Help: My wife is a music teacher (from home) and one of her (child) students is pooing in our bin - how to word an email to parents?

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intangible-tangerine@reddit

In some countries you're not supposed to flush toilet paper, people put it in the bin instead. Possible that this child was taught this rule and is confused and thinks the poo goes in the bin.

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Ybuzz@reddit

Maybe a little kid friendly sign like this on the back of the loo or the wall above it would be helpful? And one on the bin couldn't hurt saying what goes in there too.

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buford419@reddit

Why is the shit always so fucking happy in these depictions?

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They're either too young to understand how to use toilets properly (or according to some have never seen a toilet and can't speak English) so can't really read or doing it for some other reason than not knowing. It can't harm but probably not the answer.

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Ybuzz@reddit

I mean the family may not speak much English but the child speaks enough to do lessons with OPs wife. I'm assuming they know how toilets work and aren't all that young given, again, doing music lessons and going unaccompanied to the loo - so I am thinking probably just from a country where plumbing is dodgy and you only flush liquids. Some countries you do just have a bin next to the loo for solids/paper.

I find it absolutely bizarre that someone would be here from anywhere in the world and be civilised enough to send their kid to play the piano, and yet their kid is unable to deposit their shite into a toilet.

I understand other countries have other customs around shitting due to poor sewage systems etc., but this just seems so odd.

I'd probably just speak to the parents and ask them to tell their kid to stop shitting in the bin like a fucking animal.

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palindromedev@reddit

Wife just needs to write a song called "Please stop shitting in the bin" and have the child make it their focus for the rest of the month during lessons.

"Hi,

No bin shitting.

"Dear parents

We have recently had issues with students defecating (pooing) outside of the toilet facilities.

If your child needs to relieve themselves while in our home, they are free to use our toilet and do not need to be shy about asking to do so. Please let your child know that they are welcome to use the toilet in our home if they need to. Many thanks."

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rinkydinkmink@reddit

this is probably far too complicated for parents whose first language is not English, and I am assuming that this isn't a psychological problem the child has, rather that perhaps they have moved from somewhere where toilets aren't a thing, and they don't know what to do?

A great deal depends on the age of the child, and how long they have been in the UK.

OP you do need to have a quiet word with the parents. Be a grown-up about it. It's poo not nuclear waste. And parents are used to talking about poo. If the parents don't seem to care or understand, then perhaps speak directly to the child and keep it really simple "when need the loo, it goes in the toilet, yeah?" Don't be judgemental or scold them, and keep it very matter of fact and pretend that it's no more of a big deal than telling someone where the sugar is.

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Yep all of the Greek islands have the bin for toilet paper. The sewer systems can't cope with it.

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jael001@reddit

yeah in Zante you had to put the toilet roll in the bin. I hated it.

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Danmoz81@reddit

Same in Cyprus. No paper down the toilet.

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Taken_Abroad_Book@reddit

Now we're getting to it.

DannyBrownsDoritos@reddit

Distinctly remember seeing signs in a bar in Veliko Tarnovo and a hostel in Plovdiv, dunno what to say.

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Taken_Abroad_Book@reddit

Lmao a shitty bar in a town with more brits than Bulgarians it makes sense given what we do with drink on board.

And a hostel. Yeah, must have been a great one.

That being said, plovdiv is great.

Are there signs across Bulgaria in toilets adivising tourists not to do this? Also yes.

This is the lie. The closest would be the signs on the bogs on the motorway services in Turkish saying not to squat and put rubbish down the bog.

Absolutely not for bog roll.

Such an odd, and easily verifiable lie.

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DannyBrownsDoritos@reddit

Such an odd, and easily verifiable lie.

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Mean_Swordfish_5732@reddit

I live with a Chinese student (who’s no longer a student but faked it to get into my house, avoid council tax and stay in the country illegally but that’s another story) and he has shat on the floor so many times and was shitting in bags to then bring to the bathroom when he first moved in

My first year uni accom had the same problem where they had to send out emails for the Chinese students over a variety of issues including shitting in bags and getting it on the floor/leaving it in the bin room

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Opening_Succotash_95@reddit

I wouldn't be certain - I recall a lot of stories a few years back about Chinese tourists shitting in the aisle on planes etc. reason being that some people went very quickly from traditional rural peasants to making enough money to living in a city and flying to Europe/USA. They never learned certain things in between.

