Gen Xer - Childless and Single?

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Different_Apple_5541@reddit

Yup, 49 childless and single. And terminally so, it seems. The last woman cleaned me out so hard that I've been homeless more-or-less for the past 7 years. She wanted me so broke, miserable and half-dead that I could never find love again, and it worked.

But I've recently started finding things to believe in again, though I will never again believe IN other people. I'll never place my faith in anyone again. All it gets you is dead.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Oh I hear ya brother!!! I'm gay so it's a bit different lol, but I personally find gay men absolutely disgusting, no morals and everything is about sex. It's disgusting, open marriages, open relationships, and I've tried before, but everyone lies, cheats and is shady! Idk why the fuck I attract such losers. I gave up too man!! You're not alone!! :)

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Different_Apple_5541@reddit

Tell me about it! I never met anybody as goddamn mean as queer folks when you don't fit their idea of who you're supposed to be. Safe and inclusive my ass!

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snerdie@reddit

I’m 50. I was married from 30-35, but that’s been over and done for 15 years. Never remarried. No kids. Single by choice. Live in my house with three cats. I am the Childless Cat Lady.

I love my freedom, money, and silence.

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CatLady7423@reddit

Totally relatable. No marriages, no kids, and cats. I've always said if I lived in a place with wide open space, I'd have a whole clowder of cats! As it is, in my small space, I have two.

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haz_waste@reddit

My dad was 20 years older than my mom when they got married and had kids. I was 21 when he died from cancer. He was going through chemotherapy when I turned 21, so I could never enjoy a beer with him. I didn't want to put my kids through that if I had them. My older brother was in his mid 30's when he had kids, and will be pushing 60 when his kids are out of high school.

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Dry-Praline-3043@reddit

48F. Never married, no children. I knew I didn't want either when I was in my 20s. I never thought my life had to look like anyone else's, and I don't regret living my life on my own terms.

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kckitty71@reddit

Same. 52F with no maternal instinct.

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Granada2023@reddit

57F same

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MobileLocal@reddit

I’m with you. I’ve known since I was about 5 that I didn’t wanna be a mom.

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Sostupid246@reddit

Similar to you— 49F, never married, no kids. I love my time, money, freedom, and silence. No regrets.

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Virgogirl71@reddit

53f, same as you. My dogs are the recipients of my maternal instincts, they are loved, well taken care of and pampered. I wouldn’t trade it and I have no regrets.

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Sostupid246@reddit

Dog/cat parents for the win 😊

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Metal_Muse@reddit

Samesies! 49F never married no kids!

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jtphilbeck@reddit

Silence is one of my favorite things. Hell, I was a professional musician when I was 20. I discovered the sound of silence.

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NunyaBiznaz1234@reddit

48F--Ditto

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FuzzyScarf@reddit

Another 48f single /no kids here.

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Designer_End5408@reddit

Jealous of all y’all. :)

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mclareg@reddit

53F - no kids, single, sweet freedom and silence

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xo0scribe0ox@reddit

Same, just turned 48, male, never married, no kids. I’m pretty happy with things.

I imagine I’d still be happy if it were different, but I’m pretty grateful for how things are going.

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jtphilbeck@reddit

The sad thing for me through the years is how many people told me I would have been the greatest dad ever. Kids have always been drawn to me and such…..but fuck no! I am not putting another human being through this!!!!!!! NO!!!!!! I am pretty loving but no! That generational shit and cursed stopped here for MY generation.

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Plus_Lead_5630@reddit

Same! I knew I didn’t want kids around age 20. I do think it affected my ability to find long term relationships but I don’t regret a thing!

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Trick-Mechanic8986@reddit

Never had enough money or stable mental health to even consider it. As a result, I have been married for 30 years, had time to work on myself and lots of therapy, and even put myself through graduate school. I could have wasted that on some kid just so they could fight for resources in the end times? No thanks.

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Leelooleo78@reddit

46F, single and child free, which I'm forever grateful for as never wanted kids. Ive had a couple LTR in my life, and a lot of fun and heartache dating. Now Im not looking to date and just living life. Also, my brother is 49 Single and child free, 4 best friends are all chilfree in late 40s, and a mix of married, LTR and single. It's not so uncommon anymore and I think the younger generations will have even bigger numbers of childfree adults, especially with cost of living.

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CraigLake@reddit

Love this. I have no kids but have been in a happy relationship for twenty years. I knew I didn’t want kids when I was about ten because I saw my parents dislike dealing with us.

I’ve hiked in the so cal desert a few times including the PCT. Love it down there!

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Finalpretensefell@reddit

I am

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barbarellsche@reddit

52f here, no kids and opted out of dating at 40.

Was super happy and met my husband randomly through friends at 44. Got married 2 years ago.

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FitInterview5102@reddit

46F I never had that 'baby fever' or that urge to be a parent. Everyone says I'm going to regret it, but I don't. I got to enjoy traveling and taking jobs that would bring me to different places all without worry of uprooting a family. I own my own home and financially in a good spot. I loved and still love my life.

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Poneke365@reddit

👋😊

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nygrl811@reddit

Child free by choice. Would consider a relationship if the right person came along, but he hasn't.

I like my life!!! I own my own home. I travel. I do things with friends. Not everything is perfect, but I'm happy! And I am very fortunate my parents and family supported my choices, rather than pressuring me.

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son_of_yacketycat@reddit

Good on you and good on your family. My folks have been equally supportive, but my oldest sibling also had 9 kids so that may have taken the heat off of my sister (58 and single with no kids) and me.

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nygrl811@reddit

9 kids!!! Oof!

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MrsSadieMorgan@reddit

Same to all of the above! We all have our issues, but overall I’m content with my life. I would like a companion, though, just for traveling and doing stuff. I sorta have that with a former “boyfriend,” but it can get complicated with him sometimes. So I try to keep him at an arm’s length.

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nygrl811@reddit

That would be me on a dating site - ISO travel buddy, must have TSA Pre check/Global Entry, be willing to arrive at airport 2 hours before BOARDING, cannot get seasick, no strings, carry-on baggage only 😉

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GreatOne1969@reddit

Same mostly! It wasn’t some grand plan but pretty thrilled it worked out this way, even with bumps and bruises along the way. 54M child free, never married and only one LTR which was disastrous.

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HusavikHotttie@reddit

Same same

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msvegas@reddit

My parents divorced in '83, very ugly divorce. I was 11. Traumatized me. Never married, no bridesmaid duties, no kids. I had two proposals, and no regrets.

