Reddit alternative with more emotionally mature community?
Posted by finllyaskingforhelp@reddit | RedditAlternatives | View on Reddit | 52 comments
Tired of the Reddit community embracing and stoking the flames of trolls and cruel people.
Where is better?
whirled-news@reddit
https://discuit.org/
N-Slash@reddit
Highly seconding this!
Kgvdj860m@reddit
You might want to try https://bluedwarf.top. It supports free speech but without the name calling and harassment that other such sites allow. So, users are free to engage with each other on topics that are important to them without having to engage in an online shouting match to be heard..
madthumbz@reddit
Reddit has been using AI or something recently to automatically remove a lot of abusive posts before they're seen or before mods can even review them. -Something moderators are seeing.
It surprises me what they're removing as well because what they permit people to send in mod-mail without consequence (at least in the past) was ridiculous.
Anyway, each community has its own rules and moderation. Legit issues with reddit are more along the lines of what they censor, suppress, and promote. -No one should confine themselves to one site.
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Funny you say that, I have noticed a change in the subreddits. I was afraid to acknowledge it. Every time I’ve acknowledged in the past, it was short lived. Trolls seem to sniff it out when you start lowering your defenses a little.
SoggyGrayDuck@reddit
And what is going on with digg? I got my username and am ready to check it out
FanClubs_org@reddit
Have you tried looking into smaller, more focused communities?
rikaxnipah@reddit
Agreed..it's why I made my own Lemmy instance for fandom communities to create and have a space that's friendly and welcoming. It's not open yet but slowly working on it.
FanClubs_org@reddit
That’s the purpose of Fan Clubs, as well! Stop by sometime and feel free to start a club if you’d like. 😀
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Do you mean on reddit, or elsewhere?
FanClubs_org@reddit
I mean elsewhere. Reddit is great for general questions, but if you really want to get a real discussion going, it's going to come from specialized communities.
Business and entrepreneurial communities for topics like project management, finance, careers discussions, etc. A community for homeowners to talk about daily living, gardening, family advice, etc. etc.
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Thats a good idea! And, way more enriching than this. Hm, this is definitely the way to go. Thanks!
FanClubs_org@reddit
Happy to help!
keepthepace@reddit
4chan
plebbit_echo_chamber@reddit
He said more emotionally mature
whatever73538@reddit
Lemmy is too small to be useful. Also each server an echo chamber.
Mindestiny@reddit
I'm sorry, but what?
Those two sites are notorious for being nothing but terminally online "tech heads" who ramp up the pretentiousness and power tripping to 11. I don't think I've ever seen a stack exchange thread where someone just answered the fucking question without being a mix of hostile, horribly condescending, and rules lawyering about how this post doesn't belong here because someone asked something similar (but not the same) 8 years ago and OP didnt thoroughly search enough for their tastes.
whatever73538@reddit
Yes, on stack exchange there is one rule, and yes, if you break it, people will remind you. But what this rule buys you:
While on reddit, it’s all spam and trolls. People ask the same questions and repost the same crap daily. On r/FOO, „i have this problem with foo“ will be downvoted. „Why is foo the greatest thing in the world“ will be upvoted. „Here is a serious problem with foo, i present original research, provide proof and cite sources“ will be screamed down.
Moderators have their own little fascist enclaves where they rule without checks and balances, and ban opinions. There are two subreddits about the same thing. On one, you are not allowed to say good things about that thing, on the other you are not allowed to say bad things. I got posts deleted on both for citing peer reviewed papers from prestigious journals.
Mindestiny@reddit
Brother, if that's your view of StackExchange then you're either living in an alternative dimension or you're one of the people who spends all day on StackExchange playing pretentious rules lawyer.
The "community" there is an absolute joke to the people who don't spend all day on there because of how absolutely hostile and gatekeepy it is. It's not about "inconvenient truth" it's about being hip deep in pretentious self-importance that actively gets in the way of getting answers to technical questions.
whatever73538@reddit
Thank you.
If you are happy on reddit, more power to you.
I am grateful for all the help, advice and insight i got on SE.
