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Maczino@reddit

Not everyone you think is you friend, is really your friend.

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ShimmyxSham@reddit

And how you deal with the lows shows your true self

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draggar@reddit

"You can make no mistakes and still lose. That isn't weakness, that's life."

- Capt. Jean Luc Picard

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“In life you have to do a lot of things you don’t fucking want to do. Many times, that’s what the fuck life is... one vile fucking task after another. But don’t get aggravated... then the enemy has you by the short hairs.” - Al Swearengen, Deadwood

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cutthroatslim504@reddit

that line stuck with me for soooo long and you just helped me remember it after yrs of forgetting about it, thank you 😌

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Andovars_Ghost@reddit

One of my favorites.

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Sharticus123@reddit

I also like:

“You may test that hypothesis at your earliest convenience.”

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Klutzy_Excitement_99@reddit

The classic FAFO

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STFUisright@reddit

God I needed to hear that right this very moment. Thank you. And thank YOU, Captain Picard.

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ALifetimeOfLearning@reddit

👆 👍

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imtiredmakeitstop@reddit

I'm tired of this. I really really wish I could just die. I'm tired of pain and anxiety.

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Maximum-Captain-485@reddit

Hey. You sound like you’re in a bad place. I hope things get better for you. I’ve been there.

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imtiredmakeitstop@reddit

44 years of a consistently worsening place.

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draggar@reddit

I get it and I feel it at times, but in those times I try to think about good things in my life, anything, even something I think others may find silly or immature, like a new video game.

Here's a quote from The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Douglas Adams still stands up today,

Slartibartfast: Perhaps I'm old and tired, but I think that the chances of finding out what's actually going on are so absurdly remote that the only thing to do is to say, "Hang the sense of it," and keep yourself busy. I'd much rather be happy than right any day.

Arthur Dent: And are you?

Slartibartfast: Ah, no.

[laughs, snorts]

Slartibartfast: Well, that's where it all falls down, of course.

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imtiredmakeitstop@reddit

I practice gratitude every single day. The problem with grief is it consumes you in a way where you can't even find joy in the little things anymore. When you lose your soulmate and spend the next three years being tortured, it's hard to care or feel or anything. I'm the kind of person who always found joy in the mundane in the little things and in seeing my friends laugh. But grief has consumed me after 40 years of emotional starvation that I think I got through like a champ. Grief finally defeated me.

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agentmkultra666@reddit

I related so hard to this Data/Picard moment.

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draggar@reddit

I think our entire generation does, even if they don't know the quote yet.

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40WattTardis@reddit

"The line must be drawn here! This far, no further!"

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Tom_FooIery@reddit

“SHUT UP WESLEY!” - words to live by.

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theyFOOLEDmeJerry@reddit

The line must be drawn hee-yah!

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Public-Clothes-5078@reddit

"Never get out of the boat " - Chef/ Willard

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blacklab@reddit

Real Gs know

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JThalheimer@reddit

You can also make all the mistakes and still win - because life has a quirky sense of humor.

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greyshirtfreshman@reddit

Dude ! I just saw that one last night!

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kissthesky303@reddit

I learned so much from that show...

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gev1138@reddit

I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, ‘wouldn’t it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them? ‘ So now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe. --Marcus Cole, Babylon 5

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Bunnyfartz@reddit

Life isn't fair....but life isn't fair for everyone, therefore life is fair.

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Obi-Juan-K-Nobi@reddit

It seems most people think it’s more fair for some than others

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Bunnyfartz@reddit

I call it the JFK Jr. Rule. Dude was American royalty - died young anyway.

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kookiemaster@reddit

This. It is unfair. Bad people win and good people lose. You can accept it or not but life doesn't care.

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AceTygraQueen@reddit

However, that doesn't mean you should just throw your hands in the air and just give up either.

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gildedlily0492@reddit

Truest statement EVER!

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Billy-Joe-Bob-Boy@reddit

This. So much this. The world does not care and it does not owe you anything. You want something? Figure out how to get it for yourself. Bearing in mind that everything can be taken from you through no fault of your own.

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Bee9185@reddit

yea. and you aint fucking special

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NumbersMonkey1@reddit

You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.

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Octavale@reddit

Amen to that one ☝️

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mybrassy@reddit

Yup. Get over yourself and your little feelings

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Charming-Insurance@reddit

Yup. My go to for my niece and nephew is “life doesn’t owe you anything.”

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scarlettskadi@reddit

Yep- fairs where you take your pig and go on all the fun rides.

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Obi-Juan-K-Nobi@reddit

Wilbur!!

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DirectionFront1865@reddit

A friend used to tell me, “Fair happens once a year, usually in July.”

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liss100@reddit

October in SC

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DirectionFront1865@reddit

We can't all have it at the same time, that wouldn't be fair.

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liss100@reddit

Very punny :)

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IceTech59@reddit

Sometimes the rides break. Catastrophically.

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MeatofKings@reddit

“The only thing fair (fare) in life is what it costs to ride the bus.”

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ScreenTricky4257@reddit

"I know, but why isn't it ever unfair in my favor?" - Calvin

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ZealousidealGrab1827@reddit

^ This

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evasandor@reddit

I've always liked the way I saw it put in a comic strip: "Life isn't fair or unfair. Life is arbitrary. People are fair or unfair."

This is worth remembering, because (Gen X take incoming:) Life doesn't know you from a hole in the ground. It doesn't care enough about you to bother being "unfair". It just rolls on and sometimes you're in its way— kidding yourself that the Universe has somehow been unfair to you is overstating your own importance.

However, that said, each of us does exert a non-zero influence on some local parts and moments of the universe. Try and make yours a good one, if you can. It won't make any difference to Life, but it might make a difference to someone going through it alongside you.

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evasandor@reddit

I've always liked the way I saw it put in a comic strip: "Life isn't fair or unfair. Life is arbitrary. People are fair or unfair."

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Ahazeuris@reddit

This with the following: and the world is mean.

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Think-Lack2763@reddit

Preach, Sturgill!

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blacklab@reddit

Sturgill mafia in the house

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Ahazeuris@reddit

Thank you, friend.

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DianaPrince2020@reddit

That one is hard for the young’uns. The rail against it with such righteous intensity. I just remember taking it as a fact of life that I didn’t like.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

I thought I understood this but at my big age of 48 found myself deposed for the first time. I was hit by a semi on the freeway and sustained a brain injury. My family’s world has been turned upside down and I won’t work again. We’re suing; at the deposition I asked about my severe childhood abuse for 3.5 to paint my TBI as merely pre-existing C-PTSD. After sitting through that my lawyer projects we’ll get $50K- $80K. Sounds like a lot of money but it’s nowhere near what’s fair. The defense lawyer did his job to decimate me (successfully) and I walked out of that room thinking, “Life really truly unfair.”

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Dropperofdeuces@reddit

Fuck me bro that’s truly shitty end of the stick

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

On the plus side, I have a ridiculously good long term disability policy that pays out 70% of my wages until retirement age. So, that’s a really good break, especially as only about 60% of people get approved for the LTD benefits even if they pay into it.

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supershinythings@reddit

My asshole older brother used to be a shit to me, and when I’d tell our mother, she just said, “Life isn’t fair!” and I’d just have to take it.

Now we are older; he’s 60, I’m 56. He grew to be an entitled narcissistic pig who got fired regularly and spent every dime because he could always raid Mom’s wallet. I worked through college and had a career, aged out and retired on the invested savings of 26 years during 2+ major busts and booms.

Now he’s not well off; he lives with our mother unless he finds a job, has very little in savings, and whines that I can just buy what I want while he has to scrimp and save, how UNFAIR!

Fairness has a way of working itself out sometimes if you wait around long enough and pay attention. I wish I could tell that mistreated little girl how things would turn out, but I wouldn’t want to put out the fire in her belly that turned her into the reasonably successful person she became. (Solvent is the new rich!)

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BearcatPyramid@reddit

...and the you die.

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Delicious-Tea-1564@reddit

As my dad always told us "Fair comes in August" lol

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tivofanatico@reddit

But sometimes things are unfair in your favor.

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PsychoticMessiah@reddit

Anyone who says differently is selling something.

Not quite the exact quote but you get the idea.

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PricklyPierre@reddit

You can be though

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Hideo_Anaconda@reddit

And the people who will tell you this are very often the people who benefit from that unfairness.

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catchyphrase@reddit

That’s fair.

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FallAlternative8615@reddit

You stole my though. Assholes many times win. It is a fight and good comes after a lot of dealing with the darker elements and still keeping the best parts of yourself. You dig and everyone has suffered to some degree, so be kind, fun and empathetic as it can be difficult.

That and childhood is over. You have to be the adult the one to figure things out and remember the critical things to make whatever work out. Lean into those expense reports and doing your taxes and folding laundry as with that vacations, relative freedom to do what you want tag along with the ditch digging.

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tragicsandwichblogs@reddit

Literally the first words I thought of.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

Don’t try and be loyal to a company or corporation, you are expendable.

Now that doesn’t mean you need to jump around every 9 months but you’ll likely get further if you take a promotion elsewhere rather than stick it out

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ShimmyxSham@reddit

Different strokes for different folks

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RemoteRAU07@reddit

Yep. Just lost my job after 13 years. Worked directly for the owner - he couldn't even do it himself. The office people did it over a teams meeting.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

Yup. Been there

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ilivalkyw@reddit

HR works for the company, not the workers.

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artificialidentity3@reddit

Fuckin' A right! I learned that the hard way.

"Human Resources" means that you, the human, are a fucking resource for the corporation - to use and dispose of when someone who doesn't even understand what you do deems you're no longer necessary or more trouble than you're worth. Sort of like replacing an old computer with a newer model.

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HugeLocation9383@reddit

But, the ad said "wE'rE FaMiLy hErE!" /s

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Sk8-BRDR@reddit

Some company was trying to poach me and used that line. Lady, that don’t mean what you think it means 😩😉🤣

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ProjectAshamed8193@reddit

The workers work for the company, not the workers.

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Low_Cook_5235@reddit

Also assume your boss is standing over your shoulder reading every email you send. Because they can. In fact it’s pretty easy.

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ilivalkyw@reddit

I mean, you should write every email thinking your boss will read it anyways.

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Low_Cook_5235@reddit

Agreed. But I’m in IT and you’d be surprised at stuff I’ve seen, porn sites bookmarked (not my company but a client), people doing resumes at work.

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duecesbutt@reddit

So true

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HouseOfLames@reddit

I’ve always told me junior devs the following: Be loyal to people, not companies. People care about you and will help you. Companies come and go and DGAF about you and if you think they do you’re being played.

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mrtoad47@reddit

The first part is so important. While you can’t rely on company dynamics, being a good person to work with with serve you well in the long run.

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HouseOfLames@reddit

It really does. All my jobs in the last 25 years have been the direct result of someone I’ve worked with recommending me to someone else. “Chain of Trust” is deeply ingrained into us all as social animals.

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Definitive_confusion@reddit

True for about the last 10 years but I just read an article in Fortune saying that tend is reversing as the labor market changes. I can't say that makes it true but loyalty always used to pay off and I hope it's true that it's going that direction again

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RC_CobraChicken@reddit

This is an easy exercise.

If the company stops paying you are you still showing up?

No? You're loyal to your paycheck not the company.

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Definitive_confusion@reddit

😂

Yeah. The shop. I'm here off the clock all the time. But, I've always done that. I'm about getting the job done. The paycheck is a side effect.

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I-Way_Vagabond@reddit

...but loyalty always used to pay off and I hope it's true that it's going that direction again

Loyalty hasn't paid off in over 40 years and that trend won't reverse. It will only get worse.

The Millennials and Gen Alpha's are now discovering just how expendable they really are.

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Definitive_confusion@reddit

I've gotten a raise every year. Definitely make more than I would anywhere else. I'm not sure what you're saying is true. Sounds more cynical than anything else. Most places won't even extend benefits until you're there a year. 401k contributions increase YoY for a period until you reach max... There's all the unspoken benefits of seniority, too. I basically control my schedule now, am free to take time off without fear of being fired, and have full access to the shop now (with my own key for 24hr access). By itself that's worth more than my entire compensation package.

Now if you're working some corporate office job or something it's probably different but I'm reality, corporate office jobs are all meaningless so it really doesn't matter where you are. There's always more needless paper to push around.

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thai-stik-admin@reddit

That’s one way to dismiss over half of the American workforce as useless lemmings.

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Definitive_confusion@reddit

Covid protocols already did that. We very distinctly identified who was and who wasn't necessary.

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RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit

Fucking paper....they told us that computers would make a paperless world!!!! As far as I'm concerned, it made us make MORE paper in the office rather than less.

I don't miss that yet I do love me some paper ephemera, especially Halloween stuff.

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ey_you_with_the_face@reddit

Millennials are just now discovering this? Buddy, I'm nearing 40. We're going to be pigeonholed as kids just finding out how the world really works until we're in a retirement home.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

I hope you’re right but I’m seeing private equity taking over more than I would have expected.

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Aggravating-Alarm-16@reddit

Everything can be profitable in the short term.

That's what happened to Bed bath and beyond and other dead retail stores. PE gives a cash infusion. Forced quarterly payments to payback PE.

In order to make payments stores cut hours,

Eventually customer service drops and people stop coming

Stores don't get maintained, which causes more customer loss.

Suddenly stores are closing

Then company is dead.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

Can confirm: my husband was just laid off from a great job for a private equity firm who didn’t think millions of dollars were enough for their bottom line.

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Definitive_confusion@reddit

That's become a more public issue. Like so many things, once the public gets wind of things they tend to complain it away. I might just be hopeful, though

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Erazzphoto@reddit

100%, best to have loyalty to your manager, as they’re the one that will determine if it’s a good place or not. If you get a good one, stick with them, it’s rarely worth staying at a company when your manager makes your workday a living hell….the company, and most importantly, HR, is not there for you. Also, your move up the pay scale will be extremely slow the longer you stay at one place.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

100 percent!

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WeepingKeeper@reddit

Great advice! Might I add that sticking to a job because it's "paying the bills" is hardly ever worth it's weight in salary of you're absolutely miserable, treated terribly, have a poor life/ work balance. A job where you're content can be life changing.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

YES!!! Life is too short to be miserable

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whateverkitty-1256@reddit

Don't trust HR. Don't talk to HR,

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Worldly-Wedding-7305@reddit

I think they're more aware that than we are/were.

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Jroth420@reddit

I see this side for sure but of also counter that I've gotten where I am by sticking it out. Goes both ways.

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rem1473@reddit

This makes me so sad, but it's true. I've seen companies refuse to pay a well seasoned employee the increase they deserve. The company ends up shelling out 20% more to a new hire that needs training and will probably leave in 3 years anyways, restarting the cycle. While the seasoned veteran is able to get his 20% bump going to another company looking to attract talent away.

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Seventhson77@reddit

Careful of this however. My friend would jump from job to job hunting promotions. A lot of them do last in first out, and he got laid off. Now no one will hire him because his work history demonstrates he’s going to jump ship as soon as he can.

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Yankee6Actual@reddit

Too many people forget that, back in the ‘80s, spending only two to three years at a job was the norm.

I don’t know when this whole “spend your entire life at one job” became a thing.

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jcmib@reddit

It also helps improving/adding skills while working even if it’s not what you like doing in down time. When looking for a new job, whether by circumstance or choice, it’s better to leave any job more skilled than when you started.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

Always look out for workplace where “we’re family” is part of their work culture.

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chillarry@reddit

I used to tell all my employees, “No one cares about your career except you. Get that straight in your head. You want to get ahead in your career, it’s up to you to do it.”

(Retired now so I don’t tell my employees anything.)

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TraditionalYard5146@reddit

There’s data that even proves this.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

Speaking from personal experience here.

It’s better to leave a company too soon than too late.

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Rare4orm@reddit

Don’t become a lifelong Dallas Cowboy fan like I did. The constant disappointment will indeed be brutal beyond all comprehension.

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No-Top-772@reddit

Nobody is coming to save you. You have to save yourself.

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TreyRyan3@reddit

All the bullshit you think is important…it isn’t.

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Skittles408@reddit

Almosr every problem society faces can be resolved if billionaires are taxed fairly. Vote for politicians that will tax wealth fairly.

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Megatripolis@reddit

You will continue to think of yourself as a young person long after strangers see you that way. The first time you're offered a seat on the bus is something you won't ever forget (happened to me two weeks ago).

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Kill_me_jebus@reddit

Work so hard. Then keep working more. Stay smart and work some more. Then when you get into your mid/late 30s-40s, you can just work a normal day. Then you’re still kinda broke and you’ve never been to Europe.

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BearmouseFather@reddit

Save what you can now because there is no safety net when you get old. I thought there would be but even though I paid the government out of every paycheck I ever earned I am now screwed. No one is coming to save you, you must do it yourself.

The government owns the calvary and they never ride over the hills to save the common people. That only happens for the wealthy.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

The government owns the calvary and they never ride over the hills to save the common people.

That's not true. The New Deal is an example if a government that worked for the common people.

In a democracy we get the government we deserve.

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BearmouseFather@reddit

I thank you for the reminder. One of the very few times it did go in our favor but it did.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

Unfortunately we have to go back decades to remember how societies should be governed because around the 1980s was when the neoliberal fkery started and democracies around the world were hijacked by the billionaire class.

With not so good results for "we the people".

But remember, the way they maintain their power is to make us believe there is no hope that things could be different.

In times like these, hope is a radical act.

We must keep the vision of a better world alive because it does not have to be this way.

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BearmouseFather@reddit

My father once told me as a teen I must have been a revolutionary in a past life because I've been anti-authority since I could crawl lol. I've raised my children to be the change they wish to see in the world and not a one of us is going down without a fight.

Gov for the people, not the corporations.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

I hope to see a mass global push back against the billionaires and corporations in my lifetime 💪

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_Z_y_x_w@reddit

Amen. Currently 53 and I'll be eligible for Social Secuirty in exactly the year that they're predicted to only be able to pay 70% of benefits. I've done all my financial planning as though it wouldn't be there because every day it's looking more likely that it won't. I'm furious that by this point in my career, my employers and I have paid in hundreds of thousands of dollars that I will never see any benefit from.

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GARedz2017@reddit

I was under employed and unemployed at age 62. Tried Fed Ex, UPS and Amazon. Hated it. I finally started to downsize to make ends meet. I met an under 30 with his own company. Because I’m used to hustling for work, I asked him if he needed help. To my surprise, he said yes and I started working for him that Saturday. Turns out, he’d rather hire a Boomer than a youngster cause I’m not afraid of a little hard work. And I show up every day. Plus, I’m funny and very social. I’m his company manager now and just celebrated my one year anniversary with him.

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

Pay close attention to everything George Carlin tried to warn us about.

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Human_Morning_72@reddit

And Frank Zappa.

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

Yes indeed and beware of the slime oozing out from your tv set

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starscream4747@reddit

wtf is that

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

?

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selfistfirst@reddit

gif

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mdmale21921@reddit

2nd that

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NoodniXL@reddit

Okay, the motion passed. Now what?

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pricklypineappledick@reddit

Fuck up some rich stuff?

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badpopeye@reddit

3rd

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ScreenTricky4257@reddit

Young Carlin. He became an extremely bitter old man.

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pamelareads@reddit

He created great visuals of stuff. Right on.

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Regular_or_BQ@reddit

Too bad we didn't listen.

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abbys_alibi@reddit

Wish I'd taken to heart his bit about buying a house to put stuff in. Then a bigger house to put even more stuff in. Currently trying to unload all the extra stuff. Shesh!

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

I tell my wife "Don't buy anything unless it comes with space too"

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

Same. I have aged enough to want a smaller house now. I hate all the stuff to clean and take care of.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Don't park on a driveway and don't drive on a parkway

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Medical-One9202@reddit

You know, I think that SOB died just to piss us off. Wouldn't surprise me! Bastard

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techman74@reddit

Amen

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

We'll never see another one like George

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pumkinut@reddit

As much as I like Carlin, I wouldn't say everything. I was watching one of his specials from the 90s, iirc, and he went off on a 5 minute screed about using the term flight attendant was sooooooo much worse than "stewardess", because that's people trying to tell you how to think.

All I could think was, "Really!? That's what keeps you up at night?"

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

Carlin was hit-or-miss sometimes. I agree with you that that time was a miss.

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

Man was a sage.

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

True that.

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VintageVitaminJ@reddit

No. He was INSUFFERABLE. He wasn’t a comic, he just said opinions. Very strong disagree here. He was an incessant whiner, not a comic.

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Unicorn_Sparkle_Butt@reddit

He died in 2008.

You gonna be ok now?

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

I didn't say he was a comic. I also didn't didn't say he was a liar. I don't know what point you're trying to make. Whatever it is, it doesn't subtract anything from what I wrote.

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jestr6@reddit

Gee, I wonder who you voted for 🙄

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squanchy_Toss@reddit

Too late...

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SonnyCalzone@reddit

Maybe too late for current generations, yeah, but there's hope for future generations.

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beavislasvegas@reddit

Do not trust a fart

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PoppyKayt@reddit

Life’s a bitch and then you die

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LastMongoose7448@reddit

Not sure I would call it advice. Maybe just something you should know. I’m not sure who said it (maybe George Carlin, but I could be wrong.

In your 20’s you’re worried about what everyone thinks of you.

In your 30’s you decide you don’t care what everyone thinks of you.

In your 40’s you realize no one was thinking of you.

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Affectionate-Cup3907@reddit

You aren't that special. You're human like everyone else. We're everywhere.

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Iron_Chic@reddit

It's not what you know, it's who you know.

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gev1138@reddit

It's not who you know, it's who admits to knowing you.

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dudeatwork77@reddit

I rather know what than know who

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pcs11224@reddit

Amen. I wish I'd spent my youth building a community.

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PsyOnMelme@reddit

You can be happy being just a Mom and Dad and raising kids and doing the whole suburban thing. You always think when you're young that you should do something amazing with your life. Raising kids and concentrating on being happy can be amazing and fulfilling. I think people get caught up in thinking they need to be more, when just being happy with life and shaping it into the things you love. Like teaching your kids pottery because you love pottery and art and doing it together if they enjoy it too.

