Do people actually come home from work and just start drinking?

Not in our household, but our parents do. This is going to be controversial but in our house we dont drink, we smoke weed. I shall give a breakdown of what that means and why: My grandparents were alcoholics and i had a really bad relationship with them (and ongoing trauma) as a result. My mum is mildly a problem drinker/ borderline alcy in the normal sense (as seen in this thread, drinks every day because she need it and usually has more than one glass). My partners mum is same as mine and his dad is a real ex alcoholic in the same sense as my grandparents. So needless to say we've both witnessed the not great and the really bad sides of drink. Im also on some strong medication that clashes with alcohol, so any joy i once experienced from having a drink has now been replaced with intense nausea and a weird sensation of my limbs feeling like lead weights. Im also now basically a lightweight because of that haha. Generally though, i just dont enjoy how it makes me feel during or after (not being drunk, but like the headache and other bodily symptoms, and the intense fatigue with almost immediate onset). My partner does enjoy the occassional drink, but is intensely afraid of turning into his father, so limits himself to a sensible amount and only on specific occasions. He also has sleep apnea, and snores more with alcohol in his system, so he knows he will be sleeping/waking up alone if he has a drink. That being said, my health conditions mean that i needed to find a solution so i could live normally, and after lots of stress i ended up smoking weed medicinally. (if you want to know more ive talked about it a lot on reddit, so feel free to stalk my prior comments!) Its mostly pain relief and autonomic/neuropathic regulation, but it does work fantastically for my mental health conditions too. I started out on an as and when needed pattern, but it felt quite unsustainable. Ive now worked out a dosage pattern so im keeping the levels consistent, like i would with other meds. It works perfectly but i often dwell on the similarities between this routine and my grandparent's drinking habits. I have to remind myself that the whole purpose of my weed usage is exactly the same as how i take my citalopram, pregabalin, progestogen pill, etc. Its just regular medication dosages to treat a problem. I do sometimes use a rescue dose if im having a panic attack or pain flare up, but mostly it is on a schedule. That being said, i do on occasion decide to take a recreational dose, because i cant drink and i dont have any form of release like others do with alcohol. Its pretty easy to draw a line with it though, because i only really do that when im in the company of other weed smokers who want to smoke. Im too tight (on money) to waste my medication on wants rather than needs. Id be stupid to use it for funsies because i then wouldnt have any left to medicate the real symptoms. Im also not a massive fan of the actual sensation of inhaling it, and definitely not of the health impacts. So im hesitant to let myself smoke more than absolutely necessary. My usage has crept up and does cost money too so its a case of checking in on myself and being generally self aware. I plan on switching mostly to dry herb vape and edibles as soon as possible and starting up a prescription plan/membership when i am able to, but it is actually fairly inaccessible for me to do so right now. I keep dropping in and browsing my options and then deciding i have to put it off a bit longer due to money etc. BM is not the one but needs must when you are desparate. My partner smokes weed too, but not in the same way as me. He considers it recreational, and has one after work/ on an evening before bed in the same manner that most would have a single glass of wine/ beer. I would argue that he is self medicating without realising it. He has what im pretty sure is a strong case of undiagnosed and poorly managed adhd, and having a spliff completely levels him out and makes him function in a more regular manner. He has only recently started to accept this about himself, but im confident that his after work spliff is actually quite important in allowing him to re- regulate himself and reset after a hard day. I also notice a lot of parallels between his and my mental health (and how it responds to cannabis). I dont endorse it because smoking is bad for your health and this country is not the most accepting of cananbis, but i will tell you it has helped me to no end and i shall be continuing on with my system. As an aside, i make sure any and all health professionals that i interact with are fully clued in on my situation, as its really important to a) keep and eye on your health and b) make healthcare professionals aware of any potential contraindications. So my mental health practitioner, GP (and nurses), dentist, and any big regular folks are all up to date, and i tell any random hospital staff if necessary. Most importantly, i make sure it is accurately reflected on my birth control reviews. Despite being disabled and asexual i have to take bc because i take pregabalin (its the rulez) and my health could be impacted by smoking on bc. I honestly think cannabis could help a hell of a lot of people and should be legalised fully in the uk. I try not to judge but i do struggle with my dislike of alcohol, and i often think it should be slightly more well regulated over here, or at least provide better education on the topic. Although perhaps that is hypocritical of me and i need to get over my biases.