Father's day, is it awkward for anyone else?

Posted by Fickle_Hope2574@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 281 comments

So my dad is 71, the age where "what do you want" is met with "I don't know". He's into football but his season pass is sorted. He's diabetic so chocolate/sweets are out, he has slippers/pjs, he has a kindle. So what on earth do you buy such a awkward bugger?

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FoxedforLife@reddit

I'm 66. Really, if I don't have something by this age, I've got used to doing without it. And I certainly don't want ornaments which I'll just have to dust. Wouldn't say no to being taken out for a meal and a few pints though.

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Educational_Skirt_81@reddit

Not tempted by Only Fools and Horses memorabilia, a Homer Simpson t-shirt, or a book and dvd combo of Muhammad Ali?

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MissKatbow@reddit

How could you forget socks?

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secretvictorian@reddit

Calm down please. Its not Christmas.

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umognog@reddit

If it was Christmas, it would include a hot sauce challenge set.

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secretvictorian@reddit

Lol precisely.

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Imfreeeee@reddit

I purposely find the worst card on Moonpig with as much cliche 'Dad' interest shit on it. Dads are apparently into DIY, Beer, Golf, Football and farting. Also a current trend for saying your siblings are shit.

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pajamakitten@reddit

> a Homer Simpson t-shirt I was a huge fan of The Simpsons as a kid and got my dad a Homer t-shirt and a Bart and Homer figurine (them on the sofa together) one year for Father's Day when I was ~6. My dad hated both and it crushed me.

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Crookfur@reddit

You forgot some Dad's Army stuff and a card about farting, hogging the remote or being in the pub...

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Media-consumer101@reddit

Do something good in his name! Adobt a TB or bomb sniffing rat: https://apopo.org/herorats/ (you get monthly updated on the rat, it's freaking adorable). Or if you want him to recieve something, buy a sock supscription from good.store, the profits go to reducing maternal and child mortality in Sierra Leon, plus the socks are designed by artists who get paid properly for their work. Depending on his interests, many charities have fun things like this that you can 'buy' in the name of someone as a present. I've 'gifted' a goat, a well, school supplies, birthday cards for sick kids, trees in protected forest, birthday party boxes for poor families and once I made a donation to an alzheimer charity and they send a beautiful card and a flower bracelet for the birthday girl! Highly recommend for anyone who has everything they could ever want but you still want to get them something 😄

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TrustMeIaLawyer@reddit

My dad died the day before Father's Day 2019 at the age of 71 from knee surgery. Lung embolism. Growing up, every father's day, I would buy him a special tool or accessory (16 ft extension ladder, 16 gallon wet dry vac, chainsaw...). After he died, I got all of my Father's Day gifts back, and now I use them and think of him. My suggestion is to buy something you want back. Invest for your future!

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Ok_Shirt983@reddit

Did everything you get him come in volumes of 16?

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TrustMeIaLawyer@reddit

That is so funny, and I didn't notice the pattern. I just looked at the chainsaw bar length, and you'll never guess what it is! It's 16 inches.

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GaldrickHammerson@reddit

Pfft, only 16 I inhereted from my dad was 16mm of family jewel.

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Buddha-dan@reddit

Quite simply: time. Give him your time. Do something together.

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littletorreira@reddit

This is all gifts for parents who have what they want and need. My brother this year asked if I thought a fancy viral pot would be a good gift for our mum. The woman is 73 still cooking on a set of Le Creuset she bought at 21 from the seconds shop. I got him to take her for dinner and to the Bob Dylan film. She liked that a lot.

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Responsible-Life-960@reddit

It's hard to beat Le Creuset to be fair

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LittleSadRufus@reddit

If she's like my mum, she'll reach an age in the next 5-10 years where le creuset is too heavy to be lifting and cleaning regularly, and then the fancy viral lightweight pot might seem a good idea. So save the present idea for then!

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GreatBigBagOfNope@reddit

If she doesn't already, encourage her to do some resistance training - it's one of the most potent things to do for older women specifically to increase their healthspan. Especially for those who are currently older right now and have most likely never tried to train strength before!

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LittleSadRufus@reddit

Thanks - yes she has dumbbells, an exercise bike, and does regular yoga. Her focus is on strength, bone density and mobility. But the DBs are only light - nothing compared to a full le creuset! I think her generation is quite into healthy lifestyle choices - they were the ones who embraced aerobics etc, unlike the generation before who were just pleased the war was over and they could finally just sit down and have a cigarette.

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littletorreira@reddit

I'll let him know!

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

He sees me every day so I think a day without me would be better haha

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Buddha-dan@reddit

Fair enough. I presumed you lived apart, sorry about that.

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Don't be daft, most people don't live 20 doors away haha

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doc1442@reddit

Do you live in 1920?

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Huh?

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doc1442@reddit

Nobody I know lives anywhere near their parents, modern world stuff

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

So because I care about my parents I'm old fashioned? That's a rather cynical view of the world.

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doc1442@reddit

It is quite old fashioned. I didn’t say it was bad.

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Dutch_Slim@reddit

lol next door for us. A day off is just what he’d like!

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Kaapstad2018@reddit

Isn’t that what all dads really want on Father’s Day ? Kidding!

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Flat_News_2000@reddit

Then you can give him the gift of solitude lol

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Apidium@reddit

Time *away from you* may be in order then!

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mentaldriver1581@reddit

Oh well, a bit different then..

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ExoticExchange@reddit

Follow up question is what does a man of that age want to spend time doing together?

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Flat_News_2000@reddit

Watching sports while drinking beer

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sideone@reddit

Pub.

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BurceGern@reddit

Yeah. Indulge him in something he likes in a simple way. Buy a snack or a meal (maybe one he's usually 'not allowed') and engage in a hobby he's harped on about.

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Almosttasteful@reddit

My great aunt had to be persuaded into it, but really enjoyed axe throwing when we did it and now keeps asking about going again (not sure whether I should be concerned about the people at her church or not at this point...)

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JT_3K@reddit

I phone my dad from Le Mans on father’s day every year. It’s a gesture he appreciates more than a card - that I take time in such a busy and special trip to talk with him goes down well

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R3DSmurf@reddit

Card and steak and chips at my house

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bishibashi@reddit

I’ll ring my dad and remind him that it’s Father’s Day, he’ll tell me he thinks it’s a load of bollocks, job done.

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rev-fr-john@reddit

I tell my wife and kids the same thing, it's a day invented by card companies.

