Anon claims that Girls only want Chad
Posted by milenavelbasmilkpump@reddit | greentext | View on Reddit | 238 comments
Posted by milenavelbasmilkpump@reddit | greentext | View on Reddit | 238 comments
Smol-Fren-Boi@reddit
Me thinks anon shouldn't have pulled the "you'd be my first" card
Personal-Barber1607@reddit
some girls like that though, I would put it in my bio for a dating website.
There is a whole sub-set of girls out there known as cherry-poppers and they are looking to claim as many virginities as possible. It's seriously a thing.
KeyPickle3432@reddit
BS, the thing is I bet that the vast majority if not all of them don’t want to keep dating the guy after they ”popped his charry“. They still want the popular guy that always had gfs and they won’t stay with you after you lost your virginity to her.
Plus these women are rare anyways so forget about losing the v-card in your later years, it most likely won’t happen, in fact it’s very very very likely that it won’t happen ever, at least for me, I’m not even 29 like the guy you were responding to but more than a decade older. When Incels say ”it’s over“ it really is, at least for me and for many others who aren’t even as old as me.
Personal-Barber1607@reddit
Lol if you think it's over it is for you.
KeyPickle3432@reddit
That’s not how this works, this is literally a red flag to all women, with very very few exceptions maybe. Saying ”It’s only over because you think it is“ is ridiculous, this is not how reality works, this is a ”You’re not getting out of this“ situation.
Personal-Barber1607@reddit
lol no you should stop being a pussy and just ask out every woman you meet on the sidewalk.
One is bound to say yes, either that or you’re just cursed, but until you have seriously shot your shot at hundreds of women your just skipping all the shots expecting to sink the 3 pointer
KeyPickle3432@reddit
Yeah sure, women famously want to get approached by men while minding their own business especially by 5‘5 ugly men. According to women there is never a place or time ever but if a 6‘4 Henry Cavill look-a-like turned around the corner of course they’d be all in immediately. If I‘m a pussy for not wanting to go through 100s of rejections, so be it then.
Personal-Barber1607@reddit
19 years later tell dumbass on Reddit to just do what I did. He tells me will never work so he should just stay in his shell asking nobody out to not get rejected.🙅 I Know dozens of people like that no girlfriend no success alone to this day. Bitter sad blame world think never gonna work.
Live doesn’t just happen idiot you got to make your life happen yourself no beautiful woman is just going to fall from the sky you have to trap them with how awesome you are and pretty soon you got a wife and cute kids. 🧒
KeyPickle3432@reddit
Who are you taking to ? Who did you quote? Facepalm.
Personal-Barber1607@reddit
lol I refuse to fish, why am I starving!
Streets-Disciple@reddit
Anon warns girl that despite nearly every human having the desire to form special intimate bonds with one another, no human has seen him worthy of doing so in his 24 years of life
NCR_High-Roller@reddit
I wonder what that says about my near-29 year old virgin ass.
I guess it really is over.
TheAskald@reddit
Yeah, at that point Idk if I want to go through the grind of years of self improvement, just for facing endless rejection, or at best starting an awkward relationship with a 2/10 leftover landwhale with personality disorder
If I could go back in time to when I was 17-18, I'd give it a shot. But at 28 I'm not willing to go through that. Too much effort for too little probability of success, and even a success might turn out to be something I don't want or is not made for me
Triple96@reddit
Just makes it kinda awkward stating it that way..
3merite@reddit
You miss every shot that you don't take.
Shufflekarpfen@reddit
Saying you would be my first is terribly flirting though. Just sounds sad
Scary_Cup6322@reddit
Depends. Coming from the average anon, sure, it definitely does.
But anyone with a bit of social skills can definitely say that stuff without seeming sad.
TheLoneGoon@reddit
I think doing this conversation face to face instead of over text, a little smile and good intonation would make this sweet instead of sad.
Scary_Cup6322@reddit
Exactly. Something like "you're the first i ever wanted to start something serious with".
MarysPoppinCherrys@reddit
Idk man I tried this out in anons position (not that old tho, and not a virgin) with a girl I had a bunch of classes with and hung out with a lot (and I’m not completely socially broken so we were flirting) and bro, that ended it. She asked why I haven’t had a girlfriend and I said I was just waiting for the right person for anything serious and that was it. All flirting done with, wouldn’t text or snap back, ignored me in class, all that.
Which I kinda get. If you’ve never been in a relationship past a certain age that can be a legit red flag about your ability to maintain one. I feel like guys will romanticize that in women but honestly it’s a flag for them too. Different but still a sign of something.
But we were aight like a year after that tho. Hadnt talked since but had a bunch more classes together and ended up partnering on every project and going out for drinks and shit after class, just as proof I’m not social fucked.
