How mature are you?
Posted by ColtonSavannah@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 179 comments
I don't feel like a grown up, I'm nearly 40. My boss at work is a couple of years older than me and is serious and seems like a "grown up" and I feel like a kid most of the time. Where do you think you sit in grown-upedness?
Majestic_Visual8046@reddit
I turned 21 recently, so barely an adult, but I still feel like I’m 16. When I was younger, people in their early 20s seemed to be so mature and somewhat had things figured out, but getting to this age it just feels like me and my mates are big kids with more responsibilities. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve definitely matured from when I was younger as i now find myself moaning at things that wouldn’t have bothered me a few years ago 🤣 but often times I have to remind myself that I’m actually 21 and now have a foot to stand on in the big wide world of adults.
bartread@reddit
Depends on the context. I'm 48 years old and have, within recent memory, hidden under a bed so that when my wife emerged from the shower I could yell, "BLEEEEAAARRRGH!" and grab her ankle. And I videod it. It was very funny indeed.
Mr-_-Steve@reddit
Professionally and socially I probably currently act in my early 20's
Physically 36
my wife acts professionally 40+
Socially mid 30's
Physically 32
It hit me hard in my last job when this new regional director started as my boss (I was operations manager of a site), looked about 40, gift of gab like he's been in it for decades, gave of the aura of a mature director but turns out he was 29... Made me feel both old and immature.. soon left as we didnt see eye to eye...
ColtonSavannah@reddit (OP)
That's exactly the same as me! Although I've not been able to see off any bosses I didn't see eye to eye with. Kudos for that!
Mr-_-Steve@reddit
Oh no.. I soon left, He was more mature than me and worked in a regional director role on the path to become the group MD in next 10 years, I wasn't even attempting that battle. I Quit management and now work in administration/purchasing..
I'm much happier now, I can act myself and don't need to be the grown up in the room babysitting staff who wanted to be treated like adults but act like babies.
UnicornStar1988@reddit
I’m 36 in body and probably ten in mind. I don’t understand much adult stuff and humour but I easily relate to kids and can be friends with them really easily. I like to watch cartoons and wear bright clothing with cartoons or animals and anything I’m interested in.
ColtonSavannah@reddit (OP)
I've never seen a look like the one my wife gave me when she walked in and I was sat watching yu-gi-oh. I'd rather she'd walked in on me watching porn 😅
hitiv@reddit
People who feel like you are usually the ones that break the norm of what an adult should do. You don't see many adults playing vide games or watching youtube as they think its childish when it really isnt. so if you do like those it may seem to you that you are not grown up because most people that age will sit in front of a tv and do fuck all with their life...
As long as you are responsible, you are grown up!
S4h1l_4l1@reddit
I’m 21, one of my colleagues is 17 and she seems to much more mature than me. She literally takes her parents out to eat. Meanwhile, I’m here extremely immature, and in mountains of debt.
Civil_opinion24@reddit
I think I adult in autopilot.
I'm 41, and I'll replay meetings when I'm doing my notes and I'll think "I don't remember saying half of any of that, it sounds grown up".
jlelvidge@reddit
I’m amazed at how people far younger than me seem to know what they are doing. Like understanding economics, politics, business etc I struggle understanding my pension plan! I suppose I don’t think I need to know these things this late in life and I’ve accomplished most things normal people do like buying a house and working all my life. I still feel like I’m in my twenties mentally but realise from the way I ache and struggle during the day, I’m definitely in my 50’s.
NoBreakfast3243@reddit
I do an amazing act, I'm a manager in my workplace, have a mortgage & a child, but really it is only an act, I still love everything I did when I was a kid, would rather watch animé & eat snacks than do anything else and have never grown out of toilet humour. It can be a bit tedious having to pretend a lot of the time but I look at it like I'm a superhero protecting my real identity lol
Full-range-69@reddit
I’m 55 have a responsible job in the Nuclear Industry and am the most immature on our shift. Serious when it’s needed but 90% of the time I’m just a big kid
AzzTheMan@reddit
I'm 39 and have kids, a house , and a career. I sit on meetings at work with people making big decisions and wonder what I'm doing there. Why would they have a kid at this table?
peekachou@reddit
I act grown-up at work or in situations that call for it. I also got dragged around the lounge by my feet when my husband and I first moved in together. I will happily give a medical handover to a room of consultants in hospital, and I will also sing like a 12 year old on red bull at 2am driving to someone's nan who's fallen out of bed.
