hair out, specifically so I could put in in a bun or ponytail and call it a day. I rarely even blow it dry anymore. Wash. Ain’t frizz serum. Air dry. It actually looks better than ever.

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iammrsclean@reddit

What anti-frizz serum do you use?

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Jules-Bee43@reddit

Eleven Australia Anti Frizz. The best thing about these products is they smell amazing. Each line has a specific scent. The anti frizz smells like watermelons.

https://elevenaustralia.com/products/smooth-shine-anti-frizz-serum-2-fl-oz

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Snarkan_sas@reddit

You should check out the International Order of Mrs. Roper. It’s a thing!

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iammrsclean@reddit

OMG!! Thank you!

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Appropriate-Luck1181@reddit

Thank you for posting the brand! I’ve been looking for some caftans.

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Cleopatrashouseboy@reddit

Dude, if I started to wear caftans, I’d balloon up to 200 lbs, lol.

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IamGypsyStarr@reddit

Was my reason FOR the caftans, lol.

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bearwacket@reddit

Thanks for the Mirth recommendation - those are beautiful! On my wish list!

I looked up Barefoot Dreams and they look comfy but it's weird, I can't find the fabric composition anywhere on their site. They mention their "unique fabrication" - if it's not too much trouble, would you share what it says on a tag??

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trullaDE@reddit

That's why I have pretty much a buzz cut (three quarters of an inch at the top, fading to about a quarter inch at the back and sides). It's also great because you can bleach that length to death without longtime damage, and dye it every color of the rainbow.

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stefanica@reddit

I have a few wigs sitting there daring me. I see you.

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Glass_Net_7445@reddit

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This is my personal style goals. ;)

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Ok_Engine_5036@reddit

Yassssssssss

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Oktodayithink@reddit

I bought a muumuu last summer. Why did I wait so long? It’s amazing

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mrspalmieri@reddit

Last year I bought myself a vintage 1970's summer weight housecoat

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Confident-Silver-271@reddit

My babci wore those! She has been my inspiration! 😀

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Comfortable-Pea-1312@reddit

With pockets?

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mrspalmieri@reddit

Yes! With deep pockets. It's especially great when I'm hanging clothes out on the line, those pockets hold a ton of clothespins

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Relative_Ad9477@reddit

I made my own caftan out of lightweight linen fabric for summertime. It's AMAZING!!!

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Dr_Overundereducated@reddit

I will defend my kaftan to the death!

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Strangewhine88@reddit

I’ve transitioned to the loose airy cap-sleeved button placket cotton gauze dress or the perennial staple cotton t dress that’s never been out of my wardrobe since the 80’s. Haven’t gotten to caftans yet but am conditioning myself to the possibilities. Even my tall skinny friends are coming along for the change. If I have to go structureless, I’m going all the way. Probably doing matching turbans for my thinning hair, except in mid-summer heatwaves. Looking for a vintage long cigarette holder to accessorize. I guess a vape pen could adorn it should I need to pick up everyone’s favorite gateway drug again for creaky joint pains.

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gatorgopher@reddit

Ha! I just bought my first kaftan for a 4th of July pool party! I can guarantee I'll wear it other times. I also have another favorite jersey palazzo pant with flowy shirt that I call my Maude outfit.

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robot_pirate@reddit

"Maude outfit"

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And everyone knows exactly what you mean. Make sure your collar is crisp and up.

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CarelesslyFabulous@reddit

Why wait?

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Comfortable-Pea-1312@reddit

Apparently Mrs Roper was 46. 46??!!!!

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whostheblondestrangr@reddit

Wait, they had a 59 yr old actress (when the show started) play a 46 yr old? [Three’s Co started in 1977 & Audra Lindley was born in 1918]

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MasterOfKittens3K@reddit

The actress was pretty hot, too. The makeup and costume departments did some really impressive work.

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AlwaysatTechDee@reddit

I’m not waiting a few years, this is happening this July 4th 😂

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CrabbyCatLady41@reddit

What are you waiting for? I got a caftan last year at a thrift store and it rules. Bra off, caftan on, letting everything breathe. All while sashaying around feeling fancy and sassy as fuck. I even crocheted myself a a shorter caftan swimsuit coverup so I can be Mrs. Roper at the beach.

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lovemydogs1969@reddit

Parker Posey bringing caftans back on White Lotus season 3, shero that she is.

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heldaway@reddit

Oh this is my next phase for sure!

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susifallah@reddit

I am already in my caftan era! I went to Palm Springs for a vacation and came back a changed person. I have fancy caftans, at-home caftans. They are the best!

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pendgame@reddit

Why wait?!

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Comesontoostrong@reddit

In my town there are regular Mrs Roper Romps

https://reddit.com/submit?text=PHOTOS%3A+Caftans+and+curls+abound+at+West+Seattle+Mrs.+Roper+Romp+2024+-+&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwestseattleblog.com%2F2024%2F08%2Fphotos-caftans-and-curls-abound-at-west-seattle-mrs-roper-romp-2024%2F

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mrspalmieri@reddit

I am dying to do one of these! Looks like so much fun

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mrsbeeps@reddit

Ours benefits the women’s shelter!!

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Pointedtoe@reddit

Ocean shores too, believe it or not!

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hazeldazeI@reddit

They have that here in the SF Bay Area too! It’s great!

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Spongebob_Tightpants@reddit

Wait, what?

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Spongebob_Tightpants@reddit

I am compelled to participate.

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mrsbeeps@reddit

See also: Elizabeth Perkins in Sharp Objects. Comes with booze and feelings of anger and isolation

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sovtherngothicvvitch@reddit

Mrs. Roper is goals!

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Unique_Football_8839@reddit

While the ones I wear aren't quite up to Mrs. Roper's standard, I've been wearing them for years. Roomy, comfortable, and if you pick the right fabric, incredibly light & hot weather friendly. They're perfect clothes for when you're at home & don't want to wear clothes, but for some reason you have to.

I've had a plan in mind for a while now to try buying a silk sari of eBay & turn it into a caftan. ( Yes, the saris can be problematic.)

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stefanica@reddit

I'm about ready for it now. Swedish and Polish clothing stores know what's up.

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OccamsYoyo@reddit

Damn — Stanley was an idiot.

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Impossible_Dance_853@reddit

Why wait? Do it now 😊

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TikiUSA@reddit

I’m there. It’s a caftan to go out or Costco clothes at home.

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deedeejayzee@reddit

I have bought my first caftan, it's so comfy

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Electronic_Wait_7500@reddit

52 F size 16 and shrinking (thank you zepbound!). I have discovered the sundress with some slip shorts and ain't going back. I love Old Navy, as well as Bass Pro Shop. BP has really nice clothing for women.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I wish I could take something like that but I am crazy sensitive to new meds and my insurance doesn't cover it.

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Electronic_Wait_7500@reddit

Mine doesn't either, but I'm saving at least half the cost in food. It's wild to have my body work like it's supposed to. So far I have very few side effects. Heart disease runs in my family, and I knew I had to get the weight off. I also have Hashimoto's and hypothyroidism, so without the meds it's almost impossible.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I have tinnitus and there is a good chance glp could make it worse.

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Electronic_Wait_7500@reddit

That must be awful! I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

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Unique_Football_8839@reddit

This is why, 40 years after my Mom desperately tried to teach me, I've taken up sewing. Nothing fancy, but basic stuff is pretty easy if you don't mind loose fitting things.

There's also the benefit of being able to choose the fabric. It seems like almost everything reasonably priced is made out of the shittiest synthetic stuff possible. I mean, I'm old enough to remember nice, good quality polyester blouses, but the stuff they're using now doesn't even make good cleaning rags.

I hate hot weather, so my current agenda is to make as much stuff out of cotton gauze & silk as I can afford.

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RoguePlanet2@reddit

Would consider learning to sew to take in some large hoodies inherited from my mother.

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Loisgrand6@reddit

Where are you buying material from? The two fabric stores in my area are closed

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DirtyBird23220@reddit

This!! This whole thread is exactly why I make most of my clothes. They fit ME, not some idealized body (I’m 5’2”, menopausal and busty). I can pick the pattern, the fabric, the color.

BTW, silk is insulating and a good choice for winter. In the summer, linen is where it’s at!

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MrsTurtlebones@reddit

Almost every Gen X woman i know does NOT want cap sleeves or short sleeves. I wish more elbow length sleeves were standard.

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_left_of_center@reddit

I’m struggling to find an entire shirt at all. It’s either a crew neck tee or nothing. Anything else has weird cutouts or tiny straps or is impossibly short or sheer. I hate everything.