Scary_Cup6322@reddit
Perhaps she just wanted something casual? That line does come with the implication that'll be a long term relationship, if you use it with someone who isn't looking for, or at least alright with, that, it's bound to scare them off.
Well, see it positively. You're attractive enough (either looks wise or personality wise, or both) that she was considering you for a casual relationship. That means you're attractive enough for women who are looking for something more serious.
ObviouslyNotALizard@reddit
Naw, should probably just sperg out about it then blame all women to perverts and weirdos on the internet when she responds like a human instead.
Judasz10@reddit
I think he probably said it too soon. Like they are just getting to know each other and he is already talking about them being together.
catinterpreter@reddit
You can say almost everything with the right delivery.
KJBenson@reddit
You also miss every shot you take if you don’t aim first.
LaZerNor@reddit
Don't put the Stendo in your quickdraw.
L3monSqueezy@reddit
Aiming at your own foot tends to miss whatever you where trying to hit
AugustusClaximus@reddit
Go with the “I’ve honestly just been to busy to find a relationship”
jonatna@reddit
"I've been focused on school/work/fitness/hobbies" (but only if your hobbies are cool or autistic enough)
Luke22_36@reddit
First implies there would be others later on, implying it wouldn't work out long term. Very subtle red flag.
Skafandra206@reddit
No it doesn't? First is just that, first. It doesn't matter if there are others later on or not.
No-Boysenberry-6685@reddit
objectively it doesnt but this is what women think "first" means unfortunately
Judasz10@reddit
Stop acting like you even know a woman
First relationship is always called first because that is what it is. Nobody would say anything else ever.
Smol-Fren-Boi@reddit
Didn't even think of that.
I wa mostly focussing on how it sounds creepy to subtly sa6 "wanna date?" Like that
Luke22_36@reddit
You are correct about that. Anon prematurely thinks he's already succeeded with this girl, when she's just giving him a chance to prove himself, and in this false assumption, overstepping her boundaries.
However, also, keen women are trying to sort the players from boyfriend material. There are men who just want sex, and there are men who want a long term relationship, but the former won't make it obvious, so it's up to the woman to discern who is which before they get burned. "You'd be my first" betrays anon's thought process to the woman, that he thinks of relationships in terms of a score, a counter to ring up. Also, depending on how it was phrased and where he went with the conversation (not specifically elaborated on in the greentext, but possible given anon's mindset), it could show to her that his mind immediately jumps from talking about his relationship history to having sex with her.
On the other hand, something along the lines of "I've just been waiting to find the right girl" on the surface conveys roughly equivalent literal meaning - no previous partners, but has drastically different subtext. First, it doesn't overstep the boundary - she's just evaluating him, he's just evaluating her. Second, it implies that this is by his choice, taking responsibility for his relationship status. Third, it implies that by nature of him talking to her, that he sees something in her that he did not in other women. Fourth, by looking for "the right girl", it signals that he is looking for a relationship, and not some random hookup.
Of course, all of this context can be missed, if you're a giga-autist who only sees literal meaning, which makes dating very difficult.
HiTekLoLyfe@reddit
That and I’m sure there’s some other weird shit he said.
TKG1607@reddit
Nope. Very few women would like that, would've driven her off faster
soyifiedredditadmin@reddit
or said he's rich money is get out of jail card
Bay1Bri@reddit
"Nothing too serious" would have been a better response.
thr33beggars@reddit
Should have pulled the “you’d be my first…because historically I’ve only bottomed for random dudes I met online” card
loscapos5@reddit
He says he wants to be a chad, not a chud
Excellent-Berry-2331@reddit
Fake: Anon wasn’t ghosted because of this
Gay: Anon can’t understand how anyone would love someone who isn’t chad
Joemama95hgf@reddit
Annon learned that you dont say the truth to women
Wonderful-Cicada-912@reddit
single forever gang less goo
Malice0801@reddit
The elites don’t want you to know this but the lying is free and not illegal. You can tell as many as you want. I have told 458 lies today
Exodus_XXVII@reddit
i believe you can i have one of your girl friends
JessHorserage@reddit
Disagree. You say the truth to MASCULINE women. There is a reason people love tomboys, the tomboy, doesn't play games like feminine women do, because they don't like to play games. They play video games as a hobby, potentially, and do some hunting or whatever.
Fire_tempest890@reddit
This is clearly from the viewpoint of a redditor who does not talk to women. Bro thinks they can be classed into types like they're pokemon
JessHorserage@reddit
The tomboy as an archetype, some people are more of a stereotype than others. Generalisations, are generally true.
