Do you find midweek evenings boring?

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BOLTINGSINE@reddit

Theres too many antisocial couch potatoes in this country

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As someone who is out every night of the week, spending evenings at home sounds incredibly boring. Look for local clubs to join. Even if it's something outrageous that you never thought you'd do. You might surprise yourself!

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Volatile1989@reddit

On the other hand, local clubs sound like hell to me. I hate being social, so the more time I can spend alone, the better.

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Wishmaster891@reddit

out every night? Doing what may i ask?

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midget_3111@reddit

Weirdly enough, folk dancing. I play Melodeon two nights a week, play for a clog dance group the third. The other nights I'm out teaching Morris dancing. Weekends I'm travelling the UK dancing at various festivals. It's a good life and brings me joy.

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SpaceGloomy1595@reddit

Local clubs, meetups, take yourself out to a restaurant, go to one of the museum/art gallery lates if they're around you, go to the theatre. There's loads to do if you look! And if you schedule something, someone is likely to join.

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

I and he may as well kill ourselves!.

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Volatile1989@reddit

That’s the plan!

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gloomsbury@reddit

There are few places to go or things to do past 5pm (especially in winter) which don't cost money, and less and less people have the disposable income for meals out, concerts or the cinema on a weekly basis. Not to mention a lot of people are cutting back on alcohol and might be more resistant to drinking on work nights.

Also, respectfully, having a 9-5 WFH job does allow for more flexibility in terms of lifestyle and activities than if you have a long commute or awkward shift times. I work a lot of early mornings and late evenings, which rules out doing anything else on a work day most of the time.

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Evil_Knavel@reddit

I get the sense that everyone in the UK is at home watching TV every night.

I'm a similar age. Rarely get a chance to watch TV, evenings are for cooking the kids several different dinners, sorting out all the stuff I have to get ready for the following morning and trying to convince Mrs Knavel that no, we definitely don't need to redecorate or rearrange whatever room she's thinking about at that given moment, we just have to declutter, and yes, I am still working on the bathroom renovation even though it looks like very little progress has been made since Friday.

Tonight I was fortunate enough to have quick conversation with the bloke across the road while taking the bins out (I forget his name) that mostly consisted of complaining about the council and the works traffic from the nearby housing development. Which was nice.

Its nearly 8pm and now faced with the nightmarish challenge of trying to find a 10mm socket in the shed, in the dark. The outcome of that might dictate how much alcohol I consume between now and the time my kids are all in bed and I get to crash out before I wake up tomorrow morning and realise I forgot to buy X for Y's packed lunch, didn't iron shirts and forgot to keep an eye on the cars slow puncture.

I'm not at all bitter, post like this just remind me how much time I used to have. Go out and do something! Pub, Gigs, Warhammer, chat with the geordie guy that works in the pertrol station. Learn to play snooker or something. Join a cult. Start a cult. Get into D&D. Volunteer. Go to the gym. Get to know your neighbours, if that doesn't work, start a petty feud with them. There's plenty hobbies and projects that can occupy your time.

If you're male, check out places like Andy's Man Club. There's loads going on if you've got free time.

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Volatile1989@reddit

I’ve got loads of free time. Just a shame that everything bores me and doesn’t appeal to me.

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Ok_Damage_8244@reddit

What if the Geordie at the garage gets a new American friend?

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heeyyyyyy@reddit

No offence but that first 2 paras of routine sounds drab to me. I dread ever having that routine but I realize it becomes that way with marriage and kids. Wanna fly free solo for as long as I can, even if means some boring evenings.

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

Yeah he is shocked by this monotony. And like it or not, you are everything he hates about being here!

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carlovski99@reddit

This is a big part of why my mum moved to spain - living more of your life outside.

I try and avoid staying in all the time - I play for a couple of pool teams so that's one or two nights a week. Archery too, but I much prefer shooting outside, so not much midweek at the moment.

I would do more something more sporting as well, but health issues have stopped that.

I always try and look out for comedy, music, food/drink tasting events too. Actually, probably do more midweek, than weekends!

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Volatile1989@reddit

I find every evening boring.

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LauraHday@reddit

I’m 30 and go out multiple times a week to meet friends for dinner, drinks etc. I live in London though - not sure if the culture is different elsewhere?

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

Yeah it’s grim up north.

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Mister_V3@reddit

You can go to any northern city and have a social evening with friends in a town centre.

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

It was a joke. I didn’t mean it. I love the north.

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Beginning-Leek8545@reddit

There’s more to do in London.

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Big_Stretch3684@reddit

I get home just after five. After a workout, shower, dinner, washing up, preparing the next days lunch and getting ready for bed it’s already like 9-10pm for me and then it’s in to bed to watch TV show and then bed. How do people even have time for socialising all the time during the week?!