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birdy_lil@reddit

Smoking isn’t cool.

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Various-Interview-60@reddit

The government, corporations, pretty much anyone who isn't your friend... ISNT your friend

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wendilw@reddit

You’ll get old.

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raf_boy@reddit

EVERYBODY should work retail and food service, so they can be nicer people.

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imcomingelizabeth@reddit

And clean up gross things. In life, you will clean up many gross things.

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RUfuqingkiddingme@reddit

I think 60 days at a low end retail store or restaurant should be required to get a high school diploma.

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Voggl@reddit

In Germany we had the choice of military Service or social Service after school for one year. In any case you had to care for others. I worked with mentally challenged kids. I think it is a thing that makes society better.

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BlueOrbifolia@reddit

And daycare for children and elderly!!

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DragonFaery13@reddit

Maybe this is why I have been si successful in my current role, i have done gas station, retail, fast food, daycare/preschool. I have been with my current company for 12 years and a very successful team leader that my tea. Loves for 6 years.

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Dangerous_Abalone528@reddit

And learn how to manage when people aren’t nice back. My sensitive tween is struggling HARD with this in middle school.

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Beast_Bear0@reddit

Retail and Food Service teaches you:

You can survive in poverty. Appreciate the little things.
To work harder (if you want to get out of these jobs).
Be nice to all. You can never know the battles others are fighting.
How to hustle. Learn this. Never forget this. Use this every day for the rest of your life.
Use Discounts and buy sale items. Save money when you can.

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Regular_or_BQ@reddit

Food service also taught me to cook in bulk. Which is great but in a two person household, it gets old eating the same thing and freezing the rest. But it is economical...

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

As is mine!

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dancin-weasel@reddit

Mine also. But it’s amazing what can set her off. I fear that the hardest times we have seen in a hundred years is coming and it will be faced by the most sensitive generation.

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Dangerous_Abalone528@reddit

It’s true. We were kind of beaten down. Shut up and suck it up. I’m much nicer to my kids than my family ever was to me. But I was far better prepared for middle school.

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Blossom73@reddit

I've known a number of people who have done that kind of work, who still treat retail and food service workers like shit.

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raf_boy@reddit

They must've been working in "manglement".

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WonderfulTraffic9502@reddit

That’s insane. I don’t purely because I WAS that person once. When workers start to apologize for things out of teit control, I usually tell them it’s all good and I know what it is like to face the public. I try my best to be agreeable.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Or cold call people to become immune to rejection

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3nar3mb33@reddit

truth.

I work in academia and avoid hiring processes like the plague. But when I am forced to, one of the top things *I* look for is food service experience, especially servers/bartenders with years of good experience--those people have proven far more useful/capable of being helpful than the ones with only ivy league degrees.

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sorrymizzjackson@reddit

Absolutely. They’ve seen the shit, been weeded to fuck and back, and survived with mostly a smile on their face. I’m a very chill boss in general, but I like to know my crew can handle the shit when it hits the fan and I do my best to make sure that it doesn’t for them.

I’ve literally had only one hire that was a waitress that didn’t end up being a long term kick ass employee and that’s only because she was making more bartending in a tourist district. Can’t fault her for that.

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loyallemons@reddit

Hm, I've been leaving food service experience off of my resume to make room for more relevant job experience to my career. Wonder if I should keep it on there

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3nar3mb33@reddit

not everybody will GET IT, but know there are some of us who climbed out of the service industry that are full aware and fighting for y'all...

when you mention food service, outline those skills that are desirable: multitasking, patience, money management, interpersonal skills: I am confident that an experienced server is WAY better at that stuff than some person that's never done anything but be in college.

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loyallemons@reddit

I'm well out of college with a few years of work experience under my belt. I do enjoy swapping war stories with other service employees.

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3nar3mb33@reddit

yeah, we all find each other...we're usually the ones doing anything. ;)

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overmonk@reddit

Customer service of some kind. A job where no one is happy to talk to you.

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Der_fluter_mouse@reddit

This!

Also you learn to plan and not wait until the last minute.

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SpaceMan420gmt@reddit

Waiting tables made me a very efficient person. I still use what I learned in my current office job!

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SpaceMan420gmt@reddit

Anytime Im dining out and someone starts getting mouthy with a waiter it sets me off. I immediately want to defend the waiter 😢 Also, making a childish mess in a grocery or retail store.

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shawncollins512@reddit

My first job was washing dishes and I learned quick that it was a rough, nasty job. It was a big day when I got promoted to ice cream scooper.

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vexed_and_perplexed@reddit

I read a lot of chef/restaurant memoirs and I forgot which one it was in but the writer said the dishwashing position at their Michelin star restaurant was among the highest paid because the restaurant stops without that person/crew. And any employee who was rude or disrespectful to the dishwasher was immediately fired.

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shawncollins512@reddit

Now that is some due respect. I was working in a place with burgers and ice cream and high turnover of tables (Friendly’s - east coast, I was in MD). It was just stressful and hot and low paying.

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ofayokay@reddit

Or to learn what assholes the general public are & how to deal with them

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Chicagogirl72@reddit

That’s what I was thinking, you find out how extremely stupid people are

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Far_Satisfaction6600@reddit

It doesn’t matter about the 1,000 things you did right. They will hang you on the one mistake they don’t like.

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midlifepainter@reddit

Don't bother thinking about home ownership (Canada content)

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Speaker-Swimming@reddit

Please take care of your Teeth, joints, Hands and definitely your feet. Shit gets hectic quick... Around 29.5 yrs lol

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Imnothere1980@reddit

This is the only real advice I’ve heard. The rest of these comments are atrocious.

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Speaker-Swimming@reddit

turning 55 in October NEVER would have thought 💭🤔 55 ugh..... But i am still here..... Take care of yourself

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persistent_admirer@reddit

No one is going to save you. It's all on you.

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esg1057@reddit

There will inevitably come a day when you are not cool and those younger than you will snicker at what you say and do 😂

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UncuriousCrouton@reddit

1) No one outside your immediately and closest friends truly cares about you.

2) Overprotecting your kids is counterproductive, and you can't childproof the universe. Expose your kids to a controlled amount of risk, and they will learn to cope with risk as they grow up.

3) Neither you nor your chosen romantic partner remain the same person over time. You both will grow and change. If you are no longer right for each other, it is better to break up and move on.

4) Your favorite football team sucks.

5) Even if it is the Dallas Cowboys.

6). Especially if it is the Dallas Cowboys.

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biteyfish98@reddit

lol Fan since 1978 and incredibly (sometimes ridiculously) loyal. I don’t even watch sports any more, but America’s Team 😜 will always be my team. ⭐️

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UncuriousCrouton@reddit

SELF-PROCLAIMED America's Team.

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biteyfish98@reddit

Oh, absolutely! 😁 I’m not a trash talker so that’s not phrasing I’d personally use, except to occasionally rib my husband, who roots for the Broncos. 😉

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UncuriousCrouton@reddit

Washington fan since 1989 here.

It has been a very long thirty years.

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biteyfish98@reddit

I feel that!

I keep telling my husband, “it’s not the 90s anymore!” (And sadly in so many ways, it isn’t. 😔

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Infamous-Hope-5950@reddit

the cheerleaders are cool though

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peaceproject@reddit

You hit me right in the feels with 5 & 6.

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TrueNotTrue55@reddit

Everything you post online is accessible to future employers and a future spouse and all family members and yes they do check.

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coalcracker2010@reddit

When you are lying down in bed at night and are too worried or stressed out to fall asleep, ask yourself this simple question. "If this was my impending deathbed, would I still be as worried or stressed over the same problem?" If not, forget about it until the next day and go to sleep. Life is too short.

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No_Entertainment1931@reddit

Expect nothing from anyone and make a realistic plan to get what you want from life.

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ReedDickless@reddit

You're probably fucked.

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Professional-Doubt-6@reddit

Very few people really care about you.

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3nar3mb33@reddit

there's nothing more liberating than realizing "NOBODY CARES."

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Aggravating_Onion300@reddit

I'm an old man in a nursing home. There might as well be a giant NOBODY CARES sign on every wall.

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New_Writer_484@reddit

Where at? I’ll come hang out

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Professional-Doubt-6@reddit

I've seen it. Sorry, bro. May you find your peace.

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Voggl@reddit

You seem to care.

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AdamPedAnt@reddit

Similarly, people are thinking about you much less often than you think they are.

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Voggl@reddit

I think thats better in some places. In the US caring has the Stigma of socialism.

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Mortimer452@reddit

More importantly - this means you shouldn't really care about what other people think

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NumbersMonkey1@reddit

You think about what other people think about you more than they think about you. Most people couldn't care less; their brains are all tapped out thinking about their own lives, just like yours is.

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reganomics@reddit

but you should still care about "people"

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Mmmkay-99@reddit

And appreciate the small number of people who do care for you.

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endlesssearch482@reddit

But finding a handful of people who really do is truly precious and worth the effort to maintain.

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7mmCoug@reddit

More people should know this

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7mmCoug@reddit

Especially our government

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ieatsilicagel@reddit

This can be both brutal and liberating.

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Master_Grape5931@reddit

The flip side that took me too long to understand.

You should really lean into the people that do.

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abby-rose@reddit

Take good care of your relationships. Do the work to maintain your close friendships and good family connections. (I realize that not everyone has a great family, but if you do love them and can get along with them, stay in touch)

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FuckedUpYearsAgo@reddit

"Your Opinion Doesn't Actually Matter"

along a similar line.

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dlsc217@reddit

I've found that when it comes down to it you only have yourself to rely on in this world.

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TenuousOgre@reddit

I found this a two sided thing when I learned it. No one noticed when I struggled. On the other hand, few cared if I lived how it wanted. I figure it's more gain than loss.

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Monkeynutz_Johnson@reddit

True, those who say they care about your "feelings" are going to play you for a sucker.

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New_Writer_484@reddit

If something is worth doing it is worth doing poorly, too. For example working out. If you don’t feel like it just work out 5 or a10 mins. Doing a little bit is better than nothing at all.

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devpuppy@reddit

Do four years in the military right after high school, live cheap and put all the money into index funds, then let them pay for your college. Don’t take student loans.

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Human_Morning_72@reddit

You're going to have to find peace with the physical aging process.

Even with the most healthy and active lifestyle, you WILL experience parts of aging on the same timeline as everyone else. This includes: thinning hair, sagging skin, changes to skin in general, presbyopia (needing reading glasses), general aches/pains, arthritis, gum recession .... and probably more I'm forgetting. LOL.

It's a hard truth to be the "healthiest" person all of your friends know, and still feel all the things above. Maybe even harder than for someone who hasn't felt the whole body effects of fitness for long stretches of time.

(I'm aware this is a privileged thing to say. Sometimes the brutal truths come after a time of relative ease.)

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GretaVanFrankenmuth@reddit

There are many opportunities to keep your mouth shut. You should take advantage of every single one of them.

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Any_Assumption_2023@reddit

Life isn't fair.

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Oldmanwithapen@reddit

The most powerful force in the world is compounded interest.

Start early and keep going.

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Isantos85@reddit

Take the best possible care of your teeth. Floss every day. Drink a lot of water. Don't allow your body to get too big. Once that skin stretches, it's almost impossible to tighten up. You can get fit lose a bunch of weight and still hate your body because of that extra skin

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wriker10@reddit

Eventually you just move from one physical malady to the next.

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sdouble@reddit

I read that as m’lady

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Dramatic-Secret937@reddit

Don't take everything personally. The criticism or rejection is generally not about you the person but you the worker.

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Safe_Mousse7438@reddit

Life is not fair, fairness is a concept for cartoons and movies.

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kellzone@reddit

Don't let perfect be the enemy of good.

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wightnoise@reddit

Perfect always takes so long because it don't exist.

It doesn't exist

Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah

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ElleEmEss@reddit

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of DONE.

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DiogenesLied@reddit

Aim for “perfect enough” that point were additional effort would be better spent elsewhere

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Imaginary_Variation7@reddit

This is the best, and most relevant advise for the current generation. Social media puts forth an image of perfection: the perfect spouse, perfect boyfriend/girlfriend, perfect job, perfect house, perfect car, ect. Nobody or nothing is perfect, and if that is what you are chasing, you will fail and lose out on so many opportunities in life.

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Master_Grape5931@reddit

Analysis Paralysis

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

Great advice. I spent the first half of my life trying to attain “perfect”. Then I realized it was never going to happen bc it doesn’t exist. Now I’m trying to live the second part with good enough and get rid of the guilt.

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JRT1994@reddit

Fund retirement early and aggressively. If you get laid off after age 50 your income trajectory will not recover.

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michaelpellerin@reddit

I would add Insurance. Both of my parents died without any Insurance or death benefit plans.

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MomsSpagetee@reddit

If you mean life insurance, you only need that if someone depends on your income. Once your kids are grown it’s generally not necessary or recommended. You’re better off investing the premiums.

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ThatGhoulAva@reddit

I'm reassured hearing this from many people. We never had children so we don't carry policies beyond what it would take to pay off the house and have some pad. It's only a few extra bucks beyond the X year coverage my employer pays for, & i can transfer the policy.

Now long term care insurance....I feel like i might need THAT and heard it's best to buy before 50 but that's the extent of my knowledge

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EndBusiness7720@reddit

I suggest you study/sign up for LTC. My mother was in a skilled nursing center for a little over 2 years, with no LTC insurance. It cost $8950. every month, in the early 2010s. Thank goodness, she had the money - I don't know what if she didn't. Consider it's about $250 per day, that's at least $91,000 - $107,000 a year to shell out.

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ThatGhoulAva@reddit

These figures are exactly why I'm looking into it.

No matter the cost of the insurance, this is way more. I wouldn't want anyone to pay those costs for me, even if it was possible. Pump me full of lethal doses of morphine and throw me in a field.

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gildedlily0492@reddit

💯

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IndependentLychee413@reddit

Well someone has to pay to bury you, that should never be left to a child to have to pay because their parents didn’t prepare.

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michaelpellerin@reddit

What I meant was my parents did not leave any money for their final expenses. My brother and I had to take care of all that.

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72OverOfficer@reddit

I just want to quickly say that is a really difficult position you and your brother were in and that I'm sorry. I realize it was probably a number of years ago, but still, that's a difficult life event even when burial funds are readily available.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

This! Also get a long term disability policy that covers your lost wages if you become disabled. I now disabled at 48 and my policy pays 70% of my former income until retirement age. Also, prepay for your after life services. My mom did and it took so much pressure off us at a tragic time.

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LobsterFar9876@reddit

Can you recommend a good company? I have been wanting to get that insurance. I wish I knew about it 10yrs ago when I had a devastating injury.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

I got it as a teacher and my lawyer told me only 30% of employers offer this option. Often it’s usually public employees like teachers or people whose union has negotiated for the LDT insurance. Mine is through Liberty Mutual. But maybe you can buy it on your own?

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JosiesYardCart@reddit

I would go to an insurance broker that hustles Medicare plans or car insurance. I pay 100% out of pocket for mine with The Hartford.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

I have a good friend who sells insurance and she tells people this is paycheck protection just like people get “protection” for their cars or home.

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JosiesYardCart@reddit

I agree 100%! I had rotator cuff surgery 4 yrs ago, I was out for 3 months. I got three quarters of my gross salary which was actually more than my take-home pay. It it was also considered tax-free since I pay for the insurance after taxes. One month's salary of it was more than what I paid for an entire year. I work in the medical field and I see so many people in financial distress because of an illness or injury they didn't think would happen to them and they couldn't work.

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legal_bagel@reddit

Long Term care insurance too

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polerix@reddit

I got laid off so many times along the way here.

I did have 2 week retirement training that showed how to calculate how much starting when.

My only hope is diabetes takes me before I am forced to retire.

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STFUisright@reddit

Same my friend. Want a roomate? We could halve our rent!

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polerix@reddit

You get half the cardboard box!

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STFUisright@reddit

Lol yay!

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dlsc217@reddit

this one hurts... unemployed at 50 currently 😒

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chompy_jr@reddit

well this string of replies is gonna sting.

I'm 58 and left my job of 27 years to relocate. I took some time off because I wanted to but the job search consisted of 275 unique applications. This netted me 8 phone interviews, 5 second rounders, 3 third interviews and exactly one bonafide offer.

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SolomonGrumpy@reddit

What do you do for work?

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chompy_jr@reddit

I work in IT. I was very fortunate.

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Snuffleupagus27@reddit

Same.

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Think-Lack2763@reddit

Same. Same.

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suzienewshoes@reddit

Me too, late 40s. It sucks doesn't it? Solidarity to you and anyone else in the same boat.

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MommaBear1723@reddit

55 here. Also unemployed.

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JRT1994@reddit

I was laid off last year at 52. Consulting has disappeared with current economic mess. Pivoting again at 53.

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marshdd@reddit

Lost track of a 401k from my first job. Discovered by accident last year; has 64k in it.

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BronzedLuna@reddit

Nice! I hope your luck could rub off on me. I’ve been trying to find my husband’s 401K and the trail ends after 2018. He passed away almost 20 years ago and the last company he worked at went out of business. I’m pissed at myself for waiting so long.

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marshdd@reddit

Have you looked at the Federal Department of labor site. You can search for 401ks of old companies.

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BronzedLuna@reddit

I have not. Thanks for the tip!

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IndependentLychee413@reddit

Damn, same with me I lost track of something from the late 80s. I have no way of finding how to get my money back. It was actually in a UAW Shop, the shop closed down and I never got a distribution of my money.

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holdyaboy@reddit

This. Majority of your friends and family arnt/wont do it…don’t follow their lead, they’ll be working forever. Max out retirement accounts asap and don’t stop

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Bitchface-Deluxe@reddit

In addition, because you never know if you may fall ill and be no longer able to work, like me, keep in mind that in order to be eligible for Social Security DISABILITY Income, which is much different and more money than regular SSI, you have to pay into the system for many years in order to be eligible. I became ill and was no longer able to work when I was 48, and I had to live off of retirement funds until I was approved for SSDI. I got all the early withdrawal penalty taxes I paid returned to me, and I get enough each month to sustain the same (modest) lifestyle as when I was working from SSDI.

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MonkeyTraumaCenter@reddit

I'd add that living within your means takes real discipline. I'm still paying off a pile of credit card debt. That can cut into a lot of that saving.

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handsomeape95@reddit

Invest early. Index. Dollar cost average. Set and forget.

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goatmalta@reddit

I tell young people, max out those index funds in retirement accounts as much as you can before 30. Live cheap. If you just do your 20s financially right, you will be set in your 60s. I get it, it's harder now than it used to be with crazy high rent and student loans, but any progress in that direction will pay off big.

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Excellent_Jaguar_675@reddit

Vanguard mid cap growth fund

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JRT1994@reddit

When I said aggressively, I meant the amount of money going in. Don’t assume you will be contributing extra in the last decade.

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profjamie4102005@reddit

THIS.

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TheSpatulaOfLove@reddit

I forced my kids to read the sidebar at /r/personalfinance

Information I wish I had when I was young.

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in-a-microbus@reddit

The best time to start saving for retirement is 65 years ago, the second best time is right now.

I also want to add: start saving then worry about the particulars of where to invest.

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anonymouswesternguy@reddit

Agreed: speaking as someone who did not.

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sungodly@reddit

We're in late stage capitalism: WHEN you get laid off after age 50.

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swinks22@reddit

Amen. I've been telling my nieces I wish I had all these easy apps like Acorns 30 years ago. I'm trying to explain they should start now in highschool.

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Thekingofchrome@reddit

Be your own advocate, no one is going to do it for you.

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Hot_Rock@reddit

Time goes fast. Brutally fast. You absolutely will be old before you have time to consider it.

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Outside_Manner8231@reddit

And then one day you'll find

Ten years have got behind you

No one told you when to run

You missed the starting gun

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llamatador@reddit

Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.

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Perfect-Campaign9551@reddit

Good, I'm tired of being in pain all the time, can we get this over with quicker? It's not like anything I have done matters really anyway. Not looking forward to another 20-30 years, honestly

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DruidMaster@reddit

Hey now, no chance of getting some sort of pain management plan going?

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Perfect-Campaign9551@reddit

Been going to chiro currently. It's more that, when one thing ends, another starts up lol. Feel like my body is constantly betraying me now.

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DruidMaster@reddit

Talk about bodily betrayal! I have some too! I have both Lupus and Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome. I had two late-term miscarriages and thus, no kids. I have lots of anxiety. I get pissed at my body too. I try so hard to do right by it. Lol.

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NoBeerIJustWorkHere@reddit

My existential dread has made me consider this every waking minute since my early thirties. Moving through time is like white knuckle gripping the safety bar on a screaming roller coaster that only accelerates.

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80sWereAMagicalTime@reddit

I’m 46 and just starting to experience this. I am not a fan!!

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

"Didn't we go on vacation last year?"
"No, that was 5 years ago."
"FUCK"

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Kboh@reddit

If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

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bonedaddyd@reddit

And the rate at which it gets faster gets faster itself.

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OreoSpeedwaggon@reddit

gif

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PushKey4479@reddit

There is a hell. And most people go there because they either hate the truth or don’t really care about it.

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nickbdrums@reddit

You are 100% responsible for your own happiness and where your decisions take you. No one is down for you like you.

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stubborn-thing@reddit

- No one is coming to save you.
- Working hard doesn’t always mean you’ll succeed, but if you don’t work at all, you won’t get anywhere.
- People will judge you, ignore you, or not take you seriously. That’s life. You can waste time being mad about it or you can keep going and prove them wrong.
- Time moves fast. One minute you're 22 with a hangover and bad credit, the next you're googling “why does my back hurt when I sleep”.
- Start saving money.
- Take care of your body, and stop waiting for the perfect moment. It doesn’t exist.
- Most people are thinking about themselves, not you.
- Own your mistakes. Everyone screws up. Blaming others or playing the victim won’t get you anywhere.
- Think before you post online. Stuff sticks around forever.