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Brave-Engineer3962@reddit

My dad was like this too, same with birthdays and Christmas. However, after he died, we didn't have these little anchor-like rituals to remember him by and that has been quite hard.

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sihasihasi@reddit

I'm a dad. Seconded. My kids will most likely get me some Reese's chocolate, or similar, and we'll go for a walk by the sea.

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No-Guest991@reddit

Sounds like a day well spent.. though knowing my sprog she will be trying to filch the damn chocs in short order.

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sihasihasi@reddit

Well, they'll obviously have to be shared!

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Low_Importance_6254@reddit

Honestly, sounds like the most British Father’s Day exchange ever. Efficient, low effort, no emotions spilled—perfect.

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Legitimate_War_397@reddit

Do we have the same dad? Every year, I ask him what do you want for father’s days, every year he says nothing and it’s a day for supermarkets to sell shite to make more money. Every year I have to say “you’ll have to pick something otherwise I’ll look like a dickhead if I tell people I didn’t get you anything if they ask” and then every year he says “actually could do with some more car wax, I’ll put some in the Amazon basket and you pay for it”.

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TSC-99@reddit

My dad was the same 🤣

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takesthebiscuit@reddit

My dad was the same. Corporate bullshit, but if you insist on getting me some beers I will happily drink them

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pajamakitten@reddit

> Corporate bullshit, but if you insist on getting me some beers I will happily drink them Same for my dad. It makes it cheap and easy for me.

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audigex@reddit

Make a massive fuss about it this year, custom cards, gifts etc But replace “Fathers day” with “Load of bollocks day”

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Lassitude1001@reddit

This is actually pretty funny. I can't stand consumer holidays like this (potentially because of working in retail), and also being a dad myself... But this? Yeah this would be funny.

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mentaldriver1581@reddit

Love it!

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BronnOP@reddit

Awkward? I’ll give you awkward! Try having to go and see your dad, then your step-dad who basically raised you for 15 years, then, over to your mums house to say happy Father’s Day to her third husband who (despite us being late 20s when she met him) still wraps up presents for him and says they’re from us and we have to sit there and go along with the whole charade just so she can pretend it’s all happy families! Now that’s awkward!

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Reptary1230@reddit

lmfao F that! my moms third husband is just my moms third husband. my real father can burn in H*ll. and my step father who raised me is too sick from years of severe alcoholism he refuses to see anyone. Father’s day is another pointless holiday for me.

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Hungry_Dumpling87@reddit

Same boat here, except my mum's current husband is the most together one out of the three of them, so I have the uncomfortable decision of working out which one I'll send a card to, who to call, and who to text. Usually I'll send her current husband a card since he's the only one who cares about that stuff and who I do "fatherly" things with (even though I met him when I was 16), and blag the other two depending on how I'm feeling on the day / if they've remembered my birthday that year or not

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redmanshaun@reddit

Why did I read this in Del Boys voice?

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plertskirt@reddit

I read it as Crowley from supernatural

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Erivandi@reddit

Re-reading it in Del Boy's voice enhances it 100%.

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ShankSpencer@reddit

I have absolutely no idea!

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sihasihasi@reddit

That's just weird. My mum remarried when I was about 22, as well. I call him Paul. There's absolutely no way either of us could conceive of me calling him Dad.

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Gungemuncher@reddit

You poor barstard!!

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bsnimunf@reddit

Okay I get the first two but the third one is just plain weird. I bet the third husband feels awkward as fuck as well, both of you should bring it up and end the madness.

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InfectedWashington@reddit

But do you get 3x birthday and Christmas presents? Because I’d be all over daddy’s like a bowl of eczema.

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Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit

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Reptary1230@reddit

lmfao F that! my moms third husband is just my moms third husband. my real father can burn in H*ll. and my step father who raised me is too sick from years of severe alcoholism he refuses to see anyone. Father’s day is another pointless holiday for me.

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Glowing_Triton@reddit

I got my dad a Feathers McGraw water bottle. He loves Wallace and Gromit. But yes, father's day is very awkward for me. I'm terrible at picking good gifts at the best of times. He gets a chocolate orange every year for his birthday and that's it. That's all he's ever gotten from me for his birthday 😅

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Fluffy-Inside-4191@reddit

Imagine having an awkward father's day because you don't know your father very well. Wait till I ask my dead father if we should find it awkward.

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MJsThriller@reddit

Has he got kindle unlimimited? Would highly recommend if not

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LavenderAndHoneybees@reddit

One year i got my stepdad a year's subscription to the London Sock Exchange. He still wears them years later, no holes, raves about them. Go with socks.

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Even_Pressure91@reddit

A nice cushion, a few pieces of his favourite meat

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Trouble_UK@reddit

Never buy gifts, just take the old man out for some decent food and a pint or two.

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Electricmacca29@reddit

Just take him to the pub and buy his drinks all night

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braceforimpact@reddit

I’ve got to the stage where I just send my Dad a card.

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MechaDuckzilla@reddit

My gathering law of diabetic and we've found beef jerky has gone down very well.

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Azyall@reddit

Father's Day is going to be awkward for me this year. My dad died on Sunday. Father's Day exactly a week later. Sucks.

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themightyocsuf@reddit

Hot take: send him flowers. Many men adore flowers but don't feel they can say so out of male pride bullshit. My dad is in his late sixties and without fail I send him a bunch of flowers on his birthday and on Father's Day; same as I do for my mum on HER birthday and Mother's Day. He loves them, and the gesture behind it. Flowers are for everyone, male or female.

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Many_Operation_9150@reddit

My Dad is similar, I just go to Etsy and search for the team he supports. Usually find something easily enough and he’s happy. Or he pretends to be!

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King_Alex_ofthenorth@reddit

As a t1 diabetic myself I would love getting sweets and chocolate. I would much rather having that around to fix a low sugar than the glucogel trash the chemists give me.

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locutus92@reddit

Yeah my Dad is in his late 70's has everything he really needs.. I normally try to just take him out for a meal. Time spent with is more valuable these days.

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Suspicious_Banana255@reddit

In light of your edit a TV/radio/tablet/library shelf, entertainment specifically for when he's stuck in the bathroom.

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lordpawsey@reddit

Slip a fiver into a card. Boom. Job done.

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Tulcey-Lee@reddit

My dad is mid 60s, lives in Dubai and is the same when I ask him what he wants. I don’t get him anything for Father’s Day anymore. Send him vouchers for his birthday and Xmas though! On the other hand it’s my partners first Father’s Day! Me and our 3 month old son are taking him out for dinner!

