ULPT: I've been manipulated with sex, is ignoring the tactic?

Posted by spkak@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 30 comments

Basically, i (M35) have been manipulated, from F32, with sex to do things that i dont want to (nothing illegal).

How to counter that kind of manipulation except not to show interest?

That is not the person i am in formal love relationship with, but it is the person i wanna continue to hang out, hook up and do business.

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Norsetalgia@reddit

No one is “manipulating” you. You’re choosing to do things with sex as a motivator. This is ridiculous.

Also, what unethical solution are you hoping to find here? It sounds more like you’re trying to be the manipulative one here.

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SanguinPanguin@reddit

Keep that same energy when the genders are reversed lmao

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You know, I personally think getting a little therapy would be a better approach at dealing with your issues than projecting your bitterness onto random strangers online, but to each their own. Get well soon, homie!

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Clownheadwhale@reddit

I lately learned a new term that applies here. PNC, Post Nut Clarity.

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AccomplishedIgit@reddit

So don’t have sex with them lmao. What kind of manipulation?? Like are they blackmailing you?

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rabid_cheese_enjoyer@reddit

I misread it at first too. he wants to keep having sex with her. that's why he's doing stuff he doesn't want to do. not sure if it's "change the oil in my car and I will have sex with you" or if it's like "you have to shower with soap before I will have sex with you" could be anything

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mister-ferguson@reddit

I think you need to be more specific.

Like she wants foreplay and you don't want it? She manipulated you into cunnilingus? Or like she likes pegging and got you drunk?

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eigs2@reddit

Maybe she is a findom.

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yaketyslacks@reddit

you're how old? grow the fuck up

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fouldspasta@reddit

What are you talking about? Are you being coerced, which is a crime, or is she expecting you to buy her dinner first?

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borbor8@reddit

Wait, so you’re cheating with her on someone else and you’re whining about being manipulated?

Can we set some rules for this sub that exclude these types of immature, stupid posts that have no interest in or relation to the field of emotional intelligence and are just looking to take advantage of those who do? Because it feels pretty manipulative.

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mokicoo@reddit

So “not in a love relationship”? Just wanna “hang, hook up, and do business”? She’s not manipulating you. She’s letting you know her terms, as you hopefully have let her know yours.

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New-IncognitoWindow@reddit

Give her my number

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mister-ferguson@reddit

What's your number?

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hodorhaize@reddit

505-503-4455

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Invika17@reddit

It sounds transactional, you just need to decide who is getting more benefit

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GooseGosselin@reddit

Fake your orgasms.

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fcukumicrosoft@reddit

Do you really think that she's really into having sex with you for any other reason because you do things for her?

Read Lysistrata. Men are just too easy.

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bignuts3000@reddit

You can’t have it all. You need to sit her down and tell her what you don’t like or stop hooking up with her. Communicate dude.

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Cuneus-Maximus@reddit

East, just stop doing things you don't want to do.