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thcosmeows@reddit

46 no kids. Was engaged to someone I was in a long-term relationship with. I wanted kids but he wanted to be a whore. Broke it off when I discovered his cheating. I was around 35 and in a place far away from friends and family. Still single, no kids. I'm in a better place to date now, but I'm happier alone. I'm pursuing higher education instead.

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afeeney@reddit

Add another one here. Asexual, never wanted kids.

I do kind of regret never having some kids in my life (as an aunt or honorary aunt), but I knew early on that I'd not be a good parent, and none of my family/friends who live nearby have kids.

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TheJokersChild@reddit

Another asexual here. Never had the desire.

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Various-Dig9703@reddit

58 .never married no kids Living my best life. My parents had a very loving over 50 years of marriage. It was a great example of what love should be.I realized in my relationships that I wasn’t happy, it always felt one sided. I started focusing on my needs my wants and I’m happy. Don’t regret not having kids. Maybe it’s the Genx in me? my oldest sibling was they only one to have offspring the kids are in their 30’s and still cling to their parents wtf

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Ordinary_Advice_3220@reddit

I was married for about 12 yrs. She died 5 yrs ago on October 26 2019. So she'd had ovarian cancer when she was younger but I actually always thought she still had an ovary but her aunt said no. We hated kids anyway.if it aint food it's water if it aint water its sunshine but it's always something. But animals we had a plenty.

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BlueRose7303@reddit

Im single, never married, have a 21 year old kid

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therelybare5@reddit

My wife and I are DINKs (Double Income No Kids) I think this is a GenX term! 😂

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Does that make me an "OINK?" One Income No Kids? LMFAOoooo

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therelybare5@reddit

Or a SINK

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

LMFAO! I like OINK better...just sounds louder and more rude hahaha. I'm an OINK to society! Hahahaha

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therelybare5@reddit

😂

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satans_toast@reddit

Single, no kids, but it's largely because I'm a broken human being.

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son_of_yacketycat@reddit

Can relate to this. I think a lot of us in our generation are.

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jtphilbeck@reddit

We’re ALL broken dear!!!! I just catch a glimpse of beauty and life here and there.

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winter-ice-ace@reddit

I feel this so much. You are not alone

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

🤣🤣🤣 yea I didn't mention that money is a factor hahaha

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Shivs_Eyes4768@reddit

❤️ but you have a great username

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satans_toast@reddit

So I got that going for me

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Shivs_Eyes4768@reddit

Sorry if I sounded trite. 😔I do like your username. But I’m also sorry you feel broken. I think a lot of us do. It’s a struggle, sometimes. A lot of the time. ❤️

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_baegopah_XD@reddit

Oh yeah, add that to my list of no relationships and no children

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son_of_yacketycat@reddit

48, never married, no kids, proposed once over a decade ago and luckily realized who that person was before actually going through with it. Five-year relationship petered out this year (we're still legitimately best friends) because I didn't want to get married or even live together.

Not gonna lie, I enjoy being in at least a reasonably healthy relationship more than being totally single, but I'm so set in my ways that I don't think I could ever even cohabitate with anyone again. Gotta be somebody else Gen X out there like that. 😂

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red_wildrider@reddit

I am. I was open to having children but wasn’t keen on more than one. Turned out it didn’t matter since the only women who get involved with me have either used me or abused me… or both. I feel like I’ve never been truly loved or cared for my entire life and it breaks me daily.

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RtrickyPow@reddit

Never married and no children at 52. My girl friend says I’m a unicorn.

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portuguesepotatoes@reddit

No children and never married.

For me, marriage was taught to be avoided at all costs. “Be a strong, independent woman!” “All men are evil!”

As I have gotten older and started thinking for myself, I don’t think it’s such a bad idea. My parents have been married for like, 30 some odd years 🤷‍♀️

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According-Listen-991@reddit

49 M. I assure you, I am not marriage material.

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meat_beast1349@reddit

So you're an A-sexual xennial who was too afraid to put yourself out there? I imagine there are more than I could imagine. Things changed with GenX After 77-78. My nephew was born in 79 and if I hadnt dragged him to Colorado in 2005, he'd be a 45 year old virgin.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

I never said I'm too afraid. And I'm gay, not asexual. Idk where you're going with your comment, but I'm far from a virgin lol. I just see disgusting people, no morals, and most people lie and cheat. I don't. Therefore, every attempted "relationship" never came to fruition. I used to be extremely social and over time I've realized it just ain't worth it. No need to sound so defensive and rude. It's not that serious, and from all the comments in here, I'm glad I asked. An asexual person AFRAID to put myself out there? You don't know me, so don't make ASSumptions because you look like an ass! :)

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Fresh_Lingonberry279@reddit

Meeee. I just feel the anxiety and stress aren't worth it. I like my life, just me and my dogs. It would have to take a really great man to change that, and if he's out there, he's really lost. Lol

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RevolutionarySea7119@reddit

49f no kids not dating I was married for a bit but divorced for 14 years now. I am perfectly content. 3 dogs keep me busy. We have a great life. I was never going to have kids anyways. I never grew up playing house or pretend weddings or any of that stuff.

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HyrrokinAura@reddit

50F, never married, childfree by choice. I'm poor and sure could use another income in my household but I'd rather starve than be in a romantic relationship. My friends are enough for me!

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425565@reddit

57 and recently married. No kids. Plenty of money. No regrets!

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DieMensch-Maschine@reddit

Childless and single, late 40s. Put all my energies into education, finished a PhD, there was no space or time for spouses and kids. Also, pretty sure I’m asexual.

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purplewarrior75@reddit

Had some serious relationships, but anyone I thought I wanted to marry didn't want to marry me, and anyone who wanted to marry me, I didn't want to marry them. Wanted children but not as a single parent. Got sick of online dating and didn't feel motivated to "search" for someone, so I turned my attention to my career, travel, friends, and family. No regrets. Now, when I get together with my pals, they're super-envious of my "freedom." I get it, but where's all the extra savings I should have based on them telling me how expensive kids are? 🤣

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CocoMcDough0@reddit

45F. Single, childfree with two cats. I love my life and wouldn’t change anything.

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insecurecharm@reddit

Me but in a LTR I pretty much regret. At least I don't have to live with him.

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reb6@reddit

46F, always wanted the family, never had it. No LTR to speak of, but I’ve created a great life for myself and still hope to find someone to be a part of it, but if the man of my dreams landed on my doorstep right now and offered me a life of fun, support, companionship and babies I’d ask if we could leave off the last part and just take more vacations 😂

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TigerGrizzCubs78@reddit

46, never married, no kids. Not single which surprised me, but things are going great with her.