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No_Nectarine9669@reddit

If he’s into local football teams you might be able to sponsor a square of the pitch. That’s what we’ve done this year for an awkward gift receiver!

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JJ_OSRS5@reddit

If I have kids when I’m older I’d rather just forget about the day.

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theshedonstokelane@reddit

Am a dad. Have always told my kids to ignore this. Screwfix in uk sent me email saying they had fathers day nailed Told my kids I had enough nails.

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Worryguts49@reddit

I am 75, and consider father's day to be a complete load of utter bollocks. None of my children or grandchildren would dare recognise this pitiful extension of American individualism to Europe. I'll say it again, bollocks.

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Edna-Tailovette@reddit

Fucking Father’s Day. I had to collect my 85 yr old dad from Bethnal Green Rd police station last month after he allegedly assaulted two people asking him for money on Roman Road. I’d like you all to send me a combined 28 quid in Uber fares that I had to fork out you get him home from there as I was celebrating a mates birthday at the time, and was over limit. He later complained his steak he bought from Tescos wasn’t kept chilled by the cops. At least ONE of us is responsible. Fucking parents, man. His mum, my nan, is now 107 (no shit). WHY CAN’T I BE FREE OF THE STUPIDITY OF MY ELDERS?

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

85 and getting arrested for assault is badass imo

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GreatBigBagOfNope@reddit

Maybe if it was in self defence or something. For not being able to control himself and being a prick? Not really, it's puerile at best

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Edna-Tailovette@reddit

In any other case, yeah. But it’s his 3rd arrest for fighting since 2020. He was like this throughout my childhood, he accidentally taught me he to take a punch. After many accidents. Sounds cool, but it ain’t. If he was smarter, he could use his anger elsewhere.

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Ah that's fucked up sorry about that mate, can't help but love them I guess. My dad's the jokester like where do pirates keep their books? The arrrrechive.

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jesspcrowley_@reddit

Especially awkward when he’s dead tbh

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Englishmuffin1@reddit

I'm a dad and literally give no shits about father's day. I don't need to be 'thanked' for something I chose to become. I don't think my dad really cares too much either, but my mum makes such a big deal about it that me and my sisters always get a goup WhatsApp message a few weeks beforehand with some extravagant gift that we're expected to get him.

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cocobiskits@reddit

Time every week. Talk about family. His childhood. Ask about things you want to know but won't be able to once he's gone

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Limp_Historian_6833@reddit

My dad died 17 April this year, so it’s going to be tough. But it saves me a few quid on a card and Ginger Nuts (his favourite despite having no teeth), so every cloud and all that.

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holobolol@reddit

I get my dad a card, and when I'm next in the vicinity I will take him out for a pint. He doesn't want stuff, he likes spending time with me.

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quilp666@reddit

Now 78, I told everyone concerned several years ago that on all gift giving occasions if I can't eat or drink it, don't bother.

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Emotional_Butterf1y@reddit

My dad is 80 with late stage dementia. I’d give anything to have an awkward moment. Other people are worse. Their fathers are dead. Appreciate what you’ve got.

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adequatemum@reddit

I bake something for my dad, mostly because his birthday is a couple of weeks before fathers day which makes present buying extra hard, so one year I just settled on baking biscuits, or scones or some sort of pudding for him every father's day

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TreatFriendly7477@reddit

Not for me mine's dead. Do think about him and raise a dram to him in the evening. Usually a glass of the whisky my daughter has bought me for father's day.

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yarnycarley@reddit

An amazon voucher so he can get more books for his Kindle coupled with a manly Kindle case with his football team logo on

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PintCEm17@reddit

Mine is 70s Dont do anything he cba

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spookyflamingo17@reddit

My dad has every Star Wars and doctor who toy I could possibly afford, so I’ve got him some chocolate Brazil nuts from my friends mums sweet shop and an “eject” sticker for in his car. If I was feeling really flush I’d get him some adidas trainers like Freddie Mercury’s.

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Ill_Refrigerator_593@reddit

My parents brought me & my siblings to believe fathers & mothers day were made up holidays designed to make people buy worthless tat. It's saved so much hassle over the years.

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Lopsided_Soup_3533@reddit

Technically mothering Sunday has been around since the 17th century but it was about religion and families rather than gifts

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RevolutionaryPace167@reddit

Churching was well before the 17th century

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Lopsided_Soup_3533@reddit

Yep sorry it's 16th century when people visited their mother church on the 4th Sunday of lent. I always get my 1600s mixed up with 16th century

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RevolutionaryPace167@reddit

I wasn't being picky when I mentioned that Churching was earlier. And I don't normally correct others on here. So thank you for being kind in your reply ❤️

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Lopsided_Soup_3533@reddit

Yeah but I was pointing out the history of mothers day/mothering sunday who's parents said it was modern so it's only fair you correcting me for putting the wrong century

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RevolutionaryPace167@reddit

Mothers Day is an ancient celebration. It used to be called Churching. Child birth, even now, is precarious.

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MTRCNUK@reddit

They aren't wrong really. Father's Day must be, and Mother's Day is so far away from what it originally was in the UK that it's basically just a commercial holiday now.

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littletorreira@reddit

My parents too. What a blessing. Do have to get her flowers once a year just because and then she'll feel calued

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Oh it certainly is same with valentines day, but its his birthday which I try to do something for.

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Sudden_Hovercraft_56@reddit

I don't overcomplicate it. On fathers day my Dad gets some handpicked special beers from the supermarket and on Mothers day my mum gets some flowers and chocolate. It's hard enough as it is on birthdays and Christmas so i just keep it simple.

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badger906@reddit

Got my dad a card and some fishing magazines. I’m not around at the weekend so gave him them the other day. He said “thanks for the thought mate but you needn’t bother”. I appreciate my dad all year not just on a single day

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broketoliving@reddit

time give him your time ask him about something he knows a lot about, dad how do you…. or what happened when. let him reminisce do it on your own so he give the man’s version

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hublybublgum@reddit

Cooking is my passion, my daughter is too young to understand anything about fathers day so my wife gave me some money to go get whatever I wanted at the butchers so I can cook a fancy roast on Sunday, and I'm still nursing a bottle of whiskey from my birthday so I'm all set on that front. I'm not fussed on cards or presents or whatever, I get to spend the morning doing what i love, she gets a nice dinner, everyone wins.

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No-Guest991@reddit

Wife & daughter exactly the same with me.. and in all honesty. When i need something i go get it. Im not wasting money on tat. I would rather a family meal, some time spent together & then some uninterrupted tv selection time. Not having to fight for the remote is a real gift.

