People being grandparents in their 40s still weirds me out...

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Ellepea103084@reddit

I'm late to this shindig...but oh man do I have a story for you!!

I have 21 year old twin daughters , and I'm a grandma to a 3 year old.

I'm 40.

Lived young and fast. Got married at 18, was a widow by 20!

Wild i know!! 😲

Curious as to why it's weird to you? Everyone here on earth has a journey, a different purpose. It won't be the same as anyone else's, because these things...these things shape and mold us to who we are, what we have overcome, some people's start sooner than others, some later. Just enjoy the path on your own journey and don't be so easy to ick someone else's.

What if they were abused as a teen and got pregnant?

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Key-Shift5076@reddit

..brand new tiny humans are 💯 dictators.

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ugajeremy@reddit

Ya'll are crazy lol!

I'm 45 and cannot fathom having a little one.

May you all have the utmost patience and raise wonderful kids.

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Undercover_Chimp@reddit

My wife and I are both 41; she said to me just yesterday, “you know, [our only child] will be in high school in two years, we could have another.”

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vinylchickadee@reddit

I ended up working with the aunt of a girl I went to high school with (knew who she was, we weren't in the same circles) and I was in my late 30s when the aunt mentioned her niece was pregnant with her second, on a 13 year age gap. Same husband, intentional second pregnancy.

Maybe they'd tried unsuccessfully for years in between or there were other extenuating circumstances, but I had my first at 37 and must have been in that infant zone because I very distinctly remember the shock and horror that I did not mask at all at the idea of doing that on purpose, and this fabulous older woman chuckling at my reaction.

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IntergalacticFboy712@reddit

I (39M) have two kids from my first marriage. My wife (39F) and I kinda tried for a couple years after we got married.

Both of my kids are in high school.

The Lady and I were at dinner not long ago, and heard a baby crying. Our eyes met, and both of us had a look of "thank God that's not us."

We talked about it on the way home, and a couple times since. We're too old to start over.

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ugajeremy@reddit

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THIS.

I can attest to no help, and cloth diapering, also with no help. ;p

Mom to second at age 40 (natural), currently pregnant and comatose tired with #3 at almost 43 (also unassisted conception-didn’t expect it so fast).

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ugajeremy@reddit

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Whole_Kiwi_8369@reddit

My youngest sister was trying to have a child at 42. As I'm almost 45, I'm long done having children. I've moved on to breeding puppies! Puppies leave in 8 weeks not 18 years!!!

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ugajeremy@reddit

I went looking for the puppy tax and didn't see any!

Banging kids shouldn’t be celebrated

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My mom became a grandma at 36 while I was in high school (my older sister had a baby not me!) and I didn't think much of it at the time because everyone over 30 was old lol

Do you have any idea how much freedom Financial stability and our personal existence we have to ourselves now it's amazing and we have the ability and energy to assist and help our children with their existence

I couldn't imagine just now starting out our parenting

Last 4 generations (male) of my family were all in their 30s.

It was almost exactly the same age as well.

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vulcanfeminist@reddit

Yeah, my great grandma had her first kid at 20, my grandma had her first kid at 19, and her oldest child had her first kid at 22. I happen to be that kid she had at 22 so I got to have a ton of time with my grandma and great grandma, it was awesome. My grandmother is still alive (I'm 40) and my great grandmother was alive until I was in my mid 20s. Honestly generations being spaced roughly 20 years apart is really solid (assuming the extended family stays in each other's lives on purpose).

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420_Shaggy@reddit

I came from 3 generations of young moms. My whole bloodline is a trainwreck but my last great grandparent lived into my early 20s.

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OldJames47@reddit

My grandfather’s brother is called my great-uncle. My grandmother’s brother is also called my great-uncle.

My father’s brother called my uncle just as my mother’s brother is called my uncle.

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ninersguy916@reddit

Sure, but in this example, there was a child involved which would make it there great grandmother or grandfather so then what do you call that person's siblings?

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Prestigious_Egg_6207@reddit

I would call her my great great aunt.

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OldJames47@reddit

Maybe I’m misreading the OP, but I see her sister became a grandmother and told OP she was now a grandaunt.

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Gloworm327@reddit

Me too! My cousin is a year younger than me. He started having kids when he could barely drive and they all followed suit. He may have been 35 when he became a grandfather.

She came with the package. My wife is 3 years older than me and had her first kid at 19. We met when I was 19, we got married 6 months later and have been married for 21 years.

I have been dad to that little 4 year old girl ever since.

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SpecificJunket8083@reddit

Me too. Gross.

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Bobo_Baggins_jatj@reddit

I’m 46. I have grandkids, but only one by blood. My oldest son was born when I was 19. Him and his wife had a girl in 2022.

My second wife is 7 years older than me so my step daughters were born when I was 17. One of them married an older man who had 3 kids from a first marriage so I inherited 3 ready-made grands there. Her and her husband had twins (she’s a twin) in 2022.

So I went from 0 to 3 in an instant. Then went to 5 then 6 in 2022. I’m glad I’m still young enough to enjoy it all.

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obscurecloud@reddit

I was 36 when my two oldest boys had kids a month apart. My brother had his first kid two months after that.

My first girlfriend from school is now a grandparent. She had her first child at 19 (not mine, I might add, we where both 15-16 when we dated), and then her daughter had a kid in her early 20s.

Had my first kid at 22 then had two more over the next 5 years. 2 months ago turned 50 and still no grand kids.

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It’s crazy how we can be the same age, yet be incompletely different phases of parenthood/grandparenthood. I’m 44 and have a 5 and almost 7 year old. I have one friend my age who has a 4 year old grandchild and another friend my age who’s about to give birth to her second child. I can’t fathom being a grandmother or going through the newborn stage right now.