Regarding kids, I’ve never wanted to be a father. Completely uninterested in that.

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LordOfEltingville@reddit

60 - Almost married once in the early 90s. No kids. Never wanted to be a parent.

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DirectorBiggs@reddit

I'm with you OP.

I'm happy healthy and productive, with an amazing life on a beautiful little riverfront homestead; caretaking many gardens, orchards and a variety of critters.

I am however still open to both a life partner as well as children, mine or someone else's.

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MrsSadieMorgan@reddit

Yeah, the male privilege of being able to procreate until death. As a woman, I did a double-take at that part of your comment… like, how you gonna make babies at 54+? Oh.

I’m 48, and that ship has likely sailed now. Which is fine, as I honestly couldn’t imagine raising (or birthing) a child at this age. But I’d totally be down with step-kids, in fact I joke that I’m ready to be step-grandma.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Right on thanks bro, I hear you! I'm not 100% against anything, but for me it's the typical "whatever". LOL!! I do sometimes get jealous, I guess, of people who found love and stuck with it 20+ years ago. Just trying to find a friend these days is challenge. Dating is an absolute circus!

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PabloDabscovar@reddit

Childfree and single, thankyouverymuch

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Mamie-Quarter-30@reddit

46F NMNK, although I’m not a member of that cuckoo “childfree” cult. Those Moonies are not single by choice.

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Dreboomboom@reddit

49, never married and no kids. Love keeping all my money, my stuff and have no one to answer to. My freedom now is everything to me.

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kitgrrrl@reddit

49 (f), no kids, never married. Life isn't great, but it definitely could be worse (like if I had had kids). No thanks.

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PPP_illusion@reddit

Found it tough to get a vasectomy in early 20’s, but after third doc, learnt to simply lie through my teeth about already having 3 kids…and got the procedure done.

Started with long partnerships, and smoothing out with living with others (you live in my country for a year, and I’ll live in yours) LDR’s. Finally got into the kink lifestyle, and when woman is waiting for you to return from home in that lifestyle and you wish you had an empty apartment again and find excuses to delay going home, staying at work, etc…you know the gig is up. Besides there’s too much difference between 20 something year olds now.

So no more relationships anymore, which melts perfectly into my final life stage. I can tick that off. Already got the degree and started in my new profession/industry which is more friendly to mobile lifestyle. Selling up the place, and buying a 4WD uni-mog which will be my final home. No more recreational 4WD’ing, time to go on expeditions. My super is healthy enough I pretty much can retire now if want but want to give this new career a shot. No more partners, my lifestyle will be totally selfish now, not even a pet doggo.

And with luck, in the next decade or two…it’ll be somewhere out there, remote Australia, in the great sandy desert, I shall perish.

All I ask to whomever finds me, is you can take my shit…just leave me there.

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JankroCommittee@reddit

No kids, zero regrets

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Lazy-Like-a-Cat@reddit

44F never married, no kids, 7 cats lol. I wanted a husband and kid in my 20s but as I got older and that little situation got less and less likely, I actually felt relieved. Instead, I get to take care of my elderly mother while my sister lives her best life on the other side of the country. I am the stereotype.

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Usual_Ad_5761@reddit

51F never wanted kids. I've had a couple of long-term relationships with men who had kids, but in the end, they didn't work out. While I have no regrets and appreciate having my space, I do lay awake at night wondering what will happen to me if I get sick and need help. My mother is elderly, my brother passed last year (no other family), and I don't have any friends that live close. It's scary and lonely.

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Developing_Human33@reddit

Childless, single and never married man. No regrets. Every choice you make has positives and negatives. Many of my Gen X friends are miserably married or divorced. Not all. Many in high school pegged me as married, 2 kids and white picket fence.

My family norms are get married, have kids and stay in the same city you were born in. Everybody basically did that except me. Going back 100 years. I have lived in 4 states now. Most of my family have passed on. The ones left I no longer have contact with. It is what it is. Estranged from 2 older sisters.

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PassComprehensive425@reddit

Never realized there were so many of us!

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ConsistentHoliday797@reddit

I wanted to be a mum, but made terrible relationship choices.

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Patti_Cakes1120@reddit

52F never married and no kids. Love kids just never wanted them. Had a bad childhood and didn’t want to repeat it I guess. I had anger issues and didn’t know how to control it. Never had a real relationship either but I do want to find love because I deserve it.

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Dismal-Bobcat-7757@reddit

53, never married and no kids. Would have been great but that's not how it worked out. However, if I can ever get a house, I'd consider fostering (leading to adoption) an older sibling group.

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Shallot_True@reddit

childless, Gen X. Never felt the desire of procreate, and there’s no way I’m bringing a kid into this world.

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Loud-Feeling2410@reddit

I don't have kids because none of my relationships never really worked out on a fully long-term basis, and I never saw myself being a parent alone. I also never saw myself being a parent near the rest of my super-toxic family, and I've never been in a position to have the funds to move further away.

Been engaged 3 x. About 10 or so years ago I kind of gave up on actively seeking out dating. If someone wants to ask me out, they can, but they have to ACTUALLY ask ME out. I'm not going to go on some app or something. They have to put in the effort in the first place.

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LauraPtown@reddit

✋🏻

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One-Earth9294@reddit

Never had enough money to make dating seem feasible, let alone the insane money sink that all the stuff that follows puts you on the hook for.

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moooeymoo@reddit

Childless but married soulmate older. Childless because my older brothers kids were feral and awful and I was forced to dote on and babysit them. They made me never want kids. They were horrible. Screaming and running and biting and no discipline. Then I needed a hysterectomy due to stage 4 endometriosis. Part of me is sad, looking back. But what can I do.

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shan68ok01@reddit

I'm 56 and childless and single. I really wanted the whole marriage and kids thing, but my mom and purity culture pretty much warped me for healthy relationships that last. I had no choice but to accept the never having kids' part due to pre-endometrial cancer and a resultant hysterectomy in my mid-30s. The older I get, and the worse this world gets, the happier I am that it never happened for me. I find myself content being single.

Of course, losing most of my libido with menopause(still have my ovaries) helps with the contentment being single part if I'm honest.

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dcamnc4143@reddit

M49. I never wanted kids (ever) and was/am 50/50 on getting married. I date quite a bit, but never been close to buying a ring.

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1BiG_KbW@reddit

Never married, no kids, but I am in relationships.

Just yesterday met a fellow in California, from the Fresno area. He was shocked that no marriage, no kids, and wanted to know why.