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Crazy-Bluebird6099@reddit

I sent him a card that said HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOTHERFUCKER and he didnt get the joke

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rureadytodream@reddit

He has a kindle? E-Books or gift card to get his own books if you have no idea what he reads.

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Timely_Egg_6827@reddit

Meal out. Socks - I got my Dad's a year's supply of "good" socks - his request. It was a daily luxury he appreciated. Special diabetic socks that are soft at the ankles cost a fair bit Have a friend who is diabetic - have bought a quarter-side of beef before. A meat box can be a useful and luxury puchase.

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labskaus1998@reddit

As a dad with 4 sons (persistent missing socks!!) I really really appreciate a few sets of matching socks ... Like 12-18 matching pairs so I can literally binn all the old ones. Costco Pringle are my go too.

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Flat_News_2000@reddit

I'd always steal my dad's socks because I'd be too lazy to do my laundry that week

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Scarboroughwarning@reddit

Recently got some Pringle socks. Really good.

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Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit

My dad was blessed with two daughters and would go mad if we ever wore any of his clothes..."ARE THOSE MY SOCKS?" was a constant repost in my childhood home.

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Timely_Egg_6827@reddit

That was my Dad's rationale. From TK Maxx - Pringle and fancy bamboo soft ones. But a daily touch of luxury.

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Massive_Anything_763@reddit

Fathers day is weird for me only because my Dad died when he was 66. As someone who has lost a parent, I'd not buy them a thing - I'd book an event or experience you'll have as memories in the future. Like shooting range, golf, whiskey tour, train experience, a nice meal out, concerts ect.

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doc1442@reddit

If he doesn’t want anything, don’t buy him anything. Spend some time with him, you’ll both enjoy it more than some random piece of tat.

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Antique-Newspaper358@reddit

I’ve found Lego sets go down very well 🤣

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LouisaB75@reddit

Since I hate cooking, and he no longer can, and because I know he misses his full Sunday dinner, I make the effort to cook him one each Father's Day.

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ApplicationKlutzy208@reddit

Urgh I have the same problem. I just buy him some wine and be done with it . I'm not going to bust a gut only to have.him grumble and gripe.

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JGalKnit@reddit

I used to buy my dad crosswords and fun things like that because he enjoyed them. I bought him things to trick out his golfcart (he lived in a community where all residents had them). Either way, just enjoy him and even if it is, "Hey dad, what do you want to do today? Let's go do it." I would give anything to have mine here.

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FizzbuzzAvabanana@reddit

Nothing. It's a load of bollocks. Fortunately my kids know this. My lad has already said we're going out for Sunday lunch on him next week as a treat, him & daughter do similar around Mother's day, avoiding the actual rip off day itself. Do the same with Valentine's day and all the other bullshit 'guilt' days they try to foist on us. Tbh I've even had enough of Xmas, used to love it but it's about had it now & I don't need any more crap. Local animal rescue centre can have a donation instead this year. I am NOT a miserable cnut, the complete opposite, just had enough of all the nonsense.

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Clouds1Space@reddit

Well I am a Dad. I don't want a gift, my children can keep their money. They need all they can get. What I do want is simply to see them. If that isn't possible, then a phone call in the morning would be very nice.

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zippyzebra1@reddit

I'm 67 and never ever celebrated father's day. It never existed when i was a kid. I said to my sons it's just made up commercial bullshit. Buy nothing

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CursedCatLady@reddit

This year I’m having a parcel with cheese and crackers delivered to my dad

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Otherwise_Fly_2263@reddit

I’ve once again failed to find a card which says “I hereby acknowledge that you are my biological father”. So had to try and find a vaguely amusing one that distracts from his decades of addiction and a failed marriage.

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adinade@reddit

For my dad it's either a nice bottle of booze, a book on a topic of interest, or a nice meal out.

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ambergriswoldo@reddit

If in doubt - novelty ballon - home bargains do superhero / dinosaur etc ones.

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Mammoth_Slip1499@reddit

Football? Next season’s shirt?

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Additional-Nobody352@reddit

I'm quite lucky as my dad's birthday is the week before fathers day so i just combine the 2. But gift ideas £5 scratch card ?

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Environmental-Act991@reddit

Speaking as someone whose birthday is 2 days from Father's Day,that is a typical cheapskate move that my kids pull 🤣

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

He'd probably win and try to buy the local football team, a £10 win would buy them though

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Additional-Nobody352@reddit

Ha ha

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SunsetHaze@reddit

My brother and I have bought my dad the same thing for years; a card and a couple bottles of his preferred beer. Anything he wants or needs he'll have already bought

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d00td00t23@reddit

My dad always said he didn’t want anything. Then - as I got older - he stopped getting me gifts and only gets me cards so I do the same. I always ended up spending money on things he didn’t use and he did the same for me. Now we just focus on seeing each other a few times a year and keeping in touch better and I feel like we are both happier. I make sure to hand write cards that have a more meaningful message instead of sending moonpig cards now, too.

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Little-Acanthaceae68@reddit

As my Dad got older, he used to say less and less about actual material gifts and used to respond somewhat negatively when given lots of presents. I think he always had a thing about being provided for, he liked to be the man of the house and didn’t like being celebrated too much or something along those lines. As we noticed this more and more my brother, sister and I went for more “experience” sort of gifts - not necessarily a Virgin Experience gift certificate but something that would create a nice memory for him. Dinners out with all the family or small day trips away and experiences for things he may have wanted to try. I remember a few years ago I got him and I a stargazing thing up in the north of the UK with a big telescope for Father’s day, and it ended up being one of my treasured memories of spending time with my Dad.

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BeneficialPoet3342@reddit

Whisky every present a bottle of whisky (doesn't work if you dad has knocked drinking on the head...)

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Atombom01@reddit

Just one year get him everything customised with the words "i dont know" on them 🤣🤣

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Teembeau@reddit

We don't bother. I don't expect anything from my kids and my dad always told us he doesn't want anything. It's purely a Hallmark Holiday, that was created to sell more tat. Even "mother's day" is mostly Hallmark. Mothering Sunday used to be about returning to your church of baptism, your "mother church".

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freefallade@reddit

Trip out for lunch somewhere a bit different always goes down well.

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PointBlue@reddit

Take him to diggerland.

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LJF_97@reddit

Go and do something with him. The time spent with your dad is worth more than any physical present.