I do occasionally, one of them was a bit of a theatre kid, who I fucking hated.
Fire_tempest890@reddit
Your generalizations are too hyper specific to be true. There are women who are into more "masculine" hobbies like video games or whatever, but that doesn't justify treating them as people who are fundamentally different than normal women
Joemama95hgf@reddit
Women who play video games are fat though (candy crash or mobile games dont count)
Joshteo02@reddit
Crazy, most incel person I have seen. Literal stereotype of a Redditor.
EezoVitamonster@reddit
My cousin who is the epitome of girly-girl started playing gamecube recently.
make_reddit_great@reddit
When anon goes to a job interview and they ask what his biggest weakness his, he actually tells them his biggest weakness.
Don't be anon.
ExamDesigner5003@reddit
“My biggest weakness is I love being topped by middle aged middle managers”- works like a charm
fortinbras_420@reddit
Who's to say he's actually learned from this mistake
The_King_7067@reddit
And that you especially do not open up to them
Level_Solid_8501@reddit
Nah man, you just don't tell her until after you have done the deed. Worked for me. No need to brag.
But I guess anon is terminally online and fried his brain by watching Tiktoks and going to incel websites message boards.
TheCreepWhoCrept@reddit
I’ve seen a lot of women complain about men doing this exact thing. I don’t know how many of them realize they probably wouldn’t have gotten there in the first place if the guy had led with that.
RdmNorman@reddit
How not telling you never done it before doing it not result in disaster ?
No_Medium3333@reddit
im sorry maybe im stupid but that sentence contains so many negatives it hurt my head
RdmNorman@reddit
Lol same when i wrote it
insertwittynamethere@reddit
My first was dumbfounded when I revealed it to her like a month or so later. She told me she would've made it more special, which I told her it was pretty special already (and damn if it wasn't a great, hilarious story that also caused the dorm bathroom to be flooded unbeknownst to us).
SpaceBug176@reddit
Now hold on a minute. You can't say that and then not elaborate.
insertwittynamethere@reddit
Na, that one's for me and those in the know. She was so surprised, because I never finished and we had been at it for hours.
SpaceBug176@reddit
Believable story %100
JuanHernandes89@reddit
It's a crazy story, like—you wouldn't believe it.
No way that happened. Pyrrhic victory and all that
Crazy stuff
Wish I cloud share it with you
SpaceBug176@reddit
The worst part is he didn't even bother to give a reason as to why he wouldn't share it 🤣
insertwittynamethere@reddit
Lol I get it, I really do. It was a surprise to be sure for all involved 😅. Alas, I have my memories, and that's good enough for me.
JadedEstablishment16@reddit
you say it but not "you would be my first"
T_Ijonen@reddit
Some people can do it by the power of communication and not being rеtаrdеd
vernon-douglas@reddit
You actually gain experience and some dignity
There's no benefit to admitting it, so don't
new_KRIEG@reddit
Also lmao at anon thinking that saying that he banged a hundred women would make this one want to stay with him
akikiriki@reddit
You surely do not understand woman logic. They value men who has slept with many women way more than a man with low bodycount.
new_KRIEG@reddit
I surely understand it well enough to have done well enough on dating apps and understood well enough to be browsing apartments with my SO.
If you have to say that you're manwhore, you'll get judged badly and harshly.
You either give the vibe that you're successful with women or you're better off skipping that topic. If you have to say or show it there's no way you'll come out of it looking good.
"I've dated some people, but it was mostly short term" or another non-answer is what you're looking for.
Level_Solid_8501@reddit
If you brag to a woman you banged another hundred women before her, you'll look like a moron.
It's pretty easy for women to know if you're a "Chad" or not. They don't need you to tell them.
JessHorserage@reddit
Also, even if you are a chad and whatever, they can also tell if you are a player, if they are perceptive, and some, wise, women can look at that and go "You're not going to give me two kids, a home and love through 60 years, piss off."
No-Boysenberry-6685@reddit
women want two kids, a home and love through 60 years according to this guy
JessHorserage@reddit
Really? Alright, read this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/R/K_selection_theory
No-Boysenberry-6685@reddit
to anyone else scrolling through this thread who thinks this wikipedia link is an actual rebuttal,
click the link, read through it and then ponder to yourself how much this actually applies to human females, and also take note of the specimens studied while you're at it.
SpaceBug176@reddit
Can you do it for me
Im kinda lazy
Skafandra206@reddit
Well, I'm sure some of them do.
No-Boysenberry-6685@reddit
exceptions do not disprove the rule
HussainKegel@reddit
What rule?
SpaceBug176@reddit
34.
vinaysays@reddit
I don't know, women are wrong a lot of the time while choosing partners so not that pretty easy.