Simple - I thought I wanted marriage and kids, but those were the two no's from all the gals I seriously dated.

He couldn't believe it.

Yet, here I am again, finding just that person. Obviously the Fresno Fella isn't looking hard enough or living a fun filled life like us.

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SumoHeadbutt@reddit

I never got around to it

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BBuick01@reddit

I am single no kids and happy af

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squirtwv69@reddit

I’m legally single but not single. No kids either. Never wanted them.

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brookish@reddit

Me! Not a big fan of relationships and not at all a fan of marriage. And I think brining kids into the world would be selfish and cruel.

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jtphilbeck@reddit

48M. No!!!!!!! I got married once at 30 and divorced 9 months later. Hell no. Glad no kids were involved. Broke the cycle.

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libationsnation@reddit

50m - divorced, no kids. ex- and i were pretty on the same page about kids. we liked to do things that would be much more difficult with children (travel, nights out for food and drink, relocate frequently, long days of walking/hiking, etc)

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NihilsitcTruth@reddit

I did half, no kids, but I'm marries 32 years.

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pinkaline@reddit

Same!

Not married, no kids.

But also no boyfriend, no pets.

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MichiganThom@reddit

55 no real serious relationships and zero kids. I'm pretty happy 😊

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reconsideredskynyrd@reddit

48M - Never been married, no kids. I never was even close to thinking about engagement w any that I dated. Marriage and kids would have been fine if I found the right one but that never happened. Gave up at 40, no longer care, more focused on other aspects of life and I am completely fine with it.

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CarcajouCanuck@reddit

Never really had the urge to have children. I tried to get spayed in my 20s but the doctors wouldn't do it. Dated a few guys who thought they would "change my mind" but learned that was not the case.

And also single but may try the apps next year. My preference is meeting men organically however my local options have been hilariously bad. Even if I do find someone, I don't see myself going beyond FWB because I'm loving my solo life as a feline enthusiast.

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jIdiosyncratic@reddit

Were the doctors veterinarians? Kidding but if you wanted a tubal ligation what was their reasoning for telling you they wouldn't do it?

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CarcajouCanuck@reddit

It's actually very difficult to find a doctor that will do a tubal on a young woman. Their reasoning is that "you may change your mind and regret it".

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jIdiosyncratic@reddit

Yeah, I thought so. I wonder if a man asking for a vasectomy would elicit the same response. Probably don't see it that often.

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grackleATX@reddit

My wife had to sign off on my vasectomy. I was 40 and we were child free by choice, but she still had to sign a paper.

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jIdiosyncratic@reddit

Wow. I had no idea. At age 40 I would think you can make your own decisions about your own health without any one else's sign off. Thanks for bringing it up.

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CarcajouCanuck@reddit

Perhaps? But vasectomies are (usually) reversible so maybe doctors are more lenient?

I was also having very bad reactions to oral birth control and did not want to deal with that anymore. If IUDs were as prevalent as they are now, I would have been happy with that option, even with the excruciating-pain-during-insertion part.

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jIdiosyncratic@reddit

That's a very good point. I was on depo for 15 years and loved it. Every three months and no period. Not for everyone though.

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TeacherPatti@reddit

It is difficult. I live in a liberal college town and luckily found someone when I was 31. One of the best decisions I made!

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Ksauce-@reddit

Same here. A person should have the right to get fixed if you want to. Now in my 40"s I've given up on dating. Too much disappointment. Looking forward to a quiet life with a clowder of cats 😺

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Necessary-Ad-2031@reddit

51M. Same as title. I’ve enjoyed watching my family and friend’s kids grow up. Rough childhood and late starter. I do enjoy learning about myself while healing. Who knows what the future has in mind but I’m open.

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Upset-Syllabub3985@reddit

47M. Not married and no kids. Never crossed my mind.

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Rumikiro@reddit

Was in a serious relationship in my late 20s and 30s but neither of us really believed in marriage and she couldn't have children. I didn't really mind, I just wanted to be with her. She up and left me kinda out of the blue and it kinda broke me. Never saw it coming and she was not kind about it. That was 10 years ago. I'm about to turn 48 and I really don't want to go through that again so I've never looked for another romantic relationship. Don't really have any friends either. That kinda sucks.

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imadork1970@reddit

Based on how I was raised, I have no desire for kids. Dad didn't think he was doing his job unless we were miserable. And a drunk, too.

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wolverine18842@reddit

I'm childless and single. Having children is a no-go for me as I am an anti-natalist. Romantic relationships to me are lies to comfort people in their delusions.

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Felicia_Delicto@reddit

That 3rd sentence is waayyy GenX. And I feel every word of it.

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wolverine18842@reddit

Yes! I am finally part of gen X! I feel so accomplished...lol

All jokes aside, yea, if you've been through enough sht, it doesn't leave you too much room to try new things that might get your heart tossed around.

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GypsyWitchRover@reddit

49F, never married, no kids. Dating sucks.

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stormer1_1@reddit

Hi it me

Never had a viable chance to have children with anyone worthy, which is fine, i never truly wanted children anyways. I would have liked to be married, but there's still time for that. Most of my life has been eaten up by loss and trauma, so let's see if things improve from here.

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Switchgamer1970@reddit

I am 54. Never dated.

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ForgottenGenX47@reddit

51F. Yup.

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dontbeajoiner@reddit

I have a whole circle of GenX friends that are all childfree.

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Chrissygirl1978@reddit

My sister is a year behind me. Never married, no kids. She's really happy..

I married but no kids for us...

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excessive-stickers@reddit

52M. Childfree by choice. Divorced for 18 years but marrying again in two days, so not single for much longer. But we will remain childfree. I made sure of that years ago! Why? We just don’t like kids!

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412_15101@reddit

53F single and no kids. I had always wanted to be a wife and mother.

Girly cancer took the chance of having children and haven’t been lucky in love.

I’m still open for a relationship and hope to have that love some day yet

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shutupb4uruinit@reddit

Childless & single in Portland, Oregon

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Designer_End5408@reddit

You’ve got mail…. :). Kidding.

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DumberBlonde@reddit

It's funny, I just said yesterday that I'm glad I never had kids. I would have been an awful parent. My dog is demanding enough for me! I'm a widow and 53. It's still unbelievable to me. Widow. But I'm engaged to a wonderful 45 year old man who doesn't want children, and we spoil each other rotten. I'm a cradle robbing childless widow.