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ChampionshipTop7017@reddit

Nintendo Switch 2. It’s never too late to get into gaming

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Bud I've been trying for 20 years

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Sm0keytrip0d@reddit

My dad is 73 this year. Doesn't know what he wants cause he has everything he needs. Can't take him for a meal out or out in general since his immune system is very weak to the point catching a simple cold sends him to the hospital so he doesn't go out unless it's necessary. Doesn't care for flowers and doesn't much like those selection boxes of chocolates or boxes of Lindt etc. He DOES however like peanut M&Ms so I bought him one of those big 800g bags and a card, mum is visiting nan on the weekend so I'll try to find an old western film for him to watch too.

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Consistent-Pirate-23@reddit

Mine is getting £100 in a card Same thing as he got for his birthday 2 weeks ago. If I ask him what he wants then I will get a shrug, but if he has money to spend on something he needs that’s all good

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Rachel94Rachel@reddit

Can I be your dad

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Consistent-Pirate-23@reddit

If putting up with me is worth £100 every birthday, Christmas and Father’s Day then sure 😂😂😂

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Rachel94Rachel@reddit

I put up with my children for free, I can make it work!

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Consistent-Pirate-23@reddit

You have a deal 😂😂😂

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gandyg@reddit

It would be because he is incredibly hard to buy for but luckily my parents always go on holiday in June around Father's Day so I just buy him a new tshirt for his holidays!

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Mrs_B-@reddit

When he was alive I got my dad a framed coin collection. He loved it. Didn't collect coins, just nostalgic.

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_90s_Nation_@reddit

Burberry Hero EDT Guerlain : L'Homme EDT YSL: La Nuit De L'Homme EDP

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doctorbiffgood@reddit

Yeah awkward for sure. I live with my mother and her partner (step father of old). Me and “the step father” do not get along AT ALL, to the point where I don’t recall the last time he said anything to me. Each year my mother insists on me getting him something for Father’s Day to keep up appearances to the point where she starts getting angry to “he once was a good dad to you” so you should get him something. Yeah awkward. I’m terrible at writing things out, but you get the gist.

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SilverHalsen@reddit

Nope, my dad has always been a science nerd was for the last 20 or so years I've been buying odd things that he has to guess what the are, such as trinitite, mammoth tusk, dinosaur coprolite, fulgurite, or things like that. Or it's something else weird, such as aerogel, fake moon dust, ferrofluid etc. Always manage to find something so far.

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ThickTadpole3742@reddit

Never buy gifts for fathers day / valentine's etc. It's just a commercial thing to make you spend money. A card with nice words and just spending quality time together is more than enough.

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Sea_Ad_7236@reddit

My dad has literally no hobbies, hard of hearing and can’t see that well having ruined his own eyesight after not following doctors orders. He loves complaining all day and basically goes from his favourite chair to his bed for a snooze and back again to eat - he’s 88. Never wants any gifts but he does like a fancy card with all the long words and stuff on that no-one ever buys so there’s always plenty of choice. A handwritten long message too about what a great father he is but he admits he isn’t. Oh, we put money in the card too.

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yourefunny@reddit

Try and notice the things he mentions a lot. They might be little. My dad had prostate and now has bladder cancer. It's shit, but he refused to let it slow him down. He loves his big garden but always buys shitty cheap stuff as he is frugal. So I got him a really decent pair of gardening gloves. He loves making food and bringing it down the pub on a Sunday for his mates to sample, so I bought him a nice basket he can pop the food in. He loves beer. Bought some interesting and rare ales. He loves good food and specifically always reads the food food awards. Also loves stuff like sausage rolls and scotch eggs with mustard etc. so got him some chutneys that will go well with those foods that have received the good food awards. Had my 4 year old make him a card. Gave it all to him yesterday evening when he popped over as he won't be here this weekend... He left everything at our house! Sometimes there is no winning!

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Buck_Slamchest@reddit

Not for me as I don't really have a relationship with my father. He's 'someone I know' rather than my father. I get on with him fine on the odd occasion I do see him but that father/son bond never developed because he wasn't around when I was growing up. He told me once that I was the result of him and my mother trying to get back together so there's that :)

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tomxch@reddit

My dad had a signed Tottenham shirt in a glass frame on the wall; its the only thing he wanted in my parents divorce. Maybe something like that?

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Realistic-Tip-5416@reddit

Take him to the pub for a pint

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Front-Intention@reddit

Dad's 75 now, asked him once about 40 years ago "What do you want for father's day" his response, "Peace and quiet" so I leave him alone.

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Ok_Profession_3911@reddit

Last Christmas I was at my parents house helping my mum de-clutter some things. She took out a box of gifts that my dad had been given over the years that he never used. The majority of the stuff was from my sister and I to my dad that my mum had told us he “wanted”. This Father’s Day he is getting his usual snacks that my mum won’t allow him to eat, and a knife thing to rip off the lid packaging on a wine bottle. If he starts a new box this year, then next year he is getting coal.

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lcmfe@reddit

Yeah we have a running joke in our family of “what’re the dimensions the present needs to fit in for you to stash it away and never use it”

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NoisyGog@reddit

At least he kept them. That means they meant something to him.

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

🤣🤣🤣 outstanding. !answer

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No-Set-2576@reddit

All I ever want is some peace and quiet, but no, never happens.

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fused_of_course@reddit

My father's day ritual is to go to Wetherspoons and get shit faced. My dad's a tight bugger and even though the afternoon is on me, he gets a thrill out of how cheap we can get smashed and sobering up with a burger every couple of hours! Highly recommend!

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mythicalkitten@reddit

My dad got really into puzzles when he retired, gifts sorted for the next couple of years until he is sick of those. I invite him over for dinner and we watch the British Touring Cars reruns on ITVX

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Jerico_Hill@reddit

I don't acknowledge fathers day anymore after my Dad tried to ruin my wedding because of his own issues and treated me like absolute fucking dirt on my wedding day. The man who raised me. I can forgive him to a point where I play nice for my sister's sake but he'll go to his grave never ever receiving another fathers day card from me. That's his punishment.

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FranzLeFroggo@reddit

My dad refuses to acknowledge it so win win for me (i'll buy him a AF beer when I next see him)

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Emotional_Pick9327@reddit

New season new football shirt

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Abwettar@reddit

Its hard to spend time with my dad because hes dead and also I dont know who he is.

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sandhanitizer6969@reddit

Easy answer: Nothing. Where is it written that you must spend money to show appreciation? I’m a dad and tell my family to not to buy me anything. I take them out and show appreciation to them for being my family.