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WrackspurtsNargles@reddit

They aren't fucking neanderthals. Sounds like some racist propaganda to me. You can't seriously think that's true.

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Anywhere_everywhere7@reddit

Do you actually believe that? They will have seen signs in the airport for toilets. But let’s say your story is true, even “rural peasants” don’t shit in front of everyone, so if a person wanted to use the toilet they would just ask the cabin crew, they won’t just pull down their pants and shit in front of everyone because they’re from a rural place.

I have been to toilets in very rural Asia (not China) and they’re still private.

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Renfieldslament@reddit

It may surprise you. I travelled for work to Mumbai in a super fancy office.

In the cubicle was a laminated sign explaining how to sit on the toilet, and how to flush it.

It was many years ago, but if I remember correctly one of the ‘do not’ graphics had a picture of someone sitting on the cistern and taking aim from a great height.

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SeduLOUs1984@reddit

I KNEW this picture I took would come in handy someday!

Arhh yes, the viscous cycle of poo.

Its not because people dont know what a toilet it. It is because of squad toilets, which are the norm in a lot of countries and probably also in India.

I agree with you but also my flat mate at uni was a piano and singing teacher and a lot of Asian immigrants would send their children to her to be taught one or the other but would do similar things to the child in OPs post.

Learning piano is quite literally a priority to these parents for whatever reason

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McLeod3577@reddit

We had a Turkish student stay with us- now this guy was late 20's but when he first arrived, he had no idea how to use a sit down loo (this was 30 years ago).

He was a nice guy, but definitely had some kind of neanderthal genes.

My mum and dad actually had to teach him. They only had squat loos at home.

this is probably far too complicated for parents whose first language is not English

They might not speak English, but translating languages on electronic devices isnt a problem in 2025.

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CrystalLettuce7349@reddit

If they don’t speak and read English, how can they afford piano lessons? and how did they come to the UK without good knowledge of English, to begin with?

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

Some of these scenarios are insane, a whole family who doesn't speak English apparently living in some place in the UK that doesn't have its own toilet, and has never been to school, yet they're signing up their kid for piano lessons. Lol.

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SensibleChapess@reddit

Hi, I've worked at a place that sells the full range of furniture. The sort of place you can turn up and basically fit your whole home out, (it's independant, so I'm sorry but I don't want to name it... all I'll say is it's in Kent).

One day I wasn't in, so I missed it happening, but the owner found a human turd in the middle of one of the sofa aisles. They looked on the CCTV and it turned out a family had been browsing, (two parents and two teen kids), when the eldest boy, probably about 15 or 16, simply dropped his trousers, crouched down and did a poo. The rest of the family did no more than look across at him and carried on nonchalantly browsing.

The poo was done within clear line-of-sight of the sign and the door to the loos. They didn't rush to leave the shop, they apparently just carried on looking around. Presumably that means they had no clue what they'd done wasn't 'normal' in the UK.

So, I guess it's a cultural thing and they simply had no experience of shops having public toilets. Maybe they are used to a 'lower class' of people who, in their culture, 'expect' to go around cleaning human poo up? I really don't know.

Note: By coincidence, and interestingly, the shop does also have a few pianos for sale!!!

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

There is nowhere that it's culturally acceptable to poo in the middle of shops. And if there was the people wouldn't be browsing furniture shops in the UK (or taking piano lessons). More like a kid with special needs and they didn't know how to handle it.

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Mean_Swordfish_5732@reddit

Public pooing is definitely normal in a lot of places because it happens in Liverpool, I’ve seen it twice. Once outside a parking lot and once outside a uni building.

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

Maybe it's normal outside in Liverpool, not in most places in the UK. Or maybe those people got caught short and couldn't wait?

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SensibleChapess@reddit

On Reddit a few days ago, in the r/maps sub, (I think), someone posted a map of the world where 'public pooing' was the standard, instead of pooing in private.

