ULPT Request: How to formulate a threat concisely and explicitly

Posted by AbueloSalcedo@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 8 comments

TLDR: How do I threaten someone articulately and explicitly. Making sure they understand the weight of this ultimatum.

Thank you for your time and input.

Long story short, my younger sister (F29) has been abused by her BF (M38) on only one occassion. She is a strong and independent woman, but she ended up taking him back. There were conditions to the rekindling of their relationship, and things have been smooth since.

I will be meeting him for the first time soon, as we have been living in different parts of the country. I am going to be moving to her city, and we are both looking forward to seeing much more of eachother.

Had I been in her city when this first happened, this guy would be walking funny. He got out of a nasty beating purely because my sister forgave him. I respect her and her choices, but if it happens again, I will stop at nothing to punish this POS.

I am going to be having a talk with him, face-to-face. I need help in formulating what I will say without losing my cool.

He knows that I know about it, and I need him to fully understand the violence I will bring upon him and his family should this happen again. Not to mention legally consequences.

Any help is appreciated, I just want to have a good idea of what I will be saying beforehand. I am worried about getting too emotional if I just wing it. Worried I wont be able to keep my cool and may attack him. This is also why I intend on having my sister and my wife present. So everyone is on the same page.

TLDR: How do I threaten someone articulately and explicitly. Making sure they understand the weight of this ultimatum.

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peeping_somnambulist@reddit

Whatever you threaten, he needs to believe that you can and will follow through on it. That's the key. Don't overstate your position, otherwise it's just bluster and you will lose any credibility. He will then likely take it out on her.

If you threaten violence, you have to be able to back it up - and he needs to believe that you will follow through. If he's abused her already, preemptively beating his ass before he touches her again might be the only effective approach, since he's gotten away with it thus far with no consequences. But then that puts you in legal jeopardy which would make it much harder to protect her in the future.

I am not sure that there is a way out of this scenario by taking the law into your own hands, since he's gotten away with it for so long. Honestly, I'd just have the cops on speed dial and as soon as he gets out of line immediately press charges.

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AbueloSalcedo@reddit (OP)

Thanks for the feedback.

I thought about smacking him around a bit just to reiterate that I am not fucking around. Only problem is that I believe this will drive a wedge between me and my sister.

I am not worried about legal repercussions.

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peeping_somnambulist@reddit

Yeah - no problem. Just trying to help. Good luck to you and her, and I hope she eventually gets rid of the bum.

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LowAd3406@reddit

Spoiler alert: If you do anything out of the ordinary, especially threaten their partner, it will drive a wedge between you and your sister. She's a grown ass women and can fight her own battles. You intervening at all will cause problems.