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RoguePlanet2@reddit

Spent all day Juneteenth at the mall, looking for shorts. That's it, just shorts. Even checked out the men's section, nothing. Just want shorts down to my knees. Not culottes but I'll take 'em if there's nothing else.

Today I'll check out REI because I like practical hiking shorts. Just want to survive the heat wave and probable nuclear blasts (meh, probably not worth it.)

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unolemon@reddit

And wtf is with every top being cropped? I don’t do cropped. I wear a size medium, but with my body proportions and my belly, it’s not happening. Just give me a shirt that’s a reasonable length, please!

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

Im only 5'2", and when I order from Old Navy, I have to order talls so that shirts fit long enough. I had how short tops are now.

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tikiwanderlust@reddit

I’m 5’2” and wear a medium in some and large in others. The large always fits like a dress and the mediums are usually a little long on me. I have a few bottoms that require a top that stops just below my belt line, but those shirts are few and far between for me. (I’m taking T-shirts, not blouses)

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Odd-Adhesiveness-656@reddit

I cheat and order the tshirt mini dresses that I wear with cropped leggings! Also put "tunic" into the search bar...weeds out a lot of crap

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Mycatreallyhatesyou@reddit

Even sweatshirts and sweaters. Who wants their midriff flapping in the breeze on a cold day?

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Odd-Adhesiveness-656@reddit

I prefer ABC shirts...Adequate Butt Coverage! Not tunic length, not wearing it

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stefanica@reddit

Oh, I know! I'm pleasantly plump these days, and almost everything just barely hits my navel. WTAF

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purplishfluffyclouds@reddit

What? I prefer sleeveless.

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fertilemyrtleturtle@reddit

Yes. Too many hot flashes, too much fabric touching anything, and I'm a cuckoo crazy pants.

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middlingachiever@reddit

I can’t do elbow length or 3 quarter length. Sensory thing.

I love overly long sleeves that I can wrap over my fingers, or short/sleeveless. I can’t see that changing in my lifetime, regardless of how my arms look.

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Tasty_Marsupial8057@reddit

That’s funny, I’m sensory too and I love me a 3/4 sleeve. The kind that go over your hand or with the dreaded thumb hole make feel frantic and jumpy. We’re opposites!

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middlingachiever@reddit

Those thumb holes make me feel loved 🥰😆

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flea1400@reddit

I’ll do short sleeves, where they come down to mid-bicep, but cap sleeves are annoying. And I hate “bracelet length” because it just looks like my clothes shrank.

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Tortured_Orchard@reddit

Kohls is the only place I’ve found that offers ‘elbow length tees’, not just the standard stupid nearly-cap sleeve.

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FrancinetheP@reddit

J Jill and LL bean have elbow length and 3/4 sleeve tees.

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SnooPeanuts4336@reddit

3/4 baseball style band tees for the win!!

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jillsvag@reddit

Love that style especially the really soft material.

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hazeldazeI@reddit

Yessssssssss

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RandallinaO@reddit

I wear a lot of Gap. Not exciting but classic while somewhat on trend? I really like their modern tees; not too loose, not too tight and mid length sleeves. Pretty good quality.

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Working_Park4342@reddit

I wear very lightweight sweaters if I'm leaving the house. I gave up bras years ago. The sweater makes me feel more comfortable. No upper arms or nips showing.

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wisemonkey101@reddit

Sing it sister! I honestly don’t know how to dress myself now. I gained weight. Worked from home for a few years. Before that wore scrubs. I hate the slimy knits that are everywhere. I want clothes that are practical, comfortable and washable. No clown sleeves! All the online options are gross fabrics.

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KitchenWitch021@reddit

Why can’t we find 100% cotton clothing anymore? Even jeans are a mixture of various fabrics. I foolishly bought a top from Amazon, this shirt felt like rubber. It was an ombré color and kind of shiny. Awful, sent that back and lesson learned.

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Zestyclose_Maybe_953@reddit

I just bought some flowy cotton pants from z supply. They would look great with a thrifted baggy Smiths t shirt , although given what an ass Morrissey turned out to be I may look for throwing muses or bjork instead

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wolpertingersunite@reddit

Believe it or not JCPenney is great for this. Their St John’s Bay tshirts are great, with every variation of sleeve, neck and color, in cotton. They also have decent chino pants. Find a combo that works and you can buy diff colors and basically have a reliable, cheap uniform.

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padall@reddit

Hmmm, I haven't been to Penny's in a while. I should check them out again. Problem is I hate going to the mall (especially that particular mall), so I'd have to make an effort. Lol

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wolpertingersunite@reddit

Oh god no. Order online. Wait for a sale -- they have them every five minutes it seems.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

Yes! And they have tall sizes.

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KitchenWitch021@reddit

Thank you , good to know! I would be happy with a bunch of plain V neck short sleeved shirts. I hate those polyester shiny shirts that make you sweaty and sticky. It’s supposed to be 90+ degrees next week for days, I just want some nice cotton clothing to get through it!

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NoNameChihuahua@reddit

Pact has some comfy cotton clothes

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wisemonkey101@reddit

They do have an option for return that says fabric is icky. I don’t trust clothes through Amazon anymore.

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iammrsclean@reddit

Thank you!

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neurospicygogo70@reddit

Im at a loss as to why women cant think/see for themselves that NO ONE looks good in those things. Clothing stores tell them its fashion and they buy and wear it even thought it looks ridiculous.

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begayallday@reddit

I started wearing men’s clothes almost exclusively a few years ago and I am never going back. Being able to fit a 20 oz soda in my pocket gives me life.

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tikiwanderlust@reddit

I haven’t tried men’s pants but most of the T-shirts these days are “unisex” and they always fit me like a dress (in length) and they choke me out around the neck. I love the scoop neck or V-neck of a ladies style shirt, and also the way it slims through the middle. Men’s shirts are too boxy for me.

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begayallday@reddit

I’m shaped like a fire hydrant and I lean into it.

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cricket_bacon@reddit

Maybe I can wear my Smiths t shirt to the beach.

The Smiths t-shirt is preferred beachwear.

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SuzIsCool@reddit

That T-shirt is preferred EVERYWHERE!!!

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davisyoung@reddit

From the Morrissea collection.

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Flash234669@reddit

Trudging slowly over wet sand...

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SereneSiren78@reddit

Back to the bench where your clothes were stolen…

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MasterOfKittens3K@reddit

“Why is the ocean salty, Morrissey?”

“Did I tell you I cried?”

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Zestyprotein@reddit

I hate having to upvote you.

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tlcdogs@reddit

My husband and I went on a beach vacation. While we were driving around, he wanted to put on beach music. The only beach themed song on my iTunes was Wave of Mutilation, so I feel you. I’ll be the one wearing The Pixies t-shirt.

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squirrelgirl1106@reddit

I made a playlist when I took a car full of Gen Z kids to the beach a couple years ago. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2Ml8AeDmWEVxpH96jokvCA?si=-5WEo6q3SoONyFyKW638ew&pi=8VXwEXJYRzOKF

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cricket_bacon@reddit

he wanted to put on beach music. The only beach themed song on my iTunes was Wave of Mutilation

This is why we need to bring back the mix tape! ;-)

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root_fifth_octave@reddit

🎶Trudging slowly over wet sand…

Ok not quite the Smiths, but almost

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Character_South1196@reddit

Back to the bench, where your clothes were stolen?

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KittoosFurrEver@reddit

This is the coastal town

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SarahZona97@reddit

That they forgot to close down

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kimdawn23@reddit

Armageddon

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SarahZona97@reddit

Come Armageddon come

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Psychological_Tap187@reddit

Everyday is like sunday

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GrumpyCatStevens@reddit

There is a tide and it never goes out...

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judgeejudger@reddit

Along with The Clash tee!

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Cleopatrashouseboy@reddit

Even the Cure.

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alectos@reddit

I mean going to the seaside to take the cure was a whole thing in the 17 and 1800s…

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thelangosta@reddit

Save that one for the cloudy days!

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JonasSkywalker@reddit

Hide on the promenade… etch a postcard

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doveinabottle@reddit

How I dearly wish I was not here.