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shado0911@reddit

The Internet, as we know it, is FOREVER. Later on, you may not want to be represented online by your wild antics from your teens and twenties, but thanks to the interwebz, IT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE. It doesn't even matter if you still have access to your accounts or not -- Tag a friend? IT'S IN THEIR TIMELINE TOO. The same goes for your Mom's, Dad's, Sibling's, extended family -- your online history is functionally IMMORTAL .. and that's only if you DIDN'T go viral. Look at people who were briefly internet-famous. Not all of them had a happy ending. Never forget, because the Internet most assuredly will NOT!! 🤔🤔🤔

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brezhnervous@reddit

Karma isn't real. Very often the worst people never get their due and good people suffer for no reason.

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PuzzleFly76@reddit

There are already many great responses for such a new post. I will. echo a couple: life isn't fair and the world doesn't owe you anything. Figuring out those two things early can make they let downs hurt a bit less.

Some dreams just aren't attainable no matter how hard you try no matter how much you want it. If you struggle with math and want to be an astronaut, it's not gonna happen. If you're 5'9" tall and weigh 170 pounds but want to play tight end or safety in the NFL, despite barely making your varsity football team, this will have to remain a fantasy.

No matter how hard you try, things can come out of left field and screw it up for you. A boss who just doesn't like your face and tries to stall your career. That same boss might say negative things about you when future employers call one day asking about you. You can be hit with a severe or chronic medical problem out of the blue that will derail everything. Life has a way of throwing random awfulness at us sometimes that we don't deserve, but the unfairness won't stop it.

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Ok_Prize_8091@reddit

Wise soul here 👆

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PuzzleFly76@reddit

Awwww, Thank you!

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this_kitty68@reddit

Ride your bike, drink out of the hose, don’t let the bullies get the best of you, stay in school, the cool people aren’t actually cool, always have your bestie’s back.

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jadedgyminstructor@reddit

Turn up on time, do some honest graft and be as likeable as you can but make sure it’s genuine

Everything else in life is just a roll of the dice

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AntC_808@reddit

No one is coming to save you.

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swilkers808@reddit

Words cannot hurt you. Life isn't fair, and the world is mean.

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Traditional_Deal_654@reddit

Substantially more than half of what happens is going to be entirely out of your control.

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saltydancemom@reddit

Leave your hometown. Try something new, live somewhere new - you can always go back if you want.

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Apprehensive_Pug6844@reddit

Life ISN’T Fair.

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saltydancemom@reddit

Suck it up. Life is not fair and tomorrow is not promised. Don’t let everything in life offend you.

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EveryoneGoesToRicks@reddit

It doesn't "happen for a reason"

Shit happens and sometimes it is good and sometimes it isn't.

It's what you do with it that makes the difference.

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CelebrationBulky9970@reddit

Good things and bad things happen. It’s life. There is no reward and there is no punishment.

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BeYourselfTrue@reddit

Don’t waste your money on bullshit. Be wary of debt. Debt is spending tomorrow’s money. And you will pay interest for it until it’s paid off.

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Ok-Construction6222@reddit

That America is broke and needs to get it's spending under control

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nycink@reddit

don't abuse alcohol. It's a dead end/trap. Thankfully, Gen Z is drinking less. Keep it up. One day alcohol will be seen in the same light as cigarettes or lead paint.

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MegloMeowniac@reddit

Accumulate experiences and not things. Memories are yours forever, things fall apart, get tossed away and lose value.
Don’t wait until later to do what can/ what you want to now- there isn’t always a later and you will regret the things you missed out on because you thought there would be a better time.
If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
Sometimes love really isn’t enough.

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DanoGKid@reddit

Opportunity is 90% preparation and 10% luck.

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AlarmingCorner3894@reddit

No one cares about you or your….fill in the blank. Get back to work

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Visual-Demand4005@reddit

This thread reads like the book of Proverbs from the Bible with a healthy dash of Ecclesiastes.

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Sanity-Checker@reddit

The Court-appointed psychologist is not your friend.

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Visual-Demand4005@reddit

Life is a struggle until the end. Also, people are lining up to stab you in the back, especially if you are a nice guy or gal. Just take the stab wounds. Don’t let it change you or make you bitter.

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blumpkinator2000@reddit

Keep safe in the sun. Cover up with a hat, wear sunnies, and apply sunscreen religiously. Getting yourself crispy doesn't just increase your risk of skin cancer, it also makes you look old and rough before your time.

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OCguy1969@reddit

The people at work aren't your friends. At best they're fellow mercenaries with temporary alignment. Act accordingly.

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Visual-Demand4005@reddit

Took me awhile to learn this.

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supersonicx01@reddit

Protect your eyes and ears. Always use sunglasses, especially in the summer and don't get crazy with the volume knob, you'll lose your hearing much faster as time passes if that habit continues. This also definitely applies to the ear buds. Don't get crazy with your volume and Clean the shit out of your ear buds regularly.

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Admirable_Tear_1438@reddit

Most adults are just as stupid as they were as kids.

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Obidad_0110@reddit

You don't make $150k+ a year without working your ass off.

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CeilingUnlimited@reddit

Call your mother. Today.

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whateverkitty-1256@reddit

100% (and your Dad)
don't be an asshole to your siblings.

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ecdc05@reddit

You only get one, and one day, sooner than you think, sooner than will feel fair, she will be gone.

It's okay to have a complicated relationship with your parents—most people do. And of course, if they are genuinely abusive, it's good to walk away from that relationship. But sometimes Reddit is a bit trigger happy with the whole, "Go no contact" thing.

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macklin_sob@reddit

You can't spend Marlboro Miles anymore.

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Skylark7@reddit

You aren't special and nobody owes you anything. Victimization narratives are exhausting for the people around you. Everyone has a personal struggle, whether or not they talk about it.

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suchalittlejoiner@reddit

Life is not fair. The universe doesn’t always balance out luck appropriately. Sometimes, bad people get good things, and good people get bad things, and even if you do all the right things, it might not work out. Fairness is a myth, and chasing it is wasted energy.

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Revolutionary_Gap150@reddit

There is only one thing the last five failed relationships in your life have in common.

You.

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irishkenny1974@reddit

Taylor Swift just downvoted this post

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Ok_Prize_8091@reddit

😉

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Ok_Prize_8091@reddit

sorry sent wrong emoji…I meant this 🤣not this 😉

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Shurglife@reddit

Pubes turn gray when you get old

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MindYoSelfB@reddit

OMG, nobody ever told me this! I just about died when I saw the first one! 😂

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Shurglife@reddit

😂😂😂

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Suitable-Toe@reddit

You look incredibly stupid in the videos you post online. All of them. Every video.

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Ok_Prize_8091@reddit

🤣

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Awkward-Spite-8225@reddit

Nobody owes you anything, and nobody really cares what you think.

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Munchkin_Media@reddit

No one cares about you. Your family and a few friends, but in reality, no one is paying attention to what you do, how you feel, or what you think. Everyone is busy thinking about themselves. Remember this before you care what people would think about what you do.

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Kangaroo-Parking@reddit

Always give it a beat by this. I mean, before making any type of decision, take a beat, think about it. Not too much time then respond. When in doubt don't. sometimes going with that gut feeling is absolutely the right decision. Don't jump the gun and don't do it in haste

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mrstorey@reddit

Work won’t love you back.

Life moves pretty fast.

Etc.

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seaglassgirl04@reddit

Not everyone gets a trophy and a corner office at age 22. You have to put in the effort.

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RescueRacing@reddit

Start early and save $ until it hurts. If you can fund your own retirement, you’ll experience true freedom. Stop buying stupid stuff you don’t need.

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EmotionalPizza6432@reddit

You are your own higher power. You’re the one who can make things happen for yourself.

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Raynet11@reddit

Be yourself 100% don’t let anyone tell you who you should be, what you should be doing, how you should be thinking…. Living the authentic you with confidence unapologetically is going to transform your soul… During this go round you have lessons to learn and success and failures that your soul agreed to experience before it arrived here on this blue marble… for growth, embrace it..

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Cautious-Bar-965@reddit

your kids don’t owe you anything.

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olugbo@reddit

Learn to recognize situations where being at peace is more valuable than being right.

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Blue_Henri@reddit

Wear sunscreen. All the time.

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Azerafael@reddit

You don't know everything. It's impossible for anyone to know everything.

Instead of going through life acting like you know everything, and then inevitably screw it all up, keep in mind that you don't know enough, so you should learn more, adapt to the situation and then overcome the obstacles in life using what you've learned.

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Tinaturtle79@reddit

Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential.

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DianneDiscos@reddit

Plant your corn early

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shackspirit@reddit

The saying “everything happens for a reason” is bullshit. Sometimes it’s just plain dumb luck. But if you don’t learn from bad situations, you deserve for them to happen again.

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snozberryface@reddit

Nobody is coming to save you

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Traditional-Banana78@reddit

Some of you will be here only for a short time, but a lot of you will be around for a long time. Plan your life & life choices accordingly.

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Johnlc29@reddit

If you don't do it today, you never will. You will always find an excuse to put it off till tomorrow. And you won't do it then either. I have to tell myself this from time to time.

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oudcedar@reddit

“Anxiety” and “Mental Health” don’t give you a free pass to succeed, and may antagonise a large number of people who are trying to adult their way through their own lives, and won’t try to understand yours.

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Historical_Island292@reddit

The rich get richer and gave insane advantages in life

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Hyphen99@reddit

Social media has been seriously duping so damn many of you into spending tons of money on luxury skincare when the actual reasons your favorite influencers look so young is because they ARE young, and/of they have good genes. Forget the pricey serums, redlight masks etc. Just buy $5 moisturizer and some SPF and use them regularly. And drink lots of water.

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ShadowsPrincess53@reddit

Not everyone in the world cares about your issues, and they don’t have to.

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SFHChi@reddit

Save money

Live under your means

Use a safety belt in a vehicle

You're the 5 people you hang w.

Do not smoke

-SFHC

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SunnySTX@reddit

You will be forgotten after 3 generations.

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afrybreadriot@reddit

No one cares how expensive your clothes and shoes are or how you look in them. Think back do you remember what shoes some guy was wearing a week ago?

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SolomonGrumpy@reddit

The world is not changed by reasonable men.

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Smiffylevel6@reddit

No one owes you anything, if it’s to be it’s up to me!

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trammerman@reddit

Nobody owes you shit

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galumphix@reddit

Stop being so self absorbed. Be curious.

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fgreen68@reddit

You will never be rich. No matter how hard you work, if you are not at least a little bit lucky, you will never get rich so stop voting like you will be someday.

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Max_Gerber@reddit

This depends on your definition of rich.

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fgreen68@reddit

So true.

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CranberryMission9713@reddit

You didn’t invent anything

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Spirited-Trip7606@reddit

It's OK to be afraid, but at some point you have to get angry. Seek justice and make justice.

Stop waiting for someone to save you.

Bullies are at their core weak and predictable. Stand your ground and call their bluff.

Once you do it, it feels great and liberating, and comes naturally the next time.

Also, if you're strong and someone you know is weak, stand up for them without condemning them.

Not everyone is bold, so don't hold that against the meek. Be supportive without coddling.

Speak up when you see bad shit and fight for your right to party.

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ItsDarwinMan82@reddit

You only know someone to the extent that they want you to know them.

Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

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No-Needleworker-2415@reddit

Not giving a shit, while not the key to success IS the key to happiness. I used to worry about every little thing. Now I try to tell myself if it's not going to adversely affect my families health or safety- fuck it.

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Euphoric_Biscotti_78@reddit

Quality over quantity for friends. May be only a handful or one person, but friendship becomes a beast if all you care about is quantity.

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SecretInevitable@reddit

America will never be great again

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No_Detective_But_304@reddit

You don’t deserve anything in life. You have to earn it.

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palmveach1972@reddit

Someday, you could be completely alone. I always think ahead, also, or so I thought. I never hit me, till my parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles passed away. I’m the last one with the last name. 52F. I have no one. It happens, I had no idea.

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Ilfor@reddit

After you graduate get out of your parent's/grand parent's house and take care of yourself. Stop relying on others to take care of your life's problems. Be your own person and help those who can't help themselves.

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Aloha-Eh@reddit

You mean, like the government does not care about you or give an actual shit about you?

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LinksLackofSurprise@reddit

Your triggers are your responsibility, but the world around you. Suck it up & fcuking deal with them like an adult! I'm sick to death of seeing content or trigger warnings on things that it should be common sense to expect - like true crime programs & podcasts or murder mystery books! For fuck's sake, grow up! We ALL have trauma!!

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Next_Tourist4055@reddit

When it comes to work, lose that stupid expectation that you should only "do what you love". We all would love to paint bunny rabbits and test video games. We work hard, grueling, often thankless jobs, because that's what people actually pay you money to do.

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doodlep@reddit

“Find your passion” is the most worthless shit advice. Literally most of society is (and always has been) held together by people just doing the shit that needs to get done. THEY pay you to be there and do stuff, if it were fun - you’d be paying them. Not saying you’ll never like a job, but get real.

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Bambampowpow@reddit

Don’t worry so much about what people think of you .

AND the most important thing —- ‘ I’l just get gas tomorrow morning ‘ never works out the way thought it would.

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throw123454321purple@reddit

People who dress sharp, have great bodies, and know half as much as you do about the job will get promoted over you, even if you have sterling evaluations and excellent customer feedback.

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

Especially if they know how to play the game

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copperpin@reddit

This! Skill in office politics is way more valuable than being good at ones job. That lesson sucks.

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NumbersMonkey1@reddit

For most people's jobs, the ability to get along with and communicate with other people is a much bigger part of their job than they think it is. It's just not on the posting.

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glampringthefoehamme@reddit

Always be glad handing. Whenever upper management is in town, say hi, shake their hands, look them in the eye, and make sure they recognize you.
Doesn't take much, but if it's a choice between you and some rando from the office, they're gonna remember you.

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SausageSmuggler21@reddit

The rule of the game: be related to someone in upper management.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

Another rule: have generational wealth.

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GracieThunders@reddit

The Peter Principle doesn't even apply anymore, there is no more core competency to fail upwards beyond

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accidentallyHelpful@reddit

Which jobs? Truly curious.

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Vertical_Glasscandy@reddit

All of them

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accidentallyHelpful@reddit

That reply requires more thought

Sales? Yes

IT? not so much

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Consistent-Tie-4394@reddit

I've worked in or adjacent to IT most of my career, and the ones with some level of social skills and the ability to network with upper managers absolutely climb the ladder faster that those that don't.

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Outside_Manner8231@reddit

I'm not attractive but I'm certainly not ugly. I dress well. I'm friendly and personable. I show up on time and I'm basically sane.

I've always been promoted over people who are more skilled at the job but are unfriendly, aloof, unpunctual, or slovenly.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

Pretty privilege is a thing!

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EastOfArcheron@reddit

A great body and sharp clothes are pretty achievable for everyone unless you have a medical condition and no taste.

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Hey_Laaady@reddit

The boomers you're making fun of now will be you sooner than you think

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sequinsdress@reddit

You’re special—just like everyone else.

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Goldielocks711@reddit

Procrastination never pays off.

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_get_@reddit

You need a roommate for a while. It's ok.

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SmittyGFunk@reddit

Did they stop saying sticks and stones will break your bones but words can never hurt you? I see a lot of young people complaining a lot about mean words these days.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Locked doors keep honest people honest, criminals and thieves will find a way in, so arm yourself.

If you didn't have time to do it right the first time, where are you going to get time to do it a second?

If your want too make they world a better place, take a look in the mirror and make a change. That is to say, don't tell others what they should or shouldn't do, lead by example or learn to follow.

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uncbears34@reddit

Don't hit send if you aren't prepared to read it back in front of a judge

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SokkaHaikuBot@reddit

^Sokka-Haiku ^by ^uncbears34:

Don't hit send if you

Aren't prepared to read it

Back in front of a judge

^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.

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No-Hospital559@reddit

Most successful people don't play by the rules.

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manjar@reddit

They play by the "actual" rules, not the "written" rules. There are always rules.

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Voyager_316@reddit

Rules are made to be broken.

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No-Hospital559@reddit

There are no actual rules.

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Demented-Alpaca@reddit

A Ukrainian dude I used to work with said "Rules are there so you know what you're breaking when you do it."

I'm sure it was more poetic in his native tongue but it still works in English.

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notreallylucy@reddit

If you don't eat healthy now because you don't want to, one day you will have to eat a restrictive diet even though you don't want to. Health problems sneak right up and steal your joy without your permission. Start learning now how to enjoy healthy food, and to enjoy junk food in moderation. It's easier to learn it now while you're young and healthy than try to learn it when you're 50 and scared out of your mind about what the doctor found.

Same goes for exercise. You don't have to be Richard Simmons. Just take a walk.

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shawncollins512@reddit

The previous generations struggled, too - people act like everyone before them had a cakewalk. I paid my way in college and then couldn’t get a job back in 93. I was working for a little more than minimum wage at a hotel while accumulating debt since I had to pay my college loans, car, insurance, rent, etc.

I finally got a job with health benefits 4 years out of college.

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Voyager_316@reddit

Yeah, but I mean, it's fucking terrible compared to what those times were. Ever since 2008, America's middle class literally vanished and will never recover.

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Goldielocks711@reddit

You are not the center of the universe.

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RuralSeaWitch@reddit

If you can be tough and not traumatized, that would be ideal.

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CycleZealousideal669@reddit

Don't tell people your problems half don't care and the other half are glad it happened to you.

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boatmanmike@reddit

There is no expectation of privacy at work. Anything you do at work on your computer belongs to the company even your personal emails so don’t send an email if you don’t want it read by your boss.

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Potomacker@reddit

The most important decision in life is your choice of parents

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wwgardiner@reddit

Remember to value and protect what is truly important. Your loved ones. Because no matter what you do or where you go, they are all you’ve got. It is easy to lose sight of that, so don’t.

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Cardiff07@reddit

Everybody sucks, except for the ones that don’t. Figure it out.

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ThatsSirBubbleGuts@reddit

I know times have changed but mouthing off will get your ass kicked. Age didn’t really matter. Every Weds there was a group of kids from the high school for disciplinary problem kids would drive around and kick your ass for fun if they caught you. In your teens and mouthed off to a 20 something, ass kicked.

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RavenMad88@reddit

The world doesn't revolve around you and nobody owes you anything!

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elammcknight@reddit

Most people are not really that good or brave or kind given the right circumstances. Most are just doing what they think they need to to get by. Don't worry about making too many of these types your friends or allies. Don't make them your enemies but known that they are not for you. Learn how to recognize people who are dependable and true and make them part of your circle.

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Duran518@reddit

I heard this today. To dream is to work hard at what you love. To fantasize is to sit and do nothing. Start to achieve your dream young, but never forget about living out your youth.

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peptide2@reddit

Just because you’re paranoid, doesn’t mean there’re not after you .

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caramirdan@reddit

The world owes you NOTHING and will take everything away from you that you allow.

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NanaOlive@reddit

You did great on that job interview but they hired internally.

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NanaOlive@reddit

Don't get that art degree unless you're already rich.

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NanaOlive@reddit

Go on vacations, there's never enough money. We're all working to afford to die now. Memories of Italy would be great right about now.

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Airplade@reddit

The majority of the people you know, love and trust will not hesitate to throw you under the bus when push comes to shove.

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NetworkMick@reddit

REMEMBER:

When you bury a body, cover it with endangered plants so it's illegal to dig it up.

Follow me for more gardening tips.

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dudeatwork77@reddit

❤️ great tips

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Admirable_Addendum99@reddit

I always take em to the local pig farm

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STFUisright@reddit

Too soon.

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-DethLok-@reddit

Remember to crack the pelvis - that's the only bone pigs can't crack themselves, apparently.

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888MadHatter888@reddit

Or so I've heard.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Dry the body out and wrap it in linen so people think they just found a 3000 yr old mummy.

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Kencleanairsystem2@reddit

Three can keep a secret if two are dead.

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flyart@reddit

I always bury them with their ass cheeks just above ground, so I have a place to park my bike.

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Banded_Watermelon@reddit

It’s not going to get better than this, just enjoy it while you can.

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SyddChin@reddit

Do your job, but don’t work yourself to death for a company that would replace you in a heartbeat with no issue.

Also as much as you want to, be careful who you shit talk about your job with, and NEVER on company platforms. Yes, some people will be behind you, but others will turn snitch to benefit themselves and you’re fucked

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RipArtistic8799@reddit

You can sort of be going along, doing pretty good, working a job, having a relationship, and suddenly someone will pop out of the woodwork to scam you for thousands of dollars through no fault of your own.

Or else you are driving along having a normal day and suddenly some asshole kid races by on the freeway going 85 MPH and loses control and smacks into your vehicle and you spend then next months recovering from a terrible accident.

Or you are drinking and having fun with your pals. Then you are holding down a job and still having a few drinks for the stress. Next thing you know you are drinking equivelant 6 -8 drinks a night every night and you can't stop doing it. Not without a huge change in your life.

Or you realize late in life that you have made a series of relationship decisions that are basically self sabotaging, and it takes you 50 years to figure it out, and then it slowly dawns on you that you are the reason your life is messed up.

Well, those are a few that came to mind.

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MegaTitusRex@reddit

You are not special. Many people have gone through the problems you are having now, many people will go through it in the future.

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HeadParking1850@reddit

The world doesn't owe you a God damn thing

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Hour_Insurance_7795@reddit

This. Always cracks me up the ego on some young adults to think society (i.e. other people) owe them something just for existing. "I have a right to fresh clean water. I have a right to employment. I have a right to shelter, etc."

No, you fucking don't. You have to attain/procure it, just like every other living thing (past and present) on this planet has had to do.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

That's right wing dumbassery.

You didn't personally "procure" the water in your tap or the pipes and water treatment that enable that water. You didn't personally build the roads you drive on and you didn't grow or kill the food you buy at the supermarket.

You didn't feed yourself baby food and change your own nappies when you were a baby.

And you didn't procure this incredible planet that affords you and eight billion other people life. It was given to you, as was the care and nurturing you received throughout your childhood, and the services and infrastructure you use every day.

"Self made man" is a lie.

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Hour_Insurance_7795@reddit

Go to school, Caymryn (or is it Parker?) The adults are talking.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

You're not the adult here. That's your narcissism talking.

