Cross my heart and hope to die

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avagrantthought@reddit

I can kind of relate. For some reason, people on discord think feedback and advice automatically means you're friends.

Almost everytime I gave suggestions to someone asking about PC parts on discord, or how to improve their writing or helping them with their English, it almost always involves them messaging you and going from asking occasionally about advice on the topic, to telling you about their day, problem, friends, beliefs, etc.

It doesn't sound too annoying but for some reason these people are almost always a) Extremely self centered and only want to talk about themsleves B)Seem to take things way too personally and C)Can't get a fucking hint.

My advice to anon is to just ignore personal messages all together on that dog shit platform

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White-Monkey2407@reddit

Eventually they started getting into being a 'femboy' and started to buy wigs, skirts, etc and talking to me about how their mom reacted, etc. it was really fucking weird and I started ignoring them all together when they started to send pictures showing more and more skin.

Life truly gives bread to those with no teeth 💔🥀 *

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The-End-203@reddit

Wait what the fuck that exact thing happened to me lol down to talking about their mom's reaction and sending me images

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avagrantthought@reddit

I'm not into minors. Hope that clears things up.

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Vivid-Smell-6375@reddit

r/196 users wet dream

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avagrantthought@reddit

What is?

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Vivid-Smell-6375@reddit

Minors coming to you instead of the other way around ofc

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avagrantthought@reddit

Sorry, I'm a little groggy today. Wod the 196 user be the minor in this case or is it the wet dream of the 196 user to have minors come to them?

And what do you think of 196 as a whole?

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Vivid-Smell-6375@reddit

Yes

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avagrantthought@reddit

Very well

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White-Monkey2407@reddit

Should have stated that first

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avagrantthought@reddit

It was already stated a few times.

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ElPuercoGordo@reddit

Accidental groomer

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proelefsiis@reddit

man you were also a teenager too

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avagrantthought@reddit

True

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bunby_heli@reddit

Real

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ForGrateJustice@reddit

I met a girl (irl) off mIRC, and I can relate to your point about feedback and advice. People just want connection.

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avagrantthought@reddit

What's mIRC?

And I personally don't mind being friendly and talking with someone even if started through advice. I just keep encountering self centered socially inept manchildren back to back to back.

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ForGrateJustice@reddit

"what's mIRC", thanks for making me feel fuckin' old. It's an early chat client, you connect to servers which have channels. Basically discord's daddy.

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htmlcoderexe@reddit

I find it funny that people who grew up with mIRC specifically tend to just call the whole thing that, while anyone using any other clients usually just says IRC.

And yeah discord is IRC's spiritual successor though I am sad that you can't selfhost

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ForGrateJustice@reddit

There are two types of people. Those who know about the mIRC easter egg, and those who don't.

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SpaceBug176@reddit

I feel like you're just seeing the worst of them because the good ones don't get in a position to talk to you since they understand advice doesn't mean being friends.

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avagrantthought@reddit

True, survivorship bias and whatnot

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serial_feet_sniffer@reddit

TLDR: he thinks people who you show brief attention towards (for advice, feedback,...) get way too attached to you.

Also he messaged a femboy

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KerbalCuber@reddit

Thank you, serial feet sniffer

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Zentrion2000@reddit

Thank you.

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Jaruxius@reddit

mfs is lonely

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avagrantthought@reddit

Mfs needs to learn how to behave in social interactions

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Jaruxius@reddit

I only read the first paragraph, so ur probably right

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Fraisz@reddit

this is why i ghost people.

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Doomie_bloomers@reddit

The reason you are missing here is that these folks all have very low (irl) social skills and/or confidence. If you reply in a somewhat decent manner, there's a good chance someone on Discord (especially public servers) will misconstrue it as you actually being friendly, rather than just polite. Had that happen a few times as well, and it was always folks who had low to no standard social awareness of boundaries.

Kinda sad actually; they probably never learned where others usually draw the line, and now they're at the age where people expect it from them, so they don't get chances to learn.

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avagrantthought@reddit

Yes, good point.

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iwasbatman@reddit

20 years ago I was playing around with podcasts and blogs. I had some following that would contact me by e-mail from time to time.

One time a 14 yo kid got in touch with me and we talked for a bit. I gave him some guidance on building computers (he was building his first).

Eventually we became friends. 10 years later we ended up living in the same city and met. Later on I hired him for a technical job (he was pretty good).

We are still friends but he is living in another city.

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G4130@reddit

Was it a handy job?

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iwasbatman@reddit

Can't answer that without a lawyer

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VoDoka@reddit

"I'm not a pedophile or anything"

gif

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GIBBEEEHHH@reddit

I mean I believe anon but the fact he felt the need to point that out is kinda concerning

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CannotFitThisUsernam@reddit

Considering it's 4chan, it's not unreasonable to think repliers would respond with "Lmao this guy is talking to kids on Discord, diddler" without ever addressing the original point

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Smelldicks@reddit

It’s weird as hell to be chatting anonymously with a young boy via the internet so yeah

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thoughtlow@reddit

I am a young boy and you just talked to me.

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G4130@reddit

Heyyy...

Do you need any help perchance?

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Militant_Individual@reddit

It’s only weird because you losers make it weird. In normal society children interact with grown men commonly.