Personally, I think pooing in front of your family and neighbours is far weirder to get my head round than someone thinking it's 'correct' to poo in a bin next to a loo, than the loo itself.

Maybe the kid in OP's post came from culture where bins are used and collected at the end of the day? Indeed, I think homes in Greenland, (with cars, heating, mobile phones, internet, etc.), use the 'poo in a box' solution instead of flushing toilets. There it is simply because the ground is too frozen to make it worthwhile laying pipework, plus any underground sewers would in any case freeze up. Trucks drive around the towns in Greenland every few days picking up the boxes and taking them away... I saw a program about it on the TV!

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

In public maybe, in the middle of a shop no. And if the whole family is buying furniture in the UK they know it's not acceptable there. And in Greenland maybe, but again if they get as far as moving to the UK they know it's not done there.

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Danglyweed@reddit

Really?

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Gauntlets28@reddit

"When we need the loo, it goes in the toilet, yeah?"

*Poos in bin, chucks bin in toilet*

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FlapjackAndFuckers@reddit

They can play piano but don't know what a toilet is??? Gtfo😅

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Deviant-Oreo@reddit

The true answer right here.

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namegame62@reddit

Wondered the same about the toilet sitch, given OP went out of his way to mention the parents were immigrants, but honestly I am really scratching my head over which nations on earth a) commonly use drop toilets and b) have many expat parents whose 1st and major priority on immigrating to the UK is to pay for pricey private piano lessons before familiarising their kid with the new flushing loo? Not an expert, but the Venn diagram seems small... y'know?

If he'd said "the bathroom floor is constantly wet, I think when the kid is washing his bum he's splashing it everywhere", that's one thing. Gotta bring your own lota pot to the white people house! Legit cultural toilet-habit difference for some kids to learn! This is not that.

(Mayyyybe the family previously grew up somewhere the plumbing can't handle solids? But even that's a minor stretch.)

I'd place a bet more on one kid being shook by the move and the piano tutoring pressure, and this is a weird massive-constipated-shit trauma response.

Either way, straightforward is the way to go. Direct to kid and/or parents. Explain situation. Outline solution, using your type of casual phrasing.

Or: demonstrate toilet use. Walk the kid to the bathroom and be like "Oh, I know the plumbing can be a bit tricky in an old house/newbuild flat/custom built bathroom setup/ like this... so anyway this is the toilet seat, that's the trick to lift up the heavy toilet lid, that's where the flush is, and you just need to press/pull that after all the poo and solid waste goes inside the toilet bowl, yeah? Just close the lid afterwards if the flush isn't strong enough, it's fine." The kid who's done it will probably twig one way or the other and won't do it again.

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eventworker@reddit

honestly I am really scratching my head over which nations on earth a) commonly use drop toilets and b) have many expat parents whose 1st and major priority on immigrating to the UK is to pay for pricey private piano lessons before familiarising their kid with the new flushing loo?

India all the way. Lots of flush toilets installed in areas where the sewage system can't handle them but having one is an upper middle class class marking, even if you still have to throw the shit rags in the bin.

Parents don't bother telling kids when they move to the west that you can throw TP down the new toilet, because to them that change is extremely minor and barely registers, in their mind they 'shit European' anyway, because they use a flush loo.

It could also be a rural Aussie kid taking the 'only put the shit rags down the bog at home' far more literally than intended, but I doubt their parents would be going straight to private piano lessons right off the boat.

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EdgeCityRed@reddit

It's like this on Crete. Toilet paper goes in the bin because the old pipes can't handle it.

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Flat_Fault_7802@reddit

Clever enough to play the piano but dosent know how to take a shit properly no paper either.

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maelie@reddit

Neither playing the piano nor pooing in a toilet requires particular intelligence. Both require understanding what you're supposed to do. It's hard to wrap your head around the fact that someone might not know how to use a toilet because we have them in pretty much every single home in the UK and our children are exposed to seeing them used early in life, but that's not the case everywhere.

But this kid isn't using the toilet wrong, they're just not using it.

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maelie@reddit

If you don't know how to use a toilet, or can't use it, it's completely plausible that you just wouldn't use it. Especially if you're a child. It's possible they don't even know that they're supposed to use it. Some other parts of the world don't have toilets that resemble ours at all.

