ULPT my ex boyfriend who raped me, his new girlfriend, and his brother won’t leave me alone. unethical tips?
Posted by bunnyrots@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 45 comments
for context i was raped 3 times by my ex boyfriend over 8 months ago and i left him. he tried to get back with me for like 2 months. i told him id go to the cops if he didn’t stop. he stopped. then, he got a new girlfriend. she found out he raped me through a mutual friend and texted me saying it’s my fault for getting raped because of my job (i do onlyfans as a side hustle), and that it doesn’t even count because of my job and i’m making all women look bad because she experienced “real rape”.
I blocked her and his entire family. expect on facebook…. because i forgot.
his brother, who he lives with and was IN THE HOUSE while i was getting raped and didn’t do anything texted me asking to “hookup behind his brothers back” and how he always thought i was hot and we should “link up”.
i keep blocking and blocking and im done lol. i am not the bigger person. i’m tired of being walked all over and them laughing and making fun of me to people i know.
gimme some unethical life advice. i’m in desperate need.
huehefner23@reddit
You could put the address of the house on OfferUp and say you’ve got a bunch of leftover copper pipe scraps from a construction job that you need out of your garage. Only requirement is that they can load up and be out by 5:00AM Saturday morning.
The type of people who would show up for this paired with the timing would be a nightmare.
alke-eirene@reddit
Can you elaborate, what type of people would show up for something like this? Got me curious. I’m not from USA, so maybe I’m lacking some insight.
StriperCapital@reddit
Other user is being too euphemistic. Tweakers. Crack and Methheads are known for their propensity to steal copper to sell illicitly for more dope.
alke-eirene@reddit
Ahhh, makes sense. I kind of imagined big grown man, who you wouldn’t want to meet alone in night, so that OP can properly scare her shitty ex. 😀
doombuzz@reddit
Free money brings out opportunists. Usually sketchy ones. Bright and early.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
holy shit. you’re a fucking genius.
Open-Painting-6029@reddit
As a strong Christian dad myself if this happened to my daughter I would completely stick up for her and help. You are afraid to talk to your dad because you’re afraid of what he might do or if you mess up your relationship, but if you don’t tell him then you already weakened that relationship. You are also denying him an opportunity to help you even if it is just through being a support person. Ask him if he can talk to you one on one. Being raped is in no way your fault. It sounds like you may have made some poor choices, but that doesn’t mean you deserved to be raped. The main point of being a Christian is to practice the unconditional love that Jesus gives us. Jesus loves you no matter what and teaches us to do the same to each other. Sometimes people fail because we aren’t God, but there are a lot of great Christians out there who would stand by you and I bet your dad is one of them.
_My_Dark_Passenger_@reddit
Do exactly what you threatened to do. File that police report.
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
This. No need to be unethical here.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
it’s deeper than that, i should’ve added context so ill prob edit the post. i do onlyfans, i know its not popular. he said he’d tell my entire family if i went to the cops. my moms side knows and doesn’t care, my dads side is extremely religious and doesn’t know, and he’d probably never talk to me. i’m 20. i don’t want my dad out of my life because of this. if i go to the police, i lose my dad
Used-Yak-4809@reddit
This girl is most likely lying so that’s why she won’t file a report.. just wants victim status it seems
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
i am not lying lol i have proof
Ok-Library-3622@reddit
What do you mean by proof. Him agreeing with you via text when you accused him of raping you?
You were dating living together.... why did it suddenly turn from consensual unions to rape?
thats what everyones trying to ask . thats the confusion.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
if you read the text he even says that he asked to have sex that night and i said no so he just wanted to “rub against me” and then it “accidentally slipped in.” But that’s not the case. I had to scream for him to stop after saying no and stop several times. I’ve explained this many times. Good god.
Ok-Library-3622@reddit
If you want to make hearfelt posts on reddit you need to make a new account. Regardless of your intention bringing 20k eyes to your profile which is two clicks away from your business where you sell pictures of yourself. People are going to get the wrong idea.
