Do any of you think about visiting your worst school bullies, all these decades later?
Posted by mcsmooothearl@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 770 comments
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OutrageousMoney4339@reddit
I had three...
One of them was the first person to find me when joined facebook. We talked for a short while and I haven't heard from her since.
One of them just recently found me accidentally. We were sitting next to each other at a McDonald's play place while the kids played. I DID NOT recognizer her. Between the smoking and the tanning, she beef-jerkied herself and looks decades older (I'm 44, she's 46). She'd moved back to our town after spending years in Vegas to "help her mom". Really she came back because she was homeless in Vegas. At the time I saw her, she was looking after her brother's kids (a boy and a girl) and her sister's kid (a boy). Brother is back in prison, baby mamas are god knows where, sister's in rehab, baby daddy is also in prison.
And the third tormentor of mine is dead. He died of a heart attack at 31.
phukYerPrshsFeelngs@reddit
No, I learned from watching my boomer parents (who are emotionally stunted) that always holding a grudge is just letting your bullies win, over and over. I also found comfort in having empathy for my bullies, realizing that they were just kids and probably had shitty parents as well.
TinyWeird878@reddit
I had a bully say I was "ugly as cat shit". I occasionally think of him when I scoop the litter box. Otherwise, forgotten!
raddrobb67@reddit
My Jr high school bully was a big slow oafish guy. I just ducked his swings and jumped up and punched him in the face after every swing he took. After the fourth time he tried me in a year, he gave up and never bothered me again. I've heard he joined the military after high school, and it completely changed his life for the better.
fudgicle2018@reddit
I thought that's why Facebook was invented?
RED_IT_RUM@reddit
Not really. You come to understand that bullies existed because of problems at home which unless corrected carries into adulthood. Some of them really could use help, some should be pitied. Once school is out and life hits at 18, it can be like coming out of a dream for some as reality settles in. If I ran into one of them, I’d say hi and we’d go from there. A lot of it has to do with mob mentality, once they’re alone they are far more reasonable. To your question, no, I’m not going to bother seeking them out unless I have a good reason other than managing any lingering insecurity related to said bullying.
JTiberiusDoe@reddit
No, he went to prison for kidnapping and murder.
litlfrog@reddit
Thank you for posting this--it made me realize that I have forgotten almost all of their names. May they dwell in ignorant, unfulfilled obscurity in the same one-horse town we grew up in.
whyonearth11@reddit
I would have to visit my school bully in the Louisiana State Penitentiary. He was sentenced to 40 years for murder. So in the end Justice was served.
FujiKitakyusho@reddit
All designs on revenge I ever had evaporated when I realized that the worst possible fate that I could wish on my former bullies was, in fact, realized: Each and every one of them has to live their entire lives as themselves.
PandaCasserole@reddit
My worst Bully died of a heroin overdose after getting out. Not dinfinitive about how I feel about that
Magerimoje@reddit
I had 2 bullies, they were best friends and terrorized anyone who was slightly different.
One got brain cancer in her 30s which was found after she had a seizure on the highway and caused a massive wreck and almost died. Cancer was discovered while she was in the ICU... She suffered for 2 or 3 years before going on hospice.
The other one got breast cancer in her 40s and decided not to do surgery or chemo or radiation, but instead tried essential oils and other woo nonsense. I heard her last few months were horrific.
I don't want to call any of this karma, because i also know a lot of wonderful people that died of cancer including my prom date, a live-in boyfriend, and my first husband among others ...
but I'm also not exactly sad that these bullies can't hurt anyone else anymore. They were both highschool mean girls for their entire lives. How sad and miserable.
DesertRat31@reddit
Sometimes I feel a little sad (just a little) that their lives were so bad that picking on others is how they felt goid about themselves. I can imagine being very conflicted in my feelings about those kinds of outcomes.
530whiskey@reddit
My 2 bullies died in a car crash, they hit a high line pole and got fried when the wire feel on car. they only made it 4 years after high school, they lived a rough life.
ClownshoesMcGuinty@reddit
Okay first off:
Lovely phrase. I'm using it.
CuthbertJTwillie@reddit
To go alongside boo-boo je-be
Netninja00010111@reddit
Is there some cancer causing issue near you? I have know one person in my life with cancer. You seem to know a lot.
Historical_Stuff1643@reddit
Really? Cancer is pretty prevalent, like 20% of us will eventually get it.
slushpupguy@reddit
Tell the old guy what woo nonsense is please
NoGoats_NoGlory@reddit
Stuff that's "woo-woo" - crystals, incense, meditation, trying to cure an illness with apple cider vinegar, etc. Alternative medicine. Like all the crap that Steve Jobs did to try to cure his pancreatic cancer instead of, you know, modern medicine.
DiabloSerpentino@reddit
In the case of the one with brain cancer, I can't help but wonder if she'd already had the beginnings of it when she was a bully, and if it might not have somehow been causative. Either way, it doesn't excuse her behavior, but might possibly explain it (?). Something like the mass murderer who had the brain tumor.
Drunklebadtouch@reddit
It's OK to feel like this. My worst bully robbed me at knife point and previously broke into my parents' house. Life went on and heard 10 years later flipped his car ,broke his neck, and lost the ability to walk . He hung himself 7 years ago. I still get a chuckle.
BluesLawyer@reddit
Hanged.
He hanged himself. He was almost certainly not hung.
Cold-Conference1401@reddit
Was that response really necessary? Some would call it bullying.
Step_away_tomorrow@reddit
That made me laugh. From the comments your comment is inaccurate which is why I probably laughed.
Worth-Canary-9189@reddit
Speaking of bullies.
NevermoreForSure@reddit
ComesInAnOldBox@reddit
Had one that contracted some sort of cancer while we were still in high school. No idea which cancer it was, I didn't care enough to find out even though we were in the some grade. I didn't celebrate his diagnosis (he died about 18 months later), but I didn't feel bad for him, either.
He tried reaching out to me at one point, looking for some sort of absolution I guess, but I completely blew it off. I was the epitome of apathetic about it. And I don't feel the least bit bad about that today, almost 33 years later.
dingatremel@reddit
Wow. I just posted a very similar story. Some days I feel really bad, but for the most part, I feel nothing.
dingatremel@reddit
I had an experience somewhat similar to this, and I’m also not sure how I feel about it.
The screwed up parts are that (1) this wasn’t a childhood bully, it was someone who bullied me in college….totally different dynamic, though he really did make life difficult, and (2) ten years later, he reached out to me twice, the year before he died, to reconnect and presumably mend fences.
I never responded to his outreach but it was clear that he knew he was wrong and that he wanted to make things right.
Some days I feel incredible guilt for denying him relief from his remorse.
Other times, I feel completely indifferent to his life and death.
It’s fucked up.
Square_Song_2182@reddit
The only reason I heard about any of my bullies after graduation was because they died.
RiskyMilk78@reddit
Mine blew his head off shortly after graduating....
getaclueless_50@reddit
My bully was in an abusive relationship and was getting a divorce. She was having an affair with a married co-worker (pre and post filing the papers). Her husband followed them to a hotel and did the unimaginable. They had 2 kids that were left parentless, 1 of the kids was a cancer survivor. What a train wreck, I always felt bad for the kids.
idio242@reddit
Yeah - the ones in my street - his dad shot himself in his back yard and the other died of some medical complication. Going to go out on a limb and say the home life of the former led to his behavior and since the other the other won the unlucky lottery, eh.
TheRemedyKitchen@reddit
The best revenge is a life well lived. The fact that I live a wonderful and charmed enough life to never think about the kids that bullied me is good enough for me.
Space_Oddity_2001@reddit
I know that "letting go" is hard for some people, but this really is the truth. I stopped wasting time thinking about my bullies back when I was in my thirties and I was "work friends" with a person who was living in the area I grew up in and one day we just happened to learn that he was friends with my bully.
We were both aghast. I, because I felt a little betrayed that he was friends with someone who was awful to me, and he because he couldn't believe that such a nice person was ever a bully.
My knee-jerk reaction was "well she has you fooled, doesn't she???" but he kept insisting that "no, she really is sweet." I had a decision to make that day and I went with "well, you know what ... maybe she has changed. I hope, for her sake, she really has. And for the sake of the future, I'm letting it go. If she's changed, that's her story to rewrite, and if she hasn't, I'm sure it will come out in the end. In either case, she doesn't affect me anymore."
Either way, it's a real case of "not my monkeys, not my circus" anymore.
marefair@reddit
I had a similar situation. I was out with my boyfriend at the time and he asked if I'd mind stopping at one of his friend's house to drop something off. I said that was fine, we get there, the door opens and there he was. My high-school bully. I yelled out his name, he asked how I knew him and I told him my name.
His face turned white and he kept apologizing profusely. I told my boyfriend who he was and he couldn't believe it. When bully changed schools he changed and said that wasn't him anymore and wanted a chance to prove it. I reluctantly gave him the chance. He WAS a different person! My BF only knew the good side of him and was flabbergasted when we told him about how mean he was.
When the night ended we hugged and he thanked me for giving him a chance. After all these years I still can't wrap my head around how he changed.
BigSal44@reddit
That’s pretty impressive. Usually a leopard doesn’t change its spots.
Prune-These@reddit
Or living past it. If you’re still angry about what a bully did to you in high school then they still own you.
KCchessc6@reddit
You don’t see that in a lot of opera plots though. “Ludwig maddened by the poisoning of his entire family wreaks vengeance on Gunther in the third act by living well”
hollow_13@reddit
I agree, BUT when I found out he also went to prison for a while… I fully admit I smiled a bit 😂
xoomax@reddit
Well said!
LostOnTheRiver718@reddit
Eat shit and live, Bill.
kontrol1970@reddit
Truth. They either apologized and grew, or suffered the consequence of their own lives
r_sarvas@reddit
There is this. But I'd also like to tell their children what horrific shits they were as teenagers to explain the pattern of abuse their children also likely experience.
GloomyKerploppus@reddit
Yeah. This is the correct answer. Bullies bully because they don't like themselves. Just let them go on hating themselves. That's punishment enough.
jdn_dsnt_exist@reddit
Nah f that it's up 2025
jdn_dsnt_exist@reddit
Nah F that it's up 2025
Step_away_tomorrow@reddit
True but they think they’re fine. If there is a problem it’s the fault of anyone else.
BadLuckGino@reddit
I agree. In 8th grade, I broke my leg 2 days after 9/11 happened and when I came back to school with a cast on, my bully came up to me to see how I was doing. He went to sign my cast but instead, he laughed and proceeded to kick my cast smh 😠😡 fast forward 20yrs later and I saw an article on FB that he got arrested for attempted robbery at a gas station a few miles from our old middle school. Meanwhile, I’m living out of state, happily married with a sweet baby boy and working my dream job.
jsmitter@reddit
This assumes you are doing better than them.
abelenkpe@reddit
Exactly
HairyEyeballz@reddit
Saw my middle school bully at our 25th reunion. Still married to his high school girlfriend (who he had knocked up shortly after starting to date while still in school). Had five kids, a few of them already out of college. The guy had turned into a genuinely nice human being. Talking to him and hearing about his life honestly reconciled all my past animosity.
I had a much worse bully as my immediate supervisor for a couple years in the military. I was bitter about that guy for years, for any number of reasons. Then I learned that he died in a mudslide and I was actually giddy (although I felt bad for his dog, who died with him). That guy was a reprehensible piece of shit and the world is a better place without him.
East_Ad_2186@reddit
That’s pretty much the best revenge…sad as that is.
Cheechjohns@reddit
Very true! I had many bullies and one of them has become a good friend (we are in our late 40’s now). She apologized many times and isn’t the same person as we have all grown up. She leads a simple life but is well liked by most people, although some will never forgive for the torment she caused, and I understand that too.
consumeshroomz@reddit
I always did such a great job being unnoticed that I almost never got bullied. By the time I got to high school I had actually come out of my shell a bit and was friends with at least 1 person in every single clique. So on the off chance that say the jocks or something started picking on me I’d always have someone there who could be like “hey back off guys, he’s cool.”
Sensitive-Rip-8005@reddit
The one that tormented me for years ended up losing a good job due to DV and ended working at a gas station. I figured that was karma.
Though I did take a hard swipe at one bully that wouldn’t leave me alone with my crutch. I had a broken leg at the time. I had never done anything like that before but, damn it felt good. That did it and they never bothered me again.
LegitimateBroad@reddit
Yes! I turned around and punched one of my old middle school bullies in tenth grade. Maybe bully isn’t the right word. The abuse was mental, physical, sexual. It had mostly tapered off by that point in high school, but he thought he had gotten me alone and tried to do the things again, so I took a swing at him. He called me a psycho bitch like I should have put up with it.
This was Catholic school in the late 90s, though. His parents were wealthy lawyers. No way was he facing consequences. He never came near me again after I punched him.
I never looked him up. I don’t really care what happened to him.
Sensitive-Rip-8005@reddit
I’m sorry that happened to you.
LegitimateBroad@reddit
Thanks. I’m sorry you suffered as well.
JerkyCosmonaut@reddit
There were no bullies in my school growing up. They got their asses kicked.
ocTGon@reddit
Although I never really had any school bullies growing up, I was in the 3rd grade in Narragansett R.I. in the mid 70's. Every kid I met there was absolutely horrible and it was worst experience in my life in terms of school.
Oldman5123@reddit
Never.
PansiesandFairies@reddit
Oh I had many bullies I’d like to smear across the sidewalk!! If only they could see me now! Sadly looking back now at the bullies on Facebook even after all these years…they look like a bunch of dorks & Losers. Definitely not worth the time and energy Karma is a real bitch though 🤣
Bobo-Lou-808@reddit
After 6 years from graduating highschool. I decided to visit a popular sports bar hang out in the town I grew up in. I walked in and the were several of those, that picked on me and beat me up, inside this place. When I walked in, One of them walked up to me. He looked up to me and said. "Wow you got big". And I replied. "And you didn't". I drank at that bar, and never bought myself a drink for the entire time I was in town.
Top-Cost-9326@reddit
No, but work bullies.
sailinganalyst@reddit
Mine are buried out back 🤦♂️😜🤪😎👽
WinterComfortable726@reddit
I know you did not...
B0b_a_feet@reddit
I don’t because I know I’ve had a better life since school than any of them. Many of them peaked in high school and have since had nothing but failures.
Jason_TheMagnificent@reddit
I remember running into my elementary school bully in my mid twenties, high af and stumbling up to me saying he can still beat me up, smh
Future-Swordfish2305@reddit
Despite the fact that I have had a prosthetic joint in my right (dominant) hand for the last 21 years due to a middle school bully, I never think of him. But, I would like to run into him one day and tell him what he caused and how much pain I’ve had for the last 30+ years since he did what he did. It’s limited things I can do, due to the pain, but I never think of him until I see a reddit question like this. So, thanks for that. [
rocks in fetal position on the floor in the corner]😂😂
Rabid_Hermit@reddit
Grow up. Move on. They arent thinking of you. Don't think of them.
Lock_Time_Clarity@reddit
I was friends with the girl that dated my bully. 30 years later when I bump into them all is forgiven but not forgotten. I lived the live he was denied by getting married right after HS. I enjoyed his reaction when he learned about me flexing my boner at his woman when we were young and her not believing it was my dick and grabbing a handful. The class reunion was fun. I learned that their daughter is bullied. I reminded him of when he tried talking me into killing myself. I made sure everyone heard me. It was extremely awkward (for him). Any revenge I once imagined left my mind decades ago. He peaked at 16 and now is a lazy fat ass without friends. Meanwhile I’m still climbing.
BanjoFiddleLaser@reddit
Nope. I put zero thoughts or energy into people who are no longer in my life
Kasoni@reddit
About 10 years after high school out i was looking at pages of a few past friends and noticed one of them had a post about one of my former bullies having died from and overdose. Noticed "another one dies like this" started to look into it a little and it seems that those high school bullies were killing themselves off. It's been another 12 years and haven't looked again. I some times wonder if they are all dead already (the bullies not everyone from my high school, I'm not that old).
Relative_Sundae_9356@reddit
Why not just stand up to the bully?
LexRex27@reddit
No
Jsr1@reddit
I got a Facebook message, from one bully in highschool asking for forgiveness. Told him to go fuck himself ( this was 25 years after highschool)
TheRealRigormortal@reddit
No, because I’m a grown ass man
Bailer86@reddit
Nah.
SecurityOld2251@reddit
Not really, I've outlived most of them, so to me , that means I won!
TxGulfCoast84@reddit
Yes.. if I could find that guy I’d exact some form of revenge. 40 years later.
senticosus@reddit
I made my bully eat the gear shifter in his car at a stop light. Me:17 dipshit: 23.
He needed one more lesson after breaking a beer bottle on my head a party. I started telling scary people how I saw him with their gf or that he was talking shit about him. His car had no more glass unbroken and he received some random beatings on his home turf.
I fucking hate bullies
Electronic-Space-480@reddit
No. Checked one on FB and he was a fat slob. That was good.
Beefhammer1932@reddit
Nope. Never really think about them.
tonysonic@reddit
Both dead, not of my doing, I don’t even know the particulars. Looked them both up on Facebook.
ThrowawayMod1989@reddit
I don’t need to. Whenever I visit my shitsplat hometown I see them running the boring family businesses they swore they wouldn’t take over. With beer guts they swore they’d never have. And the look of men who’s dreams died in the decade after high school.
YarItsDrivinMeNuts@reddit
I don’t dwell on it. But there was at least 2 asshats in my school days that if our paths crossed now and they were on fire I wouldn’t even piss on them
Love4RVA@reddit
I can relate to how you feel.
ScarcityTough5931@reddit
I'm the reverse. I was the bully. Billy Madison is my all time favorite movie. This character made me think of a kid I used to bully and I wondered if he had a list.
He had a very unique name, so he wasn't hard to find. He lived rent free in my head for years. I found him on fb. And was very happy to see that he became pretty successful and had a beautiful wife and kids.
I transformed into a nice guy and have always loathed bullies since. I've helped people and protected kids and even adults from bullies for most of my adult life.
But I've often thought of that kid for decades. I'm glad to see he's doing just fine.
Love4RVA@reddit
Why were you a bully?
kstonge11@reddit
No. Why dwell on the past ? High school shit was high school shit.
LoveScared8372@reddit
I've been plotting revenge for about 3 decades now against about 12 people. The only thing that has stopped me is that my parents are still alive and I've been pretty blessed overall. I only have so much room to complain.
I did however make a promise to myself that if another person of a certain demographic ever crossed me again that I would snap a thousand times worse than the Zodiac. I'm hoping that doesn't happen though. I really wish these certain people would learn not to mess with white people.
People will probably think I'm joking but I'm actually deadly serious. I have a hair trigger temper sometimes and I know how to get away with things. I'm hoping God looks out for me so I don't have to do anything.
Guilty_Advantage_413@reddit
Nope
Nelnamara@reddit
My high school bully never left our home town is twice divorced, lives in a trailer and works at a tire shop. At my 20th reunion we were all casually having drinks and chatting about work and what not. Dude was actually targeting his old victims and starting conversations. The whole time flexing his job as general manager of the tire shop. My guy gets to me asking me what shit job I worked in my shit ass liberal city I made a B line for after school.
I’m a department head at a hospital university (I work in research). I never once broke eye contact with him almost the entire time he was there. He got uncomfortable and left in a huff shortly after when the topic shifted to Covid/Pandemic life etc. OF COURSE. He’s a denier and 9/11 conspiracy theorist.
TLDR/ I met my bully 20 years later and was satisfied that the universe was doing me a solid.
Chrome_Armadillo@reddit
After I graduated I planed to kill my tormentors if I ever found them in “the real world.”
Thankfully as the years passed I’ve forgotten their names. I remember what they looked like but I’m certain they look different after 40 years.
What would I do if I met them again? Probably nothing, but I can’t guarantee that.
Fire-the-cannon@reddit
In life’s circle some have come back around. Funny how after 10 or so years they forget what complete pieces of garbage they were to you, and others, and expect you to be excited to see them. My in-laws neighbor was a Lt I worked with back in the day when I dispatched for our local sheriff. Guy was a bully and just a mean guy. They talk about how great he is. I simply said my experience differed. My wife said something to me and I simply said he was a complete asshole to me the entire time I worked with him. Why should I care.
No. I don’t ever think about them. But when they pop up I remind them what assholes they were
iampoopa@reddit
I wonder about them sometimes.
I wonder if they remember being shitty.
At the same time, I hope they have had full rich lives.
