Anon wonders why men don't cry

No. There is no path to success there. Didn’t we just read a few days ago about some poor shlub who kept his trauma a secret for years despite his GF begging him to tell her and he refused repeatedly then finally broke down under relentless pressure and she dumped him immediately after?

We are men. We are rocks. We never crack. We never complain. We never share our pain with our female partners. They need us to be their rock. No matter how many lies they tell, begging us to open up, the reality is that their begging is a test and the only way to pass is to NEVER, EVER crack under pressure.

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imperial-bane@reddit

Now the question just is: what do I even need her for?

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PowThwappZlonk@reddit

Why do you think she wants him to open up?

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Viciuniversum@reddit

So she can feel special and not like other girls.

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yourteam@reddit

The problem is that when such a nice person comes along, the dude is usually already sealed and not trusting anyone.

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kaleeb111@reddit

This feels like what a woman would say if a man made a similar post. This just shows how much of the problem she is...

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ThorvonFalin@reddit

Especially the last part seems to be a major problem for women. Youre vulnerable once and it will be used against you

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imperial-bane@reddit

I have read the story of "gf / wife wanted me to open up but once I did she saw me in a negative light" so often now it's actually scary

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Utnemod@reddit

I don't follow pick up culture, I think it's regarded, but one thing they got right are shit tests.

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nikoll-toma@reddit

shit tests as a concept would unironically pass peer-review.

as soon as i entered the dating scene after the last break up i saw how women use those, some more some less. helped me to sort out the crazies

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edbods@reddit

there was a post about that just a few days ago on this very sub

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Milsurp_Seeker@reddit

“My BF cried and told me about his trauma. Now I can’t have sex with him” has been a Reddit post before.

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Dinismo@reddit

She wants the ammo.

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theemoofrog@reddit

Woman challenge (impossible)

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erck_bill@reddit

Literally the only way lol

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Brilliant-Mountain57@reddit

The 2nd part is impossible for people

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a1_on@reddit

That's like asking for water to no be wet

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SonTyp_OhneNamen@reddit

woman

safe

not used against him

Yeah sorry, there’s a reason gay is a synonym for happy.

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THED4NIEL@reddit

I guess the saying 'exceptions prove the rule' meant me then, rip

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SonTyp_OhneNamen@reddit

RemindMe! 1 year

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THED4NIEL@reddit

Or did you mean you’re gay…?

I am but explaining ruins the joke :P

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Leftregularr@reddit

Unfathomably based

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FoxCQC@reddit

Like that will ever happen

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imperial-bane@reddit

A man may dream.

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123noodle@reddit

People really think emotions get "bottled up" as if they have physical properties. It's an imprint in your brain. No amount of whinging will make it go away. Might as well learn to relax with it without crying.

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Reux18@reddit

Dudes say this and then blow their head off in the garage for their wife and kids to find them

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Hundkexx@reddit

Literally. A dude at work did this recently. 55 years old, kids, wife, no one even noticed anything. Hanged himself in the garage.

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sucknduck4quack@reddit

Those dudes are just stupid. Whenever I need to vent I just take a .22 to my frontal lobe. That way I get emotional release with the minimal necessary brain damage

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flyawaytodaynow@reddit

the trick is to not get married and do it that way nobody cares

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august_overground@reddit

Yeah. That's how you deal with it without crying.

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CroatInAKilt@reddit

Delegate the crying to your subordinates (wife and child). Capitalism in action

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Higuos@reddit

"I'm the manager of this household" I mutter before putting the barrel in my mouth

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SpiderManEgo@reddit

"Time for my pto." On the upside you won't feel sadness after. On the downside, you won't feel much of anything but that may be good for some of you.

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Single-Bad-5951@reddit

Trickle down emotions

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Dark_Matter_Guy@reddit

Absolute Chad!

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OxyNotCotton@reddit

Holy frick dude.

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-SKYMEAT-@reddit

Hell yeah that's called going out with a bang

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GenomVoid@reddit

Yeah. That's pretty much what society wants

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123noodle@reddit

I just think that's a result of simply existing as a man in our current society, not whether or not one talks about how they feel. You can talk all day about how you feel, it won't change anything.

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Misenum@reddit

Better that than looking cringe

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HiveMindKing@reddit

Tell a women (even your mom) problems and she will bring it up to hurt you the moment you cross some real or imaginary line. I am told there are women out there not like this but I know for a fact most are exactly like this.

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Hundkexx@reddit

Nah dude, you have a shit mom if that's the case.

