Aging Out Of Dallas? | TheaterFire

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spicyredacted@reddit

You should try getting a hobby. Spend your time doing something you like instead of going to the club or bars.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

You can read any other response on here and see that I already said that I have several hobbies and several other things with my life other than going to the bar. Multitask and be multifaceted.

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MissMacInTX@reddit

BYOB? A flask to flavor your coffee or tea or soft drink? Or have a drink at home before going out…but getting stupid drunk and doing the walk of shame next day is OUT

Good music still at the Factory…previously The Bomb Factory.

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IAmNotAVacuum@reddit

INFO: what part of town are you in? (Not your address, obviously. I’m not a creep. But like, do you consider Allen to be Dallas?)

I live downtown and go out frequently and basically expect to see the same people. There are a lot of commenters with solid input. But I truly believe a lot of this has to do with where you live. Downtown, it’s easy to go out. We just walk everywhere. If you live in any area 2 miles outside of my neighborhood it probably involves driving and coordinating with someone. All of these are easy deterrents to enjoying the nightlife on a regular basis.

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nomadschomad@reddit

When you’re going to other cities… Aren’t you going there specifically to hang out with people who are going out that weekend?

I don’t think other cities are much different, except maybe NYC in Miami. I think it’s just about your specific group of friends and timing.

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shattersquad710@reddit

Somewhat this, mostly due to everything being so god damn expensive.

Hard to have fun when a simple grocery trip for a couple bags goes for around $100.

Add to it that everyone currently in their 30s-40s has had the goal post moved every other year since we’ve been adults.

Societal burnout is huge right now.

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Key-Lecture-678@reddit

No. Public got uncomfortable cuz half the damn country flooded into dallas like roaches for no discernible reason. Prob cuz this metro stinks.

Its all cuz biden dropped money into these morans' bank accnts. They wouldnt have been able to sfford it otherwise.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

this is… an insane take.

Funny how MAGA blames stimulus on Biden when it (supposedly) resulted in things they don't like, but it was all Trump when November rolled around.

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Thrice_the_Milk@reddit

Deep Ellum is a shell of what it used to be… it’s been gentrified in such a depressing and unrecognizable way.

WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

I think you’re speaking for yourself. When I commented what I commented, I was speaking for the people that I know. The people that I know moved away and still tried to go out for some time. And as time passed, it was just harder and harder with traffic and all that and still say they want to go out, it’s just inconvenient

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I can agree with parts of that. I went to a pretty big university and my friends that live elsewhere it hasn’t gotten repetitive for them so I find myself traveling a lot to do stuff with them versus staying here. It might just be the culture and not really a true “age” thing is what I was trying to point out with this post. I think it’s very hard for Dallas people to be objective about their culture sometimes.

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tauzeta@reddit

I think what you're finding is a greater % of the population in Dallas, and Texas at-large, start settling down in their late 20s to start families, focus on career, etc than do in certain other cities. It it's both a cultural and age thing.

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sarahkazz@reddit

Usually what happens is they get a boyfriend/girlfriend and they don’t really prioritize still spending time with their social circles

Just 5 years ago things were drastically cheaper. My apartment in lakewood back then was 2 bedrooms 1050 sq ft. and $1100 a month. My last apartment in Dallas, in the same neighborhood, was almost $1700 for a 550 SQ Ft one bed (that same apartment was $1025 when I moved induring spring of 2021 and hit $1700 during my last renewal in 2024).

Drinks, dinner, and a show in Deep Ellum or lower Greenville would run $100-150. Now that exact same night is closer to $200-300.

Just because people used to go out more doesn't mean they've aged out. They're simply doing it less because everything cost significantly more.

On top of that, being 28 years old, you're an elder Gen Z. A generation that has shown little interest in the typical nightlife activities you mentioned and who do not drink anywhere near as much as previous generations.

Inwood Tavern

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xoxo_angelica@reddit

I don’t drink anymore, but to say the least, it was my favorite pastime throughout my twenties. If you’re interested in some actual bar recommendations for your (and my) age group, these were my go to’s for a more “normal”, non-uppity vibe that weren’t filled with baby yuppies -

-Cosmos is NUMBER ONE -Lakewood landing -Twilight lounge -Kings X (this is a private club, it’s VERY weird, and shoddy, and I probably shouldn’t even put it out there, but it’s fucking badass if you’re into the grungy divey shit like me and you’ll get the strongest drinks of your life for like $4 lol) - uptown pub is the only bar in uptown I frequented, I won’t rave about it or hype it up, but I like it for some reason lol - balcony club and Louie’s for live music jazz bar situation - mikes Gemini - lee Harvey’s - double wide - Charlie’s star lounge - one nostalgia

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Creative_Equivalent8@reddit

I go to cigar international , chocolate secrets, all types of poetry nights, all types of karaoke nights, salsa nights, and any type of live music I can find. Also like to go to the Rodeo

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Lady_DreadStar@reddit

The Rave/EDM scene in DFW in general is packed with 30-40 yr olds.