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these parents are spending a fortune

How do you know that? And what relevance is it anyway?

they don't let them into the bathroom at home and what? Send them to go out in the garden?

What? They might have a different setup at home, like a potty, or steps and a child seat for the loo.

some kind of super child who can sit through a whole school day without going near the toilet

There may be bins at the school they use too! Or if they're in infants, smaller toilets suitable for littler kids.

The children still in nappies at school are the result of neglect

I don't believe that to be true in all cases. Bad parenting maybe but not neglect. But anyway I was just using this as a point of comparison, not saying it's the same context.

Imagine if OP send them an email explaining what a toilet is, that could be very offensive

I'm not suggesting they write to the parents to explain what a toilet is.

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

I didn't say the child wouldn't struggle, my point was precisely that we and OP shouldn't assume that the reason for the struggle is being foreign. As you said at home they might have a special seat or whatever and smaller toilets at school (I'd be very surprised if a child old enough for piano lessons had a potty). None of that is the same as not knowing what a toilet is and never having seen one as you claimed.

Private piano lessons are an expensive luxury, parents who are conscientious enough to sign their child up to that and willing to spend the money will have taken the time to potty train their child and teach them basic social niceties. Presumably the child already speaks English so they've either taken the time to teach them or they've been in the country for a while. And honestly, toilets are a thing everywhere, in some places they have squat toilets true, but that's a toilet. The kind of people who move to the UK and sign their kids up for piano have toilets.

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maelie@reddit

None of that is the same as not knowing what a toilet is and never having seen one as you claimed.

That's actually not what I claimed at all though. My original reply was: "If you don't know how to use a toilet, or can't use it, it's completely plausible that you just wouldn't use it. Especially if you're a child. It's possible they don't even know that they're supposed to use it. Some other parts of the world don't have toilets that resemble ours at all."

I said can't use it, or possibly might not even know they're supposed to. I've since explained why I still think that's plausible, but I didn't suggest it was the only option and certainly didn't say that the child would never have seen a toilet before.

Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

Ok, it's not completely impossible, but I'd be surprised at a multilingual piano teacher calling anyone "non natives". And that anyone using such language would participate in some kind of government scheme to send recent immigrant children to piano classes with private teachers. Because honestly, that would be crazy, it's just not something that happens. Especially before a child has had the opportunity to attend school where there are plenty of toilets. There are also toilets in airports, stations and in whatever accommodation these children are living in now. Unless you're suggesting they're transported from a remote tribal life with no modern conveniences straight to OP's house. There are no entire countries that don't have toilets anyway, and to leave the country and enter a new one they'll go places with toilets

Yes, kids go to primary school without knowing English, because the very first thing they do normally is go to school. Being enrolled in piano lessons before school would just be plain weird.

A little kid being anxious or scared of something jumping up or even scared of falling down the toilet is much more likely. Maybe they normally only go to small children's toilets at school and have a special seat at home. And when out their parents accompany them. My kid was scared to go toilets other than home and school for ages. And she wasn't a kid who'd been uprooted from their home to move countries.

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wandering_salad@reddit

Technically, the bin in the toilet space is part of "the toilet facilities". People struggling to adjust to UK customs will probably struggle with the language so will not get the message this way.

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lunaj1999@reddit

This is a good. I’d also put up a sign in your bathroom, it shouldn’t be necessary but I guess it is.

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DennisTheConvict@reddit

P.s. the bins are off limits!

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ComradeKeira@reddit

Hi Parent of Child,

You pay me for music training not toilet training. Each time you child fails to shit in the toilet is an additional £**** (insert acceptable amount) I will be required to charge you.

Sincerely

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Funny_Foundation_980@reddit

Subject: Gentle Reminder: Bathroom Etiquette

Dear Parents,

I hope you are doing well. I wanted to reach out regarding a small but important matter that has come to our attention.

We have noticed that solid human waste has been placed in the bathroom bin instead of the toilet. To maintain proper hygiene, we kindly ask that all students use the toilet for this purpose and flush after use. The small bin provided is for paper waste only.