Basically it depends
Scarred_fish@reddit
I'm just getting to the stage I can be less grown up. Like most kids in the 80's I had to leave school to get a job to help my parents survive. Then unfortunately they had both died by the time I was 22 so I suddenly had my 14 year old brother to look after. While that was going on work had to get more serious to support everything, and I made the mistake of getting into an abusive marriage, then right after that became a parent.
Now, I'm in a 10 plus year happy relationship, own a house (well, built it) which I thought was impossible when I was younger, my daughter has her own place and is happy, and I can finally afford not to have to work overtime to make ends meet.
I'm seriously considering buying myself a toy to put under the tree this year.
JustLetItAllBurn@reddit
You definitely deserve a most excellent Lego set for Christmas.
stuntedmonk@reddit
Totally bodacious
swallowyoursadness@reddit
The tree can get you a present. My mum used to get something from the tree to the house, like a board game for everyone. As we got older, the tree started getting her stuff she wanted for the house..
StandardBanger@reddit
Sage advice, play ‘it’ in the supermarket with your partner, jump in puddles, stick your tongue out at people, get your inner child psyched & have fun because it’s the little things that make the big things in life doable. (I still live in hope of finding a BIG TRAK under the Crimbo tree one year)
pajamakitten@reddit
Damn right. I work hard, I pay my bills on time; I have earned the right to watch cartoons and giggle at farts at 32.
crawf_f1@reddit
I got an rc car lined up I wanted about 30 odd years ago
FalconMurky2256@reddit
Do it! You’re never too old for a toy a Christmas, even if you have to buy it yourself 🥰
stuntedmonk@reddit
I’m over 40 but live out my 15 year old life. The person I see in the mirror does not correlate
LowChemical8735@reddit
I have a full time job where I manage people and big expensive projects. I have bills, rent and all the stress that entails. I have a long-term girlfriend who I hope to marry soon. I also play hide and seek with my dog when we go to the park and I will climb a tree to win.
Benreh@reddit
I'm 43 and a dad or two, I change brake pads on the car, bleed radiators and make sure my kids have a great time as much as I can. I also skateboard and play world of warcraft so it's swings and roundabouts really.
LilG1984@reddit
I need an adult!
Wait Iam an adult....damn it!
Ranger_1302@reddit
I draw a cock and balls on steamed-up windows.
Sad-Personality8493@reddit
43m. Whenever im on a dating site and a pretty girl has on her profile that she wants a man who knows what he wants and has to have a mature outlook on life...i just swipe left. I have no interest in being serious and grown up. I still go to gigs with my teenage kids and enjoy saying something to make them laugh when they have a mouthful of lemonade. Fuck boring adult talk.
Always-An-Effort@reddit
Put it this way, I'm an adult. But when it comes to a situation where an adult is needed, I always look for an adultier adult.
MMH1111@reddit
Ha! Years ago when I was in my mid-30s, neighbour called me in because her husband had died. My first thought was that I wasn't grown up enough to deal with such a thing.
Similar thing happened recently and I felt able to cope, which made me think that I probably grew up in my 50s.
annacosta13@reddit
Ffs I’m the adultier adult in my marriage .
Always-An-Effort@reddit
Just don't become the adulterer adult!
PM-ME-HANDBRA-PICS@reddit
But I enjoy playing with my friends
Always-An-Effort@reddit
I know the feeling! (Which is why I left)
NatureJunkie745@reddit
Literally me yesterday. 34F, engineer. My car decided to die 2 weeks into a new job that's not accessible via train. My friend asked me how I was doing and I responded simply, looking for advice from a more adult adult.
jaymatthewbee@reddit
I hate adulting. I don’t want to bleed the radiators, I want to go outside and play!
Always-An-Effort@reddit
Yeah it seems very unfair that 25 years ago my parents got horny and now because of that I have bills and responsibilities.
PowerApp101@reddit
Birth -> school -> bills -> death, the cycle of life
Otherwise-Sky-3441@reddit
Sis you literally said what I have always been thinking!
mattyMbruh@reddit
You just summed me up somewhat
IntrovertedArcher@reddit
I do the same, but it’s becoming increasingly often that I am the most adulty adult in attendance. I don’t like that.
pajamakitten@reddit
Except most adults are doing the same thing and many might turn to you.
Ze_Gremlin@reddit
The real grown up moment is when you look for the grown up in the room and.. oh wait, they retired.. oh no, now everyone is looking in, expecting ME to be the grown up..
And then you just have to wing it until you don't feel like a constant flap every time the babies in the office turn to you..
CoffeeandaTwix@reddit
Here is the thing: being an adult means taking on and accepting some responsibilities. It does not mean taking on and accepting responsibility to personally acheive every outcome in life.
It doesn't make you any less of a man or woman if, for example, you look for a medic when there is a medical emergency in a situation you would otherwise take responsibility for.