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thepopkids@reddit

Not everyone cooks or does meal prep, you don’t HAVE to do those things, you can do other things with your time… quick slice of toast and butter and out to meet friends or go to the cinema or an art show or gig or book launch etc etc. Can’t imagine giving those things up simply to make meals over and over

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Big_Stretch3684@reddit

A slice of toast for dinner 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂I would die of exhaustion without proper food after dinner and THEN going out

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thenotoriouswjg@reddit

What do you eat then? A quick slice of toast and butter every night?

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heeyyyyyy@reddit

Anything really. Meals can be made in 5 minutes - slap together a sandwich, make a salad, taco, zillion options out there. Or buy prepared meals (I'm from the US and they are fairly common here).

I understand some people like to spend hours cooking hot meals every day and find it thereaupatic but OTOH I also get that it can feel like a waste of time if you want to use the time doing other things. I used to be the former because I was raised that way where my mom cooked everyday for the family, but now I don't spend over 10 minutes making dinner. Occasionally I steam chicken and some veggies, but it's thrown in the cooker for 30 minutes while I go for a run or do other things.

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seanypthemc@reddit

Depending on how you plan dinner / meal prep you can heat and eat a meal in 20 minutes with next to no washing up. A work-out and shower can be done in an hour, depending on where / how you work out. Am I missing something?

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secretstothegravy@reddit

Nothing we like better in this country on a nice November evening than sitting on a roof or going to the beach

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Overall_Status_5828@reddit

Love me the North Sea when it’s minus 3.

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Automatic-Source6727@reddit

September has the warmest sea temperature, right now isn't all that far from the peak.

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mabye_iron_man@reddit

The fact that all our water seems to be full of shit doesn't exactly make it more appealing

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Shoes__Buttback@reddit

After you then

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Evil_Knavel@reddit

Funnily enough my neighbour was on his roof just before it was getting dark. I haven't checked if he's still up there but the ladders are still there for some reason. I'll need to ask him where he buys his thermals when I next see him.

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DEADB33F@reddit

Maybe he just forgot to put his ladder away.

Maybe you should do him a favour and take it down for him.

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Wojtek-tx@reddit

I'm starting to get worried about your neighbour. Is he still on his roof? Might be a good idea to take him to the beach next time.

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Evil_Knavel@reddit

I'm sure he's fine. The ladder isn't quite what I'd describe as erect, but it's still upright. If he'd fallen or was stuck up there I'm sure I've have heard about it.

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danddersson@reddit

The beach is great in November. Gorgeous sunrises, less busy for running or cycling along the prom, lovely seascapes. Loads of people going for dips in the morning, too.

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Sly1969@reddit

Now try sitting down doing nothing for three hours and let us know how it goes.

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Tbh sunset, stars and moonlight at the beach are elite experiences. Nothing like it compares in summer

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reguk32@reddit

I was at the beach today in Dornoch. First time I've been on a snow-covered beach.

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Virtual_Field439@reddit

Good distillery up that way… the famous “Thompson bros” go check them out!

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Dia-De-Los-Muertos@reddit

Coward, the roofs are only slightly sloped and slippy. You need to get out more.

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tonybpx@reddit

Dogging?

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captain-carrot@reddit

Ok but if OP doesn't already have a dog that is a lot of responsibility

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ForceStories19@reddit

/thread

Its the only reasonable option OP

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BroodLord1962@reddit

It's just different cultures. I also lived and worked overseas for many years, and like you I was out sometimes midweek, but here in the UK especially at this time of year people would rather stay home. Cost of living is also a factor. Most of my friends when I was overseas were Brits working overseas on tax free packages which meant they had more disposable income. You also have to factor in that people have a lot of expense coming with Christmas just round the corner.

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captain-carrot@reddit

I have 2 kids so most nights I don't have time to be bored but like you I don't like watching TV every night.

If you can't get people out to the pub then it sounds like you need hobbies. Some nights I read with a glass of wine. Some nights I paint while sipping on whisky. Some nights I go to the garage and do a little amateur carpentry with a beer or two. Some nights I do just chill in front of the TV while hugging a bottle of vodka.

If you want to be more social then cook for friends or invite them over for board games or join a local club doing something that interests you like dancing or sports or film or wine tasting or anything like that.

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originaldonkmeister@reddit

I dunno OP, how often did you used to spend 24 hours without entering an air-conditioned space in those hot countries? How many of the local population did you see running outside for a bit of exercise in the day time? Different climate, different activities. For one, having children ties you to staying at home in the evening as you can't really drag them to the pub. But mostly it's the weather. Look at how many people are sat outside pubs and cafes in summer, midweek. It's pretty bustling in my town then..

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Hungry_Caramel6169@reddit

I fucking love it. Get home, it’s dark, play with the kids in the cozy living room until they go to bed, set on my computer and play games till bed. Perfection.

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memorablepotato@reddit

I don't know where you were living, but aside from the dark and cold, cost of living also has an impact on how willing people are to go out on weekdays. Many will save this for the weekend.