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Designer_End5408@reddit

8 years isn’t cradle robbing. :). Good for you! :)

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Keldrabitches@reddit

I am! Was a stepparent to a beauty for 5 years, whose father unfortunately passed away. Always thought I’d get a do-over after that, but it never worked out

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theotherdude@reddit

50M. Single and happy. I knew I was not going to get married when I was 16. More happy surfing refdit, reading manga and manhwa, and downloading movies and anime.

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kalisti-apple73@reddit

51F, divorced almost 20 years, no children by choice and recently just chose to break up with my fiance of 8 years. So Genx, woman45plus, childless, single and living alone ... I'm going for subreddit bingo!

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VicMackeyLKN@reddit

44, r/childfree, happily married for a while, wish the same for everyone

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mtempissmith@reddit

I never really wanted either. I had 2 men propose in my younger days knowing that. I turned them both down. I am perfectly happy living in NYC by myself except for my senior kitty.

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Cyrus_Imperative@reddit

Child~~less~~ free.

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revspook@reddit

Married, no children.

It isn’t as good a sitcom, even with seven cats and a dog. Not much drama, either.

I taught some. I’m giving my buddy’s kid a guitar for his seventh. Got a stupid lesson plan for him too (used to teach) that we’ll probably chuck out the window. We’ll laugh and have a good old time. Then, when I’m done, imma smoke a big doob, take an Advil and play video games with my spouse in our child-free household.

I’m not seeing any problem.

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Coffey2828@reddit

46F

Spent my late teens and my entire 20s chasing the dream getting married and having kids. Didn’t realize how miserable I was until I realized in my 30s that I’m an introvert that enjoys time alone more than with people. Also I hate kids.

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Much_Substance_6017@reddit

I’m a 46 year old DINK. I have 4 furbabies. I was lucky to find my person. We have separate living rooms and separate bedrooms. It’s perfect for us. But if we hadn’t met. I’d be fine/happy alone.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Nice! I have four dogs too!! They ain't cheap that's for sure!!! LOLLL

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GildedTofu@reddit

I’m not sure of the reason for the Boomer dig (that’s pretty much been the cycle for most of history give or take a few details). But I just never wanted those things, so never seriously pursued them.

It’s not that deep.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Well I mean from what I saw in my own family, which was of course probably 95% Boomers, that's all. But every single one was married, with kids, in a house, so I just wanted to move and experience life more than doing what every generation before me did, including the Boomers.

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IBroughtWine@reddit

Hey hey! 44F, never married, child free by choice. Too many reasons. I don’t see the point of marriage. Being committed to someone for life is great but I’m not religious, a marriage license means exactly nothing, and I never want to have to pay someone to talk to a judge on my behalf to get unmarried.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

I'm 100% with you and I AM religious haha. I don't see the point either! I actually do not want my name merging with someone else's on taxes and money and credit. HELL NO!!! hahahahha

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Ok-Opportunity-8457@reddit

57m, no kids, never married. Knew it from DAY ONE that I wanted to be a bachelor for life! Downside? Lol I'm literally in bed with covid rn, fending for myself- but I'll take it any day over cohabitation!!!

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

LMFAO! Get dogs bro!! :)

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ShakeWeightMyDick@reddit

Childless, but married. Didn’t get married until 45, though.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

I'm 44 and curious...do you feel like, "Oh fuck it I'm too old now!" for kids or would you still be open? I get so confused on that, because I'm so young physically and healthy, but that doesn't last forever obviously. I definitely struggle when I think of even adopting or foster care.

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singleguy79@reddit

Here....but I'm single because I don't put myself out there but want to but also don't want to

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

LMFAO! Ironically I completely get it! I look good, I look very young, I've never cheated in my life, I want people to want me, HA, but then I try dating, and I look around like WHAT THE FUCK, then dip out of the dating scene. It's a vicious circle!

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SallyDabble@reddit

42F here. No kids never been married. In a committed relationship for 18yrs (50M). We have zero desire to marry. Half of nothing is nothing so what's the point 🤣. I watched all of my older cousins pop out kids in their teens subsequently ruining their lives. I never wanted that. I like to sleep in on weekends and spend my money on ME. Selfish? Maybe. Happy? Definitely

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enfanta@reddit

It's not selfish if there's no one you need to support but you. I've heard childless people called that before and it boggles my mind.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Right? I don't understand it either. If you are happy because you loving spending the money you make on yourself, so you choose to not have kids, that's very wise not selfish whatsoever.

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Detroitdays@reddit

50F here. Been with my man friend for 25 years. No kids. I always knew that wasn’t for me. He is two years away from retirement so we will have to get married for the health insurance.

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Tinaturtle79@reddit

My man and I got married in April on our 24th anniversary of being together. If one of us croaks, we want the other to be able to collect our social security. Otherwise we may have never made it official.

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OnionTruck@reddit

Me.

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ElizaJaneVegas@reddit

59 and child free and married 34 yrs. Life is good.

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Puzzleheaded_Web6540@reddit

51 never wanted kids or husband and so far so good

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Pure-Pangolin-151@reddit

Child FREE and single here, married twice and knew it was a bad idea both times (ling story, people pleaser issues etc). 47F and currently 2 dogs

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Firm-Ring9684@reddit

Right here. Was married. Won't go back into details other than while my dad was dying in the hospital and barely with it, she got him to write her a check for cash. There's more but what's the point? My sister and I live together. She was a school teacher and worked in one of those portable buildings at the school. A guy passing through saw her, watched her for a few wks to know her patterns, one morning she's getting the lesson plan together on the board, hears a noise behind her, sees a guy pointing a gun. She's scared the kids would come in so says she's just a teacher, doesn't have anything, he pistol whips her across the face and sexually assaulted her with the gun to her head. He got caught in Corpus Christi for a related crime. Got 13 yrs, served 6. So she has pretty good PTSD. So if she texts, she's good. If she calls, she doesn't feel safe and I have to go. I dated for awhile but I wasn't with anyone that could deal with me having to leave if something was up so I just stopped. It was too much energy, cost too much $ and none of them made me happier than I was before meeting them. I'm perfectly content. If I happen to meet someone by accident, cool, but I don't think I'm capable of dealing with the needs of someone me of these people.

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DisappointedDragon@reddit

I’m very sorry that happened to your sister. you sound like a great brother.