I havent read more than five of your comments i do not have context.
When you screamed for it to stop, did it?
bleave88@reddit
Proof? Was it filmed? Idk how else unless you reported it
OddShare01@reddit
R/foundthetroll
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
Why would your dad believe your rapist over you?
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
me and him dated for 5 years, my dad knows his whole family, and he told his entire family when we broke up. maybe he wouldn’t, i don’t know. it’s also so fresh i still barely like going out of the house because im scared of everyone i come across. i just wish karma would work
Ok-Library-3622@reddit
Hey op, karma does work. It doesnt operate on your timeline. But i can gaurantee he will suffer for any misdeeds and sadistic treatment he gave to you.
He will know your feelings and you will not have to tell him. There is no energy lost in the universe , only repositioned.
Acceptable-Law-7598@reddit
Your family will find out any way. Report him save other women get him the trouble he deserve.
virtualchoirboy@reddit
In the end, I always taught my kids that they should never do anything online they don't want me to see because the Internet is forever.
You have a choice to make. Accept that you will lose your dad's side of the family or lie to people forever. The problem is something that Shakespeare so eloquently wrote in The Merchant of Venice: The truth will out. In other words, eventually, the truth will come out and everyone will know.
And if you accept that they will eventually know, the decisions change, don't they? It becomes a matter of "do I want them to know now or later?" instead of "do I want them to know or not?".
And yes, it will shake up your family relationships. But consider this: once you know that they know, how much easier will things be for you since you won't have to hide what you do anymore?
For now, you're trying to have the best of all worlds and it's a juggling act. Eventually, a ball will drop. It's up to you to decide if you want to be in control of when that ball drops or if you want to let your rapist be in control.
Personally, I'd tell my family, accept the consequences, and use my newfound freedom to go to the police and wreak some truly deserved retribution.
Proper-Writing@reddit
I hope your dad finds it in his judgy little heart to man up and support you. File the police report.
Unethical? Make sure everyone knows your ex’s family had the chance to protect you and chose not to.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
his mom knew the first time and convinced me to forgive him because since i was asleep “it wasn’t technically rape”. maybe you’re right.
Vegetable-Shelter656@reddit
Um excuse me!? “Because you were asleep it technically wasn’t rape!” WTF! Any sexual contact against your consent is rape! If you consent and then withdraw that consent and demand to stop- and a person keeps going, yup, that’s rape too!
Dualipassidepiece@reddit
Good mom, I saw your ig and I would’ve done the same
DreamcatcherDeb@reddit
In this day of cameras everywhere and DNA and fingerprinting it is so hard to do things and get away with it. You’ve already suffered so much - I’d hate to see you suffer further if you get caught doing something. I read that you only have your Dad and sisters as support so I understand you not wanting to damage that relationship. I’d recommend therapy - EMDR is great for resolving trauma. And journaling. It can help to get everything out of your head and down on paper. It’s more manageable than way. Good luck!
Acceptable-Law-7598@reddit
I see your sister want to hang with him. Now you HAVE TO REPORT THE POLICE.
Prometheus_1094@reddit
I would go to a public computer in a library and check the dark web. You can order some pretty nasty stuff to his address
Just make sure you pay with crypto and you don’t log in with anything personal into any account (also that there are no cameras where you are at)
Acceptable-Law-7598@reddit
Report to police. You still within law!