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Material-Ambition-18@reddit

That’s the new path to communism…. Make all this shit a right,?then the government will have to take it over…. It started in university with the Useful idiot professors who are closet communists

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HeadParking1850@reddit

The narrative pushed by the progressive left is dangerous. Let's take for example, Venezuela in the past 50 years. Even Dad said it best.....you may have these idealistic intentions of making the world a better place but I guarantee your tune will change once you start paying taxes

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procrastimom@reddit

Pronounced “Gott-Damn-Thaing!”

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

I read using Samuel L Jackson’s voice from Pulp Fiction 😂😂😂

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irishkenny1974@reddit

“Look at the big brain on Extension-Paaaaatthhhh!!!” 😂😂😂

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Extension-Path-2209@reddit

I legit laughed out loud at that

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irishkenny1974@reddit

There are times when I will pull that scene from Pulp Fiction on YouTube just to marvel at Sam’s delivery. I’m not sure anyone has ever sold a scene the way he did in that moment. Not even Brando in The Godfather.

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HeadParking1850@reddit

At your suggestion, I just did that....yep, it works!

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Similar-Click-8152@reddit

They speak English in what?

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Material-Ambition-18@reddit

This^^^ right here.

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Thoelscher71@reddit

Life's not fair.

Get over it

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Dax_Thrushbane@reddit

Stop pissing your income up the wall and invest 10% of it, on pay day, no excuses. By the time you get to mid 40s you can retire. Compound interest is real.

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Xiolaglori@reddit

Choosing the right person to make babies with is the most important decision you'll make.

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MrMathamagician@reddit

Learn to network and practice networking constantly. Build and maintain a network or many networks even if it doesn’t seem to be accomplishing anything at the moment because these are the seeds of success. It’s like being good at your job but transferable to almost any and all jobs or life situations and insanely overvalued. It is ridiculous the doors that this opens up for you.

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happycj@reddit

Literally nobody is looking at you. Ever.

No, they did not notice the scuff on your fancy trainers.

No, they did not notice the wing on your right eye is slightly higher than the one on your left.

No, they didn't care that you slipped going in that door. Everyone has done it. Nobody cares that it happened to you. Don't bother wasting your time being embarassed.

Ya know what?

Don't bother wasting your time bing embarrassed about anything. Literally nobody cares.

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SlyFrog@reddit

I mean this just isn't true. I've lived long enough to know how much people are looking at other people. How much they notice. How much they mock people for the wrong shoes, or clothes, or whatever.

I think the point should be, you shouldn't care anyway. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or someone else.

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procrastimom@reddit

And that thing that you said 10 years ago, without thinking, that was so dumb or insensitive or idiotic? Yeah, only you remember it, especially at night, when you are dropping off to sleep, and your tired brain just wants to make you cringe so hard. Sometimes your brain is a jerk to you. It’s tired or hungry and it’s acting like a toddler. Feed it, give it a nap and don’t take it to heart. (Do you remember some stupid, insensitive thing someone said to you offhandedly a decade ago? Probably not, so forget your own.)

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

My mom taught me this and it’s helped me so much in life. It was how I got over the fear of public speaking.

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I_Want_Waffles90@reddit

This.

And, people aren't thinking about you as much as you think they are. Meaning, they are in their own heads and are worried about what YOU are thinking about THEM. Literally nobody is looking at you!

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KingstaPanda@reddit

comparison is the thief of joy.

i think it was something like that.

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Remarkable_Art2618@reddit

Every 15-20 years there is a huge economic contraction. Expect to lose your job during these times.

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Toufark@reddit

“Don’t put anything in writing that you wouldn’t say in person.” You’d be surprised how many texts, emails, comments you’ll think twice about.

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Porkchopbelly@reddit

It ain’t gettin any easier

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808Soultrain@reddit

Sometimes the things you say will get you punched in the face.

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Puggrrl@reddit

SAVE YOUR MONEY!!!

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Lily_V_@reddit

Don’t believe in fairy tales.

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Significant-Can-211@reddit

The journey IS the destination.

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Significant-Can-211@reddit

Suck it up and carry on.

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XemptOne@reddit

We all have to do shit in life we dont want to do, or think its sucks having to do it, but you have to fucking do it.

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DummBee1805@reddit

No one owes you anything. If you want something you have to work/fight/struggle for it.

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Agile-Wait-7571@reddit

Spending lots of money on a wedding is a waste.

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LupoBTW@reddit

Life ain't fair. It is "Life, Liberty and the PURSUIT of Happiness", there is no right to happiness, just the freedom to get off of your butt and try to find it for yourself!

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No_Pomelo_1708@reddit

That first divorce really brings clarity to relationship expectations

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bike619@reddit

You’re not a temporarily embarrassed million/billionaire. You have 99.9% probability of remaining in your current social class (or lower). Find something you love to do and conform your lifestyle to your means, not the other way around.

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Ok_Relation_8341@reddit

No one owes you anything. No, you are not a princess! And the prince has gotten lost in his enormous non-existant castle. Don´t hate yourself because you are not successful, or because you don´t like the way you look. Spend time alone. And more important than anything else: Life is not fair! Don´t ever expect it to be!

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chompy_jr@reddit

I came here to say that it's possible to everything correctly and still lose, but that's been said and it is true as far as I can see.

So here's one more. Your life and the things that happen to you are most likely not special or particularly interesting. It's only interesting or special because it's happening to you.

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81ehx@reddit

You're not fucking special and no one is going to save you.

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Pristine_Serve5979@reddit

It ain’t over until the fat lady sings.

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youngwilliam23@reddit

The only thing that matters is results.

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ONE-EYE-OPTIC@reddit

If they're worth it love your mom.

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saanis@reddit

Honeymoon periods in relationships do not last. I don’t care if you’re some dork who never got/gets attention from the opposite sex and you somehow end up with a sexy IG model. Relationships take work no matter who you’re with. Also, you will grow apart a little bit because people are always changing. Learn to roll with changes but work on things, and that is how you create a lifelong partner

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RogerMurdockCo-Pilot@reddit

The world owes you absolutely nothing.

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dammitknockitoff@reddit

Hey! I know you! You’re Kareem Abdul-Jabbar!!

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RogerMurdockCo-Pilot@reddit

"I'm sorry, son, but you must have me confused with someone else. My name is Roger Murdock. I'm the co-pilot."

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

Sounds like something a billionaire who inherited their wealth from Daddy would say.

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RogerMurdockCo-Pilot@reddit

Lmao I grew up poor asf. Reddit's a trip

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Deshackled@reddit

And even if it did, it’s not gonna pay the bill.

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Remarkable-Desk-66@reddit

Your friends rarely stay your friends. Put more into yourself than others.

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Apprehensive_Put463@reddit

Take responsibility for your actions good or bad and don't look for the praise of other people when you do the right thing. Remember [The Most Important Person - 'OOPS I Made a Mistake!'

](https://youtu.be/lB3fi7opDBc?si=ypOYgS24V51F1CKs)

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Accomplished-Pin-167@reddit

If something is happening that you don’t like or approve of, create an action plan and do something about it.

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Somethingclever1313@reddit

There’s already plenty on here about work.

Friendships will change like relationships. If it’s time to break up with a friend do it. I’ve used to always hope for the best out of people. A person is only capable of acting how they normally act, if you expect more that’s on you. You can continue to be friends with less dependable people, or people with different morals. But expect them to act how they act. Don’t expect more and don’t expect them to be the type of friend that you are to them. Life’s too short to have shitty friends. You need a team to help you be a better person. People you can learn from, get out and find them.

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Cereal____Killer@reddit

No one thinks about you as much as you do. When you screw something up, people probably won’t care. When you say something dumb, people will forget it faster than you will. When you win a great award, people won’t remember. They’re just as focused on being the main character in their own life that they don’t care they are extras in your life.

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Prestigious-Fan3122@reddit

Spend less money than you make, and save at least 10% of everything you make! DON'T give away any money by not saving to the full limit of what your the Corporation you work for might match. DON'T get into credit card debt! And, no, you don't need a brand new car every couple of years, nor do you need new shoes and purses every month.

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radishwalrus@reddit

you fat fucks need to exercise and stop eating junk

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No_Cow_4544@reddit

Don’t spend your money on crap and try to save .

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ILoveLevity@reddit

It’s already been said - but came here to say it again - no one owes you anything. It’s not a negative way of looking at life. It makes anything a bonus, a gift.

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RedditEqualsBubble@reddit

No one cares.

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Classic-Snow-3054@reddit

All life owes you is an ass kicking. It will deliver. All that matters is that you keep getting up. Don't stop.

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Plane_Kale6963@reddit

He doesn't love you. Seriously. You're just a chemical fix. Work on your career and buying a home and spend time with friends whose lives don't revolve around finding a man.

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more-kindness-please@reddit

The only minority destroying America is the billionaires

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may_i_b_frank-with-u@reddit

Nobody cares. Not in the long run, not in ways you can count on. Some may pretend to care if they think they have something to gain from it but if they find they out they don’t you’ll quickly see their true colors.

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CantAffordzUsername@reddit

Life is really really REALLY short. Don’t waste away doing something you really don’t like b/c one day, your gone

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Queef_Muscle@reddit

Good looks fade away. Better have a good personality as well.

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melafar@reddit

Everyone needs to educate themselves about menopause. It’s not just- and then your period ends.

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legendov@reddit

Your parents were mostly right

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Puzzleheaded-Tie-666@reddit

Don't let the bastards get you down.

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FrozenPiranha@reddit

Nothing in life is free.

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Traditional_Ant_2662@reddit

The toes you step on today may be attached to the ass you have to kiss tomorrow.

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-DethLok-@reddit

Life sucks, then you die.

And I'm likely one of many to post that, I suspect...

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Lopsided_Tackle_9015@reddit

You have to protect yourself and your family in all ways, always.

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loop2loop13@reddit

"A tough lesson in life that one has to learn is that not everybody wishes you well."

-Dan Rather

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AloneWish4895@reddit

Bar friends aren’t friends. Do not waste your life drinking.

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heavymetalarmageddon@reddit

Keep moving. As you age, you can tell who was a couch potato and who wasn't. The couch potatoes have myriad health issues. The people who stay active have far fewer. Staying active is good for your body and soul. Being inactive is asking for health problems and depression.

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verdant-forest-123@reddit

Look out for yourself, because no one else is.

Trust no one.

Never give anyone any leverage over you.

It's nice to have friends and have fun, but in the end, they're only in it for themselves.

If they can cut your throat to get ahead, you're dead.

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Lopsided_Tackle_9015@reddit

When everyone around you has a problem, most likely you are the problem.

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woohhaa@reddit

Everything is a competition. Sports, games, deals, dating, job openings, everything. Even if you don’t realize it you are competing with other people for almost everything rather you are competitive or not.

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TXteachr2018@reddit

Be wise with your finances. Learn how to live with less. The old you will thank you.

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thwill2018@reddit

It’s not going to be perfect but make it work! -Life

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skeeterbmark@reddit

1) Nobody knows what the fuck they’re doing. Everyone is making it up as they go and hoping for the best.

2) Life is hard. Really hard. It’s even harder if you’re stupid. Educate yourself as best you can.

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squanchy_Toss@reddit

Disagree. You never know what hand of cards life is going to deal you on any given day. I for one have always had a goals and plans for how to get there. Hardly ever worked out like I planned it in my head but most of the time I got there, or close enough.

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M1seryMachine@reddit

Yeah, "nobody knows what they're doing" is a pretty broad generalization.

Most people who live long enough have a pretty good idea of what they should be doing. Whether or not you can have the discipline to stay on track no matter what life throws at you is another matter.

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squanchy_Toss@reddit

Long enough? I flew by the seat of my pants until I was 24, that's when I started making plans and goals. Was tired of not having a direction, so I "figured out what the fuck I wanted". Wasn't hard. Want another quote? "Necessity is the mother of invention". If you need it you'll figure out how to get it.

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

This. You’ll never feel like a grown up. You’ll never feel like you’ve made it. Fake it until you make it means until the day you die. You get one shot at every day. Pick the most important stuff first and let the rest figure itself out. You will never be “done” with laundry, housework, office work, etc, and it’s ok to let some of it go.

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darthdelicious@reddit

Although some of us hit this weird inflection point where you're no longer "the kid" in your field and now people are looking to you for answers. It's fucking weird, man.

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unparent@reddit

This one hits home. I met one of my co-workers' dad, and I was older than he was, I was 47. I do work in a young person's industry though, video game development. I shipped my first PlayStation1 game before she was born.

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Tater72@reddit

There are no bad decisions if you gather all the best info you can and make a choice. Even if later the other path gets better that’s a new decision. Make it with the new information and move on, don’t beat yourself up and do the best you can

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Adept_Artichoke7824@reddit

Very few people have their sh!t together. They just try to look like they do. Most are trying to figure out what they’re doing on this planet just like everyone else.

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melmontclark@reddit

Of late, stupidity would come in handy! Ignorance is bliss and whatnot

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KimVG73@reddit

Stupidity is the new interweb of the (dis)information highway.

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prudent-nebula3361@reddit

Everyone is the star of their own movie. You are a supporting actor at best.

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secret_someones@reddit

high school doesnt matter

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Original-Teach-848@reddit

It does and doesn’t. Getting a HS diploma matters, but community colleges are there.

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secret_someones@reddit

i mean the bullshit of high school. Half of my class looks raked over the coals by now

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Original-Teach-848@reddit

Yeah I personally only remember a couple of lessons, but it did make me used to consequences and loopholes…. All the people and emotions with friends doesn’t matter. I the real world people don’t work with everyone their same exact age!

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Throwaway-ish123a@reddit

It's not like in the movies, no one is guaranteed a happy ending...

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enginerdsean@reddit

First. Start saving as much as you are able….as soon as possible.

Second. Get laid more….just fuck and fuck and fuck….safely! Kids these days just don’t fuck. WTF is up with that?!?!?

Third. Be kind. The world is full of too many douchebags. We don’t need more douchebags.

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vt2nc@reddit

Take care of your teeth !

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chrisdancy@reddit

You can’t save you ass and your face at the same time.

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Time-Arugula9622@reddit

The thing you are avoiding the most (being tied down with responsibilities) is also the cure to what ails you.

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SoCalMoofer@reddit

Government wastes your tax dollars.

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Vagelen_Von@reddit

"Human who saw nowadays, have seen everything". Marcus Aurelius

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Nagadavida@reddit

Don't be low effort.

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Straight_Remote_593@reddit

You will have difficulty achieving the success your parents had . You have to move to affordable places

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jtx3@reddit

Life isn't easy and goes by fast, prioritize fun.

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AMPressComix@reddit

Life is never fair. Everyone dies alone. Death is not beautiful.

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BIGepidural@reddit

Life isn't fair.

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techlacroix@reddit

Good and bad are irrelevant, prioritize healthy and unhealthy. Find things that work for you without allowing your decision to be judged, or if judged, responded to. Remember that everyone has a comfort level, a place where they feel ok, normal, calm. Let them live there, and don't let others drag you from there. And enjoy what you can, it's all brief and ever changing. Forgive, love, risk.

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Traditional_Fan_2655@reddit

Never assume stone will have your back. The ones you assume will are really thinking of the motto:

"If the zombies chase us, I will trip you".

Whe. It comes down to you or them, most will throw you under the bus rather than slide under it with you.

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3nar3mb33@reddit

It's all BS: do good anyway.

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ecdc05@reddit

"It's chaos, be kind." —Michelle McNamara

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Bitchface-Deluxe@reddit

“Be kind and show courage.” — Cinderella

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RUfuqingkiddingme@reddit

My mom always said "don't sweat the small shit"

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Commercial_Lock6205@reddit

Don’t plan on seeing a dime of the $ you put into Social Security. Plan for retirement accordingly.

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RadiantBlue7@reddit

If you want to do something, do it. If you're scared, that's ok. Do it scared. That's what courage is. And even if it doesn't work out, you will have TRIED and not sat there wondering.

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Guinness-the-Stout@reddit

BOHICA

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myloveisajoke@reddit

"The fuckin' you're gettn' ain't worth the fuckin' you're gonna get"

-always be mindful of who you're in a relationship with. They may be out to get you. Trust them if they're. Trustworthy but still sleep with one eye open.

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ZealousidealGrab1827@reddit

Bad shit happens to good people. No rhyme or reason. Just does.

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Designer-Course-8414@reddit

None at all! What is this obsession with “fixing” other people? Life is as it’s always been, both good and bad, wonderful and awful in equal measure and to infer that there is something lacking in some other fellow human being is the pinnacle of conceit. Pay attention to yourself and be kind not “brutal”!

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themighty351@reddit

Don't spend your money on stupid shit.

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keirmeister@reddit

Nobody is paying attention to you; you’re not the center of the universe and everyone has their own bullshit to deal with.

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No-Sir1833@reddit

Invest early and reinvent yourself every 10 years. Life and technology doesn’t stop moving.

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EmbarrassedAd1869@reddit

You’re not that important.

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imfaerae02@reddit

Life isn't fair.

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SorryResponse33334@reddit

Most people lack critical thinking and sense which used to be called common sense but now its rare

Having a degree, owning a business, being popular or being a parent does not mean you are intelligent

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Alex_Plode@reddit

Some people just won't like you. Make sure that you do.

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BronzedLuna@reddit

Yep! I read something similar once - you can be the ripest juiciest peach and there’s still going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches.

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obxtalldude@reddit

I needed to hear this when I was 13. Well said.

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Dependent-Tip-7337@reddit

Find a work life balance, there will always be jobs, and taxes to contend with, but friends and family are not there forever. Enjoy life while you’re young and kids if you have them while they are young. No one ever said , can I please work some more.

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chaingun_samurai@reddit

Nobody owes you anything.

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NerdyComfort-78@reddit

Life isn’t fair, learn how to fail and get back up.

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OneWingedAngel09@reddit

Don’t bother feeling sorry for yourself because no one else will.

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YMBFKM@reddit

1). Life isn't fair

2). It is not the government's job to take care of you like mommy used to.

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shewolf-91@reddit

You are not that special. Some are just more succesfull than others. Stop trying to change the world, new changes will come anyway so just find what you are good at and stop trying to be «something».

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YoungAtHeart71@reddit

A lot of these comments have really good advice. My contribution would be: don't rely on motivation to get things done, no matter how big or small any particular thing is. Motivation comes and goes; if we only ever act when we're motivated, we're really doing less than half of what we could or should be doing.

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joelisf@reddit

(1) Sometimes the most valuable lessons are taught by unwitting teachers.

(2) If you are not cheating, you're not trying.

(3) Not trying is the same as failing.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

If you are not cheating, you're not trying.

What's that supposed to mean?

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joelisf@reddit

It doesn't mean being dishonest (in business, for example) to disadvantage others.

On the other hand, don't let the expectations of others limit what is possible in your own life. Think "outside the box."

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Cosmicvapour@reddit

Avoid fights wherever possible, but if attacked, the rules of engagement are null. Eye gouging, biting a nose off, nut-seeking knees, finger in the butt, whatever it takes to end that fight and let you escape. Rules are for fights consented to by both sides.

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Original-Teach-848@reddit

Just listen to the lyrics of Bittersweet Symphony… this life- slave to money and then you die.

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Perseus1315@reddit

Your first, second and possibly third job are going to suck, and you’ll look back fondly on them.

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Original-Teach-848@reddit

Every thing changes- be flexible. Prepare for chaos and economic insecurity. Money comes and goes. I should’ve never cashed out my retirement…. Now hoping for inheritance but it may not come.

Brutal honesty-marry rich or someone a few years younger. You will need two incomes.

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j-oshea@reddit

A quote from my mother in my late teenage years that always infuriated me at the time, but as I got older, I realized is mostly true: “No one will ever really give a shit about you like your dad and I do.”

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sorrymizzjackson@reddit

Ah man, I got the same “advice” but she left off the part after “you”.

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j-oshea@reddit

Aww man, I’m sorry :(

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Ivy1974@reddit

Your mom is probably a whore.

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PrincessKatiKat@reddit

Start a business, any business, and make it your main priority. You will need to work for someone else at first; but working for anyone else is about accepting less than what you are worth. You always want to be able to make your own rain.

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Apprehensive_Buy1221@reddit

In life, people will just fixate on you to hate and harass because they refuse to accept you are not who you be they believe you to be.

That confirming their biased opinion is their goal, not learning they are mistaken.

That all the kindness and goodwill and proving your authentic self does not matter.

It is pointless to defend your reputation with such people. Just protect your heart.

Additionally, once you stop asserting who you are and withdraw from them.

Then, they will strut up to you like a peacock and gleefully inform you that they proved they were right about you because you no longer reach out to them to create understanding.

They don't perceive the decision to not pursue a relationship with them is based on acceptance. That's a waste of time and energy.

Instead, anytime someone chooses not to associate or attempt to offer understanding or friendship with them, it just proves that you're a bad person.

Because a good person would've found a way to convince them they are not bad who just wants to get over on others.

So just limit your exposure to those people and never try to fix the misunderstanding with them.

In my opinion, I think it's a form of struggle, love, friendship unless people are focused on continually proving their honesty and integrity, and people who have honesty and integrity for these individuals, which means that you are always demonstrating your good will by aceding to thier demands for reassurance,loyalty and attention as proof of your being a safe good person.

You will save so much time and energy by opting out of the issues ASAP.

The truly sad part is that the world is full of such people,some are malicious, and others are not.

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GandolftheGarcia@reddit

Life doesn’t get easier, you get stronger.

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Material_Anxiety3728@reddit

Life is not fair!

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Minimum_Apricot1223@reddit

Your "trauma" probably isn't.

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ideapit@reddit

No one cares how hard you tried.

"No matter what anyone says, no matter the excuse or explanation, whatever a person does in the end is what he intended to do all along."

- Cus D'Amato

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FlounderAccording125@reddit

Buy and save bullion. Actions also have consequences!

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BluRobynn@reddit

Everything hurts.

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MaybeUNeedAPoo@reddit

This is all over far quicker than you can possibly understand. Try your best to enjoy every moment.

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DragunovDwight@reddit

It’s a cold world, and nobody except maybe family gives a fuk how you feel.

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

Turn down the woofers and save your hearing.