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allothernamestaken@reddit

OP is going to the coastal town that they forgot to close down

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Ericas_Evil_Eye@reddit

I always think of this… being a former goth🤣

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bebenee27@reddit

100% go goth kid on vacation

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cYQAFtkqH34&pp=0gcJCfwAo7VqN5tD

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somanydogsfarting@reddit

https://youtube.com/shorts/NO_64J3dUaQ?si=Es-8w4ziJHum59BQ

Another fun goth at the beach video (Two Shadows)

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marshallkrich@reddit

https://youtu.be/LMwt2iNgncI?si=SdeFWhaj6Hwhaq8h

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One_Purple_3242@reddit

😂😂😂😂😂

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FoundObjects4@reddit

That was hilarious 😂

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BoldBoimlerIsMyHero@reddit

You beat me to it.

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102aksea102@reddit

Thank you! That was funny!

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quietink@reddit

This is the way. My go-to camping nightshirt/the t shirt i would bring to sleep in/hang out in camp for backpacking for YEARS was a New York Dolls shirt that I bought at Virgin Megastore before they closed, lol.

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Vast_Cantaloupe1030@reddit

Came here to say this. Are you going to a coastal town that they forgot to close down?

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kevinlovechild@reddit

Shoplifters of the world....unite and take over

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Odd-Adhesiveness-656@reddit

Then Take the Skinheads Bowling

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eyeroll611@reddit

Shoplifters of the world…hand it over hand it over hand it over

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MyMutedYesterday@reddit

Sat around the pile, sat and laughed Sat and laughed and waved 'em into the air And we did it just like that When we want something, man, we don't wanna pay for it

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lsp2005@reddit

Costco is my clothing store of choice.

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tikiwanderlust@reddit

Costco and Kohls. 80% of my wardrobe was bought at those 2 places.

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Ecstatic_Bluebird_10@reddit

💯 I just replaced my (post 2020) Nordstrom t shirts with Kirkland brand and the quality is so much better! More like my old Nordstrom shirts in terms of fabric and fit. I was so surprised!

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RedditSkippy@reddit

You’ve seen the clip about buying pants at Costco, right.

https://youtu.be/76RVpr_EoV8?si=TsIHoDiAuSQc4j-B

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lsp2005@reddit

I have not seen this before. It is fantastic. I have yet to buy the Kirkland brand pants. I did get my husband a Kirkland dress shirt. It is very nice.

He’s right, I do not care what anyone thinks about my clothing. It is just unimportant to me. I have my priorities, and being comfortable is high up there. I am not dressing to impress anyone. I know my own self worth.

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AnnaF721@reddit

Bought my 23 year old son a dress shirt at Costco. The middle-aged HR lady complimented it.

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Interesting-Match-66@reddit

I have a friend who cuts her T shirts into fabulous tank tops and I think it’s an absolutely valid way to go.

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FrequentMembership76@reddit

I’m a baby genX (1980) personal stylist and I say wear what brings you joy. PS you can elevate that tee.

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Small_Tiger_1539@reddit

Try Halara. I've ordered so much from them. Everything is cute and comfortable. Also most stuff looks like it's good for all ages/sizes. Except for the crop toos lol. There's no way to avoid the crop tops.

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groovycalligrapher@reddit

I’ll see you all on that beach—wearing my Alice In Chains tee & jeans shorts! It is my most feminine beach outfit!!! Will also bring my guitar. guitar solo 😎👍 🎸🩵☀️🏖️🌊

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Genuine907@reddit

Please can we have more shirts with collars?! 👚 I don’t care if they’re preppy collars or turtlenecks (not at the 🏝️) or mock necks or Mandarin style. Just stop trying to sell me shirts with wide collars made of scrunched up elastic. I am an old lady, my shoulders and collar bones do not need to be on display. No, I do not want “cold shoulder” shirts, or, goddess forbid, off-the-shoulder shirts and dresses.

I wear scrubs for my job and I even want more scrub tops with some kind of collar. If I wear the normal V-neck scrubs, she. I bend over to get a blood pressure, the poor patient has a great look at my boobs. 😬. If I wear an under scrub, it brings my temperature up enough to make me cranky and sweaty.

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fertilemyrtleturtle@reddit

Ugh, no! Collars = sweaty neck!

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Jedijaz42@reddit

This is why I just continue to wear graphic tees and shorts most of the time. I loved the brief fashion for longer shirts but now we’re back to the crop top nonsense, and nobody wants to see this post pregnancy belly.

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Quirky_Revolution_88@reddit

I often say the shopping selection for women of our age and um... "composition" is either nursing home or town floozy. It's not just the cuts and style, it's the fabric print choices. Yuck. I've lost quite a bit of weight in the last 2 years and I haven't bought new clothes because I wouldn't be caught dead or alive in anything I see in the store.

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BerryGT@reddit

"The amount of puffy eyelet sleeves, ruffles, and poufy bits in odd places was annoying."

BUT I DON'T WANNA BE A PIRATE!

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TheLogicalParty@reddit

I get most of my clothes these days at outdoor hiking stores. They have some nice looking stuff and it’s very comfortable and not frilly or poofy.

LL Bean, Eddie Bauer, Lands End, Patagonia, REI, and sometimes Athleta.

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Justlikeheaven8717@reddit

Same here.

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candykhan@reddit

She just said she doesn't want frilly or puffy stuff. That's different from "I gave up & now I buy my clothes & camping gear at the same place."

Which I can't tell if that's one step above or below "I get my food AND my clothes at Costco."

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TheLogicalParty@reddit

Huh, what are you going on about?? Move on

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Skylark7@reddit

You just named 2/3 of my wardrobe.

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EatMorePieDrinkMore@reddit

Don’t sleep on Duluth Trading Company. Quality is excellent and their customer service is super. It hits the comfy and cute but old enough to know better spot. And their sizing is pretty inclusive.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

The Buy It For Life reddit kept recommending them for underwear. I have been underwhelmed with them.

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Blue_Dragon_1066@reddit

No Yank Tank and shirts. They add extra inches so you don't worry your gut is hanging out

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Kwyjibo68@reddit

This is why I like Ulla Popken - they have a lot of tunics.

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VespaRed@reddit

My husband’s boxers from them have not been BIFL and the cargo capris I bought… the snap will unsnap if I bend over.

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EdenSilver113@reddit

I love Duluth for some stuff. Other things such as underwear have been a complete miss for me.

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EatMorePieDrinkMore@reddit

The underwear has been a big miss for my family except me. I got a pair of their ladies boxers (not sure what they call them) on a whim. They are awesome for wearing under dresses without tights to prevent chub rub. The sweatshirts and Firehose pants are ridiculously comfy and sturdy. I have a blouse from them that I get compliments on every time I wear it.

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PenguinSpectre@reddit

There are days these days when I realize I am wearing 99 percent Duluth.

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LabRatGardener@reddit

Same. And those days are most days.

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thatguygreg@reddit

Duluth has become one of my partner's favorite places to order from. They have a short sleeve overcoat that she uses for gardening, and she doesn't even mention it has pockets because she is always talking about the built-in microfiber cloth to clean her glasses.

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purplishfluffyclouds@reddit

Not inclusive for everyone, only larger sizes, IME.

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EatMorePieDrinkMore@reddit

Interesting. I hadn’t realized that.

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Capital-Art-4046@reddit

I live in thier overalls.

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Kwyjibo68@reddit

I like Lands End for most things. Also, if you’re plus size, Ulla Popken - lots of 100% cotton for a decent price, and lots of sales.

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Girlfriendinacoma9@reddit

Columbia has some nice dresses too.

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TeaTimeBanjo@reddit

Same here!

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Individual_Note_8756@reddit

LOVE Lands End!! I buy from there all the time, rather I buy when they are having a sale, which seems almost all the time.

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KombuchaLady3@reddit

Always having a sale! It's amazing.

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Business-Jello-7603@reddit

Love their swimwear options. Supportive, bra-sized tops, and the swim shorts were an exciting find last summer. I've had some suits from them last for years!

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Arch_of_MadMuseums@reddit

Once you know your size in those brands, you can buy things used on eBay. The sizes are reliable. Reduce reuse recycle!

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ChemicallyAlteredVet@reddit

Can we please have T shirts that are actually, I don’t know , Shirts? Instead of these incredibly short square boxes that are apparently women’s shirts now.

I will say it again: I long for the return of the long V neck from Abercrombie circa 2012. I want them back.

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Jaynie2019@reddit

For arm length and length of the shirt I buy a lot men’s T-shirts. Old Navy, Gap, and discount places like Ross.

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Mental-Claim5827@reddit

I live in long sundresses in the spring summer. In the fall winter. Jeans and sweaters. Beach wear. I would definitely rock a sundress made of some kind of sporty fabric like a quick dry. Macy’s should have something. I usually stay away from the mall except for Macy’s.

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VoxyPop@reddit

Eloquii is my to-go for plus sized clothing.