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Firm-Ring9684@reddit

I sometimes wonder. Things that might be less tiny to you and I (forgotten bill, random m people knocking ng a MLB the door, etc) goes right through her and she's a little keyed up for awhile. Nothing crazy but expected from someone who's gone through what she has. But before our dad passed I promised him I'd watch out for her. But I screw up like anyone else or make a wrong decision and I often think "well I bet dad isn't happy about that" but I try not to dwell. I'm worse to myself than anyone else could be with their own words anyway. But....I try. We've been shown the past couple of years that we're it. No other family and "friends" kind of showed their true colors so we do what we can to not need help from anyone. Especially in this day. I'm not gonna ng to get into politics but imagine the thoughts that went through her head, putting herself back at the police station mentally. Having to get std tested, pregnancy tested, etc bc a worthless piece of shit that took it from her. I was there through that. I saw her face. The least I can do is help

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Firm-Ring9684@reddit

Ty btw

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Strong-Piccolo-5546@reddit

me too. 50m. I wonder what happens when i get older and i have no one to help me with things. there is a point where you get old enough children can help parents. or if i end up terminally ill there will be no one around. its depressing.

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trailrider@reddit

53M here. I'm on my 3rd wife but have no kids of my own. At least none I know of. Might be one to the woman I had sex with the first time but I honestly don't know. For the most part though, I never really wanted kids. Did for a short time in my late 30's but honestly glad it never happened. Do I regret it? Not really. We've fucked our kids, grandkids, great grandkids. Trump, SCOTUS, climate change, etc. Especially climate change. We had the chance to act but instead we argued it couldn't be happening because LOOK!, Here's a SNOWBALL! and how a book written by people who thought swinging chickens over their heads was legit medical treatment for what ails ya! History will not be kind to us.

I had a great aunt. Grandpa's sister. She died a virgin in her 70s or 80s. Literally moved to the other side of the country because growing up in WV during the 20s/30s/40s, there weren't many opportunities for women and she knew she didn't want "some damn man" telling her what to do. Hopped on the train the second she could. So she told me. I only know she was a virgin because my aunt and I was talking about her one time. I said I was curious because she never married or had a BF but wouldn't dare ask. Aunt told me she did. Said she never had sex with a man or woman because she simply had no desire for that sort of relationship.

That said, she was loved by everyone in the family. Was a school teacher. One time when I was little, she asked to borrow my copy of Grover and the Monster At the End of the Book. It was my fav book at the time and she took it back to California to read to her students. Ended up loosing it. FF a few decades and I get a Xmas gift from her. It was a copy of the book with a note. It read that she always felt bad about loosing my book and saw this on in a bookstore. So she got it for me. She really was a wonderful woman.

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Cool_Jelly_9402@reddit

44 no kids but married. Was also married in my 20s and that was a big fat mistake with lasting trauma to boot so I never thought I’d remarry but it’s worked out this time :)

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BeepBopARebop@reddit

57 divorced twice and no kids. My mom was a hard-working single mom so I had to raise my sister. I was done raising kids by the time I turned 19.

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Jlr1@reddit

Even as a young girl I said I never wanted kids…didn’t like playing with baby dolls either. It just was never something I wanted. Been married for close to 30 years and thankfully my spouse didn’t want kids either.

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cranialvoid@reddit

After my high school relationship eviscerated me emotionally, I voided such things. I had one long distance relationship years later but it never went anywhere. I found out years later I was the side guy and she was separated.

I don’t think my picker works anyway, and I don’t care to have my feelings for someone keep me with the wrong person. Yes I would like to have a person, but I just don’t see it being successful. I’m 46, so I am not having kids now. Been single and celibate for 15+ years.

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BossParticular3383@reddit

I never regretted the decision not to have children.

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HusavikHotttie@reddit

Especially during Covid!! Never been so proud of young me.

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Expensive-Lime-2976@reddit

never married, no kids, teacher. The college kids get all my time to help them succeed. ☺️

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Finleysdragon13@reddit

Child free was not my choice. Medical conditions made it impossible. Also, a chronic illness since I was 19, I've had partners not able to cope, so I'm alone. Not sure how my life would have turned out otherwise, but it's the life I have, and I try to embrace what I can.

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CurvyGurlyWurly@reddit

45F. Divorced. No kids for me. Ex was on the fence, but that's not why we split. He still never had any. Eldest daughter thing for me. Raised my brother and myself and just didn't have the energy to have kids of my own.

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Npl1jwh@reddit

50 male, no kids, never married, few long term girlfriends. 3 year, 8 year, 18 year.

Reason - Just not the fatherly type. Afraid of that much commitment. And a whoopsies just never happened.

College educated with a couple degrees. Supervisor in large corporate trucking companies since 1996. Homeowner, Farmland owner.

Newly single and terrified of trying to meet someone again. I was a young man the last time i was active in the single scene.

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This_Cruel_Joke@reddit

44 divorced. Got a vasectomy when I was married after my bipolar diagnosis. I’ve been a mess my whole life I couldn’t take care of a child. Plus they’d be sad as shit all the time I’m not passing these genes. The meds don’t work so I have to raw dog my condition so I’m dating material I have up this year for good

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That-Foundation-9160@reddit

52, no kids, never married. It used to bother me, but after seeing friends navigate divorce and coparenting I’m good with my choices. It’s enabled me to travel, live abroad, and have freedom to live my life as I see fit. I have a fantastic circle of friends, see live music all the time, indulge in my hobbies, spoil my friend’s kids, and travel. Currently dating someone with kids, so definitely not opposed to kids. Just never worked out for me during the window to have my own.

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eurydice_aboveground@reddit

Me! I think I knew I never wanted kids. I like them, but I was always a bit worried that I'd be an anxious parent to the detriment of my offspring.

I've had a few LTRs but a really bad picker, so I've been single for a long time. I don't feel compelled to partner up. I don't object to the idea, but I'm fine if it doesn't happen.

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Blurghblagh@reddit

47M. Didn't plan on being single and childless, it just worked out that way.

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delightfuldillpickle@reddit

I'm married, but my husband and I are childfree. I raised my feral siblings and had no desire to start over again. Diapers and puking and crying at 3am, I did all that already.

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brukabruka@reddit

54F. Also never married, also childless.

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Blue_Plastic_88@reddit

Add me to the roster! 55F 100% single and child-free! For me it’s mostly because I’m a hermit.

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Ksauce-@reddit

Yes, childless and single, definitely by choice. Never once wanted kids and completely burned out on relationships

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thisgirlnamedbree@reddit

48, no kids by choice because I carry sickle cell trait, and the right man hasn't come along yet. I have a 10 year old niece to love and spoil, and that's good enough for me!!!!

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HusavikHotttie@reddit

Me and all my friends!

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Devilimportluvr@reddit

Yup, 45 single and no kids. Just critters

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SnarkyGenXQueen@reddit

I’m 50 marriage and child free. I actually wanted the whole she-bang, marriage, kids the works, but it didn’t work out for me. My father abandoned me as a child and my mother was depressive, plus other family dysfunction. I wanted something healthier for myself and any offspring. I’ve pretty much come to terms with where I am.