I wouldn’t want to be judged by the worst things I’ve done.
NonMomentum@reddit
Nope! I wish them the best! I've moved on
MrAlcoholic420@reddit
I don't even remember their faces, let alone their names.
Ifyouhavethemeans@reddit
Met 1 or 2 since high school. I’m now 6’2” 220lbs, so they were humble about it.
nickjamesnstuff@reddit
Just realized I forgot that dudes name. About damned time. I can still taste that school bus seat stuffing.
Tiny_Addendum707@reddit
Only one who literally tried to drown me as a kid. I assume at this point they are already dead or in prison somewhere
Livid-Technology-396@reddit
I allow no man to live rent free in my head. From the pictures I see on social media, the bullies lives are all completely shitty compared to mine.
Kylebirchton123@reddit
There was a time when I met some guys who would pay them a visit and I thought that would be a good revenge, but then I realized I would rather do it myself.
Gunpowder-Plot-52@reddit
No. I know where he is and he is in a much worse place than ever I could wish him to be. He is homeless and I'm guessing an addict with as many times as I've seen him panhandling. Life has not been kind to him. He should've been nicer.
Tricky_Key_8314@reddit
Nope
BadChris666@reddit
My bully died 15 years ago in a meth lab fire.
Live like trash, die like trash!
InsuranceRound6705@reddit
I had 2 bullies,they were best friends. One became the high school gym teacher (was fired). The other became a prison guard, who later got busted bringing in drugs and selling the to inmates.
3fettknight3@reddit
"Man, I'm glad I called that guy"
DefinitionCivil9421@reddit
Naw I still see them in the hood, doing the same thing. Spending their paycheck on booze n drugs one paycheck away from being homeless. Wait that's me! Who am I to judge the poor bastards 😆
steinfink1@reddit
My neighbors son was a a hole bully when we were kids. Now he's a dallas chiropractor. I've had thoughts of leaving bad online reviews or showing up at his office, haven't and won't but man.....
blahfunk@reddit
evidently society likes these ppl from my childhood as they are all in positions of power. I am pretty sure we just elected one of them as president
BlackberryOrnery8643@reddit
Cantstandya !
moxiejohnny@reddit
No need, 2 of my bullies died on their own and left me pondering what fate would be my own.
Bully 1 took his own life, bully 2 was hit by a train. I have other people I consider bullies but those 2 took a chunk of myself with them and I grew up into a pretty great guy. I like to think when they died, all the weakest parts of me went with them.
WizardofSorts@reddit
I don't enjoy visiting prison or cemeteries. So, no, I don't want to visit them.
JustNota--@reddit
No never really had anyone that I would call an actual bully, I was a sports kid and tons of afterschool activities and helicopter parents. but I do have a person from my old neighborhood if I ever see breathing free air will not be for much longer and 100% worth the time correcting..
WaywardShepherdTees@reddit
Cops have already shot and killed 3 out of the 4 of my main bullies. The last one is a cop. :(
Itchy_Grapefruit1335@reddit
No I try not to live in the past
ScorpionDog321@reddit
No.
I rarely, if ever, even think about them.
And if I ever ran into one of them, I know enough to understand many of us were just stupid kids.
investinlove@reddit
My worst bully in jr high hung himself and I rejoiced in private.
Evening-Piano5491@reddit
If I grown past it….
OccasionStrange8955@reddit
I was both bullied and i know - didn't at the time, seriously - did at least some bullying. I still hate myself for those few memories. I would apologize profusely, and accept a non-lethal punch in the jaw.
PXranger@reddit
I work in a hospital, I had seen the name on the chart already, but never really paid it any attention, fairly common name. I was already familiar with their diagnosis when I walked into their room.
Didn’t really give me any sense of satisfaction, but I didn’t have any sort of empathy either to find out one of the people that made my life in high school a living hell was dying of cancer.
OccasionStrange8955@reddit
You're a great medical professional, I respect you.
Big_Profession_2218@reddit
I know how it makes me sound, but I think I would celebrate seeing something like this. The little rich asshole that humiliated me is likely still kicking, raising other little rich assholes just like himself. I would not go out of my way to find him but if by some crazy universal impossibility our paths did cross, he would be walking away a few less teeth.
starion832000@reddit
I would trade jail time to sucker punch at least one of them.
Twisted_Mists@reddit
No. Fuck them.
Lawst_in_space@reddit
Naw. I'm too busy out here having a good time, doing my thing. No need to let them live rent free in my head. I've come into contact with a few of them over the years. One sought me out to apologise and we're friends now. Several others were doing the mid-life thing of trying to make contact with people from highschool. I greeted them warmly and let them back into my life but most eventually ghosted. One flounced out, angry that my life had turned out so well compaired to hers. Found out from others that she was trying to show everyone how well off she was and rub it in their faces. Turned out everyone who let ber back in was doing better than she was.
Pmajoe33@reddit
Visit them by being a better person
William-Bumbersnatch@reddit
Fuck no. They are either pumping gas or Senior Executive Blah Blah Blah. Either way, what's the point?
mikedeelia@reddit
I found out via a high school friend one of mine passed away from Covid 19 .
BumpinBakes@reddit
Can’t. They died about ten years ago. Won’t lie.. I often wonder how
Standard_Yak2105@reddit
I even found my retired second grade teacher on social media and cussed her out.
CastleArchon@reddit
If you think about how you may have hurt people when you were younger, perhaps in different ways, it's quick to understand that you can also be the villain in somebody else's life. That's why we are commanded to forgive all men as God would forgive you.
SentientFotoGeek@reddit
Not a school bully, but a person who bullied me when I was a young man in the army. We reconnected 30 years after we'd left the service and he really is a different person. Glad I gave him a chance.
StrikingWedding6499@reddit
I just realized Con Air is the sequel to Billy Madison.
Aronacus@reddit
One died in a motorcycle accident
Second one found God.
The last one moved to Florida, where his Facebook profile is filled with him gushing over his job, driving a garbage truck. He seems to enjoy it. I can't hate him for finding happiness.
I've forgiven them all. Not for them, but for me. You'll feel a weight lifted when you forgive them. Even if you just say it out loud, alone.
Coachhoops@reddit
SB was a total mean girl in junior high. Just flat out cruel. I was the perfect target. Boy-barely 5’ tall-poor family-lots of freckles-maybe weighed 80 pounds-zero confidence, struggled with grades-etc. She was beautiful, well dressed, very smart, family money, popular, developed early, almost full-grown woman in 8th grade. She routinely said and did cruel things to me and others, but I was her favorite target. Senior year in high school she is the same (maybe a little heavier but not much). I’m a 6’5” all state athlete with a Division 1 athletic scholarship. A friend mentioned SB “liked” me and wanted to talk. It took me less than a second to say, “No.” Now, I occasionally see a picture of her on social media, and her photo must be taken with a wide angle lens. Very large and loves her margaritas.
airheadtiger@reddit
I don't think of my school days at all. Most people should not.
Captinprice8585@reddit
Come thru. Nerds.
Biscuits4u2@reddit
I don't have any hard feelings at this point for any of the kids who bullied me. I also still feel bad about giving a couple of kids a hard time back then. Kids are just mean and stupid sometimes. Most of us grow out of it.
jessewest84@reddit
Forgave them a long time ago. Most of them had fucked up patents and I feel bad for them.
Plus they made me tough as fuck.
Limp_Promise7708@reddit
I check up on mine on the online court system. All of them have DUIs, domestic abuse, and wage garnishments. Except the one who died in prison for running a meth lab.
That's good enough revenge.
CommunityOk2101@reddit
No. Visit the people who were good to you
Doublebass420@reddit
I had a way of navigating all the clicks in school. Even the bullies were nice to me.
amy5252@reddit
No. lol If u haven’t grown up and moved past that and realized it wasn’t you it was them, that’s not good
Fluffy_Government_39@reddit
If I see someone from high school who I dont talk to these days, I don’t even attempt. Like even if they make eye contact and we both know, I stopped caring about old acquaintances a while ago. It’s nothing personal, but I’m not gonna pretend were friends when we simply went to the same school
SpaceMan420gmt@reddit
Not really, but I did see one pop up on a mugshot once. That was enough revenge for me 🤣
ReverendFloater@reddit
I was the bully and trust me, it is pretty terrible constantly regretting all the terrible shit I used to say. I’ve since reached out to a handful of people and apologized but the regret doesn’t go away. Middle school is a motherfucker.
SunSpotMagic@reddit
Nope. I dealt with them at the time they tried to bully me. I refused to be bullied or walked over.
Strangebottles@reddit
I fucked his high school sweetheart in the shower in college so no.
Zardozin@reddit
I had my moment with my junior high bully. Ran into him in my early twenties. In junior high, he was two years older than me and still in the seventh grade. I’d grown a foot, while he was the same height and I was five inches taller.
He was under the impression we’d been friends.
I snapped a thick wooden broom handle in half, while trying to not to just beat the hell out of him in a public place.
So I had my moment. Mastered my anger and tossed it away. Gave it some thought and did my apologies to some people I’d been shitty to in the past.
Illustrious-Fill-518@reddit
I'd never seek them out. But if I ran into them I'd prolly be triggered. But, if I'm honest, probably nothing would come of it. There are 3 that really tormented me. And, as it turns out, when you grow bigger than your bully, he just brings friends with him.
That said, one of them died young....no tears shed by me. I googled another and found a custody case. He lost custody of his kids because of his dumb-assery. Having kids myself, that one has got to hurt. If I saw him, I'd mention it and see what happens.
But yes. They remain in my thoughts. Only occasionally tho.
JuanSolo9669@reddit
Yeah,I piss on his grave
Prof_Gascan9000@reddit
Accidents happen
NitrosGone803@reddit
People to visit? is this the edited cable version? It's "People to kill"
Business-Invite-2634@reddit
Mine ran into me with his wife, told her I was his best friend and the coolest guy in high school back then. I realized he was jealous the whole time. I felt stupid for holding a grudge against him.
Extra_Claim4648@reddit
Not going out of my way but if I saw one or two I. Public that didn't ruin their lives already .....yea
HaloHamster@reddit
Check this out, just before my mom passed, she added my lifetime bullies mother to her will because she felt that woman had a hard life. I didn’t have the heart to tell my mom. I also didn’t make the payout and put the money in escrow just in case. Sorry you don’t raise my bully and get rewarded.
ChefCivil289@reddit
Nope
Sotalo@reddit
My worst bully in school proved himself to be an asshole as an adult. Only this time on social media where everyone can see. Some people learn, others don't. But I never saw him happy. Just disturbed, in the way a perpetual self-absorbed homophobe can only be.
CavinYOU@reddit
Nope lol, iv learn to let go and grow. We all have issues even the people that hurt others need to feel the love. Takes a big person to understand that I think,
ThesePomegranate3197@reddit
Im 41 one now. One bully is dead (drug od) i still hate him, one is still out there. I've tried facebook and ig searching with no luck. If i ever saw him it'd be on site, even now.
im-obsolete@reddit
Seeing how they turned out is satisfaction enough.
ZormkidFrobozz@reddit
I can think of a couple, one I can't visit, and one that I did.
He died of cancer at 32. I'm not going to invoke bad karma on myself by saying "it was karma." Cancer sucks though, seriously, and 32 is too young for anyone to snuff it.
2 "Michelle." I met Michelle on the first day of 6th grade in middle school. It was a Friday. I know it was a Friday because the next day I got dragged to my dad's company picnic, and this ...girl... came up and started talking to me like she knew me. Even knew my name. 10/11 year old me was weirded out by that and wanted her to go away. Michelle was a regular bully from that day on. all the way through graduation.
Last year, I randomly got a DM from her on the necessary evil Zuckerbook. We chatted. Turned out she was a bully because she had a giant crush on me ever since that first day of 6th grade, and when I ignored her at the picnic the next day, she just thought I was a stuck up snob and a dick. All of her bullying through high school was because she still had a crush on me. I had to explain that, no, it was because I didn't remember her from the day before, so it was really weird that she knew who I was. Also, my dad was abusive and warned me that if he saw me talking to anyone at that company picnic, that he'd take me home and slam my face into the wall; so I really wanted her to go away before he saw anything. Well, he saw it. Slammed my face into the wall when we got home, as promised.
We met up for a drink or two and talked for a bit. Nervously laughed at the seven years of daily bullying that was caused by a huge misunderstanding and unrequited crush. It was obvious neither of us wanted to be there, so we just left it at that.
Alternative-Light514@reddit
This exact scene changed my whole perspective. Saw it in the theater with some buddies and when Buscemi walks over to this list and crosses Billy’s name off, my friend next to me leaned over and asked “how many of those do you think you’re on?” My days of being a prick for no good reason ended at that moment. Not because I was afraid of someone wanting to kill me (I wasn’t that big of a bully), but because it made me realize how something so stupid could have prolonged effects on the other side. Where the joke ended for me when everyone quits laughing, it sticks with them forever. I made strides to right my wrongs the best I could. A handful of them weren’t initially receptive and I don’t blame them, but they eventually realized I was being genuine and I wasn’t going to fuck with them anymore and actually stuck up for them a few times when I saw other people giving them a hard time. I learned that being nice to people was such a better approach to life and that you don’t have to get laughs at someone else’s expense. But yeah, Adam Sandler changed my life lol
derioderio@reddit
Is your name by chance Earl?
DamperBritches@reddit
Crab man?
Alternative-Light514@reddit
No, that wouldn’t be me
D3AD_M3AT@reddit
Wow I'm glad you posted this I had the same reaction from my brother, I was reading this thread thinking should I say something seeing how I was the bully.
I was a horrible;e human being as a teenager and school life was no different. I accidentally bounced into one of my victims a couple of years after we had both left school and I tried to apologise for my treatment.
To this day I regret my actions at school
GenXellent@reddit
Good on you. I too have reached out to try to make amends to some people I wronged back in the day. It’s a humbling thing to own something you said/did X years ago and ask someone’s forgiveness for it.
scobo505@reddit
I give Aldan shit every time I see him. He backed me into a corner in high school and I found he wasn’t so tough after all. I’d been scared to death of him. That was 1968 and I’m 74 now. I see him now and then and always make him recall the fight. I’m not the kind that forgets.
AnonyMooseical@reddit
Yes. To my chagrin. Regularly. But I'm at least self aware of my own stupidly that I know it would neither help me not make anything better
PeruseTheNews@reddit
The best revenge is a dish that never arrives.
oldsmobile39@reddit
Video made by Rammstein's Till Lindmann for that question.
oldsmobile39@reddit
Fyi: NSFW
jwalsh1208@reddit
No. I stopped letting them be a direct part of my life years ago. Can’t hold onto stuff like that. It’s poison in your veins and I can nearly guarantee they haven’t given you any thought since you all parted ways after school
PuzzleheadedGift5532@reddit
I wish I could be more like most of the commentators here. I am a lot older than GenX but systematically sought out the 9 individuals that did me dirt in my youth. I managed to wreck 8 of their lives and was looking for the 9th when I heard that he had died. I was very disappointed that happened as I wanted him to suffer more than he did. Again, I wish I was different but that is how I am.
duncanwally@reddit
I got a really satisfying experience about 25 years ago. In the 8th grade I got sucker punched by a kid left me with a good shiner. I ran away. Then 10-12 years later I saw him at bar and followed him into the bathroom and took the urinal next to him.
I said “ hey aren’t you *” he said “yeah” . I said “I’m *** remember me ?” He says “no”. I said “really? 8th you sucker punched me. You don’t remember that?” He started looking nervous and said “no” again. He then left the bathroom and the bar.
I didn’t approach him aggressively or anything. I wasn’t looking to fight or even really confront him. Watching him scurry out of felt good.
lemmylemonlemming@reddit
My weird ass brother told me one time, if I ever see so and so I'm gonna kick his ass. I was like dude. We're in our fucking 40s and that dude is fixing cleft palates in Africa for doctors without borders wtf is wrong with you?
YousAPenguinLookinMF@reddit
Former bully once walked into my office for a job interview. It didn’t work out. I really enjoyed that.
BecauseScience@reddit
I feel like if you do, you need some therapy.
Tuckerlipsen@reddit
I only ever had 1 bully and mostly got along with everyone.
BabyFishmouthTalk@reddit
I actually did, at a reunion. Confronted him casually after grabbing some shots and asking to talk to him alone. It was awkward then got deep. We got drunk and we went back to his hotel and got off together. Yeah so things didn't go like I expected, but everything worked out okay. Guess you never know.
NoMoreNoise305@reddit
I had one in the 5th grade. I tolerated it for a few weeks then stood up for myself. He had a couple of brothers at the school & word quickly spread that I damaged him pretty bad. The brothers usually jumped anyone who stood up so most people didn’t. I didn’t care at that point because I was tired of that shit. I’ll never forget exactly what I told him. So before school got out I walked up to him & said “I want you to jump me. I dare you. But you better remember, you have to come to this class everyday by yourself. Im gonna get you everyday”. Never had a problem again. For entertainment purposes only I looked his name up in the state prison system just to see if he had a record a couple of months ago. Sure enough he’s doing 15 years in jail. Fuck him 🤣
mbsmilford@reddit
No. Hopefully karma has caught up to them.
Hoosier_Daddy68@reddit
It was a long time ago, I’ve gotten over all that shit and it’s not like I was perfect either. Most people grow up and are nothing like what they were as kids. There are always a few that don’t but I’m not going to be mad at them, they obviously have their own issues if they’re still like that 40 years later.
ambular1018@reddit
I have encountered more adult bullies than I have ever experienced in high school.
Fuck-Reddit-2020@reddit
There is no need. Psychology has shown that bullies do not feel remorse for their actions. Some even feel good about the terrible things they do to people. Bullies won't change. meanwhile, I have moved on with my life and they are still an eternal piece of shit. I don't even think of them.
NorrisMcNorris@reddit
At my age, 57, and looking back at my schooling years, I've realized that I was bullied, and have been a bully myself. I've reflected on those times where I have been unkind to others, and it shames me to this day.
mac_attack4000@reddit
Same. I wasn’t bullied terribly but there were guys that were assholes to me occasionally. In middle school I took that anger out on a few guys weaker than me a few times, like shoved into a locker or something like that. It wasn’t anything like the psychological torture sone people inflict, but, like you, I still feel shame about it. I just HATE the thought of making someone feel less than!
NorrisMcNorris@reddit
I hear you friend, I've tried to forgive myself, and I hope those who bullied me have reflected on the actions they chose. Age mellows you man.
mac_attack4000@reddit
I think we can forgive ourselves, especially that that bullying behavior was just an extension of being bullied ourselves. I particularly remember one instance and I even remember the boy’s name, Luke. We were generally pretty friendly with each other but one day I had to “prove” to myself that I was “tough” too (news flash: I wasn’t) and shoved his head into a locker and said something mean to him. I can never get out of my head still to this day the just absolutely STUNNED look on his face; a look like, “WHAT THE FUCK, DUDE! WHAT DID I EVER DO TO YOU?!” I still feel terrible about it over 30 years later.
NorrisMcNorris@reddit
I've had a very similar thing happen to me. I take solace in the fact that I've raised my own kids to be inclusive and respectful of others, to have resilience and a quick wit to put bullies in their place before it escalates. They've had very little instances of bullying all through their school years.
Naive_Explorer_3438@reddit
Me too, but I had to learn to forgive myself. I did not have a mature mind back then. I also give those who bullied me the benefit of the doubt - they likely were bullied themselves or faced abuse at home.
Senior-Ad9616@reddit
I gratefully realized early on that if I kept thinking about them, I was still letting them bully me.
So no, I can’t even remember their names and faces.
Background-Banana574@reddit
No I don’t think about them and I honestly don’t wish them ill will. I’m broke, take my medication, go to work, have extracurriculars that make me feel fulfilled in my life, and I’m happy. I honestly hope they’ve turned their lives around became good people who feel tremendous shame for their past. Growth is important.
NorrisMcNorris@reddit
I hear you friend, I've tried to forgive myself, and I hope those who bullied me have reflected on the actions they chose. Age mellows you man.
Current_Ad_9912@reddit
I wasn’t bullied in school but I was kinda bullied in my 20s and early 30s.
I was lied about. lost opportunities and friendships etc when I confronted them. They were higher status. People will let anyone with higher status get away with anything, (I’m talking about the friends that knew the high status people were in the wrong) people will look the other way
So I’m still living with receipts from my past.