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Stump303@reddit

I will join you with my Cure T shirt.

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Ok_Membership_8189@reddit

I really like Ornella Caftans

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Solid5of10@reddit

I would 100% wear the smiths tee and shorts and call it good

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Sinieya@reddit

I'm still in my Goth/Metalhead/Punk phase.

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Jankapotomous@reddit

Opened this thread looking to learn about lady persons. Slightly disappointed it’s just commentary about how everything for sale now isn’t a moo moo. puts on t shirt jogging shorts and wets down hair like 5 year old

To OP I hope that you find comfort in being you

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genxreader@reddit

And NO polyester!! Everything I do find that is appropriate and cute is made from polyester! Ugh!! 😣

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vetters@reddit

Preach!

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heldaway@reddit

The fabric used today is absolute TRASH!

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WhiskeyAndWhiskey97@reddit

Chico’s addict here. I go for the Travelers collection. They also have plenty of midi and maxi dresses.

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EdAddict@reddit

Torrid. Macys isn’t kind to the plus sized ladies.

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Mypizzasareinmotion@reddit

This post and thread make me feel better about struggling to find clothing I like. My inner teen still wants to live in concert tees and lounge shorts and my algorithm keeps suggesting awful suburban mom crap so it’s usually some even more terrible mix of the two. I have yet to find anything that makes me look like a decently put together woman. I have extremely high comfort standards though, so that rules out a lot of socially acceptable clothing choices.

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EatMorePieDrinkMore@reddit

I have been buying clothes from universal standard recently. I may be addicted. They are not cheap but well made, stylish but not trendy, and they fit well.

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Mypizzasareinmotion@reddit

I’ll check it out- I don’t mind paying a bit more for quality. I don’t need anything trendy, and as I age I realize that fit and cut does every body waaaaay more favors than any particular style or look.

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goingloopy@reddit

25-35% off site wide at Universal Standard this weekend. This shirt shirt is my new favorite thing. I have 2 in my regular size and one a size smaller. It’s very roomy. The Tee Rex and Vee Rex are incredibly soft and hold up well.

I hate their jeans and most of their pants because they’re a weird length. I do like the Stephanie pants, but they need pockets. I also hate most of their skirts because my waist is not 2” under my bust and they end up a really unflattering length.

The tees and foundation turtlenecks are wardrobe staples. The dresses are hit and miss. I do like the Sunset Linen Flounce Dress.

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PenguinSpectre@reddit

If you get their knit dress pants, be prepared to replace buttons. Also, fold them and put them on a shelf instead of hanging them on a hanger. I bought a number of them a couple of years ago when I had to work a project where I couldn’t wear jeans with my button downs. They fit great — but then the buttons started coming off, and then the fabric began stretching out and pulling where it came in contact with hangers.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I tried their jeans and for the price I was not impressed. I returned them.

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EatMorePieDrinkMore@reddit

I HATE their jeans. I like the ones from Ann Taylor Loft and the Gap.

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SciFi_Wasabi999@reddit

Same! I refuse to wear polyester, I despise restrictive denim. Everything has cut outs in places nobody wants to see on a 50 year old. But that doesn't mean I want to walk around in capris and a tshirt with an applique teddy bear. I want to look like a brilliant scientist who also owns an art gallery, lol.

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FrancinetheP@reddit

100% on this. Cannot wait for this moment in fashion to pass.

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Front-Dot5420@reddit

Agree, I feel seen.

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Aware_Focus9148@reddit

Have you seen the bubble skirts? Sorry, but if I wore it to homecoming freshman year it will never be in my closet again.

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pickleball_bender@reddit

I'm 53(f), size 14-16 depending, and I find it virtually impossible to shop anywhere. The younger sections are too young and the "women's" department is too old. I currently hate all of my clothes and find absolutely nothing I want to spend money on. Also why is everything SO FREAKING expensive???

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General_Row_8038@reddit

Find a Goodwill — clothes from every era, every label. I like Loft jeans and light cardigans and can usually find a few every time I shop. Not as cheap as they used to be, but 10.99 for a barely-worn dress with my preferred style elements is pretty good. You have to be able to eyeball your size accurately, though, as they no longer have dressing rooms (in my area anyway)

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pickleball_bender@reddit

I've scored my local Goodwill stores for years and see nothing but crap. Worn, often dirty, stained, damaged "goods". T-shirts, tops from Target and Walmart priced for almost full price. Pants are a joke. I quit going because I don't have the time to look at every. single. item. to determine if it's even worth picking up the hanger. I live in Southern California, and have no idea where everyone online lives where they're always seemingly scoring the cutest clothes! 😭😂

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General_Row_8038@reddit

Oh that sucks. I’m in MSP, and I go to some beautifully clean stores in Wayzata and Eagan (suburbs), but you have to go regularly and have a method of flipping through hangers quickly. It takes commitment. My son has had similar experiences to yours though— dirty, stained, misshapen low quality items.

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Snuffleupagus27@reddit

I was a similar size until recently and I really like DKNY, Halogen (Nordstrom brand), and Calvin Klein for good not-too-boring basics. Donna Karan is the best if you have a larger chest.

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SpokeAndMinnows@reddit

Men’s shorts and a wifebeater. I’m wearing it now, on my couch. Get the Hanes multi pack and dye them different colors.

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wombatIsAngry@reddit

I don't know if we're allowed to recommend brands, but I buy all my swim stuff from calypsa online. They have a wide size selection, and you can get more modest swim shorts and stuff.

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No-Clue4432@reddit

I went to Macy's yesterday and found one shirt that wasn't awful. This is my third shopping trip in 2 weeks. I have 3 shirts total. And 2 need to be altered abit.

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AZWildcatMom@reddit

Any ideas for affordable caftans? No way I can spend $300 on one outfit.

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wiyanna@reddit

I’m wearing whatever I like and feel good in. I’m even buying moomoos and sundresses to garden in - wore one to the salon yesterday. Bike shorts underneath and that’s that. I’m too old to try to stay “in style”.

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chickenofeathers@reddit

Go to Costco or BJ’s.

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AgileMastodon0909@reddit

I can’t believe I’m putting this out in public but I found some cute things at Talbots.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

I like Talbots. Ann Taylor and Loft outlets, too.

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padall@reddit

Loft has nice stuff, but it's a little expensive.

I also personally have a hard time finding a lot of stuff to fit me, especially for pants because I'm usually a 16. Which, that's a me issue, mostly, but I can find clothes that size in other "regular-sized" clothing stores.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

We have a Talbot's outlet near me and I have found a few things. I looknfor Soft Surroundings and Coldwater creek on ebay and there are loadsnof things at a fifth of the price.

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forever_29_ish@reddit

I read in a comment section somewhere on the innerwebz that "Soft Surroundings is like Free People for GenX women" and I turned, looked at my closet full of Soft Surroundings and Sundance, nodded, and raised a glass to that commenter.

My favorite thrift trips are when I find both SS and Sundance. I have a great cashmere sweater I found on dollar day - from Sundance, AND it still had the tags on it. Sometimes I just stare at it and hope it gets chilly enough to wear it. In June.

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AgileMastodon0909@reddit

Check Nordstrom Rack, too. They have some good deals and a better selection than Macy’s.

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Heathster249@reddit

Let’s not mention the high rise ankle length pants….. on a short woman with a short waist….. I shop online now.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

As a fellow short-waisted shorty, I'm begging for low rise to come back because they actually hit at my waist. Even mid rise just folds over and looks horrible. High rise is going right up to my boobs and that's the majority of what's for sale. I don't understand why we can't have low, mid, and high rises always available so everyone is happy.

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doodlep@reddit

Boyfriend cuts were always the best for me at 5’2” - just at the waist, slightly baggy, straighter leg. These god awful high waisted mom jeans are back now so the boyfriends are due in about 3-5 years, then I’ll stock up! Because after that, 10 years from now in 2035, we’ll be back to the 2005 low-rise buttcrack Britney Spears things.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

I'll stock up when the butt crack ones come back because that's the only time I'll have any that sit at my waist. Lol.

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jillsvag@reddit

👋hi! Another short waisted short gal here. High rise are horribly painful for me! I tried once and thought I would die. The material jams into my gut when sitting. As a girl with hips, i would love to find low rise pants.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

I found low rise jeans at American Eagle this year, but I haven't seen any pants at all. I have had some luck filtering pants by low rise on ThredUp, but they are hit or miss on the quality actually being what they say unless it is new with tags.