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HammerT4R@reddit

I wish we had kids.

To mow, rake the leaves, etc.

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Upset_Peace_6739@reddit

Me too - 59F here. I wasn’t able to have kids and was married for a few years but have been happily single for almost 7 years and no inclination to change that.

I love living alone and being single. I don’t have to worry about anyone else’s wants and needs but my own. I am proud to be able to support myself and take care of all the things. Yea I rent and retirement is not going to be an option but my life is good in the moment and I have worked hard to be here. I am not even interested in a friends with benefits situation. As long as I keep the Satisfyer charged I can take care of that as well.

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DisappointedDragon@reddit

57F, never married and no kids. I would have liked to have them, but just never met the right person. I have taught for many years, so that has fulfilled a lot of my maternal instincts. I grew up an only child, so I am fine spending time by myself.

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dreaminginteal@reddit

No kids, but I did wind up getting married in my 40s. I never wanted kids—most of my life, I didn’t want to be married. (Caused the demise of at least one relationship.)

Retired in my mid 50s, and really happy to be out of the rat race. Our “kids” all have fur and the only words they speak are variations on “meow”.

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bookwurmy@reddit

I am, not by choice. I wanted a family and to be a mom. My ex wanted us to be divorced and thought that money was more important than kids, it turned out. And now I’m too old to have kids, of course, and it’s looking like I’ll be alone forever, so I’ve readjusted to be content with that. I am pretty afraid of what old age will be like, without any support, especially since I already have a slight visual disability (not enough to be considered a disability, the only things I can’t do are drive or ride a bike).

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_higgs_@reddit

Married. No kids by choice. Really only got married for the big party and tax break.

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labtech89@reddit

Me. I got married and divorced early and then was never in a situation to think about having kids.

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Deshackled@reddit

Me! Me and ex-gf DIDN’T want kids. After about 13 years, we just didn’t Feel It romantically for each other anymore, still friends though. No regrets.

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Florianemory@reddit

I am. 57 and single. No kids, never wanted any. I also never wanted to get married. My last real relationship was about ten years ago and I am fine with being single at this point. I own a small business, life is good.

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countess-petofi@reddit

Present. Chronic illness has taken up most of my time and energy.

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Likely_Being_Me_77@reddit

Me! 47, no kids, never married and single.

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Anglophile1500@reddit

Me. I know my limits.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

🤣 I mean yes me too. I've always been a Teacher so I can't be myself all day at work, per se. So I knew having a kid is just...eehhh...I like smoking weed, gardening, being profane and not giving a fuck other than my students. So having a kid is probably not a genius move hahaha. Just being honest

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Mustystench@reddit

49 male with no kids. I made a sincere attempt at marriage, but found out having someone in my physical and head space all the time was profoundly annoying.

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ZebraBorgata@reddit

Married no kids. When I think about my close circle of Gen-x friends and their “child status” we’ve got: none, none, none, none, one, one. And as I stated I am a none as well.

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-forbiddenkitty-@reddit

I was doing all the stuff I wanted to do in my 20s and 30s, and by the time I hit my 40s, I realized I never once thought about getting married or having kids.

Luckily, about the time I realized it wasn't for me, it became much more normalized than it was when I was a kid.

I feel bad for my dad, though. I know he loves my siblings and me, but I think he'd have been happier single with no kids.

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zoot_boy@reddit

It’s fine. Everything will be fine.

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Longinquity@reddit

She would have to be an amazing woman for me to consider leaving singlehood behind. So many people work so hard to impress others who aren't even likeable. From my perspective, appearances aren't enough. Although I wanted to have kids, I always envisioned that scenario with a wonderful woman who felt the same way about me. Not just to fulfill the societal expectation to pair up and reproduce. So many couples are endless drama or two people who merely tolerate each other. That isn't what I wanted my hypothetical marriage or family to look like. Even when dating my tolerance for drama and baggage was low. Although I stopped looking years ago, I'm not opposed to the idea of marriage if she has what it takes.

My parents are still married and have a good relationship. The same can be said for other family members and a few friends. I know that relationships can work, and I've seen how children can be a blessing, but I'm selective about who I let into my life.

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AthenaPA@reddit

51 yo F. Never married and no kids! 3 dogs 💗

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Misunderstood_Wolf@reddit

No partner, no children. Never wanted children, and romance just never happened for me.

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F-Cloud@reddit

56 and single, child-free. I've never wanted to be a parent, the lifestyle has never held any allure for me. Not to mention I've never had the income to parent a child. It would be so wrong for me to be a parent, I can't even take care of a pet or a plant properly. I love being child-free, being single not so much.

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MartoufCarter@reddit

Me! Never wanted kids and single for the majority of my adult life. No interest in dating partly because I have enough to do with my aging parents.

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Oldachrome1107@reddit

I feel this. I’ve never really had a strong long term relationship with anyone, and eventually just kind of gave up on it. And now I have a pair of elderly parents that I live with and while they’re still doing good and can handle day to day life, I have to do a lot of work, and know that I’m just going to have to handle more stuff for them.

I have a bunch of good friends-and in the end what I need is friends. I’m lucky like that

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Glimmerofinsight@reddit

I am 50y/o genx F and I have been in an unmarried but solid relationship with the same man since I met him in 2013. He was divorced, with 3 daughters. They are grown up now, but he was a victim of parental alienation by their mom, so the kids rarely call. I fully expected to have kids but it just didn't happen, as we were both stressed dealing with his kids and trying to counteract the bad feelings they were sent over with.

So now we are considering buying a travel trailer and traveling a lot, since we both have good income and vacation time. Its actually kind of nice not to have too many responsibilities, once you realize that you aren't going to lead the life you thought you were - with grandkids and all. I'm learning to love it. My relationship is evolving too, as he realizes that his kids aren't really in his life anymore. We are both focusing more on ourselves and supporting each other's hobbies.

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_baegopah_XD@reddit

Raises hand. 52YO female here, childless, and single. I never wanted kids. I hated school and jobs, etc. so why would I bring someone into this world to do the same stupid mundane shit that I hate so much?

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Kailicat@reddit

Me! The train stops here with all that generational trauma.

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PeopleLikeUDisgustMe@reddit

Happily child free, and happily married for 29 years.

Our 4 legged demon voids are plenty.

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thatsplatgal@reddit

Me!!!! And I celebrate it daily! What a beautiful time to be a woman!