We understand that bathroom practices may vary across different households, and we appreciate your support in ensuring all children are aware of local expectations. If your child requires any guidance, please let us know so we can assist them.

This is not acceptable behaviour. All human waste, liquid or solid must go into the toilet itself and be flushed away with water.

Please ensure that your child understands that their behaviour was not acceptable and that it insulted us and our home.

If they place turds in the bin a second time, they will no longer be allowed to come to this house and their lessons will be cancelled.

Yours sincerely

Your logic doesn't make sense.

It's racist to assume and call someone filthy just because their 'non-native'. Just because some countries don't have the same plumbing, it doesn't mean they leave shit in the waste bin. This is an individual

And BTW, I grew up with squat toilets and bidets. We never littered or spat on the street. We also don't have people drinking to such an extent.

We also had to introduce fines for public indecency because of British tourists vomiting and pissing in the street, and getting naked in the middle of the town, in broad daylight.

So should all other countries assume that British people are all filthy because of that? That would be racist, wouldn't it?

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Why not just say you don’t want to teach them anymore?

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orangecatginny@reddit

Face-to-face conversation:

"Just to let you know, _____ did a poo in the bin last time they were here. Please can you have a word with them about it so they use the toilet appropriately next time."

Doesn't need to be a big deal.

Going forward, I would definitely be checking this child has washed their hands with soap before touching the piano.

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RutabagaElegant3215@reddit

As a parent living in an area with great diversity, I agree with you. When English is not the family first language / culture, it's better to be direct and talking about it face to face to make sure they understand. In some cultures, directly pointing out what happened is their social norm.

Yes - re the hand washing part too.

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Downdownbytheriver@reddit

There is “diversity” and “culture” and then there is just plain uncivilised.

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flamboyantpuree@reddit

A lot (all?) UK universities that I've visited have signs in their toilets like this one as they have a lot of foreign students not used to western toilets. Does it work? No idea. But maybe a similar sign could help.

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justhisguy-youknow@reddit

There was a hellscape at college week 1, the urinals were used.

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mlloyllo@reddit

Just replace the first image with a bin and you’re golden.

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ThrowRAMomVsGF@reddit

ChatGPT came up with this:

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BibbleBeans@reddit

From my experience they don’t. There was even a multilingual sign about the location of squat toilets.

The main issue was the repeated damage to the toilet seats, only one time did I witness a mess.

london-plane@reddit

It’s the natural position. My toddler is being potty trained but will naturally squat to poo. It’s a learning curve to sit instead.

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17HappyWombats@reddit

You can even buy squatting frames for a western toilet. Or make your own if you're at all handy (then sand them smooth and paint them thoroughly because the frame will be in a wet environment). My composting toilet is a few cm higher than the alternative and I was shocked at how much difference that made. But once I made a little footrest for it I thought about squatting and it was easy enough to make a taller platform, try it, decide it was worth while, and make it a permanent feature in the toilet (it's still easy to use the toilet without squatting)

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Isgortio@reddit

Until you slip on the wet ceramic. I saw too many overly wet squat toilets in Uganda :(

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miaow-fish@reddit

My last workplace had one. A large ecom warehouse in the east midlands.

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Cat-Soap-Bar@reddit

Yep!

Madame Treble Clef

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FanWeekly259@reddit

You’re regrettably Madame Treble Clef

Why is it so regrettable that they are Mme TC?

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Icy-Tear4613@reddit

"Dear *"

tkylivin@reddit

Absolutely insane we have these savages being ushered into the country.

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Beobacher@reddit

Show them how to use the toilet. Explain it.

Seriously, in some countries flush toilets are completely unknown. I traveled China and Russia outside of the bog cities. They have the outhouse. Similar in some regions in Africa. Just politely explain how a flush toilet works. And ask them to please use it.

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SnooSquirrels8508@reddit

Photos of it isn't real.

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No_Pineapple9166@reddit

If you don’t know which child it is, I wouldn’t send an email to all parents. Firstly, nobody wants to be wrongly accused of something like that. Secondly, nobody wants to pay for piano lessons at shit-bin house.

The email should have an easily understandable subject title and concise body.