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OrionRyking@reddit

yes. and this is a big one... wear hearing protection at concerts.

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squanchy_Toss@reddit

I went to RHCP in '95 or '96. Had a floor pass so I was behind what was a sad attempt at a mosh pit. Maybe 15 feet from the stage the whole show. That was the straw that broke the camels back. My ears just never stopped ringing after that. It was awful for 4 or 5 days and slowed down to a low whining sound. Thankfully it's not too bad yet and I don't really notice it. I've been to a few shows way out in the lawn since, but that's all I am going to be able do ever again.

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czring@reddit

I got dragged to a Jamiroquai concert. When putting my ear protection in, someone much younger than me started talking shit behind me. That concert was loud too, I hope they went deaf. I have tinnitus in one ear, no way I'm gonna let that get worse.

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copperpin@reddit

When I was a kid, my friends father told us all about how he went mostly deaf after attending one concert. I've always worn hearing protection at concerts since then.

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OrionRyking@reddit

Oh yeah took me a couple times of being practically deaf for a day or two after a concert to finally start wearing hearing protection.

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BuckyD1000@reddit

The woofers don't do the damage – the tweeters do.

But your point is very valid.

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

Good to know 🙂.

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ProfessionalFlow8030@reddit

For fucking real. Tinnitus sucks.

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Tonto_HdG@reddit

What?

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

ANSWER THE DAMN PHONE

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Vanpocalypse-Now@reddit

Reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. There we go!

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AJKaleVeg@reddit

They said TINNITUS SUCKS

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Carrera_996@reddit

I like mine. I can sleep through anything. I can't hear background noises that would disturb me.

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TenuousOgre@reddit

Not just sucks, it’s tied to an increase in the possibility of dementia.

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slpybeartx@reddit

This 1000000000X

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Wear earplugs at shows

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MrsMcGwire@reddit

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

😆

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WIlf_Brim@reddit

What? Why would I want to save the herrings? They are delicious!

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kristenevol@reddit

THIS. God I never thought I'd get old but here we fucking are and I can't hear a damn thing.

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irishkenny1974@reddit

I was pretty sure we were gonna die in a nuclear holocaust before I turned thirty at the latest, so I abused the shit out of my eardrums as a teenager, because who cares? Now I’m still alive at goddamn 51 and can’t hear a thing some days.

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

I have tinnitus in my left ear that I can specifically trace to a Smithereens concert. We were very close to the amp stacks. All 3 of us have it now.

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kristenevol@reddit

My brother was at a concert with his friend Rick in 1987 (he's four years older than me). They're up by these HUGE amps/speakers and basically high-fiving themselves on striking gen admission gold, and Rick's ear starts LEAKING FLUID. He just stuck his finger in his ear and they stayed for the rest of the concert. This alarms me now but at the time, we all just laughed.

I didn't have anything that epic to blame my hearing loss on, just turning up the stereo way too loud.

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

Wow. At that age, we all felt indestructible.

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Dame_Ingenue@reddit

Referring to the other lessen of life not being fair - it doesn’t necessarily take loud music or working in a loud place to develop tinnitus. Source: me.

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

Mine is from a virus, but damn if I won’t do everything else to prevent it from getting worse! It’s awful. I didn’t feel old until my hearing loss.

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EastOfArcheron@reddit

I worked nightclubs from 18 to thirty. I just got hearing aids at 51.

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lemerou@reddit

My tinnitus says hello.

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National_Bus5390@reddit

Yea for the longest time I thought that buzzing was the house having too much electricity.

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draggar@reddit

What? I can't hear you.

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

😆

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kinkyintemecula@reddit

Credit cards are legal slavery.

Cut them up. If you can't pay cash you can't afford it.

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IndependentLychee413@reddit

Don’t be jealous of people, you know and the things they have, don’t be jealous because your neighbors have a big house and a fancy car. More than likely, they’re up to their eyebrows in debt, car payments, big ass mortgage to try to look like there’s something they are not. If you choose that road to put your fantasy of what you wanna be ahead of what you are, you’re gonna live paycheck to paycheck or mortgage to mortgage.

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Koldcutter@reddit

No one is coming to save you

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bostonjenny81@reddit

You deserve what you tolerate. It stung like hell when my best friend told me that DECADES ago but it’s the truest honest advice. I’m not taking about DV situations & shit like that. Just the toxicity you allow to stay in your life, if you recognize it & do nothing you have no one to blame

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Heavy-Gear-5670@reddit

Lie on your resume. You can put me as a ref if you want. If the questionnaire goes over five minutes, scrap it, they’re wasting your time on purpose. If you’ve got nepotism, use it and SHARE it. Only work for people who look you in the eye. Don’t spend money on anybody who wouldn’t spend it on you back. Boycott tf out of the giants. And most importantly:

If anybody ever for a second tells you how easy you got it, how they walked barefoot in the snow uphill both ways just to get to school, don’t even speak to that person. Let them die alone. They’re wrong and got their money sitting in a chair while removing chairs from the workplace they host because they can’t stand to pay somebody who isn’t suffering, demanding experience from employees while not offering any kind of apprenticeship.

Gen z has it hard and it’s gotta hurt to hear it but it’s a fact. You and yours are on your own. Millennials got you. Gen x is busy doing latchkey shit but white collar, however they’ll respect you. Never respect a boomer unless they respect you first. Their folks handed them a goldmine, and they refuse to share as if they earned it in the first place

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theyFOOLEDmeJerry@reddit

Start the day off with a smile, and get it over with.

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IndependentLychee413@reddit

Life is not fair. You get out of life what you put in it. Your success depends on you not hanging on your mom and dad‘s coat tails. If you wanna party and piss all your money away and don’t bother your parents because you can’t afford to rent your own place. He gets so disgusted, watching people that raise their kids, having to raise their adult children- and the babies they make. That is the brutal truth. Work hard, don’t get pregnant before you’re ready to have a family, save your money.

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SnarkyGinger1@reddit

Got an entry-level gig and your stomach is growling? Grab that job like it’s the last slice of pizza at a party! Show up, soak in all the knowledge like a sponge in a pool, and give it your best shot. Those skills will be your trusty sidekick for your next adventure!

Now, about that company savings plan—jump in like it’s a hot tub! If they match contributions, it’s like getting free money. Seriously, do it ASAP! When raise time rolls around, treat yourself to a little math magic: take that percentage bump and toss it into your savings.

As for credit cards, think of them like a pet dragon: cool to have, but keep it tamed! Use it, but make sure it doesn’t breathe fire on your bank account by staying paid off.

Flexibility is key—sometimes you’ve got to let others take the wheel. It’s okay to not be the boss of everything. And if you mess up? Own it like a champ! Admit it, accept it, and then work through it.

Lastly, don’t shy away from opportunity—unless it involves a life of crime. Seriously, let’s skip the felony part. That’s just bad for business! You got this!!

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Snuffleupagus27@reddit

Get dirty and build up your immune system.
Stop trying to bubble-proof the world. Bad things will happen, it’s not all preventable.
Skip college, get a skill. (Unless you really need it for your profession.)
A little physical violence can go a long way when used appropriately. Punch that bully in the face before you break and go get a gun.
You won’t always win, but that’s doesn’t mean you weren’t right.

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Schickie@reddit

Everything you spend your time and bandwidth worrying about is never as bad as you're sure it is and 10 minutes after you're dead everyone you care about is now about "pass the chicken".

Meaning - don't live your life for anyone else's reasons but your own. Take risks, move/travel far away, talk to everyone you meet, have good questions, take nothing so seriously that you look back regret anything you've said.
Live your life.

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Nanataki_no_Koi@reddit

The best reason to be good to other people is it's the one act of defiance you can commit in a world that runs on cruelty.

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mtnmanfletcher@reddit

For those in construction. Pit all your money in retirement early. Work all the ot you can. When you hit 40 its gonna be a real bitch keeping up.

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ClockOk7733@reddit

You’re very much replaceable in every aspect of your life.

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DeezDoughsNyou@reddit

I don’t know. I mean Lennon had it right when he wrote there’s nothing you can do that can’t be done. But there are just certain aspects in my life where I cannot be replaced. People can try to fill the void I leave but there’s always going to be something missing.

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fcewen00@reddit

Just because you graduated with a college degree, the world isn’t going to hand you a 100k job right out the door. Especially if all you have is a college degree and zero experience. Whine all you want, life doesn’t work that way.

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blacksewerdog@reddit

No matter how hard you work and be a great employee.In the end your just a # on payroll and be replaced in a heart beat.

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iamgina2020@reddit

Private Pensions - it’s never too early to open one.

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endosurgery@reddit

Nobody cares about your personal problems or whats going on in your life. Everybody has their own thing going on. If you’re having a bad day, don’t take it out on others. They also may be slogging through the shit. So don’t expect anyone to give a shit. It’s your problem to solve. (It doesnt mean you as a person are not cared for or worthy of value and love).

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spykedaddy@reddit

Don’t blink

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indefiniteretrieval@reddit

Wear sunscreen

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RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit

Wear Sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.”

-Mary Schmich

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RhiR2020@reddit

And John Safran (Australian filmmaker and comedian) did a parody called ‘Not the Sunscreen Song’… I listen to this one often as well lol xxx

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accidentallyHelpful@reddit

Baz Luhrman put it to music

everyone is free

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lannanh@reddit

I listen to this song at least once a year and the older I get the truer it rings. My favorite line is
Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

As someone who had to change the bandages on my wife's face after they scraped precancerous lesions off of her I 2nd this.

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GaiaMoore@reddit

My mom drilled this into our heads when my brother and i were kids. As an adult, my friends used to tease me for covering up head to toe whenever I go out in the sun for any length of time.

I'm now 38 and in grad school with a bunch of Gen Z kids. Several of these kids had me pegged at 28.

I took great pride in informing them I was born in the Reagan administration

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stompy1@reddit

As someone who works in an office, is in his late 40s, in the far north, what are the implications of not wearing sunscreen?

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GaiaMoore@reddit

My dad worked in an office all his life. Still got skin cancer on his forehead in his late 40's. Doc had to cut it out

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PacRat48@reddit

Certainly on your face

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socialmediaignorant@reddit

To the tits. Ears, neck, chest… and throw in the backs of hands for good measure!

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ArcticPangolin3@reddit

Yes, I came to add this. Wear it even if you aren't outside that much, or in a car all day. Dark spots suck and cannot be removed. Sunscreen isn't just to prevent sunburn.

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LoganND@reddit

If someone gives a shit what you think, they'll ask.

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pchandler45@reddit

Nobody's coming to save you. You have to save yourself

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BrettHutch@reddit

The world owes you nothing and will beat you into submission and insanity, get your head right and go earn your way!

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UpDownCharmed@reddit

Learn to recognize toxic relationships.

Sometimes it's best to permanently end things - go no contact - when a friend becomes a real "frenemy"

When they repeatedly make you feel bad, and they lie, betray, and gossip about you.

Cutting these people out of your life will bring newfound inner peace, as well as a renewed sense of your self worth.

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procrastimom@reddit

I just saw this (twice in one day!):

If you can’t change the people around you, change the people around you.

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Cade_02@reddit

Most important thing you will ever learn is this - and it’s simple:

There are consequences for every bad decision you ever make. You have to pay for them. Some can be not as costly, and some are very costly. But you will always have to pay in some way.

Limit your bad decisions - because if you don’t, you’ll spend a lifetime paying for them.

Good luck.

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Sanjomo@reddit

Life is not fair.

Cheaters do in fact win!

Nice guys do tend to finish last.

Hard work does not necessarily pay off.

Your employer does not care about you (no matter what they say).

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procrastimom@reddit

Nice guys do tend to finish last, because they make sure you’ve finished first (or even a couple of times)!

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Multigrain_Migraine@reddit

Get into a habit of exercising and being active, at least a little bit. I didn't and it's hard to get into it now although I'm trying.

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SDMonkee@reddit

Nothing lasts forever

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empericisttilldeath@reddit

You don't know yourself, AT ALL.

You only know kid you, and most of your life you'll be old you.

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Ravenloff@reddit

Own your mistakes. Don't accept blame for something that want your fault, but never try to weasel out of something that was.

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groovyalibizmo@reddit

The people closest to you may be the ones who try to sabotage you.

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satyrday12@reddit

Never play leapfrog with a unicorn.

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procrastimom@reddit

You are a wise sage.

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debvil@reddit

Pick the person you marry /partner with seriously. The relationship you have with them can make your life amazing or a complete nightmare.

Don’t let your job define your identity. Jobs / careers will change a few times during your lifetime

Things can change on a dime. Enjoy the good times while you have them.

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WVnurse1967@reddit

Get some thicker skin. Im tired of this "offended" new generation.

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Emperors_Finest@reddit

Effort doesn't always equal victory.

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sassynickles@reddit

it doesn't always get better

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shutupandevolve@reddit

You really can’t trust anyone. Besties, family, coworkers. Everyone is flawed. And no matter what your job is, you’re replaceable.

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groundhogcow@reddit

No one cares about you.

All the advice. All the committees. Every life path. No one cares.

Every help book. Every therapy session. Every improvement strategy. They are just someone trying to get your money because you can't figure it out yourself. They don't know anything special.

No one is in charge. There is no authority. It's just a bunch of fuckups in it for themselves telling you what you should do and not giving two shits about you.

If you find people who honestly love you and want you to have a better life cherish them because they are the only ones.

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Excellent_Jaguar_675@reddit

This is true

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Sour-Scribe@reddit

Your job doesn’t care about you

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procrastimom@reddit

True! And I work for myself!

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txa1265@reddit

(for women) Don't get married.

Don't have children.

Avoid putting money into any state or company that doesn't align with the support of ALL people equitably.

Get off social media as soon/much as possible.

Live within your means.

Vote for whoever will eliminate billionaires through massive taxation and put that to the benefit of humanity through universal healthcare, feeding & sheltering and medical care..

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Excellent_Jaguar_675@reddit

YES!

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Rare_Tomorrow_Now@reddit

Amen

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clvitte@reddit

Marriage is a racket

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bebopgamer@reddit

And having kids ain't great either

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Excellent_Jaguar_675@reddit

Yup. Our generation of women was brainwashed to think having children meant you were finally “an adult.” It’s so much harder than anyone ever lets on. Now that parents are allowed to be honest in anonymous spaces, we see the reality is not so great. I never had children, but I could not live with the anxiety of my heart walking around outside my body my whole life❤️

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_Z_y_x_w@reddit

So glad my ex and I chose not to have kids.

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Sintered_Monkey@reddit

Hard work and talent are great for your chances of career success, but nothing, absolutely nothing, compares to nepotism.

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SnorvusMaximus@reddit

Only idiots follow their friends, trends, religions or society. Only you know what’s right for you.

The world is full of idiots and assholes and many will hold you back or be negative for you even if they don’t mean it. That goes for family and teachers as well. Let your voice be heard, learn to dodge and ignore others and their influence and let no one stand in your way.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Learn some skills. Success is a combination of making opportunities happen and being ready for opportunity.

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damageddude@reddit

Life sucks, then you die. Live within your means and make joy where you can.

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ryancementhead@reddit

Keep your head on a swivel and always pay attention to your surroundings. Don’t blindly follow others, know what you’re getting into and make informed decisions.

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AbbreviationsMain658@reddit

The things you own, own you. The less you own, the freer you are.

You’ll never work for someone poorer than you.

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catnapspirit@reddit

You run into an asshole in the morning, then you ran into an asshole. You run into assholes all day, then you're probably the asshole..

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Greezedlightning@reddit

Never be yourself at work. Develop a “work-sona” and stick with it. Never let them see you sweat — that’s what a therapist, best friend or life partner is for.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

Once you get past 20 it is incredibly easy to eat too many calories over a year and gain a few pounds. Now multiply that by 10 and you are easily 20 lbs overweight by 30, by 40 even more...

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VintageVitaminJ@reddit

I’ll likely get downvoted for this, but if your parents do not leave everything to family, they’re incredibly selfish. I plan to leave everything I own to my kids. That’s my bloodline.

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pcs11224@reddit

I won't downvote you, but you're in an incredibly privileged position to be in to say that. You should maybe read some of this advice.

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VintageVitaminJ@reddit

I am? I worked hard for everything I got. I’ll leave what I can to my knife and kids. What am I missing, honestly?

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pcs11224@reddit

It's admirable that you want to do that for your family. It is not 'selfish' if a person doesn't. There are plenty of people who aren't able to leave behind a bunch of money for their kids - it doesn't make them bad people. There are plenty of people who have children that are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves and their own kids without relying on Dad dying to pay their bills.

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F1ForeverFan@reddit

The world doesn't care about them, their feelings or their so called trauma.

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ericdag@reddit

Always take care of yourself first. You can’t help others if you’re down.

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Cheese-Manipulator@reddit

The universe isn't against you or for you. It pretty much doesn't know you exist.

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Intabih1@reddit

If I had it to do over again I would have taken a theater or music class. Some of the electives I had were BS for my BS, and borrrrrring. Take something outside your wheelhouse and meet new people. The people you know are great, there are others out there too.

If you are overwhelmed, one thing at a time. Get it done as best you can then move to the next one. Write out a plan if you have to. If you know where you are going that pile of crap you have to take care of isn't as scary.

Ask for help if you need to.

Don't be afraid of being who you are, there are people that will notice and appreciate it.

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SageObserver@reddit

The world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a mean, nasty place that will keep you on your knees if you let it. But it’s not how hard you can hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done.

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Minimum_Afternoon387@reddit

Don’t drink alcohol and plan a career for yourself to be able to live on your own, understand after age 30 you may have 50 years left.

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Ok_Tanasi1796@reddit

Happy endings are only in movies. IRL (in real life) you don't get another quarter (like for a real arcade game). So I'd have to say 'you don't get to back-up your game level on memory card'. You do your best & sometimes even that isn't good enough.

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joesnewmatch@reddit

Learn to be self reliant. Only then should you include the people in your life that you want to be in your life. People will let you down, everyone. So don’t live off expectations or spend money you don’t have. Hard work, determination, and contentment is the essence of peace and forward progress.

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Essence_Marie@reddit

Adulting is hard, don’t be in such a rush. Enjoy being young

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SouthernTrauma@reddit

Nobody really gives a shit about your feelings.

Being nervous and anxious about driving is normal at the start. Push through it.

Learn to cook. Ot will save you a ton of money and you'll probably be healthier.

** Stay in shape.** Getting BACK in shape is nigh impossible in your 50s.

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RedHighlander@reddit

Compound interest is your friend. Invest what you can as soon as you can and as often as you can.

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Lamplighter52@reddit

You have to work, even if you have a blurry face.

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SameDirection6991@reddit

Learn to mind your business before it gets you killed.

Aka — curiosity killed the cat.

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semperknight@reddit

As a 50yr old, I've often reflected on the worst decisions I've ever made. The top 3 in order of pure stupidity:

Don't join the military. You could get seriously hurt (mentally or physically). Maybe, and that's just a maybe, they will patch you up while you're in there. What the military will NOT do is be there for you when your disability prevents you from finding a job. There's a reason there's so many homeless veterans. America's healthcare system is basically a soft eugenics system designed to keep the poor prospering.
Do not put your penis inside a vagina (or allow a penis inside) unless you're willing to pay the consequences. I knew a guy who's girl was on the pill. Still got pregnant. I knew a guy who used a condom. Still got pregnant. And I knew a guy whose girl got her tubes tied. Still got pregnant (that was me, something about they didn't tie it correctly and she had them burned off later). And in today's conservative religiously run country, you may be trapped with the consequences. Having a child when you're not wealthy enough to do so will absolutely ruin your life. If you and your partner are horny, do literally anything else, but keep penis away from vagina.
If you were born into a poor family, do NOT tie your value to how much wealth you have. America isn't what you think it is. It's a "civil oligarchy". Most people are not aware of this (including guys like Bernie Sanders and AOC). The game is rigged. Just because you didn't find the perfect job, working for the perfect oligarch, who just happens to favor you above others for whatever reason he/she has, doesn't mean you're special. It simply means you've won the lottery. Do the best you can and, if you're not a fuck up, value yourself. Yes, I know that's easier said than done when literally everything in our culture shows wealth = happiness and hot girlfriend/wife and poor = depression and loser. It's propaganda. It's a lie. Don't waste your life like I did feeling miserable.

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Zardozin@reddit

Heroes is forever

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3amcaliburrito@reddit

This is all depressing af - xennial

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Max_Gerber@reddit

Go back and read all the comments. There are countless actions you can take. Yes, life is not fair. Accept that, and you can minimize the impact of some of the unfairness. Saving money and investing it takes advantage of compound interest, one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Start saving NOW.

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hamletloveshoratio@reddit

Lots of folks can't save; this is shit advice for the paycheck-to-paycheck crowd.

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Max_Gerber@reddit

I was lousy at saving in my 20s. Had fuck all in the bank until well into my 30s. The point stands; save whatever you can. No one said it would be easy. The good things in life are worth working hard for.

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3amcaliburrito@reddit

i don't remember asking you to summarize the comments here

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Max_Gerber@reddit

Don’t ask me, that’s what AI is for.

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3amcaliburrito@reddit

Don’t ask me

I didn't, and yet here you are

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Max_Gerber@reddit

Just trying to help. This is an advice thread, after all.

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Imnothere1980@reddit

This is maybe the worst thread I’ve seen here. What a bunch of boomer circle jerking.

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Max_Gerber@reddit

Read it again. OP asked for brutal truth and they are receiving it. And, all is not lost.

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3amcaliburrito@reddit

I don't even follow this sub, but it popped in my feed this morning. It's awful, but idk maybe people are just focusing on the 'brutal' part of the headline.

I'd personally rather see a more positive twist on this type of question like 'What do you think younger generations should emphasize to make sure they have a happy/fulfilled life?'

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Imnothere1980@reddit

Yes. Heaven forbid a they give a younger generation a leg up or some real advice.

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mrbootsandbertie@reddit

It's wall to wall "no one owes you a damn thing".

What a selfish and lonely view of the world.

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TrippDJ71@reddit

Don't Believe The Hype!!

:)

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SBTWP@reddit

No one gives a shit about your sadness, depression, anxieties, etc… talking about or expressing them is viewed as a weakness by most.