The key thing about being an adult is that you take and accept at least some reasonable amount of responsibility in life.
Always-An-Effort@reddit
Please go back in time and explain this to my ex. Maybe you'll have more luck than I did!
Anaptyso@reddit
In theory I should feel fairly grown up. I'm in my 40s, am married, have a steady job, have a child and a mortgage etc.
However, I still feel like I'm an 18 year old who is just winging it and doesn't really have a clue what they're doing. Other people my age just seem to know stuff like DIY or gardening or cars, for example, as if the knowledge just popped in to their head when they became old enough. When I have to do something like apply for a mortgage I feel like a fraud who it going to be found out for not being a proper grown up.
SimplySomeBread@reddit
i'll be 20 next week and feel fucking ancient but i think i'm just boring
stuaird1977@reddit
I can switch back and forth quite.well but deep down I'm about 9 year old. I still find things.funny that I did when I was young and most of my mates do .apparently it a Gen X trait.
Hungry-Falcon3005@reddit
I’m 46. I still feel like I am 18. My husband is way more serious than me
BeastMidlands@reddit
DiscoMonkeyz@reddit
Closing in on 40 myself, and I've felt the same thing. I certainly don't feel very mature. My knees say otherwise.
It's weird when I look at people from history who have done great things in their 30s, especially as leaders of countries, and then there's me.
DrH1983@reddit
I'm 41. There are managers, and senior managers and even executives in my workplace who are younger than me and display a lot more maturity and "adultness" than me.
I'm not exactly immature or anything, but fundamentally I don't really think I've changed much mentally since leaving uni nearly twenty years ago. Possibly been in the same mental space since college tbh.
I don't really have my shit together.
loubotomised@reddit
Oh God, not very. I got my life backwards, had kids very young, single parent for most of their childhood, so now I'm early 40s, 2 out of 3 kids are in uni. Decided 4 years ago that since we'd always been a bit skint, we could carry on being a bit more skint so I could go to uni. On to my masters now, still feel like I'm 20. I work jobs around classes that are fun and varied, have good friends, an amazing boyfriend and social life. Much better than I thought my life would be tbh. There's a difference between age and mentality. I'm an adult biologically and occasionally mentally, but I am far from grown up.
swallowyoursadness@reddit
I feel like my perspective on life and people has matured, emotionally, I feel mature. Practically, I'm about 12. I'm terrible at keeping on top of bills, finances, food shopping, chores etc..
ElliottFlynn@reddit
Not as mature as your mum
Accomplished-Salt797@reddit
Smooth.
Xorkoth@reddit
Well considering what I thought was maturity when I was a kid wasn't exactly the same as an adult.
I'm 37 but feel like 24 "mentally" whatever that means...
I have no kids though so that lack of responsibility does seem to come into it.
WatermelonCandy5@reddit
It’s all an act.
forfar4@reddit
I'm 57 and I still fall about laughing at farts.
I embarrass my partner in public by turning to her and - instead of saying "Just popping to the loo" - I will use Dom Joly's Austrian skiing instructor character from "Trigger Happy TV and say, "I hev to empty mein bottom..."
When the supermarket PA announces "We have discounted on aisle six", I have been known to drop the basket and leave my partner perplexed as I sprint off like the supermarket has just announced the best deal ever.
Again, in the supermarket, I will put on a moron voice and ask my partner, "Can I have some of them shit-ache mushrooms for me dinner, bab?"
I have recently found out that it's bad for the dog and needs veterinary attention, but I can't help creasing up with laughter when a dog sits down and pulls itself along with its front paws, to scratch its ring piece. The difference now is that I will relish saying - appropriately - that it needs its anal glands expressing, hoping that the owner will take the hint.
So, scatalogical humour still makes me laugh. Like a kid.
I would remind you - I'm 57.
MachineGunChris@reddit
Boobies
Necessary_Doubt_9762@reddit
I am technically an adult. However, in any given situation, I will always look for the adult adult to be in charge.
TheChiliarch@reddit
It's weird, I grew up as the eldest brother to a lot of siblings, and I'm like an older brother to many of my friends, but at the same time I have a super smart cousin who's always been like an older brother to me, and I often have a similar dynamic with my older friends, so I'm well versed with the feelings on both sides...
And I've never actually dwelled on it before, but it is truly peculiar when I explore my dual experiences of the two dynamics. When I'm with my younger siblings or friends I find my bearing naturally calm and confident, I tend to be positioned in an advantage in experience and knowledge (often also finance) and find myself giving leads to, guidance or even being inclined to nurture them.