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StartledMilk@reddit

My mom is very supportive and has never used any of my emotional shit against me. I’ve cried in front of her more than anyone else in my life. She’d literally have to have anti-social personality disorder if she did that since we lost my brother 1.5 years ago and we all cried together. I don’t think it’s particularly a woman issue, but an issue of just being a good person.

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hh26@reddit

but an issue of just being a good person.

Exactly this. There are a lot of women out there who aren't good people but think they are because they're hot and people let them get away with their behavior. But that's just a self-awareness issue. Men who aren't good people are typically aware of it and just don't care.

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doverawlings@reddit

Same with my mom, and my sisters. Even my ex girlfriend who hates me now never used the vulnerable shit I told her against me. It’s not a woman thing, it’s a bad-person thing

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freedomfightre@reddit

Mine has.

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Magistricide@reddit

Yeah men will beat each other up but women can't do that so they just inflict emotional damage on you instead

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Linaxu@reddit

Only another dude can understand a dude.

The majority of spouses just can't be trusted because in the long run something always gets used.

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ledditmodsaresad@reddit

This post is written by a woman. Men share their emotions with other men that are trusted. Woman don't know what they want and they sure as shit don't wanna hear about your emotions because they will throw it back in your face first chance they get.

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Omgazombie@reddit

Ain’t that the truth

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EnergiaBuran@reddit

Idk about you, but my bros and I aren't in the habit of sharing emotions with each other because that's just gay

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posamobile@reddit

imagine paying to share your feelings

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EnergiaBuran@reddit

Imagine this: My work health insurance pays for all of it.

Get a job.

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The_Smeckledorfer@reddit

Imagine needing a job for health insurance

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EnergiaBuran@reddit

It's called a perk of my job lmao

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Sjengo@reddit

Imagine missing the point about needing to be employed to receive humane treatment wherever you are

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EnergiaBuran@reddit

Imagine thinking that I need to be employed to have health insurance

My state offers it for free if you can't afford it, dipshit

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BirdMBlack@reddit

that's just gay

Anon admits he pays for gay.

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sickbubble-gum@reddit

Just say you're poor

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ledditmodsaresad@reddit

Lol having a therapist is way gayer than having good friends

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theemoofrog@reddit

Go to war together and you and the boys open up real quick.

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EnergiaBuran@reddit

Spoken like a true 'Nam vet

Now go shoot up some dope

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WheresTotoro@reddit

Often it's done while drinking, because alcohol loosens the inhibitions and guards we subconsciously put up to protect ourselves. One has to rembee that men are warriors at heart, even in today's society, and spreading knowledge of your weaknesses about is a bad idea when you're a warrior.

Still, one also cannot keep everything bottled up forever, because that's very bad for the health of the mind, so we need someone we can trust fully, whom we don't think will stab us in the back. This usually turns out to be other warriors, men you have been through hell and back with. The modern man doesn't have anything like this, so no wonder we keep everything to ourselves.

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Messypuddin@reddit

Sounds like you haven’t had someone that actually cares about you. Sounds sad. And now with your behavior you probably never will. Better to just suck cocks obviously

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ledditmodsaresad@reddit

No cocks to suck since you and your mom took them all

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tastybabyhands@reddit

Men share

The males you know aren't men

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ledditmodsaresad@reddit

Wow very edgy big guy thanks for sharing

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Pm_me_clown_pics3@reddit

When someone in our friend group would go through a bad break up we would get together with a bottle each and listen to sad music, mostly country. And cry and drink and talk about past breakups. Then the next day we never talk about it ever again.

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Remarkable-Fly3102@reddit

Don’t let the balls touch

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IAmMadeOfNope@reddit

My nickname is Rapelet. I choose not to elaborate on that.

After exchanging a plethora of racial slurs (most of which don't apply to any of us) and insulting everything about one another, my friends paused. They sheepishly asked if joking about it was going too far. (It wasn't btw, I think it's fucking hilarious)

This was far more consideration than I've ever received from a woman.

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benjathje@reddit

👍

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Imtryst@reddit

Ok cool

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miku_dominos@reddit

Yeah man, I have great convos with my bros. Women are built different. I've seen how bitchy they can be talking about their women friends. I'd rather chill with a trusted friend.

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TheOneWhoReadsStuff@reddit

The moment he opens up to you, you subconsciously think of him as weak, then you distance yourself, and the relationship is ruined.

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MajikoiA3When@reddit

Because you don't fuel the enemy with weapons and if you think about it from a biological standpoint, weak emotional effeminate weren't bred with during hunter gatherer times.