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scarlettskadi@reddit

They do- but people need to learn not to make these things their whole personality or derail other people when it’s their turn to ask for support.

Most will listen briefly and move on, some treat it as their own reality show and bring popcorn and a small number will genuinely care- and help you get up again.

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charitytowin@reddit

But they'll still think you're weak

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KaetzenOrkester@reddit

The only people who want the details are paid to listen.

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Relative-Wallaby-931@reddit

You are on your own. Few, if any, people will lift a finger to help you if you are in need. The vast majority of people don't give a single solitary fuck about you or anyone else. Treasure the few that do, and the the rest are just obstacles to maneuver around.

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Budget-Rub3434@reddit

No one is perfect. Not your parents, you, your spouse or your kids. Be kind and forgiving anyway.

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Imnothere1980@reddit

“Be kind and forgiving anyway”. This doesn’t work out in the real world sometimes. Be kind but be ready to crack skulls. Don’t spent your life being a doormat.

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Budget-Rub3434@reddit

Kind and forgiving does not equal doormat.

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Imnothere1980@reddit

Tell that to a generation who was raised to be a doormat.

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Budget-Rub3434@reddit

I’m not sure who you are referring to but I don’t have any doormats in my line. Just kind people.

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DangerKitty555@reddit

Gods, yes! 💖✌🏼

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PacRat48@reddit

This is how you keep bitterness out of your life

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StepYaGameUp@reddit

Love this.

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Saucy_Baconator@reddit

You, and you alone are responsible for your happiness and quality of life. If you don't like something, do something about it. No one is coming to save you.

To that end, you can be angry about a lot of things, but most of them are trivial. The ONLY thing that you can and should ever be angry about is when someone wastes your time - because it's the only commodity you can't get back.

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NoeTellusom@reddit

Use condoms each and every time.

Because dear gods, we lived through the AIDS crisis and these younger generations are incredibly reckless.

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Guilty_Character8566@reddit

Drugs are fun and games until they ruin your life.

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RedEyeRik@reddit

Life is not fair, and it’s never going to be fair.

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sara11jayne@reddit

Be kind to your knees. You don’t want a knee replacement at 54.

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danieljohnsonjr@reddit

After about 35, your body's "check engine light" starts to flicker a little. This increases frequency as you get older. After a certain age, something stays on. It may be the same thing, or it may be different. All this to say, enjoy life, party as you desire, but eventually things start wearing out.
Stop being so concerned about what other people think about you. Unless they're paying you, it doesn't really matter.

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trouble_ann@reddit

Anyone trying to get you to cut off your friends or family may have ulterior motives. Isolation is the first step in abuse, be hyper vigilant about protecting and maintaining your own support network. It happens so slowly, it can sneak up on you.

This can look like them calling all the time during hangouts, starting fights about the time spent with your family, talking shit about your friends. Wanting you to change your plans to include them all the time, complaining about you not being around during the couple hours you'll be away. Making it more hassle to go than to give in. These are all wrapped up in the thought "they just love me so much they want all my time", but it's really just control.

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mari815@reddit

Nobody will break doors down for your career advancement. You need to do it yourself.

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wamydia@reddit

Nothing in life is as obviously black or white, right or wrong as the internet leads you to believe. Nearly everything is shades of grey, including the basic decency of other human beings.

You are not having a uniquely difficult life and no one is going to feel sorry for you because they’ve been through their own shit.

Life is not fair and the world doesn’t owe any of us anything. Reality doesn’t magically bend to match what you think it “should be” - you have to bend to survive in a reality and a world where a lot of things are shit.

Work for what you want and plan ahead of when it gets unfairly ripped away from you.

Your parents won’t live forever. Don’t take advantage of them. Instead, spend time with them for fun and bring them joy by letting them see that they raised you well.

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Pretty-Biscotti-5256@reddit

Don’t expect fulfillment by your job. In fact, don’t make your job your life. Work to live. Not live to work.

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bellesearching_901@reddit

You actually need to work at achieving success in everything from career, to relationships,to friendships and parenting. There is nothing you can do along the lines of …leave school and assume it all just happens. PUT IN EFFORT and be consistent about it.

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D0m1n035@reddit

It can and most likely will get worse

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AngryOldGenXer@reddit

90% of people you meet will fuck you over if given half a chance. Don’t trust anyone until they have EARNED that shit.

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DabbledInPacificm@reddit

No one is coming to save you.

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Fun-Distribution-159@reddit

Nobody is gonna look out for you cept you.

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in-a-microbus@reddit

You will never find Mrs/Mr Prefect. You probably won't even find someone great. You will find someone good enough and your goal is to build something with them.

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Philoscifi@reddit

“Love is a choice wedded to action” -a quote I dig from Brent Weeks book.

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TangerineLily@reddit

Love is overrated. Friendship is better.

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BeautifulPainz@reddit

30 years into our marriage, my husband and I often say we’re best friends first. Love and lust come and go like waves in the ocean, but if you’re in this thing with your best friend, then you can get through anything.

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Public-Clothes-5078@reddit

By Calvin Klein

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MeatofKings@reddit

Love is the action, like is the feeling -me

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Budget-Rub3434@reddit

Amen, both of you

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TheSpatulaOfLove@reddit

I was fortunate to learn that young. My wife isn’t what I was looking for, but was exactly who I needed. We’ve built a great life together.

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boyracer93@reddit

Everyone - even you - is replaceable.

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Ladydiane818@reddit

No one is coming to save you. You have to save yourself.

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Extreme-0ne@reddit

Just because marriage is the next step doesn’t mean you have to take it.
And Women marry men expecting them to change. Men marry women expecting them not to change. (Neither are true)

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Tigrisrock@reddit

Learn to make friends and keep those close who turn out to really be friends through hardship and failure.

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Vegetable_Storm_6045@reddit

Don’t marry the wrong person

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Miss_L_Worldwide@reddit

This is the easiest life has ever been. If you find it too hard now, you are in for a rough time. Toughen up.

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arthurjeremypearson@reddit

You're terrible at estimating the abilities of others. You're guessing at a lot of things, but so is everyone else. They don't know you. They don't know how good you are at anything. They don't know your background or what led you to doing what you just did.

Laugh at them if they say you're stupid, because it's obviously a joke.

Thank them if they say you're wrong, because they tried to help even if they don't know what they're talking about.

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Miss_L_Worldwide@reddit

Everyone has their own problems and almost no one has the availability to deal with yours. You weren't special and everyone else has gone through what you're going through.

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Steel065@reddit

so many great responses!

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Electronic_Cow_7055@reddit

Work sucks and then you die

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Frigidspinner@reddit

dont stop making friends. Work at it.

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feetofire@reddit

Evil people sometimes do get away with it.

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AnotherSexyBaldGuy@reddit

Your parents are going to die. It will be a slow agonizing process to watch. You will hate it and it will break you, but you will learn to live without them.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

It sometimes comes sudden 🥲 and it can/will sometimes come for children instead of your parent.

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AnotherSexyBaldGuy@reddit

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beauty_and_delicious@reddit

Big hugs for this, lost my dad and my mom while still alive is much more frail than when she was younger.

It is strange to see and sad but also I know to be grateful for the time I have with her.

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deadpan_diane@reddit

Don't write people off just because they have a differing opinion/world view. Try to look at things critically, expand your own worldview from both sides. Youthful idealism in righting the world's wrongs, gets old real quick.

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Different_Nerve_72@reddit

Aggressively save for retirement, learn about finances, & the stock market.

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Ilovethe90sforreal@reddit

Other people are just as important as you

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hamletloveshoratio@reddit

Be good, or be good at it.

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DucVWTamaKrentist@reddit

F’in’ right, got my gun, semi-Cartermatic.

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gdhkhffu@reddit

If you hate your job, remember that nobody is holding a gun to your head. You choose every day to be there. If you don't like it, make the necessary preparations then leave. Life's too short to be stuck in a shitty job.

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RattledMind@reddit

No situation in life has a binary answer. Everything is nuanced, and complex. Don’t waste your time explaining things to people in echo chambers.
You absolutely can, and should “both sides” an argument. It’s the entire premise of a debate. Anyone shutting it down isn’t interested in facts, they’re only interested in their narrative.
Experiment and experience things. Labels are a social construct. Don’t not do something because you were scared of what others would think.
Consent is a requirement. If everyone is drunk, no one has consent.
Use condoms. Seriously. No one wants an STI. Don’t fall for that “It’s my birthday!” bullshit.

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CatapultingFeces@reddit

You aren't getting anything handed to you and you aren't entitled to anything. Work hard and earn your keep.

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PNWBlonde4eyes@reddit

The universe is indifferent. Your struggle is no different than the gopher in the garden.

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LastoftheSummerWine@reddit

DO NOT settle for the wrong companion.

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Hot-Trainer-6491@reddit

Ppl suck, if you remember this, you will never be disappointed, or surprised

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Jabber-Wockie@reddit

The game is rigged.

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keifhunter@reddit

Know when to walk away from a bad relationship. The correct answer is as soon as you realize it.

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Manofmanyhats19@reddit

Life isn’t fair. Nobody ever said it would be. Thick skin will be a requirement.

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ICrossedTheRubicon@reddit

Sometimes multiple bad things happen at once: both of you lose your job, one loses a job and one has a serious wreck, etc. Plan accordingly and you'll survive.

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FabulousPanther@reddit

The problem is you.

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paulabear203@reddit

Things usually do not turn out the way you thought they would. Life is a messy game.

For anyone trying to broach the subject of aging parents who will die a some point - have those difficult conversations now about moving forward with plans. No one seems to want to talk about it because it is too upsetting. Even more upsetting is finding out that your parent passed away and now you are left trying to figure out what to do next.

Mind your spending and credit. You aren't going to live forever and at some point you will age out of the work force and need a nest egg. Start as early as you can.

Less is more. Downsize your horde and repurpose what you can to charities. Consumer overconsumption is a huge problem and no one is immune from the allure. I personally slow shop anything I have my eye on long enough to realize it isn't worth the cost and my existing whatever is perfectly fine.

Read up on minimalism. Watch the documentaries on Netflix if they are still available. Once you declutter your personal space an keep the things that are valuable and important, there is a clarity that comes with that and makes most people with they had done it sooner.

In this day and age, the digital onslaught of content from every corner of the earth is overwhelming and not pertinent sometimes. Cull the herd on social media and resist the urge to dive in with both feet. The second part of that is, everything you post on social media leaves a digital footprint. What's funny and harmless today may be a professional deal breaker down the road.

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Ir0nhide81@reddit

100k salary a year is a livable salary in a major city.

You won't really be able to do a lot of stuff or go on a lot of vacations.

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Relevant-Resource-93@reddit

Do not start smoking or doing recreational drugs thinking it won’t affect you. It will And drink fucking water

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Limegirl15@reddit

Nobody is going to show up to save you. You’re going to have to tough it out.

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Hot-Butterfly-8024@reddit

Next is often better than first. There is no substitute for persistence. If you’re the only one bearing the consequences, don’t wait for permission to do something you’re passionate about.

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Ysiriff@reddit

If you're a man, your dog loves you. Everyone else is questionable. The only time you will receive flowers is when you're dead. Sadly, the laws are against you in divorce and custody of your children.
The chances of you getting a divorce is 70 or 80 percent.

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MrsMcGwire@reddit

Life is not fair and no one owes you a damn thing. You were not poor because someone else is rich. There is enough wealth out there for everyone. It’s up to you to go and get it.

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TropicFreez@reddit

And it's not a right to never be offended by anything, the world doesn't change just for you.

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brian0729@reddit

Dont believe the work reform train is coming around the corner any second, its not. Get to work. Get a job, get a skill or trade.

Waiting for basic income while sitting at home will costly you dearly when you turn 40, realize its not coming and you are now screwed and working till you die.

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shamrockkitty@reddit

~Don’t get married.

~Don’t ever live/drive/bank/have utilities with another person’s name on your accounts/notes.

~Your body, YOUR choice.

~Always keep your maiden name and give any kids YOUR last name to protect your legacy.

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Brooks_was_here_1@reddit

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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

Poor Behaviour - No antagonism, trolling, rage farming, flame wars, juvenility, or any other cantankerous commentary and/or behaviour will be tolerated.

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lilbadassy@reddit

Painting a ceiling is NOT EASY WHATSOEVER

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bluezurich@reddit

Those who know don’t say in those who say don’t know

While you were waiting around for something to fall in your lap. You could’ve been working hard to prepare for the future.

Odds are, you might get cancer. Have insurance and have a positive mental attitude about putting it in the rearview mirror.

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Sweaty_Sleep_3405@reddit

No one, man or woman, has anyone on a white horse coming to save them. Yes you can ask for help but ultimately its up to you to choose to fight for it.

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Stefanz454@reddit

Nothing lasts forever

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CreatorCon92Dilarian@reddit

All of the advice that I give is brutal for just about everyone.

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ClarenceWalnuts99@reddit

Nothing is free, life is brutal and not fair, take care of your body and healthy, invest early

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Luddite-33@reddit

Vote in every election.

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kalelopaka@reddit

No one cares about your feelings.

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ifallallthetime@reddit

Put yourself first. Don’t sacrifice for anyone or anything outside of really, really close friends and family

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KingPabloo@reddit

Many will tell you life is cruel or unfair, this could discourage you from having ambitions and I believe that is cruel and unfair. Not everyone has the same starting point but I prefer to live my life based on an old story instead…

—-

In a small village there lived a wise old man to whom everyone turned for guidance and advice. One day, a young boy decided he would confront the old man with a question that he knew the old man would not be able to answer correctly. His plan was to find a little bird and hold it cupped in his hands hidden from sight. He would then approach the wise old man and ask him to guess what he had buried in his hands. If the old man answered it correctly, he would then ask him the zinger – whether the bird alive or dead? If the old man said the bird was alive, the boy would crush the bird with his hands and kill it thereby proving the old man wrong. But if the old man said it was dead, the boy would open his hands and let the bird fly free demonstrating at last that the old man was not as wise as everyone thought him to be.

So the boy ventured off and found a little sparrow that fit neatly within his hands. As he approached the old man, the boy said, “wise old man, can you tell what I have in my hands?” “Why of course I can,” the old man responded without hesitation. “From all the small feathers clinging to your jacket and pants it is plain to see it is a little bird that you have cradled in your hands.” “Ah, that is so” the young boy exclaimed, “but is the bird alive or dead?” The old man paused for a moment then rubbed his chin in contemplation of his response. Looking the young boy in the eyes, the old man replied in a soft tone “whether the bird is alive or dead is in your hands my child. The choice is yours.”

—-

Your life is yours, my advice is to realize all the choices are yours and they will determine the life you live…

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Successful-Ruin2997@reddit

Your organization/work doesn’t love you. It’s not a family. They will replace you in a hot second.

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ApatheistHeretic@reddit

Your employers, acquaintances, random folks, and even some family wouldn't stop to piss on you if you were on fire.

Hardly anyone cares about you, so it's up to you to take care of yourself. Also, make sure to give people who do care about you some of your time instead of constantly putting off hanging out with them.

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ORaiderdad7@reddit

Expect your body to betray you by age 40.

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nickgreyden@reddit

It is you vs the world, and you are not the main character. You will lose and get beat down...hard. The only way out, is through. Build up relationships, knowledge, and don't be dumb. These are the resources that will help you succeed.

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I_Dont_Like_Rice@reddit

You're not special and you're not entitled to things you haven't earned or paid for. The world does not owe you.

Humanity currently has a massive ego/narcissistic/ignorance problem where too many people think they're the center of the universe and deserve everything they want. They don't and never have. Their parents lied to them.

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Magic32101@reddit

It’s okay to make errors, be wrong, screw up, it isn’t the end of the world. Learn from your mistakes and move forward.

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Emotional-Rise5322@reddit

Democracy in America is nothing to take for granted.

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Jorge-Esqueleto@reddit

Pee after sex.

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Competitive-Isopod74@reddit

Nobody gives a shit about you.

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LordOfEltingville@reddit

● Life isn't fair. No one owes you anything. If you want something, find a way to get it, preferably legally.

● It's true that older generations didn't have the roadblocks and obstacles as kids/young adults that younger ones face, but they had plenty of their own...and while they may have grumbled about them to each other, they got off their asses and figured out how to overcome them. The ones who didn't and/or expected to be bailed out of their situations often ended up often ended up homeless, drug/alcohol addicted, in prison, or dead.

● If you want happy memories, go out and make some.

● If you want people (family, employers, etc) to trust you, be a trustworthy person.

● If you want someone to love you, be a lovable person.

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feelingmyage@reddit

Old age gets here in the blink of an eye though you never believe that when you’re young, so enjoy life, but also plan ahead.

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Jebick@reddit

You will be wrong **a lot**. In fact, most the time when you think you're right you are actually wrong.

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BenLelievre@reddit

Knowing what you want is a superpower. You can want to succeed until you're blue in the face, but if you don't know what is success for you up to a point you can coherently explain it to someone, you're gonna be treading water and you're going to be miserable.

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Sheslikeamom@reddit

You need to grow up and start taking responsibility and accountability for your life.

It's not going to be okay and you don't have time to figure it out.

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Pineydude@reddit

Nobody cares about your stuff.

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Party_Emu_9899@reddit

It's illegal for a company to tell you that you can't ask about your pay with your coworkers, but don't try to tell your company that.

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Gefiltefish1@reddit

Nobody ever wins an argument with a romantic partner. The best case scenario is for the argument to end without any bridges being burnt.

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Brtibitts420@reddit

Fk those people... TIME is the only thing you cant buy more of.... careful what you trade your time for... Im not rich... I have not worked more than a 30hr week in 30 yrs.... I read hundreds of books and play lots of games every year.... invest in you and your enjoyment of life because your time might run out at any minute...

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Adept_Artichoke7824@reddit

Only a very small circle of people really care about you. It’s up to you to carve your place into this world. No one is coming to save you.

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CroneofThorns@reddit

Marriage and kids are a trap.

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twelvesixteenineteen@reddit

Clean your dick

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Striking-Fan-4552@reddit

Nobody owes you anything. Expect nothing and be grateful for any gifts.

Work is a fact of life and not a punishment.

Your parents won't be around forever.

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BloopityBlue@reddit

Life is not fair, it never was and never will be. Things will happen to you that enrage you for how unfair they feel, and you gotta just swallow it and move on. Pick your battles, don't fall on your sword every time someone crosses you the wrong way.

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flurdman@reddit

Republicans lie

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sk0rpeo@reddit

Everyone lies.

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flurdman@reddit

Republicans only lie

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FENTWAY@reddit

Dems dont

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gojane9378@reddit

Child-rearing is very hard, exceedingly messy, expensive, inconvenient and for women who become SAHM's- can fuck you over shittily. That said, it was all worth it because I deeply love & am amazed by my offspring. I would die for them. But, I sacrificed to raise them.

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OldRaggedScar@reddit

Trust cannot be given freely it must be earned over time. You need to stop trusting everyone you meet.

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bullgod55435@reddit

Nobody gives a shit about you except your family. Take extra care of them and take care of yourself! Nobody is there for you. Just you.

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Brooks_was_here_1@reddit

Work hard, make well reasoned and rational decisions, save and invest for retirement.

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rollenr0ck@reddit

What you learn in school is all on the premises that people are honest and good. History rarely discusses exploitation. Statistics and analysis are based on understood truths. In reality, truths are incredibly subjective and are adjusted all the time. We should be taught about lying, deceit, and deception. We’d be much better prepared for real life.

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PinkMini72@reddit

Stop crying. Get a backbone

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chamrockblarneystone@reddit

You most likely will wind up taking care of your parents. If you’re married, that’s both sets of parents. It will most likely be a long difficult process for at least one of them.

Prepare properly. If your parents are ill ot over 70 see an elder care lawyer ASAP. You can lose everything they own if you do this wrong. If you go really wrong you can go broke taking care of them.

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JoyfulCor313@reddit

Yep. My advice is:

Everyone becomes either old or disabled or both. Plan accordingly. Design your houses, your savings, your community of family and friends with this in mind. It happens to all of us. And disability/illness doesn’t care about your age.

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chamrockblarneystone@reddit

Great advice. I never thought about this until it was almost too late.

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Silent-Car-1954@reddit

You're not special.

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Jlr1@reddit

There is no stopping aging….accept it as a fact and be grateful to get old.

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Kaonashi_NoFace@reddit

If you disengage from the world, the world will disengage from you.

Pay attention to your surroundings when moving through the world. Hanging your head down looking for an alternative reality to your life on your phone makes you nothing more than a zombie. A fulfilling life will ‘swipe’ by leaving you feeling empty and hollow inside. Your posture and eyesight will be rubbish by middle age and you will miss out on important relationships with those around you.

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boiseshan@reddit

You have to work. Even if you don't like your job.

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yurinator71@reddit

You aren't all that you think you are .

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Bigsisstang@reddit

Life isn't fair and never will be fair. Get over it now.

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VariationOk9359@reddit

life sux then you die

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brandonspade17@reddit

Take care of your teeth.

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polishprince76@reddit

Take every chance you can to learn what you can from the job you're in. And then, when they teach you a skill that can get you a better job, RUN.

They dont give a damn about you and will dump you as soon as it saves them a few bucks. Treat them accordingly. Loyalty is a myth.

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sysaphiswaits@reddit

You’re most likely NOT going to live hard and die young.

Go after your dreams hard when you’re young. You’ll most likely fail, but the vicarious benefits are amazing.

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kris_stoner@reddit

Don’t live according to your feelings

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31engine@reddit

Don’t wait for an invitation, invite yourself. Do for yourself. Make opportunities be they a party or a job or a friendship.

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titations@reddit

You absolutely need to know financial management and security.

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Setthescene@reddit

It's who you know.

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Sukenis@reddit

This is mainly to young women but your looks stop being enough. At age 28, you will find your looks start being worth less and by 35 you will be invisible. I have seen too many beautiful young women who learned this too late in life.

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BawdyBaker@reddit

You're not as special as you think you are

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Fragrant_Mission_633@reddit

Putin is a trained assassin, a KGB agent, a bloodthirsty dictator. Diaper Donald is his asset.

