Losing weight in your 40s

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LetsGoToMichigan@reddit

I lost weight when I went vegan whole food plant based a couple years ago and people keep asking me if I an on Ozempic 😂🤦‍♂️

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RJRoyalRules@reddit

Doesn't help that it's so much harder to lose weight at this age. I'm still grinding off the COVID pounds!

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Same here. I put on 25 pounds during COVID and it seems like my body decided that was how I was going to be forevermore. Friggin hard to lose weight at this age! I remember cutting soda out in my twenties and losing 20 lbs immediately.

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marathonrunner79@reddit

I lost 84 lbs on a GLP-1 over the course last year. Feel much better but some people ask if I’m sick. I have PCOS so people weren’t used to seeing me this slim. Weight has not moved at all in 2025. It’s a personal choice to use wt loss injections but it helped my insulin resistance.

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Birdy_78@reddit

I’ve been on a GLP-1 since November 2022 and am finally in the normal BMI range for the first time since about 1988. In fact, I wear a smaller size now than I did in 4th grade. 90ish lbs gone and staying gone.

I wish these meds would have been available before my mid-40s, since I now have some crepey neck skin happening. But I’ll still take it!

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DramaticErraticism@reddit

People will certainly judge as it is an easy solution that removes willpower from the equation.

I don't feel that way, though. Being overweight has so many health consequences, I am all for people losing weight by whatever means they can achieve it. The personal costs of obesity and the societal costs to the medical system, is enormous.

If we can get more and more people to a healthy weight, health care costs could actually go down in our country, for once.

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qukab@reddit

Thank you for actually saying you're using GLP-1. My sister has seen absolutely incredible results because of it, literally life changing, but she's scared to say anything to even close friends because she fears being judged.

The number of people on Reddit who are clearly on GLP-1 meds but calling it "IF" or "going to the gym" are doing everyone a disservice. I think it's perfectly fine to normalize the use of this drug if it's changing lives for the better. Should celebrities be abusing it when they clearly don't need it? Hell no. That is not the same as someone who's lifespan will significantly increase using it to get out of the rut they have been stuck in for years.

No one has anything to be ashamed of. Just own it.

Very happy for you by the way!

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Idislikethis_@reddit

I also have PCOS and have been on Wegovy for almost a year, I'm down 50+ pounds. It has helped with so much I'm hopeful it will be prescribed specifically for PCOS in the future.

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Notwastingtimeiswear@reddit

I will say, people are making a concerted effort to stop commenting on people's bodies, so it becomes hard to know how to acknowledge you see someone who looks different and may want to be seen--to either celebrate or mourn it. That may contribute to why these people are asking the way they are... but acknowledging any body changes these days definitely does betray an awareness of one's mortality!

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Spamberguesa@reddit

I'll sometimes tell people if I like their haircut/color, or if I think some item of clothing looks cool (and often ask where they bought it). I never have commented on someone's body/face without them mentioning it first, just because that's always seemed creepy to me.

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MexicanVanilla22@reddit

I think it's a bit of a generational thing. My kids never comment on other people's looks in general. Not a word about bodies or how people dress. Like it's not even an option that comes into their thoughts. I was kind of shocked to learn this because I was telling my kids that I always wore the same outfit of jeans and a t shirt because anything outside of that would make you a target to get bullied. They looked at me like I had three heads. Totally explains the kids rolling up to school in pajamas and unbrushed hair though.

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Amnion_@reddit

It’s because middle-aged people don’t usually take care of themselves, and just add on the pounds as the years go by. So shedding weight is unusual and people wonder what’s going on.

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demart77@reddit

I’m in my late 40s and just lost about 100 lbs and have had the same thing happen. Everyone is afraid to say anything.

I get it but part of you is like “someone notice my hard work”

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PinkLady1983@reddit

I’m in my mid 40’s and I lost 100lbs 3 years ago and it was so awkward because I lost it all while working from home and then when I went back to the office it was a huge shocker for a lot of people. No one said anything which I was very grateful for (lost it due to heavy trauma and grief) but I could tell that many people were worried.