Whereas where I'm with the people who are more like older brothers, it's like my own identity switches to a younger brother, I feel more inclined to take their lead on things, consider their intentions or default to their plans, and even rely on their guidances from time to time, and even more curiously, when I think about it, I tend to see their confidence or reliability chart when they're holding in that dynamic.
It's a confusing thing, but it's sort of like this complex mental habit of switches between regression and progression based on age/pseduo-familial dynamics. I'd guess there might even be a distributed alignment on whether a person tends to fall more often into the "regressive" (because I don't think that's the best word, but I can't think of a more apt one right now) junior dynamic, likely if they grew up a younger/youngest child, or more likely to fall into the "progressive" senior dynamic, supposably if they grew up as an older/oldest child, and then I'd presume middle children would be evenly aligned, and I'd guess only children would be leaned somewhat towards the junior dymamic.
Damn, my 2am thoughts are always wild yet winding.
Miss_Doodles@reddit
There nothing worse than realising everyone is looking at you to be the adultier adult when somethings gone wrong
Anderax_@reddit
Are you smarter than a 10 year old?
TheChiliarch@reddit
I feel like if my 14 year old self was suddenly switched into my body and forced to cope with my current responsibilities, it'd almost be my same self. Or to put it less weirdly, yeah I don't feel like I've fundamentally changed from when I was kid, just the world I'm in has changed and I am manifested by it.
Coocoocachoo1988@reddit
I drink chocolate milk and eat fish fingers regularly enough to not take myself seriously.
BenisDDD69@reddit
Maybe I'll be mature when I'm wise enough to take my own advice; advice which my friends and family say is such good advice that I must be really at peace with everything. Alas...
BabyAlibi@reddit
I'm in my 50's and my dog favourite treat is pizzle/bully stick. For those that don't know, these are made from bull penis. I'm constantly cracking jokes (to the dog of course) how she gets more dick than me. Lie down nice and suck that bad boy. I have a whole jar full of dick.
That's how mature I am.
87catmama@reddit
Well, boobies, willies, and farts are hilarious. Make of that what you will.
ratty_89@reddit
I'm in my mid 30s, and replaced all the valve caps on my colleagues car with glow in the dark dicks I 3d printed.... I'm a pillar of maturity.
thevampsandixo@reddit
Being an adult is tough. Even though I’m an adult, I still rely on my mom to take charge sometimes.
TomL79@reddit
I’m 45. I can be very serious and mature. I can also be very silly and immature. There’s a place for both. The chances are that your boss is serious and mature in a work environment but there’s probably situations where they’re just daft and silly. I probably seem a bit strait laced and serious at work to some of my colleagues, but it’s all about the situation and environment.
I think it’s perfectly OK and healthy to be silly and immature at times (in a fun, letting off steam way rather than being a dickhead). Don’t worry about it.
bongowasd@reddit
Yeah I still feel \~18. I grew up pretty quickly being surrounded by sex, drink, drugs, and clubbing between ages 15-18 and I suddenly completely stopped it all at 19. I even had a job at 15.
Now, I've been so secluded from people that I just stagnated as a person. I feel exactly the same person because that's essentially what I am. A dumb kid who can't seriously converse with people my age, who can't understand why they live the lives they do. The kind of person who can happily sit in silence with other people. Which to others, is like serial killer shit apparently.
Like I see no difference in talking to a 20 year old person and a 50 year old person.... They feel exactly the same to me. Yet to other people that's unthinkable. When people my age talk about dating younger women \~age 20 for example, they talk about how difficult it would be to have meaningful and deep conversations. Yet I'm just sitting there thinking they're more or less the same...
Idk. Depression and both a desire to want to be around people but also not want to talk to anyone is the issue that I can't/don't wanna fix.
Its not like I'm an approachable person romantic or otherwise, so dying alone it is.
Anythingbutapathetic@reddit
Your bodies ageing your soul isn’t
Remote-Pool7787@reddit
My husband and I are just average now (mid 30s), but when we were 18, we were married with 2 kids, living at the other end of the country from where we grew up.
jaBroniest@reddit
I'm 34 in 5 days and internally I still feel 22/22.
DisneyBounder@reddit
I'm 40. I'm currently drinking my coffee (grown up) from a Hello Kitty mug (not grown up). I have a job (grown up) and spend some of my wages on Lego (not grown up). I thoroughly enjoy a gritty crime drama and regularly listen to true crime podcasts (grown up I guess?) but I also watch cartoons and anime (not grown up).
I'd say it's about a 50/50!
roberole@reddit
Dude, just be comfortable in yourself. I'm an adult where it matters, but where it doesn't I'm still a 20 year old.
niallmonologoly@reddit
Mate I'm 50 in two months, and I don't feel like I've grown up. However, does being serious mean you've grown up, or does it mean you've grown tired of living?