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morganational@reddit

Lol

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xXHalalManXx@reddit

There was literally a post about an anon doing so and his gf breaking up with him

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Msimot@reddit

I did it and my wife got the ick and left me. I did it because she pressured me into.

Not again.

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RLANTILLES@reddit

Men don't say ick so she probably left you for being homeopath.

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BenAfflecksBalls@reddit

Idiot trying to cure cancer with smoothies

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Single-Bad-5951@reddit

oh yeah but putting MORE chemicals and radiation in my body is totally going to make less cancer right???

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EmperorJohnAnis@reddit

No for special cases such as yourself homeopathics work like a charm - go right ahead and disregard those dumb doctors

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Single-Bad-5951@reddit

Five a day literally keeps the doctor away bro

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No-Marigolds@reddit

Wtf did you actually tell her? I'm always so confused by guys saying stuff like this. What did you feel the need to open up about and why did it put her off?

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Higuos@reddit

It sounds like the problem was your wife.

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dansedemorte@reddit

Women. They will instantly lose interest the moment you show ANY sign of being weak.

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ledditmodsaresad@reddit

We all know this but just curious what did you share

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Msimot@reddit

Nothing that complex. She just pressured me into sharing whenever I felt stressed or sad or even very happy. Shit like that.

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GreatStuffOnly@reddit

And then she left you? Something is missing here. Not question you but I can’t make the logic leap.

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ratfucker0@reddit

i cant make the logic leap

Because you're thinking like a man, woman logic is different

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Autisticus@reddit

☕️

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home_rolled@reddit

☕️

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ChillbroBaggins10@reddit

Maybe she was trying to get him to say something that she could use as a reason for divorce? “I just can’t help your depression/anxiety/money issues, anon”

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PeksyTiger@reddit

Logic. Heh.

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Futureman999@reddit

You know when I feel stressed? When fucking stressful shit is happening It's like feeling a burning sensation when you're on fire.

Everybody, look at the weak loser over here

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SpecialistParticular@reddit

My favorite "ick" moment was the woman saying her boyfriend having a mom and sisters gives her the "ick."

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magusx17@reddit

Early on in my marriage I opened up to my wife about my feelings. I could tell she was disgusted by this and didn't know what to do. I stopped that immediately

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hdawg187@reddit

People saying 'got the ick' fully triggers me. I'm probably just a miserable old cunt.

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HippoRun23@reddit

No it’s fucking toddler speak and stupid.

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donnydodo@reddit

Mistake learnt. What woman say they want and what they want are two different things. A man must know the difference or his relationships will fail,

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Toxic_Behavior_God@reddit

Be men Be honest about feelings Get the equivalent of being fucked in the ass by two black men named motumbo emocionally be dumped Never again

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A_Real_Catfish@reddit

A fellow Reggie enjoyer I see

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peerreviewedretard@reddit

my favorite sseth clone

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StandsBehindYou@reddit

Mutt's law

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Cereal_Bandit@reddit

emocionally

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Earthworm-Kim@reddit

un poquito emocion

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ThePizzaTimePizzaGuy@reddit

Talking from experience?

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ProstheTec@reddit

He knows exactly what it feels like to be fucked in the ass by two black men named motumbo emocionally

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CroatInAKilt@reddit

The emotion is regret, but the feeling is joy

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eximology@reddit

Because women will absolutely not be supportive of his emotional problems. They just think they would because they have an unrealistically favorable image of themselves to make themselves seem more virtuous than they actually are, while in reality they would just disdain him for being weak.

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FuckRedditIsLame@reddit

The paradox of women: Want a strong pillar of a man, but also a man with feelings. If granted this wish somehow, hold his feelings against him eternally, and consider him weak and reduced because of them.

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Axile28@reddit

Anon is a man

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iwanttobelieve3001@reddit

You only share your burdens with your brothers, those you can trust to lean on. Especially if you work in a career that has a strong emphasis on brotherhood like the fire department and shit like that. If you don't thats what dogs are for they will love you no matter what.

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CroatInAKilt@reddit

> "hey it was kinda hurtful when you said that thing last night"
> "what, you aren't man enough to take it?"

Said after I came back from kickboxing practice and started remodelling the kitchen. Bruh.

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Brobazguy@reddit

Tell her she’s fat. Then start re-hemming her clothes in private so she thinks she’s gaining weight. Hide her food. When she accuses you of anything, gaslight her and tell her you never said that, and that she needs to see a psychiatrist for her delusions.