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Glad-Introduction833@reddit

My dad loves a personalised moonpig card. He always gets my kids moonpig cards. He thinks putting photos on cards is a wonder of the modern technological age we live in. Bless him ❤️🫡

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811545b2-4ff7-4041@reddit

Tesco sells a sugar free cake mix. Make him a sugar free cake! [https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/315972677](https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/315972677)

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lolitsmax@reddit

Just make make him a nice meal

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Positive-Locksmith21@reddit

I'd buy my old man a race entry to a marathon, as he is still running in his 70s

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Sasspishus@reddit

When is fathers day? Is it this weekend? I feel like I should be more prepared

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Thi13een@reddit

No one gives a shit about Father’s Day. If you’re a father you’re the lowest priority in your family so why would anyone care

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biddlywad@reddit

Mine is getting a card and five tins of M&S spam. Exactly what he wants. Also a trolley token as he insists on using an old pound coin when I help him with the shopping. It doesn’t always work and it does my head in. 😂

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StandardBee6282@reddit

You might not have many more Father’s Days so don’t let it pass by. A bottle of something he likes or a book, always goes down well with me anyway and I wish I still had to buy a present.

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flashdonut@reddit

I know this is a light hearted convo, so apologies for the morbid part, but it gets really awkward when they are no longer here.

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dyn4m0_pwr5@reddit

A boomerang

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Sharks_and_Bones@reddit

My dad is 83. I asked him if he wanted anything. He said no. End of story.

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Neddlings55@reddit

I havent spoken to mine for over 20 years, so nope.

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Winter_Cabinet_1218@reddit

Speaking as a dad, I want dumb stuff. Best fathers day gift was a cheap wallet multi tool. I'm a self proclaimed lord of lawful chaos, and I love a good laugh with my kids.

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I_am_Reddit_Tom@reddit

It's not a proper day. Just spend some time with him. Take him for a curry or a game of golf or something

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samejhr@reddit

A bottle of red, around the £20 mark. I’ve done that for the last decade at least. He appreciates it.

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mrsdontknowwhoiam@reddit

Both my parents are in their 70’s so when it comes to fathers/Mother’s Day and birthdays I’ve started getting them m&s gift cards so they can go and choose some nice food to eat that they wouldn’t ordinarily treat themselves to.

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MassiveBeatdown@reddit

Just be glad he’s still here and you can talk to him. My Dad is in the same boat but we are almost at the end of the road. He’s bedridden & no longer able to speak. I don’t think he can understand anything anymore. He’s almost blind as well. He’s not been able to eat in 2 months and is a bag of bones. He can only last a few more weeks if not days. I miss who he was. I feel like grieving but he’s not dead yet. It’s awful. Try and spend as much time with him as you can. Talk to him about his life and memories. I hope your father is ok and if not has a more comfortable journey than mine.

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DinosaurInAPartyHat@reddit

My father told me that Father's Day is a bullshit card company gimmick. We "celebrated" it when we were in Primary School because the school would sell the kids gifts for their dad...and pressure the dad into giving his child money for the gift he doesn't want. But after Primary School, never paid any attention to it.

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spik0rwill@reddit

Silk toilet paper? :D

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NifferKat@reddit

I'll take another T-shirt with British Military Aircraft on it, no problems.

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JackDrawsStuff@reddit

Get him a Bourbon Henge: https://www.megalithic.co.uk/modules.php?op=modload&name=a312&file=index&do=showpic&pid=87425

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cm-cfc@reddit

I would say most Dads just want to spend time with you. Grab a beer together or a walk

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PaulJMacD@reddit

Give him a hug and tell him you love him. I'd love to do that, my Dad passed in 2009. A bottle of single malt always went down well too, as it was the type of thing he loved but wasn't always comfortable buying for himself.

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dallasp2468@reddit

Take him down the pub for a pint and then bring him home and give him a roast dinner. Put him in his arm chair for a nap after and he should be happy.

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Sad_Lack_4603@reddit

Is a gift necessary? I'd have thought, at most, a decent hand-written card would be all any Dad - of whatever age - would want from his child. I'd stay away from those one with off-colour jokes relating to sex, bodily functions, forgetfulness, etc. I always find them somewhat patronising. It's fun when you're a kid to be reminded that "Now you are Five!". Not so much when you are seventy.

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OpenedCan@reddit

Take him on a tour of the stadium or Wembley stadium. Trip to national football museum?

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EmploymentNo7620@reddit

My dad always says something along the lines of... I have what I need, there is nothing I want but the gift of your time would be perfect. I'll arrange to spend some time with him (no necessarily on fathers day), away from the house, just us two, something simple like a pint, a walk, a coffee, and just chat and share some time.

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Guilty_House_5018@reddit

Card with £10 of scratchcards. He gets 10 mins of fun. If he wins, he's even happier. If he doesn't, he didn't have anything to lose.

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Electronic-Ice-492@reddit

I'm a football head, so is my dad and alot of my good friends. What never fails to be a hit for a gift is a mug, in the old Teletext style with the results of a famous game. Are there any games or big away days he did which he always talks about? If so you can get a mug like this https://www.retroclasico.co.uk/product/request-retro-ceefax-football-match-result-t-shirt-mug/?utm_source=Google%20Shopping&utm_campaign=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=78365&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20360094909&gbraid=0AAAAAD8IqEF5-Ms68YDWhUtR4pImx_KKx&gclid=CjwKCAjw9anCBhAWEiwAqBJ-c73unS-EOPt5bEZQE6GgqAd5WSLekUOTFhWx6_oJ-2UiKKEGrGuXSxoCcMEQAvD_BwE It looks like loads of places do them now.

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secretvictorian@reddit

Genuinely all my husband ever wants is a lie in, a bacon butty a paper to read, kids cards and a Sunday Dinner. This year though I've got him a clay shooting experience for him and a mate to take when he wants.

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Jebble@reddit

You buy him nothing. You give him time, attention and love.

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markymark6999@reddit

Successfully resuscitated mine a few years ago. He's agreed to call it quits on all things Father's day now.

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KelpFox05@reddit

Fuck, I'm 20 and my dad's 47 and it's starting to get awkward. I outgrew the cute father's day crafts a while back lmao. I'm a pretty good baker so I'll do a card and bake him some form of sweet treat and call it that. Same for mother's day. I imagine eventually it'll degrade into the "yearly phone call" stage but for the time being, this works.

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Opening-Fortune-4173@reddit

Ooof, yearly phone call. I thought that was resigned for the biological dads that didn't quite grasp the being a parent bit.