AdemHoog@reddit
I am a grown up and everything is bullshit.
fr3yababii33@reddit
I’m nearly 30. I’ve got a family and a mortgage. I’m pretty adult in that regard, but I had a traumatic childhood and still feel wholly unqualified to be an adult 😂 man just let me watch films in my duvet den 🙈
Equivalent_Ask_1416@reddit
I think due to my medical condition I do feel like I have child tendencies, but I am able to carry myself like a responsible adult when the need arises.
StandardBanger@reddit
🤔 I’m adult when required… & the rest of the time I’m a kid with new wellies & puddles to jump in.
InvestigatorNo8432@reddit
I’m 32 feel like im about 18 where does that place me?
FletchLives99@reddit
53, feel 17
saadmah@reddit
31 and I still giggle when I say Uranus, so not a lot 😁
WatchOne2032@reddit
I'm an adult. But not a grown up
tmstms@reddit
Mrs tmstms tells me I behave as if I am about 6.
I am 64.
Possiblyreef@reddit
I distinctly remember "work shorts"
Moorglademover@reddit
Get her to take you to Specsavers.
Ishart_Elin@reddit
Check the usernamw
tmstms@reddit
Ironically, I first started to wear glasses when I was 6!
Agreeable_Fig_3713@reddit
I feel older than I am. I’m 38 nearly 39 and I’ve got a two year old. I’ve got older kids too - one in his last year of highschool but I go to toddler groups and meet my pals adult kids with their toddlers. They introduce me to the other mums who are all their age like ‘this is figgy, my mums pal from school’ and I feel like I should be a granny. They’re all at the start of their parenting and adult life and I’m looking at retirement pretty much as soon as my youngest leaves home.
SpiritedVoice2@reddit
Maybe your boss feels the same. Am mid 40s and feel like a kid still, despite starting a family, buying a house etc. Don't reckon that'll change to be honest, probably still feel clueless in my 70s.
What I have thought about a lot recently is context with ageing and seniority at work.
I have a lot of younger staff at my work and realising I have almost 20 years more experience than the youngest. Becoming very aware of how old and adult like I must seem to them, and their expectations and needs for me to play that role.
This is changing the way I act around them. Essentially trying to act the experienced reliable senior manager more, act as a proper mentor, push them more, find ways of rewarding effort, etc.
It's quite a challenge when I essentially feel like the same clown I was at 18.
frogotme@reddit
Varies. I'm 20, work a decent office job full time, and live with my partner. Still no clue about a lot but I'm learning. Youngest in my office is certainly an experience though.
Wavesmith@reddit
Well my husband put a single candle on my birthday cake today. So apparently not very?
TechAdu@reddit
Don’t grow up. It is a trap. You will miss youth and time. Live!
jamielynz76@reddit
I'm mature most of the time 😂 I'm sure my coworkers would say different 😂 but I'm the person that's always making people laugh so I would be like the class clown.
ashakespearething@reddit
Pretty sure I feel less adulty now than I did at 22. Certainly less confident. Endlessly shocked that people look to me as the expert for my area in the room at work.
RaceFan1027@reddit
Honestly I feel pretty mature, I’m not an adult yet (will be in 4 months!) but I’ve had to grow up fast and am definitely far more mature than my peers. I wouldn’t say that’s always a good thing (can’t say I had much of a childhood) but I am very mature.
jdsuperman@reddit
I have fun wherever I can find it. And I always laugh at farts.
Ze_Gremlin@reddit
You can be a grown up, doesn't mean you have to be boring though.
I have a goofy/playful sense of humour. I make mistakes during public speaking events and make fun of myself for it.
I also have a very logical brain when it comes to the boring adult stuff like bills and budgeting and household chores,
but as soon as all that is out of the way, I'm doing "pull my finger" jokes to the Mrs or following her up the stairs, bent over with my head against her ass yelling "we are centaur!!"
TheDawiWhisperer@reddit
I'm an overgrown teenager pretending to be a 40 year old dude
Limp_Implement2922@reddit
Some people are so adult it’s hard to imagine them ever being children. I was never a proper adult. Just continue being you. Everyone is different thankfully.
Nine_Eye_Ron@reddit
Depends on the situation, currently deep in my Skyrim save so I’m going with “very”.
peterhala@reddit
I think we all become Grown quite early in life (teens? 20s?) but don't stop learning. You develop more confidence as you get older, you also realise we all do impressions. I'm a white haired old git with an inner dialogue by Beavis & Butthead. However I will do an impression of George C Scott playing Churchill when young people expect a magnificent old bastard. It pleases them, and I don't have the heart to tell them old people exactly the same as them. We don't have a clue what's going on either.