ArchmageIlmryn@reddit
Hard to do that if someone is directly asking you. Lying there is both bad for moral reasons and will probably get you just as ghosted when she finds out.
Malice0801@reddit
Only if they find out. How would they find? There are no witnesses.
SpaceBug176@reddit
I know when someone has never read a book when they hold it the wrong way.
Malice0801@reddit
Redditors comparing sex to o reading manga 💀
SpaceBug176@reddit
That wasn't the fucking point 😭
sputnik67897@reddit
So just fucking lie.
Significant-Elk-2064@reddit
Anon doesn’t realise that he just doesn’t have personality
Superkritisk@reddit
The Russian who made this post is waiting eagerly to see if the bait worked.
DeathSabre7@reddit
Everything is truly Russia's fault no? Even the plastic on my balls...
Superkritisk@reddit
Some of the plastic in your balls is going to come from a Russian source, so partially their fault, along with other plastic producers and consumers. They are a resource nation heavily into oil and gass, so again partially true.
vernon-douglas@reddit
Most woman hating baits are made by Jeets
Cleveworth@reddit
So just lie a bit, say you've had 3 or 4 exes. That's a credible amount, and if you've got a good memory, you can get your facts straight on all of them.
Maddolyn@reddit
3 or 4? Brooo that's so many
Sharp_Individual_579@reddit
Or, hear me out, just say you've had 1 ex and just make up some basic stuff about them since no one wants to actually hear stuff about your ex. Then get together with them, break up and voilá the next time you can say you really had an ex.
ExamDesigner5003@reddit
Yeah. The one or two is the number to go with. Not so many they think you are a fuckboi and not so few they think there is something wrong with you.
TKG1607@reddit
Of OP is a virgin, lower the number of exes and just say its been a while since you last had sex if performance is questioned.
JessHorserage@reddit
Just don't mention your past, until you've gotten to know the person at some level. It goes the same way with women, if you slept with 100 guys, you don't never say that you have, you tell them at the right time.
Not the first opportunity.
jimmpony@reddit
in a row?
JessHorserage@reddit
Simultaneously, she's actually a giant girl.
DasToyfel@reddit
Heyheyhey there, little sport. Anon obviously wanted a reason to hate on women. He didn't look for a solution.
EldritchWaster@reddit
I feel like it's really weird to frame "dude didn't lie" as "looking for a problem."
DasToyfel@reddit
Its really weird to frame misogynia and incel-tropes as "he didn't lie".
EldritchWaster@reddit
That's... all the information we have. He said he hadn't had previous relationships because it was the truth. There's no reason to doubt him that I can see and there's nothing misogynistic about it.
He didn't get incelly until after the girl drifted away from him.
DasToyfel@reddit
He didn't get incely afterwards,.it was always inside him. The second she seemed to lose interest was the second he switched back to his old behaviour.
She dodged a bullet.
Also remember this is only his side of the story.
He says "she doesnt like me because i always have been single".
If you ask her she probably says: "he started bringing his Wehrmachtsuniform to dates and also he wanted to have sex with the Tate-Brothers"
EldritchWaster@reddit
Yeah, we don't have her side of the story. That doesn't mean you can just make up whatever narrative fits your preconceived notions.
From the information provided he did nothing wrong.
Firlite@reddit
Making up bullshit to feel smugly superior to the fake people in made up stories from 4chan is the raison d'etre for like half the users of this subreddit
DasToyfel@reddit
Of course he did nothing wrong, as usual. The fact that he posts on 4chan and immediately jumps to incel-speak says something different.
ChancellorPalpameme@reddit
To be honest, saying "you'd be my first" comes off super weird if they weren't at that place in their relationship yet. Just say "I haven't had any", and don't put any pressure on the current, growing, relationship. It's fucking weird.
EldritchWaster@reddit
Tbh I didn't read it as weird, but that's probably because I'm a socially inept sperg.
Maybe I'm being overly generous but I'm willing to extend the guy the same courtesy and assume that he just didn't realise it could be seen as pressuring.
Let he who's never put their foot in their mouth cast the first stone.
HypedUpJackal@reddit
The guy you're talking to sounds like he's getting off to this conversation ngl haha
JessHorserage@reddit
Exactly, self protective sour grapes. He can't conceptualise the female perspective.
EldritchWaster@reddit
Bu that's not the part we're talking about. We're talking about responding to "have you had any previous girlfriends?" with "no", which isn't misogynistic.
JessHorserage@reddit
True, I was focusing on the part afterwards. Apologies for the forum sliding.
