I seem to have escaped whatever the video was (I’m a private school kid so they probably didn’t show it to us) but came to say that my parents didn’t pressure me about having kids—I even had a miscarriage in 2010–until my mom died in 2014, at which point my dad started trying to pressure me into having them so he could have grandkids.

He even did “research” (which I have a strong suspicion involved asking his bff gynecologist) to tell me that the “current solution” to my endometriosis was having children.

I was so flabbergasted I was unable to argue with him that a) it’s creepy for you to try to get involved in your adult daughter’s sex life; b) the current understanding of endo has moved way on from that now; c) since endo causes infertility then how can it be solved by “just having a baby”? And also d) both my parents spent my entire youth talking about how awful a decision adoption is because those kids have the potential to be really badly behaved and you have no idea what you’re going to get, their genetics could be horrible, even serial-killer horrible [side note: I tend to believe the opposite is more likely; environment affects us more than genetics unless we’re talking about something like a personality disorder]

So anyway, I don’t have kids.