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insomniacandsun@reddit

These success stories are inspiring. Time to get off my butt, and make the weight loss happen.

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RoxyLA95@reddit

You can do it. The only thing stopping you is fear.

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Maladaptive_Ace@reddit

No there are other things, like promordial instincts and hormones changes. Remember: all diets work in the short term, no diet works on the long term

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ShillinTheVillain@reddit

It's an awkward compliment to give. Even with the best intentions, it like saying "hey, great job, you used to be fat."

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PinkLady1983@reddit

Yes it really is. I don’t ever comment on someone’s weight/body without them mentioning it first because some people feel really proud and want to talk about it and some people have other reasons for losing weight and don’t want it mentioned.

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demart77@reddit

Oh totally.

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DramaticErraticism@reddit

These days, if I see someone lose a lot of weight, I just think 'I wonder where they got their ozempic.'

I never think it's through hard work and dedication.

I have no problem with ozempic, to be clear. I think it is the most useful medication that will change the world and save hundreds of billions in medical costs. It's a miracle drug.

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RoxyLA95@reddit

Wow, that’s incredible! You must feel so much better. Everything is going adore to do.

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insomniacandsun@reddit

Wow! Congratulations!!

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DurantaPhant7@reddit

I can see both ends of this. If you’ve worked really hard to lose weight, naturally you are going to want people to notice.

Here’s the other side-a couple of years ago I experienced a severe trauma that left me with PTSD. I lost almost 60 pounds in about 3 months. I could not keep down food, and was constantly nauseous. I dropped to a very unhealthy 102 pounds at 5’4”, a weight I hadn’t been at since I was in high school 40 years ago, when I was four inches shorter. Anytime I saw someone I hadn’t seen for awhile, they would comment on my weight loss and tell me I looked great. I didn’t feel like I looked great, when I see photos of myself in that time I think I looked pretty awful, bones sticking out all over and a hollowed out face, I lost all of my curves. While I was a bit overweight when it started, I didn’t think I looked terrible at 160, but my normal weight as an adult had always been between 140-150 for the majority of my adult life, and I felt healthy and like I looked in that range. I hated when I’d see someone and they would tell me I looked great. While I know everyone was coming from a place of kindness, it made me sad that it was constantly brought up, and also made me feel shitty about how I looked before, and I started questioning myself about whether everyone thought I was overweight or looked bad all that time.

I don’t think people should comment about weight in any direction unless given an opening-like if someone were to mention they’d been working out or dieting, that feels like an invitation to congratulate them. At one point when I saw someone hadn’t seen for a couple of years, he said “wow you lost a ton of weight, you look fantastic!” And I responded “Actually, I’ve been pretty ill and it wasn’t intentional” and he doubled down and said “well at least you got something good out of it!”. Again, I know he was likely trying to be nice, but ugh.

Especially since we’re moved back into the super skinny trend recently, I just don’t think we should be praising skinniness. There’s so many people with eating disorders, and the societal hyper-emphasis on thinness doesn’t help. But I fully understand why people would want to be recognized for an achievement they’ve put a lot of work into.

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tevamom99@reddit

It’s just tricky either way. I saw one of my husband’s coworkers the other day after not seeing him for awhile and he obviously lost a bunch of weight. I asked my husband about it in private and he told me that he’d quit drinking but also that he had some health issues going on. So better that I didn’t say anything (not that I was going to)

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AskMrScience@reddit

I’ve started adding “and are we happy about that?” when asking about weight loss or other body changes. Sometimes I get “Yes, thanks! I worked really hard!” and other times I get “My dad died and I wasn’t eating well.” (I haven’t yet gotten the dreaded “I have cancer”.)