Horton_75@reddit
Occasionally, yes. I graduated from high school 30+ years ago. Was bullied repeatedly by 2 guys. They were bigger, stronger, and more athletic than me. I reported the bullying repeatedly. But outside of my parents, no one believed me. It was a rough 4 years, sucked every day. But I got through it, and got the hell out of that one horse shithole town. Went to college, got a degree, landed a very good job. Just celebrated 25 years there. Married my best friend/soulmate/dream girl in 2014, and we have had 10+ great years together. Things are good for me, and I turn 50 this fall. Not to over use a cliche, but to me the best revenge truly is living well. Plus, late last year I received a copy of the alumni newsletter from my high school, which talked about the class of 1994. They send it out every couple years or so. I read it, and it seems that one of my bullies was tried and convicted of domestic violence charges a number of years ago and is serving a lengthy prison sentence. The other was in a very bad car accident and suffered a serious brain injury. Surprised he had a brain to injure, but I digress. Not gonna lie, but a part of me-and not a small part-was happy to read that about those two assholes. I know it’s bad karma, but I frankly don’t care. Fuck those guys. They victimized me for no reason. I did nothing to deserve any of what they gave me. So…They got EXACTLY WHAT THEY DESERVED, and I continue to live a good life. 👍
Model_27@reddit
I actually hired mine. I had high hopes. He was educated and seemed like the right person for the job. From all appearances, he was a different person.
When I caught him in a lie, I fired him. Some things never change.
Old_Man_Logan_X@reddit
Not often. But when I do I appreciate how I actually benefited from it. It made me tougher and I take care of the bullies in life now :)
Rando1ph@reddit
This is a wild thread. I had no idea anyone hung onto high school for so long. It was so long ago, it doesn't even seem like the same lifetime, was I ever that young? I suppose I had the privilege of having a pretty good time in high school, so maybe that's why I was able to just move on?
Total_Fail_6994@reddit
I think you can forgive a childhood bully; they were children themselves. Not friends. Just forgive. Best for you too.
1-800-WhoDey@reddit
No. Not since the day I came to the realization they have not spent a moment thinking about me..and if they knew how much I had thought about them and how much I had let them negatively impact and dictate my life, they’d take immense pleasure in it. There is never going to be a cathartic moment or apology. Shit happens, I’ve moved on with my life.
Total_Fail_6994@reddit
My worst bully was my second grade teacher, Mrs Kramer, Lincoln School, Bergenfield, NJ, 1970. She was a sadist to children. The principal knew it. As a child, I feared her, literally pissing my pants from her cruelty and humiliation. I was lucky; some of my classmates vomited in fear, which resulted in further wrath. When I became a man, I swore vengeance and resolved to find her and show her what it's like to be to be abused by someone with power when you are small and weak. When I found her, she was long dead. I wept at her grave, but not why onlookers might think.
Agreeable-You-8223@reddit
Nah. Life has a way of sorting that shit out on its own.
jsmitter@reddit
I don't want them to recognize me and insult me again
Night_Porter_23@reddit
One of em took his own life a few years ago. Couldn’t have happened to a better guy.
He was violently abusive to many many people for years, and raped a friend of mine horrifically at a party. Even he couldn’t live with himself.
I try not to hold onto any grudges or hate any man, but the world is a better place for him being gone.
MagnumPIsMoustache@reddit
I got bullied by a guy that grew up to be a cop. Just an observation.
Night_Porter_23@reddit
I dont even feel like thats a progression. Sounds like he just stayed in his lane.
MagnumPIsMoustache@reddit
Yeah he was a turd kid that’s probably a turd cop
King_Of_The_Squirrel@reddit
Go to that grave and spit on it
Night_Porter_23@reddit
I mean, I get the sentiment, but I don’t even have the energy for that. He’s gone the world‘s a better place. I’m not wasting my time thinking about it.
Virgil_Exener@reddit
Bullies are almost always suffering some form of abuse - physical, sexual, emotional - or neglect, at home. They are suffering inside, and they try to find some relief by passing that abuse on to others they see as vulnerable. Knowing this, and truly understanding it, theoretically unlocks compassion and maybe forgiveness. Nonetheless, I still hope they all endure miserable deaths.
King_Of_The_Squirrel@reddit
"theoretically unlocks compassion"
Compassion only goes so far. Bullies don't pick out people who can defend themselves. They prey on the least threatening individual. Those individuals walk through the rest of their lives with an inferiority complex as a result.
Historical_Stuff1643@reddit
Nope. You can come out of it more compassionate because you don't want anyone else to feel the same. It's not an excuse.
Virgil_Exener@reddit
I don’t think of the trauma that bullies experience at home as an excuse, I think of it more as an explanation of the underlying mechanism.
Reasonable-Form-4320@reddit
Was bullied in grade school and held a grudge for a while. Completely disappeared when I happened upon his instagram and saw that he had ended up as a junk collector who looked like a heroin addict, living in a squalid hole. Karma isn't 100% perfect, but it delivers sometimes.
Gulf-Zack@reddit
Mine are all dead. Natural selection
Cafn8@reddit
There was one, but I let it go. Life dealt her enough blows.
valleysally@reddit
My bully is having to deal with her kids being bullies. I hope she realizes she reaping now.
HiddenHolding@reddit
I had one of my bullies make contact and try to smooth things over abut 20 years later. The whole thing, start to finish, sucked. If you bullied somebody, leave them alone. Odds are, they have forgotten about you, at least enough that it doesn't bother them on a daily basis. That dickhead showing up and trying to cleanse his conscience just dug up a bunch of old bones I had left in the ground a long time ago. But I wasn't all happy about his special mission, he started to show that he hadn't really changed that much. Like somehow I was ungrateful because he wanted to make peace and I didn't. To this day, I hope he stubs his toe in the middle of the night and steps on a Lego every time he gets up to take a pee.
Unlucky_Special_5702@reddit
My high school bully plays pro hockey, fuck that shit.
Mammoth_Assistant_67@reddit
I was the bully. I've apologized to all, but 1. I like to think that I had beaten myself about it long enough. Counseling helped a great deal, too.
Don't let bullys of your past live rent-free in your head. Move on and live a great life.
throwaway120375@reddit
I dont think of them at all.
Over_Season803@reddit
I wasn’t a bully, but could have been nicer. I do think about apologizing for not being that if I ever run into the more bullied kids from HS. If I could tell my 14 year old self one thing, it would be to stick up for those kids more. 😞
Imaginary-Wallaby-37@reddit
Yeah, I'd want to undermine their authority by telling their kids that their parents were absolutely awful.
Filbertthemerchant@reddit
I once worked with a guy in West England. I was training him as a Service Engineer. We happened to visit a house once and he recognised the family name. Says to me that it could be the guy that bullied him relentlessly as a kid all through his school life. I told him he didn’t have to go in. He said he wanted to confront him if it was in fact the guy. Well it turns out it was the guy. We finish the repair and on the way out the guy asks to speak with my trainee, alone. I left them to it for around 10 minutes, when he returned to the van. I asked him how it went and if he was ok. Couldn’t be better he says. The guy almost broke down and apologised for what he’d done and literally begged my work buddy for forgiveness. Turns out this guys son is being bullied at school and made him realise that what he’d done was absolutely unforgivable. What goes around, comes around.
mlvalentine@reddit
No. My time is worth more than that.
McLovin-Hawaii-Aloha@reddit
I ran into a big guy that used to physically torture me in high school at my reunion. He stated that all of the people that he bullied deserved it. He denied ever bullying me although he was suspended for beating the crap out of me (he was 250 lbs, I was 135 pounds at the time).. at the end of the reunion, I drove off in my Porsche and he hopped into his landscaping truck, complete with rakes. I feel sorry for him.. he must have had a shitty home life.
The_Master_Sourceror@reddit
Nope I was lucky enough to have a storybook ending to my bully saga. There was a kid a year older than me who bullied me when I was in the first year of middle school. Over the summer I grew (11”/28cm) and he didn’t. The first week of the next year we “ran into each other” and he decided to find other smaller targets. After that I was always one of the biggest kids in school so I wasn’t bullied.
starkiss1969@reddit
Just pull a Dan Draper whenever people say “you know when I think about you “ and then they say a bunch of things just turn to them and say I don’t think about you at all.
ipenlyDefective@reddit
Some people on reddit think Don was lying, and it was obvious, and it shows how insecure he is.
No, Don doesn't think about that guy at all.
I mean it's fiction, but that's my interpretation.
Due_Deal_6122@reddit
He’s been dead for 3 years, so no.
BirdLawNews@reddit
Meh. Seen my high school bully in the beer line at a concert a few years ago. He still looked pretty big and mean. I didn't feel compelled to catch up on old times.
AdRckyosho9808@reddit
Oh hell yes. That homoboy jay wyatt or mike clancy have a price on thier heads
Gabelschwanzteufel@reddit
There were a few I wanted to visit when I was younger. One of them was a gym teacher, I was a skinny kid, and he teased me about my size in almost every class. I hated that fucker!
Joebing69@reddit
I go out of my way to point out their flaws and assholishness.
For example, the class class reunion, those organizing wanted to do a golf outing.
Mind you, here we are almost 30 years later, and a number of the class members cannot physically golf for various reasons. No, they want an exclusive party that the rest of us pay for, instead of them paying for their usual foursome.
Several others who thought they were god's gift to the other genders are now REALLY not a catch. I laugh, as I'm still the same size as high school (6'1½", 160 lbs).
Some apologized in the first 3-5 years after high school, and we are friends. The ones that get this treatment are the ones that still think they are the best thing that ever happened, no matter how much of a failure their lives have been.
Necessary-Shape3839@reddit
There's a Korean drama called The Glory on netflix about a woman who spends 30 years plotting her revenge against her bullies, really well done.
3006lmr@reddit
Baby boomer here. I once thought of finding the one guy that f-ed with me. Not to do anything violent but, to inform him that on that specific Friday night, we both came very close to having a life changing moment. 15 yo rage. Violent rage.
Kenji1912@reddit
I sometimes hope karma bitch slapped them
Cata_clysmm@reddit
Of course not, that would be wrong.
CoverCommercial3576@reddit
I’m sure mine from the projects are dead. Those evil fuckers.
Turbulent-Candle-340@reddit
Not bully per se but this bitch named Brandi from nursing school hated my guts because I was “too nice, she’s hiding something” and “she thinks she’s cute” all while looking like Spiderus from Ms Spider and the Sunny Patch Friends. I’d definitely like to have a chit chat since I’m not so nice anymore.
proffesor_f8@reddit
I was at a 40yr class reunion a while ago, I was talking to a group of friends and the class bully strolled up and tried cutting in on the conversation, asking how I was, I showed him the surgery scar on my head from a brain bleed and said I had no recollection of him at all. The look on his face and everyone around him was priceless, I turned my back on him and walked away with a huge grin on my face.
Remi708@reddit
I don't think about them at all. Not going to let them continue having power over me.
Repulsive_Tie_7941@reddit
No. But I wasn’t sad to hear when one OD’d.
Not necessarily a bully, but the worst of the mean girls was paralyzed in a nasty car accident.
Primary_Leek_3239@reddit
I don’t remember anything from that far back.
JayMax19@reddit
Lord, one of them married my sister. So that happened.
“Remember that time we fucked up your car? Sorry about that…”
copperdoc@reddit
A few years ago, I got a fb message from my high school alumni page that someone had passed. Cancer. I checked out his facebook page, saw his nice life in pictures, a beautiful wife, cute kids and nice house. He was my 7th-8th grade tormentor. I actually got him to stop by just asking him what his problem was, and that I was actually pretty cool. (Total reach, giant nerd) and we got along for the last few months of the year. I barely saw him in high school, the occasional passing is the hallways, no conversation, not even eye contact. And still, after nearly 40 years, the feeling of getting body slammed onto the grass because “the sidewalk belongs to me” never really left. And I am ashamed to say it, I really am, but I remember softly saying “I win” as I swiped the page.
techman74@reddit
Two of them are already in heaven or hell and the 3rd is serving time, so not really.
Worth-Silver-484@reddit
Why is this in gen x? If you havent gotten over your grudge yet you need therapy. High school was 30+ years ago. With that said. 5 years after high school and 4 years of construction i was much stronger and fit with a different mindset. It did not go well for him.
GloomyKerploppus@reddit
I was never bullied. I had to stand up for myself only once and from then on I was never bothered.
That would-be bully ended up dying in a drunk driving accident two years after high school. Still, I think visiting bullies and confronting them is a total boss move and I'm looking forward to reading some stories here. ✌️
DEADFLY6@reddit
Nope. I did see one by chance working at a gas station. Dude weighed 300 plus. He had those red scabs on his legs. It looked like he was miserable. Every step was a monumental effort. (He was cut back in school). I didn't even recognize him. My dude told me who he was. You'd think I would be glad, seeing him like that. But, I actually felt sorry for him.
ReadRightRed99@reddit
I never felt it was all that bad. I now like most of the people that were higher on the social pecking order than I was as a kid. No grudges that I can think of.
virtualadept@reddit
No, because I could frankly give a shit about them these days.
The universe seems to go in cycles on a lot of scales. What goes around eventually comes back around, and I fucking love standing on the sidelines laughing when one of them gets ganked. And the best part is, I'm not liable for it.
Notfirstusername@reddit
Fuck no. I am rich now!!!! Ain’t no one got time for those losers
Star_BurstPS4@reddit
Even when it was happening this never crossed my mind
Ok-Trash-8883@reddit
My bully in middle school ended up being bullied herself in high school. So karma. She also went on to have addiction issues and crippling insecurities that led to abusive relationships and mental health struggles. She went on to write a book about her experiences and there was a chapter about me. She changed my name but wrote about it. She found me through FB and shared it with me along with an apology for what she put me through.
New-Street-9119@reddit
I have been waiting for the day that I run into my old bully. I already have it planned out the way he’s going to die. Excruciatingly slow and in front of his family.
Lokean1969@reddit
Nope. I smoked the tires leaving those a-holes and never looked back!
tootallp@reddit
I was a big kid, so my bullies were a year or two older than me. But I ran into the worst of them at a bar a few years after high school, and he apologized for being a dick. I just said "what doesn't kill you". But just as I said it this absolutely beautiful woman I had just chatted with. Interrupted my our conversation, by grabbing me and kissing me in front of my bully. "Sorry gotta go, nice catching up"
gloomflume@reddit
uh huh
Commercial_Wind8212@reddit
And everybody clapped
ghostofstankenstien@reddit
I was one. I see that now.
I've been on an apology tour for 20 years finding them where I could, apologizing, and begging for forgiveness.
I never physically bullied anyone. Nothing like that.
But I should have been better.
MickerBud@reddit
I wasn’t a bully all the time and was bullied on many occasions but there was a few times I was a really horrific to a couple of people. One could have been my best friend and to this day have no idea why I bullied them. One of them is dead and the other is a successful doctor. Found them on truepeoplesearch dot com. Only way to find true peace is to ask forgiveness and it’s so hard. Still trying to work up the courage.
Love4RVA@reddit
Why were you a bully in the first place?
gloomflume@reddit
not visiting, but if i saw them in a burning car i’d just keep on driving.
Chase_9291@reddit
Most of them are living shitty lives.
VomitComet62@reddit
Mine is a germaphobe who lives w his 90 yr old dad….never married… he sucker punched me w an armload of books…collapsed my sinus bone n deviated my septum….50 yrs later, i cant breath out of my one nostril…he bullied many guys in our class & had a terrible home life
JunkDrawer84@reddit
Nah. I’m over it. There’s a few I’d just like to ask questions of why they were such an asshole. But I guess I was lucky. Compared to others, i had it good. There were just sporadic periods of people being trash towards me. But it was never constant. Thank god I didn’t go to high school during smartphone era though. I just imagine anytime I was messed with, it would live forever online in video form.
aDrunkenError@reddit
Mercilessly bullied for being gay in middle school, despite being straight, but unwilling to allow myself to be offended because my older brother was gay and it didn’t feel right to allow that to be an insult. I transferred one school over and started wrestling, every day of every week of every month for 6 years, becoming one of the nations best, even top ranked as a freshman, being so close we saw that school often at tournaments and meets, the coach was the vice principle who ignored my pleas for help, so I took my sweet time coming up with the most creative ways to inflict maximum pain, I’d often get them crying before I’d drag them to the side of the mat their girlfriends were sitting, then I’d start cross facing until their nose was bleeding from both sides and upper lips shredded. They’d spend the few minutes trying to stop the blood while I placed the side of the mat while the rest of my former bullies looked on horrified at what I’d become. If I caught their gaze, I’d subtly point to the mat in a “you want some” kind of way, not that that was how it worked, but it was fun to watch them squirm at the thought of being brutalized by the “little f****t” they formally knew me as. I’d shake hands with the coach and holding my gaze into his eyes to ensure he knew the pain I inflicted and the blood I spilled was on him. He later was nominated for the Coaching Hall of Fame, I spoke at the hearing explaining why he didn’t deserve it, and afterward he apologized, but his biggest regret was losing me, not helping me. I looked at him and said I’d forgive him if he exhibitioned me, he laughed, I didn’t, he stopped when he realized I was offering to do the same to him as I did his wrestlers.
After graduation, I moved on with the most beautiful girl in town by my side, my career flourished, got to move around to the continents most beautiful cities, while they stayed in that shitty town running the quarter car washes with ugly wives divorcing them.
I won and would’ve won without the wrestling part, I just added that because I thought some of you may enjoy the imagery of your own bullies in that situation.
Whole-Essay640@reddit
At the cemetery maybe.
BeastieO@reddit
Guy tried to add me on instagram a few years ago, quick decline. Buddy of mine was visiting when I saw it and I told him I was excited to decline. He was like dude people change then explained how they were mildly friendly (both live in the same old town). I don’t give a shit if he were literally next door to me. That guys a piece of shit, always will be. Matter of fact I daydream about the interaction we may have at our 20th HS anniversary party - which I doubt I’ll attend. I go from wanting to snub him to embarrass him or even provoke him. Frankly I’d kick the shit out of him these days, at 13 - not so much, but now - he’d be a piece of cake. Not worth it one bit of course - luckily for me I have a lot to lose. Probably snub him.
BigTime76@reddit
No... And I haven't attended any of my class reunions.
Paahl68@reddit
I saw the guy who bullied me a few years ago at a grocery store. He didn’t recognize me I don’t think, buuuut he was driving a really old Buick with whiskey plates. So there’s that.
jericho74@reddit
That list should have inspired a Krzysztof Kieslowski Dekalog style film series about each bully, with Billy Madison as One
No_Cow_4544@reddit
No , but as a lot of kids do throughout school I had a small share of being bullied and being a bully myself . I regret the latter because that was something I could have refrained from . I hope my kids are on neither side of the bully spectrum.
shamashedit@reddit
Nope. Therapy and I don't care because I'm enjoying my life.
SpreadsheetSiren@reddit
Not really, but I had an interesting experience when I went to get a haircut one evening. The woman taking care of the customer next to me kept glancing my way. Thought it was a bit weird, but tried to ignore. I’m done and walking out of the place when I hear a voice behind me call my name. Turns out the stylist next to me was one of my school bullies. She was now in a 12-step program and was working on apologizing and making amends. It was a little awkward for us both, but we ended up hugging and I wished her well.
Wherever you are, Janet, it’s okay. We’re cool. ❤️
twstdbydsn@reddit
I barely remember who any of them were these days.
red286@reddit
Same, but that also applies to practically everyone else I went to school with.
I got an invitation to my 30 year high school reunion last year and I looked at the list of people who were going and did not recognize a single name on the list.
TeamShonuff@reddit
I would argue that if you don't remember them, they weren't bullying you.
twstdbydsn@reddit
I mean it wasn't the worlds worst bullying, but it was enough. I just don't think about too many people from high school much these days. My 15 year reunion was great though, because I had a really cool job and all the jocks and dudes who made fun of me were jealous.
CommentFool@reddit
Same, but partly because the one who was the worst to me is/was older and I'm not sure I ever knew his full name. I probably couldn't have looked him up 5 years later, much less 35 years
morthanafeeling@reddit
He'll No.
morthanafeeling@reddit
I hated high school, don't want to see anyone from then.
StraightBudget8799@reddit
Same! I might get a vague memory because of a similar or same first name now and then. There’s a name or two I definitely wouldn’t call my kids, for example. Thankfully there’s some nice people with similar/same names since those times that have superseded the “old bad names”.
The best revenge is not only living well but pursuing your passions without them poisoning the goals/relationship to similar or same. You can’t hold yourself back because “that was their thing / everyone/they said they were the best at X”.
