ULPT Request: How do I get my MIL to leave us alone without ruining relationships with the rest of my wife’s family?
Posted by GapTerrible2179@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 3 comments
My wife and I recently left the Mormon church after realizing it was all bullshit, but we might as well be cartel members for all my MIL cares. She’s blocked both of us on everything imaginable, but she says terrible shit to my wife all the time and just can’t go any real length of time without telling us we’re going to hell (while keeping us blocked, so we can’t respond). Lately she’s started sending us church propaganda in the mail to get us to reconvert, and having other people reach out on her behalf.
The problem is, my wife has young siblings still living at home, and she wants to keep in touch with them as much as possible. She also still loves her mom as terrible as she treats us. We can’t contact my MIL directly because she’s blocked us, but we can’t do anything too drastic anonymously either because she’d instantly know it’s us and she’d keep my wife away from her siblings. What can I do to either get my MIL to stop contacting us, or make her life difficult so she doesn’t think about us at all?
Great_Big_Failure@reddit
Can you just tell her she's right and "reconvert"? Obviously entirely made up.
CocoTheElder@reddit
You left the church. You shall be shunned by all. End of story.
Gallirium@reddit
Ex Mormon here. It took my grandmother around 6 years to finally come to terms with the fact that my family had left the church. Even now she still feels like bringing it up from time to time but she understands that it makes us uncomfortable so she does limit itself.
She has said awful things about my mother and some of my siblings but still shows love for our family. I still love her because of that, no matter how hard it is. It took a lot of distancing and then eventually an intervention when she started to fear about losing her family because of her religious and political beliefs that she felt the need to push onto us.
There is no easy choice in this, you only need to find the route that works best for you.