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ForceGhost47@reddit

Hahaha I just lost 60 pounds and felt the same way for a while. I told everyone I was fine and now the compliments are rolling in lol

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Maladaptive_Ace@reddit

The thing is you shouldn't comment on anyone's drastic body changes because you don't know the cause - unless you have reason to believe they need some kind of help

I say this as someone recovering from a decades long eating disorder. My body weight changed dramatically many times. Some times people did "compliment" me on weight loss - which only exacerbated my condition.

No one said anything when I gained weight back. Although I desperately wish someone had said .. "hey. You ok?" I wasn't.

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mentos33@reddit

42 here. currently fixing myself. i am down 165 lbs since August and no plans on stopping anytime soon

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DramaticErraticism@reddit

When you're young and you lose weight, you still have all that thick skin on your face, so you look lean and healthy.

When you get older, your skin becomes more thin and some people can look quite ghastly if they lose the fat in their face. If you lose too much weight, it can look downright skeleton-like.

It can be annoying to do all the work and lose the weight and then look in the mirror and be unhappy with what you see.

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lalalaicanthereyou@reddit

I'd be too worried that the weight loss was from a devastating illness to ever comment.

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mercuric_drake@reddit

I remember when Alton Brown from the Food Network lost a bunch of weight and everyone was concerned. He had to release a statement saying everything was OK and that he was just trying to he more healthy.

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Famous_Attention5861@reddit

When I told my doctor I had lost 50 pounds she asked me if it was planned. I told her that it wasn't, I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, had started riding my bike everywhere, and was in a better place.

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MicrosoftSucks@reddit

The reason they ask that btw is because unexplained weight loss is a symptom of a few diseases.

Also congrats on getting to a better place in life.

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Famous_Attention5861@reddit

Thanks! And yeah, nothing is more awkward than congratulating someone on their weight loss journey only to find out they have cancer.

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Neverwannabeahun@reddit

THIS. Like the Enky boys dad…he was losing weight because he was dying but hadn’t shared yet and people were all in the comments talking about it. And after he did share if someone had missed it they still commented. It was just a bigger scale of what people see day to day.

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Mantzy81@reddit (OP)

The opposite is asking someone when they're due when actually they just over-indulged - similar awkwardness.

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andiinAms@reddit

I’ve had that happen to me 2x in my life when I was younger. A stranger asking me when I was due in public… mortifying. For me and for them. Dont comment unless they bring it up.

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MicrosoftSucks@reddit

Seriously, yea.

Like asking someone why they don't have kids and it's because they can't or don't want to pass down some terrible disease.

People need to mind their own business.

We need to bring back finishing school to teach basic etiquette.

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On_my_last_spoon@reddit

Yeah the last time I lost a lot of weight I was going through a divorce!

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ZarquonsFlatTire@reddit

Yup.

After an illness my doctor asked if I had any weight changes recently. I admitted that since I hit 40 I put on about 25 pounds.

She said "Well people lose weight with cancer, so that's better than you think it is in this context."

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timidwildone@reddit

I think this may be another reason the “was it intentional?” response comes up. It’s seemingly become a standard Q in medical questionnaires for folks our age.

Between that and a positive culture shift—greater awareness of the fact that commenting on another’s body is generally impolite and frequently unwelcome—it seems we handle these types of things with more sensitivity than even we as individuals have experienced in our own, earlier lives.

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dw617@reddit

They’re probably jealous.

It’s also rude to comment like that on anyone’s physical appearance like that, especially if it’s a colleague or acquaintance.

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Mantzy81@reddit (OP)

That's a sad way to think about others. Are you okay? People can just be interested in your well-being and we are a social species by nature.

It's not necessarily rude to mention it, especially if you've noticed other things that go alongside it - and how closely you work with someone. There are ways to talk that you can alter depending on your audience and if it's a one-on-one chat or in a group.

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dw617@reddit

Hey, I just shared a perspective.

Why bother posting if you know the answers already?

Are you okay?

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pwmg@reddit

Call me old fashioned, but I don't say shit about anybody's weight unless they very clearly and specifically bring it up to me as something they want to discuss. That is a textbook high risk low reward conversation starter.