I know for a fact a few of my achievements would have some old jerks really green with envy, but ultimately I had to make the decision “do I really want this? Would I want this goal even if I never met them and knew their similar interests/goals?” And that helped.
LabradorDeceiver@reddit
Why visit? We've got the next best thing: Search engines.
I wasn't particularly bullied in middle school - a bit in high school, maybe - but one of the most notorious bullies in middle school has a hell of a rap sheet forty years later. It's not a huge surprise; his whole hat was "I'm the toughest guy in the room and I desperately need to make sure everyone knows that," which, while it might go far when you're twelve, doesn't really work for, say, DUI traffic stops.
Every once in a while I like to Google his name to see what he's added to the list. One year he rolled an eighteen-wheeler that he was not licensed to drive. Another article featured the words "hostage situation" prominently. Then there was "welfare fraud." I'm sure he proved to all the judges and lawyers that he's just the toughest person ever.
Otherwise-Tip6599@reddit
After transferring to a new school, I got bullied by two 6th graders. I was in 4th. At the end of the year, they told me all the stuff they were going to do to me on the last day. They ditched. I was terrified until they were no shows. About 9 or 10 years later, I bumped into 1 of them at a local party (the other guy was in prison). I walked up to him and said, “Hey Bill, remember me?!” He looked me up and down and said, “You got big!” (I was playing waterpolo). I just smiled and told him to be careful who he fucks with. And walked away.
mr_bunk@reddit
I was violently bullied for years as a youth and occasionally still think about my abuser. He apparently drives a tow truck and has “found God” although I doubt that has changed him from being a scumbag. I would never risk doing anything that could ruin my life to get revenge but I won’t lose any sleep if he gets the world’s worst case of asshole cancer.
Chuuby_Gringo@reddit
It's like to cross paths with him. I've learned his dad used to beat the shit out of him. He's a counselor or therapist now. Sounds like he broke a chain, and I'm glad
stubept@reddit
My bully - who picked on me because I was small and smart - barely graduated high school. And like all big, dumb, lazy bullies, his only option after high school was the military. So he joined the Marines. Then 9/11 happened and he got shipped off to Iraq where he was promptly blown up by a roadside bomb.
So now he's a hero and has the street and section of highway near our high school dedicated to him.
Not sure how I feel about all of that.
GenitalCommericals@reddit
Guy lives in our hometown still and last I checked on him, he turned into kind of a directionless loser. So, while I am definitely not killing it at life, I know I’m doing better than that miserable fuck.
Covfam73@reddit
I wouldn't i was nearly killed by my bully (not hyperbole) and they are pretty scummy to this day and a bully and from what I've understood was in jail for his 4th time recently so obviously i wasn't the only person he was a problem with. Not all bullies are just misunderstood some are actually terrible humans
DaveFoucault@reddit
You hit the nail on the head. Our school bully was moved to Australia - our school was in New Zealand - by his extremely wealthy parents when he was 17 to try and avoid the consequences of his actions. The culmination of which was the night of the end of high school party when he abducted the British exchange student - who was nearly two years younger than the rest of our year - tied him up, drove him to the middle of nowhere and abandoned him naked with a mop handle inserted into his rectum. This is only an example of the type of things that guy got up to. I have googled him a few times over the past 25 years. For a long time he was the CEO of an Asian multinational based in Singapore. Last time I looked was a couple of years back and he had retired at 50 and his new house was being featured in an architectural magazine and his ex-model wife had started a business giving shonky health and well-being advice. I would be very surprised if this guy wasn’t still a terrible human.
Recarica@reddit
I need to know if the kid he abducted turned out okay. That’s absolutely awful. I assume he survived that incident physically but that is absolutely horrifying.
DaveFoucault@reddit
I don’t know sorry. All I know is that his parents flew out to New Zealand and collected him and that the police were never involved in any way. The incident only became common knowledge in our town because of another kid in our year whose mother - who was one of the attending ambulance officers when the poor British kid was found - told her son what happened, and he told the rest of us.
Astralglamour@reddit
Would be fitting if some of his past exploits were Exposed now that he’s high profile…
keeperofthegrail@reddit
You would need to be careful that you could back it up with evidence - if the guy is wealthy and you start making allegations you could end up on the receiving end of a libel lawsuit.
Astralglamour@reddit
If it’s true hed lose. But yes they’d need proof.
Recarica@reddit
Indeed.
anosmia1974@reddit
That moved-to-Australia bully sounds like he goes way beyond regularly bullying and is a straight-up psychopath...or at least he is someone who grew up in a wildly dysfunctional, abusive, psychopathic home.
I can't imagine the trauma that poor exchange student felt, especially since he was so far away from home and his family. I hope he got plenty of psychological help over the years.
PutridWorth938@reddit
Psychopaths share many of the same characteristics of successful CEOs.
anosmia1974@reddit
I was just coming here to say that.Research has shown a possible correlation between psychopaths and CEOs, and I wholly believe that, even though the majority of my CEOs have been fine (at least as far as I knew). Only one was most certainly a psychopath.
I'm not surprised that DaveFoucault's school bully/resident psychopath turned into a successful CEO!
Verbositor@reddit
Sounds like he could be a U.S. Supreme Court justice.
DanielBG@reddit
Swirling Archer?
BillyBainesInc@reddit
20 7ears ago I ran into a guy who recognized me….. after a few questions he said " yeah yeah yeah I hung out with them " he was alll excited and happy. " so you were part of the group that ran me out of that middle school!" He went quiet and white and never talked to me again….it was funny
Mundane_Bad594@reddit
The fact that he never apologized. 💔 glad to hear a funny story out of it though
BillyBainesInc@reddit
He wasn’t the ringleader…. He was one of those kids trying to not be the target. It does not excuse things he participated in but he was trying to survive in a bullying Wild West era
dingatremel@reddit
One time, I ran into my older brother’s bully in a bar. He was kind of broken down, drunk, fat. He seemed like a sad dude. He recognized me and was very eager to connect. Desperate to connect, possibly, with anyone.
By this time, I was running with a crowd that was…..rougher, let’s just say. The guy I was with was an especially dark dude.
I quietly explained to the friend I was with that this guy was a piece of shit and we weren’t sticking around. My buddy sat there silently and just sized the guy up. At one point, the guy starts telling us about how my brother was a great guy who just had a hard time in high school, and how he got picked by this guy’s friends for being smarter than everyone else.
At that moment, my buddy, out of nowhere, open hand slapped the bully right in front of the bartender. Like something out of a movie.
My brother grew up to be a very thoughtful, kind man. I’ve never told him this story because I know he would disapprove.
I personally approve.
Cruitire@reddit
I have let go of a lot from that time, but even so, that doesn’t mean I want to see those people ever again.
smoosh13@reddit
Deanna. Terrence. Stacy. Stacy. Sean.
I clearly haven’t gotten over how badly I was bullied.
Koolest_Kat@reddit
I check ever so often, 4 kids, 3 wives, all divorced, currently doing a dime in state prison…..
Remarkable-Ad2285@reddit
My 5th grade bully is a security guard at my son’s school. I always make it a point to come up to him and say hi. I’m sure that he doesn’t remember me. His henchman (who I soundly whooped) I’ve never run in to.
fqdupmess@reddit
I haven't thought about it since I saw this post, but I met one in Walmart years ago. He's in a wheelchair. We were civil but I'm good. I was the new kid in the neighborhood and school and him and other people gave me a hard time for years. I have no desire for meet ups. I don't give a fuck about them. I've moved out of the area and live my life
Useful_Raspberry3912@reddit
If you're still worried about high school 25 years later, then the problem doesn't lie with the bullies.
BadLuckGino@reddit
Not really. In 8th grade, I broke my leg 2 days after 9/11 happened and when I came back to school with a cast on, my bully came up to me to see how I was doing. He went to sign my cast but instead, he laughed and proceeded to kick my cast smh 😠😡 fast forward 20yrs later and I saw an article on FB that he got arrested for attempted robbery at a gas station a few miles from our old middle school. Meanwhile, I’m living out of state, happily married with a sweet baby boy and working my dream job.
Wooden-Glove-2384@reddit
No
I have moved past the trauma of my youth
And, lots of them are in prison/dead/fat and sick
Niccolo91@reddit
One memorable one but he died of heroin OD few years back.
Introvertedtravelgrl@reddit
I don't even remember their names or faces unless I unearth my year and look for the people I drew devil 😈 horns on them. So, no.
I_AM_DEATH-INCARNATE@reddit
I see some kids that weren't nice here and there in my hometown, and it's clear they're past their peak.
Some of the dudes I don't even recognize, my wife will point them out and say "isn't that so-and-so from high school?"
Save for one prickish dude, most of the bullies did themselves in. The one who's successful is doing what he loves on a large scale. I ran into him when he came home once and he seems to have grown up and matured, I liked talking to him for the five minutes we caught up. So no, I don't have any revenge fantasies.
Me, on the other hand... I was fat in high school. I'm not fat now. And I dress well. So I present as someone successful, everyone thinks I'm much better off since I graduated. Truth is I'm unemployed, stay at home dad and living off crypto gains. I'm everything I hated about society a decade ago.
Wherever-At@reddit
I dealt with the bullies when I was in high school. I never understood why they wanted to pick on me, I was 6’ and came in at 235 lbs.
Two guys thought it was funny to crash into me while I was doing the combination on the locker. After two warnings they kept it up until I caught them and returned to favor. I broke one kids wrist. Nothing was said because they didn’t want to admit that they lost that game.
No matter where I sat a kid would set behind me and stick me with a very sharp pencil. Again after several warnings he continued. The last time I picked him and his desk up and carried him to the hallway and dropped him. I then told him in a loud voice “Sit”. Walked back into class and was sent to the principal but the stabbing stopped.
I think they finally decided it wasn’t a good idea and that I wasn’t the new “city kid” that had moved to the country. I spent my summers working on my uncle’s 600 acres cattle ranch.
Wahjahbvious@reddit
No, but I did google him a few years ago out of curiosity. Bastard looked great.
ResponsibleArticle58@reddit
If you had no bullies in your life means you probably were the bully, just sayin
FarceMultiplier@reddit
I still remember their names, and if I see them apply with my employer, I will recommend trashing their application.
GruncleShaxx@reddit
I don’t have to because most of them are in jail or dead
NotDougMasters@reddit
I was bullied pretty badly in 8th and 9th grade. Though I don’t think about them much, 30 years later, i also wouldn’t piss on my bullies if they were on fire.
Fresh-Preference-805@reddit
My bestie from high school went to the reunion and told me all about how my bully came off like a crackhead- a witchy crackhead. I was 100% there for it. All I needed. Resolved ☑️
daddyfatsac@reddit
Not especially, but I did get a touch of smug satisfaction when I hooked up with his sister ten years after high school.
platypus_farmer42@reddit
The guy who was the biggest school bully in junior high ended up killing him self decades later. Which was pretty sad because by the time high school came around he had turned himself around. As an adult he had 4 kids and even published a book
Mueryk@reddit
I can’t even remember most of their full names. Why would I care enough to look them up
Instant_regerts@reddit
I’m too busy living my own life to be worried about them. In the scheme of things they really don’t matter to me. If I’m living my life based on them I’d be doing something wrong.
Hurryeat_Tubman@reddit
Mine was murdered and her body was dumped into one of those lagoons of pig shit that dot the industrial farming landscape.
Ghostofmerlin@reddit
Nope. No interest.
Comprehensive-Virus1@reddit
every time i watch law and order...
ZetaWMo4@reddit
No, I dog walked her ass in high school so now we’re even.
Hurryeat_Tubman@reddit
https://i.redd.it/4l2n04ts1tce1.gif
Worth-Canary-9189@reddit
You really should provide a little more detail. No doubt there is some deliciousness in there.
EffectiveAccurate736@reddit
My grade school bully died a few years ago in a motorcycle accident. Looking at his social media, he was still a jerk. So the next time I was in town, I peed on his grave.
Now I can let go.
StrummerBass101@reddit
Mine got hit by a train lol
VirtuaFighter6@reddit
Don’t live in the past.
Science_Matters_100@reddit
I can’t say that I was bullied myself, but I know someone who was, and even after all these years he will sometimes mention the book that he is writing about his bullies/abusers. It’s terribly sad that so much energy goes into that struggle; I’m glad that I was kind to him and have nothing to fear from any books, and I just hope that he gets the peace that he should have always had. The bullies really missed out- he’s not only wealthy but an awesome person. I told him to make sure everything is in a trust before he publishes 😂
floppy_breasteses@reddit
Nah. The worst of them have pretty shitty lives now from what I can see. Prison, divorces, drug problems. According to a wise man, the best revenge isn't living better, it's living longer. I'm on track for both.
ethan__l2@reddit
I've never even considered this. I don't ever want to see my co workers from my last job again let alone assholes from grade school.
falcopilot@reddit
I may show up for my 50th HS reunion and see who's still kicking... if I'm still kicking. Then again, about 25 years ago there was a rumor I'd committed suicide (it was someone from Kansas with the same name), and I never saw a need to correct anyone, so... surprise!
CurvyGurlyWurly@reddit
The kid who picked on me in middle school? His cousin is my dentist, and I got some back-story. Bad home life as a kid, wasted adult life on substances. I know that hurt people, hurt people. I hope he's OK tbh.
Val-E-Girl@reddit
I really just want to see them all as fat alcoholics.
GorganzolaVsKong@reddit
A friend from high school died and his brother was a few years ahead of us - all his friends came to the funeral and one guy was a prick. I just went up and said hello - he didn’t remember me but we talked - he was a sad guy - sort of faded and it was like oh shit - he’s just a sad little guy
Ill_Calendar_2915@reddit
My bully was just in elementary school when I was so uncool and she was so mean to me. Fast forward to junior high and I sort of blossomed. I’m at the roller rink on a date with this very good looking boy. She was there poor thing turns out she was totally in love with this guy and had to watch the too shy uncool girl skate with him all night long. Total karma moment. Now she’s actually really nice and married and happy. I’m glad because after the skating I figured we were even.
Admirable_Average_32@reddit
I’ve had a few bullies in my life and I have let go of any feelings I had about them long ago.
I learned that “hurt people, hurt people” and those bullies must have had it tough at home. I didn’t. Even though my parents were divorced when I was young I still always felt loved.
I’m sad for the bullies of the world because they’re in pain.
nerd_of_gods@reddit
Nah -- I kicked mine in the balls in the middle of PE in 7th grade
Ghastlyguitarist77@reddit
Not really. I wouldn't befriend any today, but at least time has passed to the point that basically everyone I graduated with are now complete strangers to me.
I'm good with that. F*ck those people snyhow.
Glittering_Emu7562@reddit
I destroy them in my dreams…other than that I wouldn’t give them the time of day!
WhiplashMotorbreath@reddit
I don't even remember their names. so, no.
never heard of her.
lincolnlogtermite@reddit
I hated my high school years, I was obese and tormented. I have not gone to my last 3 reunions. Now that I am much trimmer and much more fit now than during my high school years, I'm thinking about going to my 40 year reunion.
RobNY54@reddit
Every day actually, I revel in stealing my bully's gf and getting him arrested for robbing the local convenient store because my dad was a cop. Just last year I had a hand in his business going under. I'm not done either..
TheTechManager@reddit
Wow, that’s something out of a movie. Sorry he did you so wrong.
RobNY54@reddit
Not just me, a handful of us who'll never forget
Tripsn@reddit
Already took care of it. 👍
SteakJones@reddit
I found a guy that was a real jag off in high school. His profile picture was that of him and his two small boys. His account was set to private and the only caption was “The greatest thing I’ve ever done is found within my children”
I felt good for him. I feel like there’s a strong chance he changed his ways.
Sp1teC4ndY@reddit
One of them organizes the reunions so I didn't go to 10 or 20. Only went to 30 to see former bestie and band geeks.
Big_Profession_2218@reddit
Sp1teC4ndY@reddit
We laughed at that because our band camp was at the school and we went home every day. It wasn't at another unchaperoned location. Otherwise, ooh boy.
Efficient-Hornet8666@reddit
I haven’t thought about those people in years, decades, even. I have no contact and am not still not friends with anyone from high school, so I’d have no idea what those bullies are even doing to this day.
Maybe they’re happy, hopefully they’re miserable.
Infamous_Jury_6708@reddit
I have no idea where the twins are - they were horrible to everyone and the last I saw them, I had to serve them coffee in a diner. This was over 30 years ago and right after HS. I am still impressed I didn't throw coffee on them. Complete assholes.
I had a short relationship with one of my bullies. I met him a couple years after HS when working at a strip club. He apologized, and I went out with him a few times. He went into the Marines and I never saw him again. He eventually was arrested for domestic violence, though, so I really dodged a bullet.
cousinconley@reddit
No bullies I would want to contact, but a couple of years ago I found out an old high school GF died. It was one of those messy teenage breakups with kids stirring the pot with he said she said. Years after HS she got sick and died. I felt this loss I never would have thought I would feel. I reached out through FB and sent my condolences and shared some memories. Suprisingly they remembered me and thanked me.
troll-bot9000@reddit
here’s mine
justrob32@reddit
I had an awful teacher for fourth grade. Mrs Mason. She had favorites and openly ignored me and others. My Mom says my whole demeanor about school changed, I used to love it and be excited about going but it changed a few weeks after the start of that year. She went to the principal to see about moving me to another teacher but he said no, if he let me move he’d have to let us all move. I saw her many years later as a grownup and thought about telling her what an awful person she was but I chickened out. I’m a grown ass man still afraid of her.
SkylerBeanzor@reddit
Yes but unfortunately he has a super common name so it would make not practical to find him.
My fantasy would be to spend years training to fight and tracking him down to only find him on his death bed in a hospital. I'd just remind him who I am and what he did and then just leave. I wouldn't really do any of that but it's funny to think of.
77tassells@reddit
I was severely bullied. I don’t remember most of their names per se. I still have a real problem in my life for being too defensive and still struggle with confidence. What bothers me now is how I treated others due to being bullied I’d sometimes be an ass to others “lower” on the social scale. That sucks too. I hope the people who tortured me had some realization in their life that they were being shitty and made up for it. Maybe they were abused and chose to be a good parent. Who knows.
COVFEFE-4U@reddit
I married mine, so....
ForeignClassroom9816@reddit
All the worst bullies in my school are all dead. Fuck Em.
Conscious_Living3532@reddit
Mine died. I have it in my calendar. It makes me smile and I go have a steak dinner.
Puzzleheaded_Grade_4@reddit
No. My memory is shot and I don't remember anyone from school.
Thirty_Helens_Agree@reddit
I checked court records and saw a long list of criminal charges, divorces, collections/foreclosures, etc. That was satisfying enough.
tilt-a-whirly-gig@reddit
A few years back, my son asked me about bullies when I was a kid. I had a couple, but one in particular immediately came to mind. After talking to my son, I went and googled the one guy just to see what his Facebook looked like. He's doing 20-25 in federal prison.
Posts like the OC always make me smile, because it reminds me where Joey [redacted] is now.
whereisthequicksand@reddit
Mine was called Joey too
StraightBudget8799@reddit
Mine looked like a tangerine in her first Facebook wedding photo. I’ve never seen such a horrific bright orange salon job, or maybe she did it to herself. The comments underneath were from her ex’s friends saying they hated her.
Her next marriage she’d gone goth and none of her family members featured in the photos. Apparently that marriage only lasted about three years, which says it all.
Honestly, she’s clearly a worse bully to herself with the mess she makes!
HeartyDogStew@reddit
Same here pretty much. Both of the main two died in their 30’s and in one case and he died without a funeral living in a neighborhood where I would guess he was completely impoverished. Looking back as an adult you could see the trajectory of their lives, but as a kid you don’t really know about that sort of thing.
Stinkydadman@reddit
Yup
Maganda_@reddit
I don't really need to . One of my bullies in high school got pregnant in the middle of the semester . She had to take care of the child , and had to work to meet the needs of the child . I don't know if she went to college or not . I never saw her after high school graduation .
Another one of my bullies lives home alone . I don't get into the things he does .
I remember one other bully I had in seventh / eight grade , she spat on me and laughed about it . The last time I heard about her , was that she was ran over by a pickup truck .
All in all , after high school , I moved forward and never looked back for any sort of revenge .