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CaeliaShortface@reddit

Well, I must say I was so proud of genX watching Oprah's special on menopause last night (56m and not an Oprah fan). This is new advice that younger generations need but has been deeply neglected.

Hearing how determined these women are to make sure they are the last generation to enter menopause in ignorance was inspiring.

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Kblast70@reddit

My 6th grade teacher told us there was no way we would have social security when we retired. I have always planned to retire without it, everyone needs to be prepared.

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Stare_Decisis@reddit

Don't put your dick in crazy!!!

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techman74@reddit

INVEST! and learn patience for EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE

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Playful-Park4095@reddit

You aren't the main character. People aren't paying as much attention to you as you think. Most of what people do to you is because of them, not because of you. That guy didn't cut you off in traffic to pots piss you off, he did it because his head was up his ass and he was in a hurry. That guy who disrupted your meeting was just looking to make a name for himself because he wants the promotion, etc. Don't take shit personal that's not about you. That doesn't mean you don't deal with it, you just don't make it personal when you deal with it, either.

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BoringSubject1143@reddit

No one gets out alive!

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Fun_Platypus_4280@reddit

The things that are sold to you as things that will make you happy are actually designed to enslave you and make you miserable.

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moonplanetbaby@reddit

That life isn't fair. Never has been, you are going to facing it everyday so don't spend the energy and time trying to figure out why, you never will. Put all that time and energy into bettering yourself.

Don't back down. I don't mean this aggressively, or to be a loud mouth jackass, but if your know you are right, state your mind, but tactfully. Don't be afraid to speak up! If you are crushing on someone, tell them! Chances are it will work out in your favor! If you love someone, romantically or not, tell them! It's a horrible feeling looking back on your life, and realizing all the times and situations you could've said something, should've spoken up but didn't.

Do not be shy, embarrassed or afraid to be yourself! So important! Don't be afraid to be crazy, act like a little kid, do goofy stuff, NEVER FORGET HOW TO PLAY! One of the biggest mistakes adults make is they forget how to play.

Last, at the end of the day all you really have is your words, or your truth, also called integrity. If you lie, it will catch up to you, and you lose not only credibility but friends and respect. Tell the truth, the truth never changes and can always be remembered, no matter how ugly, brutal and hurtful it may be.

Trust this, I PROMISE you at the end of they day nobody really cares or remembers the embarrassing things you did, said, the drama, no one, only you.

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13maven@reddit

Figure all of your shit out. No one wants to fix you, and no one else can.

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ElGrandeRojo67@reddit

You and you only are responsible for your decisions. No one forced you to do dumb things. Don't learn from your mistakes. Learn from everyone else's.

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Ill-Use-982@reddit

Choosing what to have for dinner every night is hard!

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Quick_Discipline_432@reddit

No body cares what you think. About anything.

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MissMurderpants@reddit

Take. Care. Of. Your. Teeth.

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fonzieshair@reddit

Police are not your friends. NEVER talk to police.

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Tydirium7@reddit

Cut out negative people (including family if applicable) early and often.

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jasont1273@reddit

Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one and everyone's stinks but their own.

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Whynot151@reddit

It does not matter what you want to other people.

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InternationalStore76@reddit

All the shit that older generations said about you, you will be saying about the generations to come after you.

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Commercial-Novel-786@reddit

Just because life is unfair, unjust, and subject to luck both good and bad doesn't mean you should be an asshole to anyone that doesn't clearly deserve it.

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SayinItAsISeeIt@reddit

The world owes you nothing. Plan accordingly.

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Due_Charge_9258@reddit

The band at Chuck E Cheese aren't real.

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TotalRichardMove@reddit

At best, after your early 20s nobody is really rootin’ for you but you - DO THE THING

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Suitable-Toe@reddit

Nothing fucking matters. Just take care of yourself and your family and just do your best in the world. Nothing's gonna change.

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Rare_Tomorrow_Now@reddit

Retire young even of you will be poor.

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NeauxDoubt@reddit

Take care of your teeth

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Some_Refrigerator147@reddit

It doesn’t get better 😗

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irishkenny1974@reddit

NO ONE outside your family gives a shit about your feelings. If you get offended easily, adulthood is going to suck even more for you than it does for us.

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YachtRock_SoSmooth@reddit

You need to physically talk to people.

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hambonelicker@reddit

Make hay while the sun shines.

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Comfortable-Toe-863@reddit

Travel the world before having responsibilities, that’s the best education!

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Lcky22@reddit

It takes more than love to make a relationship work

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w303m@reddit

The world is unfair and is out to get you. Some people will live their entire lives in a nightmare, and some will live their first to last breaths in pure safety and luxury. You will need to be vigilant, strategic, learn to deal with a lot of pain, and always press on.

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N3CR0N9@reddit

You’re gonna work until you die, don’t invest your retirement in the stock market.

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Aggravating_Onion300@reddit

There's a few other countries that have nuclear weapons aimed at us

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AltairStarlight@reddit

If you don't own your business (and often even if you do), you have very little control over your career.

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AJMGuitar@reddit

Learn from mistakes or you will repeat them.

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Digflipz@reddit

Fuck it all cause that's what what life does to you NO MATTER WHAT. Luck and heredity determine most things. You are on the top half if you can read this, despite not feeling that way.

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theyrecalledpants@reddit

Lust is not love.

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Mental_K_Oss@reddit

No one is going to take care of you. Acquire a trustworthy life ethic. Don't vape or smoke. Seriously. There are consequences. Choose your partner wisely...you can't change or fix them and they will have a hard time letting go of their baggage...just like you.

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pizzawitch1977@reddit

The person you want to be with in your 20s may not be the person you want to be with in your 40s, and that’s fine. A relationship can end without being a failure.

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handsomeape95@reddit

If you're ever in chem lab, and there are two vials, one is 12M ammonia and the other is water, don't sniff them to figure out which one is which.

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FecklessScribbler@reddit

This is the way.

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tuenthe463@reddit

If you're lucky, there will be 4 or 5 people on the planet to give a shit about you and have your best interest in mind.

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psycobillycadillac@reddit

Sure, go ahead and think you’ll stay married forever. Chances are you won’t.

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FigJam197@reddit

Be selfish, take care of yourself first. Don’t bend to please others.

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DMVlooker@reddit

Don’t be a victim of your own life, and Life isn’t fair, get used to it

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Kindsquirrel629@reddit

A $15 / hour job is better than a $0/ no job.

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Yarg2525@reddit

You will never know how low you can go until it happens - keep your "I would never"s to a minimum

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Delicious-Tea-1564@reddit

No one is going to take care of you but you. Fund your retirement at every job it's available. My dad gave me the best advice when I got my first job at 22 he said "pay yourself first" put the minimum in your 401k to get company match and increase it as able. I've done that and taught my kids to do that too. As ridiculous as it sound my daughters have worked for the same non profit since 16. Even then they put $ in their retirement there. My oldest doesn't work there anymore but if she doesn't touch it and even doesn't contribute anymore by the time she retires it will be a nice chunk of change

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WhatDatDonut@reddit

Never start a land war in Asia and never go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line.

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FecklessScribbler@reddit

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twinmom2298@reddit

You will never be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself.

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Wild-Breadfruit7817@reddit

Celebs are awful

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lazygerm@reddit

Don't rely on anyone else if you can help it. Expect shit to when you least expect it. Roll with the punches.

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EastOfArcheron@reddit

Life owes you fuck all. You have no "human rights" that cannot be taken away. The people on power will fuck you up. Fight for everything.

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Bennieplant@reddit

Everything eventually gets boring and the rents always due.

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No-Tiger-9482@reddit

And that it is perfectly okay to be bored.

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TheVioletEmpire@reddit

You, and everyone you know and love, will die. Life is short. Make it count for something.

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Remarkable_Ad3379@reddit

Protect your credit score at all costs.

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jonrosling@reddit

You don't have enough time.

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blacklab@reddit

Take care of your knees

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TenuousOgre@reddit

Everyone is struggling with things you don’t see. Being polite makes life a little easier on everyone.

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paisley_life@reddit

Never underestimate the promotability of a lacklustre, mediocre middle-aged white man over you.

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Chicagoj1563@reddit

Your eyesight is going to go somewhere between ages 37-45. You won’t be able to read shit without glasses.

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RefrigeratorApart544@reddit

Life is fucking hard very hard an far from fair

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Demented-Alpaca@reddit

You're not special. Only your mom might think you are. To everyone else you're just another asshole.

You can't be anything you want to be. You're limited by your innate skills, talents and affinities. Deal with it.

Reality doesn't give a shit about you, your thoughts, your feelings or your dreams. Learn to live with reality instead of fantasy.

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jcmib@reddit

No one’s coming to rescue you, but you can get better at getting yourself out of trouble.

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JuucedIn@reddit

Nobody owes you anything.

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PerfectWaltz8927@reddit

The people that you let in to your circle will fuck you the worst.

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heathen_worldwide@reddit

MD 20/20...its cheap and there's so many flavors...and sounds like a good idea at the time...you know what....never mind...

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THEREALSTRINEY@reddit

It’s all ball bearings now adays.

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originalbL1X@reddit

This is the realm of suffering. Try not to add to it and learn from it instead.

Also, old men will try wreck your body for their profit, the effects of which will manifest decades down the road.

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Designer_Jackfruit82@reddit

You're on your own. And people never change.

Never!

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QuiJon70@reddit

You don't have it harder then anyone else had it. And constantly whining about it just solidifies your generation is just a bunch of whiny pussies.

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Ok-Lawfulness-3138@reddit

Nobody is looking at you. Do the stuff that is fun for you because nobody really cares.

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VioletSea13@reddit

You really aren’t special or unique.

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KatesFree58@reddit

Probably just a further extrapolation of many of the comments here-- it is *useful* to develop a thick skin and enough stubbornness to push through any resistance on your road to getting your needs met.

Because sometimes you will have to charge like a rhino to get what you need.

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jasont1273@reddit

"Can't" never did anything and life "owes" you nothing.

"You make choices and you live with them." - Phil Connors "Groundhog Day"

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feldknocker@reddit

There is fuckery in everyone’s life, so be kind.

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RareBrit@reddit

If you're unable to properly defend yourself broken glass is your best friend.

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ShutYourDumbUglyFace@reddit

The world doesn't owe you shit. And outside yo' momma, that includes love.

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KrofftSurvivor@reddit

If we're being brutal -

If you want to make a living making art or music, get a business degree.

Your work isn't going to sell based on having an art degree, but if you don't know how business works, no matter how good you are, someone else will make all the money.

And no matter what you want to do -

It's ok to get a degree in something you just ~like~ but pays well, and save doing what you love for fun.

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Seachica@reddit

You won't be able to afford to buy a house or get a job making tons of money in your 20s, and you're not entitled to. Previous generations faced the same thing. Your parents struggled in their early adult years before they made it. You only saw their lifestyle once they were in their 30s/40s onward -- after they had saved to buy a house, etc. Every adult graduates and then has to take a step down in lifestyle while they save and take that first (few) lower level jobs. Stick with it and eventually you will get ahead. Being an adult means more responsibility and taking ownership of your life, not complaining and whining. Life isn't fair -- that's just how it is.

And there will always be someone who had it easier, or makes more money, or gets to do something you don't get to do. But there will always be someone who doesn't have it as good as you. Don't let it all distract you. You do the best with the life you've been given.

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lab_chi_mom@reddit

Love is not enough for a successful marriage.

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hibou-ou-chouette@reddit

Your "work" friends are not your real friends. They will try to throw you under the bus to save their own ass.

If you have a deep, dark secret, tell no one. Ever.

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No9No9No9No9@reddit

Join a union!!

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stuck_behind_a_truck@reddit

You’re going to have to settle for a starter home, and it may include shared walls. Or, gasp!, it might be a cookie cutter tract home. You aren’t buying your dream forever home out of the gate.

And all those “cheap” homes of the past were not mansions built to current building codes. They were tiny, they had a single bathroom, and they’d burn. They were made with asbestos and lead. Central air? Open the windows. Central heat? Possibly, and it burned more fuel than a long haul truck burns gas.

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Operation-FuturePuss@reddit

It’s better to be kind than to be right.

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haclyonera@reddit

Very few people really care about your feelings.

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mpls_big_daddy@reddit

The only person who will look out for your best interests is you. Educate yourself.

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wezelboy@reddit

Shitty tires will get you killed.

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TheEpicGenealogy@reddit

You ever stop to think you’re not as charming as you think you are ?

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debsnm@reddit

Bad things happened to good people.

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lgramlich13@reddit

Everything in your life is a lie. You're just a slave on a dying planet.

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Commisceo@reddit

No good deed goes unpunished.
People will turn on you even when you’re helping them.

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No-Pressure-809@reddit

Never vote Republican. Look where that got us.

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Comfortable-Crow-238@reddit

People don’t care about your feelings getting hurt. Sometimes, the truth hurts.

You can't worry about what people think or say about you. No matter how good you are to people, someone will always talk about you, whether good or bad. You can't control that only yourself.

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Monkeynutz_Johnson@reddit

Bad shit happens to good people. Sometimes all you can do is remember there's people depending on you and make yourself go forward, no matter what.

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Necessary-Peace9672@reddit

No two people love each other the exact same amount.

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r33c3d@reddit

Viewing yourself as a generational statistic leads to a victimhood and learned helplessness. You are an individual, not a number. Also, get over yourself.

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beauty_and_delicious@reddit

Don’t be predjudice against an older person in the workforce. If you genuinely believe you will never be able to retire because of the cost, remember that the standards you set will be the standards imposed on you later.

So yeah, ageism is prejudiced and wrong.

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Responsible_Sun_3597@reddit

Be your own hero!

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caffeinatedsunshine@reddit

People aren’t thinking about you as much as you think they are.

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yearsofpractice@reddit

Hey OP. 48 year old married father of two here.

Three pieces of advice - one relationship and two work:

If you want to be with someone attractive, you have to make sure you’re attractive too. The old Hollywood trope of people seeing others for who they really are is just that - a fantasy. Yes, long term relationships are built on values and connections… but initial attractions are always external, so give yourself the best chance. No matter how ugly you think you are, a peachy ass (male and female) earned in the gym will always get you seen!
At work, the boss is the boss and that’s that. Regardless of how insightful or intelligent you think you are, the boss has the final say and they get to tell you what to do. It’s horrendously frustrating sometimes, but the sooner you get used to it, the better
Do not ever EVER consider the idea of loyalty to a company. That company can - and will - lay you off without a second thought. Without a second thought. Make sure you approach the relationship the same way.

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OhDatsStanky@reddit

The universe is hostile, so impersonal

Devour to survive, so it is, so it has always been

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Amazing-Butterfly-65@reddit

Life’s is not fair and people are cruel , don’t take it personally, you are owed nothing, work for everything and remember who stands by you through it all

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jaw-shoe-uhhh@reddit

You are owed nothing. You must earn your way through life, and it will feel that much better when you succeed by your own doing.

Also, I strongly second funding retirement early and aggressively (emphasis on an agressive and diverse portfolio). You can dump obscene amounts of money into retirement later in life to try to catch up, but you'll never get those years of compounded interest back.

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Evil_Garen@reddit

Be honest. Be brutally honest. 95% of life’s problems are a lack of communication OR being unable to share bad news.

Sometimes people’s ideas/plans just suck and you should let them know your thoughts upfront or you will be paying for it later….

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Quirky_Mud_5755@reddit

The world doesn’t owe you Jack squat.

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MeatofKings@reddit

Don’t be a people pleaser. Tell people uncomfortable truths, just don’t be a dick about it. This will cause you to lose some people in your life or have less interaction with them. This is a good thing.

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gvarsity@reddit

Love is important but isn’t enough. It will be killed by incompatibility. You need to both love partners but also like them enjoy their company and be able to share space.

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trailrider@reddit

You will grow to be us. I never thought us Xer's would become our parents. Complaining about Kids nowadays, amIright? Whining about how new music, movies, shows, etc is supposedly total shit. How much better things were in the Good 'Ol Days^(TM) of the 70s/80s/90s. How much "simpler" things were back then as we look through our rose colored glasses. IOW: doing the EXACT! same shit our parents did/say to us that inspired music like We're Not Gonna Take It.

I was foolish enough to believe we'd never become our parents. Yet I sit here and see posts from old classmates that make me thing No Brad. You told that officer to suck it as he dragged your drunk ass in for underage drinking. You didn't ReSpEcT AuTHOrItY!!! Absolutely not Jennifer. We all "know" you were not the Vestal Virgin you're claiming to have been back in high school.

So as much as I hate to admit it, Grandpa Simpson was right about this one. LOL!

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Muted-Ad-5521@reddit

Read “On Tyranny: 20 Lessons from the Twentieth Century” as we are moving into genuine authoritarianism. Learn to see past the state propaganda that is about to swamp your entire life.

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Classic_Engine7285@reddit

Grit is a superpower, and the reason it’s a superpower is because life is really fucking hard.

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CynicalLogik@reddit

We can tell them, but they won't listen any more than we did.

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DangerKitty555@reddit

Not everyone who claims to be your friend actually cares about you 😴✌🏼

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NoSplit2488@reddit

This to shall pass

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Strangewhine88@reddit

You aren’t as important as you think you are even if you shout the loudest from your personal pulpit. Read the classics of philosophy, literature and history of several ancient realms before you decide you’ve innovated a new thought system that will save the world, not the TLDR version.

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Id_Rather_Beach@reddit

Learn how to communicate with people face-to-face.

It's really not an anxiety-inducing or "weird" thing to do. And, also, learn how to talk on the phone.

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Scabrock@reddit

Don’t expect people to always be there. You know what people plan for your future is? They don’t have one. You are in it by yourself. Plan your future with you in mind. If you have someone to share that journey with, you are lucky. But remember, most everyone is just trying to get thru their day intact.

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boilersnipe@reddit

Don’t sweat the petty things, just pet the sweaty things

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slpybeartx@reddit

No one wants to hear a grown man bitch.

Anger is a cheap commodity and Social Media is the Wall Street of Anger.

How you treat those you disagree with speaks more than how you treat those you love.

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JimVivJr@reddit

Life is work. You work your balls off till you retire or die. That’s all that life is. There are no secrets except how you create quality in your life… and that is almost entirely opinion based.

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THEMACGOD@reddit

Nothing more brutal than this advice.

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Jaykalope@reddit

Anxiety is a completely normal human emotion and you should expect to feel it somewhat regularly. It makes you get up and do what you need to do in order to pay the rent and put food on the table. It helps to warn you in dangerous situations. It can become pathological but its mere existence isn’t a sign that there’s anything wrong with you, and doesn’t indicate a mental illness of any kind. It’s a basic piece of the human condition.

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NegScenePts@reddit

There is no guarantee you'll end up happy. The system isn't designed to provide, it's designed to keep the machine running...so learn to use it to your advantage.

If your work is your reason to live, you're a fool.

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redditatwork023@reddit

i know I'm millennial but my dad born in '63 always told me

"life isnt fair" and

"you'll be working for a long time"

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Maleficent_Sun_3075@reddit

That regardless of what you've read, watched, listened to, or been taught, you're going to have plenty of hardships, especially when you're young. Nobody owes you anything, and depending on your age, you've not earned anything. I work with a lot of younger people (under 25), and most are really good. Some get a wake up call, and handle it well. Others not so much. Overall I'm quite impressed with the young people I work in the trades with, and am pretty confident in their future.

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Sea-Morning-772@reddit

Life has no meaning. You have to give your life meaning.

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Scared_Wall_504@reddit

Live at home until you can afford to pay off reliable transportation to and from work, and have 6 months rent in the bank.

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pcs11224@reddit

You aren't special. You aren't on Earth to do great things. You're here because your parents had unprotected sex. That's all.

You don't think you're meant to work a 9-5 job for your whole life? Marry rich, because it's the only way around that. Literally no one wants to work, let alone a crappy 9-5 job (or worse). You do what you have to in order to survive, especially if you're responsible for someone else.

Think that you can get away with doing something illegal because you're too smart to get caught? Unless you're a rich white man, you're getting caught. Don't believe me? Ask anyone in prison.

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Lostinaforest2@reddit

Life is neither fair nor unfair.. Robert Smith

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newyork2E@reddit

You are owed nothing. You’ve been lied to your whole life. You’ll never be president of the United States. People with juice and money have it easy you have to work harder than them. That knife in your back most times is not from an enemy. It’s from a fake friend hugging you telling you how much they love you.

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jawshoeaw@reddit

you gunna die. sorry kid, it comes sooner than you think and never on time.

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Serious-Knee-5768@reddit

Be humble. Not like you think a humble person would act, actually feel appropriately humble. This world doesn't owe us shit. Then, start working on grateful...

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Hairbear2176@reddit

No one cares about you. No one. Once you enter the world in your own, it is in no one's best interest to give a shit about you. So, always lookout for yourself because no one is going to help you.

That said, if you are lucky enough to find a partner that will be that person to lookout for you, don't forget to reciprocate!

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anxious_differential@reddit

You're not that special.
You will fail, and that's ok.
Keep trying.

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Nomad_5384@reddit

Make a habit of flossing your teeth. Your future self will thank you. It's expensive to have dental work.

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MydogMax59@reddit

Your. boss. is. not. your. friend.

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Interesting-Web3737@reddit

You will learn more from failure than success!
You are no more important than anyone else.
You are no less important than anyone else.
No one likes a person who can’t laugh at themselves.
If you come in 4th place you don’t get a trophy!
You can work hard, innovate, become fabulously successful and beloved and you will still die just like everyone else.

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jwhyem@reddit

You're not entitled to anything

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303FPSguy@reddit

Nothing you do will ever matter and you’re nothing but a resource being exploited by a few people.

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KiwiMcG@reddit

You vote with your dollar.

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anynameisfinejeez@reddit

Sometimes, bad stuff happens, there’s nobody to blame, and you just have to deal with it. Sometimes, the scales simply don’t balance.

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VenusValkyrieJH@reddit

That the worlds owes you nothing and you are not special to anyone but maybe your parents and spouse and kids.

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eaglemg1@reddit

Go to therapy. Everyone needs it.

