You're absolute Chad status in your youth because there isn't much shit you need to do that requires rigid discipline. School is easy, girls don't really care you don't have your shit together because you're "fun", consequences are pretty mild, other people can pick up where you're slacking.

Once you're in your 30s it changes because now it's way easier to fall behind on stuff you need to do and the consequences of not accomplishing tasks can affect you big time. Girls now want stability, which you don't provide, and you can't relate to younger girls. Everyone else is busy, so you can't rely on others to pick up where you're slacking.

Now you have to figure out weird ways to be a functioning adult, which everyone else seems to just adjust to fine, and you feel like an alien.

Every Adhder in their 30s is either doing really well moneywise and has a rotating gang of hook ups or in abject poverty and alone. No middle ground.