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HumanWeetabix@reddit

Give your dad the gift of some time! Spend that time with him, go for a walk, grab a bite to eat, a pint of two. Does t even have to be on Father’s Day, just near it. Just spend the time and have a chat. Gifts become just a routine. I’m getting my dad a fishing rod rest (which he’s already bought) and had a day at the beach / seaside with him last weekend, with my kids.

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abracadabrabeef@reddit

Wine gums, all dad's like wine gums

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Extension_Sun_377@reddit

Make a hamper of posh food - my dad loved pickles and chutneys so would get posh crackers, cheese and lots of different pickles!

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bsnimunf@reddit

Goog thing about food and rink (often not for a diabetic) is you eat it and it's gone or you can give it away to someone else to eat. It doesn't fill a cupboard waiting for five years before it ends up landfill.

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Beneficial-Reason949@reddit

I now get my dad a Tesco delivery, his preferred lager, cheese, cured meats, crackers, nuts etc and very importantly, a tub of branded Lurpak. He seems to genuinely be pleased with it which is more than can be said for anything else I buy him

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Booboodelafalaise@reddit

Love this idea! As my dad has got older his taste buds have faded slightly so now he loves really hot chilli pickles. My other go to present is a Devon cream tea by post. The one he’s receiving tomorrow has got scones, jam, and a big pot of clotted cream. Also two Devon pasties. It was only about £25 which for the amount of stuff it contains is a bargain. I’ve used the same company for years and they are very reliable.

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Beautiful_Ad2618@reddit

Just be there for him.

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MiddleAgeCool@reddit

This year's jersey/ top of his football team. A vintage or retro jersey / top of his football from the season of a special year like when you where born. A meal out together. (This is my personal favourite) If his club do VIP tickets for a game, two tickets and go to the game with him Mostly I want time with my kids to do something together and it's the thing I ask for everytime they ask what I want.

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InfectedWashington@reddit

Got my dad that JML mini vacuum / Blower. Nearly got him Now That’s What I call the 70’s CD set but mom said he’d prefer the vacuum. Also got him a few cameras for his cars, so they record in front of the vehicle, behind the vehicle and inside the vehicle. He’ll be obsessed with that for years. Me and mom were scabs this year when she was supposed to go pick me up a Father’s Day card, she pulled out a pristine one that I had given him last year and gave me a fresh envelope, said to me don’t worry he won’t remember and saves you a few quid.

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AprilBoon@reddit

I don’t buy father’s day gifts or cards anymore for my father so no suggestion.

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OddBirthday7@reddit

i have always stated that both days should be banned as both are out dated are just a day for narcissist to get their ego boost and be worshiped with no thought or consideration for people who don't have kids and no longer have their dad as its all about them as long ad they are being worshipped just because they got their leg over and had kids its just plain right selfish

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sharps2020@reddit

Bottle of single malt from the glens, birthday, Christmas and father's day. I got him an only fools and horses box set once, he wasn't best pleased lol. Luckily I'd got him a bottle as well.

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Zanki@reddit

Well I was forced to make and take home a father's day card for my dead dad when I was in school. Not only did I get in trouble for refusing to make a card and being forced, I then got in trouble when I went home and mum found the damn thing in my bag. Teacher caught me trying to throw it out and made me take it home. The 'my teacher made me make it' excuse didn't fly. She was pissed and thought I did it just to hurt her (that's what she always screamed at me if I made a mistake). I'm shocked I didn't get hit. I was terrified. She tore it up and threw it out. I told my teacher my dad was dead. I wasn't shy about it. He died a few months before I was born so for me, it wasn't a big deal, but I know I wasn't the only kid in a weird situation there, I was just the one who spoke up and none of the others followed after that. That teacher was an absolute ass hole. I would punch him if I ran into him now. I don't care how old he is. He deserves it and far more.

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Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit

Sammme. My dad is impossible. He has everything. And is pretty grumpy, doesn't really have hobbies. Etc. I got him a lovely jumper from White Stuff. It may never get worn... but we'll see.

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corysphotos19@reddit

Get him team kit.

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V65Pilot@reddit

I kinda wish my sons would get together and book me an escort.......it's been a while.......... Yeah, I could do it myself, but I'm cheap.

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TheHeroYouNeed247@reddit

My Dad and I agreed to stop buying each other gifts when I was 18. Best deal we ever made.

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Meowskiiii@reddit

I get my dad a beautiful bunch of flowers. He loves it.

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beavertownneckoil@reddit

He's at that age where he should probably think about trying heroin. Either that or cook him a nice meal

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bouncer-1@reddit

Awkward AF! I just order in some food and leave it on the kitchen counter hen table. It seems cold but the love is there.

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KingKhram@reddit

Father's day was usually spent having a good meal and family time. A card and some beer, nothing else was needed. Usually spent drinking by the bbq having a good time

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Quinn_27@reddit

I grew up with my Grandad (RIP), very old school, never asked for anything, never really wanted anything, and if he did, he just bought it himself.... He smoked Capstan Full Strength, loved Irish and brass band music, a good meal (home not restaurant), a multi band radio/scanner and a nice (not necessarily expensive) watch (working/dive/pilot style functional) He was in the Army (WW2) reconnaissance/pathfinder/engineer, saw the liberation/horrors of Belsen (although he never told anyone of this), then when he left, trained as a time served apprentice (could fix/turn/make pretty much anything), and then went to build power plants (Inc Nuclear) so there I took my inspiration...even from 14/15 any old radio (coveted, multi band, SW etc - that he didn't have) as a fixer upper (maybe with a missing knob/dial o broken thread he could fix/make/turn on a lathe) a watch that he could service, a proper lighter....the old petrol lighters were a hit (Seigneur or Zippo/Ronson) and a blooming good cut of beef with all the trimmings, inc a good ale/mild/stout (he barely drank alcohol, but he liked a pint with a Sunday roast) So my advice, find something your Dad truly loves (loved) as a boy or a young man...and surprise him with it Is he a dapper dresser (mine was always suit and tie...where ever he went out, twill, tweed, woollen suit etc...a good quality tie, belt and shoes etc) most of the older generation don't covet too much...but a nice functional accurate wrist or pocket watch, or some real quality cigars, a bottle of single malt/cognac etc A blooming good 35 day dry aged ribeye...Dexter, Highland, Longhorn or Galloway beef is cracking (or Mangalitsa pork/Herdwick lamb if he prefers that) treat him...something he might have always wanted but never asked for (cost etc) all the best!