Here, we’re broken toys. In NYC, normal or no one cares.

Yup. Been to Cali, Colorado, and Vegas. Tried it all. I'll take what I can get, and I'm satisfied with what I have given how conservative this state is.

Why be a snob about it? I'm making the best out of a less than ideal situation, and my situation works out until they fully legalize it in Texas, which is going to take awhile.

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fuzywuzyboomboom@reddit

It's just not a good way to build lasting connections, and I feel like that's what people really want is connection.

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Mistform05@reddit

Yeah because we are seeing the rise of dementia and a lot of that is directly linked to drinking.

https://news.gallup.com/poll/509690/young-adults-drinking-less-prior-decades.aspx

It looks like the number of people in the 18-35 age demographic that drink dropped 10% between 2001 and 2023 which, while significant, is a far cry from drinking dying out entirely. And older groups pick up the slack. And older demographics pick up the slack, so I wouldn’t say drinking is going anywhere for a while.

To clarify - Cock n’ Bull Tavern, Old Crow, Reveler’s Hall, Twilite Lounge, Apothecary, Atlas, Ladylove, Ships, Goodfriend, Single Wide.

WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

Yeah, I definitely wrote this post without thinking about the sprawl that was definitely super singletrack minded of me because I do live in Dallas proper and find it relatively easy to get around

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hotsauce84@reddit

I think it really depends on what you're into. I'm 40+ and have been going out in Dallas since before I was 21. The majority of the friends I hang out with are within 7 years +/- my age, and I've known most of them for at least 5 years.

The dive bar scene (whether actual dive bars or not is debatable) will have people younger than you all the way to people older than me. It has always existed in every large city, and best I can tell always will.

There are things to do not in fucking downtown LOL.

Omg omg omg these bars are catering to 21-25 y/os I’m so oooold.

Jesus lady

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

Where exactly did I say in my post that I only go out in downtown?

If you read literally any other comment, you would see that I say that I go out pretty much all across Dallas.

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ZestyChela@reddit

I think you need better less boring friends. lol. 34F, most of my friends have resisted the move to the suburbs and we still go out to dinner and drinks/breweries/cocktails. The only thing stopping us these days is newborns which we are planning to turn into day drinking lol.

Dallas is a MCOL.

Actual HCOL cities are SF, NYC, LA, SD, DC, Boston, Miami, Seattle, and Denver.

Even Austin is considerably more expensive than Dallas.

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Significant_Cod_6849@reddit

TBF, it also depends on what part of Dallas and what you consider to be "Dallas.". Highland Park is CONSIDERABLY more expensive than say Oak Cliff. OP didn't specify but I agree with you that Austin is way too damn expensive

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Hurricane_Ivan@reddit

People in the 20s or early 30s typical aren't going to renting or buying in Highland Park.

And the cost of living figures factor in all demographics of those cities. You don't think certain boroughs in New York aren't substantially cheaper than say Manhattan or Mid town?

The same thing could be said about SF, LA, Miami, DC.

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Significant_Cod_6849@reddit

Fair enough. I used to live down near Dallas and now live way up in Texoma so it kinda skews things for me now. I just remember Dallas being WAY more expensive back in my 20s and wondering who the hell could afford to live there much less party 😂

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Hurricane_Ivan@reddit

I just remember Dallas being WAY more expensive back in my 20s and wondering who the hell could afford to live there much less party 😂

And imagine, apartments and houses have like doubled in price in like just 10 yrs.

Meanwhile the average salary here is like $60k

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Significant_Cod_6849@reddit

And that's why I consider it kinda HCOL: because the average wage doesn't keep up with the cost of living the further into the metroplex you go. I'm currently commuting over an hour to make a good wage and am still having to Penny pinch.

Good thing I'm in my thirties and not down to go party anymore anywhere 😂

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Hurricane_Ivan@reddit

And that's why I consider it kinda HCOL: because the average wage doesn't keep up with the cost of living the further into the metroplex you go.