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_left_of_center@reddit

Thank you! I have the opposite problem as a super tall lady. Low rise often borders on obscene. Why can’t we have all types available for all sizes??

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fumbs@reddit

I am a tall woman with a long torso and large chest. I also have issues with length but won't buy online because they lie about dimensions.

I actually do all my shopping at Macy's and feel like I'm a million years old.

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Vioralarama@reddit

Someone already mentioned Universal Standard so you might want to look into them. Wait! Before you start shopping they have a promo where you can get a free piece but only for first timers. They also had another first timer deal that I took advantage of which was two pieces at a reduced price or something. It's how I learned that US is not for me. But it might be for you: I got jeans and they are long; I could cut like 6 inches off and they'd still be too long, I think. And the shirt is clingy in all the wrong places on me. But I'm short and hourglass, but overweight. It was almost tunic length though.

It may not be the same deal but I'm sure they're running some promo like that. Definitely easier to try them out that way. I just have in my brain that US is for tall people, lol.

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Teutofone@reddit

Universal Standard is great, but as a tall, long-torso person, I find you have to watch the lengths of their tops and jackets very carefully. I also cannot wear their regular inseam trousers or jeans unless I want a cropped look. Their long inseam is the minimum if I want a full length look.

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Vioralarama@reddit

Wow. I wonder why the jeans I got were so long. i probably ordered tall by mistake or something.

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Significant_Ruin4870@reddit

I'd shop online if it weren't such a colossal hassle. Nothing I've ordered on line has ever fit. And then it has to be shipped back. I once ordered a size medium 100% cotton dress. They shipped a size 0 polyester dress. Told me I had to ship it to China for a partial refund.

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AnUnexpectedUnicorn@reddit

Dispute the charge with your credit card company. I've had 2 orders that said they were cotton, made in America, etc, what i got was flimsy acrylic definitely not made in USA. I got the same offer - partial refund or ship it to Dubai at my expense. I contacted my credit card company (Citibank), explained the situation, and I got my money back, both times.

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padall@reddit

I know I'm (we're all?) biased, but I really feel like clothes nowadays are terrible. They don't even look good on 20 year olds.

I used to LOVE shopping in the nineties and even early aughts. There were so many cute clothes that were actually flattering. Even up until about 5-10 years ago, I was pretty satisfied with what was out there. But now, I just don't know where to shop. I have plenty of clothes, but I wear way more super casual clothes (sweats, leggings, basic t shirts) than I used to . Luckily, I WFH 50% of the time, but if I needed more work clothes, I know I'd be frustrated.

I have had luck with Eddie Bauer, which someone mentioned above.

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No_thanks_sam@reddit

I use stitchfix and let someone else pick out clothes for me. They’re usually pretty spot on, especially for work clothes.

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kazoogrrl@reddit

I'm an aging goth but on the low key side of things. For summer it's currently tanks, tshirts, linen or denim shorts, an occasional caftan, high rise pleated linen pants, wide leg cotton gauze pants, oversized light cotton button downs, oversized loose cotton overalls. Adidas sneakers, though I'm pondering a pair of chunky oxfords. Kind of crunchy goth hobbit, as I'm short and thick, though I've been hitting the gym so I'm cool with showing my arms.

I love to look at street style IG accounts from Asia, especially Japan. There is a certain aesthetic I like, simple, natural fabrics, interesting drape, good accent pieces, sometimes kind of artsy. I have no idea how to dress like this myself, or where to get the clothes, but I can dream.

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igfootba@reddit

Where do you find your linen pants? I can't seem to find any that don't drag the floor or look like Hammer pants on my short/thick self.

I live in the desert, and it's hard to dress myself for the heat. I'm mainly doing tshirts and long skirts. I did find a great pair of wide legged linen goth-ish pants from Disturbia, though. Very comfortable and highly recommended. A lot of their dresses are also good quality, not frumpy, and don't make me feel like I'm a middle aged lady wearing teenager's clothing.

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kazoogrrl@reddit

I have a couple of pairs from Old Navy, they are high waisted and pleated and I just don't care if they make me look even shorter. I do have to belt them or the linen stretches and they'll creep down and drag. I wore them a few weeks ago with a fitted cropped T-shirt. If I find anything I really like that's too long I'll get them tailored, it's not too expensive.

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areyouthrough@reddit

I’m gonna need some names for those ig accounts, if you’d care to share a couple.

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kazoogrrl@reddit

The only ones I can dig out of my IG are one that does Harajuku street shots (totally wild , not what I'd wear at all) and this one that's actually Korean, I love the pictures of older folks. If I remember the names of any of the others I'll add them.

IG: mut_jpg

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thatpunkyrat@reddit

I'm a Gen Z woman, but Old Navy has such cute clothes and really good sales! My mom and I love shopping there.

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Spank_Cakes@reddit

I still get my jeans from ON since they have a decent variety of styles. But the barrel jeans?! WTF. I stick with straight leg or boot cut.

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melatonia@reddit

Unfortunately Old Navy clothes are so disposable they're practically flushable.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

The quality has gone down significantly since the late 90s early 2000s. I still get things from them now and then but not like I once did.

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JessaRose720@reddit

I have big boobs and will only wear linen, cotton, and select man made fabrics as long as they breathe and float. I mostly wear dresses from Universal Standard, jcrew, Lintico, Gap, and the occasional Old Navy.

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justjessb1975@reddit

I shop with Shein. Bigger here, too. They actually have cute and black! stuff for plus sized women that don't have gaudy floral prints.

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Most_Routine2325@reddit

Stay out of the mall and go thrifting instead? I've had a lot of luck in consignment/2nd-hand stores.

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her-royal-blueness@reddit

Why have I never had a Smiths shirt?

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ToneSenior7156@reddit

The big bib collars, puffy sleeves crack me up. I call that look “sexy pilgrim” - I love cottage core but not that much.

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doodlep@reddit

My job attire is very informal (teacher) so I rarely dress shop. I went to Marshall’s to find a new dress for a graduation and it was all that Little House on the Prairie crap. Soooo much fabric!

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Worldly-Wedding-7305@reddit

Cottagecore if it's vintage. Big Nah on modern from me.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

Someone I work with who is in her 30s has worn what looks like a prison dress from the old days.

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DomeOverManhattan@reddit

You're gonna bury me in the t-shirts and jeans I've been wearing since I was five. Sure, they'll be a bit tight by then, but ...

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polyester_bride@reddit

To me, everything in stores looks so juvenile and too bright. I like a nice pink, but I don't need a magenta shirt, shorts, pants, skirt, etc. I've found I pretty much wear a 'uniform' of dark jeans or black pants - cropped in the summer - and a solid color shirt. A band tee on the weekend. If it's a beach thing, I'm usually under an umbrella. :)

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Dr_Overundereducated@reddit

I can’t handle what’s going on with women’s fashion at the moment. I’ve given in to the high rise jeans as they actually flatter my what-the-hell-happened bod, but why is everything crop top? I don’t dig it.

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efreeme@reddit

Just wear your stirrup pants, Reeboks, and a Motley Crue t shirt with a knot tied in it.. add a full can of aquanet and your all set..

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Mental-Artist-6157@reddit

I am bringing back the knotteded tee, I pair it with flared yoga pants and fancy sneakers. I'm short waisted as hell but the crop tops are trash on me too. Bonus points when the shirt has a "I exist purely out of spite" logo.

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efreeme@reddit

pfft..... whatever....Pic's or it didn't happen..

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Mental-Artist-6157@reddit

🤣

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jillsvag@reddit

Stirrups! Ha!

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Proud__Apostate@reddit

I’ve always just worn t-shirts & shorts to the beach. Won’t ever change. I’ve never cared what people thought when I’m at the beach. It’s vacation time! Do what you want.

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Recent_Row2023@reddit

I hear you. I am overweight and sensitive to fabrics that are not cotton/linen. Not sure what your style is, but Pact (online) has cute, simple clothes that feel awesome in summer and fit nicely in larger sizes. Lots of linen pants, tops and dresses that are cute and super comfy -- and no poufy bits.

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robot_pirate@reddit

Also, when my Grandma was past a certain age, if she found an article of clothing or a pair of shoes she thought was stylish and comfortable - she bought one in every color they had. I'm close to there. Especially with pants.

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Living_Road_269@reddit

I’m GenX and wear whatever the fuck I want that feels comfortable. 😂

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genx_horsegirl@reddit

At the pool yesterday in cut-off sweats and a Ministry tee.

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Not_Half@reddit

Hear hear! 👏 (fellow GenXer).

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mettarific@reddit

So much poof. Everyone looks like a toddler.

