ULPT: Guy made my wife a mark to sexually abuse
Posted by ch1993@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 19 comments
This guy used to work with her. And, we were both always nice to him. He attended my child’s birthday party when he was 8. He used that chance to stare at my wife’s genital area for at least ten seconds in front of me.
That was when I warned her about him. I wanted to start a fight at the time, but I didn’t want to ruin my kid’s party. You know, it’s not about me or her or some bs pride at the time.
Anyway, a year later this dude legitimately made her a mark from the very start of a mostly girls hang out night. They went to a show and he did several things that demonstrate he was actively trying to rape her. Also, this guy is a hypersexual individual and my wife is the hottest person at her place of work.
First, this guy took the role of designated driver even though my wife was supposed to fulfill that role and constantly mentioned to people that he is babysitting all of these women.
Second, he attached himself like a leech to my wife constantly to the point where random women confused him as a boyfriend.
Third, my wife drank between 15-20 drinks that night. She usually is fucked up by about 4-5. So, I’m worried he tried to make her black out but this fact is unsubstantiated.
Fourth, my wife left him to go to her place of work because she felt it was unsafe to be around him. She asked for help from a male coworker on shift.
Fuck the counting numbers at this point, he came in the following day and tried to “make amends.” He, as a customer, helped her clean a bathroom. As in, he was trying to not get caught for the fucked up rape shit he was trying to do. And, everyone was shocked he was even at that place at the hour because he is never there.
Anyway, there were a shit ton of signs this guy was planning a rape from the start of the night. The only thing that protected my wife is that I had warned her about him.
I want to fuck this guy up as much as possible. Especially because I was always cordial with him and never fully blamed him for being a temporary perv to my wife for staring at her genital region while she wore a swimsuit.
How can I fuck this guy up so he doesn’t try to make another woman his mark?
MyyWifeRocks@reddit
Buddy - your wife drank the 20 drinks he bought her. You don’t accept 20 drinks from someone you’re pissed off at or scared is going to rape you.
You need to be having a different conversation, sir.
20 drinks is dangerous territory for alcohol poisoning. Nothing good can come of consuming that much alcohol, but plenty of bad stuff sure can.
Full-Elephant-5879@reddit
20 drinks is dangerous territory in the USA maybe, in Europe, The Netherlands specifically we call it: "ahh, finally weekend, let's have a couple of beers"
ch1993@reddit (OP)
He didn’t buy her the drinks necessarily. Read the post before spouting nonsense. She supposedly did it all of her own volition. He was just hanging around her consistently when 10 or so people were there together. And, my wife tends to try to disappear when she is fucked up around other people, but he was always there.
MyyWifeRocks@reddit
She lied to you about her interactions with him. Ask yourself why she’d do that, drink 20 drinks with him, then when you start to inquire say he was rapey? Sounds like deflection.
You still don’t have the truth. But you’re too naive to find it.
ch1993@reddit (OP)
I’ve been with her for over a decade. She has a low sexual drive and no capability to cheat. She hurts from sex due to her endemetriosis. Even if she wanted to fuck another guy in her head, she wouldn’t enjoy it due to the pain it causes her. This is not some high school drama club bs, I’m talking like a regular fucking adult about real adult situations. Why do you all have to try to discredit me and not offer advice?
I want to help other potential victims because he is obviously going to move off of her as a victim because she chose to do the right thing and seek help. And, she clearly hid it from me because she knows I can be self-righteous, especially about sex crimes.
MyyWifeRocks@reddit
I didn’t mention anything about sex, though that was in the back of my mind too. Lying about details with another man involved is sketchy, but I don’t think that was her agenda.
Your wife has a drinking problem. She may have other things going on, but she most definitely has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. This doesn’t have anything to do with the other guy. Guy’s hanging out with party girls hoping to get laid is absolutely normal. Your wife acting like a party girl is what is not normal here.
ch1993@reddit (OP)
There are just too many layers of falsehoods and wrong assumptions there for me to peel back.
