Alone for the holidays

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jetlagged_hungover@reddit

Foster a puppy or kitten for the holidays! Or book a staycation for 1 week. It will greatly help the Dallas shelter which is extremely in need. And you get a buddy in return! https://www.instagram.com/p/DCiEaMtNo5x/?igsh=dXhhanE4bmxoZGFw

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periwinkletweet@reddit

Oh no I'm going to cry. Lol even though they don't know about holidays my reaction was yes! The dogs need a staycation!

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love-bodies@reddit

I have a 11 year old female “Blue” from DAS I am fostering but needing to find a new home for if anyone wants. Good with kids and other dogs. Easy going sweet girl.

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cinemageekgirl@reddit

You’re Blue’s foster?? That’s so wonderful to hear! I met Blue at DAS (I was a regular volunteer until I had an ACL injury - still healing after surgery). I asked about fostering Blue, but the foster team said someone had already taken her into their home to foster. Man, if my left knee worked properly I’d foster her in a heartbeat.

Good on you for giving her a temp loving home 💙

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TheRagingBull84@reddit

This is a great idea.

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fsi1212@reddit

I work. I haven't had a holiday off in like 5 years. That solves it for me.

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cinemageekgirl@reddit

Same. I’m very low contact with my family anyways, so I always opt to work holidays if I I’m able to.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

The ones who are alone, can I ask where are your families? Not trying to be an asshole, just curious.

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MoeKneeKah@reddit

Moved here for work. Family is back at home

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MSPTurbo@reddit

Same here. I am the only person in this country; all my family and friends are 8,000+ miles away. I never realized how much harder it is to make friends as you get older until now.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

Do you feel it was worth it? That's the main reason I couldn't move for a job, I couldn't be away from my family like that, not permanent at least.

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MoeKneeKah@reddit

It really depends on the job. I love my job and have been working at this company 10 years, and I have seniority and all that good stuff. But all my friends and family are a thousand miles away. My family is not terribly close but we’ve always gotten together for the holidays. Connecting via video calls and the internet has helped, but I haven’t made any friends here (partly because I moved during covid lockdown, partly because I’m a workaholic) and it’s been 4 years so not likely to happen for this old cat. I’m usually content in my solitude but occasionally I’d like to get out and have someone to vent to about work and daily life. I go back to visit but the trips are never long enough.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

Do you work for GM?

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MoeKneeKah@reddit

No I work for a small company

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clj1968lewisville@reddit

My family, relatives, close friends are all dead. I'm the last of my entire family tree. 5th year in a row completely by myself. It's near impossible to want to meet people when you are in a complete state of depression. People die you know? Any other questions?

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

Not sure why you're getting offended, it was a question

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TexasLiz1@reddit

Because the reasons don’t matter? Every family member could be dead or toxic as hell or whatever. It’s just not a constructive question.

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clj1968lewisville@reddit

People or a person alone during the holidays, must be a reason, and common sense would tell you, that reason cannot be good! Sadly, seem to think im the bad guy for feeling this loss, this isolation, this depression. It loss that causes families not to be together.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

That's not always the case

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clj1968lewisville@reddit

Geez, troll, right, there's always exceptions to everything. Idk why you're insisting on debating this. Why you are so insensitive to what I've said here is beyond me. Since feel it necessary to troll here I'm off this board. I just wanted to see what might be available for me on the holidays! You said you didn't want to be something, what was that? Hmm, you are definitely that!!!

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Ichgebibble@reddit

Like you said - troll. We’ve both feed the “just curious” troll but if we stop it’ll go away.

And, as a fellow widow, I got SO tired of hearing “I’m sorry” but it really is pretty much any of us can say. And so, I am sorry. Losing your person sucks all kinds of ways.

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Ichgebibble@reddit

When I hear “just curious” I know the asker is being a nosy jerk who doesn’t realize that “just curious” is a huge tell. Work on your subterfuge and get back to me.

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Ichgebibble@reddit

I’ll play. My husband died.

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Kiitkkats@reddit

I’ll play too. My dad died, along with many other family members.

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jessy_pooh@reddit

My family lives overseas in another country.

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vegas_lov3@reddit

My family lives out of state and I don’t have the budget right now to fly.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

Did you move for work?

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vegas_lov3@reddit

Yes.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

What made you choose that job over being closer to family? Just curious

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vegas_lov3@reddit

Because I’m an adult. I can’t just live off my parents forever.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

So there were no jobs where you from?

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glitterprncss@reddit

this is just not a question you ask, out of respect for others.

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

It's a question

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glitterprncss@reddit

read the room

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

How about you read the room, and gtfo my thread

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glitterprncss@reddit

lmfao

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Dallasvolt10@reddit

How bout dat?!?!