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redmagor@reddit

I don't know where you were living, but aside from the dark and cold, cost of living also has an impact on how willing people are to go out on weekdays. Many will save this for the weekend.

In fairness, my Italian friends are broke and still do more than I do with more disposable income. I think it is an attitude.

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memorablepotato@reddit

I bet the Italians' night out is a drink and dinner here or there, vs 12 pints in one night 😂

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Don_Alosi@reddit

To be fair your 12 pints cost as much as 4 in my city, I used to go out about five times a week when I was in my twenties.

This is 2am in my city

https://youtube.com/shorts/zIdk8zDpeFs?feature=shared

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Sly1969@reddit

my Italian friends

I went to Rome in November once. It was about 30°C. It's 3°C here in the UK today. Much easier to sit on the terrace eating pizza under the former conditions to be honest.

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redmagor@reddit

I went to Rome in November once. It was about 30°C. It's 3°C here in the UK today

Italy is much more than just Rome, and half of it is colder than the United Kingdom as a whole during the winter months, even colder than northern Scotland.

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Sly1969@reddit

half of it is colder than the United Kingdom

And half of it isn't.

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redmagor@reddit

And half of it isn't.

What is your point? I am not sure I understand. I referred to Italians, not specifically those from the south of Sicily. People from Torino, Bologna, Palermo, and Cagliari all go out more than people do here, regardless of financial status and weather.

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Engels33@reddit

A lot of people your age have kids. Is that part of it. Otherwise people play sports, go to the gym, work shifts, do other hobbies, and yea some go to the pub on the evening but maybe you are just past the gate where that is as common - people drink less these days.

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redmagor@reddit

Would those not apply to other countries too, though?

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asmiggs@reddit

Possible that more of his friends are those expat types with less responsibility than you'd normally find in UK people in their 30s.

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DontCatchThePigeon@reddit

Britain tends not to welcome kids out after a certain hour though, loads of places kick them out after 7 or so. I've been a fair few places overseas where it's much more common to see whole families out later into the evening, so no worries/ costs on babysitting and so it's less of an issue whether your friends have kids

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Chevalitron@reddit

It varies, in some European countries people seem to live like students until their 30s.

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bakeyyy18@reddit

Early 30s is very much a turning point though, that's when most people will be having kids

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Norman_debris@reddit

Yeah I'm wondering where the kids were when OP was abroad. Unless they just happened to be in a group of 30-somethings without any children.

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jiBjiBjiBy@reddit

Be the change you want to see, meet up with those friends, enjoy your evenings.

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kingofthepumps@reddit

Pub quiz?

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khanto0@reddit

I find in the summer I'm outside pretty non stop. People are always out doing things, being social after work. In winter everyone kind of goes into hibernation mode. Or maybe they're focused on cranking out the hours at work. There comes a point in the winter where a third of the people have gone on holiday or travelling

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Dennyisthepisslord@reddit

6 quid a pint will do that.

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Daveddozey@reddit

In 2000 you could get 1.95 pints for an hour of minimum wage. In 2023 it’s 2.34 pints

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Minimum_Wage_Act_1998

https://beerandpub.com/data-statistics/beer-prices/

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Apple22Over7@reddit

In 2000, people weren't having to spend >50% of their income on rent.

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cupidstuntlegs@reddit

Join a sports club, most of them meet midweek, or a local social club which will be delighted to have your support for their events. Quiz night down the local pub is always Thursdays my way and a person on their own will always get invited into a team. Use this as an opportunity to pursue a new interest.

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hunnibadja@reddit

This is what the dark does to you. The UK is surprisingly far north, many parts of the world at this latitude are in deep snow half the year.

As a result, most people stay at home most of the time, to meet the get up and go people you need to get up and go - join a gym / climbing wall / club and keep showing up until you get to know people.

You might find though that the urge to hibernate kicks in for you too by mid January once your body gets accustomed to the misery.

I think one other element is a lot of British socialising is built around drinking, but pub drinking is prohibitively expensive for many people now.

Source: spent 3 years living near the equator. Took a while to readjust afterwards.

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filbert94@reddit

Get off reddit and mate some fucking friends, mate

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360Saturn@reddit

I don't have a TV either. It's only just occurred to me that's probably what a lot of people do midweek evenings! I tend to run errands or call someone on the phone.

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naturepeaked@reddit

I normally stay in Monday Tuesday. Wednesday go out for dinner or catch some fringe theatre. Thursday alternates between pub and poker night. Not boring at all!

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

Share

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realjmk@reddit

This isn't facebook sweetheart

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Mr_Cripter@reddit

Why would you move back if you had this sweet life in the sun? Don't say because of financial reasons because there are more ways to be rich than with a bank account.

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Mclarenrob2@reddit

We're all socially isolated because we'd rather sit at home staring at our phones

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Vikkio92@reddit

My phone won’t be selfish or rude, disappoint me, or treat me like shit because it’s going through a rough patch and needs someone to take its frustration out on.