Wonderful-Cicada-912@reddit
lying is the solution, based
LittleLord_FuckPantz@reddit
Don't even really need many facts. How often do people talk about their exes with their current partner?
axon__dendrite@reddit
Alternatively, as a woman if you have 10-15 exes you can also lie ans say you've had 3, same thing
Beautiful_Dragonfly9@reddit
I don’t think that was a smart move. Maybe if she shared the same thing first, so that would make sense, but generally? That is not a very smart move. From my experience, they would rather take a manwhore and tame it, than a virgin soy boy who doesn’t have the experience, and the reason is not what you think.
Our society makes you insecure if you don’t have sexual experience. Women just don’t dig insecurity. Some people are born with healthy confidence, I had to develop it. Developing it did take “a part of my soul” because I whored around, exploring how to approach girls, what works for me and with whom, reading people, but it is what it is. It made me who I am.
It definitely would be nice if I had managed to keep my first love and grew old with her, because I did have an amazing woman. Building a connection with someone became a lot more difficult later, and building that “unconditional love” that I yearn for.
Call me what you will, but the older I get the more I think that only women and children have the privilege of unconditional love. Men are loved for who they are and can be. The potential is something you can rely on up until your mid twenties.
Kudos to everyone, but sometimes you’ll be competing for the same girl with a 40 year old guy who has seen the world, made millions, owns a helicopter and a few Bentleys. It’s difficult to top that, but not impossible.
The majority of women are not after the money. They want security. Can you provide her security if you don’t even shower, can’t see your floor from all the food, cigarettes and clothes on the floor? She has to see in you that you’re capable of at least pulling the same weight that she can, or more.
Work on yourself king. Stay healthy. Hit the gym. Study - learn. Learn to study. Learn how to talk to people. Wear clean clothes that fit you. Make enough money to not be in debt. Be self-sufficient. Daddy’s money will only get you so far. Build something. Girls notice that. It gets them going and they want to join. Helps if you’re good looking, but don’t have to be. At least try to have a healthy weight.
Designated_Lurker_32@reddit
Okay, this is literally provably false as we have studies showing that the average face (as calculated by combining 1000s of different male faces) ranks as "attractive" to most people
I'll try linking them below, but to do so I'll have to wrestle with this sub's spam filter for a bit, so that may take a while
new_KRIEG@reddit
That's a shit interpretation of the study and bad statistics.
Averageness means symmetry and it means that you don't got anything weird going on. Like, two lines down from what you highlighted we see:
Averaged face ≠ face of the average human.
Most people have something weird going on in their face. [Cue in here the incel discourse about cantal tilt and weak chins], it's just that most people only have one or two slightly deviances from that average going on, and there is a lot that can go wrong, so most people have most things right.
When you average it all together, the minor flaws go away and you get a flawless version of a human face.
Not that it validates the "women only want the top 5% of men" because that's also shitty interpretation of the data that Okcupid put out like a decade ago that's a bit too long to get in detail right now because I'm already approaching wall of text status here.
Designated_Lurker_32@reddit
When people - especially those terminally online weirdos - talk about what makes a guy's face attractive, they don't just talk about how symmetric and flawless it is. They also talk about stuff like a sharp jawline, a strong chin, an overall strong and masculine look, and so on. These things also get averaged out, as the process of averaging a face gets rid of all exceptional features, both good and bad.
For example, if you actually look at an averaged male face in one of those studies, it doesn't have a weak chin, but it doesn't have a strong one either. That doesn't stop people from ranking it as "attractive."
strasbourgzaza@reddit
The incels have known this for ages. Look at their idol Chico, he does not have a super masculine face.
avagrantthought@reddit
Leave it to the average redditor to confidently spout nonsense they misconstrued from a study that they spent 3 seconds reading either the abstract or the conclusion of.
Nice write up.
No-Boysenberry-6685@reddit
You're so morally superior!!1!1
avagrantthought@reddit
I feel doubt she disgust when I publicly comment a write up of a study that I've read from start to finish on the off chance I misrepresented the paper.
Your average redditor feels a surge of confidence sloppily regurgitating (and getting wrong) an excerpt off of the small conclusion part of a study.
You tell me who you'd prefer to deliver you scientific information next time.
Varixx95__@reddit
Yes this is just red pill. I have friends which were fairly normal guys and kinda socially awkward and all managed to pull off
Might be surprising for lots of people of this sub but you will be amazed by how much you can achieve by just treating women like actual humans
docta-@reddit
wont this be black pill?
carrot1890@reddit
It is but why be honest when you can just call anyone not worshipping you redpill.
Spudtron98@reddit
Think of your dad. Probably not a regular Adonis, but he still pulled your ma somehow.
dirschau@reddit
But I thought lying is bad
ArchmageIlmryn@reddit
The trick is to treat women like actual humans without having to lie.
dirschau@reddit
But it is a lie
SteveMemeChamp@reddit
you really think incels need facts backed by research to hate on women ?