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Creative-Ad-3645@reddit

Fear not. Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering

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Minimum_Current7108@reddit

Life ain’t fair

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DespyHasNiceCans@reddit

Toughen the fuck up. Just because someone says something mean, something challenges you, or you get a case of the sniffles doesn't mean you should go home early from your job or school because you're overwhelmed. If you keep running away from your problems you will not learn the skills to deal with them leaving you a weak person who will be walked over for the rest of your life.

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Cranks_No_Start@reddit

If you’re not 15 minutes early you’re late.

This is about being there for someone else it’s about being on time for you because in life shit happens and generally if shit happens 15 minutes is enough to cover it.

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Salt_Anywhere_6604@reddit

Life is hard. And sometimes it’s not fair. Deal with it.

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Mellemel67@reddit

Despite what public education taught you, not everyone wins. And appearance matters.

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joemamah77@reddit

It takes a lifetime to build a reputation and a second to fuck it up.

There’s no delete button on the internet and you are always on camera.

Tell the ones you love that you love them more than you think you should.

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Adventurous_Use2324@reddit

Democracy is not guaranteed.

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runningman231223@reddit

Don’t get caught up in daily life. Take time for yourself family and get a hobby

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Iko87iko@reddit

"Nobody loves you but your mother, and she could be jivin too," BB King

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hellfish11@reddit

Your parents are faking it and lying to you.

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Spiritual_Time_69@reddit

Running a bunch of dudes for government is probably a bad idea. Just maybe we should consider the other sex too.

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Striking-Walrus8544@reddit

nothing matters

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Skimamma145@reddit

You often need to be very uncomfortable to get anywhere in life.

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hazelquarrier_couch@reddit

Question authority and, no matter what they say, no political party is on your side.

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Once-kings@reddit

YOU WILL GET OLD!!

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bubbududu@reddit

It’s never going to be great again.

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2ndChanceAtLife@reddit

Nobody asked to be born. It’s impossible. Life isn’t fair. Good doesn’t always prevail.

Of all the potential kids your parents could have had, you were one of the fortunate ones. There is so much beauty in the world. Keep trying to find it.

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La_Mano_Cornuta@reddit

You are not special and the world owes you nothing.

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Rook_James_Bitch@reddit

"Love" is a Disney concept.

Men love idealistically whereas women love opportunistically.

Love people but do not expect a warranty.

[OP said, "Brutal"!]

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CarterOtisNixon@reddit

You are fundamentally alone. People will love you and care for you but in the end, you can only 100% depend on yourself. So make yourself strong and love yourself enough so that the connections you form are not based on fear.

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Budget-Rub3434@reddit

So true.

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PinkRoseBouquet@reddit

You have to find validation within. The world simply doesn’t care that much unless you are lucky, exceptional, or born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

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GrogJoker@reddit

Head down, focus and work hard. You can do anything.

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Wilcry@reddit

The way your voice sounds when recorded is actually how you sound. Not what you hear in your head. This isn’t bad, it’s just different than what you’re used to.

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PrimaryTumbleweed433@reddit

Suck it up. Life isn't fair! Get it together

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ocTGon@reddit

Prepare for when your parents are no longer there for you. Life can be extremely harsh...

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liss100@reddit

Be good to yourself! You have to live with your mistakes.

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dbrmn73@reddit

Not everything is about you and yours.

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No_Neighborhood_632@reddit

Once you stop trying to be "Ruler of the Universe", your life is gonna get a whole lot easier.

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rogermuffin69@reddit

We live in an evil world, controlled by money and lies

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jestr6@reddit

Jesus Christ, this comment section sounds just like all the Boomers on Facebook.

-Life sucks

-No one owes you anything

-You’re not special

-No one cares about your mental issues

Holy fuck y’all need a hug or something.

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lajaunie@reddit

Spend the money and take care of your fucking teeth!

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Farpoint_Farms@reddit

No one cares.

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melmontclark@reddit

Your job is what pays the bills and need not be your passion. Find your passion anywhere else.

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Otis737@reddit

You can get anything done good, fast, or cheap.

Sometimes you can get something done good and fast, good and cheap, or cheap and fast.

You will never get anything done for all 3.

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Legitimate-End-1346@reddit

It’s probably not worth it. Whatever that thing is you want so badly isn’t as magical as you’ve built it up to be. You can and should still try, but just realize the value of the journey over the destination.

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Stay-Thirsty@reddit

Your parents

If they are good and decent parents they will do their best to prepare you for the world. But, they will not be able to teach you everything and you will be best served to try and learn how to learn.

This will set you up for any major accomplishments outside of sheer luck. Doesn’t guarantee success, but may help you sustain it once achieved.

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Tallulah1645@reddit

Don't have kids.

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ggoptimus@reddit

Not everyone is a winner. Promotions are about who you know not merit. Life is short.

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Bl8kStrr@reddit

It’s Ok if you lose, it’s not the end of the world

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copperpin@reddit

No one EVER wants to hear who they look like. Unless the person you are comparing them to is famed for their beauty, just keep it to yourself.

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Mindless_Travel@reddit

Fuck around, find out.

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johnnyhandbags@reddit

Don’t gatekeep people who mean well. Not everyone approaches problems the same way.

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Bunnyfartz@reddit

Your employer will let you work yourself to death if you choose.

Whether you think the world owes you anything or not, the world doesn't think it does so you can't expect any help from anyone else.

Yes, your generation has it worse than the ones that came before you. Welcome to the club. The fucking boomers were the last ones to have it better than their parents and they've fucked it all up for everyone else ever since.

Assholes tend to get what they want because most people don't want to push back on them for their attitudes and behaviors. Unfortunately, there are rarely any suitable consequences for being an asshole.

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Able-Nothing-5560@reddit

The smartest, most capable people spend the vast majority of their time cleaning up less capable people’s messes. You were marked as gifted in school? Completed challenging, competitive degrees in valuable fields? Killed yourself working overtime to get promoted? Congratulations, here’s a manager title and a fat bonus. We’d love to do this cool new business thing that you’d be perfect to run, but incidentally, we also replaced our entire accounting group with IT contractors who speak minimal English and have never done accounting before, so we’re gonna need you to teach them what a weight average is over email across 5 time zones so they stop overpaying contracts by $40mn.

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gl2w6re@reddit

You’re not the only generation to suffer through horrible times. Don’t be fatalistic. Keep moving towards your future with a plan in mind. Prepare for the worst case scenario but don’t let it consume you and immobilize you. This is advice I’ve had to tell me three 20 something kids. They are anxious, stressed, and disillusioned about what they see happening in our country and world as a whole. They are worried about the impact of it on their lives as they are starting out as young adults.

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sayhi2sydney@reddit

You control your future.

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mrpotatonutz@reddit

You are totally fucked dude like, totally

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FormerCollegeDJ@reddit

The only person who can really help you is you.

Others can help you and give you assistance, but you have to take the initiative to ask for help and put in the work to help yourself and address whatever issues you may have.

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Reverse-Recruiterman@reddit

If you don't know how to talk to people, you are f***ed.

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aortomus@reddit

It may happen in an instant. It may not appear until years later, but those moments where lust rules your actions can ruin every dream you've ever had.

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Vegaprime@reddit

A list of all the things that can make you happy but also kill you.

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Rufus_XSarsaparilla@reddit

Everyone lies.

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shellebelle89@reddit

No one cares about you. You have to be your own best advocate.

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Hagfist@reddit

It's not that big of a deal, don't make it one and It's better to be happy than right sometimes

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goteed@reddit

If you are the type person that gets up and goes to work to do the best job you possibly can for your employer, you need to go into business for yourself.

I'm that type of worker and I've worked in blue collar, white collar and I've owned a business for 20 years. In the world where you are employed by someone else your work ethic will only get you more work and very little reward. People will recognize you are a great worker and hand their work off to you as they spend their day marketing their own career and gaining advancement.

On the contrary, if you start your own business your employer is now your customer. They will reward you with more work and you will see those rewards in increased profits for your company.

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CarbieNOTaBarbie@reddit

Invest in your OWN future. Save money, don't go into debt, and for the love, don't use credit cards!! If your company offers a 401k contribute 10% if you're able.

Don't spend money before you have it, and save for the big purchases in your life. Cash has power.

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Certain-Range-847@reddit

Your pain is your own. Your trauma, your triggers, your injuries….There is a way in and a way out, but you have to largely go it alone.

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RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit

I'm also, for some reason, compelled to post Desiderata:

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

by Max Ehrmann ©1927

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jacklord392@reddit

Don't trust anyone over thirty and keep em flying - the flags of discontent.

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robert_d@reddit

Nobody cares about your pain, about your problems, about your vacations and what food you eat.

Nobody cares if you're fired, if your spouse dies, that you miss your parents after they die.

Nobody cares about you and you will be forgot about soon after you die.

If you are having problems, you need to focus on them. You need to fix them.

If you rely on your wife, your kids then understand this truth. They'll eventually get tired of your problems and you and they will leave.

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ricperry1@reddit

“Stop whining and do something about it.” This advice applies in nearly every situation you have cause for complaint.

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VergeXgen@reddit

It takes guts to start your own business, but working for someone else, only makes them richer.

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rorykavanagh13@reddit

STFU and get on with it.

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CommissionSpiritual8@reddit

bad things will happen to you. pick your ass up

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Zealousideal-Law2189@reddit

You’re going to have to do it yourself

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Helmett-13@reddit

"No one is coming to help; it's up to you."

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Ok-Ear9289@reddit

Stop fucking around and put yer ass in gear! No time fer dilly dallying!

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Tess47@reddit

oh . my. gosh. just. freaking. do. something.

stop waiting, stop complaining, Dont like it? change it. thats all there is to it.

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frogger2020@reddit

No one really cares about you. No one cares what you look like or do. No one cares what you think about the issues of the day. Everyone has their own issues and problems and we don't think or care for you at all.

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Moogie21@reddit

There are two guarantees in life, death and taxes.

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RyanLanceAuthor@reddit

"Cruelty is the kindness of the wise"

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Mike_Hagedorn@reddit

True story: a college kid came up to me beaming after a show I played panting “Do you have any advice for me?”

After catching my breath I came up with “pay attention and shut up.”

A slightly stunned look, then “that’s it?” “Yep” was my reply.

“Why?” he asked. “Because you’ll learn faster and better than anyone else.”

He smiled, took my hand, then went on his way.

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boss6769@reddit

No one cares. Do your job.

Life is always hard. You get to choose your hard.

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RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit

HR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. Yes, if there's an issue about something or someone, you should go to them, but remember, in the end, they're trying to keep the company from getting into a lawsuit or worse.

Your job shouldn't be your life. If you're an artist, own your own business of some sort or doing something you LOVE that's a true career, that's great & that's how things should be. But if you're just a desk jockey, an executive peon (that was always the title I gave myself at my office jobs), or just doing any job to keep from being homeless & starving, don't make that thing your entire being. Because one day you may get fired, you quit, or you'll get "retired" & then you will have no idea what to do with yourself because your whole life & being was that "job."

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Impossible-Key-2212@reddit

No one owes you anything.

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StepYaGameUp@reddit

Get involved in political change now.

Stop being apathetic because “it’s all billionaires rigging the system anyways.”

They depend upon indifference, apathy, compliance and silence.

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Dramatic_Arugula_252@reddit

This! Cynicism is easy and cowardly

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jessriv34@reddit

Nobody really gives a shit about you.

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ManicFruitbat@reddit

Don’t trust people to do the right thing, especially people in groups.

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Comet_Empire@reddit

Once you leave the house no one has to care about you.

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MossIsking@reddit

Look for a JOB with benefits. Healthcare, retirement, 401(k) vacation pay, sick pay. Just because you can make $30 with a hammer with no benefits doesn’t make you winning. It makes you only have SS at 67 with a broken body.

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Confident-Echo-5996@reddit

Video game driving does not equal real life driving.

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Tasty-Building-3887@reddit

Money won't make you happy

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thedrunkensot@reddit

All relationships are temporary. Whether it’s by disinterest, a falling out, or death, every relationship ends.

You’ll lose relationships when you leave school, when you leave jobs, when you move to another neighborhood or city, when you take your life in a direction somebody doesn’t agree with, when you express an unpopular opinion, even when you get ill.

A handful will be with you for the long haul. But remember this when you lose relationships at these inflection points. There are a million ways to contact someone now; don’t feel obligated to try and salvage a relationship that’s simply run its course.

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two_awesome_dogs@reddit

The world owes you nothing.

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ThatCoupleYou@reddit

Use your words.

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lilbearpie@reddit

"Fault always lies in the same place, my fine babies, with him weak enough to lay blame"

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elijuicyjones@reddit

Get used to disappointment.

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Listen-to-Mom@reddit

It isn’t all about you.

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EFCF@reddit

The good news? Nobody cares what you look like.

The bad new? Nobody cares what you look like.

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brunoponcejones03017@reddit

Life isn't fair for sure You will be shocked to find out how little others are thinking about you Your effort won't always be rewarded The only way to learn is to fail at something and have the grit to get up and try again. One day it will be too late

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LilPajamas@reddit

Sex and love are not the same.

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_WillCAD_@reddit

Yes, it fucking CAN happen here.

Believing it can't happen here is the surest way to guaran-damn-tee that it WILL happen here.

Sorry, too late. It just happened.

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PantsyFants@reddit

You are not responsible for the feelings you have but you are 100% responsible for the choices and behaviors you make. Feeling anxious, angry, frightened, sad, or disgusted may be uncomfortable but do not justify being volatile, cruel, or any other behaviors that infringe others.

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ExcellentLaw9547@reddit

Nobody likes you unless you can do something for them.

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Vulturev4@reddit

Take care of your body, you won’t get another one. I hit about 50 years old and my doctor called me and told me I had diabetes, now I’m regretting not taking care of myself.

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Fire_Trashley@reddit

She’s not your friend.

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8reticus@reddit

You’re not going to change the world. You never had a chance. But dammit try anyway.

Also, discover the miracle of compounding interest as early as you can.

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WUSSIEBOY@reddit

Murphy's law. Whatever can go wrong will. Plan accordingly.

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Notsogrumpyoldman@reddit

DTA = Don't Trust Anybody....

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binarypie@reddit

Older people think you're lazy and soft. Younger people think you don't understand modern life. You'll never be "right" but you can always do what's right for you. Enjoy your life and build memories over possessions.

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Ok-Mistake-5676@reddit

A former co-worker (tech school/community college) would often say:

"Stupid and arrogant is no way to go through life."

I teach at the high-schools level now, and I think of that a. lot.

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RayBuc9882@reddit

Your idealism will not match your reality. You will have to make tough decisions that will upset you.

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LaximumEffort@reddit

You are always being judged by everyone you know.

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dbradford7@reddit

Live frugal, yet comfortable. Save/invest all your money. Have kids and start a family. Get a jib you enjoy. Raise good humans. Retire between 50 and 55 ideally.

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scarlettskadi@reddit

Character is fate.

Be a good person rather than a ‘kind’ or ‘nice’ person.

Never sell out your honour, integrity and courage.

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CeilingUnlimited@reddit

Your parents live you very much. Don’t shut them out. Embrace them.

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JJQuantum@reddit

You are the most important thing to exactly 1 person, yourself. Do not whine when others have lives they are trying to live and therefore cannot prioritize your birthday, kids, picking you up from the airport, etc.

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corncocktion@reddit

Don’t restrict enjoying your life because of how you think other people might feel.

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Flaky-Artichoke6641@reddit

Learn to listen, don't be so quick to shut down

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Choose-Carefull-y@reddit

I have no idea. I didn't have kids and none of my close friends did either, so I'm never around young people. I don't know how much of my "wisdom 😂" would be useful. I often think how happy I am that I grew up before the advent of social media and cell phones. I can't imagine the extra stuff kids have to deal with these days.

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Revolutionary_Gap150@reddit

The only difference between life and Chess is that in life, you don't stop playing after checkmate.

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hajimoto74@reddit

Your problems are YOUR problems, try not to make them everyone's problem.

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KaetzenOrkester@reddit

Nostalgia is the most pernicious of vices. Don’t let “we’ve always done it that way” or “things were better when I was a kid” hold you back. If it’s not working for you, throw it out with yesterday’s trash.

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StickleFeet@reddit

Old people aren’t stupid and have some points worth listening to. When I got to a certain age, I was fortunate enough to realize my elders actually give good advice and I don’t have to learn everything by fucking it up myself in the first place.

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400footceiling@reddit

True love in a relationship is very hard to find.

Don’t sleep with randos thinking it will lead to love.

When you find love, don’t squander it away.

You have to work hard to make your relationship work.

Don’t cheat.

Saving for retirement is the most important financial thing in life.

Be humble.

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LowCommunication9517@reddit

Don't ask, don't pay (mind your business)

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Jazzlike_Entry_8807@reddit

No one cares about your feelings or politics, if your in a place where you feel they do your reading the situation wrong

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Cultural-Task-1098@reddit

Garbage in / garbage out

That was the first thing we learned when we were introduced to computers. Seems to be a forgotten concept in the digital age. There is too much garbage out there to stay sane.

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phironuthi@reddit

You’re an idiot. You just don’t know it yet

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z44212@reddit

Building wealth takes time.

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RealWolfmeis@reddit

We are each and all alone.

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rellikvmi@reddit

“Life’s hard, it’s even harder when you are stupid.” JW

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gohome2020youredrunk@reddit

People need to earn your trust. It shouldn't be given automatically

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Potential_Lie_1177@reddit

If you are an adult, stop blaming your parents or other adults who were with you when you were a kid. It is pointless, a waste of energy, solves nothing, passive.

I hear about middle age people saying their parents did not teach them how to budget which explains the poor state of their finances. You have been an adult for longer than you were a child, take responsibility for your own actions! Same for healthy eating, exercising, relationships, cleaning, hygiene etc ...

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Common-Ad4308@reddit

Sh!t rolls downhill (re: corporate world). there’s no such thing as corporate loyalty. it’s 50/50 chance you will have a @sshole as a peer or as a superior.

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ScorpioTix@reddit

Life doesn't give a fuck about you.

And maybe not so brutal but absolutely essential and more likely than not instilled into the youth of the world.

YOU WILL DIE. This is a fact. Which is nothingness for all eternity but believe what you want and be tolerant of those who believe otherwise.

Maybe read a few Miss Manners columns too for a bit of social guidance as I never had any growing up. But be kind and tolerant of those who also never had any.

Take care of your teeth, take care of your back, take care of your body, take care of your mind. Cancer isn't going to be cured, life expectancy is going down not up and you are not going to get "free" health care and live to be 200.

Look up serfdom. This will likely be your life but with a modern twist.

Pay yourself first. Save everything you can, build your own social safety net if you can.

Don't buy anything you don't need. Just look at it like do you want to pay rent on this forever and pack it up and move it somewhere else or cry because you have to throw it away because you can't take it your next smaller apartment and no one else wants it.

The house always wins.

Forgive but don't forget.

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ThunderousBandit13@reddit

The world only cares about what it can get from you.

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ZouDave@reddit

You're not special, you're probably not even interesting. Shut the fuck up and do the right thing.

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maddog2271@reddit

Time Is not kind, so enjoy every sandwich.

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JuJu_Wirehead@reddit

Nobody owes you a damn thing.

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Lightningstruckagain@reddit

Your work will not speak for itself. If you want promotions, raises, leadership roles- you have to play the game and do all that shit you hate.

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Jameson-Mc@reddit

Someone has it better and someone has it worse.

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pastramilurker@reddit

An inordinate amount of adults consciously prey on the youth to satisfy all sorts of needs, urges and vices of theirs.

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draggar@reddit

A lot of times who you know is more important than what you know.

I am mentoring some high school students at work now (IT). I spend more time over lifting, ergonomics, and over all good health.

30 years in IT have a way of beating you down, physically and mentally.

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timlav@reddit

Life comes at you pretty fast…

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Another_Cimmerian@reddit

Love is hard and hate is easy but the former is actually worth your effort. Create the community you want to be part of & cherish. To achieve maximum friendship let go of the perception of yourself and present your true self in all forms but especially how you communicate with your friends. In turn they will do the same if they don’t then those people are not worthy of your friendship. If you didn’t learn how to make friends when you were young then it’s really going to be a struggle to do so as you get older.

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Quick-Leopard-183@reddit

Gotta have your own back. In the end there’s no one you can depend on but yourself so make sure you get your shit together

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Crowsfeet12@reddit

Do t be a dick, because, in the end, you will lose everything.

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scooter_orourke@reddit

Life's' not fair. Embrace your uniqueness and stop comparing yourself to everyone else.

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SinxHatesYou@reddit

No one wants to hear you're opinion, they want to hear theirs.

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cawfytawk@reddit

Get over yourselves. You're not that special no matter how many followers you have. Invest in cultivating a soulful spirit and genuine integrity, not just glass skin and a snatched waist. People will come and go but you'll always have to be with yourself, so learn to love yourself inside and out.

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trlong@reddit

No one owes you anything. If you want it, work for it.

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Double_Aught_Squat@reddit

The world doesn't owe you anything, and no one cares. Make the best of it as you can.

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Impressive_Climate83@reddit

https://i.redd.it/g8avwwp0a9se1.gif

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windmill-tilting@reddit

Do not allow anothers' actions to set your moral compass.

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VannKraken@reddit

The things you hope will only happen to other people will eventually happen to you if you live long enough.

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Formal-Ad-9405@reddit

Pride and manners cost nothing, no matter if rich or poor.

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meanteeth71@reddit

Yes, it's true, capitalism does not love you.

If you would like the things you seem to want to enjoy, you either need to figure out a way to participate on your terms or smash it. Complaining to me when you have not completed any of the things I asked is not going to help you.

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TwistedMemories@reddit

You’ll never be able to retire and will work for the elites until the day you die. Even at 100 years of age and crapping and piss on yourself because they won’t let you wear diapers or depends.

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O2BNDAC@reddit

Nothing is free. Sometimes a good deal means paying with a part of your soul on the back end

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geodebug@reddit

Repetition is how social media brainwashes you and the more immune you think you are to it, the more likely you're being effectively programmed.

Question your beliefs often. Verify everything important with multiple sources.

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