So I’m pretty happy with my phone choice.

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heeyyyyyy@reddit

We're social beings and a phone or app can never substitute it. It only diverts your mind away from the loneliness. Like drugs and alcohol.

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Vikkio92@reddit

Being alone != being lonely.

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Manifestival1@reddit

Or are we all sitting at home staring at our phones because we're socially isolated?

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JustGhostin@reddit

Helllllllll yeahhhhhhh

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Roadman2k@reddit

Monday night I go to my boxing class then an AA meeting, Tuesday and yesterday evening I had a date. Today ill go to a jazz show.

So no not really, I keep busy.

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tommytruim@reddit

This might not be what you're really looking for, but I can almost guarantee that your local Scout group will need more adult volunteers (leaders, assistant leaders, people to help with admin, tea and coffee makers, etc), and if they don't, then your next closest group will.

You need zero training to get started so don't worry if you're not an outdoorsy person, the only thing you need is to have no criminal record. (They will do a DBS check for you.)

I started volunteering with my daughter's Beaver Scout group because I hated my job and I hated that my evenings were filled with thinking about my job. So I found something else to think about. I'm now the Beaver Scout leader at my local group. Made lots of (adult) friends, I'm known and respected in my local area, and I get to watch the Beavers learn and grow and develop their skills - I had one very happy Dad tell me he couldn't believe that his daughter learned to tie her shoelaces in one session.

I can't recommend it enough, honestly! It can be hard work but it's ultimately worth it.

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HellPigeon1912@reddit

Waaaaaay less boring than being at work

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Morazma@reddit

Depends on your job I guess. I don't get bored at work because it's so intellectually stimulating. Then I come home and look forward to "boring" evenings.

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pogomelon@reddit

The people downing you are cox

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Morazma@reddit

It's sad but it's classic UK crabs in a bucket mentality. This is part of why so many people are doing so badly.

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prawn_features@reddit

I thought you folded the jeans in h&m?

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Morazma@reddit

Is that not intellectually stimulating? There are so many ways to fold them!

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Kandschar@reddit

Summer evenings are more lively in the UK. Winter, everyone wants to be at home because it's dark and cold.

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dazz9573@reddit

Yeah news flash, cold countries tend to stay inside when it’s…. Cold.

Swear people just need any excuse to shit on the U.K.

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Automatic-Source6727@reddit

UK isn't that cold, it barely goes much below 0 the majority of the time.

Stay active and dress properly and you'll be more than comfortable temperature wise even without heating.

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matomo23@reddit

Oh not this again. It’s the default Reddit answer.

Ok it might not be “that cold” but the weather is crap mate. It rains loads and is overcast a lot.

We have more days when it rains at some point in the day than almost anywhere. And very few hours of sun.

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Sly1969@reddit

Don't forget the damp and fog!

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CongealedBeanKingdom@reddit

It's minus fucking 4 right now.

Hawaiian shirts and bikinis it is!

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Not all of us do. Winter evenings can be nice outside

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Butter_the_Toast@reddit

I agree, often they can. But there are also plenty of occasions when they really aren't.

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coolsimon123@reddit

Yeah winter months are for rotting inside saving money for the warmer months. Festivals and pub gardens aren't exactly cheap. Maybe OP should invite some friends round for dinner or something

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Winter months are for watching stars and sunsets, going on beach walks in the moonlight, snow, and lots of fresh air.

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coolsimon123@reddit

I prefer watching I'm a celeb with a brew and a blanket but you do you

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Winter months are for watching stars and sunsets, going on beach walks in the moonlight, snow, and lots of fresh air.

Edit: and hearty warm stews and puddings

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Not all of us do. Winter evenings can be nice outside

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UniqueEnigma121@reddit

That’s why I like them🥶. No noise, no people in their gardens & no animals & children running feral everywhere🙄

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Slow-Ladder7503@reddit

Ditto!

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SorryIGotBadNews@reddit

I’m amazed that OP really needed to ask a question to work that out to be honest, it’s quite obvious.

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Turnip_dumpster@reddit

I totally understand this feeling although I adjusted before coming home to the UK, as I spent time in the US after a few fantastic years in Asia.

Have you tried a sports club? Racquet sports maybe? (Badminton?)

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postvolta@reddit

I have kids so the couple hours after they're in bed is the only time I have to myself. I just get a few bits done while listening to podcasts and maybe watch a bit of a film or play some video games.

I'd quite like to socialise more but it's hard getting to meet people when your kids are this young and dependent on you.

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BlondBitch91@reddit

If I lived in Southern California or Hong Kong I absolutely would do stuff midweek evenings. But unfortunately I live in London, so the choice is walking in the freezing cold and dark to drink an overpriced pint, walking in the freezing cold and dark to do something cultural, or staying home and watching TV and playing video games.