NCR_High-Roller@reddit
nigga, have you not heard of BlackpillScience?
Beneficial_Pear9705@reddit
it’s also literally observably false because if you look around at all the people coupled up most guys aren’t “chad.”
ArchmageIlmryn@reddit
The other factor (iirc from that old okcupid study) is that while women are more picky than men on average, they are also more varied in what specifically they were picky about. It's the same study from which people pull the "women only think 20% of men are above average!!!" from - always omitting the second part.
Women did only rate 20% of men as above average, but they tended to rate different men as above average (so a given man had a better than even chance of being rated above average by at least some women). Men meanwhile did rate 50% of women as above average, but also generally rated the same 50% as women as above average.
I.e. if you are a bottom 50% man you're probably actually more likely to find at least some women who find you physically attractive than a bottom 50% woman is to find men who find her physically attractive.
avagrantthought@reddit
Pretty sure all this study said regarding attractiveness is that the closed an attractive person's features are to the expected and protypical average face, the more fluent their face will be processed and the more attractive they'd be. Although it's weird because they seem to later condrarict themselves.
Designated_Lurker_32@reddit
Alright, let's see if this works now
Check the sources cited here. There are a bunch of em'
Beneficial_Pear9705@reddit
or just… y’know… lie
Limp_Donut5337@reddit
I just can’t wrap my head around why some ppl struggle with women. When there was never a problem in my life than it was getting pussy thrown at.
Total_Network6312@reddit
step 1
mookleti@reddit
step 2 doesn't hurt either
Dr_barfenstein@reddit
Or, hear me out, she figured out why he was single after several interactions
rokomotto@reddit
Yeah other people probably did the same thing, not just women he was interested in.
Sometimes there's no helping it. Sometimes its your fault entirely.
madhattergirl@reddit
When I was in my early 20's, I worked in an office and there was a nice enough guy I'd chat with sometimes during the week. If I had been single, I might have gone out with him when he asked the first month or two (he asked a few times to hang out and watch movies but I decline). It eventually became clear how awkward he really was in reading social cues and eventually he put the nail in the coffin when he told me "The only relationship I ever had was in high school" (he was late 20's at that point) and the bigger one was "I don't think I'm capable of feeling love".
I would have never left my boyfriend but he did himself no favors with that information.
ArchmageIlmryn@reddit
Pretty much - IME that tends to be the case with basically all the single causes people blame for being rejected. Height, too experienced/inexperienced, too "nice", etc - often it's just the one single obvious thing to point to when in reality the rejection is because of a million little things.
WaveDash16@reddit
Anon failed to mention sending her daily pictures of his expansive hentai figurine collection
Dampened_Panties@reddit
If she can't appreciate art then she doesn't deserve Anon anyway
0thethethe0@reddit
I'm leaning more towards a single interaction, and she was just letting him down slowly...
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
saying “you’d be my first girlfriend” to someone who is just being friendly is probably not the best move.
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
How do you know they are just being friendly? Usually if I'm talking to a girl a lot and text her a lot we end up dating or going out.
Most guys don't text their actual friends as much as a girl they're pursuing
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
“end up dating” Would you insinuate that she’s your girlfriend before you start dating?
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
No and neither did OP really. I have absolutely insinuated that I'm interested in beginning dating. Pretty much every time
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
He said “you would be my first (girlfriend)”?
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
Yes that's saying you want to start dating. Not insinuating that you are dating. The english is simple.
I can read people pretty well and can tell the very sentence that is a turn off. A lot of people can. If OP says she lost interest because of him having 0 past girlfriends there is no reason to think otherwise without another perspective or more information.
The post is entirely believable.
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
Whatever you say man.
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
The Kawasaki dealer asked my past experience with motorcycles and I said "this one would be the first" while gesturing at the bike he is showing me.
Am I insinuating that I already own and ride the motorcycle that is sitting on the dealer lot?
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
That’s implying a preference. You’re saying that if you had to pick a first motorbike you would choose that one. Do you really think that’s what OP was saying?
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
Yes. It's an analogy.
The word would expresses a conditional idea. You would be my first (if we were to date).
You would be my first VS you are my first.
They're different
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
By that logic then you’re not saying that the motorbike would be your preference, you’re just stating a fact.
it would be my first = if you bought that one. Which is obvious. If you bought your first motorbike then that motorbike would be your first.
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
You almost figured it out. Replace bought in your last sentence with dated and motorbike with girlfriend.
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
That’s obviously not what OP meant and you knew it. You just can’t admit that you’re wrong.