That's pretty much the case nationwide and even worse in states like Hawaii California, Washington, New York, Montana, Massachusetts, etc.

davy_crockett_slayer@reddit

Have you gone to the gay district? I met old gays working at Skivvies that still party.

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sly__red@reddit

I think this is more about the groups you’re in. I’m 28M and have one friend group that go out every week usually Friday and Saturday, we do dinners and bars all night usually. Another group that I’m friends with though only ever do nights in at our houses and might go out like twice a year max.

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_Wetkitty@reddit

For me it was multiple things. The first being I got older and drinking even just a couple of drinks means I feel like crap for no less than 3 days. The second...people...I don't hate people per say, but intoxicated people tend to do stupid things, cause problems, and with everyone posting everything on social media these days...im one viral video of me telling some jack ass to F off or something of that nature that could cause me to lose my job or worse get shot over someone getting butthurt over something. and finally....the cost...I am sorry, but i remember not even like 4 or 5 years ago when i could go to Taco bell get 3 crunchy tacos for like 3.50....now adays those same 3 tacos cost you nearly 10....all food/drinks have sky rocketed and my paycheck hasn't so yeah...while i make a decent living, if i felt the need to get drunk...i'll go buy a 12 pack at walmart for the price of 1 beer at most of these places now...and not deal with all the other BS.

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JustMeInBigD@reddit

There are multiple issues at play here, and after reading this and all of the comments and your replies, I'm still not sure what meets your criteria of "going out."

My take is that to you

a) going out doesn't count or isn't satisfying if it's not for at least four hours, preferably more ( as in having just one drink, dinner, and conversation isn't enough, but going to clubs or raves, etc. isn't it either.)

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b) you want to start late and continue well into the night. From what you've said, you want to do this multiple times a week, and sometimes you want to do it on the spur of the moment with someone you already have a friendship with.

In answer to 'b' -- I'm constantly "defending" Dallas as a place with plenty of things to see and do, BUT, I will say unequivocally, Dallas is not a late-night town. It was pretty hopping in the 80s, then again in the 90s, but it's less and less so as time goes by. COVID definitely hastened the demise of late night entertainment here (for multiple reasons.) In any case, if late nights are your jam, you can almost certainly find a better fit for you than Dallas.

As far as 'a', it's fairly normal to experience attrition from friends and friend groups as you age, and demands on us (financially, timewise, etc.) increase as we get older. Maybe that's affected you less than others. Or maybe going out is a higher priority for you than for the folks you've made friends with over the years, and that's OK, but I do think this kind of attrition will happen wherever you are. It will also be harder to replace those friends as you get older wherever you are.

Another way to address 'a' is to go to places that have supplemental activities going on - trivia nights, music bingo, karaoke, etc.

I also think you'll be happier if you find a place to be a "regular". You'll see an assortment of people you know to varying degrees, and you'll meet interesting new people, who may or may not be in your age group. It's definitely possible to move these friendships out of the bar for other activities, but if you go this route, some of those folks will definitely want to hang at their standby some of the time. It seems like hanging out and drinking, eating and talking is kind of your thing anyway, so there's probably a win/win in here.

Maybe you're already clear on what makes a satisfying night out, but if you're not, figure that out first. (In this sub, as well as in life, you'll often get better results asking for what you DO want and not what you don't want.)

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abbstr101@reddit

Lived in Dallas my whole life (other than college) and went out regularly well into my mid thirties. Couple things to consider:

What part of town are you frequenting? The hip neighborhood and bars are constantly shifting. Sometimes it takes a minute to realize that the crowd is moving to (or back to) another part of town.
As my friends aged, going out gradually looked different. Less clubs and shot bars, more fancy dinners and high end cocktail bars. It’s possible you are experiencing this transition and feeling a lull.
Different age groups will go to different parts of town, likely because they are looking for different experiences and have a different price tolerance. In my day, early 20’s groups took over uptown while 30 something’s owned Henderson.
Nearly none of my friends had kids young, but if yours have you may see your going out friend group thin. Which leads me to…
It is extremely hard to meet new people and build new friendships as we age. Where are you meeting new people?

I promise you there are late 20’s going out in Dallas, you just have to know what they are doing, where they are in the city.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

Honestly, I’m pretty much all over Dallas proper. none of my friends have kids, but I suspect that will be the case in the next 3 to 4 years. It is very hard to meet friends here so once my group started dying off, it’s been incredibly hard to replace them especially people that have common interest.

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Iant-Iaur@reddit

Aging out of Dallas? Sounds you are just, you know, aging in general.

