I don’t want to leave (women’s opinions greatly appreciated)
Posted by After_Tap_2150@reddit | askdfw | View on Reddit | 13 comments
I’ve really enjoyed my time here in Dallas and Texas overall. I’m a west coast transplant. I’ve decided to get pregnant and I’m considered high risk so I feel as though I have to move until after I have a baby due to abortion laws.
Has anyone else dealt with this, or had a friend that deal with this? I’ll be going through fertility treatments etc. at first, I thought that I could leave the state and get an abortion if I needed one, but then I was reading that if I came back here, I could end up being prosecuted if someone wanted to do that.
I love Texas. I don’t want to leave. Is this risk just too much and I should just try to work on getting back here later? I’d probably have to move back to a West Coast state like California, Oregon, or Washington. I’m not a huge fan of the snow which kind of mix is Colorado and the East Coast.
oktodls12@reddit
I have done fertility treatments and recent pregnancies in Texas. While the risk isn’t lost on me, I really do trust all of my doctors with my life. Every single doctor I have had, from my RE, to OB, to MFM have been outstanding and on top of literature and ACOG recommendations. If I was in rural Texas, I would feel differently. But inside the city of Dallas, I don’t feel so much at risk that I need to move out of state.
After_Tap_2150@reddit (OP)
I really don’t understand why this has been removed. I’m living in Dallas and want to remain in Dallas. I don’t get why this is having to be removed because it’s not specific to Dallas? Can Mom help me with that?
CatsNSquirrels@reddit
Try not to waste too much energy understanding moderators and their actions. I got banned for life from a forum once, and labeled as a trumper (I’m not, at all) because I suggested to a poster that they get therapy to help with severe anxiety and also try to focus on what’s within their control. The question was how to cope with severe anxiety about the state of things and the upcoming administration change. I was banned for life and banned from even communicating with the moderator about the ban. Reddit definitely isn’t a democracy. Hang in there.
edrobster@reddit
Hello.
Your post has been removed because your question is not unique to DFW, or DFW specific.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. It appears as though you've gotten some heartfelt and supportive comments, so I've left the thread unlocked so that you can respond and wrap up those conversations.
After_Tap_2150@reddit (OP)
Well, it’s about me wanting to stay in Dallas? Isn’t that specific to DFW?
edrobster@reddit
Right, but it's not unique or specific to Dallas. You could be going through that same situation in Austin, Houston, SA, EP and it doesn't really change the question much, if at all.
"I really like (x) and don't want to leave, but i have this situation...." Your question is about your situation, not Dallas or DFW.
After_Tap_2150@reddit (OP)
I’m trying to get an idea of other women who stayed in Dallas and were pregnant. How it went for them when they had complications. So I can stay in Dallas or at least know what to expect.
NeverPostingLurker@reddit
You should be fine. Many women experience issues with pregnancy, it’s incredibly common (not saying on a % basis but saying because there are lots of people) and you aren’t hearing hundreds or even dozens of situations with women dying due to lack of healthcare in Texas. The news is chomping at the bit for these stories and there is really only one which is more malpractice than anything else.
Kathw13@reddit
If you have a good ob/gyn who isn’t playing politics, you will be fine.
New-Honey-4544@reddit
Your obgyn isn't the only problem, but hospitals as well...and tons of hospitals have a religious affiliation (which i fucking hate)
Kathw13@reddit
That is why I added have a plan.
mlh4@reddit
I just moved back home to Texas at 4 months pregnant. It might be naive of me but we have friends and family here, it’s a big city full of resources and things to do, and much better than where we were previously living.
I’m not high risk, I’m 8 months pregnant now and everything has been going well. So many women don’t have the means or luxury or support to get pregnant and have their babies in a state where they actually have rights. If you can do it, do it.
CatsNSquirrels@reddit
I haven’t dealt with this, but I personally would not want to have a high risk pregnancy in Texas. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It’s not fair and it’s not right.
FWIW we left Texas in 2022 and I’m a Dallas native. We found a better life elsewhere and I have all my rights.