NoTrain1456@reddit
57 m OK, I'm getting old, but you can't stop that, I do, however, refuse to grow up. I've had my own business for years, and I employ people. I don't find it necessary to be serious constantly
griffaliff@reddit
36m, some ways, yes (married, own my house, have a career), other ways, no (alcohol and cocaine habit, no kids, still love to party, I'm irresponsible with money, my time etc).
mentaldriver1581@reddit
Ya, the alcohol and cocaine are fun until they’re NOT.
Embarrassed-Ideal-18@reddit
I think numetal is the more worrying habit.
pajamakitten@reddit
I am not seeing the problem here. The likes of Korn, Linkin Park, Deftones and Coal Chamber are elite to this day.
Bexybirdbrains@reddit
Was just blasting out Hybrid Theory myself earlier today. Nobody can take my teenage music away from me!
pajamakitten@reddit
I regularly ask myself 'What's my age again?'
Blink-182 were right in that I have many years to act my age. It is just not how I want to live my life right now. I am responsible at work and that is enough for me.
Illustrious-End-5084@reddit
Slow to grow up but feel more grown up than most . Sometimes I bump into people from my past and they are still doing the same stuff . Drugs , fighting , drama no thanks don’t want drama anymore
desertterminator@reddit
I'm grown up when I need to be and a kid when I can be.
GreatBigBagOfNope@reddit
In a time of immediate crisis my head tends to be rock solid and crystal clear. In periods of intense frustration I have patience that lasts years. I can keep a house maintained and in order on my own, including a baby and a dog, for days on end.
However, I get too keen on meaningless internet arguments, have no internal sense of self-worth or self-respect, and daydream viciously.
Mixed bag.
SamVimesBootTheory@reddit
Honestly I feel mature in some ways abd not others it's highly dependent on the situation
Like say I'm generally a fairly sensible person and level headed, I generally have avoided making any 'really screw your life up' mistakes but also I feel very behind other people my age and have always struggled socially
I'm one of those people who grew up being told they were mature for their age but imo a lot of that was probably early onset anxiety and the undiagnosed AuDHD
PintCEm17@reddit
if u have no kids, or no responsibility outside of work (caring for elderly etc) your only concern is rent and food all.
Tinnitus-1975@reddit
I feel, taller, more elegant women are grown ups, I'm a short, gothic metal head, most days in black and dr martens
Optimal_Builder_5724@reddit
I'm not very mature at all for a 36 year old.
I don't want to play the game anymore. Unfortunately I have a kid so I have too.
Drunk_Cartographer@reddit
About as mature as your mum mate
Captain_Kruch@reddit
In my head, I feel the same as I did when I was about 18 (I'm 35m). My back, on the other hand, makes me feel about 80.
MDL1983@reddit
I am pretty much a man child, I have no kids so, while I do have a wife, a mortgage and I part own a business, that is about where my responsibilities end. I get away with a fair bit of computer gaming.
TEFAlpha9@reddit
I feel like at any moment i'm going to get caught out and they'll realise I'm not actually a real adult. I have massive imposter syndrome though.
lilcheese840@reddit
Almost 30 and I’m nowhere near mature, wonder all the time if I’ll ever grow up and then go back to dry humping the lads at work
crawf_f1@reddit
Adult = hiding any enjoyment they may be having in life
Kind-Soil-6259@reddit
I'm 45. I feel absolutely no different inside to how I did at 17, though I concede that life has made me wiser. I have a job where all the other adults in the room look to me as being the grownup with all the answers. I often think "if only they knew", before taking a deep breath and giving it my best shot, which is exactly what we are all doing!
Acrylic_Starshine@reddit
Ive always felt like 10 years below what i actually am
amaluna@reddit
I think maturity is a misunderstood concept and is often too closely tied to a persons general temperament and the two aren’t one and the same
I had a manager that was a very serious and stern individual - but was also ill tempered and conflict avoidant. He wasn’t mature but he appeared it. He was a nice enough guy but these are the facts
GuybrushFunkwood@reddit
Boobs
xander-mcqueen1986@reddit
I'm 38. I'm immature always. Have kids, long term relationship and own home. I'm never growing up. Ever. Kids and missus loves me the way I am. Don't care what other people think.
Immediate_Yam_7733@reddit
Is there a scale ? Depends on the situation . In work I mess around a lot and try to laugh with everyone, at home I'll joke with my wife . If I'm somewhere public and you see me like the shops or cinema or somewhere similar ill look like the most serious fucker ever even though I'm not thinking of anything .