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Archelsworld@reddit

General-Carob-6087@reddit

I’m 41 and have a bar near my house where I’m usually the youngest person there. If you feel you’re aging out then you might just be going to places you don’t enjoy anymore.

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jb59913@reddit

Dallas is a funny city. There really isn’t anything to do beside eat or drink. Dallas’ value is in the fact it’s a really great place to leave. Think about it.

ayeemitchyy@reddit

Eh. Seems like it’s who you know in dallas and if you’re part of some type of community. There’s a lot of things to do here in dallas it goes as far as your interests are. I’m 34, either I’m out or stay home just depends how i feel.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

I can agree with this take as well. It is definitely who you know.

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reddsbywillie@reddit

Reading between the lines, it doesn’t sound like you’ve aged out of Dallas. To me it sounds like you’ve aged out of hanging out at bars.

When you said “I find myself loving my social life when I travel to other cities,” that was the giveaway to me. I think you are confusing your social life on vacation with your day to day life. The city won’t matter and you’ll likely feel that same way in a new city within a year.

You could become someone who moves every couple years. I have a friend who did that. She’s loved that lifestyle until just recently. What changed? It simply caught up with her. All the changes and costs of regular relocating have massively stunted her career and financial growth. Sure, she can say she’s lived in 5 major cities in a decade, but she is now seeing the lifestyle of her peers evolve and change and she’s starting to realize that she’s lost touch with a lot of friends. Didn’t stay anywhere long enough to build lifelong friendships over the last decade. It honestly sounds like a lonely life of memorable experiences with acquaintances rather than a life of fulfillment.

I’m not saying Dallas is the greatest city of all time, and you should never move. I’m just saying based on the context of the post, Dallas isn’t the real issue. I honestly think it wouldn’t take long to feel this way again no matter where you move.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

I think you’re underestimating how long I’ve been in DFW. I’ve been in DFW overall for over seven years. I’m going on my fourth year in Dallas alone. I’ve been going to New York frequently for almost 10 years now so I have a pretty good grasp on what New York life is like. I grew up in South Florida so I also have a great grasp on what Fort Lauderdale and Miami is like.

There’s not an age to hang out at bars. There are bars that cater to different age demographics. That people usually evolved to in different stages of their live lives. I promise no need to read in between the lines. I know exactly what I mean when I say it.

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reddsbywillie@reddit

Then maybe you are just ready to move. Or maybe you've outgrown your friend group (which can be a fine trigger to move).

I've been here since 2011, turning 40 this year. I was here through the life stage you're in now. I honestly feel like around 32/33 I discovered a new side of Dallas. Granted, it's no NYC. If you want an NYC or Florida lifestyle, you won't find that here. It's a completely different culture.

I'm just saying I've seen friends go through what you are going through. They moved to try to fix a symptom of something else in their life, and they ended up bouncing around or coming back. The only people that seem to move and stay moved are ones that grew up here and needed to venture out, or people that moved specifically for a big jump up in their career.

watchdoginfotech@reddit

Ok.

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NotSeriousChill@reddit

That’s basically what Dallas is. It’s boring. To be fair I think most of America is just that: going out, have a drink, this or that restaurant. If you’re a transplant, then making friends can be tough no matter where you are but it’s possible.

For me it’s difficult since I drink alcohol at all or goto restaurants often since I’m conscious about my diet and what goes into my body. I also grew up playing sports and going outdoors on west and east coasts so i noticed not as many people here are recreational. For me it’s work, gym, reading, traveling occasionally, visiting family once a month, online business, and maybe a few friends occasionally.

I have noticed that even with same sex platonic friendships, people also flake or cancel. That’s become a thing since Covid. Not only does it happen in just dating world.

For females I think it’s easier to make friends as there are lots of female based groups Based on common interests. For males i notice fewer groups. Try using eventBrite or meetup apps to find it. Also search on FB, IG, or TikTok to find groups.

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You don’t know how many times I’ve tried to use public transport in Dallas lol I guess I’ve been trying to make fetch happen in the city that doesn’t have that. I definitely agree with don’t stay somewhere you feel stifle

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SithRager@reddit

Luka is gone. Dallas is dead. Get out while you still can

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

This is so real I had plans to get season tickets and now with Luka gone that’s over.