Ok_War5069@reddit
One: A high school bully shoved me one day saying "I'm gonna kick yer ass after school." Situation was a) new school, b) North FL, August, hot as hell no A/C, c) I was in a constant allergic response to everything, d) I thought if I started something I'd get sent to the principals office, which had A/C. I threw my books down, shoved him back (this guy could have easily kicked my ass) and angrily replied "Let's go asshole! I'll kick your ass right now!" Nothing happened, aside from becoming friends. Kenny Bowman
Second: this little kid in South Carolina hauled off and punched me in the back one day, hurt like hell. This was the first mixed-race school I had attended. He was Af-Am. I asked this guy I sat next to in a class (also Af-Am) about the guy who punched me, his name was Sylvester. He just shook his head and said "Not everyone lives in a nice home. Don't take it personally." That was really good advice.
Warriordance@reddit
I was more of a stick up for people getting bullied kind of kid.
this_kitty68@reddit
The girls who bullied me all ended up with at least one child and dropped out of high school. The worst of them had 3 kids before she was 20. They were all in that vicious cycle of abuse and neglect. One girl tracked me down somehow and showed up at my work. She apologized profusely and wanted us to be friends again, but I accepted her apology and left it at that. They all had to live with what they’d done. Sometimes that’s revenge enough.
thatsnotyourtaco@reddit
I Message my ex stepdad on Facebook about how shitty he was all the time
Prune-These@reddit
My old friend from middle tracked a guy who terrorized us from middle and high school. Rich dad and no discipline. He went on to college, got married and had kids. Then to the delight of my friend his life spiraled, divorce/drug addiction. He spent the rest of his days being a bouncer in strip joints. I didn’t have the same reaction. I was a little sad that he never realized how much of bully he was and how many kids he scarred. I think guys like that see their bullying “just having fun with the guys”.
jack-t-o-r-s@reddit
I think about it every day then I laugh and recognize how amazing my life is and how shitty theirs is.
The best revenge is served from the high road.
toTheNewLife@reddit
None of it is worth losing my career over.
But thanks to social media, I've been very happy to learn that most of them have shit lives. That's good enough.
MF_Ryan@reddit
Sometimes, but I don’t know when visitation hours at the county jail are.
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BeigePhilip@reddit
The only school bully I really harbored a grudge against managed to drawn himself in 4 feet of water. Good job, Kyle. You finally made the world a better place.
jaeldi@reddit
No. Same reason I don't go to reunions.
Why should I give people who unfairly judged me an opportunity to do it again. I don't have anything to prove to people who wronged me. My time is more valuable elsewhere. Indifference will set you free.
Verbositor@reddit
I had several bullies. I have no idea what happened to any of them. I just think of that James Baldwin quote: "People pay for what they do, and still more for what they have allowed themselves to become. And they pay for it very simply; by the lives they lead."
Admirable_Cucumber75@reddit
Na I don’t even visit folks incarcerated when I like them
jizmaticporknife@reddit
I did, and then I sold them their drugs.
go-ahead-fafo@reddit
Well, my biggest bully was my first grade teacher. She died of cancer.
My jr high schoolmate bully lost her 3 month old son during a storm. A tree fell and landed right on his crib.
Also, when I went to the principal of my jr high to tell him I was very uncomfortable in one of my classes because that trashy ass heifer was mean as hell to me, he asked me if I needed a lounge chair. Fuck him too.
Seanna86@reddit
Not visiting, but i do check CCAP (our state circuit Court open records) and see how they are doing.
I'm usually left feeling pretty good about my life.
dereksktsktmullet@reddit
Strangely enough, the two people that bullied me both died of heroin overdoses. One was well before fentanyl was a thing and the other guy was probably fentanyl, but I never cared to look into it and neither did anyone else. Oh well! :)
FallenValkyrja@reddit
Nope, I have moved on and am loving life. I escaped the small hometown and have spent time bouncing around the country and the world. Rather spend my energy on things like that than wondering or worrying about them.
RaceTop5273@reddit
I went to a private elementary school that closed down before I started 7th grade. While it was a private school, my parents did all they could for tuition and it showed in the way I dressed. I then went to public school and my old school facility was sold to a school for the mentally handicapped.
In public school, I was ruthlessly verbally bullied by a few kids that came from a bit more money (or at least appeared to). They were well dressed but were mean as hell. Jokes about my parent’s income, my Walmart shoes, my crooked teeth…heard it every morning for a few years. The worst was when one of them said I was dumb (because I rarely spoke to them) and that I should “go back to where my old school was and hang out with the retards”.
Of the bullies, one has aged hard but posts highly edited pictures of herself daily on Fb for attention, another never married & by the looks of her FB posts still thinks it’s the mid-80’s, and the one that said I should “hang with retards” has a mentally disabled child (may be an adult by now) and has her kid going to the place that once housed my elementary school.
Me, not perfect, but I got braces, a couple of college degrees and now work at home with a wife that is an awesome stay at home mom & have 2 beautiful daughters.
Zero desire to cross paths with any of them. They would either avoid eye contact & move on…or would act like we are all cool now. Both of which would annoy me, but not to the point of confrontation.
JohnWoosDoveGuy@reddit
My bullies needed to team up on me. Once we left school, they soon realised that they couldn't get the gang together quickly when one of them would bump into me again.I was involved in MMA, boxing, Muay Thai and BJJ coaching after leaving school too. They can barely make eye contact with me now. I feel sorry for some of them now as life hasn't been so kind to them since.
Squigglepig52@reddit
The urge to send one of mine a Christmas card just to give him a WTF moment was pretty strong last year. Honestly, it wasn't that big a deal even in school, but - but it struck me as funny.
Turns out his life imploded over the last few years, seems a bit petty and not funny,and I just wanted to baffle him.
Also, he had sorta apologized via my Mom years ago, so...
Ill-Error-9962@reddit
A lot of bullies peaked in high school. Makes me feel better thinking of how much of a letdown their next 50 years have been.
Mixednutbag@reddit
Is this something you really think about?
This is either another contrived post to garner views and attention or a majority of the people posting here have serious issues with letting things go. It's like everyone here is still living like we are still in high school.
GunMD1@reddit
Nope. Don't even remember them.
CrystalBlueMetallic@reddit
Nah, he died by suicide. Hard not to feel sorry for him, but I’ve managed.
HugeRabbit@reddit
Yeah. If I ever get a terminal diagnosis some shit is gonna go down before I check out.
Justatinyone@reddit
I don't even think about high school anymore.
lawtechie@reddit
I had an unplanned visit with my high school bully about a decade after I graduated.
I was making decent money as a techie and spent a signing bonus on a baby blue vintage Mercedes. I drove my 'new' car to visit my family. I stopped for gas once I got to my home town.
My high school bully was the gas station attendant.
HumbleXerxses@reddit
Yep. I called him out on FB. Of course everyone rallied to his side. Really should've left it alone but I was drunk. He stopped bullying me back then after 4 years. He never hit me or anything physical. I caught his ass in the hallway at school alone and told him I'll be at his ass if he ever says another word to me.
Lincoln_Park_Pirate@reddit
I saw pictures from a 25 year reunion that I never even considered going to. Everyone gained A TON of weight. I've gained a bit myself, but not to the degree of the Diabetes softball team. Even the popular cheerleaders and prom queen.....ham planets.
There was this one teacher who was a major asshole. He actually let a group of students do a little song and dance mocking me for a minute. He laughed while it happened. For years I wanted to visit his grave and take a nice piss on it until I found out he was a WWII veteran. I wouldn't do that to any veteran grave.
143019@reddit
No, the minute I left school I forgot all about them.
Discount_Redshirt@reddit
No, there are more serious concerns in the world right now.
Melodic_War327@reddit
Nope. Left all that BS behind a long time ago.
darthbreezy@reddit
Found his grave about 10 years ago, it's out in the middle of BFE.
Did a little jig on it and a big ol' 'Ha-Ha fucker!! I've outlived you!' He was definitely a sociopath, possibly a psychopath. It was incredibly cathartic.
vampyire@reddit
I've looked a few of them up on Facebook, only ever had one or two to see what they are up to. I'm doing well better than them so as I see it living well is the best revenge and I don't give a damn if they know or not.. I know and that's all I need
Secure-Description-7@reddit
The 2 worst bullies to me are dead- both by suicide. That just shows that their bullying was part of deeper rooted problems. When I taught middle school, I identified all the bullies and then would talk to them. There was a reoccurring theme- broken home and the feeling no one loved them. One of these kids kinda latched onto me because he was a bit of an artist and I showed interest in his art. He would come into my classroom before school to share with me what he had created (mind you - this was a kid that was tardy almost everyday yet he’d come into early to show me his art). One time he slipped up and got into a fight in the cafeteria. I told the AP that I had been trying to help the kid and asked if his in school suspension could be in my class (I taught honors and wanted him to see a positive environment). The AP said no because he needed “solitary confinement”. Not sure that was the best idea for a kid with depression. Anyway, at the end of the year there was a talent show and he was turned away at the door by the AP so he slashed one tire on every car in the parking lot. Except mine. And guess what, I got sh!t from that from the administration. “Why wasn’t your tire slashed?” As if I was in on it. They just didn’t get that this kid wouldn’t hurt probably the only adult that showed interest in his well being.
DaCarolinaKidd@reddit
I know one I would punch in the face immediately once properly identified.
lsp2005@reddit
My biggest bully was a teacher, who died of Covid, apparently painfully and alone. I found out when my classmates posted an article about his death.
Etrigone@reddit
Ar my ten year, I discovered the guy I had problems with was married to a chain-smoking, belligerent harpy. Like, almost enough for me to feel sorry for him.
Almost.
nixtarx@reddit
Most of them are dead. Funny thing - lunkheads don't last long in real life.
Impossible_Impact_93@reddit
Mine became a youth pastor.
Last time I saw him he was in bible college and he visited the church we attended.
I decided since we were out of highschool to extend an olive branch as I assumed he had grown up.
Nope. he blew me off. Couldn't even pretend to be friendly
Screw that guy....
Cetophile@reddit
Nope. IN fact, when my parents insisted I go to college (I wasn't wanting to), I made them a deal: I would go, but only to an out of state university. I did it to get away from seeing HS classmates and to make a fresh start.
Every_Reporter_7867@reddit
But don't you kinda think bullies had a place? its a downvote on reddit I'm sure, but I mean, kids can dress like cats and identify as a different species now, and I'm thinking...maybe a bully could have taken care of this sometime before the lunch lady had to start putting out a saucer of milk for Sarah?
wicked_pissah_1980@reddit
Mine was arrested for selling Heroin. He had a couple crack pipes on him when he got busted. Makes my heart happy every time I think about it.
BreakfastUnited3782@reddit
I couldn't even remember a single first name. I never think about HS.
Love4RVA@reddit
My high school bully, Melissa, started bullying me in 6th grade and didn't quit bullying me until we graduated high school. That was half of my school years, which left a negative impact on me. I was a super shy girl and wasn't part of any group/cliques. Needless to say, I was an easy target.
I know most people say something along the lines of ''we were just kids, let it go''....those are the people who either were bullies themselves OR were bullied, but not to an extreme level. I was mentally tortured and had anxiety for most of my school days. Girls are evil. There's a reason why the movie 'Mean Girls' resonates with so many women. You couldn't pay me enough money to go back to my grammar school days. People need to understand that chronic school bullying can leave a significant emotional impact that can last for years.
I do keep tabs on her by checking out her social media a few times a year. Her parents got into an automobile accident about 6 years ago. Her mother survived, but her father didn't. I admit that I felt a bit of joy knowing that my evil bully FINALLY felt the level of emotional pain that I felt for all those years that she and her friends bullied me. But don't worry....I'm not going to go after her. I'll let the universe continue to take care of it.
ClubExotic@reddit
This could have been written by me! Those bitches picked on me simply because I was the new girl. They mentally and emotionally tortured me for 6 years.
Babyroo67@reddit
I can't quite let it go either. I'm 1200 miles away from where I grew up, very successful, etc. but still worry about what those jerk people would think of me if I posted anywhere online under my own name. Like they're gonna come beat me up again or something. lol
When I retired early in my 40s, I did update my LinkedIn one more time to reflect my success, as kind of a middle finger to anyone who might one day Google my name, as if anyone still remembers me. But if they do, it's there for them to see.
Necessary-Peace9672@reddit
I’m actually FaceBook “friends” with the main one. We linked up over our common political orientation in 2020; I realized some fights are more important.
GZilla27@reddit
All the girls who used to bully me when I was in elementary school all are fat, live in the suburbs, and look miserable.
I feel satisfied.
Desert_Sox@reddit
Nah - I don't really care about them anymore
When I was in High School, one of my school bullies died in a car crash.
For a while I was happy about it. And then on and off for years, I felt guilty about being happy about it.
Now, I'm reconciled with the fact that it was a normal reaction.
thecheezmouse@reddit
I tell this story to my wife whenever this happens but In the movie “we’re the millers”, when they cross over to Mexico for the first time, the border guard in the scene was my school bully. I know he joined the Army after high school and then probably became a border guard because that fits. Anyways, I have no desire to talk to him, was a dick.
One-Rip2593@reddit
What? Why?
earthtobobby@reddit
I did google one once. He was the popular guy, good looking, hot girlfriend, rich parents, football quarterback. I shouldn’t have even been on his radar but for whatever reasons he found it worth his while to ridicule and bully me incessantly. He died suddenly a few years ago. Not in an accident or anything like that, just something that happened at his home.
skonthebass24@reddit
I still remember them, but I don't really think about them much. I did run into the brother of a bully when I was in college. He used to make me and my friends give him our candy coming back from 7-11 or get beat up. I told him all the ways his brother used to terrorize us, he (the younger brother) was honestly a nice guy but claimed he didn't remember his brother doing that.
Far_Oven_3302@reddit
The worst partied too hard and are were all dead by 30.
Dunn_or_what@reddit
I don't know where they are buried.
Gerald_Hennesy@reddit
A few years ago, one of my middle school bullies sent me a FB friend request and message: hey how are you, hope you are well, that sort of shit. I totally ignored the request and didn't respond to the message. Fuck that guy. Now he knows how it feels lol. 😂
forgeblast@reddit
Honestly until I read David Goggins can't hurt me they had space in my head. Once I read the book did the missions I honestly care zero about them. It was super freeing. I wish them the life they deserve.
TheBatmanWhoPuffs@reddit
I try not to even think about them. But when I hear about people who used to bully me dying it reaffirms my belief in Karma.
similacchaisle@reddit
All my bullies are drug addicts. I feel fine about it.
JWRamzic@reddit
Nope. I have moved on.
Netprincess@reddit
Oh I ran into mine on Facebook.
I was cordial and nice. Until she did her same condescending remarks trying to put me down and that was the end of it.
I went off in public telling her she hasn't changed from the bully she was in high school. And has moved out of the little town we grew up in so she had the same mentality.
I told her to shut up and grow up and move out of her little fish bowl.
Savethecat1@reddit
Mine died of a drug OD at 22. He looked like a meth skeleton by the end. He made a lot of kid’s life hell in middle school. Karma is a motherfucker.
Mundane_Bad594@reddit
So funny enough they are either in prison, ODed, or suicide. So my answer would be “nah I’m good”
VoodooDonKnotts@reddit
I'm not holding onto that nonsense for 30 years
Effective_Trainer573@reddit
In elementary and middle school, I was made of for being poor and with a speech impediment. Well, after changing school districts, joining the Army, getting two degrees, advancing to a director position in my given occupation, I could care less about them.
earthlingjim@reddit
For the first 3 years of highschool, I was pretty sure my name was fa***t. I wonder where those fine fellows are now. Oh, they're trying to friend me on the bookface and still caught up in applying identities to other ppl.
JulesChenier@reddit
I wasn't a bully, but I was a naive, self absorbed asshole growing up. I did get bullied, but I honestly do care about them. I do care about those I could have treated better, even if it wasn't bullying, it still may have affected them in ways I see now as possibly toxic.
There are a few I've sent apologies to as I know I could have been a better human being.
ActualWheel6703@reddit
I don't think I really had any. Some tried but it didn't stick. I've forgotten about most people I've grown up with and am not interested in finding them, so no.
60threepio@reddit
I don't have to. The mean girls keep contacting me on social media about their latest MLM schemes 🙄
ted_anderson@reddit
I crossed paths with one and while my mind reverted back to being in the 7th grade, they've long since forgotten about me.
Another guy became a pastor of a church and I thought about going to visit there. But a lot of the other kids who used to pick on me go to that church also. So I've been a bit reluctant being that everyone will collectively come together and laugh about old times and mock the way I talk, etc.
A couple of years after high school I would show up at a house party and everything would be OK and then someone would call my name. And then other people who heard one of my bullying stories would yell, "OMG! THAT'S TED???? hahahahahahahaha!!!!!" And I think it bothered me because I took it as them laughing AT me vs. laughing at what was a funny story.
But I guess when you've spent enough time on this side of adulthood, none of that really matters anymore being that many of these people are dealing with the cruelties of real life. There's still a couple of guys that live with their parents and argue with each other like it's still 1987 and remember all of the things they got away with back then.
oberon92@reddit
I’ve forgotten their names and faces. Unfortunately the effect they had on me has never left. Hope they all step in some dog shit today.
40plusballer@reddit
i haven’t really thought about the bullies from the past. i’m sure most matured and have gone on with their lives.
Ghosts_of_the_maze@reddit
No. If I cared I’d be on fb.
I assume most of them are completely different people now. I’d only be upset at people who no longer exist and bored teenagers can be horrible and turn into okay adults.
What I’ll never forget are the teachers who chose to be there and did what they did. They can burn in hell.
Humbled_Humanz@reddit
Yes FUCK YOU SHANNON YOU ARE A STUPID BITCH.
Ahhh that felt good.
Humbled_Humanz@reddit
Also the an of the football team who always called me ugly in HS ended up delivering me weed (while looking like shit) while I was in grad school and it was glorious.
Lab214@reddit
Saw one guy senior year but at this point he had dropped out. Was on his motorcycle cruising and gave me the what’s up head nod. By senior year I was slightly bigger and was not taking shit from anyone. Maybe he saw that change in me and knew ehh don’t go there ? Either way he did time In prison too so that shows he was still up to no good.
Anarimus@reddit
Mine got killed in a car accident when he was 16. Pulled right in front of a truck doing a U turn.
Sooowasthinking@reddit
Nope don’t give them a thought whatsoever. The best I can hope for is irony and maybe their kid is bullied. What I don’t want is to run into them now because I’m sure I’m going to do something about it.
Minimum_Painter_3687@reddit
I didn’t have any bullies. Yeah sure, people made remarks to me and tried their bullshit occasionally. I give the same blank, unconcerned look now that I gave then.
I saw plenty people get bullied. It was always about some shit they couldn’t change even if they wanted to.
I think about some of those people every now and then. I hope they’re living fantastic lives.
ChimpoSensei@reddit
I dont even think about visiting my high school friends let alone the bullies. I’ve moved way on.
lidia99@reddit
Never went back for HS reunion, never will. Fuck that place
Worth-Canary-9189@reddit
Glad I'm not the only one that feels that way. I didn't really have any bullies in HA. Those were more elementary and middle school, but it was still pretty miserable and tribalist.
Big-Sheepherder-6134@reddit
I would probably have a blast going back to my juinor high school reunion. High school reunion not as much. I would gravitate towards my junior high classmates anyway (we had three middle schools make up our high school of 1000+ students).
Maleficent_Data_1421@reddit
I felt even better when my old high school got torn down to be replaced by condos
MickerBud@reddit
Exactly
Astralglamour@reddit
Yup. Was elated when I graduated and had to see any of them again.
Fishboney@reddit
Same here. Fuck HS!
Naive_Explorer_3438@reddit
This is the way!
FenderJeep@reddit
Feels like it would just be piling on, at this point. I honestly just hope they overcame whatever it was that prompted them to bully others in the first place.
French_Toast_Runner@reddit
Not like that, I do think of them sometimes but most died and the ones who are left (including teachers and administration - it was a private religious school where teachers were encouraged to bully/abuse students) are living such miserable lives that I feel sorry for them to some extent. I mean somewhere deep down I always hope that they figure out how badly they hurt people and feel some remorse but that is likely not the case so why waste my energy thinking about them.
whineybubbles@reddit
My bullies were all family members and they get to watch me live well
WearHot3394@reddit
Only to throat punch her
L_i_S_A123@reddit
No, I believe in Karma.