Pretend_Panda@reddit
I’m an an adult for the minimum amount of time necessary. Being an adult is no fun, people who take adulting seriously must have something wrong with them.
JoesRealAccount@reddit
At 36 I have achieved the basics of being adult. Got a job, moved out, got a driving licence. But I am basically 13 years old on the inside and I fucking hate it. I've always felt like everybody around my age was "maturing" into adults whereas I was mature enough fairly early on, to look after myself and act responsibly, but I never grew up mwntally beyond that. Maybe one day a therapist will be able to adultify me or something. For now I have alcohol and CheeseStrings to help me through it.
ImpossibleFloundy01@reddit
I have an 8 month old daughter so not very mature
KublaiWay@reddit
I’ve got to the stage where I’m being immature or winding people up so often, that I’m not really sure what my default state is. I can be mature when needed, but it’s very much a ‘break glass when required’, aka rare.
BushidoX0@reddit
Where it matters I am (personal finance, taking career seriously etc)
Where it doesn't matter I have not changed much since being a teen
Durzo_Blintt@reddit
I'm not. I'm basically an 18 year old mentally. I did mature in my 20s, then I stopped giving a fuck and I've regressed. I'm aiming for 10 by the time I'm 40.
FrankyFistalot@reddit
I have lived by the mantra “They can’t make you grow up”. Has nearly caught me out a few times due to not being able to take things seriously at certain times when it was required.A few required apologies got me through any issues.It all stems from being told as a teenager “Don’t you think you have enough CD’s and games” like I was just going to suddenly stop. OP you do you and live life any way you want to.
CedrikNobs@reddit
Getting older is unavoidable but growing up is optional
adreddit298@reddit
44, but 15
LikeEveryoneSheKnows@reddit
I'm nearly 40, married, two kids, mortgaged up to the nips, and yet when one of my colleagues announced on Teams she was stepping away for a moment by use of a toilet emoji, I laughed for 5 straight minutes.
Used-Journalist-36@reddit
In my sixties currently playing on my Xbox.
Ok-Orchid-5646@reddit
lmao I feel the same way. Everyone seems to have it together and I'm like "I hope I'm like them when I grow up" only to find out they're younger than me.
I'm probably more "together" than I realise, it just doesn't feel like I am.
TheCarrot007@reddit
I talked to my gran a lot before she went.
Best I cout tel she felt like she was stil 16 and just looked wrong. (I cannot wrod this great!)
Late as is now, I agree.
Yoiu are never grown up as it is not a thing, you are just you.
kipha01@reddit
My maturity is flexible, I am serious and adult when I need to be but I can also easily switch on my inner child when playing with my nephew or just of I want to.
Therashser@reddit
I'm 48 and mature when it matters, got to enjoy life.
justareddituser2022@reddit
Oof, 35, a fucking child. But love how when I have a problem and ask my parents, they also usually have no fucking idea either. We're all just out here being clueless and scared.
Familiar_Benefit_776@reddit
I'm a child forced to be an adult. I do all the adult stuff and handle business, but feel like I'm faking it really and just want to mess around forever. The older I've got the more I've realised that most people are faking it and society forces us to suppress the child inside.
annacosta13@reddit
Im 37 and I feel like I got my shit together (most of the time). The day my son was born (I was 28 at the time) I totally felt like a full blood adult, something just clicked inside me.
Mr-Incy@reddit
I am 49, I moved out of my parents house when I was 17.
I bought a house when I was 25, been married twice, had a child during the first marriage, no further children though ... it doesn't matter how much you try, you can't get men pregnant .. but I will keep practising.
As the house is mine, I pay all the bills, do the food shop etc, my current partner transfers money into my account rather then me redirect bills to his account.
I have been a manager for 21 years.
I am mature when I need to be but still do things that other 'grown ups' seem to disapprove of.
BalthazarOfTheOrions@reddit
The secret of being an adult is you never stop being a child on the inside. The child just gets choked from years of bills, debts and boredom.
keto_emma@reddit
I've felt like an adult since about 12 or 13. I think emotionally immature parents force you into that role.
dobber72@reddit
I'm in my early 50s and when things are going a bit pear shaped I still find myself looking for someone more adulty. I'm definitely old but not grown up or mature. I don't have kids though, maybe it's different for parents.
My father always seemed like a proper grown up from the outside and I asked him once when he first felt like an adult, he said he'll let me know when it happens, he was 76 when he said that.