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brandonspade17@reddit

I have a 7 month old grandson.

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Omukiak@reddit

How is being grandparents in their 40's common? Non of my xennial friends had kids until their mid 30's at the earliest.

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LillyTabbyCat@reddit

Same. I’m 45 and have no kids and this just doesn’t compute for me lol

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StuffNThingsK@reddit

Had my first grandbaby at 41!

I have an aunt who had her first child at 15, and her daughter had her first child at 16. My aunt was a grandma at 32.

My sister became a grandma before 40 (she was a teen mom) and it simultaneously made me feel very old and young. My niece and I have kids that are only a couple years apart.

Same with my sil. Her oldest grandchild is five years older than my ten year old, my first kid.

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ApatheistHeretic@reddit

My sister made my mother a grandparent in her late 30s, not really uncommon at the time.

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fishesandherbs902@reddit

Making poor decisions is a generational past-time in some families.

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goldandjade@reddit

My maternal grandfather was 39 when I was born and my other grandparents were in their early 40s. I’m 32 and have a living great-grandmother.

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swinging-in-the-rain@reddit

Me with a 4 month old

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Rickardiac@reddit

I knew a woman who was a grandmother at thirty two and a great grandmother before she was fifty.

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damndolly@reddit

Had my first when I was 16, she had her first when she was 23. That made me a grandma at 40. It's still weird saying I'm a grandma. No one believes me until I explain. Honestly, I wouldn't have done it differently, I'm tired.

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umhellurrrr@reddit

My sister married and then had a child in her late twenties. Her oldest married and then had a child in his early twenties.

TemperatureTight465@reddit

My mom was a great grandmother at 52 😬 (not from me)

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clutzycook@reddit

It's definitely a weird age. I have friends who are grandparents and I have friends who are just starting to have kids or have older kids but suddenly turn up pregnant again at 41-42

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WheelLeast1873@reddit

I'm 46 and have a 6 year old. Yeah, it's very weird to me.

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sedatedforlife@reddit

My husband and I will be grandparents this week! My daughter will be induced in a few days.

We were class of 98 and are 44&45. My daughter is 25 and married for 3 years.

I had a pregnancy scare in August. Now THAT would have been weird! 😂

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Doubledewclaws@reddit

My first grandson was born when I was 46, and my mom was the same age when I had my oldest daughter.

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OkPickle2474@reddit

My grandparents were 40 and 46 when my oldest cousin was born. It would seem weird to me now for a friend of that age to be a grandparent, but for my cousins and me it was amazing. We got so much time with them.

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Impressive-Chair-287@reddit

My wife and I have been watching a show on Max named "Unexpected" about teenage pregnancies.

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cardie82@reddit

Someone I went to high school with is about to be a grandma. I was really worried about her daughter being a teen parent and then remembered that she gave birth I. The late 90s and the daughter is at least 25.

phillysleuther@reddit

My best friend from high school was a grandmother at 37. She had her daughter at 19, and the daughter had her kid at 16.

Now my grandmother had her first kid at 18 (May 1944) during World War II. She would turn 19 month after she was born. Her first son was born in September 1965. My grandmother had just turned 40. My mom would not become a grandmother until she was 64.

I can’t have kids, so I’ll never be a grandmother.

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boilergal47@reddit

Apples typically don’t fall very far from trees. Just sayin.

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ninoidal@reddit

We had our kids at 38 and 40....and they're 6 and 8 now. I could never see myself having another kid any later than this.

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rjcpl@reddit

Yeah not having kids myself, friends my age are what’s making me feel old. What with their kids starting to drive, go off to college, and have kids of their own.

dropyopanties@reddit

It's possible, I'm 46, and have a 19 and 21 year old. I like to think they are smart enough to know better.

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oakleafwellness@reddit

I didn’t have my first child until I was in my 30s at the same time my niece (by marriage) gave birth around the same time at 14 yrs old. My sister in law became a grandmother in her 30s. Members of my family very upper middle class were horrified that technically I became a great aunt in my early 30s.

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CozmicOwl16@reddit

I was there when I learned a coworker had a grandkid and she was 42. She had hers at 20 and her daughter had a child at 22. Both planned. Christians that believe that it’s better to have the fam young and later afford them. So brilliant. (Actually is if you know how to exploit the systems )

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Other_Ad_613@reddit

My kids were born when I was 19 and 22, they're 24 and 27 now and they have zero interest in having children but we could be grandparents by now. It's just part of the teen parent thing. Like we were poor for the bulk of their childhood and are now entering our peak earning years and they're on their own. DINK life is pretty nice.

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thrwaway070879@reddit

Mom had me at about 18. By 26 she had 4 kids. My Aunt before 30 had 3 kids. At least on my mom's side my grandparents had 7 grand kids before 55. most of those in their 40's.

Paternal grandparents were older by a decade plus so in a big way my parents having kids younger was a big blessing for them and us. It' been nice having two sets of grandparents deep into adulthood and now at one set into middle age.

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OnehappyOwl44@reddit

I was an empty nester at 43, I'm 47 now. My kids are 27 and 22 and both left home at 19. Still no grandkids but it could technically happen at anytime. They both live with their girlfriends and have good careers. A lot of my friends still have kids and teenagers living at home.

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SnowLovesSummer@reddit

I’m 47 with two teens (17, 14).

My sister who is 48 is a mother (26, 24) and a grandmother (approx 5,2)

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no_clever_name_yet@reddit

My first boyfriend (4 months younger than me!) is about to be a grandpa. He and his wife got pregnant sophomore year of college.

Weirds me out. WEIRDS ME OJT.