When she comes back from therapy, tell her you’re gay, and move a man into the house, preferably while she’s still there. Tell her you spent all your money on a surrogate.

When she finally breaks down, tell her, “What, not man enough?”

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AlexisTheArgentinian@reddit

Jeezus Christ!

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iLikeToDrinkWaterTBH@reddit

Gaslight gatekeep girlbossing.

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Single-Bad-5951@reddit

Rubbing your feet on other men and modelling in the kitchen? No wonder she said that

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sickbubble-gum@reddit

Men do nothing but cry and complain to a woman who lets him close enough. I don't mind as long as you return the favor, but most don't and take it for granted. Then ya cry about a "male loneliness epidemic" lmao

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Thalilalala@reddit

She: "Show emotion"

He: *shows emotion*

She: "Ew, that's an ick"

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nullv@reddit

I feel bad for a lot of commenters here.

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Psychological_Cap_10@reddit

I do if they’re being truthful, but I always suspect a few are just parroting, which I think perpetuates this culture. Like why try to hold onto someone who flips on you like this, isn’t it better to find out early?

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nullv@reddit

I know, right? Let the trash take itself out.

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ulavachaaru@reddit

I'd rather suffer alone than someone else using that trauma of mine to win in a mf argument.

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Longjumping-Goat-348@reddit

I’ve never felt more disgusted with myself than the one time I opened up to a woman. I thought it would bring us closer, but she was visibly repulsed, and I felt weak and pathetic for sharing intimate details of my past that I clearly should’ve kept private.

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No-Marigolds@reddit

Opened up about what though?

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ChillbroBaggins10@reddit

That’s not your fault, man. It’s never your fault. Humans are social creatures, it’s natural to want to tell someone. Never apologize for who you are.

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duck_tales@reddit

Lullaby land.

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upyoursize@reddit

Unless he's one of those guys that get off to balloons.

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Bartekmms@reddit

You know what? Let him get off to whatever he wants if he dont bother anyone.

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evilsOfMan@reddit

Unless he’s one of those guys who get off to balloons.

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StandsBehindYou@reddit

Never lower your guard around women.

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Ozymandias_1303@reddit

Ryuko is cool and all, but I find Mako to be a much more relatable character.

This is one of the emotions I don't share with people lest they judge me.

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philmarcracken@reddit

we don't have the connections in our brains to the emotional center that you do. we often literally don't know how we feel about something, it takes time

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miku_dominos@reddit

Because we've seen and heard women say they think it's icky, and some use it against us. Men do talk about their emotions but it's with their bros over a couple of beers where they feel safe.

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Jack-of-Hearts-7@reddit

Once bitten, twice shy.

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zekeNL@reddit

Miranda rights: anything you say can and will be used against you

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4510471ya2@reddit

then anon will break up with him and use his closest held traumas against him

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blackmobius@reddit

Some men open up to only be told thier problems are stupid or made up. Or they are made fun or have embarrassing secrets leaked as jokes.

The only winning move is to keep it to yourself

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Lukthar123@reddit

cause a rando i paired with was going through a divorce.

Anon mains healer irl

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dansedemorte@reddit

Amen. Only another man can understand that type of pain.

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hfhfhfh88@reddit

My dog of 13 years old died and I didn't cry. This world has numbed me so hard that I capable of expressing how I feel but I don't exactly react with emotions of sadness or tears.

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dansedemorte@reddit

We cry, just not near ANY woman nor in public if we can help it.

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DGKeeper@reddit

Straight men do in fact share their feelings. With other men of course.

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U-Botz@reddit

This was written by a man

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beaverlyknight@reddit

This is a trap! Do not let women trick you by saying they want you to be more emotional. No they don't. Any show of emotion like that has a chance of triggering something deep in their psyche that is an instant turn off. They call it the ick now, but people have known about it forever. Your grandpa would tell you this. Do not be fooled.

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Autisticus@reddit

If op is a true femanon, upon learning her man's troubles, she will:

A) think less of him/resent him

And

B) use his insecurities and weaknesses against him

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JustBeingChillToday@reddit

Yeah, you'll say that until he opens up to you. Then, he's suddenly weak and unmanly in your eyes.

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LeeeeeroyPhishkins@reddit

It's a trap. Literally and figuratively speaking.

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encrustingXacro@reddit

A lot of people here are saying men don't share their emotions because it would be used against them, but I think the real reason we don't share our emotions is because most of the time, we don't feel anything. We just go about our daily lives competing the mundane, monotonous tasks that we have to do because we must--we don't question. After a while, we just become numb.