I choose the one that costs me the least and doesn’t mean going out in the freezing cold and dark. Is it any wonder the Scandinavians, Baltics and nordics turn to alcoholism to get them through the winter months?

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Sivo1400@reddit

Where did you live OP? I have always lived in UK but I really dislike the dark cold winters. I would love eventually to live somewhere with warm evenings as you discribe.

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whymusti00000@reddit

On the flip side you long summer nights, always feels quite jarring in the tropics, hot as fuck but it gets dark at 6 all year.

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OreoSpamBurger@reddit

Yes, and there is almost no twilight - it goes from sun setting to full darkness in about 5 minutes.

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whymusti00000@reddit

Yeah that caught us out a few times, we walked up to some water falls thinking we had plenty of time to get there and back and it just went dark, thank god for torches on phones.

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bananabastard@reddit

And you'll be glad of the bastard sun going down.

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gaspoweredcat@reddit

theres multiple problems, often starting with our abysmal public transport system, unless you live in a major city chances are you have very limited transport options after about 6pm, then theres the issue that these days not everyone works 9-5 so a lot of people cant go out, then theres the cost and the places, all we really have are grim old pubs that havent changed in 40 odd years, people arent so keen to spend their time in a somewhat nasty old boozer paying £5+ for the same beer they could be drinking at home for half that in a nicer environment.

dont get me wrong if i lived in a proper city id likely eat out at least a few times a week if not more but im not likely to do that when the best we have is a kebab shop or KFC, i get that this is largely just a where you live issue but if youre not somewhere like london, manchester, liverpool etc i imagine the situation is pretty similar

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markrenton87@reddit

Go to Wetherspoons

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Worldly-Mastodon-755@reddit

The U.K is grim . Everyone's trying to get out , what in God's name made you come back , it's like trying to break IN to a prison

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nbrazel@reddit

I think a lot of what you're describing whilst away is a result of lots of people your age being abroad and away from home and wanting to maintain a social life/meet new people.

Additionally the types of personalities who will move away from where they grew up for 10 years to random countries will typically be more outgoing types.

As has already been said weather plays a massive part in this too. It's minus 4 today. No way am I going to the pub after work for all the hassle it entails.

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AlbertTheAlbatross@reddit

I think if people in the UK hang out midweek it's by doing things together - hobbies and activities. You might have better luck taking up a new hobby or joining a club rather than just trying to be outside with people. I'm sure there'll be stuff on if you look - I'm in a fairly remote spot in Cumbria and I'm actually having to give up some of my hobbies as I do too much on midweek evenings, and I'm burning out!

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No_Beginning_612@reddit

The UK lifestyle destroys human happiness and health. It’s a sickening, indoor lifestyle - people exist inside artificially-lit homes and offices. They move around inside brand-new, leased German cars. Everyone looks 10-20 years older than their age. And an insane number of people are on anti-depressants.

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WingiestOfMirrors@reddit

Your post contains almost every strap line and marketing ploy done by the round table I'm part of

We are a mens social group for guys aged 18 to 45. We do events every 2 weeks like escape rooms or lasertag. I've been part of it for nearly 2 years now and it's helped me get some mates in my local area after moving to a new town.

Here's a link to the group finder to see if there's one near you https://www.roundtable.co.uk/table-finder

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Sharloid@reddit

That sounds amazing, the female equivalent isn't equal. :(

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WingiestOfMirrors@reddit

Sorry it's not gone well well at circle. Different groups have different cultures, so if one circle isn't for you another might be

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13oundary@reddit

Dunno where you are, but in glasgow there are plenty of womens groups that do dnd/board games, climbing etc. It's just a matter of finding em.

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Beginning-Leek8545@reddit

Happy to host female meet-ups at my place

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prawn_features@reddit

Join a running club

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Sad-Personality8493@reddit

Depends on how you define boring. I work on my own all day and when i get in around 5pm im STRAIGHT in my pj's and in bed on my phone this time of year.....and adore every single fucking second of it (my username was disastrously randomly generated because the 'username checks out lolz' comments start you little twerps)

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2001Galaxy@reddit

it’s a shitole and everyone’s miserable

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marxistopportunist@reddit

The social media influencers seem happy though

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JewelBabeJade@reddit

Absolutely feel you on this! Transitioning back to UK vibes especially after living it up abroad sounds like a total culture shock. Maybe you could shake things up by starting a new midweek tradition? Like a trivia night at a local pub or even a board game night? Sometimes you gotta be the one to light up the spark in your social circle. Keep hitting the gym and maybe join some classes or clubs there to meet people who are down for more than just a TV binge. Hang in there, the right crowd just needs a little nudge sometimes!

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NorthernSoul1977@reddit

Yes. Back in the day I'd go to the pub, but now I save that for the weekend. Plus I'm trying to eat less, which I hate. I'd often eat in the evenings and watch TV. Now I try not to eat much after 7 and TV is boring. I did have fun this evening playing Beach Buggy Racer with my sprogs, however.