Kreativecolors@reddit
GO TO THE 👮♂️
LengthinessTop8751@reddit
If you have a brother, let him handle it.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
i do have a brother, but he’s only 5 lol. i’m the oldest of 6. i guess i have to take care of this myself🥲. my best friend is a guy and he has been begging to drive down there but i don’t want him to go to jail over some piece of shit like my ex
LengthinessTop8751@reddit
Well… there’s not much the ex can do or say without exposing himself. If he goes to the police after getting his ass beat, his side comes out too. Unlikely he’ll say anything 🤷♂️
bttgly@reddit
My answer is always the same on this sub: bedbugs.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
thank you for finally a actual unethical tip. i’m gonna look into this lol. where do u buy bed bugs
Draigdwi@reddit
You can get roaches in pet shops as spider food.
obelix_dogmatix@reddit
please be careful and don’t get that shit in your car. Rent a car for this?
bttgly@reddit
I would post on my city's or nearby sub and ask if anyone has bedbugs and then ask to talk to them.
forgotmypassword4714@reddit
One problem is you said he's gonna tell your dad about OF if you call the cops on him...So if you do some ULPT revenge on him instead, what's to stop him from also telling your dad in that situation?
Unless you figure out a revenge that he will 100% deem as random chance/not caused by you, maybe you should just call the cops about the rapes instead. Who knows, maybe you could even lie to your dad and say your ex forced you into doing OF.
moonplanetbaby@reddit
These are evil, toxic horrible people. NO MATTER what you do will be justifiable, don't feel one ounce of guilt. Most important file a police report immediately, you need to document everything. Again, it's vitally important to document everything.
Personally, I'm not big on getting revenge because I don't want karma to come back on me, but in your case the seriousness of what they did to you overrides just about everything. Karma DOES happen, but unfortunately just too damn slow.
Regarding your dad, try having a sit down, private talk with him before going to police/cps tell him everything. If he starts to cop a "religious" attitude or be mad at you in any way, remind him how un-Christian he is being, that a real Christian, who is listening the words of Jesus, it taught to have tolerance and compassion. Judgement of any kind is not for him to decide but his God's.
I can't tell you "specifics" here, but I have heard of others stories of what they did and how it worked. DM me for those. Your ex is an extraordinary POS! He and his lowlife girlfriend deserve all the bad and negativity that finds them.
bunnyrots@reddit (OP)
i’ve never met a woman who hated other women so much lol. thank you for this advice, this is the best one i’ve read yet. i really appreciate this validation as i don’t have the best relationship with anyone in my family except my dad and sisters. i don’t even care about the karma anymore, i just wish something would make him feel as shitty as i do. thank you for taking time to comment :)
moonplanetbaby@reddit
Your first sentence kinda made me feel proud! I'm brutally honest, it's the only way I know how to be, and I do hate on other women that are "hateable" and what your ex's girlfriend said about you is unacceptable on SO MANY levels! Who in the holy hell is she to judge you and say "her rape was real" OMG what an ignorant twat!
Don't for one minute let anybody guilt you about OF, you do what you need to, in whatever phase you are in in your life to survive. There is no shame in that. I had a stripper friend enlighten me about the industry as a whole. She explained it's not an exploitation of women at all, they choose to do it, it's an exploitation of men, because if they are so weak, and desperate and have to pay to look, give me the money! And she did make bank.
I friend told me she wanted revenge in the worst way on her ex, so she anonymously got the IRS involved to his alleged fraudulent ways. She didn't give up until the IRS contacted him. She didn't know the complete details of what they said but did find out that once your on the IRS's radar your flagged to audited from that day forward. I'm just saying what I was told.
Ironically same friend wanted to go the "public humiliation" route on her ex, and funniest thing, he got in huge trouble when he got pulled over by the cops, from an anon tipster, that said his car was stolen as well as the non matching plates that somehow were on the car. Trippy huh? Get this, they also found weed and cocaine in the car somewhere that he swore he knew nothing about. Don't know if he was arrested or the ending but it sounds like it made his life miserable and took a long, long time to clear up.
You are the victim in all of this, but your strong and capable person to make it this far, don't give up now!
Dualipassidepiece@reddit
I saw your ig and yea… don’t know how you’d expect us dudes to not respect you, deal with your consequences and move on with your life
ThatKaleidoscope8736@reddit
Dude go to the police