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Big_Shot_Rob@reddit

I do it for (fellow) men when I see they’ve been hitting the weights. You definitely notice when their shoulders get bigger. Something to the effect of “bro you’re looking swole af. What’s working? Never once has a dude gotten offended and almost every time they feel amazing that someone noticed.

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littleyellowbike@reddit

Honestly I think you could safely comment on obvious muscle gain for women, too (as long as you do it in a non-creepy, unsexual way). Nobody is gaining muscle accidentally. That takes time and consistent work.

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timidwildone@reddit

This is the way.

We just returned to office recently, and I noticed a coworker had slimmed down. Did not say a word until he brought it up yesterday while complaining about the chairs in our all-day meeting room.

“I don’t have as much padding as I used to,” he he said with a laugh.

I said, “Intentional, I hope?” and he confirmed.

I told him congrats, and that I was happy for him and hoped he felt well (generally). Overall a nice way to chat through it without worry of overstepping.

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skywalkerRCP@reddit

Same. Except for close friends.

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Thisley@reddit

Same. I personally hate being asked about it when I lose weight so I don’t mention it to anyone else. To me the subtext of “You look so great!” is “You really looked like shit and if you gain it back you will again!” I know I’m in the minority but I just overall hate it as a conversation topic

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DoucheyMcBagBag@reddit

People are scared you have cancer.

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jlkb24@reddit

Lost over 50lbs since Aug ‘24. Most people don’t say anything but I notice the looks and that alone shows I’ve been doing alright.

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TheB1G_Lebowski@reddit

I lost about 85 lbs over the course of about 2.5 years in my mid 30s.

But when I got down to around 170 from 240 that an old department boss of mine (who is a total asshole with no remorse for what he says) asked me one day why I was so skinny all of a sudden, did I have cancer?!?

I dead faced looked him in the eyes and told him "yes I do" and I waited. That was the first time I ever seen him feel bad for something he said. Once I was done savoring that I just laughed, slapped him on the back and nah I'm joking. Been exercising a lot and eating right. It was awesome.

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Radiant-Mycologist72@reddit

When i was 42, I got to about 10% body fat. I was hungry almost all day every day and exercising sometimes 2x a day.

It sucked.

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Juztaan@reddit

I turn 42 in 23 minutes, and I’m down 55lbs this year.

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CaveMonsterBlues@reddit

And nobody ever asks, “you have been gaining weight at an alarming rate are you ok?”

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bringmethesampo@reddit

I have lost 30lbs and no one in my office dares to ask me about it at all. Apparently it's a complete faux pas nowadays to compliment or mention weight loss. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I get the reasoning but it would be nice to hear someone say something.

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ddmf@reddit

We're at that age where weight loss can be linked to so many things other than diet.

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Stock-Act-2315@reddit

I'm a pharmacy technician and one day an older lady came in who we hadn't seen in a while but had lost a lot of weight. My pharmacist said "wow, you lost a lot of weight. You look great!" to which the lady replied "I got cancer! I'm dying!!!" 😳 I learned that day to just keep my thoughts about people's appearance to myself

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1-2-3RightMeow@reddit

I lost a bunch of weight when my best friend died because I was too sad to eat. People kept commenting how great I looked and asking me for diet tips. What to say? I have a great weight loss plan! Become horribly depressed to the point that you can’t keep down food? You can’t eat while you’re sobbing so try that I guess?

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Ok_Musician_8244@reddit

This was a weird transition of thought for me. I gained a bit of weight from covid times and have never been able to bounce back. Weird change from what I was used to in my 20’s or 30’s being able to do anything I wanted. But I’ve also had some losses in my life, and they all seemed to go drastically downhill when they started loosing weight. It was illnesses that caused it most of the time. Not saying that I still don’t want to loose weight, and it’s bad or anything, but the mentality of healthy, or a healthy weight, has definitely become a bit skewed from how I originally used to view it. Fucking getting old man. 40’s is a different level of hard I wasn’t expecting.

