How long has it been since you were last in a relationship?

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Adventurous_Ad3075@reddit

45. Never being in a relationship before.

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2 years ago. I’ve dated people but they’ve never wanted anything more, and led me on pretending they do when they knew full well I wanted to be a girlfriend. I miss being in one. I really do. Now, when I talk to new people, I’m extremely cautious and I believe nothing they say. I’m scared every man I meet will leave me so I end up leaving them first now. My last relationship really fucked my head up. We even tried again at the end of the year but he never asked me to be his girlfriend, he dumped me again. So now, I’m frightened of being in a relationship and I don’t actually know what I’d do if I was in one. All I know is I miss the feeling.

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supercakefish@reddit

∞ years

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doctorbiffgood@reddit

8 years I believe now. 41 y/o alternative male, narrows my dating pool. I don’t go out or drink.

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efitchuk@reddit

Serious question here - what do you mean by “alternative” male? Interested as to how this would reduce your dating pool 🙂

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doctorbiffgood@reddit

Long hair, beard, tattoos, mainly dress in black. That’s a general description of an alternative male. And from that, it’s a clear niche that only a few appreciate and find desirable.

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efitchuk@reddit

I’m sorry to hear that - I wouldn’t have thought that would be the case! 🙂

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Kapika96@reddit

How old am I? That long!

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yorkspirate@reddit

8/9 years since my last proper relationship and had 3 short term flings in that time. Every now and again I dip my toe in the dating pool and remember it's not always worth the hassle

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PozzieMozzie@reddit

6 years, but the last year of my marriage was like being alone so say 7 years.... Never doing that again, my ex wife pretty much destroyed me and im not putting myself anywhere near that situation again.

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thecrius@reddit

I've been in your last year for 10 years or so. Look on the bright side.

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PozzieMozzie@reddit

Im sorry mate, i know its hard and i gave up everything. I ended up on the street living in a tent for a couple months but then i got a place in a homeless hostel and now i have a flat... Sometimes you have to give up everything and put yourself in a shitty situation before things get better. I knew i had to change when my ex wife was starting to make me feel like doing something stupid and very permanent if you know what i mean.. i had to get away and any place was better than there.

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RegularSlimPro@reddit

Broke up from a long term relationship just a couple of months ago. Only recently started feeling fully back on track

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BrummbarKT@reddit

Just over a month for me and I miss her more than ever :(

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Lost-Quit855@reddit

never had a relationship

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HeyKillerBootsMan@reddit

Will be a year on the 14th. Yes I was broken up with on Valentine’s Day

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Aromatic_Pudding_234@reddit

Officially about 5 or so years. I spotted a girl on the bus that I've been dating for the past couple of weeks, but I haven't told her yet.

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real_Mini_geek@reddit

I think it’s best to tell her you’re dating her… she has a right to know..

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Aromatic_Pudding_234@reddit

I haven't built up the courage. Anyway, I need to figure out where she lives first so I can make the reveal really romantic.

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HeyKillerBootsMan@reddit

You do you bro. So long as you’re both happy

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QuirkyFrenchLassie@reddit

Aww. It's almost valentine's day. Perfect. That gives you a little time to organise that romantic reveal. She'll be so surprised she'll just scream with delight. Probably delight. Who said romance is dead.

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Guilty_Hour4451@reddit

This is the sign of a hopeless romantic. There's no greater surprise in a love story than standing beside her bed and telling her she looks so peaceful when she's asleep

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Round_Engineer8047@reddit

I saw her first you cad!

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Comfortable-Gas-5999@reddit

Apart from a few attempts, it’s been 4 years.

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morningmelon47@reddit

2 years and still heartbroken, I miss you carol!

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SuperChair3856@reddit

Man fuck carol

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morningmelon47@reddit

I did, 2 years ago 😕

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FineryGlass@reddit

What's Carol number?

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kylehyde84@reddit

8675309

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CatProdder@reddit

5 years here. Don't think I can be bothered trying that again.

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SmoothJury1296@reddit

4 years for me more or less, bar a couple of bad experiences. Don't think I'll be jumping back in the game any time soon either.

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TisOnlyTemp@reddit

25 years.

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George9816@reddit

2021. I broke up with my then girlfriend 5 minutes before the euros final

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5daredevil4@reddit

After my second divorce, I went on a few dates but realized I didn't want to do any of that. It's been 5 years now. Until an extraordinary guy shows up and the stars align in a dramatic show of serendipity, I'm happy on my own

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BlackCatWitch29@reddit

It's been almost 8 years for me (1 month away from that break-up "anniversary")

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fig-leaf-@reddit

a few months now, it’s the longest I’ve been single since I started dating and it’s so peaceful!