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LauraCurie@reddit

In a perfect world, November would be the time of the year where sexual pleasure is happening every night with plenty of kinky variations.

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asmiggs@reddit

I would consider your age, in my twenties we'd be able to gather a group of friends for a night out no matter the weather but by myself and my friends and reached our mid thirties kids and more demanding jobs meant this became something of a logistical struggle even on weekends. Living aboard you probably moved in a slightly younger crowd and even some of the older ones would be free of responsibilities like this. When my friend came back from teaching aboard he was still trying to get people together with a few or no days notice, I had to introduce the idea of planning ahead most of my off are planned 6 months in advance, get out the gantt chart!

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AccidentAccomplished@reddit

depend where you live and what you do man.

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NewfoundRepublic@reddit

I put sand on my roof and pretend its a beach

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madcaplaughed@reddit

Not a lot of beach or rooftop activity in November here. When I was young, single & lived in a city centre I’d often meet mates in the pub after work but we all worked near each other.

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Chevalitron@reddit

Also our roofs are sharply angled and covered in slate tiles.

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Atrixia@reddit

No, I find weeknights are for recharging after days at work. The weekend, no recharge needed - its just spending all my energy on the partner and family rather than 80% of it being depleted on a weekday

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nicdic89@reddit

I do prefer to stay in weekday nights no matter the season, but I am more inclined to go out on a good hour walk after work in the spring/ summer months. I seem to stay in my warm comfy clothes in the winter and plonk myself in front of the tv and get stuck into my crafting. I do go out on Wednesday evenings once a month for quiz night though, that’s important lol.

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Eye-on-Springfield@reddit

This is why until a few weeks ago I was on the verge of becoming an alcoholic. Having a few drinks every night seemed like a good way of making the evenings more exciting. It did, but the effect it had on my waistline, mental health and relationship were absolutely not worth it

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oli_ramsay@reddit

Join an evening jiu jitsu class

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lewkir@reddit

Maybe it's just your friend group, I'm a couple years younger than you but still meet with mates 2-3 times mid week to go to the pub /play board games etc

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SirScoaf@reddit

Maybe I’m tired, but there is something a little insufferable about the tone of this…

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babaG2022@reddit

I'll add something different to the conversation. When visiting friends living abroad, I also find they're out most nights of the week. I think it's because people who live abroad need more community, they're away from "home" so they reach out more. That, coupled with hot weather, means plenty of nights in beach bars etc. When you're already in the country you grew up in, you have a greater in-built sense of community, so feel less need to reach out.

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JustGhostin@reddit

Only boring people get bored

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Manifestival1@reddit

Yes!

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nostalgebra@reddit

People used to go to the pub and play dominos cards, pool etc but it's too expensive so everyone just watches netflix now.

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Sufficient_Meal6614@reddit

Offer to host?

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thepopkids@reddit

British climate + British economy. It’s cold and we’re poor. In the summer there’s lots of free things you can do, walks, picnics with friends, outdoor cinema etc etc. In the winter there are fewer activities which are free because you can’t really be outside, and being inside means spending money, which a lot of Brits don’t have right now

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londonflare@reddit

I’m a bit older with kids and love a midweek catch up. Once every weeks will get the train (just over an hour) into London to see friends.

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mcdonalds69whore@reddit

I can do maybe one weekday evening of socialising in a week but tbh, after a full day at work I feel so drained that I would rather just decompose on the sofa for a few hours before I have to go to bed and do it all again the next day. Life is tough.

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Ok-Train5382@reddit

I often go to the pub or for food in the week with my friends or partner.

Depends on your friends, depends if they have kids. Most of mine don’t and most of my mates work in offices so are happy to get points after work. I imagine if you work long exhausting days outside or have a family you probably are less keen on midweek jaunts

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HAMforPastry@reddit

Mate its like -1 outside

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QueSeRawrSeRawr@reddit

I (30s) often go out to a gig/restaurant/exercise class/comedy night this time of year. Hardly any of my friends have kids and are usually up for some nonsense

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solar-powered-potato@reddit

No, I like them more than weekends sometimes honestly. Most weeks I'm out two or three evenings - a regular meet up at the library on their Thurs late opening to crochet and/or play board games, maybe a trip to the cinema (technically I'm sat on my arse watching telly, but it's not in my house and it's a really big telly so it counts as actually doing something) or give one of my siblings a shout to go a walk together if it's dry, and either going to or hosting someone for dinner. Couple of evenings for crafts in front of the telly, housework, or just phoning friends/family for a blether while I'm cooking. Weekends get consumed by bigger events or home/garden projects but weekdays are nice and low pressure, I feel like I get more time to do the things I actually like.

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Academic-Bug-4597@reddit

Not at all. I find midweek evenings the most fun tbh. There is so much to do in London: theatre, comedy, gigs, cinema, restaurants, clubs, etc. and they are not packed with out-of-towners coming up for the weekend.