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IlsaMayCalder@reddit

I am halfway to 42(f) and have lost about 75 pounds in the last few years - if it had been any more rapid, I would have thought something was wrong bc of my age lol

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PhoneJazz@reddit

Another 3rd option now is Ozempic/Wegovy/etc.

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cityshepherd@reddit

Another option between medication and the gym is walking. Walking is super easy / low impact and can (and will) make a much bigger difference than many people realize!

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i_am_ellis_parker@reddit

I would love to do more walking about I have a slippery knee (patellar instability). Hurts to walk more than 5 minutes and if it slips I almost collapse. PT and braces only help so much.

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polygonalopportunist@reddit

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rey_as_in_king@reddit

how does that kind of weight loss not fit into the planned option?

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Me_Hate_Me@reddit

I lost 40lbs over the fall and winter and some family asked me what I was doing. I had started testosterone treatment and said it was that. Turns out, I actually had cancer. Next time I saw them I told them I had a killer weigh loss plan.

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Rpd840@reddit

I lost 50 lbs over the past year, mostly due to being diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Now I’m shredded and have a 6-pack for the first time in my life. I’m still adjusting to my 30 inch waist and size small tees.

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parachute--account@reddit

Nice. Good for you! Do you notice people are treating you differently?

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lillychr14@reddit

I lost 100 pounds over the last 9 years. About 50 was the last 8 months. I tell everyone my secret. Divorce and Mounjaro

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WaterAirSoil@reddit

Gotta work on increasing muscle after 40. It boosts your metabolism, eats fat, improves your body composition, and makes everyday tasks a whole hell of a lot easier.

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jrhav80@reddit

I had my first bout of diverticulitis in November, lost 50 lbs. I hate that I have to watch what I eat now. Totally worth it to lose the weight though.

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Artemis-2017@reddit

Yeah weight is a tough one, so I tend not to mention it. We can talk about it if they bring up the subject. I like to tell people they look good or healthy when I really think that. You can often tell when someone has been working out more or eating healthier- they glow. ;))

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iminsideaphone@reddit

Have you considered gaining weight instead? I couldn’t get rid of love handles no matter what I tried. Ultimately I grew my late and shoulders, love handles look smaller by comparison

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Mantzy81@reddit (OP)

Yeah, love handles are a pain. It's all about body fat %. I'm genetically disposed to them so also have issues losing them but as my bf% gets lower, so do they, but slower. Getting that triangular shape shape in your shoulders/chest does reduce their appearance, as does not wearing boxers that are too tight!

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Esteban_Rojo@reddit

I’m on my way and it’s from not drinking and running.

Only guy who noticed was my worst enemy at work. I’m convinced it’s a mind game.

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don51181@reddit

I had a cousin who lost weight in his 50’s and someone mentioned it. He said it was due to his recent diabetes diagnosis. I think it’s because of the medicine.

As you said you never know what might be the cause of a weight loss. I also know someone taking an Ozempic type med who lost a lot of weight. The side effects were tough though.

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MotherofaPickle@reddit

I’ve had so many friends and family be diagnosed with cancer in their 20s-40s that, on the rare occasion I do ask, I say, “You’ve lost some weight! What changed?”

About half the time the answer is, “It was time for a change, so I stopped eating garbage.” The other half is usually a Bad Life/Health event.

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ptero_smack_dyl@reddit

I lost 100 lbs in my 40s, but I did it extremely slowly. Like 1-4 lbs a month. I didn’t wanna do anything drastic, I just made small adjustments to food quantity and increases in physical activity. I often got people doing double takes and saying “I feel like you look different than 2 years ago” but that was it. Unlike in my 20s, I did this for health and not looks. If I look good, cool, yay. But mostly I wanna keep my back and knees in good shape for the upcoming decades.

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Verbull710@reddit

A way to answer this question before it's asked is to also gain muscle, that way nobody needs to wonder if you're doing some diet thing or dying lol

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KitnwtaWIP@reddit

Congratulations on making adjustments to your life that bring you wellness. Almost never easy, almost always worth it.