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madcheco@reddit

I have never been in a relationship.

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LatinScouse@reddit

:(

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cardb00ardb0x@reddit

never been in one and don't plan to from what I've seen/heard

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V65Pilot@reddit

6 years? Honestly, I've forgotten the exact date.

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Plus_Competition3316@reddit

I hate getting asked this question by others because when they ask it they’re coming from a stance of: ‘You are more reliable and able to have relationships if you have them more or have a background of being in long term relationships’ Which isn’t true. Someone having 5-10 failed 6monthly relationships isn’t more reliable than someone who has 1x 6month relationships in 10 years. So whenever I tell a girl or someone who asks and I say “Haven’t had a relationship in around 8 years, have always been sexually active. The reason I’ve never took it further is because I haven’t met a girl I see as being very much relationship material, or if I have then it hasn’t worked out. I will absolutely never just get in a relationship out of loneliness or neediness like plenty of people I see around me.” Then they usually take that as a positive response.

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EducationalTell9103@reddit

0 nanoseconds

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Agreeable_Fig_3713@reddit

It’s been over 20 years since I’ve *not* been in a relationship

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Comfort_Not_Speed_50@reddit

20 years and that one only lasted a few months. Previous one was 13 years before that and was only for a few weeks. Apparently relationships aren't my thing lol

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QuirkyFrenchLassie@reddit

Almost 4 years. Which has not been enough yet to recover from the DV I experience(d). I tried online dating, had a couple of "nice" little flings which helped me rebuild some confidence. But it's not for me. At almost 42, I realise I'm happy to be single anyway. I miss some stuff of course but I lost the ability to trust so being single is much easier.

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PKblaze@reddit

0 seconds (Still in one)

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Thisoneissfwihope@reddit

About 5 years. I had a bad Covid time so I need to diet myself out before I’m ready to jump back in.

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jono12132@reddit

I've never had a proper one. I guess 6 years ago if you want to count the last significant person. It only lasted a month and she eventually ended up ghosting me. I think she's long forgotten about me. I've had a handful of dates since then, but I haven't been past the first date since her. For various reasons it's just something I've always struggled with. The apps are pretty bleak. My friends have sort of drifted away now they've settled down. I think I'm at the point where I'm starting to age out of drinking and nightclubs. I'm in that weird social dead zone in your thirties where everyone my age has vanished from social spaces. I work shifts and pretty much everyone I work with is a man. It sucks, kind of feel left behind and like I've missed the boat these days.

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I-Am-The-Warlus@reddit

7 years - 2019 (just passed the 7th year of breakup)

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Berookes@reddit

Coming up to 6 years now. All my friends are getting engaged and having kids and it’s slowly getting me down more and more each year

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ZookeepergameRich454@reddit

About 8 years. Every time I think I'll dip my toe back in the waters I remember how much of ay insufferable ballache online dating is.

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FineryGlass@reddit

Over a year after a long-term relationship. Now, I seemed to have attracted an attention seeking woman, or maybe not who knows I can't be bothered asking if she is. She did make a point known she keeps seeing repeating numbers when around me, I still have no clue what this means and have no interest in looking.

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LuDdErS68@reddit

A decade.

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x99kjg@reddit

Almost 4 happy peaceful years.

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Round_Caregiver2380@reddit

About 4 years. Everyone I dated before her was reasonably lovely and were all decent human beings. She was probably the worst person I've ever met. Took me a long time to get over her abuse and I swore off dating. I'm happier now than I've ever been so I doubt I'll bother with dating again.

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

Nearly 12 1/2 years… I’ve been on dates, none of them lasted more than a month before red flags started to show and I also had a fwb for about 5 years during this time (he moved away with his work so that obviously ended). Id rather be single now.

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t90fan@reddit

I've never not been in a relationship since I was 17 Ive basically just gone from girlfriend to girlfriend to wife to girlfriend to wife

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bladefiddler@reddit

I settled with my 'first love' at 18. 21 years together with marriage and kids along the way. Around 19 of those were overall happy too, secomd-last one was tough, last one was hell. I met a diamond of a woman within a month of my ex-wife leaving me. We've been together 5.5 years now and we're still crazy about eachother, haven't had a single argument as yet. I try to be a decent, loving/caring and honest man. I like to think that's my appeal (as I don't have money or a big dick lol) but I'm possibly just a lucky bastard!