Weekends are packed with people coming in from the surrounding counties, so pubs and bars are a squash, and most clubs switch to more mainstream music to cater to them. I prefer to avoid London nightlife at weekends because of this; it goes down in quality compared to weeknights.

No, weekends are the time for going for long runs or bike rides, having friends round for dinner, or going to house parties.

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ufb1684@reddit

For a lot of people December is a stupidly expensive month Christmas presents, few nights out, spending extra for Christmas dinner itself, New Year celebrations if you do them so November has to be quiet in order to save for them.

Also, the fact that even a half a dozen pints down the local now means spending the guts of £40 means that going out very often is just not doable anymore. I'm single and earn an ok wage and can only afford to go out a couple of times a month, how any one with kids whose mortgage has doubled in last year does it is beyond me.

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Easy_Pen5217@reddit

I normally do a boardgaming session or a MeetUp group once a week. But, it depends where you are in the UK. Where I live there are loads of midweek activities happening, when I lived in the Midlands (Northants) there was nothing for some reason.

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Sithfish@reddit

If staying in watching TV is boring, watch better TV.

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porspeling@reddit

Summer is fine. In winter I will cook, go to the gym and work on my hobbies. It is hard to be social though.

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lewisw1992@reddit

Chatting with friends on PS5 and having a laugh on some goofy games.

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No-Photograph3463@reddit

I find they generally go by in a blur tbh.

Finish work at 5, then by the time I've been to the gym its 7. Cook dinner and shower takes me to 8pm ish, by which time I just sit and chill, usually with TV on in the background.

When I'm not at the gym I'll either be at a pub quiz with friends, at a concert band rehearsal or down the pub with friends.

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trainpk85@reddit

Omg I lived in Latin America and returned to the uk in June and this is one of the biggest differences I found here. I’ve settled back into it but thankfully my husband moved with me so he doesn’t mind going out to eat at 9pm

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Annual-Cookie1866@reddit

It’s a bit cold for the beach.

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Itchy-Tip@reddit

Best time for beach is pitch dark at night in winter. Dress to the max

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

Never too cold for the beach. Yeah you won’t be swimming, but winter at the coast has its own vibes

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

No. I do most of those things you mentioned even in winter, besides the rooftops.

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coffeewalnut05@reddit

No. I do most of those things you mentioned even in winter, besides the rooftops.

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Boring-Tangerine-589@reddit

It's a bit TOO lively where I live. Once I'm behind my door after a long shift, that's it.

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mikolv2@reddit

No, not at all. Quite the opposite, I don't have enough time to do all the thing I'd love to do. You obviously have to adjust your lifestyle to what climate will allow here, chances that weather will be good enough to go to the beach, chill outside or go for a walk on any given evening is a coin toss. You can still go for food/drinks, many people do, you can go shopping, most shopping centres are opened until 8/9pm. And when the weather is bad and/or it gets dark early, you need to find stuff that fulfills to do indoors. That's it really.

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lalalaladididi@reddit

Never get bored.

I'm retired now. I retired very early with burnout.

Days aren't long enough for me.

Don't know what boredom is

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likemindedmango@reddit

Even your sentences burn out early.

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ozz9955@reddit

Swim/run/cycle throughout the week as part of a club, so that's social. Sod about with my car in the garage, go to the pub, take the wife out for dinner...I watch TV maybe once or twice at the most.

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nostalgebra@reddit

People used to go to the pub and play dominos cards, pool etc but it's too expensive so everyone just watches netflix now.

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jmh90027@reddit

Some of the patterns established in lockdown have been made long term by the cost of living and people working from home.

And i dont want to mention the dreaded "B word" but it meant a lot of the younger, lower-income international types who used to work in retail / cafes by day and partied by night went back home because of it and took a lot of the fun with them

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hollowcrown51@reddit

They can be boring but also I’ve been to work so often I just want to come home and chill.

Usually for me after work I’ll go to the gym/sports club/running on 2 or 3 nights of the week, and usually a pub trip ever Friday and some other social thing like board games on another random day. So there is actually quite a lot of stuff to do, but it’s more variety than just meeting friends every night.

A lot of friends also live in different cities so seeing them is a weekend thing instead of week days.

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Affectionate_You_858@reddit

People are boring and unsocial now

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zazabizarre@reddit

It’s currently 0 degrees outside and pitch black. Why do you think we’re not all sat on the beach or having drinks on our rooftops after work?

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LondonCycling@reddit

Not especially but it is what you make of it.

I play board games or go climbing with mates, do volunteering, short walks and bike rides, cinema, theatre, go out for food. Yeah sometimes I'm just at home reading a book or watching a TV or playing Xbox.

Some obviously cost more than others. Board gaming isn't a particularly expensive hobby, or at least, you can start fairly small.

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

Must try whittling my life away.