I have stayed in roughly the same weight range since high school. 5’3ish and 125ish lbs.

In the nineties I was “too fat” for grumpy young men and “too skinny” for grumpy old women. Now grumpy young men are completely unconcerned about my girth and the old women in my life see only knees and backs.

I hope that helps.

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YouKleptoHippieFreak@reddit

It's true. I have a coworker who lost a lot of weight a few years ago. My first thought was, 'Is she sick?'

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Vox_Mortem@reddit

No one wants to be the guy who says "Wow, you look great! You lost a lot of weight!" to a cancer patient.

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penciljockey123@reddit

Lost about 45 pounds through a WFPB vegan diet and it’s helped tons with other health issues. Personally it was just the realization that I have the power to be a healthier person and it’s not rocket science. Eat more plants and move more. I found my way to this lifestyle for health and stayed for the animal / environmental welfare.

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Beaverhuntr@reddit

I’m 43 and on day 54 of the 75 Hard workout / diet plan. Lost 20lbs so far.

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LH99@reddit

I’ve tried maintaining a target weight within a certain amount. I’m not in great shape but decent shape. 44 and still doing p90 routines and have been for quite a long time.

But this year was the first time I ever felt limited. Strained an ab muscle. It’s been a long recovery. This week was supposed to be my return to weight training after three months of just cardio. That was spoiled by helping friends who own a bar move a big cooler and messing up my back (with a lot of other help). Mind you: I never thought I exerted or lifted wrong. I thought I barely worked that day. Just a weird twist and the lower back/obliques put me down.

Getting old sucks.

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ZarquonsFlatTire@reddit

What's funny is when I was in my 20s I lost 40 pounds and only one person asked how I did it.

"Well my fiancee left me so I wasn't hungry for about six months."

It wasn't on purpose.

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LouisTheGreatDane22@reddit

Coworker wants to know if you’re on Ozempic and how you afford it with the health plan. Concerned you’re making more money. Always tread lightly in the office, you have no friends.

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ExternalGiraffe9631@reddit

I think the attitude about weight has changed so much in the past 20 years that people have started using this as a more polite way of discussing weight loss. It really is super rude to say "you look great after losing weight". Especially without knowing the method. Ex: A family friend lost over 30 pounds in less than 6 weeks, an unhealthy amount so quickly. My father-in-law said "I almost didn't recognize you. You're so skinny. You look great. I bet (husbands name) can't keep his hands off you." She said "I looked great before." and walked away. She had lost so much weight because she was going through a divorce, custody battle, and had planned funerals for both of her parents in different states who each died of Covid related pneumonia 3 weeks apart. Asking "was it planned" is a much more polite way to initiate a discussion about someone else's body.

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buffysmanycoats@reddit

Idk I lost a bunch of weight in my early 30s and even back then I had someone, an older woman, very nicely check in to make sure it was intentional.

I think the age and experience of the people asking is the bigger factor than your age.

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Ph4ntorn@reddit

I agree that what someone says is more about the commenter’s experience.

My mom had a friend in her 50s who had an aggressive cancer that made her look pregnant. It was painful for her when people asked when the baby was due. That was when I learned that you don’t assume women are pregnant.

I had a coworker in her 30s who lost a lot of weight because she was sick and couldn’t keep food down. That was when I learned you don’t assume people who lose weight were trying to.

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ISeeYouNoThanks@reddit

Public school teacher & gay male. Was extremely overweight (270 at 5-11) after a really rough few years. The school year that ended with us going into lockdown, I started counting calories and other teachers would hassle me so much. Like, stupid petty shit about my choices. Anyway, we all went through lockdown and I continued losing 4-8lbs a month.

Came back at around 175.

Got asked if I had AIDS.

Not even kidding. Eat shit, Miss Judy.

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Zestyclose_Goal2347@reddit

I lost 30 lbs and no one has said anything about it. But a few people have complimented me on my hair, which has not changed at all.