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Projected2009@reddit

Yep, I always hated being single too.

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Tough-Whereas1205@reddit

9 years. Just recently had a bit of a thing with a coworker but it was too awkward past the holding hands on a walk stage. I’ve gone feral and she’s too soon out of a relationship. Oh well.

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Original_Spud@reddit

I'm currently trying to get out of one

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SirTimmons@reddit

Ex gf moved out 3 and a half years ago. We’d have periods where we wouldn’t speak for months then one of us would get in touch and we’d date again. The longest time being about 5months. Stopped again in October and sadly I think that’s that now. Really not sure I can be bothered trying again with someone new.

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InspectionWild6100@reddit

21 years

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Particular-Row5678@reddit

5 years and she was my soulmate. I'll never bother again.

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ImASadGirlImABadGirl@reddit

:(

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Apsalar28@reddit

About 15 years. Met my last partner when I was 20. We were a couple for 10 years until he died. By the time I'd stopped being a complete wreck I had my life as a single childless cat lady set up and I like it just fine. I'm making 0 effort to try and find another relationship and the few dates I've been on when asked were all disasters that have done nothing to increase my motivation.

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bambonie11@reddit

About 24 years.

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Objective-Shallot-74@reddit

5 years since I had a very brief one. That was a good time.

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Euphoric-Brother-669@reddit

5

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emshents@reddit

15 years. Been on a few dates over the years and had my fun but I've realised I'm actually much happier on my own

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cbawiththismalarky@reddit

18 years, happy as I am

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WaveyDaveyGravy@reddit

21 years

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Status-Ferret-4945@reddit

12 years. I don’t even know why I ended up single for so long. Can’t see it changing anytime soon.

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Ambitious_League4606@reddit

Just happens.

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ShihtzuMum39@reddit

7 years

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avamissile@reddit

3 years. We were together for 11 years and are still very good friends now. But it’s taught me that I value my peace and space more than anything else.

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Sea-Science-8614@reddit

7 years!

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Affectionate-Law9142@reddit

6 years and I’m as happy as a pig in s**t 😂

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TheDettiEskimo@reddit

About 5. Had a bit of an on off sexual thing for those 5 years but have bopped that on the head. The thought of having someone in my life now is not for me.

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Projected2009@reddit

When I was younger I met a really pretty girl with the most amazing figure I'd ever seen... breasts made of marble! She was from my (fairly large) home town. She told me that she'd only ever had one boyfriend and had been single for two years. I met her when I was home on leave from the army and things progressed really quickly due to me only have two weeks off. For days we didn't even go outside unless it was to the shop or to get clean clothes. Next time I'm home I see her again. I wanted to take her out to the pubs / clubs and show her off to my mates. Usual stuff. She said she didn't like nightlife and just wanted to spend time with me... which was always either on the sofa watching a film, or on whatever surface we felt like at the time. Anyway, my best friend pops round, comes in, sees her and clams up. When he's walking out I start to have a pop at him for being rude. He hits me with the bombshell that she was the school / college / club good-time girl who'd apparently been with anyone who asked. No indicators whatsoever. I was shellshocked. She was holding everything she'd brought with her by the time I walked back into the house. She left without saying much, if anything.

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MrJoshHere@reddit

12 years

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Killerbot2332@reddit

3 months. I spent a quarter of my life with her and she left me for one of my friends

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Ambitious_League4606@reddit

Went from relationship to relationship and had loads of girlfriends. Not been in a relationship for 12 years.

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SpeedCamry650@reddit

3 years. Dating apps are really demoralising. I’d like to meet someone but the endless talking stages and being ghosted have put me off.

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PerceptionGreat2439@reddit

I think ghosting should be made a criminal offence.

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PerceptionGreat2439@reddit

15 years

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Papaya-Extract@reddit

Let's see... 2.5 years?

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Kewoowaa@reddit

19 years

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Suburbannightmare@reddit

About seven years....

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Consistent_Dust_2332@reddit

More than a decade - really can't be bothered.

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lucylastic89@reddit

also probably about 8 years. pretty much given up hope now

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Youtalkingtomyboobs@reddit

4 years, thinking of going into retirement.

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haemhorrhoidian@reddit

17 blissful years.

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West_Guarantee284@reddit

22 years

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TSC-99@reddit

It was 9 years for me until I met my fiancé. I didn’t really want to get into another relationship as I was happy on my own. But then I found him and it all changed.

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Mc_and_SP@reddit

Just under nine years now.

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mr-dirtybassist@reddit

Currently in a 5 year relationship married for 2

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