MyyWifeRocks@reddit
I saw in another comment you said you have a masters in psychology. Based on your post and our interaction, I didn’t believe you so I did some browsing on your profile. You certainly seem to be an educated guy who is plenty capable of understanding the situation. You are either not conveying the depths of your wife’s co-worker’s “rapyness,” or you have a gut feeling that just doesn’t translate to anyone else here. If this were my wife, I could understand being so pissed off that I didn’t represent the facts, or myself, very well.
I’m going to assume that having 15-20 drinks was a rare, one-off situation and that somehow this very rapey coworker had some influence on your wife’s decision to drink all of those drinks. Maybe he drugged one of them or somehow charismatically influenced the group / her - ok..
Your wife needs to report this to HR ASAP. If you are right, every woman in that office is in danger. You said he’s a customer in one place and a coworker in another. If he’s a customer, wherever he works needs to be notified about his behavior. Nothing is more sobering than your livelihood being at risk.
For the unethical part - get every single lady you know to post this guy in all of the FB and IG date warning groups. Word spreads through those groups to the dating community pretty fast.
ch1993@reddit (OP)
You actually listened and treated me like I was a rational person. Thank you.
MyyWifeRocks@reddit
My apologies for misreading you, sir. 🙏🏻
RageReq@reddit
If she bought them on her own then why even mention the drinks as a reason for him trying to make her black out?
Not trying to fight you on this btw, just wondering what the reasoning is? Did he like, encourage her to drink more?
ch1993@reddit (OP)
I don’t know if he encouraged her. If he did, I’m sure she wouldn’t tell me so as not to start shit. But, I can usually tell when people are dicks, (I’ve been able to reliably call out any dude who has tried to hit on my wife for over a decade) he stared at her for a long ass time, he switched designated driver roles (barely anyone does that), he was stuck to her all night until she believed she had to flee and seek help, whatever etc.
How is this not believable for all of you? He even came in the following morning to try to enforce he is not a bad person. And he cleaned a horrible piss mess in the bathroom for her. I didn’t state this before, but an actual rapist at her job had previously kissed him. And the dude who kissed him choked a female randomly in the bathroom but backed off when he feared her reaction. He also stalked me into a single stall bathroom and pulled his dick out. Can I get some advice and not straight-up, “oh, you suck for assuming the worst.” News flash people: some of us hide under the radar by trying their best to avoid the horrible assumptions of other people through contemplated manipulation.
I could never manipulate someone truly except to get out of minor trouble. But, some people do think and plan ahead of time on how to manipulate others. Fuck, what is this subreddit even about if not that?
addictedthinker@reddit
Hire a professional (love professional), get him laid a few times to gain his trust, let her invite him to a party… in the dark. What will happen there is none of my business - it could be a gay bdsm party, if they want it. It could be in the news with pictures too. If there are drugs or other illegal things, I don’t want to know. But hey, he will be too busy to go after your wife.
MadAss5@reddit
I think I'm losing the game "Jump to Conclusions"
ch1993@reddit (OP)
A guy hangs around a drunken girl all night and scares her off? He even has a track history of being a perv. Yeah, I’m crazy.
MadAss5@reddit
Perv is not rape. Perv isn't even planning to rape. She should probably stay away from him. If he asks to spend time with her she should decline.
ch1993@reddit (OP)
It all adds up in the end. Sure, slight chance he wasn’t planning to rape her. But all of the things he did sounds like a predator. I’m not saying I’m right or a genius, but I do have and MS in psychology at the top of my class.
Like I said, that alone doesn’t substantiate my claims. I could be wrong. But all the signs point to that I’m not wrong.
suckmytitbxtch@reddit
Why don't you just talk to him like a man and tell him to stay away from your wife? You want to fuck up someone's life to something you think could have happened but didn't?
Be a fucking man and talk to him face to face.
ch1993@reddit (OP)
I can’t reasonably find him. She felt she was threatened so it’s not like I’m making this up. She even hid these facts from me so as not to alarm me…that’s what a victim does…