Darth_Syphilisll@reddit
Wtf dude. The sentence is you would be the first. Not you are the first. You're like the only person here who can't grasp it.
You are the only person thinking that OP thinks they're boyfriend and grilfriend when they are not
StrongLikeBull3@reddit
It wasn’t a hidden meaning. It was an obvious meaning that was the reason the girl stopped talking to him.
scoots-mcgoot@reddit
“Unless you are top 5%, it’s over,” bottom 5% guys.
shroomigator@reddit
Tells her he's a virgin
Shows her exactly why
Usual-Revolution-718@reddit
"i never held a job before, but i want you to hire me.
Yeah, i'm 25 years old... but that not relevant."
TrueCollector@reddit
She’s just not the one, I’ve seen lots of girls talk about how they want a guy who’s never been with a girl
kt4-is-gud@reddit
Yeah it’s weird how everyone on this sub is so chronically online. Anon is probably weird, but saying that the reason that she ghosted him is because he’s a virgin is such chronically online thing to say.
rip-droptire@reddit
Are these girls in the room with us right now?
AdvancedInjury4562@reddit
Anon is a moron
2020mademejoinreddit@reddit
Why'd you tell her?
Here's the thing, there's a reason women don't tell you their numbers.
Because if most guys knew how many their gfs or wives actually let in, they would lose the will to live.
It's the same, but kind of inverse, the reason guys don't tell women about their numbers, especially if they don't have 'em, is because when women see that the dude is not wanted by other women, they lose interest.
Most women don't want the guy that they're with to be undesirable to other women, even if they don't want their man to be taken away from them.
2020mademejoinreddit@reddit
Why'd you tell her?
Here's the thing, there's a reason women don't tell you their numbers.
Because if most guys knew how many their gfs or wives actually let in, they would lose the will to live.
It's the same, but kind of inverse, the reason guys don't tell women about their numbers, especially if they don't have 'em, is because when women see that the dude is not wanted by other women, they lose interest.
Most women don't want the guy that they're with to be undesirable to other women, even if they don't want their man to be taken away from them.
Lilpup618@reddit
“You would be my first” is weird to say when you’re not with them
Luke22_36@reddit
Also "first" subtly implies successors.
TriOCuBe@reddit
Am I the only one thinking that this is reading way too hard into it. Yes maybe you could word it better but that thought didn't even occur to me when I read it
Previous_Air_9030@reddit
Definitely reading too far into it. Just a fact that past a certain age being a virgin isn't doing you any favors.
SteveMemeChamp@reddit
maybe he's talking to her on a dating app
ChancellorPalpameme@reddit
Unless they've been on multiple dates already and are building towards being exclusive with each other, it's fucking weird.
SteveMemeChamp@reddit
that's what i meant
new_KRIEG@reddit
That's a fucking huge jump from "dating apps" and "they've been having multiple and frequent dates and are considering something more serious". Specially since you'd probably have ditched the app by that point and would be texting like actual humans making the dating app part of it irrelevant
SteveMemeChamp@reddit
i meant op met her through an app and they were discussing relationships after that?
ChancellorPalpameme@reddit
That is definitely a leap from "talking to" though
SteveMemeChamp@reddit
yea i didn't put much thought into my comment my bad
ChancellorPalpameme@reddit
Neither did OP lol
Pixel_64@reddit
Anon is giving up after the first try, what a loser
untakenu@reddit
If that was the deal breaker, she'd have stopped talking right then.
More likely, anon sounds like a desperate guy who thinks his virginity is more important than this girl.
Primalbuttplug@reddit
Or don't assume she is going to have sex with her. Jesus.
strosbeforehoes65@reddit
Damn, people never hear of “fake it till you make it”?
FireDevil11@reddit
Anon doesn't understand that sometimes saying "you would be my first" brings up alarms that say "I am a horrible person which is why I haven't had anyone stick around to have a relationship with".
It's the "No work experience no job, no job no work experience" problem but for social relationships.
rip-droptire@reddit
Maybe he just wasn't looking for it before? I hate how people always assume the worst in others. Personally I've had chances but just haven't wanted it at the time
VonDinky@reddit
He's really selling himself. I never had a gf. My penis is super small. I have a rash around my anus.
rip-droptire@reddit
Bro's nothing if not honest. Can't hold that against him.
Tenko-of-Mori@reddit
Just fucking lie. Lol, lmao even
Danmoh29@reddit
“you’d be my first”
harveyshinanigan@reddit
i like how a lot of the comments is that he should have lied
tdk779@reddit
that's bs, i'm ugly, not tall, not rich, no car, no money, i get pussy twice, and i have a gf.