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robot_pirate@reddit

Honestly rho, it's kind of depressing to see absolutely no one turn out its all athleisure, everywhere, all the time. At least our generation cared to keep up and on trend. Most these days look like dystopian refugees. I said what I said...

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robot_pirate@reddit

NOT every top should be cropped Geezuz.

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BarRegular2684@reddit

I lost a bunch of weight and had to do some last minute clothes shopping for a funeral last week. I had to go to four different stores to find a basic black pantsuit. Four. Found plenty of neon crop top ensembles. I survived the eighties once. Never again.

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Caninetrainer@reddit

I buy $15 No Nonsense Denim Jeggings off Amazon and I love them. In capri style or reg length. And I used to work at Saks and Dior. Done with all that for years.

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MrsQute@reddit

I would like short sleeved shirts that aren't basically little cap sleeve flutters. Finding something that actually goes half way to my elbows (or TO my elbows) is getting harder and harder.

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Cmorethecat@reddit

I am short and high waisted. I am begging for a return to mid rise jeans and pants and no more puffy sleeves. Enough already!

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MrsQute@reddit

No shit! I'm 5'2" on a warm day and from waist to floor is 3 feet. High waisted pants look ridiculous on me unless I wear them with a tunic top to hide the fact that they are high-rise.

Not to mention I don't they look great on anyone with a mom pooch unless they're designed to flatten and even then - ugh.

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Cmorethecat@reddit

Frankly I don't think they look very good on anyone. Especially from behind.

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Emergency-Crab-7455@reddit

71......today's outfit: beat up comfy jeans & a "Team Caffine" t-shirt from Amer's Mediterranean Deli (Ann Arbor, MI). If I decide to "go out"...I'll wear a nicer t-shirt (Ray Troll's " The Perils of Nude Fly Fishing"). Along with my black baseball cap with an embroidered "flaming 8-ball".

About as "put together" as I get anymore lol.

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gohome2020youredrunk@reddit

Please, please let me get what I want, this time.

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BootyMcSqueak@reddit

I was so over the crop tops trend. And I think your Smiths T shirt with a flowy linen maxi skirt would be perfect beach attire.

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Not_Half@reddit

I live in t-shirts and maxi skirts these days (49yo). Could possibly be because I can't be bothered to shave my legs.😬😏

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BootyMcSqueak@reddit

Same, girl! Jeans and t shirts for me!

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No_Owl_250@reddit

It drives me crazy too. My gosh can we have normal clothes.

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KikiDaisy@reddit

I wanted a couple casual dresses for an upcoming family event. I’m not considered overweight but I hate form fitted clothes but also do t want to look frumpy. I had the best luck at Chicos and J. Jill. Being able to research online but also shop in store was nice. (I’ll go back to shopping mostly second hand now.)

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EdgeCityRed@reddit

Look for those brands on eBay/secondhand. You'll have great luck.

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BluebirdLimp4295@reddit

I'm doing full-on muumuus and kaftans! They are GLORIOUS! My kids love that they can find my short ass in a crowd based off of colors of the muu or reactions from the people around me. I am joyful and fuckless, now to find these bastards with pockets!

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wild-hectare@reddit

"Trudging slow over wet sand
Back to the bench, where your clothes were stolen"

genx manperson here...and I came to both endorse The Smiths t-shirt and also agree with the display of oddities at the mall. wife & I went for the 1st time in forever (new suit for a funeral...something we are experiencing more frequently) and neither of us could understand what we were looking at

i'm happy to see the resurgence of some 80s influenced styles, but I have no idea where the current trends are coming from or who they are for. Strangely, our kids (34F/32M) are just as confused

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PathOfTime__01@reddit

Some of the dresses I see on sale for adult women at the moment remind me of dresses I had as an 8 year old in 1983 🤔🙄

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Sunribbon@reddit

Yes! Went dress shopping yesterday and couldn't find a thing.

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Marylovesnasenjis@reddit

This is why I knit my own clothes. In the summer I use cotton/linen blend yarns to make tops. I can make them in any color and can find awesome patterns.

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Unexpectedly99@reddit

I recently went shopping for two graduations, the selection was an abysmal blend of Little House on the meth Prairie and Anne of Green Gables on shrooms.

I pulled out an old black funeral dress and used that for both graduations.

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Joan_Smallberries@reddit

I had to find a dress for a memorial service. Nothing in my closet fit. I found those dresses and a bunch that looked like 70s floral prints on acid and none of them were cut for the perimenopausal body. I finally found a dress on Boden that I liked. It’s worth checking out.

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Unexpectedly99@reddit

Thank you, I'll check out Boden. I'm really hating the current styles right now.

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lilesj130@reddit

Let me introduce you to the world of skorts! They look fancy but you have shorts on so you can be comfy & avoid chub rub.

Add a T-shirt & flannel and you'll feel like high school again. Throw on a nice shirt & you're set for a good restaurant.

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lilesj130@reddit

It's possible I may have a problem...

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Trees_are_cool_@reddit

Remember those stupid shoulder pads?

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Loisgrand6@reddit

I still like a padded blouse or blazer.

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792bookcellar@reddit

I buy most of my clothes at thrift stores. Chico’s jeans, linen tops/skirts/dresses/pants, life is good tees and any Duluth, Eddie Bauer, REI, etc I can find. I mostly wear Birkenstocks so I’m a pretty plain dresser.

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lucidsuperfruit@reddit

You sound like me. I recently set out to buy some shorts and ended up buying men's shorts because all the women's were super short and swingy. Stores don't give alternatives if you're not into the ruffle tops and swingy short shorts. I'm just waiting for this trend to pass.

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2boredtocare@reddit

I stand by the Gap all these years later. They don't let me down with their jeans, dresses, or sweaters.

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Breadtopian@reddit

I've been doing most of my shopping on ThredUp.

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Over-Director-4986@reddit

If you want, you can borrow my joy division t-shirt for the beach?

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heldaway@reddit

I’ve moved over to my comfy, cool-girl era and started dressing for me. I maybe own 3 pairs of jeans and the rest of my pants are all softer, looser and more comfy. Stovepipe cords, overalls, coveralls, khaki, 100% cotton wide leg pants… hoodies, oversized graphic/band tees and loose cardigans. I love colorful sneakers and I wear my hair natural. I buy what I love whether in style or not and usually pre-owned or vintage. I can’t do the cropped tops and high waisted pants look absurd on me. I’ll incorporate a trendy piece here and there but I don’t generally shop off the rack much.

I’ve always been into fashion though and I’m getting a major kick out of seeing everything I used to wear come back into style. And trying out styles I was too afraid to try when younger and more worried about what everyone thought of me.

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Artsygal452017@reddit

All my t-shirts are from Life Is Good. Been a while since I got any so hopefully the quality hasn't gone down, but I live in them. Other than that, I have no idea what to wear. Most of my clothes are at least 15 years old and everything new sucks now! I need some new business casual clothes and I can't find anything. Thankfully, we are more on the casual side and at least for pants I can wear jeans. But the ones I have make me look extra frumpy lol

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Artsygal452017@reddit

AND I just went to their site for the first time in a couple years and they have other types of clothing now? Has anyone tried anything from there other than their t-shirts?

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miniwhoppers@reddit

I like Garnet Hill, Quince, and some other catalogue options. They have nice quality clothing that is more classic.

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groundhogcow@reddit

I had to tell my wife, you have a old person's body. Shop at the old people store.

The anchors have the stuff that looks good on us. We just never shopped them when we were young. Now that we are old a lot of anchor stores are gone and the mall is in shambles. It's still the best option if you can find one that wasn't liquidated and didn't sell out.

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penguinwasteland1414@reddit

Try tommy Bahama. Not sure about their sizes, but they have really cute, more age appropriate summer gear.

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our_girl_in_dubai@reddit

It’s this or crop tops. Everything is cropped!

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squee_bastard@reddit

I’m only 5’6 but I’ve started buying Tall sizes for tops at The Gap because everything there fits me nowadays to hit at the waist instead of the hip and makes me look boxy. I can’t even imagine what tall women must deal with because the two extra inches probably doesn’t mean much for anyone that’s over 6 feet tall.

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Baseballmom2014@reddit

Honestly, I'm shopping primarily at Lands End and Old Navy. I WFH four days a week so only need business-y clothes for one day a week. I get dress shirts from Lands End and trousers and active wear at Old Navy.