Exciting_Pass_6344@reddit
Am I the only one who had no real bullying experience at all throughout my schooling? I really wasn’t aware of any either. I went to a large HS (1500+ students). Maybe I was lucky in that I was blissfully unaware…
Sufficient-Lie1406@reddit
Grade school was far worse for me than high school. I escaped some of the worst abuse in high school by being part of the burnout posse.
Foolgazi@reddit
I did for a long time. Then I happened to randomly sit next one of them at a bar when I was visiting my hometown in my 30’s. I decided to put on my big boy face and make some typical barstool small talk with him. Even though I instantly knew it was him, I casually said he looked familiar and asked if he went to my HS. He confirmed it and honestly didn’t even remember me (partly because I had changed a lot in the intervening years, and partly because he still wasn’t the sharpest tack in the drawer). After that, my memories of them basically changed from hatred to pity.
ClubExotic@reddit
I actually have only looked up one of my bullies on Classmates back in ‘04. Turned out she became a porn actress. None of the other bullies were on there and I never had the desire to look them up on Facebook because FUCK THEM!
Pdx_Obviously@reddit
I've made friends with a couple of them on Facebook. Both matured into caring and giving people who I have developed great rapports with.
In high school, though, they were dicks.
JellyfishWoman@reddit
My bully story is similar, Facebook kinda reconnected all of us around 2005-6. Except their lives were kind of messy. Single moms some with baby-daddies either in jail or deadbeats. I grew up in rural Ohio and none of them ever escaped. A couple of them ended up with meth and/or opiate problems.
They were and remained what I would've called poor white trash before I learned about what oppression and poverty traps are and that I grew up in.
Recarica@reddit
Yeah. Same with me with a few folks who gave me a hard time. I sorta barely remember how they were crappy — just a vague memory of aggression.
There is one, however, who I know was mean but I can’t recall specifics (I just didn’t fit in and it’s too much effort to try to remember). She does post a lot about her daughter being bullied. Her daughter is a lot like me and I do feel a lot of hurt for her daughter. If this is karma it’s uncool that the kid has to deal with it.
Johnny_pickle@reddit
“…glad I called that guy!”
Survive1014@reddit
That would most likely result in legal charges being pressed on me. Best to avoid that.
No_Attention_2227@reddit
I only really had 1 bully and he wasn't that bad
And he burned alive in a fire like 15 years ago...so
ohthatsbrian@reddit
Last i heard, my high school bully was in prison. I'm good.
mondain@reddit
Couldn't give two shits about any of them; only know anything about two of them and they've done a fair amount of Prison time.
_ism_@reddit
I think about my worst bully like all the time. One time I looked her up on facebook. Back when I used that platform more. I wrote her a message asking simply why the bullying? She wrote back and I got really excited that I was going to get an apology or some sort of explanation that she had trauma at home or whatever but no. She didn't say anything mean exactly but all she said was that she didn't know why she did it and we were just kids and it was a long time ago. Very dismissive I didn't re-engage. I just blocked her and moved on. I didn't want to leave it open for more invalidation. I realized I'm not going to be able to have that conversation with her ever, but I fantasized about all these years.
Jerk_Johnson@reddit
My dad? Nah.
MalsPrettyBonnet@reddit
Not so much anymore. I am still processing some in therapy, but I realize that kid had as much baggage as me. And holding onto anger is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Yasashii_Akuma156@reddit
No. There are plenty of people who did worse things after I graduated: toxic bosses, ex-girlfriends, and my parents.
lgramlich13@reddit
No. I struggle w/PTSD enough without intentionally thinking about them. One called me a few years back to apologize, but it wasn't really for me, it was so that she would feel absolved. She didn't give a shit what I had to say about it.
Pretty_Grapefruit638@reddit
One of my school's biggest and most violent bullies became a cop one town over. Visiting home from college, I got pulled over by him. He didn't recognize me, and when I reminded him we went to school together, he rapidly ended the interaction and let me go. He got fired sometime later for domestic violence I hear.
Another I ended up in a totally random encounter with about ten years after graduating. I was getting my car worked on, and stopped in a store she happened to be working at. The interaction was polite, but awkward at first, but she opened up, and began apologizing. She had a daughter now, and "didn't want her to grow up acting like she did". Genuine remorse. I think motherhood woke her up to how kids can be.
MyOnlyEnemyIsMeSTYG@reddit
Joined the Marines and made it into the Sniper community.. being bullied somehow wired me to never be bullied again. I used my childhood as motivation to challenge myself. I still remember all their names, but have never looked them up or care too. Eff ‘em
PutridWorth938@reddit
I honesty couldn't care less about my high school bullies. I stopped thinking about them years ago. They weren't worth the effort to look them up.
Jaayeff@reddit
Nah. They were kids. We are all so different now. I’m 42. For all I know my bullies could be grandparents by now. Ages ago. I hope they’re doing fine.
EggZaackly86@reddit
I was robbed by a classmate and I ended up at their house party years later, "don't I owe you money?" I was too embarrassed so I played dumb but he handed me back triple the amount and cracked a drink open for me. World felt a lot warmer and then Steve Buschemi crossed his name off the list.
Maryland_Bear@reddit
Well, the one who bullied me in elementary school is now in prison for murdering his mother for money to buy drugs, so I have no plans to drop in on him.
The article is about his arrest, but he was convicted. He avoided conviction for over a quarter century. At the time of the murder, he was already known to the police as violent with a serious drug problem. They and the victim’s family always suspected he did it, but there was never enough evidence to file charges. However, he told a couple of girlfriends he had killed his mother, and they eventually talked to the police.
Due to a quirk in the law, he was up for parole relatively quickly, though I don’t think there was any chance he’d get it. He spent the hearing arguing he was innocent, even after the board members advised him that his guilt was a legally established fact and the point was to determine his fitness to return to society.
Just to explain how he treated me, we rode the same school bus. His stop was before mine, and as he walked past me, he’d hit me in the shoulder, hard, for no reason other than picking on the nerdy fat kid who just moved there. The bus driver finally noticed and he got in enough trouble he stopped.
He eventually moved to another part of town and I forgot about him. When he was convicted of murder, my mom noticed a news report about it, and mentioned it to me, describing him as the meanest boy in our neighborhood.
I think I’ve seen his father was a cop who died of suicide when he was young. That’s certainly traumatic, but it doesn’t excuse becoming a monster.
Brunette3030@reddit
Mine was the neighborhood bully. She lives in a trailer in a county that’s the joke of the whole state, and she has multiple drug-related convictions.
Color me unsurprised.
Quack_Smith@reddit
went to my 1st reunion.. 3 of the bullies were already locked up 10 yrs out of HS... karma is a nice thing
Darksoul_Design@reddit
My bully's "revenge" has two parts. The short version is - lives in a fairly smallish town, about 30k people, when i was 15 he and a bunch of his buddies were driving around in the back of one of the guys pickups pretty drunk on the last day of school, pissed that he ( bully) wasn't graduating, me and a friend were skateboarding down the street, they jumped us, i got my nose broken very badly, lost about a pint of blood, broken in a few places etc.. That evening after i got back from the hospital, police were at my house waiting to take a report, knew who he was, said he was always in trouble, but his parents were pretty well to do (not stupid rich or anything, but doing well). He was arrested as a felony because he was an 18 this time, and we sued his family since he lived at home still, so still folks were liable.
Jump forward a lot, another sub asked "whatever happened to your bully", so out of sheer morbid curiosity, i looked him up. He had been arrested numerous times for stupid shit, drunk and disorderly, assault from bar fights sort of stuff, ended up having a kid with someone, she and her brother had restraining orders against him, she has sole custody of the kid. Bully works for some little pest control company in the same small town, apparently when his folks passed they either left him nothing, or whatever they left he blew through it in no time, and yea, his life is just shit.
So yea, karma man. He was kinda one of the "cool kids" in high school, because he was a bully, but in the real world, he's just a piece of shit with a life going nowhere.
Johnnyboy10000@reddit
I care so little about them now, I don't even remember their names. They chose to behave the way they did, which means they have to live with themselves and what they've done. Not me.
Chemical_Cat_9813@reddit
Mine is in jail so I guess thats that.
stompinstinker@reddit
Never really bullied, but every asshole I had to deal with in high school is so sad now. They look absolutely awful for their age. Fat, wrinkly, dark circles under their eyes, etc. Miserable job that pays fuck all.
AaronTheElite007@reddit
Couldn’t care less. Everyone is going through their own battles.
LawGroundbreaking221@reddit
I think mine are all dead or in prison.
qning@reddit
I googled a guy and saw that he has a son with the same name. This kid was in so much trouble I felt sorry for the whole family.
GrandPriapus@reddit
My worst bully ended up killing himself when he was about 40. From all accounts he had a pretty shit life.
Left-Thinker-5512@reddit
I was bullied in elementary school by a guy until I finally challenged him to a fight in front of my sixth grade class. He didn’t want to but I’d had enough and I forced him to fight me. Neither of us “won” but just the act of standing up to him in front of everyone else made his bullying of me stop. He didn’t stop bullying others, though. After that we had a kind of a truce and we were okay with each other.
Many years later I saw him at a school class reunion. He looked terrible and had some really bad, debilitating health issues. The kind where you have a walker and an oxygen tank with you all the time. Turns out he was a lot more self aware than I thought because all he could talk about was how bad he felt about bullying people when we were kids. I think in his illness he spent a lot of time thinking because he was alone. He really didn’t have any strong friendships.
Alternative-Law4626@reddit
Nobody is living rent free in my brain. Never once considered it. Never really had a bully situation that was that bad. Probably because I won most of my fights in elementary, Jr. High and High School. Not that I was looking to fight anyone, but when it came up and it was unavoidable, I'd fight. I guess the bullies picked on higher percentage target. Wasn't like I big either. I was 5'3" < 100 lbs in 9th grade.
Additional_Effect_51@reddit
I ran into the sister of one, we got to talking... turns out for years and years he's been saying things like "Man, I was such an asshole in high school" and "I want nothing to do with those old friends I had then" and other similar things.
It changes your feelings a bit realizing you're the bad guy, it seems.
Sweet_Priority_819@reddit
Nah. I can't bring myself to give any fucks and haven't for decades.
Space2345@reddit
Oh yeah. I dont have a list but the memories still pop up
LarryLeo777@reddit
Mine is a therapist in private practice who doesn’t take insurance.
LarryLeo777@reddit
She IS rather consistent, yes.
BIGepidural@reddit
Once a cvnt always cvnt eh?
I_Have_No_Name_00@reddit
No. It's like what Kylo Ren said:
Let the past die. Kill it. It's the only way to.become what you're meant to be
The_Dixco_Bunny@reddit
This 100%!
The_Dixco_Bunny@reddit
I got a taste of “getting back at your bullies” and the old saying “the best revenge is to live well” applies. A few years ago I attended a funeral service for a friend’s brother - we all went to high school together. I got no joy from the shattered state of people’s lives.
Bullies are broken people - some grow up and take responsibility for themselves and their actions and others continue to wallow in their misery. I forgave them and moved on long ago - long before that funeral. It was actually sad to see how many people gave up on life and themselves. For me, there’s nothing better than a success story. ☺️
ClownshoesMcGuinty@reddit
I do. I wasn't a "designated target" of any of these fools, but I wonder how many are in prison vs how many are dead.
Ruenin@reddit
There are certainly people from my middle school days that I wouldn't wish anything pleasant for, but I can only think of one bully that I truly hate, and he takes office next Monday.
Snark-Watney@reddit
Only to piss on his grave. He died from a drug overdose and I can’t think of a more fitting death for a jerkoff who was a legend in his own mind.
DaveTheRocketGuy@reddit
I have. However, I often can't remember their names which tells me how little significance they have had on my life so I stop caring and move on to other things.
bottle_of_bees@reddit
Mine is serving a life sentence for murder, so… no
AntiSnoringDevice@reddit
I was heavily bullied for being an ugly teen...had a glow up and when I met my former bullies in my 20es, I saw them realise that I was way, waay out of their league. That was enough for me.
Yzerman19_@reddit
My school bully became a paratrooper and lost use of his right arm. Now he's just a pothead with no prospects.
yeah_so_no@reddit
No, but mine added me on Facebook. I was like…ok, I’ll bite. Went through her photos to find that her husband had a large swastika tattoo. That tracks.
photoguy423@reddit
Not the bullies. But occasionally I remember people that I think deserve and apology for my behavior. I was an idiot as a kid. (Still an idiot...just an idiot with experience and a better developed sense of not going too far)
daveydavidsonnc@reddit
I worked a job and spent my money on clothes in high school.
These two guys in my 10th grade algebra 3 class (who were a year older than me and this dumber) - called me “TJ” because they said I shopped at TJ Maxx.
If I see either of them again I will punch them in the face and not give it a second thought. I fear no consequences.
GrumpyCatStevens@reddit
Nope.
travlynme2@reddit
The bullies when I was a kid were the rich kids. They have great lives.
The bullies who bullied my kids were poor and had really shitty parents. One of them turned his life around and one of them I see occasionally working the street picking up Johns.
kristinalesea@reddit
I’d visit you, Kerry Kososki but I think karma has given you enough.
Mariner1990@reddit
I was undersized in high school, didn’t reach a growth spurt until I was 18. Strangely, now that I look back on it, I never was really bullied in middle or high school. Everyone should be as fortunate as I was!
Last-Relationship166@reddit
One of the guys in my school who liked to bully people had a locker right next to my locker. He was much taller than me, so he kept trying to look over my shoulder to get my locker combination. He eventually got it. He planted a pack of cigarettes in my bag and stole an arm brace from the locker of the girl who had a locker next to mine and planted that in my locker.
My dad found the cigarettes but knew I despised cigarette smoke. (A lot of my relatives smoked. The smell of cigarettes still makes me want to puke). He thought I was hiding them for a friend. I told him about the dick who had been trying to steal my locker combination, and that was that.
Regarding the arm brace, I found it, took it to the office, and told them what had happened. This kid and I both had our reputations. My reputation favored me. His reputation did not favor him.
The last I hear about this guy was about a quarter century ago. He attempted to get a job at my friend's first place of employment. The guy who interviewed him wasn't impressed, and my friend confirmed the interviewers assessment.
RescueRacing@reddit
We were college age, early 20s and some douche and his jock buddies were hassling a handful of friends and me at a party at another campus in town. We kept it mellow cuz we were skinny guys in an alternative music band…not fighters. Saw one of my buddies a few weeks later and he said several of the guys died in a house fire. Buy-bye.
winelover08816@reddit
Not really. They were bullies because they were damaged people who were likely to never get the help they needed. I’d probably find them in bad shape or dead, a life spent in poverty and suffering, and then I’d be embarrassed for my younger self allowing them such power over me.
aqaba_is_over_there@reddit
Of the worst two.
One blew his eye just making homemade fireworks and the other died in his 20s of a drug overdose.
I know karma does not always work but it did for me.
RRtexian@reddit
Not high school, but one of my first jobs. I worked as a pharmacy tech at a fairly large hospital with other much older pharmacy techs. They had been doing it for years, with one person constantly chiming in that they had been doing it for 21 years. I worked night shift, so i went to school in the mornings. I was shunned and reminded about how I made less money than they did. That continued for a couple of years until I finally quit. When I graduated, my first job was back at the hospital I had worked at before. It was a BIG thrill to see that the bullies were STILL there. I was now working as a nuclear medicine technologist, making twice what they made. I would always smile and be REALLY nice to them. I loved to see the look of distain on their face. satisfaction!
airconditionersound@reddit
I've looked them up and they don't seem to have changed. They'd be horrible people to connect with. They bullied me for being in a bad situation and not having the financial resources they had. Now they're abusive rich people with money and power. They would continue to bully me but probably do a lot worse.
However, it's become more obvious what kind of people they are. They have rich asshole jobs and look like extreme Karens in photos. I think most people would be grossed out by them.
DanielBG@reddit
My HS bully died of cirrhosis 12 years out of graduation.
CheetahNo9349@reddit
The two worst ones are dead.
OK-Computater@reddit
Mine are too. Cheeseburgers and meth. The rural midwest is hell, apparently. I usually discover this via phone conversations with my elderly mother.
Her: "Do you remember so-and-so? I just saw their obituary in the paper. You guys are only 50. So young."
Me: "Huh. How about that?"
iTrooper5118@reddit
Where'd ya bury them? 🤣
Velvet_Samurai@reddit
Mine is a cop back in our home town. From what I understand he's been a cop in about half a dozen cities in our state and he's been fired from all of them. I think our home town is his last hope, if he gets fired again that's it for his law enforcement career.
steven_cornthrob@reddit
Water under the bridge.
hermitzen@reddit
Good God NO! What would be the point? They are all ridiculous Trumpers anyway. No use.
RASKStudio3937@reddit
I don't know about school bullies, but I have a few ppl that did really insanely profound horrible shit to me that there was no way to justify that made me question how they could sleep at night or eventually not make amends once they matured or worked through their own personal traumas that had nothing to do with me. 25 years later, it still hasn't happened.
LiquidSoCrates@reddit
The best is when one of these fools slides into your DM’s 30 years later looking to be friends. This means they have literally burned every bridge in their life and are looking to reconnect with someone they had a positive (for them) experience with. Hahaha, no!
Slim_Chiply@reddit
I stopped thinking about high school after I graduated. I don't really remember much about it anymore.
theghostofcslewis@reddit
No need to. They are all dead. Vengeance was never mine to have.
Fluid-Safety-1536@reddit
I know somebody who bought his old bully's house for pennies on the dollar at a sheriff sale. 😀
mikejnsx@reddit
many are already dead, living for spite has paid off quite well
Recarica@reddit
I got a FB message from, ostensibly, my bully a few years back. He apologized and said he felt horrible for years. I know there was a whole group of them that were kinda trash that would give me a hard time and threaten me, but my head was in the clouds. Eventually I left my tiny hometown, moved to a big city, married a guy who looks like Justin Theroux, got a job with a Fortune 500 company with people I literally read about as a teen and idolized doing exactly what I’ve always dreamed of. I have beautiful kid who is a dream to be a parent — a lot like me, so I parent with a lot of direction and empathy. I have a great house in an unaffordable city (albeit, we bought when it was still affordable, so we just look rich-ish).
Don Draper must be my real dad because I literally did not remember the guy and the only one in the group I remember wasn’t because I felt threatened by her but because she looked like an albino.
The other bullies are, seriously, dead or so used up they look 20 years older than me. I’m a poster child for “it gets better.” But, also, I really did spend all of my time daydreaming, so disassociation worked well for me.
No-Access-2790@reddit
I was the bully. And I’ve bumped into folks who let me know that they remember.
It took me a terrifically long time to mature and learn and grow and become a decent human being. And I’m probably one of those maddening bully stories where the person goes on to enjoy some success in life and has little to no meaningful consequences.
I’ll 100% say that this is the case because of my personality, not in spite of it. While I like to believe in that I’m a far more respectful and compassionate person than I was as a kid, I know for a fact that I have sometimes pushed and shoved my way to where I am in life pretty aggressively and sometimes without much concern about who might have been bumped aside.
I’ve had no real “hard lessons” about life and how to treat other people. I just grew up. Whatever synapses are supposed to fire to give us empathy just did so much later for me. I don’t know for a fact that I’m not still a prick to some degree, but I do know that I’m far more introspective and think deeply about my words, actions, and responses, before letting them out into the world.
I’m also not angry anymore. About anything. This was the key. Learning that all the things I was angry about just didn’t matter. Parents, schools, girls, life, whatever. I think I evolved away from being a bully by moving from anger to indifference. I don’t know if that’s the right way, but I do know that life became easier and better. Brain chemistry or something. And understanding that me being pissed about the world wasn’t someone else’s problem.
I know that I’d never want to run into or associate with the kid I was in high school. That kid was an animal and I’d probably kick the shit out of him today for being so horrible to people, and have little tolerance for folks who treat others poorly. Maybe it’s penance. Maybe it’s having a particularly relevant skill set on the matter to recognize shitty people. I don’t have guilt per se. That’s for Catholics. I do recognize past behaviors and its effects on other people, and if there’s a realistic amend to be made, I’ll do so. It’s ‘Yes I was pretty shitty to you. And I’ve grown and changed and understand that’.
That’s really it. There’s no life dedicated to protecting people from bullies. No commitment to charity or altruism. No ruminating about who I was. It’s been decades, I’m not going to beat myself up over stuff. I’m just going to be the person I am now.
DivaJanelle@reddit
They apologized at the 10 year. Then hit on me
cxr303@reddit
I got a call from mine apologizing at one point. He was going through the 12 steps.