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xnZwJR6vys9a2wm7yWE4@reddit

Yeah, like how do you feel stuff except for frustration and anger?

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home_rolled@reddit

You may be right but I wasn't always this way. I used to wear my heart on my sleeve and tell people how I really felt. The world beat it out of me. This "numbness" is bullshit and I hate it

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Avocado_with_horns@reddit

I have shared my emotions with a lot of my friends. I will never share them with a woman tho. Never again.

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Mr-VVorldwide@reddit

true 4chan/redditor incel moment maybe you should date a bit before telling a girl about your foot fetish

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Isneezepepsi@reddit

unrelated kino provoking image

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freedomfightre@reddit

I never shared my emotions with a woman and not had it blow up in my face sometime after.

It's just not worth it.

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ChillbroBaggins10@reddit

I’d say bait but this definitely reads like an ignorant and scorned woman.

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herbal_S_ants@reddit

Men do cry, and share what's on their mind. Just with other men who speak the same emotional language, and out of the public eye. We don't make a huge display and go looking for sympathy from the world. I will never go to another therapist, especially not if they're a woman.

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Bernie529@reddit

Female fingers typed this.☕️

And she is wrong between. Most men do share but only with people they really trust.

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DefinitelyNotPine@reddit

I honestly feel like Ryuko looks good in her sailor uniform but women can't accept it. I tell them that even though it's commonly considered a middle school uniform, Ryuko is 18 making the statement in no way controversial but it's just too much for them. The hypocrisy...

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WrangelLives@reddit

Testosterone is the reason. When women go on HRT, they stop crying. When men have low testosterone for medical reasons, they get all weepy.

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Unwieldedshield@reddit

The reason is women will use everything they can to attack you in the worst way possible. Trauma dump? She gonna use all that shit as artillery when you get in a fight

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ahackercalled4chan@reddit

women ☕️

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SmoothSentiment@reddit

If you do that you’ll only use it against him

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Goaty1208@reddit

Because it's a self feeding cycle. Men don't talk about their problems, so they try not to think about them. When someone talks about their problems to someone else, this someone doesn't want to think about their probelms so they call the other a weak homosexual, encouraging the other to do the same to others.

At least, that's how I see it.

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Squire_3@reddit

I think you're right, and by not talking about feelings we get shit at it.

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Goaty1208@reddit

Yes, exactly. The worst thing one can do is just pretend to be strong and pretend to have no problems at all while refusing help. In my opinion, that is even more dangerous.

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SrDeathI@reddit

We don't share our emotions because they always use it against us in the future. It's safer to keep it inside.

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Mama_Mega@reddit

Parents. Parents are the reason. They're raised by people so violently opposed to their sons having feelings that their response to their sons showing emotions is threatening to beat them if they cry.

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ProtoLibturd@reddit

What sort of imaginary parents do you have?

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Mama_Mega@reddit

You really gonna stand here and try to claim your parents never said "you cry, I'm gonna give you a reason to cry"? A blatant threat of beatings over showing emotion?

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ProtoLibturd@reddit

Yep. My parents werent born in 1933

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Ssyynnxx@reddit

Damn thats crazy my parents were basically the opposite and i still have this problem, im starting to think its more to do with what every other man is saying about this male experience, what do i know though

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ShittDickk@reddit

Women say this then will have the worst day ever (jenny in accounting didnt say hi back) and snap at a sharing man, and he never shares again.

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Feisty-Necessary-908@reddit

Fake: Anon will never have a straight boyfriend because he is gay Gay: Anon is a guy

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TendieBot2000@reddit

be me

get home from my vasectomy

hear moaning and slapping coming from my wife's room

must be Chad again

know they would want privacy, sit down at my computer

log onto reddit and open /r/4chan

read a funny greentext from le 4chins and chuckle as I listen to my wife begging for the genes I can't give her

think of a convoluted way in which I can relate homosexuality and falsehood to the events in the greentext

suck the cheeto dust off my fingers as I begin to type my masterpiece in the comment section

Fake: Anon will never have a straight boyfriend because he is gay

Gay: Anon is a guy

giggle as I imagine the intellectuals of leddit perusing my incredibly witty and original comment

hear my wife moan with ecstasy as Chad floods her fertile womb with his seed

it's been a good day

i'll get lots of upvotes for my impressive contribution to internet culture, and Chad might even let me eat his cum out of my wife's pussy if he finds my comment funny enough