Naive_Drive@reddit
I literally lost my virginity at 24. That dumbass.
bisky12@reddit
“no i’ve never really messed around with women before” and “you’d be my first” are two very different statements anon really needs to take notes
GargamelLeNoir@reddit
Anon spouted incel shit like at the end of this post and the girl wisely moved on.
sabsly@reddit
Hello young attractive woman, no other woman has ever wanted to fuck me. Please fuck me
BadActsForAGoodPrice@reddit
Bro I dated my first girl at 23 it is not over.
Total_Network6312@reddit
I met 1 girl between the ages of 19 and 30. Then I met 5 between 30 and 34.
It's definitely not over
megguwu@reddit
Men: talks about experience with one woman The same men: "Why are all women like this"
Total_Network6312@reddit
nothing is more exhausting than listening to someone apply their experience with a half dozen girlfriends to All women.
And vice versa.
No-Section-4385@reddit
so anon the issue is sweetie you said she would be the first which would imply that there will be others after her.
Wasdey@reddit
Definitely nothing to do with anon being unbearable to talk to
Ill-Scheme@reddit
I'd be willing to bet good money that anon had long spilled the spaghetti before this point & even spilled some rigatoni afterwards
BobbaBlep@reddit
I feel like something happened between the meeting and the ghosting. I find it hard to believe she ghosted because you were a virgin. I'm guess there was a period where your 'tsim was on full display and she was out. That's just my gut feeling. What specifically were the unlisted stupid things you said to her?
Gary_FucKing@reddit
Man, I know it's hyperbole but like this is just not even close to being true.
Vospader998@reddit
What anon neglected to mention is that he has the social skills and charisma of a dead fish left out for three weeks in the summer.
mehrotr@reddit
You should have put on a little show, like, have a faraway, haunted look in your eyes, not said anything, and then just walked away. That's the shit that qt's are looking for. A broken, haunted, mysterious man child, that they can fix.
LeatherDescription26@reddit
Just say it’s been a while since your last relationship
ShitMcClit@reddit
Yeah you just gotta lie on that one.
Markyloko@reddit
something tells me he talked to her about pokemon
also
> she starts texting me less and less
this sounds like he didnt start conversations
vapingphilosopher@reddit
🔄🐈🔄
CasuallyBeerded@reddit
“You’d be my first!” Why the fuck would anon say it like that!? She’s probably more turned off by anon just assuming they were gonna be a couple.
lrevaster@reddit
Beautiful-Upstairs71@reddit
Man, I used to think looks were everything, but then I met someone who changed my perspective—turns out, personality and connection mean way more
Adrian4lyf@reddit
Disregarding anon's dramatization and poor taste in women, does anyone know/have that comic from picrel?
JessHorserage@reddit
OH MY GOD, LOW BODY COUNT IS A PROXY. Normies have a low body count, can find a woman with a low body count, and die happy at 80 together, shit happens. If it didn't, the roads wouldn't work.
RichardBlastovic@reddit
'I haven't been in serious relationships in the past, but at this stage in my life I'm very open to the idea.'
Is OP regarded?
SoupaMayo@reddit
My in-relationship ass is a living proof that you don't need to be a Chad to get a 7-8 girl
Hearasongofuranus@reddit
Anon is a dumb fuck and/or Christian to be a virgin at 24. Just go on tinder, fuck bitches, stop putting a pussy on a pedestal and then have a normal relationship that doesn't start with: i'm le virgin waiting for you, m'lady.
But idk.
Varixx95__@reddit
Just lie at this point
AmazinglySingle@reddit
Anon was too busy to have a girlfriend because he was traveling the world with a troupe. Bringing joy to every place on earth. The issue, is the troupe had been stagnant in anon's home town for the last 24 years and that's why he hasn't left his hometown yet
DomSchraa@reddit
Gee i wonder why she ghosted anon
Imagine if a woman with a small chest cried around how poor she was cause no guy wants her, and when you point out how thats bs she goes on a rant about how thats just not true and shows you a couple porn website screenshot as "proof"
Thats how ridiculous these mfs look
dirschau@reddit
Nights_Revolution@reddit
Yeah I could believe that. If you're only after pussy and never had anything, you probably wont get there.
KnowNothingKnowsAll@reddit
More likely, he hates women, and she discovered it with shit he said that he didnt mention.
Or even MORE likely, this shit is fake.
dirschau@reddit
>talk to a cute 22yo girl
No shit
Designated_Lurker_32@reddit
Alright, let's see if this works now
Check the sources cited here. There are a bunch of em'
full_knowledge_build@reddit
Lmao just lie and tell the girl you had a long relationship that left you destroyed after she broke up with you in a despicable manner