I feel that you insulting me on reddit nicely underscores the difference in tone on the two sites. :-P
As long as we both have places to go to learn & get our questions answered, all is well :-)
Roger_Weebert@reddit
Lemmy feels the same way tbf
Mindestiny@reddit
I was trying not to say it, but yes. Lemmy and the rest of the "fediverse" is absolutely overflowing with self important pretentiousness and political extremism. It's even more uninviting and insular than reddit, it's only "better" if you're looking for even more of an echo chamber of people you zealously agree with about everything
Ween01d@reddit
4chan
AnonomousWolf@reddit
I really enjoy PieFed
It's part of the Fediverse and integrates with Mastodon and Lemmy
flexxipanda@reddit
Every social media with a big enough user base will be like this.
Delicious_Ease2595@reddit
Redditors are the least mature so most alternatives are fine
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Are you aware of promising alternatives?
habarnam@reddit
I would say tildes.net . They have some very hard moderator stances on non-politically correct discussions, but people generally behave like adults.
Delicious_Ease2595@reddit
Lemmy is still the most promising because decentralization and clients. The only downside very few instances are worth to try and smaller communities. Maybe Digg is promising.
Roger_Weebert@reddit
Define promising. The way Lemmy is set up is so complicated that I can’t see any way it ever really takes off among anyone other than terminally online nerds (including me). I started using it the other day and want it to succeed, but so far I can’t even find a reasonably active community for general sports discussion, much less specific leagues.
probable_chatbot6969@reddit
I'm on 5 different instances (2 of them considered problematic by the greater community) and have federated many others and compared to reddit, it's just so much better. I only keep coming back here because the community size is larger for my more niche interests but everyone I interact over there is just so much nicer and non-combative
AP_Estoc@reddit
No u
Xerxero@reddit
4chan?
Discussion-is-good@reddit
Reddit is the best you got as far as SM in my experience.
pomegracias@reddit
mastodon is great
hastogord1@reddit
You might try ours.
https://www.letit.net/company/about
coopers_recorder@reddit
Smaller communities on RedNote and TikTok. It's nice to know who you're actually interacting with. On Reddit I really can't tell if someone is who they say they are or a troll or a bot.
OsmanFetish@reddit
it's the internet, not the particular outlet
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Some sites are better moderated and have a different culture and will cut it out at the root. But, you do have a point. Its the idea of anonymity that makes them so bold.
OsmanFetish@reddit
I've been here since 2008 , and every chatroom, mailing list, forum, ends the same way, it's fun and games at first, until it devolves into our current state , goes In cycles , but gets progressively worse as time goes by, and surely, anonymity makes everyone dicks
Mindestiny@reddit
The mods. The only thing worse than reddit mods are old school BBS mods. If you thought you've seen power tripping, hooooo boy
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Damn. Maybe I am better off just not trying. It’s a headache and I’m not a glutton for punishment. No use hoping a troll’s den will change. I appreciate your candidness.
OsmanFetish@reddit
no point in not trying to find a place, build your own community here on reddit moderate it, and grow it with like minded people, it's doable
GoldieForMayor@reddit
All hope on Digg.com
SethTaylor987@reddit
Lemmy
Blarghnog@reddit
Haven’t found it. Sorry mate. Lmk if you do.
Electronic-Phone1732@reddit
Lemmy is small, but as long as you stick to the good communities its more pleasant.
barrygateaux@reddit
Real life.
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Yes im trying to cull the addiction that returns me back to online groups. Still have hope that somewhere out there, there’s a site with generally well-meaning people who don't get thrills from being jerks. Starting to think that’s a pipe dream, though.
barrygateaux@reddit
Yeah, unfortunately. The golden days are gone. It's just bots, depressed nihilists, Facebook mum's, right wing conspiracy nuts, and angry terminally online nowadays.
Bulky_Ad_5832@reddit
you can find better communities, but most of them are web 1.0 and being a funny troll is a feature.
finllyaskingforhelp@reddit (OP)
Man. How did it become so celebrated to be a cruel dunce. Maybe I’ll stick to reality. Social media has become the home for insane, self-obsessed, cruel people and I don't know why I stick around for it.