Subject Bin poo

Body

Picture 1: You or your wife sitting on a toilet taking a shit with a big green tick next to it.

Picture 2: You or your wife shitting into the £5 ikea bin with a big red cross next to it.

— If you want to jazz it up abit, you could experiment with gifs. It’s abit more effort though.

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Enough-Variety-8468@reddit

Your kid is shitting in our bin

We can't allow them to continue lessons unless this is addressed

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Adventurous_Chart135@reddit

2 signs in bathroom, in front of toilet where you can see them when you sit.

1ST- Picture of toilet with poop, (preferably cartoonish)

2ND- Picture of bin with poop, circled with a slash through it.

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dcminx96@reddit

"non-native" you sure this actually happened and isn't just a racist dog whistle

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English_Joe@reddit (OP)

How would you describe someone not born in the UK?

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tszewski@reddit

"non-native" lmao

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Please ask your child not to shit in our bin, kind regards.

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Fit_Lifeguard_3722@reddit

Bag it before you bin it. We have standards.

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difficult_Person_666@reddit

Get a litter tray /s

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DrachenDad@reddit

The pick the child up? Make them clean after their child.

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How long does a population have to have been there to be counted as native?

Take it back far enough, and only people living in the part of Sub-Saharan Africa where humans first evolved (e.g. Botswana) could be considered native.

There's evidence of humans living in the UK from about 44,000 years ago.

There's amateur genealogists on both sides of my family and I'm not aware of any immigration amongst my direct ancestors. One did an Ancestry DNA test and came back 100% British. In places my ancestors have been traced back to generations of agricultural labourers who were born, lived, and died in the same corner of the west country.

I don't see this is something to be either proud of or ashamed of, though it is a little boring. It just is what it is.

How many generations do you have to be in one place before you're considered native?

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commanderquill@reddit

Your question was probably rhetorical, but tbh I'd probably say if your family was in a place before record keeping, you're native to that place. But I'm American and my idea of "native", as well as nationality, is a bit different.

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PetersMapProject@reddit

Not a rhetorical question, though I'm still interested to hear from /u/oudcedar on the topic.

If we're counting people who've been in the same area as far back as genealogical records go (which in the UK, is usually around 1600 as that's how far parish records go back, though sometimes longer if your family were nobles or landowners - then you might get back to the Domesday Book of 1086) then we have a great many native Britons. If you're a white American, you can always certainly trace your ancestry back to the point where your family arrived in the US. For people in the UK, it's usually just a case of records petering out about 400 years ago.

But I think the sense of time in the US, compared to the UK, is different - a church that's a thousand years old is unremarkable, for example, and there's plenty of clear evidence of the Romans being here 1600-2000 years ago. There's just a lot more very visible history around.

This means, of course, that if you believe anyone with Roman blood isn't native (unlike someone who's solely Celtic) then you'd have absolutely no way of proving who's who.

Of course, unlike Native Americans and Aboriginal Australians, we haven't suffered an invasion of another people and culture that took over (we were last successfully invaded in 1066) - which makes a distinction between native and non native much starker and more important. There's also a nasty tendency amongst some on the right to suggest that they're fighting for 'indigenous Britons' - and you know that's always going to be followed by something horrifically racist.

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commanderquill@reddit

Mammoth-Ad-562@reddit

Increase the price by £5 per lesson and give away a free bin to take home with each one

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WeveGotBillySharp@reddit

Was it the kid that took a shit in the Hillsborough centre spot?

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Educational_Fun_3752@reddit

Dear........

Please can you make sure your child has had a shit BEFORE coming over for their music lesson.

Thank you

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The only answer is to write a song about shitting in the bin and make the child learn it and preform to the parents at recital

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Otherwise_Cut_8542@reddit

Well now I’m wondering if it is a direct deposit situation or someone unloading what they have previously unloaded in their underwear.

Either way, I would just remove any replacement bin before lessons and see if that resolves it. If you start getting deposits elsewhere then you will have to brave the emails but for now I would try avoidance instead!

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English_Joe@reddit (OP)

I wondered this too.

The poo in question was also massive and frankly quite square. Like a wombat.

Like someone emptied a tin of corned beef in the bin.

I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP.