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Sometimes_Wright@reddit

I've spent Christmas alone many times when I was single bc my SIL's parents were divorced and that lead to them having to go to so many places on actual Christmas day. My family would do Christmas early to ease up on their stress but I didn't want to drive another 6 hours round trip in the span of a couple days. I will say walking my dog around with absolutely no one on the streets was eerie!

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Wanderincuple@reddit

I second a dive bar. Also second the Dallasite.

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MiloMM123@reddit

What is the Dallasite?

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the_man_i_loved@reddit

Old dive bar caddy-corner from Jimmy's food store. On the corner of Bryan and Fitzhugh, on the East side.

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NonlocalA@reddit

It's low-key the best dive bar in Old East Dallas, too.

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Cheesencrqckerz@reddit

It’s the most depressing thing to be alone on a holiday when everyone else is gathering with family and loved ones. I would usually just get drunk and grab jack in the box for dinner. This year that is not an option because I’m 5 months sober. 🥹 no idea where the single sober adult orphans go this time of year

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mathewsbabe@reddit

Im in red oak too

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Cheesencrqckerz@reddit

When I got sober I had to move, I need to update my flair to oakcliff 😭

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AnnualResident2612@reddit

Stay sober and strong.

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ButterscotchTall4863@reddit

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR SOBRIETY!! So proud of you for sticking to it 💪

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Cheesencrqckerz@reddit

Thank you kindly! I’m taking everything one day at a time and it’s amazing how far that has gotten me.

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MoeKneeKah@reddit

If you find something, please update. This is my 4th year in Dallas and I have always done the holidays with just my son and I. Would love to have more people to celebrate with. If you don’t find anything, you’re welcome to our tiny gathering where I’ll cook a whole chicken with all the trimmings (because a turkey will just go to waste) and we’ll spend the afternoon playing board games. That’s the tradition in my house

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30cents2Transfers@reddit

Same. Will spend Xmas and new years on my own here. I hope there’s something I could do besides eat, sleep, and drink by myself on a holiday.

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bananabob23@reddit

Well that’s sad as hell

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who_am_i_please@reddit

I was thinking....it's too late to make a reservation anywhere and too difficult to get a nose count. Do you think so folks would like to meet at Luby's? Their turkey dinner is really good.

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tbear87@reddit

I could be down for that

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QuintoxPlentox@reddit

Is it worth it to try and get a holiday meetup for r/Dallas going? I know people have reservations about reddit meetups but I'd be willing to bring my son as long as someone else is willing to do the same thing. A relaxed, family atmosphere might be just the thing, you know? Even for those here without kids, maybe even especially.

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who_am_i_please@reddit

I'm in the same boat. I usually spend thanksgiving alone and it doesn't bother me but this year it's bothering me.

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ThyInspiration@reddit

Why is it bothering you this year tho?

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who_am_i_please@reddit

It's been a rough year. I'm just going to leave it at that.

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Showmestateofmind23@reddit

Me too

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BICEPLION@reddit

Me three

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who_am_i_please@reddit

I know it's too late to make reservations anywhere but do you think people would like to meet at Luby's? Their turkey dinner is fantastic.

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IndigoSunsets@reddit

There are just 3 of us and I will be making far too much food either way. You're welcome if you want to drive down to Mansfield. Please message me if you (or other people on this thread) are interested.

If you are, we'll text, check vibes, promise no murder before you come to my house.

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AnnualResident2612@reddit

❤️

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Strong_Art9412@reddit

Following to see what everyone comes up with! I’m new to Dallas as well!

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Dry-Refrigerator2746@reddit

Id come to a meetup

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Dino_Juice_Extractor@reddit

Lee Harvey's has had a potluck in the past.

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Threet3n@reddit

Maybe I shouldn't be surprised that this is actually the name of a bar in Dallas 😆

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DramaticLimit8900@reddit

My mom, dad, brother, and best friend all passed away recently and my boyfriends parents passed away as well so we have no family and we have no where to go for Thanksgiving ... we're also in Dallas. If you guys come up with anything please let me know I would love to join!

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sc00terb0i@reddit

my mom never left vietnam and my dad moved to hawaii after their divorce when i was 16

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Klutzy_Connection884@reddit

Going to be my first holiday alone here and it’s beginning to bother me too. Happy I saw this thread.

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TexasDonkeyShow@reddit

Milo Butterfingers

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txchiefsfan02@reddit

The post this comment has been waiting for

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moogle15@reddit

Maybe you could join or create a MeetUp group? And everyone in it could get together for the holidays + the odd weekend here and there.

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Motor_Ad8313@reddit

I usually help out at a local homeless shelter or I’ll go to Christmas and Thanksgiving events by myself and I’ll meet people there. Been doing this for 6 years 🤘🏽🫶🏽 literally met with a woman on a Christmas holiday lights and she turned it into a date that same time during the holiday lights. Went to eat afterwards she came with me since she was a third wheel with her party of 7. She was the single oddball of the group. Hope this helps

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