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FlippingPossum@reddit

I'm in perimenopause and live in cotton tank tops from Lidl most days. Tanks tops and flowy bottoms. In the winter, tank tops, jeans, and a flannel. Be comfy. 😂

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GypsyKaz1@reddit

Current fashion sucks, period. Normally I don't get that way as every generation has their Fashion Don'ts era, but this is ridiculous. Very few people of any age look good in this stuff. I pray every day for the ruffle and cottage core era to die.

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Cool-Strategy1659@reddit

Right there with you. Shirts that show your belly? Not even.

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Tardislass@reddit

Chicos-if they are still around.

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chillinwithabeer29@reddit

Can we first discuss the most GenX first few words of this post ? ‘I ducked into the mall..’? 😊

Best of luck with your shopping. My wife says same things as you about what’s out there

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PinkOutLoud@reddit

Thrift stores are a gold mine. ✌️

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Amethyst-M2025@reddit

I go to One Stop Plus and order online. The local stores don’t have much for me. If I go to Torrid, half of it is clearly meant for younger women. Lane Bryant is the only place locally where I can really find stuff.

Sure, Kohls will have a few basics like socks and underwear, maybe a T-shirt if you’re looking for that. Depends on sizing though, and mine must be the most popular because it’s usually sold out.

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Sherry0406@reddit

I recently went shopping for a dress to wear to my daughter's graduation. It was slim pickins. I went to the mall too. I went to JCPenney and Macy's. The dresses mostly had hideous patterns. And if they didn't, then they had plunging necklines, or they were too short, or the hemline wasn't straight across. It would dip in a weird way. Plus they were expensive. Who wants to spend so much money on ugly dresses. I went to Ross and finally found a dress that looked o.k.

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Klutzy_Poetry_9430@reddit

The bright colors, the polka dots, the giant bows, the ruffles all indicate they want us to dress ourselves as clowns. Hard pass. I’d rather go naked.

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stilllikespatchouli@reddit

You are exactly right!! The modern clown look. Also goes with the fake lips 💋 too

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dj_juliamarie@reddit

My work fit of choice is fabletics yoga pants and tshirts these days (luckily I work as a farmer outside and don’t have to trend) but I feel you. I have 5 LBDs for all occasions but can’t ever find just regular clothes that are cute and fit. Even at a size 8 now, it’s all teen clothes.

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bird9066@reddit

14 years ago I ago multiple organs transplanted. I wore moo moos because fuck how I look when I'm that miserable.

Might be heading in that direction again. I honestly wear a lot of men's clothes. The jeans fit better and the shirts last longer.

But the men's wear I see in stores right now is a lot of Hawaiian shirts meets Miami vice.

It's rough out there for us middle aged fat ladies. And I'm not that picky.

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Ancient-Text9990@reddit

I was in Ocean City, Maryland and they had a Roper’s Parade on the Boardwalk. It was fun!

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I grew up going there. We are going to Rehoboth this time.

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Embarrassed-Hat7218@reddit

I really can't think of a place I'd not wear a Smiths t-shirt if I had one. I wear my Talking Heads and B-52s shirts to church most weeks 🤷

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Bright_Pomelo_8561@reddit

I have to say that I don’t like clothes in general these days the big the baggy it’s just not my style. I’m a more tailored to look, but that is hard to find. I also don’t enjoy shopping online as even though I live in a capital city the only thing we have left other than boutiques is Dillards. Don’t get me wrong I like Dillards, but I wish that wasn’t my only choice to go try on clothes, other than incredibly pricey boutiques because the boutiques equal shopping at Saks Fifth Avenue type pricing.

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5ilvrtongue@reddit

Women within has fabulously comfortable cotton clothes.

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JaBe68@reddit

Sitting here in my Doors t-shirt understanding exactly how you feel

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londongas@reddit

Go for atheleisure or something Scandinavian.

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MungoJennie@reddit

I’m still wearing the same basic things I’ve worn since I graduated from college (in some cases literally.) When you find a look that works for you, I say stick with it.

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Particular-Safe-5557@reddit

I love Pact, and Toad and Co dresses.

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clemdane@reddit

I almost never shop in person. I like to buy online. Some of my favorite beachwear is made by Coolibar where the fabric has UPF 50 protection.

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Vast_Cantaloupe1030@reddit

I hate the ruffles!!!!

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Reasonable-Mirror-15@reddit

I'm a chunky lady myself. I don't shop in stores anymore. I shop online at Bloomchic and Cider. Bloomchic is my go to for classic and work pieces. Cider mostly has younger looking stuff but I've found really cute, quirky tees and sweaters on there. You have to know your measurements to shop online successfully.

I occasionally do a Stitch fix box. My main problem with them is I get sent a lot of black and navy choices. I'm a color fanatic and want bright, vibrant colors because they make me happy.

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biffieteria@reddit

Plus size color fanatic here too! I love being able to find neon pieces over the past few years 💕 Will check out Bloomchic and Cider.

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you-ruin-everything@reddit

I just ordered a Cure Tshirt for summer. Perimenopause weight gain has made my boobs huge (along with the rest of me) and I don’t need puffy sleeves or anything else that adds bulk, as pretty as those dresses and tops are. You have to be fairly tall and slender for those styles to look nice, and unfortunately I’m neither.

I just want to be comfortable and not overly exposed or overly sweaty.

I’ve been wearing a lot of North Face Aphrodite capris in summer, because they’re fairly stretchy and breathable.

Considering the tackiest caftan I can find, to add some spice to my wardrobe.

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bethanyjane77@reddit

1930-40's style beach pajama's look so glam! Otherwise Smiths T-shirt all the way. You'll feel like you, that's the most important thing.

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designsbyintegra@reddit

I’m so thankful that I can sew my clothes. The styles today are just not something I could ever pull off, or want to. My chunky ass does not need any extra puffy anything. Plus I’m really short and high waisted.

My style is best described as a hybrid of goth, grunge and hippie. Definitely not finding that off the rack in a plus size.

Also if pants have a real waistband and not a stretchy waistband I’m all set.

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Sweaty-Bed6653@reddit

I like LOFT and Old Navy (I’ve gotten some cute maxi shirts there this summer). But I can’t find shorts or jeans for the life of me bc everything is high waist. No thanks. I like Kut from the Kloth for jeans, and I just got a really cute pair of pants from a Short Style box. The brand is Tribal. I love Title 9 but don’t want to deal with refunds and exchanges there.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

Most of my clothes are from Loft, but I can't wear their jeans either. I finally found some lower waist jeans at American Eagle that I love!

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Traditional_Fan_2655@reddit

Fashion designers have long ago decided anyone over size 4 should wear ugly floral curtain looking patterns or something makes them look a good 10x larger than they are.

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RedditSkippy@reddit

I get most of my clothing at either Lands’ End or JJill.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I used to thrift shop but it has gotten high. My swimsuit is Lands End and so are many of my summer dresses. I have gotten some good stuff on ebay too.

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Plantyplantandpups@reddit

I used to get a lot from Thredup, but their prices have gone up so much for the good stuff that it's usually cheaper to buy new when brands are having a sale.

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Responsible-Fox1146@reddit

JJill fan here too. Check out Quince. Their return policy is phenomenal and easy to deal with if you need it while figuring out your sizing. Everything I’ve tried (cashmere and leather primarily) has been great.

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WitchyWoo7@reddit

JJill fan as well. Their Wearever line has been great for work and travel.

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RedditSkippy@reddit

I’ve seen their advertising. I will—thanks!

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diente_de_leon@reddit

I got so many things from ThredUP. You have to read carefully and look closely at the photos but I have scored lots of comfortable, nice looking clothes from them. Set your sizes in the search feature and you have a better chance of getting things in your correct size. It still shows me things that are too small, but for the most part I come up with a pretty good selection and I've gotten things like a Ralph Lauren linen shirt for way underneath retail.

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OmChi123456@reddit

Girl, I've been wearing wearing clothes like I've been on a trek for longer than I can remember.

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KittoosFurrEver@reddit

You kind of have to rock the Smiths t-shirt now. Come on, represent!

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Rainbow_alchemy@reddit

I discovered this summer that apparently I love T-shirt dresses. The fabric is comfy, and I don’t have to wear pants! I also wear the me undies bras that are basically useless for flattery but are so comfy I forget I’m wearing them.

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Loud-Mans-Lover@reddit

I just bought five really big, bright neon t-shirts

I'm ready for summer

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No_Owl_7380@reddit

Lands End has great basics every season and their swimwear is the best, J. Jill always has nice summer and resort wear, Talbots generally has some good dresses and more tailored separates. All three are size inclusive. J. Jill has everything classified as regular size but this includes 1x-4x.