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Away_Big_4849@reddit

At least it is a compliment? One time my mother bleached her hair for summer and my grandmother’s unprompted reaction was, “what happened to your face?” 😬

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Zestyclose_Goal2347@reddit

Oh geez!

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SignificantApricot69@reddit

I get it, because I do know some acquaintances who lost weight due to an illness or because they were forced to change their lifestyle so they wouldn’t lose their life to an illness.

As for me, I lost weight because I got healthier.

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Bobo_Baggins_jatj@reddit

I don’t know if it’s genetic or what, but I’ve never had a lot of energy in my life so I lean to the sedentary side. I’ve always had a belly and struggled to lose below a certain point, even when eating healthy and exercising. Weird thing is every time I leave the US, I drop weight like mad. I’m freshly 47 and was in Europe in April. I ate heavy and drank all the beer. Lost almost 10lbs in as many days. Happens every time I’m away from American food.

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BowTrek@reddit

I bring up that I’m going to the gym and working on weight loss— and that seems to “free” people to comment on it. At least a little. Because I’ve volunteered the intentional/goal portion at lunch breaks etc.

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mtron32@reddit

It depends on the method. Both of my friends who were chubby, were suddenly very toned and solid, only the kitchen and the gym get you there. Other people just look like the life was sucked out of them which could be just a diet or illness, so I keep my mouth shut

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Background_Title_922@reddit

I had some "unplanned" weight loss last year - 55 lbs and now I'm underweight. Still kind of a mystery why. I would have happily stopped at 25 lbs. My boss has commented on it a couple times, the first time he was like "way to go" and the second time was like "you ok?" And no, there wasn't anything inappropriate about these comments. Outside of family no one else has mentioned it. It's been interesting.

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22220222223224@reddit

Hmm, my weight fluctuates ridiculously (sometimes I'm 160, other times I'm 250). I have NEVER been asked about the weight gains. I have OFTEN been asked about the weight losses. I have always found it very weird that I was feeling like I was being thin shamed. I never knew what motivated that. But, maybe you just gave me a possible answer.

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cheltsie@reddit

Yeah, this. I am actually bigger than I would like to be because I get less comments this way. Had far, far too many negative comments and unwanted touching (from other women, not men) when I was actually at my healthiest.

Trying to reverse it a bit now. Will be 41 in a couple of months and realized I'd rather be going further into my 40s at the right weight than overweight. Going to have to battle the fear of potential comments to do ot.

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CaptinEmergency@reddit

GLP-1

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Harkonnen_Dog@reddit

Eggs and sweet potatoes, homie.

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Designer-Bid-3155@reddit

I'm guessing you're a man if you're losing weight in your 40s. No perimenopause for you

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usernames_suck_ok@reddit

Every time I've lost a lot of weight since around 30, it has been because I was really sick/something was wrong. Interestingly, no one has ever asked!

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After_Preference_885@reddit

I lost around 80 lbs when my partner had cancer and everyone said I looked so great, it was really annoying like yep we can't afford food for both of us and this is really stressful thanks

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CelticSith@reddit

Yep, getting older, it's less "wow you look great" but instead "omg are you fighting cancer"

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Wonderful_Judge115@reddit

I think asking if weight loss was planned is a good way to politely inquire.

I’ve seen someone lose over 50 lbs since I last saw her (but in my eye, she didn’t look well). I didn’t comment but others gushed about how amazing she looked. She actually lost weight because she had cancer.

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TheJokersWild53@reddit

I actually did in my 30s. I’m a guy and I got the wake-up call when my chest jiggled going down stairs. I started eating better right away and went from 185 -> 155. And go figure, my knee pain went away ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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PhoneJazz@reddit

Was it planned?

Funny, people also wonder that about being pregnant in your 40s.

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balding_git@reddit

i’ve been trying but i’ve been stuck at the same weight for about 2 years. doesn’t stop my mother from asking if i’ve lost weight every time i see her

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Stang1776@reddit

"Are you losing weight?"

"Depends when I saw you last and do you have a scale?"