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ellenripleyisanicon@reddit

What in the corned beef square poop is happening in this child's digestive tract

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Twacey84@reddit

Sounds like the kid may have some anxiety related toilet issues. Some kids hold onto it for ages due to anxiety and it can cause all sorts of problems like constipation and incontinence. Kids also don’t think logically so that’s probably why it ended up in the bin.

EUGH

Is the noise you just elicited from me at that description

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arenaross@reddit

Non native?

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English_Joe@reddit (OP)

New to this country. English isn’t their first language.

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arenaross@reddit

Why was that relevant to the issue described in the OP?

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Twinkubusz@reddit

1: potentially explains why their child wasn't familiar with using a toilet

2: highlights that it nay not be easy to communicate the issue with the parents

Used to work in a building where we let a bunch of space to Shell. Highly paid people on this floor. Kept getting toilet seats broken several times a week and couldn't realise why. Most guys there were skinny so not their weight.

Then realised most of the floor were Indian and this was the first time working in the UK. They would stand and squat on the seats.

Even signage was ignored!

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Lt_Muffintoes@reddit

Consider that someone who shits in a bin probably doesn't have great hand hygiene.

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Financial-Couple-836@reddit

I wonder if they were learning to play Cher Lloyd by Cher Lloyd on the piano and that’s why it happened

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MarlaSaysSlide@reddit

We had a phantom shitter at my old workplace, they would do it ON the seat or sometimes on the floor. One day I went in the bathroom and discovered the latest crime, so I went back to my desk and emailed everyone to say it had happened again, asked whoever had shat on the floor to have a word with themselves/clear it up, and linked that video. What I didn't know was that the video I'd chosen (I just youtubed it) was some kind of jump scare thing and the "DISGUSTANG" was so loud it was distorted. Cue an entire office-sized chorus of insanely loud DISGUSTANG DISGUSTANG DISGUSTANG spreading like a mexican wave

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Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit

Omg 😲 😱

And what did we learn? Never trust YouTube (and watch clips through before forwarding...)

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TheColdWind@reddit

I worked in a factory in Providence RI with a bathroom sign telling people to stop putting used tp in the waste basket. Some of the folks working there were from places where it was a common practice due to inadequate plumbing. This is NOT that.

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Gammabrunta@reddit

Are you sure it's not just the dirty tissues? I know a few countries you would put the dirty tissues in a bin instead of flushing.

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examingmisadventures@reddit

There was a kid taking piano Whose bog use was a bit of a faux, In the bin he would poo Instead of the loo Flushing didn’t really work though.

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what kinda person is flushing a plastic cup down the toilet?

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wildcharmander1992@reddit

Send as a typed up letter.

STOP what you're doing as this email involves YOUR CHILD.

If you would like your child to be great at his instrument FROM being SHIT at it, he needs to be IN lessons promptly each day. If you are ever running late call as we will always be IN OUR home.

If this doesn't concern you feel free to recycle this letter in your BIN

before you do please re read but just the words in full caps.

He sit's and he's shitting next to me

In to my Ikea bin

He says 'bossmang can you play me a melody

I'm not really sure how it goes

But it's bad and it's sweet and I knew I'd complete'

As we sat there holding our nose.

Put up with this pong, you're the piano man

Put up with this pong tonight.

You'll get a new bin on the morrow

SensibleChapess@reddit

You only have your wife's word that it's the new kid.

This obviously isn't acceptable behaviour so would you be kind enough to speak to him about this and ask him not to do it again in future, please. Let's take 5 minutes ourselves to discuss the next time you drop him off for a lesson as well.

Many thanks,

Angelina the Piano Teacher

Do not send a "dear parents" email to everyone. Just send a personalised email, as above, to the parent(s) of the child causing the issue.

Don't overthink it, and don't dance around the problem: just play it straight, like I've said.

When the parents bring the kid over for their next lesson, reiterate that the behaviour is unacceptable, and outline what the consequences will be if it continues (e.g., the kid won't be able to have lessons with you going forward, or whatever you decide is appropriate).

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blackleydynamo@reddit

I'm sure this used to be a song;

Might have to take him for a trip to the farm...