This movie came out when we were in grade school and yup, he would often do the adam Sandler voice back then... foreshadowing j suppose.
JETEXAS@reddit
When my 20-year reunion rolled around there was a thing to add people to a memorial table who had died and one of the names already on there was the biggest bully. Still didn't go.
timberwolf0122@reddit
Not really, I’d have to visit various cemeteries and prisons.
gewalt_gamer@reddit
I am reasonably certain I am much happier than they are today, so no need. I'm pretty sure janelle was just mad at how attracted she was to me and needed a hatefuck. but 13 year old me was oblivious. everyone else was just miserable all the time. probably still are. besides janelle, I didnt really have any happy bullies.
Iwantallthedogs74@reddit
My biggest bullies were my older brother and still to this day, my mother.
Ineffable7980x@reddit
No. Don't even remember their names
Miscellaneous-health@reddit
Maybe just a little fantasy of visiting them and doing a Count of Monte Cristo-esq revenge plot. That fantasy alone helped heal wounds from the past. But living well is the best revenge.
ApplianceHealer@reddit
“The Glory” on Netflix is about this. A bit of a rough watch (the ‘bullying’ included frequent physical torture) but still quite satisfying.
Cool_Dark_Place@reddit
Also loved that episode in the second season of True Detective, where Colin Ferrell stomps the hell out of his son's bully's dad.😂
Ceorl_Lounge@reddit
Our worst one died in a murder suicide (guess which end he was on), so no... don't think about him much.
CheesyRomantic@reddit
I didn’t realize how much my high school bully affected me, until I blocked his name on social media. We have mutual friends and I didn’t want him seeing any of my comments or posts.
What’s weird is a few years after high school he ran into my best friend somewhere and asked her to apologize to me for how he treated me (this happened before social media existed).
But I still had anxiety over him seeing anything about me.
I really have no desire of seeing him. At all.
SkidsOToole@reddit
Most of them managed to become addicts. I'd have to visit a cemetary.
RvCampers@reddit
Why let them win and let them occupy space in your brain?
ChrisRiley_42@reddit
I joined the army with the thoughts of visiting them when I was done..
By the time I was done, I had grown up enough that I didn't need to any longer ;)
agravain@reddit
nope. I have no social media, so I have no idea about anybody from grade school or high school.
and I live across the country from where I grew up, so I have no idea about any of them.
Vanstoli@reddit
I used to be a restaurant manager. I have reached out to several old staff and apologized for being an a-hole.
Mfsmitty@reddit
No. He died in a drug deal gone bad.
Real-Yogurtcloset770@reddit
Nah, most of those assholes are dead by overdose/killed.. karma.
yerederetaliria@reddit
I completely forgot about them.
The thing is that I’m doing quite well and the reasons I was bullied or maybe targeted I completely overcame. So if there was any interaction, even friendly, it would be silly at best and humiliating for them at worst.
i1045@reddit
There would be no point. What happened in junior high damaged my personality in ways I'm just starting to understand. Revenge-fantasies don't help, and won't change who I am.
NostalgicRetro73@reddit
No one bullied me, I was born without hands and always wore a metal hook, I don’t blame them for not bullying me.
chillaxtion@reddit
My bully is dead. He was an actual Mafia debt collector and enforcer as early as high school. I saw at one point he did jail time and monthly collections for extorting seniors and someone after that he died. I don’t know how. Maybe suicide.
We had a big Mafia presence in my high school. I know at least to more of the mafia kids are dead.
kalelopaka@reddit
Only had 2 school bullies when I was in grade school, two guys 2 years older than me. I didn’t have any bullies after that, and I caught up with those asshats in high school.
kraftymiles@reddit
I used to use till he died. Killed himself. I was happy.
TheRateBeerian@reddit
Mine did too. I def had a little “well good for him” moment when I found out
Lonestar-Boogie@reddit
Not one bit. I don't give people like that any bandwidth. Life's too short.
GenTrancePlants@reddit
No need to. The « leader » became a truck driver and got involved in drug dealing and he got caught, then he spent years in jail. Last news i had is he was a miserable drug addict on wellfare. So… 🤷🏻♀️
EvilDan69@reddit
Nah. I had a bully in grade 7. He was much bigger than most kids, and a bit bigger than me. I was always tall for my age. We threw down a few times but neither of us got hurt, as we could throw down and guard against punches well enough. He was more mellow in grade 8, almost friendly. Went away for grade 10, came back in grade 11 and he was about 5'8, I was 6'1 and I was hitting the gym hard at that time. There was 0 drive for him to even want to talk/bully at that point.
cuntybunty73@reddit
Why the fuck would I want to visit Olivia
North_Artichoke_6721@reddit
Mine are dead or in jail.
They had horrible home lives, they took their anger out on other people, and they thought they could self medicate their way out of their homes. They either overdosed or went to jail for drug dealing.
I’m mostly sad for them these days. They had potential to be good people.
ANH_DarthVader@reddit
My elementary school bully is prison. He killed someone. Not sure of the exact charge though.
mmmmmarty@reddit
I don't have to visit. I can drive by and see him sitting on his porch wasting away any time I go back to my home town. His kids used to play out front, till he had them taken away for abuse and neglect.
PiccadillySquares@reddit
Revenge for me would be their kids being treated the way they treated me. I've somehow figured out how to do well in life, but I'll never get over how they (girls and boys) tortured me on a daily basis. It was the 80s and it was absolutely horrible even by today's standards.
koozie17@reddit
What would their children have done to deserve your “revenge?” No offense but if you honestly think like that you may have some shit to work out.
PiccadillySquares@reddit
Not my revenge, hypothetical revenge. If somebody treated their kids the way they treated me, maybe then they would realize the pain and suffering they themselves caused. Because otherwise they're not that self aware. They were awful kids who turned into awful adults. There are no later in life apologies coming for anybody.
FugginOld@reddit
In Don Draper's voice - I dont think about them at all
OverMlMs@reddit
The only real “bully” I remember from middle school turned out to be my defacto protector after I stood up for myself and basically yelled at her to go ahead and beat me up one day. She was so confused and asked why? I was all, you were the one that ran into me, I have a hole in my stomach from my binder to prove it. So go ahead and beat me up because you didn’t watch were you were going (meanwhile, I’m shouting AND hysterically crying). She was so impressed that this little, four eyed shy girl was yelling at her she was like my own bouncer after that.
I kind of hope she’s had a decent life.
The other snobby girls that were just petty as fuck for no reason? Most of them still live in our hometown, so that’s their karma right there.
ComesInAnOldBox@reddit
Nah. I've run into a couple of people who made my life hell as a kid and we're actually friends these days. I don't see any point in holding grudges, I've got too much other shit to take care of.
There is, however, one motherfucker that I can't guarantee I wouldn't run over if I saw him in the cross walk, even 30 years later (part of the reason some of my old bullies are now friends are because they used to be his friends and eventually realized that, no, he really is a shithead), but I'm not about to seek him out. He was a pastor's kid, and his parents were. . ."pieces of work" is about the best way I can phrase that, what with one of them being a Man Of The Cloth and all that. I saw them at a groundbreaking dedication for a new building at my old High School a few years ago, and completely refused to acknowledge their existence, even when they were standing right next to one of my old teachers.
jone2tone@reddit
Within three years of graduating high school my father and younger brother had passed. I learned quickly there's way more important shit in life than holding onto petty bullshit, and they were forgotten.
I've run into a few over the years and I greet them with a smile and a handshake and say it's good to see we're both still around.
Tramp_Johnson@reddit
Bllly? Scott? Josh? Absolutely not. Two became cops and I am sure Billy isn't with us anymore. If you were a kid in NC in the 80s and this was your name. I turned out better then you. lol
peaeyeparker@reddit
I don’t think about visiting them now at all but I do still fantasize about what I would have done differently back then. It does still bother me how certain things went down. It bothers me how the adults handled it. It still really bothers me how adults now still handle it.
I have 3 kids now. All are teenagers. My daughter is 17. She has been dealing with a bully since her freshman yr. And from what I can tell the admin. still handles it the same ineffective way they did when we were kids.
ConsequenceNational4@reddit
Didnt have bullies. I didn't have time or care about them. I have never had desire to go back to my high-school by any means.
Elementary I stopped by and college isn't necessary..they just want money from alumni.
ZombieButch@reddit
I don't ever think about them at all.
join-the-line@reddit
No, just squishing his head between my forefinger and thumb.
Appropriate_Ruin3771@reddit
The guys are gone… they all took themselves out.
tcrhs@reddit
One of mine dropped dead of an aneurism last month. I didn’t shed a tear.
Another one tried to be all nice to me at our high school reunion. I blew her off. She tried twice to have a conversation and I shut it down both times. I’d been drinking, but still had enough wisdom to know that I would cuss her out and make a scene, so I just walked away.
Elegant_Potential917@reddit
Mine was shot and killed in a road rage incident in downtown Portland. I actually felt a bit of sadness. He had reached out through a mutual friend years earlier and expressed remorse for how he treated me in grade school. That had been enough for me to move on.
clorox2@reddit
I found mine on LinkedIn. Seems to be like nice Biff, from the end of Back to the Future part one. Looks like him too. He’s the president of what appears to be a one man company that installs ATM machines in local businesses.
Garth_Knight1979@reddit
My school bully was a vicious and violent bastard who continued with his gang activities after leaving school at 16. Always hoped someone would teach him a lesson but one day I found out he’d been stabbed in the heart outside his house and died bleeding out onto the street in front of his young wife and two year old son. Wasn’t sure how to feel about that 😕
AnyaSatana@reddit
No, I don't care about them. I don't live in my home town (thankfully), and don't encounter any of them. I might have been a bit weird (undiagnosed ADHD, hurrah!), but I wasn't passive, and would reach a point where I'd hit back.
One of them works as a plumber (so he wades in shit). It's not quite like the episode of Frasier where he meets his bully who is also a plumber, as I haven't seen him for at least 30 years, but he recently tried to rip off my mother by telling her that the gas boiler was dangerous and trying to sell her a new one. It wasn't, and she didn't need a new one at all. Luckily she's no fool and got somebody else to have a look. I told her that he was an arsehole, and luckily she listened to me.
panopanopano@reddit
Hell no! I know where they are. They stayed in the same place…spinning their wheels through life. I don’t do the work that time will do for me.
GodOfMeh@reddit
Nice try, FBI.
Low_Presentation8149@reddit
No. I've lived my life and am now happy. If I met one I wouldn't give them the time of day however
1kreasons2leave@reddit
No because I have mostly forgotten their names, but I did have one try to reach out about a decade ago on FB telling me that he was sorry and he knows how I must have felt since his son was being bullied at the time. Didn't reply, but did hope his son was ok and that they were able to stop the bullying.
Hazys@reddit
Never contact never more I feel is not been bully is take advantage of me like that.
NyteWytch@reddit
No! I have recent trauma to capitalize on!
ivegotafastcar@reddit
Nope. I’m good. Ignored the requests on FB.
Flyingarrow68@reddit
My grade school bully ended up being the bouncer at my parties when I was 18. It felt so amazing.
Moondra3x3-6@reddit
Nope. But I'm sure they think of me on occasion. I never got bullied, but some of my friends did. So let's just say I spent a lot of time in detention because I would kick their asses defending my friends. Didn't matter if it was a girl or a boy being the bully either. 😁
Magnus-Lupus@reddit
I stood up to all my bullies in high school… I easily out crazied them and made them think twice.. I was a skinny kid when I did this.. still talk to a few ..
BlueProcess@reddit
No. Because my generation was taught that if you run you'll be running your whole life. If you face your bullies you don't have to carry them.
But people mostly would fight fair in my rural school. In the city school systems not as much.
SameAsItEverWas6370@reddit
I have to say, after hearing all your stories it’s encouraged me to seek out the asshole that tormented me to see if his faith was equal or worst that you all are saying, but honestly I would still drive right over his ass if given the chance no matter of his status, sorry if I’m disappointing you all but I’m still pissed 45 years later, 🤬🤬🤬
Love4RVA@reddit
I’m the same way. I would love for my bully to be in emotional distress each and every day for what she put me through all those years ago.
BIGepidural@reddit
Not disappointed at all. I'd love to get my hands on the guys who did stuff to me when I was younger. I check up up them via social media every so often and they're fine...fk em... I'll party when karma catches up with them and they're a broken mess of nothingness.
Half-Measure1012@reddit
I like how the word "Visit" is highlighted. It implies there might be another word that fits there.
aint_tellin_u_nada@reddit
supershinythings@reddit
My biggest bully was my asshole brother. I cut him out of my life over 18 years ago but I am regularly informed of his progress because he is our mother’s golden child.
She moved him in with her at 60 - she is 81. He’s still the same slovenly cruel bullying prick but suddenly she is beginning to notice. She spoiled him thinking he would be helping her in her old age but he turned the tables and wants to be waited on hand and foot.
I’m staying out of it.
I finally figured out why one of the mean girls in my high school was so mean - it never occurred to me that she was extremely envious of me.
We competed academically; she was an only child used to getting everything - but the boys never noticed she existed.
I OTOH received plenty of attention, more than I wanted to handle since I had no idea WTF was happening. I was never very socially tuned in so it never occurred to me in the moment that this was a good part of why she couldn’t be even barely polite.
Anyway when I finally realized what was going on I relaxed - I didn’t actually do anything to cause her meanness - she was just frustrated that I slapped away attention she was desperate for.
euMonke@reddit
No, I solved it back then. For legal reasons I can't tell you to punch your bully, so I am just going to say it worked for me.
jayhawkwds@reddit
A little over 20 years ago, I went on an ATV ride with a friend of mine. I didn't know that one of my bullies had invited himself along. I wasn't all that happy about it, but went along. I cannot describe to you the joy I felt when he wrecked, and the disappointment I had when he was okay. Actually, responding to the question brought back the disappointment. I didn't want him to die, but why couldn't he of at least broken an arm or leg?
jayhawkwds@reddit
And after reading some of the responses in this thread, I'm seeing that some in here weren't severely bullied, or are way better people than I am.
Sumeriandawn@reddit
Why? Hope they're dead or in prison.
4l0N3D@reddit
They're dead.
BCCommieTrash@reddit
A couple years after high school I ran into a guy, among the worst, in a church, I walked up, we talked, shook hands, wished each other all the best.
Not gonna actively go looking for people, but if I randomly run into, I might walk up.
Master-S@reddit
This is someone that bullied you? You see them and warmly greeted them, happily reminisced and wished them well? I don’t get it.
BCCommieTrash@reddit
Talked. We talked. Neither of us had happy memories of high school. My first indicator something was up was, dude was in a church.
And with him at least, I have closure. I hope he's alright.
HaloTightens@reddit
Huh. In my experience, some of the nastiest people are regular churchgoers.
Master-S@reddit
You have a kind character - I don’t think I could do that.
ubermick@reddit
I had two bullies in school. One of them developed into a career criminal/addict, and broke into my house and killed my dog in the process, about six months after my parents died. He died of an overdose not soon after. Which is just as well, because yes, I was very much looking to "visit him" at the time with the intention of putting him in a chair for life.
I was at the funeral, not as a sign of respect or reconciliation, but to make sure the fucker was dead. I hope he's spending eternity being ripped to shreds by my dear oul' doggo. (But definitely not, because all dogs go to heaven and that piece of shit most certainly didn't.)
The other bully? Haven't given him a second thought to be honest. Probably didn't amount to shit either.
BigLurkingBunny@reddit
Nope. I don't have time and if I did it would be wasted on them.
I mean, maybe some changed, but I don't feel the need to know either way.
AD480@reddit
I can’t. She was murdered by the father of her infant son. Then the guy offed himself. Thankfully her 7 month old was unharmed but left alone for a day or two with the bodies.
Brookeofficial221@reddit
Nah he’s been in and out of prison for the last 30 years.
begayallday@reddit
No. I don’t even remember all of them anymore. I don’t want to see them and I don’t care what they are doing with their lives. I only hope that they have changed.
MowgeeCrone@reddit
Nup. I do reminisce about the day I punched him in the balls though. Zero regrets. I gave him fair warning.
Whiskyjane69@reddit
Bully here, still going strong, no revenge exacted on me yet, but the trick is to keep moving around while one continues to bully as well as troll since that's a new aspect of today's bully culture. I'm pro-bully, creates something to overcome for the weak Nerd. Without adversity, all the nerds just become intellectual bullies.... whoever wrote this post you used little brain power. Just saying you need to get bullied again.
SkipNYNY@reddit
No. But I have only one true regret in life. That I didn’t get up out of my seat in class and punch him as hard as I could. That’s about me though, not him.
AlfalfaElectronic720@reddit
I just seen one of mine not long ago as I was walking out the store. He rolled right by me with one leg. Diabetes’ got the other one, karma sometimes hits different
rob19146@reddit
My very first bully was my 5th grade teacher. I'm sure she's dead now. I've had a lot of bullies from 5th grade to senior year. The ones that hit the hardest were the teachers. I always hate when people praise all teachers because just like every profession, there are good and bad so stop lumping them all together. My high school English teacher bullied me all 4 years. My senior year she took it to another level and I ran out of the class. She chased be down because she was afraid I was going to go to the principal. I wish I would have. She took me to lunch one day as a peace offering but I knew it was out of fear. After I graduated, she would come in to where I worked regularly and ignore me. She really was the worst.
StillC5sdad@reddit
He's long time dead , so we are good.
humbummer@reddit
I’ve connected with a few on social media. The braver ones apologized while the others I just watched as their lives fell apart. Not all of them, though.
YorkiesandSneakers@reddit
I was the bully.
BIGepidural@reddit
How do you feel about that now?
YorkiesandSneakers@reddit
I don’t feel anything about it. I had comastia so kids fucked with me. It either makes you weak and feeble or it hardens you. I chose the latter. Bullying in my time wasn’t the same thing as today either. Nobody would put hands on you, but you’d get clowned on if you did anything outside of normal.
BIGepidural@reddit
Yeah I know what bullying was like back in the day I'm not a kid 😅
So you had something that you made vulnerable and rather then be the one who got picked on you took a protective approach and picked on people so no one could get close enough to hurt you without you hurting them first.
That must have been kinda lonely for you. I'm sorry you felt the need to do that.
YorkiesandSneakers@reddit
Nah. I wasn’t lonely. I had a core group of friends. I was just insecure.
BIGepidural@reddit
Thats fair.
dustractor@reddit
once the school bully got out from under his hyper fundamentalist abusive parents, he turned out to be a decent person
Ampersandbox@reddit
I had one for whom I would have been willing to risk jail time. High school wrestling bully who was backed up by the entire varsity team. Promised myself I'd destroy him if I ever had an opportunity. A few years ago I found out that he'd been shot to death ages ago.
AbbeyRhode_Medley@reddit
Leave one wolf alive and the sheep are never safe.
N4t41i4@reddit
Nope, i don't hate people anymore (except for a few on a death note list) i pretend they are all dead and voila! Out of my mind!
Mjukplister@reddit
Mine died young of cancer . Found her on Facebook and scrolled down and ‘oh !’ . Closure bar none
hujassman@reddit
I stayed in the same smallish town after I graduated. Haven't really thought that much about most people from that time in my life. I don't do the high school reunions or any of that stuff. It was mostly good and definitely simpler times back then, but it was a long time ago. I have enough going on in the present to occupy my time.
AreYouItchy@reddit
No. I know exactly where they are, and it makes me content.
poormansnormal@reddit
Meh life is too short to hold onto grudges for shit that happened in middle school.
MiMiinOlyWa@reddit
You only got bullied in middle school?
poormansnormal@reddit
6th grade through 9th was the absolute worst, then was in a different town for high school. I wasn't directly bullied there, but I was definitely an outcast.
everything_is_holy@reddit
I still remember his name, from grade school. Crazy.
poormansnormal@reddit
Hell, I have two of mine on my FB. People grow up, mature, and change. Apologies are made and accepted, people make better choices.
BIGepidural@reddit
Yeah but some never apologize and when you do see them in the wild they act just like they did back in the day. Not everyone's tormentors are as mature as yours.
poormansnormal@reddit
Oh I get it, trust me. I am fully aware that this is highly unusual.
CaptainQueen1701@reddit
I can accept we were all children. It was a failure of supervision by adults. It is likely the bullies were suffering a traumatic childhood.
LordStryder@reddit
I still have my list and it is a long one. Someday my FBI agent someday.