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corporatestatic@reddit

Dive bars might be your best bet if you're looking for late nights and conversation, but I don't know what vibe you're looking for or if you care about age groups... I'll just name a few spots i used to go to before I became a homebody and moved a little farther away (in no particular order)

Lakewood Landing Cosmos Milo Butterfingers Inwood Tavern Grapevine Bar (old location was amazing. I haven't been to the new one yet) The Goat (kinda slow last time I went, but still a lot of love for the place) Mike's Gemini (Bishops Arts) Cock and Bull

I see people in all age groups having the same problem. From early 20s to early 50s etc... I guess only the wealthy have fun here. Where do the wealthy go to gave fun/socialize? Just curious.

WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

I’m not sure where in my post I said party I said I like to enjoy going out to bars, restaurants, and lounges none of that insinuate that I’m raging out or doing anything crazy. I don’t think there’s an age limit on going out with your friends, socializing and optionally having a few drinks

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pussmykissy@reddit

A few drinks is, ‘partying.’

You don’t have to be raging or crazy to party.

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mathmagician9@reddit

Ok Mom.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

If you have two drinks in your house, are you partying?

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pussmykissy@reddit

If I am alone, no.

If I have a few with friends over, sure.

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

Not sure if you’re the demographic I was specifically polling if you think having two drinks at your house with friends is partying

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Minimum_Ice_3403@reddit

Time to get married

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Parking_Worldliness6@reddit

I enjoy going out and I am single 31 yo female

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Winky-Wonky-Donkey@reddit

I'm pushing 46 and go to deep Ellum multiple times a month. No. There's no aging out....your priorities and tastes just change. Granted ...most of my DE trips are for restaurants and food more than concerts these days. But still applies.

Still pissed that Thunderbird Station closed down. That place was rad and I'd go out there from Rockwall about twice a month before they closed on nice nights.

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WillyCorleone@reddit

I think this is just part of growing up. You’re gonna meet new people and friends will drift away. Some will start families and their priorities are exactly that.

I’m a family man now but 10 years ago you couldn’t pry me out of uptown weekends. My priority was that.

Now I still have friends that go out to these places almost every other night. We stay in touch. We just have different vibes and lives.

I’m in my 30’s. I have friends still dressing up sweating their balls off going to raves, I have friends career oriented starting business and I have friends with kids who are just doing the mom/dad thing.

It’s life.

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Bbkingml13@reddit

By 28, everyone I knew/know prefers being able to go out and actually sit down, have drinks, and be able to actually hear each other to have a conversation. Or have drinks and a gathering at someone’s house.

Choice_Start_5654@reddit

I had the great pleasure of living in Oak Cliff and being able to take the trolly into Down town when I was 18. I always looked older than what I was and had a decent fake ID. partied pretty young. Made friends with neighbors. My party days began early tho, I was 16 when I went to my first club/ lounge. It my wife at 23. Moved to Denton, and never looked back. 2 kids later… I AM NOT CLUBBING OUT TIL 2am. I feel like me and the wife are the few that still PARENT our kids and don’t just toss them off to grandmas for the weekend. DO YOU KNOW!!! What it’s like to make your kid a bowl of cereal hung over! NO! I aged outta Dallas in the blink of an eye. 27 now! I’m looking at land in Rhome, Tx! 😂

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clearwxng@reddit

I’m 26F and I moved to the Dallas area last year. It’s been very difficult to find friends because I don’t smoke/drink. I drink for special occasions but that’s really it.

I’ve tried bumble BFF, but I’ve noticed most people (including myself) aren’t very active on there. I feel like I haven’t found many people my age in Dallas that have outgrown the party scene.

With that said, I think it’d be cool to get a group-chat going, if anyone else is interested! 😅

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screamingfrommyeyes@reddit

I'm 36 and go out semi regularly and see lots of people my age out? Granted I am definitely home earlier than my 20s.

I'm not at the clubs or going to lower Greenville but there are lots and lots of people out all the time. And tons of variety of things to do. There are 1.3 million people in Dallas proper alone, it's hard to make generalizations based on your social circle.

That being said, we are 1- living in a cost of living crisis and going out is expensive. and 2- it's winter and post holidays and everyone is over it for a while. Once it gets warm I feel like things will pick up. Dallas seems to come alive once patio weather hits. 3 statistically alcohol consumption is decreasing a bit, so you may be seeing that play out.

One thing I will say about loving my social life when I visit other cities is presumably you are on vacation, and even if you are working there's a sort of innate tendency to romanticize where we are not. Plenty of New Yorkers want to stay out of the bars.

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screamingfrommyeyes@reddit

also if you want a crowd who can party at all ages, go to the strip. I never have a bad time, the party goes on forever, and you'll see all kinds of people!