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SlothsNeverGetIll@reddit

I finish work, go to the gym, shower, cook and eat dinner, wash up, maybe make a packed lunch for the next day - then it's 8pm and I want to watch a bit of TV to decompress. I also want to feel fresh at work the next day, so want to avoid alcohol if possible.

I save being sociable for the weekend.

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Joshthenosh77@reddit

I get home from work At 7.30 make dinner eat dinner watch a show it’s mealy 9 at that point

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Impressive-Car4131@reddit

Agreed, after 8 years abroad I’m finding it tough. I also work from home and I drive my kids to activities. where I was before parents would stay at the activity and chat, here they drop off and pick up in the car and there’s nowhere for me to watch the activity or meet the other parents

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mtrd1986@reddit

(M38) I live alone so keep myself busy by going to a few pub quizzes midweek I don’t always have to drink. Other days fill my evenings with 5 a side and just started running. Exercise helps me with winter depression

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Desperate_Song_7812@reddit

I’m very social but rarely see friends during week, everyone is working different shifts, other than the gym all I do is hibernate in front of the tv mid week when it’s cold.

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Stifton@reddit

I really like going for a walk with my dogs after work, especially when it's dark and cold, the problem is that I want to get it done relatively quickly because I have other stuff I need to do in the evening so it's not something I would do with my friends. By the time everyone's fed and the kitchen had been cleaned it's pretty much time for me to have a shower and start getting ready for bed. I'd love to spend time with my friends during the week and I do on the odd occasion but I have stuff to do and sleep is a major priority. I only WFH once a week though so I imagine if it was more of a regular thing I wouldn't be so bothered

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fullenglish91@reddit

I would still go into my city centre if invited somewhere by a friend but I don’t like to go on my own when it’s dark as that’s when the machete people are likely to come out. I mean, they come out during the day, but also at night too.

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CourageBetter2842@reddit

Evenings are indeed boring. Time is just wished away waiting for the weekend or me.

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KurtWuster@reddit

When working from home I try to go to the gym or at least to the shop in the evening. In the winter especially it’s too easy to not leave the house for days!

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AdCurrent1125@reddit

A lot of people who did the travelling thing in their 20s are the same. It's the price to be paid.

You turned off your social life here, so you kind of have to start over again. If you'd have stayed here you'd have 10 years of accumulated social life around you.

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Necessary_Doubt_9762@reddit

Just out of curiosity, but did where you live have siestas or early starts and finishes? 9-5 is shit and if most of your friends work that, there is nothing left to give after 5pm in a lot of instances. Especially if your friends have children, their tanks will be completely Empty.

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Desperate_Goose_4946@reddit

Dude, you have returned to a split and lonely nation.I have little advice for you other than to return to whatever warm climate you were in. I fucking love this country but shit ain’t good man. Bad moon rising…

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imminentmailing463@reddit

Not at all. Never really had a problem meeting people midweek if I want to, just takes organising. Meeting a friend for dinner and drinks midweek next week. There's plenty of stuff to do midweek if I want to.

However, I don't regularly want to do stuff midweek. I have a wife, baby and dog. I enjoy an occasional social plan, but most evenings I just want to hang out with them. That's what I love doing.

You're 35, perhaps a lot of people you know just have families and partners they want to hang out with in the evenings?

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Flaky-Delivery5417@reddit

Yes. Gym 3 days. The odd pint after work maybe once a month. Date night with the other half every couple of weeks.

A stark difference to the past 6-11 years. I was living in the city centre of a major city and out 4-5 nights a week. Couldn't be bothered these days. That said I don't particularly enjoy the new normal for me. I think COVID nackered it. But then again I did end up just getting older too..

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420BoofIt69@reddit

Where did you live out of curiosity.

I enjoy midweek evenings personally.

I go gym Play video games See friends Get high

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SebastianHaff17@reddit

A site like Meetup is great for finding events.

And I do find people in London get hysterical whe it's the slightest bit cold or dark.

Maybe try games nights, movie nights etc.

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Kamoebas@reddit

Midweek pub quiz? Friends round for games night? Cold/Wet walks?

Plenty to do if keen.

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DualWheeled@reddit

Depends where you are and what is near you. Evenings are boring in suburbia, and to do anything means spending money and travelling somewhere (pub, restaurant, someone else's).

If you're in a major city you should be able to find something to do most evenings.

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FriendlyPhrase2808@reddit

Welcome back yeah its pretty much dead during the week even weekends aren't as lively anymore

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TheNorthernBaron@reddit

I have an eight month old. Evenings this year are trying to combat the PTSD of having a baby haha. But prior to this evening's were about cooking good food, smoking good weed and walking my good dog. Winters are also for long hot baths.

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Shoddy-Reply-7217@reddit

I book hobbies on a couple of nights, and then it's more punctuated.

And invite people over once a week, that'll give you something to plan and also get the momentum going for them to invite you back.

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