BIGepidural@reddit
No_Kangaroo_2428@reddit
No, but I would love to pay a visit to the sexual harassers, gropers, bosses who dragged me to dark restaurants to "discuss my career," bosses who played with my hair and demanded "favors," told me what to wear to work down to the lipstick shade, and the guy who sexually assaulted me in my office. All I want is a baseball bat, a pair of leg irons in a floor hook, a blow torch, and 10 minutes each. It would take weeks, but that's a sacrifice I'd be willing to make.
sasquatchfuntimes@reddit
Not high school but when I was in the military, we had a staff sergeant who was cruel to everyone below him. He got away with it because of rank. I mean, we’re talking, like Niedermeyer in Animal House bad. I told my husband is there is ever a Purge like scenario, he’s first on my list.
ScorpioTix@reddit
In 5th grade I whopped one over the head with a chair in class and in 8th grade stabbed one with a handful of sharpened pencils. By the time I moved into high school I was mostly left alone. Moved to a different area and it was an entirely different somewhat socially positive experience. Women / Girls still hated me but I was able to get along alright.
No_Guitar675@reddit
Same, we were allowed to defend ourselves back then. I went after a few of them, and they turned out to be the biggest cowards once they realized they messed with the wrong person, lol. I can’t think of any bullies from high school. No one messed with me after that.
BIGepidural@reddit
Yeah I think us defending ourselves against fuckwits is the reason they brought in "zero tolerance" in to high schools 😅
Snoo74962@reddit
My bullies have turned out to be losers. I am beyond them and couldn't care less.
Stefanz454@reddit
No, I probably should thank them for giving me the strength to become who I am today. Don’t hugely me wrong I had massive -what we would call anxiety or social phobia? - in grade school and beyond, but the strength to make it through alone made me the person and success I am today. But, I won’t thank them on second thought, I think I’ll thank the people that support me today.
FanDorph@reddit
Didn't have any bullies, so no.
Objective-Amount1379@reddit
Mine got hit by a car and killed in high school. Kind of made me regret wanting her to face karma of some sort.
mstermind@reddit
I beat my bullies up when I was in school. One of them got a scar, so I'd visit him to make sure it's still there to remind him about finding out when you fuck around.
BIGepidural@reddit
Not me personally; but my husband would love to meet a few guys that did some stuff once upon a time.
neoprenewedgie@reddit
I realized too late in life that some of the people I thought of as "bullies" were just my own projections on to them. Classic case of jocks vs. nerds so I perceived most jocks as bullied. But then I realized, as much as they intimidated me in gym class (or on the playground in elementary school) I probably intimidated them in the classroom. Your typical Breakfast Club stuff - we all had our hangups and insecurities.
Except for B. He was just an asshole.
robertglenncurry@reddit
In my 50s, I've had circumstances lead me to necessarily engage with bullies and abusers from my distant past and they hadn't changed at all. They may have been otherwise successful, but they had never grown as people. Whereas the consequences for me of said abuse forced me to deal with who I'd become in order to heal and grow.
Urban_forager@reddit
No. I learned, about 15 years ago that the kid who “bullied” me ended up killing a three year old in Iowa I think.
Cerrac123@reddit
My HS bully was so nasty and even physically assaultive. He is now, however, a county common pleas judge. I am torn between ignoring his jurisdiction and getting the chance to light him up. I just don’t go there anymore, tbh.
burtonboy1234@reddit
I don’t recall having a bully but I can think of a few meat heads that ended up the way I thought they would
whirlobug@reddit
Nope. No point going backwards.
Dark-Empath-@reddit
As trite as it sounds, most bullies are that way for a reason. Happy, well-adjusted people tend not to go around making other people’s lives a misery. That isn’t to absolve them in any way, there are plenty people who have had shitty upbringings or have troubles of one kind or another, and did grow up lashing out or inflicting malice on the rest of us. But still, something is wrong when people behave like that. Misery loves company and these people are invariably unhappy on a very deep level. Chances are they were already suffering while they were being mean to you. Again, these are not the behaviours of happy people. Their shitty attitudes, shitty actions and shitty demeanour are symptoms of a shitty life. My mental response to the bully was always -“Go and be a miserable loser somewhere else, far from me”. As many have noted, years later that generally does tend to be the case. People choose not to associate with them. The bully knows people in general don’t like them. They often cannot change and continue making bad decisions, live unhealthily, etc. it’s very very hard to find any compassion for such people. But do keep in mind that at some point, every one of us was an innocent baby entering this world in awe and wonder, with no concept of malice towards others. What happened in those babies lives as time went in to change that. It’s absolutely natural to wish an unhappy ending on those who tormented you. But also worth reflecting that they likely experienced plenty of punishment (even if not obvious) of some variety even before they got to the point of terrorising you. The more you reflect on that, the more pity enters the equation. And that’s a good way to mentally rob them of their power. They are often pathetic, objects of pity. Lives which were ruined and squandered.
Dull-Geologist-8204@reddit
No and I avoided them the one time I had to see them. At least I think I did but that night was kind of fuzzy. I am not 100% sure they weren't drinking with us in the parking lot.
Inside_Ad_7162@reddit
The best revenge is to say "fk em" & never spare them a second thought.
snarffle-@reddit
I photoshopped a photo of my bully Brad getting fucked in the backseat by an old Asian man. Sent it to him one day.
mtempissmith@reddit
Never. I don't even talk to people I liked back then let alone the bullies. I ran into two ex-friends when I went back down South to take care of my Dad.
One was a pretty good friend as a teenagers. I always knew she was gay but she never actually came out then and I left it alone respectfully thinking if she ever wanted me to know she'd tell me. Well, decades later she was out and she finally told me and I was fine with it and told her so.
I am so LGBTQ friendly from having so many friends over the years that people often think I should be. There have been a couple of bi/gay women who took my being straight as some kind of personal affront because they liked me other than just as friends and wanted to go there only to be rejected kindly and told "No, sorry. I'm into guys.."
I'm very upfront about being extremely supportive. Everybody knew my BFF from like the age of 10 was bi and she was like my sister. Better than my actual sisters ever were to me. She passed early and I still have yet to get over it. It was hard but at no point were we sexually involved. People might have thought that but we were not.
Most of the kids that I went to school with back in the day really were not nice to me. I wasn't just bullied I was the Carrie White of my school. I thank the Gods that there was no internet then. It was bad enough without it.
The bullies called our phone constantly for hours at a time saying nasty stuff. The boys verbally and sexually harassed me. At the end they put maggot infested dead birds in my locker and took all my books and my notes. I got no help from anyone in charge in fact they wanted me to pay for the books or they wouldn't allow me to graduate!
I left and went to an adult high school and finished 2 months before the rest of my original class did. I'd had enough.
So when I saw anyone from there as an adult I'd just leave and try not to let them even see me. I'm not even vaguely the person they knew back then. I've even changed my name. No desire whatsoever to talk with any of them.
Kidkrid@reddit
I had plans to visit bullies but found out the worst one had two failed marriages and a shitload of gambling debt. I guess them suffering the consequences of being a shit human is good enough for me.
bakingdiy@reddit
I ran into a couple of them a few years ago at a friend's funeral. They're still bullies and not surprisingly went into law enforcement career field.
iTrooper5118@reddit
A bully with a badge is a scary thought
casade7gatos@reddit
“Well, well, well, here you are on death row,” would be pretty cunty, so no.
iTrooper5118@reddit
Pay them a visit and gloat and lecture them about karma haha
NatureDull8543@reddit
Cant remember any of their names at this point. I was bullied pretty bad, i looked like a dork and an easy target, but I physically fought back when messed with. Was suspended a bunch for fighting and eventually expelled from the district in 9th grade when 2 kids teamed up on me and lost. By 10th grade I was taller than everyone else which stopped it.
0_IceQueen_0@reddit
My school bullies (the men) are all my friends now lol. They're the ones that called me 4 eyes and shorty in grade school. They're mature now and have come a-calling especially when it's easy as our school has this Viber group we're all a part. The girls, don't care although 1 has had a hard life I kinda feel sorry for her.
Short_Tailor@reddit
Yes. This kid scared the fuck out of 3rd grade me. I watched him smash a kid's head into a wall and then kick the balls into a dog. I never forgot his name.
FFD into the nineties. I'm working a warehouse job and supe tells me I have a trainee. When he states the name, I seem to have a bit of recall.
Sadly, nothing happened. I made it clear I knew who he was, where he was from and I didn't like him.
I went about my work, he was nervous.
I wanted to smash his fucking skull in and he knew it. I was bigger, stronger, angrier and violent.
I just finished my shift.
He might read this. I spared you.
StrangeAssonance@reddit
Kids are kids and usually messed up because of their parents. I can forgive kids because they were being dicks because of some other factor.
The teacher I had who picked on me relentlessly and then my sister when she had her. Let’s just say when I heard she died in a car accident I wasn’t shedding tears due to being sad.
Storyteller678@reddit
Nah.
I stopped letting my High School bully get to me when I realized he was a complete pussy who hid inside the school with his little sidekick cousin beside him to keep from getting an ass beating after mouthing off to his sister. He stood inside the lobby at the top of the hill and peered out the window, not moving until the guy got bored and left. I haven’t seen him since High School and nobody I know even thinks about him.
Another one who used to hassle me looks so old (gray haired, wrinkles etc) that I didn’t recognize him last time I saw him. Meanwhile everyone I know from High School remarks that I still look the same.
H-4350@reddit
I ran into the elementary/grammar school bully about 25 years ago. Pretty much everyone in the school was subjected to his shit. Not just me. When I saw him again, any anger I still had quickly turned to pity when I realized that there’s nothing any of us could do to him that he hadn’t already done to himself. I would be very surprised if he’s still alive. If I think about him these days I always end up wondering what he was going through as a kid that made him lash out. And I can’t imagine it was anything good.
ApatheistHeretic@reddit
Nah.
1- My success is the best revenge.
2- Looking back, I was a bit of a tool as a kid. There are only one or two I'd really believe were still terrible people today.
Azerafael@reddit
My worst bully pointed an AR at me and made shooting noises. He was hauled up to the principal but nothing happened cos the firing pin had been removed. The 80s lol.
No idea what's happened to him and absolutely no desire to find out.
MiMiinOlyWa@reddit
Think about punching them in the face, often
Fishboney@reddit
All of my coworkers think I have a list. I don't. My revenge is living the best life I can.
MidnightNo1766@reddit
My worst bully was my 4th grade teacher. She bullied me so much my parents had to threaten to start complaining to the school board if they didn't switch my class.
I did get moved and had a good second half of the year.
greenman5252@reddit
Only when it’s time for another oil change
weelassie07@reddit
One of mine apologized, and then they had the nerve to look bored with our conversation. For the love!!
Bardamu911@reddit
if you're still holding on to resentment towards a kid who was mean to you in high school or complaining about it on the internet, the bully won.
pinballrocker@reddit
Gawd no, love for today, not the past.
The_Outsider27@reddit
I see them at reunions. I relish in delight at the sight of their trash lives working blue collar jobs and looking absolutely broken. Two of them died before they made 45. One of them is in jail. Everyone they picked on is so much more successful, in spite of the days of misery they caused us.
I had so many Carrie fantasies thinking of them.
Now I thank them for making me thrive on success. I thought of them during every moment that I slaved through law school. Molly Ringwald and Rob Lowe wannabe skanks.
The fake Breakfast Club has egg on their face.
koozie17@reddit
“…trash lives working blue collar jobs…” Seems like those guys might’ve rubbed off on you just a tad.
DriedUpSquid@reddit
Do you have fun at reunions? I never went back for any of mine.
cbftw@reddit
I only remember one of them and at this point, I'm almost certain that he had issues going on at home. I don't really want to bring that back up
lcrker@reddit
No. I think about finding and apologizing to the Jr high best friend I turned on in the name of joining "the cool crowd". I've looked for him time and time again and can't locate him. To all that were bullied, I hope you turned out ok.
Various_Drop_1509@reddit
I honestly couldn’t even remember their names.
Beneficial-Mall6549@reddit
Forgive your trespassers.
Chemical_Author7880@reddit
Nope.
SecondYuyu@reddit
I kinda had a crush on one of mine. She mellowed out after sophomore year or so. Seems like she’s doing well these days
QuantumSasuage@reddit
I dont even live in the same country so ...
I do wonder about some I was decent friends with though. Many dont even have an online presence, so it is what it is. Can't say I miss the a-holes though ...
Cat_funeral_@reddit
No. I don't waste brain space or energy on people like that.
I had totally forgotten how two girls had treated me during high school. One girl was charge nurse on the floor where I was doing my own clinicals. She apologized profusely for something she had said 10 years ago, but I had no recollection of it. The other girl ran up to me in a restaurant and threw her arms around me saying, "I'm sorry, I'm so sorry please forgive me," and I was just so stunned because I didn't even recognize her.
I guess when you move on, make something of yourself, and gain confidence to let yourself be happy, those bad memories don't touch you.
RihannaJOzzene@reddit
I think I saw mine in a Mercedes recently
shadowrunner003@reddit
Dunno, I don't care enough about them to even look them up. was constantly getting into fights and being bullied in school , once I left school I never looked back(never even bothered with a reunion and they have held several.)
LillyReynoldsWill@reddit
The closest I had to a bully was a chick with a mustache calling me ugly. All I could think was...dude you have a mustache and you're calling me ugly?
Strangewhine88@reddit
Nope. I don’t think it would go well. I’m much crankier and outspoken now than back in the day.
One-Armed-Krycek@reddit
I see them pop up on, ‘People you may know” on FB—through acquaintances in school who I friended but was not very close to. I followed a few links and found most of them were really sad, pathetic people. One was in and out of jail. Another is a used car salesman. Another seems to be on his fifth wife and his kids refuse to talk to him. A lot of them look bloated with the red-nose, blurry eyed look of a lifetime alcoholic.
Maybe they had it rough too as kids. I don’t care. They chose to take their hurt out on others.
I have no desire to hear from any of them, though I think many bullies would say, “I didn’t realize I was bullying you.” As if tormenting others was just kicks to them.
On the other side of the coin, I do remember the people who were kind just for the sake of it—people from all cliques. Two in particular stick out. First was a kind of sassy, snarky girl who held her own, was popular, but was always nice to everyone. She used her charisma for good. She ended up a local newscaster. Another was a girl who was painfully beautiful and had modeling gigs. She knew how to do her hair and makeup. She was incredibly nice. Other girls were particularly shitty to her and mean. Guys were always pawing at her. She handled it and kept to herself, but was really cool and nice to me. She ended up winning a state beauty pageant and runs a badass nonprofit organization for animals.
I honestly remember the people who were nice for no reason more than the bullies at this point in my life.
d4sbwitu@reddit
My only school bully got pregnant in high school and had to drop out. That daughter later died giving birth to the bully's granddaughter. No, I think she already got way more than she gave.
TheReadyRedditor@reddit
Nope. My mother ran into his mother and she said he was blessed with a son three times worse than he was. 😂
Devilimportluvr@reddit
Naw I'm sure he's still a dick
CarcajouCanuck@reddit
I took care of one of them while still in school (fuck you Lisa) and ran into another at a party when I was in my 20s. He tried the "Hey, do you remember me? I went to school with you" thing and I told him off.
In hindsight, I wish I had been kinder to him. We came from a time and location that was rough to those who showed the slightest hint of homosexuality so he was hiding very deep in the closet. I was only one of the many who he took his anger out on. When I last saw him, we were in Vancouver where he could be himself and he definitely seemed to be a much happier guy. I truly hope he's doing well.
N0Xqs4@reddit
Now that's just dope bait, you know violence is bad . Already been punished for the truth. Pass
Moody_GenX@reddit
Mine are in prison. Both are in for stabbing and killing someone.
TankSinattra@reddit
One of my bullies killed himself. He couldn't deal with the world outside of high school. Oh well
Another one had a serious drug problem that fucked him up good. Last I heard he works a desk in some warehouse. Better than how his buddy ended up I suppose.
jessek@reddit
If you're still thinking about them three decades later, they've won.
emax4@reddit
Please share with us your secret on overcoming trauma.
emax4@reddit
Only to exact revenge. Aside from that. I'd rather focus on continuing to isolate myself from everybody else.
SciFiGuy72@reddit
My only bully was my 1st grade teacher who hated that my parents had me late in life....she was a nut and she's dead now.
GladosPrime@reddit
Hell no, forgotten.
4WDToyotaOwner@reddit
I had one apologize at my 20th reunion. That was cool. One was murdered, literally. A couple others are still out there. One sucker punched me from behind. Sometimes think I’d invite him to try that now, but…it’s been 30 years. Like Obi-Wan Kenobi said, [That] little one’s not worth the trouble.”
EdwardBliss@reddit
I usually stopped it--in my own brazen way--before it even started. I'm surprised I didn't get my head bashed in. Some of those guys were huge.
icechaosruffledgrous@reddit
One got murdered.
drugstorecowgirlz@reddit
The only person I can remember who wanted to fight me all the time was a big fat ugly girl in 8th grade. I imagine she only got bigger and uglier so that’s good enough for me.
Hctc666@reddit
My #1 bully died in 2005 right before I went back home for a visit. I haven’t really even thought about it since then.
Love4RVA@reddit
I wish my school bully would die. She made my life a living hell.
Haunting-Goose-1317@reddit
Kids can be assholes and that's what they were. Now as an adult and behaving that way, is a different story.
WileyCoyote7@reddit
Nope. Had a couple, but were mainly teasing/taunting and easily ignored. Main one, he sucker-punched me in the hall between classes, and a couple days later I took a folding chair to his rib cage.
I came through the small town this happened in about 10 years ago, was told (I didn’t ask) he had been serving 20 years for involuntary manslaughter, then got an additional 50 for stabbing a guy nearly to death in prison. Effectively, a death sentence at his age.
VinylHighway@reddit
I have let go of any true hate. It all was so long ago.
Quirky_Commission_56@reddit
Hell no. Had any of them acknowledged and/or apologized then the answer is still hell no.
notyourshoesize2024@reddit
No
TwistedMemories@reddit
I don't think I ever had one. I mean, there was that one kid from 3rd grade in elementary school that was an asshole, but sadly, he was hit by a car that same year and they did hang up a memorial painting for him.
BUt other than that, I don't seem to remember having a bully.
PistolNinja@reddit
Nope. I hated them then and I couldn't give a flying fu©k about them now. I'm reasonably successful in my life and I don't need to know whether they are or not. It just doesn't matter.
cdsfh@reddit
Mine died as a crack addict a few years ago, so nope!
lancerreddit@reddit
Thankfully I forgot about them they these years.
Now I am trying to get over adult bullies I’ve experienced in the workplace as an adult.
OkCalbrat@reddit
I can only remember her first name cuz who cares. No way to look her up these days. She stopped bullying me after we got in a fight in highschool and I whipped her ass. I was surprised, lol.
dfh-1@reddit
I don't think about them at all.
amazonfamily@reddit
the only one i really remember is long dead- alcohol and being the town bicycle led to her death in an accident
R67H@reddit
Mine died a few years ago. Guy terrorized me my senior year of HS. He got kicked off the varsity FB team for kicking me in the head a few times after I tackled him during practice, and blamed me for losing his scholarship. He ended up turning me in to the school for selling him coke in an attempt to keep me from graduating. It didn't work. And I didn't shed a tear that he had to go to community college, and then got cancer later on.
Lost_cause5150@reddit
No , we were all kids and mistakes were made. I know who I am and truly don’t have the energy for negativity.
JuJu_Wirehead@reddit
Dude, I don't even remember the names of 90% of the kids I went to school with. Faces, sure, but everyone is 30+ years older so I probably wouldn't recognize them today either.
shitty_advice_BDD@reddit
They're either dead or wish they were. The world and life has not been kind to them.
Papa_PaIpatine@reddit
That's like, the past man. Let it live there, I'll live here in the now.
Jazzlike_Entry_8807@reddit
Mine went to jail for rape.
Princessferfs@reddit
I saw mine several years ago. I took my aunt to Red Lobster and the ex-bully was a waitress there.
Just seeing her was revenge enough for me.
Majik_Sheff@reddit
Only 2 stick out in my mind enough to even warrant a search (20 years ago). One's probably still in prison and the other was managing a Burger King last time he updated his Facebook profile.
Good enough for me.
ero_skywalker@reddit
Sometimes I look up mine on Facebook.
ltcgroup714@reddit
Who?
modernistamphibian@reddit
Of course not. That would give them too much power. Years later, they are bullying you in your own mind? You're doing the bullying for them. If you think about them. If you can't let it go, then they win.