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Smelldicks@reddit

That is inherently different

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Militant_Individual@reddit

It’s not inherently weird at all. It’s only weird because of the implication. If perodphiles didn’t exist it wouldn’t be weird. Therefore not inherently weird.

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AssblasterGerard666@reddit

its not weird until you make it weird. and he exlicitly states he was just helping him, which is a totally normal thing to do.

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Techno-Diktator@reddit

He was just giving him art advice at first no? Seems pretty innocuous

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DefiantBalls@reddit

You don't know who you are speaking with unless they state it tho

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barryhakker@reddit

Anon is suddenly getting concerned that having the boy dress up in a mini skirt and sitting on his lap might make him look bad

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SonofNimue@reddit

"Pedophile" didn't even cross my mind while reading this until anon said it. Feels kinda sus that they feel the need to clarify

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BobbaBlep@reddit

Compassion and empathy are what you should keep doing.

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Pullsberry_Dough_Boy@reddit

What do you mean "what am I supposed to do"? Dude, whatever you want; it's not your problem, you'll be living the same life no matter what happens to the guy.

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ThNeutral@reddit

Most empathetic redditor

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Vietcong777@reddit

He's right though. There's a limit to how much kindness one person can offer.

Endlessly offering life advices to someone with trauma takes a real toll and is more stressful thn you think.

If you search Facebook, there are lots of support groups for people experiencing depression, and then there are also groups specifically for those supporting individuals with depression (i.e. spouses, friends, families, caretakers).

So yeah, I'm definitely on the same page as him with this. If you feel like you can't continue to support someone coping with their misfortunes, then stop it at will even if you feel tremendous guilt about yourself. Your well-being is mattered too.

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GroadyBroady@reddit

True, there's a friend I have on Discord and he keeps trauma dumping about how he's a failure because he's 24 and he already "wasted his life" and is overweight without a girlfriend, and I've tried my best to help him but he just refuses to take my advice, and at this rate I dunno what to do, so I just don't respond, it takes serious mental toll.

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TroxEst@reddit

Tell him to lose weight or it's joever.

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-Danksouls-@reddit

Most empathetic redditor

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Militant_Individual@reddit

I love that you guys don’t think OP knows this. It’s like you’ve never been empathetic towards someone in your life - once you start caring about someone, you can’t just stop caring. That’s the entire dilemma. The dude literally addresses that in his post, but you idiots can’t read so what do I expect.

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Pullsberry_Dough_Boy@reddit

Least crybaby 4chinner

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fishsticksandmayo@reddit

Caring about the wellbeing of a young man = crybaby?

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jackofthewilde@reddit

Yes 4Chan is famous for empathy and acts of kindness. Your insult dosent make sense.

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Pullsberry_Dough_Boy@reddit

Even still, Anon seems to be unusually sensitive

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proud_traveler@reddit

I can't tell if this is bait, or you really are this stupid

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MrPopanz@reddit

Probably both

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Bobby-B00Bs@reddit

You might wanna get yourself checked - like I am not faulting you or anything but maybe you actually do have sociopathic personality disorder ? Because that's unusually little empathy for other people...

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AssblasterGerard666@reddit

unusually sensitive = when caring about your fellow man. got it mr tough guy

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NibPlayz@reddit

Are you a sociopath

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Pullsberry_Dough_Boy@reddit

No. I would never ever ever ever commit a crime because I'm scared of the legal repercussions.

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Marik-X-Bakura@reddit

You could apply this to literally every situation and yet most people would still choose to be kind. Says a lot about you this was your first thought.

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neoqueto@reddit

Real.

Aside from the grooming subtext, ew.

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AleX-46@reddit

Love the random character death scene pic to spoil anyone who may happen to be watching the show lol

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Simpsanit@reddit

Anon is a daddy now

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squishles@reddit

The discord kittens hunted him down.

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Avocado_with_horns@reddit

You people know that you can, in fact, talk to a minor without being a pedo, right?

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bobux-man@reddit

That's very rare on Discord

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Cyalacore@reddit (OP)

Thread

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TheOneGreyWorm@reddit

I didn’t know 4chan had crawled from the grave,
Clicked into /b/, just feeling brave.
What did I find? A familiar spree
Racist porn staring back at me.

Yep... it’s back, as cursed as can be.

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Dorschmeister@reddit

Tho it's /r9k, brobot

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Mesarthim1349@reddit

gif

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draconk@reddit

Because I have an age gap of 8 years with my fiance (I am 32, she 24) all her friends are also around her age with some from where she studies that are around 18, I somehow became the adult that knows their shit (I don't) and once I found myself on the same situation as OP, the mother of a friend just died but since I've had to go through that myself I knew exactly what to do, just be there, tell them that you are there if they need something, become the shoulder to cry in, and I don't even knew her much but I was there with my fiance to help as much as we could.

OP just don't be a dick (unless they ask for money and is clearly an scam, then be one).

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Routine-Ad-2840@reddit

so i've found a lot of these people are actually scammers who are selling the work off on things like fiver, they post in facebook groups "i need help doing this here" and then usually someone does it for them for free out of kindness and then they sell it to the person who commissioned it on facebook or such.

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