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bigblackkittie@reddit

childless and never married. i do have a boyfriend though and he has kids

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CelticArche@reddit

Yup. Don't like kids, don't want kids.

As for the dating, I'm very indifferent. I am not fond of the effort of looking for a partner, so I just don't worry about it. If I see someone cute, I might make an approach. Otherwise, meh. Too much effort to go actively looking.

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Mountain_Exchange768@reddit

🙋🏼‍♀️

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DTW_Tumbleweed@reddit

58F here. Never had a maternal twinge. Got snipped at 29, removed the baby oven at 42. My biological clock never ticked. Not worried about who will take care of me when I'm old because it was never something I expected to fall on the shoulders of non existent kids. I have zero regrets. Over the years I've had a couple of long term relationships that almost made it to the "I Do" stage but disintegrated before then so divorce never happened. I figure I've got one or two more relationships before my time runs out, but right now I'm the only family near my failing mother, so I don't see dating while she's still struggling.
Life isn't exactly what I thought it would look like for me at this stage, but that peek into my future never included kids or grandkids.

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FlexibleIntegrity@reddit

54M and never married, no kids. I’ve had a couple long term relationships, the last one we got engaged but after living together for a year, we decided to mutually end it. That was a little over 6 years ago.

I haven’t been in a serious relationship since. I’m too messed up to even recognize what a healthy relationship is. My parents certainly were not good role models for that. About 12 years ago, I moved to another city to get away from my mother. She had that much negative influence upon me.

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The_Dude_2U@reddit

Not everyone needs to have kids. At least half of the current population echos that sentiment. If you’ve watched Idiocracy, you know why.

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home_dollar@reddit

55, single, no kids, no debt, house paid for. Lonely with no one to look out for me when I become infirm. Not interested in dating

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bcwendigo@reddit

I wish

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Bobannon@reddit

52F. Never married, no kids.

I like my peace. 95% of my friends (male and female) are basically cautionary tales when it comes to marriage and relationships. I'm fine with being the happiest person I know.

I babysat A LOT as a teen so never had any illusions about motherhood, which always looked like a raw deal to me. While I like kids, I always dreaded the idea of having to raise my own. Never occurred to me til I was in my 30s that motherhood doesn't have to inevitable and having no children can be an active choice rather than something that happens to you.

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Thorbertthesniveler@reddit

Single, no kids and Ace as base!

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often_awkward@reddit

I used to be childless and single. I almost made it but I failed in my early thirties.

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nadiaco@reddit

me.

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looking4truffle@reddit

Me. I'm the cool Aunty 😎

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lizrdsg@reddit

👋

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PowerfulStrike5664@reddit

I am one out of the two, married and childless.

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memememe81@reddit

Me! I never had kids (nor did my siblings) as we had kind of a rough childhood and (i assume) to break the cycle.

I was married and had stepkids (best of both worlds), but he decided to be unfaithful (among other things).

Oh, well. My dog thinks I'm amazing.

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Man-e-questions@reddit

I have a friend that was and I kind of thought he was going to be forever. But he got married like 8 years ago and now has 2 kids.

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TexPat-In-YAlbany@reddit

*childFREE and single, yes

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dreamersland@reddit

I had 3 kids and married twice. I love the kids, love my current husband but if I had it to do over again, probably would be childless and single. lol

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storm_the_castle@reddit

sibling did all the heavy lifting with 4

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TomieTomyTomi@reddit

Me! Didn’t want to get married— but got married bc I felt I should.

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finny_d420@reddit

51 and happily marriage and childfree. I'm happy with my life choices. I like sleeping alone, besides my pet. I don't want someone all up in my business 24/7.

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Successful_Comfort34@reddit

I knew when I was 10, didn’t want kids and to hell with marriage. I’m late 40s, still childless (no cats or dogs) and in a long relationship of 7 yes. Maybe we marry, maybe we don’t. But I’m past the reasonable age for making babies and always thought I’d foster if my home life allowed it. In a small one bedroom, it’s not the time or place for a child to grow up with me. But I’d love to turn around some bad lives for many fosters and hope I still can before I die.

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Esqornot@reddit

Present! Super Auntie to six. I’m the only one of my siblings without kids. LOVE IT!

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MLTDione@reddit

49, never been married or had children. I’ve lived alone for 24 years and it’s just me and my cat and I love it that way.

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Bundt-lover@reddit

Me! I'm 51, never wanted kids, and none of my relationships really made it past the early stage. Which is fine--I didn't end up in a crappy marriage, and I feel like I accomplish a lot more when I'm single. It ain't broke so why fix it.

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Magik160@reddit

53 never married and no kids. Got to the age where I just got so settled in my ways that it would be an intrusion for someone to join me.

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StubbornNobody@reddit

Yes, because I don't desire it. Also, social anxiety and generalized anxiety disorder are factors.

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LittleCeasarsFan@reddit

Never married, dated someone who assured me they wanted to get married and have kids, she dumped me out of the blue because her father told her she could do better than me. Pretty much just been broken ever since. Yeah, I’m going to Scandinavia for 2 weeks later this month, which is nice, but I suck at lying so I won’t pretend that travel or hobbies or cars or money can take the place of a loving spouse and children.

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Sintered_Monkey@reddit

I got married at 56. I probably would have gotten married earlier, but I knew that I didn't want children, so that really narrowed things down a lot.

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ActiveImportance4196@reddit

🙋🏽‍♂️ I never wanted kids and have a gf, but not married. We'd both rather travel and enjoy life than have kids and which I guess is a little selfish.

Especially with how soft this world is, you’re basically under a microscope with kids now, Idk why, we’re all arguably okay, it just doesn’t seem like the juice is worth the squeeze.

As for marriage, we’re not against it but we’re both pretty laid back and aren’t in a rush.

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karma_good_witch@reddit

I like to frame it as child-free v. childless because not having kids was my choice and no regrets! Also never married. What can I say? I enjoy my freedom!

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Hungry-Industry-9817@reddit

I got my fix from my niece and nephew

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polyester_bride@reddit

Me!!!

I love my nieces and nephews, but I also love that they can go away. I focused on my career and have been successful and I'm reaching the goals I've set for myself. I moved from a VERY small town to NYC and have never felt more at home and more like myself.

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Parlava@reddit (OP)

Haha it's the opposite of me. Big city to rural but also feel more like myself. Interesting, and for me it was my career too. I did a very big move twice, so having kids was not a reality and I stayed so hyper-focused on my career that I didn't bother, but looking back I'm fine and happy with no regrets. Thanks for sharing!