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Least-Bet8439@reddit

just had this conversation with my sisters we feel there are only two options - both expensive and a commitment - but both can really solve this problem.

travel to Vietnam - i like to head to Hoi An, and spend a week getting a custom wardrobe made. a google search will lead you to the right tailors, but it is so worth it. bring things from your closet that you want to have made - i now have 4 pairs of my favorite Chloe pants and and entire travel water e etc Also get shoes made at the same time - more than you think you want.
find a local tailor and have them customize a wardrobe for you as above just no fun travel.

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BoldBoimlerIsMyHero@reddit

I get macys work clothes and workout bottoms. I get my workout and casual tops from Amazon. There’s a particular brand I know looks good on me.

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Hot-Ad930@reddit

Preach. My favorite place to shop now is Bloomchic

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ophymirage@reddit

Can you talk a little about their quality and materials? I have been desperately seeking an eshakti replacement since they went bankrupt (or whatever’s going on). Bloomchic has dresses that look super cute in an FB popup ad, but how do they wear/feel/hold up?

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Reasonable-Mirror-15@reddit

I buy a lot from Bloomchic and I have never had a problem with the quality. They are having a summer sale now so I just got 7 pieces for $130 to add to my summer wardrobe. I've never had to return anything because of poor quality.

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Hot-Ad930@reddit

I'm not familiar with eshakti so I can't compare them, but I've been happy with the quality and materials. I only discovered them about a year ago so I haven't had anything from there for a super long time. But everything seems to wash and wear well. Their dresses are my favorite - they're flattering and I get lots of compliments. I've also bought some shirts and blouses. I did have a pair of jeans (that I wore a LOT) get a hole in the crotch but I've had that happen with Old Navy jeans too. Their returns are really easy so you don't have a ton to lose by giving them a shot

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I have read mixed reviews about the quality. The stuff on the ads looks cute.

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Hot-Ad930@reddit

I haven't had any issues with the quality, for the price. I'd say it's similar to what you'd get at Target or Old Navy. I really like their dresses and get lots of complimentson them. And returns are easy - you just bring it to the shipping area at Staples and they pack it up for you for free (I think there's other options too)

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Bratbabylestrange@reddit

I would wear my Punk in Drublic short, personally. Maybe Flogging Molly for dinner. I wear jeans or shorts and T-shirts just about every day of my life, and I'm too old to give a flying fuck what anybody thinks about it. And I wasn't a ruffle girl even in the third grade.

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sheemonz@reddit

The Uniform - Jeans and a black t-shirt. Also acceptable - light colored shorts w black tee. Or black shorts w navy tee. Come fall bust out the black pants and navy tops. I find something I like, I buy 7.

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amyhenderson_@reddit

Wardrobe twin! I occasionally wear charcoal too!

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stay_doppio@reddit

Ok, so I resisted watching any of the million components of this franchise for the longest time - but I do think Joanna Gaines possesses the Gen-X grownup wardrobe of my dreams - plaid shirts and all

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mldyfox@reddit

I feel ya, OP. I'm also slightly less than 5 feet tall. So not only do I look ridiculous in the stuff you described because it reads "trying to hard to be young", but ALSO gives the Bugs Bunny in ARMY fatigues vibe. Very few places even have petite clothes and those that do have those Peter Pan collars.

Plus, petite clothing is for ladies who are 5 feet 2 inches or less. So tell me why as the sizes get wider, they also get longer! Ugh, so annoying.

I'll be here in my jeans and plain t-shirts, Sketchers(tm) sneakers and scarves to fancy up the shirt for the office. Maybe a t-shirt dress on occasion.

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UmSomeonesInHere@reddit

Land’s End and Cupshe for swimsuits. Quince for cute basic stuff. Kut for Kloth and Lucky for jeans - Nordstrom Rack and Amazon sell them. REI, Backcountry, and Duluth for nice functional clothes that are good for summer or multipurpose.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

I have about 3 pairs of poorly fitting jeans because I have given up.

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UmSomeonesInHere@reddit

It’s best if you can try them on in store. I had a friend in the 90’s who worked at Nordstrom explain how jeans are cut in a huge stack of fabric. You need to try on at least 3 sizes of the exact same pair. They’ll all fit differently because the cut of fabric will be off by mm. Pick the best fit. Amazon has cute pants too, sometimes. Halara, Dickies.

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JSBT89@reddit

American Eagle. Only jeans I can consistently wear

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LimeGreenTangerine97@reddit

I’ve been hitting Depop and Poshmark for lightly loved Free People and Anthropologie to go with my boho goth lounge lizard style

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KatanaCW@reddit

If you have one near you, Boscovs is my go to for in person shopping. And Lands End for online.

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aduirne@reddit (OP)

We do and I got there. It is God's waiting room, but I have lucked out on some things. It is difficult for me as a tall person who is also a size 18w. You can be tall, you can be fat, but apparently yoy can't be both.

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KatanaCW@reddit

Lol. Yeah a lot of the stuff I think I could see my grandmother in if she were still alive, but I do find some decent tops and the occassional dress. But I'm an average height person who wears about the same size as you.

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Present-Two-98@reddit

I have a split personality. I'm all business caus in my work life, pretty conservative. I get home and it's band tshirts, Harley tshirts, jeans or jean shorts or a sun dress (think minimal and flowy). I am a closet hippie in heart.

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AnUnexpectedUnicorn@reddit

My new favorite brand is Democracy. There's usually a fair amount of it at TJMaxx and Nordstrom Off the Rack (if you have those nearby). I'm in my kind of hippie phase - jeans with rolled-up cuffs, flowy shirts, strappy sandals, etc. Their jeans have a feature that helps hide the tummy without feeling cut in half.

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ThinkLikeAMim@reddit

I second Democracy jeans. The fit is perfect and I love the tummy hider lol!

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Randomiscool-31@reddit

I swear H&M looks like a late 80s early 90s store! Your T-shirt will be coveted when you wear it!

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Sorcha9@reddit

I shop Nordstrom, Macy’s, Sak’s, White House Black Market. I found some really nice, classic looking apparel at Nordstrom. I was shocked. So I stocked up. I hate trendy clothes

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happycj@reddit

My wife is in the same position, but has found some help at Torrid and Lane Bryant. Shes an old hippie type who isn’t into fancy stuff, and just wants to be comfortable, but not frumpy.

We just browsed Torrid together and she’s going to go there tomorrow to get some stuff for a big event we are going to this weekend.

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TypeNo2194@reddit

Overalls, cutoffs and acid washed denim is back in style. I work at Old Navy and the amount of overalls I unpacked this morning was a bit much. And side note…..we were putting Halloween shirts out today. It’s not even July!!

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ChaosTheoryGirl@reddit

Seriously what happened to clothing? They used to have cute options. I wear tee shirts and jeans.

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SugarsBoogers@reddit

I’ve gotten some excellent caftans this year specifically for a beach trip. DM me if you want links!

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Gobucks21911@reddit

The puffy ruffle sleeves make me look like a linebacker with my broad shoulders!

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Inevitable_Bit_1203@reddit

I tried a couple of the style boxes where they send you a box of stuff, you try it all on at home, then send back what you don’t want. The first few boxes were hit and miss, but the more I got them the better the stylist understood the assignment. Now if I get one I love most if not all of the items that I get. I tried a few companies off and on but stuck with Stitch Fix. It’s becoming really repetitive now though, so it’s time for me to switch to another company I think.

When I started with them, I was a size 18-20 (2x) so definitely fluffy. I’m now a size 14 (L) so still not skinny, but getting the boxes made it easier to figure out what sizes I needed as I lost weight and they were consistent with sending stuff that fit my style too.

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Responsible-Coffee1@reddit

I am just begging for some non t-shirt options without flutter sleeves.

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MCTDive252@reddit

I’ve also been buying clothing at outdoor & athletic stores: LLBean, REI, Title Nine, etc.

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JellyfishWoman@reddit

Yeah fashion is changing and what we think looks horrible hasn't changed. I wanted some simple summer dresses and everything I could find was either floor length, had princess sleeves or both. I found some normal tank top style sun dresses on Amazon.

I hate the way modern fashion looks but even more I hate the popular color palette. So much beige, orange, and avocado green. It's like the worst part of the 70's home decor colors and patterns on clothes.

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PahzTakesPhotos@reddit

Torrid has only disappointed me once- that was when a dress that I love didn't have pockets. I don't wear it when I go out of the house though, because NO DANG POCKETS.

But the swimsuit section looks promising. I know they have physical stores if you prefer that, I've only used the website.

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