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threeglude@reddit

Haven't been in Dallas for a few years. I'm a bit older (early 40's), but I kept a social life going by joining some dance classes, salsa, and bachata classes, to be specific. Made some friends there, and we'd go to various places to practice what we learned in class. Those of us who shared similar hobbies would go out for group bike rides, hikes, etc.

Silent_Initiative589@reddit

I’m 35 but my trivia teammate is 26, we go out not for trivia now and we don’t seem to have any issues. If you’re interested in being bad at trivia you could make two new friends that are older and younger!

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I don’t think you’re aging out, I think they are growing up and you don’t want to be more “adult”

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WorriedGarage6711@reddit (OP)

I don’t think I’m any less adult than my friends that don’t go out anymore. I’m doing great in my career and in many other aspects of my life. I simply just enjoy going out.

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No-mames95@reddit

Very valid point. I think most people get bored of that by 25-26. What is “going out” to you?

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mideon2000@reddit

Things change. People tend to putgrow this phase eventually. They meet a SO, get married, maybe have kids or a dog and have work, and other social obligations too. Yes, everyone has to deal with that, but here are some things to keep in mind:

1) shit be expensive. If you can afford to pay 20 bucks for parking, a few drinks and something to eat, more power to you. Many people start thinking "is this even worth it?". I can invite people i like and know, people that don't stir up shit, have a nice dinner and sleep at my home afterwards or even let friends or family crash out if they had too much instead.

2) by going that route, you don't have to deal with riff raff or assholes and traffic. You are home, or at someone elses home

3) it is an event. Meaning i may have just worked a full day. I go home, get ready, relax a couple hours and then head out across town just to be out and about. Some people need might do this on a friday, and might be off saturday, but when you are in a relationship with someone you get loaded with some of their social functions too. And guess when those happen? Usually on the weekend. Staying out till 2, home at 3, wake up at 9 because my wife's neice has a bday party at noon across town is the shits. F that. Ill go home around 11 and be well rested. That way we can go to the party and be home after some errands and i can play videogames or something.

Obviously everyone is different, and this isn't universal, but seems to be a natural progression as we age. So yeah, maybe your social circle is aging out a little quicker than you are they just don't put much value in a night out like that anymore. Lots of things changed after covid too. Limited hours, menus, etc. Probably saw dwindling sales very late and clientele not worth the risk of dealing with. Most businesses are not in the habit of turning down money.

RodeoBoss66@reddit

This isn’t strictly a Dallas issue, it’s a worldwide issue. Most people in their late twenties are starting to settle down, many getting deep into their careers, starting families, purchasing houses, or otherwise beginning adult lifestyles that are different from young adult lifestyles. Plus, aging itself starts to make itself more evident, and the kind of energy that would allow a person the ability to handle both a full time career and a vibrant, active nightlife starts to decline. By your thirties, you probably don’t have the energy anymore to party hardy all night long at the club, or at the very least, you’re starting to realize that you won’t be able to do it much longer.

From the sound of it, you don’t have kids and probably aren’t planning to have any in the foreseeable future, am I right? Kids will definitely soak up all that youthful energy most people in their twenties have, and then drain more it from you. Plus since they’re naturally so needy, they don’t allow you much time for your own interests.

I think you're just one of the lucky ones because most people I meet at bars aren't even in their 20s. As a woman I know it's going to be much easier for you, though, as men don't really hit their stride until mid 30s and beyond, at least from what I've seen in this area.

Maybe you should just take a break from the socialite lifestyle for a while. Maybe try to come back to reality a little. You're definitely one of the lucky ones to even experience that as most people will never experience what Dallas nightlife or something similar is like in their entire lives.

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I’ll probably DM you if that’s ok!

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AthiestCowboy@reddit

Yeah no problem

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captainn_chunk@reddit

Try changing your establishments.

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greelraker@reddit

Dallas isn’t a party town. That’s not what this is. You CAN go out and there are bars and clubs, but that’s not the draw to this place. It’s also been pretty dangerous to go out. I am constantly seeing posts of people getting shot, or being in the vicinity of a shooting in places like Deep Ellum, Uptown, etc. not saying it’s so dangerous you should never go out, but maybe people are maturing and realizing nothing good happens after midnight.

I know a few people who go out quite a bit and they are in their 30s and 40s. One even goes out to The Church periodically. I absolutely cannot do that any more unless I take the following day off work. Tbf, the last time I did that with her we also went to Cafe Brazil for coffee, food and people watching so I basically stayed up all night.