Women of the UK do you feel safer abroad or in the UK?
Posted by x_franki_berri_x@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 11 comments
I’ve come to Rome alone without my husband for the week. Arrived yesterday around midday and went for a walk in the afternoon and then again in the evening and I’ve probably been touched and had more suggestive comments in the three hours walking here than I have in five years back home.
Same thing happened in Turkey a couple of years ago but I went to France and Germany last year and had no problems at all.
The13thReservoirDog@reddit
My cousin had a bad experience on holiday in turkey.. she was only about 12 years old, a man walked up to us, grabbed her hand and tried to walk away with her. It was a crowded place packed with people, we could have easily lost her that day/
the worst part was, the police let this creep of a man walk free with just a few words exchanged between them.
we went back to the hotel to discuss going home, decided we’d stay but only in the hotel complex.
worst place ive ever been to. I wouldnt go back if i won a free holiday to go back
daffodilschild@reddit
Makes me so angry, the police acting like that.
RookCrowJackdaw@reddit
I went to Turkey alone. Never again. In the UK I know how it works. I'm not necessarily safer and like every woman I know have been on the receiving end of sexual harassment, assault, inappropriate 'banter', jokes, comments, touching from men at work, socially and on the street. I thought it would get better as I get older but apparently not. In France and Germany it's always been ok but those are just short trips so it's not a fair comparison. I wouldn't go out on my own at night in any city anywhere. I think most women are the same. It doesn't matter where you are, if you're not safe walking alone in a city then you're not safe. Men are not that different from one country to the next.
LJMele@reddit
You are necessarily safer. You are objectively safer in the UK than turkey. To suggest otherwise is idiotic. And to say men behaviour wise in the UK are not that different than in places like turkey is stupid to the point of being borderline offensive.
RookCrowJackdaw@reddit
Lol my guess is you're a bloke? Well honestly, you don't know enough about what it's like to be a woman then. Objectively safer is not the experience of women on the receiving end of violence, abuse, harassment in the UK. Not all men behave badly towards women, but the vast majority, the overwhelming majority of women who have been on the receiving end of sexual harassment or violence, have been harassed by men. Men at work, husbands, partners, brothers, fathers, guys out for a night, guys on the street, on the train, tube, bus. It's an everyday occurrence for women. To think otherwise is naive and disingenuous.
daffodilschild@reddit
This. ✅
daffodilschild@reddit
Do you read the news and stats on sexual harassment in the uk?
Frolicking_Trex@reddit
I went to Iceland alone, felt extremely safe. I was also in Vienna recently and it was the same. Amsterdam I felt less safe but no less so than walking around london. Meanwhile when I lived in Canada sometimes I did sometimes I didn't it all depends on the city, and even area within the city. It is really variable on location.
TheWholesomeBrit@reddit
Vienna is lovely. I instantly felt at home there. The people can be very grumpy, but there's massive groups of tourists constantly in the way so I'm not surprised.
GorgiDD@reddit
Yeah I love Vienna, it's a beautiful city but I've not felt safe there since the refuge crisis. Was catcalled and literally circled around by 5 men. Actually it led to my first argument with my then boyfriend. 2 of us, 5 of them. They're starring at me, literally walking in circles around me with their jaws open. Really bloody unpleasant. However, I just wanted us to leave (we couldn't go far as we waited for our bus) but you know, not engage with them as 2 vs 5 isn't a great situation in my mind. Whilst my boyfriend thought fuck that, they're disrespecting you so he started shouting at them to fuck off. Luckily our bus came and they didn't hurt us but I hated how he put his ego before our safety. There isn't much we could do against 5 men potentially carrying a knife?
daffodilschild@reddit
My ex insisted we walk through a London park at night, when I said I really didn’t want to. Not same as your situation. But it strikes me how men find it hard to understand what is simply best.