DMBear89@reddit
So I’m 35 but mentally feel 65. I am a CSA victim so I’ve always felt older than whatI am. I had to grow up fast. I did see a therapist for this as I’ve never “felt young” I always felt like I had to look out for myself cause I couldn’t trust adults so I was very, very mature before I hit puberty . Think Peter Pan syndrome but the opposite and you have me!
imtheorangeycenter@reddit
46, coming on 12-22. Proper job and all, big mortgage.
Will still drag a stick down railings for *that sound" at any opportunity (actually, I make a lot of noise all the time).
Will happily deploy my "wings" (arms from the elbow down) if I have to chicane around anything.
Shopping trolley? Zero-G space sled!
Driving the gf anywhere more than a few miles? Lets pretend we are piloting a plane.
I hear you find your mental age you are destined for and stick with it. Don't take life too seriously.
Redvat@reddit
Don’t know I’ve not learned the answer yet, maybe ask a grown-up?
J-H2000@reddit
I farted and laughed earlier, but I also have to be very mature at work, time and a place to be both imo
lithaborn@reddit
My body says I'm about 90. My brain wants to be 25.
I compromise by acting 35 then paying for it by being laid up for two days.
jungleddd@reddit
I’m 49. If you’d asked me a year ago, i I’d have said I don’t feel like an adult at all. No kids, no mortgage, known for going on daft adventures.
In the last year I’ve got a mortgage, dealt with my mum’s passing and getting power of attorney sorted for my dad. I feel a lot more adult, and I don’t care for it much.
Hang on to that childlike feeling as long as you can.
CaptainBartholomew@reddit
Your boss isn’t grown up. I’m 54, my CEO is 54 we’re serious unless left alone then we are like a pair of idiotic teenagers. Your body grows old, your mind doesn’t
lalalaladididi@reddit
As a beautiful cheddar.
Tasty, smooth, enjoyable and nice on toast
notmyworld76@reddit
Listen I'm a kid in my head I act like one when I can I do silly things I laugh all the tome find stupid things funny but on the flip I know how to behave know how to be responsible when it counts you gotta balance things enjoy the things you love but get a bit of soul growth lol if that makes sense
Bexybirdbrains@reddit
I'm 37. I've been a manager at work before now and when I dropped that down I was the one that the other managers came to for help. I'm the one people turn to in an emergency. I'm in charge of running everything at home, making sure bills get paid and dentist appointments are scheduled on time. Being disabled myself means looking after my own health and juggling medical appointments is a full time job itself.
But I feel and all too frequently act like a hormonal 16 year old.
barrybreslau@reddit
Shove it up your bum.
BeanzMeanzBranston@reddit
willy bum bum bum bum
Unlikely-Check-3777@reddit
I'm 39 years old and my wife asked what we should eat for dinner earlier and I said butt soup so, like, pretty mature.
KeelsTyne@reddit
Something like a third of all toy sales in the U.K. (and I suspect the US) are to adults. Just saying. 😂
lloyddav@reddit
Growing old is inevitable but growing up is optional
I'm 41 and still don't feel like a grown up but my dad gave me power of attorney for my granddad (as he lives in Australia). He told me, that out of myself and my older siblings, I'm the one he trusted to make any mature and level-headed decisions. I felt humbled and embarrassed but also I never felt more like an adult
sssstttteeee@reddit
I am early 50's, with my partner for over two decades.
Doing mindfulness on a regular basis has changed my life; Balance App, free for a year.
Most of my friends changed since this, and I found my maturity and letting negative stuff go, so no reaction.
Best thing I did ever, just wish I had done it decades ago.
SCATOL92@reddit
I feel like an adult 99% of the time. The other 1% is when I am trying to get support for my SEN child. Filling out forms and dealing with dozens of different people and agencies makes me want a grown-up to please just deal with all this for me.
EvilTaffyapple@reddit
I’m as mature as I need to be in a situation. This differs with friends, colleagues or family
shadowed_siren@reddit
Nearly 40 as well. But I look about 10 years younger. I feel about 25 years younger. I don’t ever feel adult.
I’m married with a child and a career and a mortgage. Still every time I have to do something “adult-y” - it feels weird. Like I shouldn’t really be making those kinds of decisions.
Iammildlyoffended@reddit
I didn’t grow up until I had kids…now I’m so grown up I bore myself at times lol. JK
IamBeingSarcasticFfs@reddit
I’m in my fifties and never felt like a grown up until I worked with you get people. Bunch of arseholes the lot of them 😂
Regantowers@reddit
I know I am but what are you!?
Ya mam is!
All actual responses that I pluck out the kit bag when needed.
Sad_Emu_3413@reddit
I asked my boss of my new job if we will have a grown up to consult on nightshift 😂 i’m 36
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