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APithyComment@reddit

Fruit selection. He can enjoy some and the rest of the fam can help eat the rest. He can eat fruit that makes his body work through the sugars - these would not be so called ‘free sugars’. https://www.diabetes.org.uk/living-with-diabetes/eating/sugar-and-diabetes

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AimeLeonDon1@reddit

Take him out for a nice meal

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mentaldriver1581@reddit

It’s very weird for me right now, in that my SIL, who is going out of town and leaving her husband behind, wants my husband to go for dinner with her husband, daughter, and mother (my MIL). Even when she’s (SIL) gone, she’s STILL trying to hijack our holidays. WTAF? Meanwhile, husband’s daughter (my step daughter) texted husband and said that she and her kids (whom I love) would like to pop around that day. I said to my husband that I would LOVE to have his daughter and her kids over! It’s his day to choose, but why the hell does his sister always pull these shenanigans over holidays? I think he’s finally starting to see it, thankfully.

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SilasMarner77@reddit

Bottle of whisky, sorted.

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mentaldriver1581@reddit

Maybe take him to lunch/brunch or dinner? Or maybe make it for him at his place. What I’ve found, is that the older a person gets, the less “things” they want or need; with the exception of spending time with the people they love.

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smokey380sfw@reddit

Dad's want time with you, what did he do with you when you were little? Sounds stupid but do what he did with you when you were a kid - take a lego set to build together, or an old style airfix kit, - pic his favourite movie (or clasic foitball match) and beer and and sit and watch it with him - service his car together (or yours) -go fishing - go with him to watch a football match - make a photo book of you together take ot round and go though it with him

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Fickle_Hope2574@reddit (OP)

Bud I've seen Jason and the argonauts more times than years I've been alive, I love my dad but I can't watch dragon tooth skeletons again.

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Radiant_Fondant_4097@reddit

We live three hours apart, I’ll bosh something in the post like a beer/snack pack and give em a phone call.

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Sharp_Ad_6248@reddit

I just bought him a nice big steak.

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[OP marked this as the best answer](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskUK/comments/1l9yqna/fathers_day_is_it_awkward_for_anyone_else/mxglxbj/), given by /u/Ok_Profession_3911. > Last Christmas I was at my parents house helping my mum de-clutter some things. She took out a box of gifts that my dad had been given over the years that he never used. The majority of the stuff was from my sister and I to my dad that my mum had told us he “wanted”. > > This Father’s Day he is getting his usual snacks that my mum won’t allow him to eat, and a knife thing to rip off the lid packaging on a wine bottle. If he starts a new box this year, then next year he is getting coal. --- [_^(What is this?)_](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskUK/comments/jjrte1/askuk_hits_200k_new_feature_mark_an_answer/)

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CodAdministrative765@reddit

I'm sticking 25 quid behind the bar at his local. Will get him a few pints or Sunday roast for him and my mum.

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Ahleanna-D@reddit

Did he wear any colognes when you were young that you can still get hold of?

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randomlyalex@reddit

Just take him for dinner and don't be so dense yourself, a simple pub meal, if you must, otherwise buy him some steak lol, it's not hard.

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Active-Strawberry-37@reddit

Buy him a £20 Just Eat voucher and leave him alone to pig out.

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purply_otter@reddit

Meal somewhere The useless box

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HiddenIdentity2@reddit

My Dad is in his 80s. My parents are financially secure. So I just booked a nice pub meal. And going to take him out. Did the same with my mum this year. They seemed to enjoy time with my little family. It’s so nice

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BeanOnToast4evr@reddit

Go browse experience day websites, you might find a thing or two he might like.

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EELightning@reddit

My dad is over 80 now. We don't live close and we've never been emotionally close. I often send him a bottle of whiskey. But he's been off that for health reasons. So these days I make a charity donation in his name.

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Mred80@reddit

The best present for both of you is your time. Make the most of it while you can. Dad’s aren’t forever

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MojoMomma76@reddit

Mine’s in the early stages of dementia in his early 80s. A card and some fudge is appreciated by him, some time for my Mum to have a break is a lot more appreciated by her.

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ZiggehZiggeh@reddit

A meal

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Anubis1958@reddit

I’m not upset about not getting a present. A phone call would be nice, but this Sunday. F1 and Le Mans are on.

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Giraffesaremyjam@reddit

Kindle voucher and diabetic chocolate. Mine insists on a B&Q voucher if anything so he can buy tools.

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Phoenixian_Majesty@reddit

Been spending the past couple years trying to get my dad into video games. He's just hit level 20-some in Skyrim and he was showing me this "Tainted Grail" game that after trying the demo, is honestly pretty sick. Might get that for him. It's Skyrim, but British. Between that, and taking him out for tea at the pub, I'm pretty good. Seeing him getting his arse kicked in Skyrim like he found a new purpose has been wonderful anyway. Looking forward to sharing Senile Scribbles with him when he's seen a bit of everything lmao

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OldLondon@reddit

As a dad of grown up kids the thing I value the most is time with them, because they want to not because they feel they have to. That genuine freely given time is worth all the lottery jackpots in the world to me

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Ok-Train5382@reddit

Take him out for dinner and have that be the present?

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Hyperion2023@reddit

Cinema voucher? Trip for lunch at a castle or somewhere else historic?

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onlysigneduptoreply@reddit

Take him for a pint?

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Toxteth_OGradyy@reddit

My old man’s 80. I’m taking him out for Sunday lunch.

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ellemonkeybum@reddit

Have you asked AI? It can sort of narrow the field for you. That said, my dad’s in his 70s and am planning on taking him to a garden centre (he loves a scone!) and telling him to choose something for the garden. If that helps. Good luck!

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Life-Bedroom-8886@reddit

There comes a point in life where you just don’t want or need any more “stuff”. I’m in my early 50’s and don’t want presents of stuff. I’d much rather a takeaway and a film or a trip to the pictures or seaside. You can have too much stuff. You can never have too many memories.

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lime-enthusiast@reddit

My dads the same. He doesn't drink or eat chocolate and has a ton of money so buys himself anything else he wants.

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redmanshaun@reddit

A few hours with him? A meal? A thank you? My dad didnt stick around so it isn't a problem I've had to deal with. Mothers day is just some flowers and a visit/thank you. When im older I'd likely just want time with my son.

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Mrmrmckay@reddit

It's not really awkward for me as mine died 7 years ago 🤷‍♂️

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PopperDilly@reddit

my dad's never arsed about a present. He's fine with a card and me just acknowledging the day. If he accepted a present id probably buy him a vinyl.

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Doomergeneration@reddit

Exactly the same situation, I think we both would be ok not bothering but my mum would be annoyed

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