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AmbitiousSpread9061@reddit

Poobin actually sounds like it could be a legit Indian name 🤣

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mmmkarmabacon@reddit

Check the bathroom for bin poops after every student uses it.
Figure out which student is pooping in your bin.
Explain to said student how the toilet works.

Why send an email to anyone?

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Erizohedgehog@reddit

I’d just sack off giving lessons to the sneaky bin pooer

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NoVermicelli3192@reddit

Talk to them not email. Be nice.

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Unhappy-Equipment-64@reddit

would not be able to keep a straight face

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PaddyPenguin@reddit

I don't understand - surely it's quite easy for your wife to work out who the culprit is and explain (or show them if necessary) how to use the toilet?

Stick this on your bin, or remove it altogether

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Toastinho@reddit

I think a crudely drawn diagram with a big red x next to the bin and a big green tick next to the toilet.

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officialslacker@reddit

It has recently been brought to our attention that some of our students may be unaware of the typical customs regarding use of toilet-usage in this country. We would appreciate all parents to whom this might apply speaking with their children to provide guidance on proper etiquette, and reminding them not to use the waste paper bin beside the toilet for anything except facial tissues and small items of rubbish.

Thank you so much!”

There. Fixed it for ya.

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dmmeurpotatoes@reddit

"Dear Parents, Kid is progressing nicely in lessons and seems to be enjoying (piece of music). Please let him know that body waste (wee and poo) and toilet paper go into the toilet and are flushed away, and bins are for sanitary waste (wet wipes etc).

Hope that this resolves his confusion and we won't have to address this again.

Many thanks,

Redditor".

The kindest thing is to address it directly, do it in writing so that any confusion or language barrier problems can be looked up by the parents at their convenience, and then drop it unless it's a problem again.

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Feggy@reddit

Subject: Bathroom Etiquette - A Flushing Concern 🚽

Dear [Parent's Name],

I hope you are all doing well and enjoying some harmonious moments with Kevin’s music practice! 🎶 I wanted to share a little chuckle and address a minor issue we've encountered during our lessons.

It appears that Kevin has been "missing the mark" in the bathroom, opting to use the bin for their, ahem, waste instead of the toilet. While I'm sure this is just a funny misunderstanding, I think it's time for us to orchestrate a "toilet training duet."

Could you kindly have a chat with Kevin about using the toilet for its intended purpose? It would help ensure a more comfortable and hygienic environment for everyone. After all, we wouldn't want this to become a recurring "movement"! 😂

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. Let’s keep the humour flowing and the music playing!

Best regards,

Your Friendly Neighbourhood Pooperintendent 💩🎵

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RestaurantAntique497@reddit

I wouldn't even send an email out to everyone if you know who it is. Just directly tell them you're not going to give that child lessons because of their behaviour.

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

Little children frequently do things they know they shouldn't. Mine once had an accident at an after school class when little, she was fine at home and at school because she knew the toilets and what to do and could call for help if needed.

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RestaurantAntique497@reddit

If it keeps happening it's not an accident

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Serious_Escape_5438@reddit

Oh I'm not saying this is an accident. But they also probably know they shouldn't do it and still do, almost certainly not out of malicious intent, but some kind of anxiety or phobia.

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DefinitelyNotEmu@reddit

making this SHIT up.

Subject: Request About Bathroom Use

Dear [Parent's Name],

I hope you are well.

I am writing to kindly ask for your help with something regarding the bathroom during piano lessons. We have noticed that some students have been putting poo in the small bin next to the toilet. This bin is only for non-paper items, like empty cardboard tubes, and is not meant for this.

Could you please remind your child to use the toilet for all bathroom needs, and to use toilet paper if necessary? We want to keep the bathroom clean and comfortable for everyone.

Thank you very much for your understanding and cooperation. Please let me know if you have any questions.

* A place I used to work at had these signs in all the toilets.

We bought toilet seats in bulk because we had to replace so many each week, these signs reduced the amount of toilets seats broken to less than 1 a month

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English_Joe@reddit (OP)

But they are and it’s custom in some countries.

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MunkeeseeMonkeydoo@reddit

Now then shitty arse, go the toilet before we start.

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