What surprises you about fellow adults?
Posted by angel_0f_music@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 428 comments
It still surprises me that grown, professional adults working in offices need signs in the toilets telling them to wash their hands, and not to flush tobacco and sanitary products down the toilet. It surprises me that there is a sign in the kitchen telling people to wash up their own crockery when the dishwasher is running, and how many people ignore it. What surprises you?
leobeer@reddit
Why can’t you put tobacco in the toilet?
FunkyOperative@reddit
It surprises me that we have these signs and don't just deal with breakers of these rules simply. If crockery or things are left out unwashed in an office just put them in the bin for example.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
I guess the problem would be that you can't find out who the rule-breakers are in an office kitchen, it's not like there are cameras. Every now and then there will be an email circulated asking people to NOT steal other's food from the fridge, and I am reminded of Ross's sandwich.
FunkyOperative@reddit
My Sandwich? MY SANDWICH???
Agreeable-Dot-9598@reddit
That some people will book a holiday, get on a plane and have absolutely no idea where on the globe they are going. They just know it's sunny and that's enough for them.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
It does surprise me that people doesn't seem to research the country they are going to, and the cultural norms of that country.
Overheard a conversation with a woman who had just come back from Italy. She was all outraged that she had to buy an overpriced scarf when visiting the Sistine Chapel because she didn't know you can't have bare shoulders. She didn't think to check beforehand that there might be appropriate and inappropriate forms of dress for a religious building.
JournalistSilver810@reddit
None of them can answer the age old questions about where rogue socks and Tupperware lids go...
That's the flippant answer.
I think I'm consistently surprised how many people are blinded by consumerism. Keeping up with the Jones'.
They question nothing deeper!
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
According to the late great Sir Terry Pratchett, the Eater of Socks is responsible for missing foot apparel. Maybe it branched out into Tupperwear lids too.
JournalistSilver810@reddit
😂
Mesonychoteuthis@reddit
It genuinely amazes me the amount of people I've encountered who won't do anything on their own. Before I got pregnant one of my favourite things to do with a weekday off was head down to my local with a book and spend the early afternoon by myself reading over a pint or two and a bag of crisps. I'm wasn't usually the only person doing this either! I mentioned this at work once and people genuinely thought this was an absolutely bizarre thing to do, especially for a woman. One of my friends was also horrified that I like the occasional solo walk in the countryside. "But isn't that dangerous?! Don't you get bored without someone to talk to?" Part of the point of solo walks for me is to get a bit of alone time, just taking in nature without another person to distract me. Then again, she also thinks it's odd that my husband and I go and do our own thing sometimes instead of doing absolutely everything together.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Had a conversation with a concerned team leader in a previous role, who was worried about me because on my lunch break, I would eat my sandwiches in silence then and read my book for 40 minutes instead of socialising with other people in the team/area. I thanked him for him concern, and explained that since I was working on the phones at the time, that 40 minutes was the only time out of my entire day that I wasn't talking to someone. I wasn't trying to be rude, I was just trying to get some peace. No one would have minded if I took myself for a walk (where? It's an industrial estate), but sitting quietly with a book? Must be something wrong with me!
I also love reading in the pub by myself - I get that background buzz of people without actually having to talk to anyone. And one of my favourite things to do is visit a museum or gallery alone. I can take in the exhibits at my own pace without worrying that I am holding anyone else up, or getting bored because someone is interesting in something that's just not my cup of tea.
mellonicoley@reddit
Too many adults don’t know the difference between their card number and their bank account details. Too many times someone has sent me their card number when I’ve asked for their bank account number (to reimburse their expenses). My sister complains often about adults not knowing the difference between a debit card payment and a direct debit too (she works in customer support). It’s not like any of these things are new.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
My work involves sending money to people's bank accounts. We had to redesign our forms to have the sort code section as six individual boxes and the account number section as eight individual boxes exactly to stop this happening. Even then, people will put their card number in the "Roll Number" section.
lilbunnygal@reddit
As someone who works in customer service, I am surprised (and alarmed) that we need to have signs informing people that the staff are not there to be verbally abused - whatever wording the company in question needs to use.
I work in a prominient front line sales position in central London with such a sign and we have multiple customers each day who walk in, see the sign and say "you dont need that, do you?" and we have to say "yes, we do" - and then they are shocked by it too.
RosieEmily@reddit
I work in a primary school and got verbally abused over the phone today by a mother who was pissed off because we had been trying to reach her all morning because of her 5 year old child's unexplained absence. Like I'm sorry that your kids safeguarding is my job but please don't swear at me down the phone because I'm concerned about their safety.
lilbunnygal@reddit
I hope you warned her once the swearing started. If anyone was to swear at us over the phone we are within our rights to warn them. If they continue we advise them that if they continue the call will be terminated. third strike - "i will now be terminating the call. please call us back when you are ready to speak calmly."
RosieEmily@reddit
She didn't swear but was very verbal about the fact we were trying to contact her and annoyed that her child was only off one day so what was our problem?! It's literally my job to account for every child. I was half way through explaining the safeguarding steps we go though but she hung up the phone lol
DoubleXFemale@reddit
Didn’t realise it was a safeguarding thing, I got one of those calls once and was mortified!
Turned out the form you fill out on the school website had loaded a captcha after I’d pressed “send” and I hadn’t noticed in my half-asleep state.
RosieEmily@reddit
It is literally first priority for my job. Account for every child. We have plenty of CHIN and split custody kids that we need to know where they are
pip_goes_pop@reddit
Do those signs work? I always assumed that the type of arsehole who would shout at somebody in customer service is the same sort of arsehole who would ignore such a sign.
Various-Storage-31@reddit
A bit like "no timewasters" on a market place ad
SerendipitousCrow@reddit
More than once I've been screamed at while gazing at the "no tolerance for abuse" sign
lilbunnygal@reddit
They work to an extent imo.
The only thing the sign can't stop is passive aggressiveness.
DoubleXFemale@reddit
I think these are more common after COVID, when interactions between staff enforcing restrictions and customers who didn’t like to be told no became much more adversarial.
Darthblaker7474@reddit
I think they bought them in around Covid because of people’s lower threshold for anger.
On the plus side, I’ve started taking less shit from the public too.
Shmiggles@reddit
Whenever I see one of those signs, I wonder whether it's there because that establishment has awful customers, or because it provides awful service.
(When it's the latter, it's still not okay to verbally abuse customer service staff - that means it's time look up ceoemail.com and hurl the abuse at the person who's actually responsible.)
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
And they're so common. Doctor's surgery, off licence, train station, bank...
If people don't get what they want, they result to verbal abuse like a teenager having a tantrum. I've seen it happen in the wild a couple of times and I'm always either impressed by the composer of the person on the receiving end, or wondering if I should step in to help.
lilbunnygal@reddit
Oh the composure boils down to "I don't get paid enough to deal with your potty mouth" or "wait until I tell the others about this".
Honestly - there are people out there who are the stories passed around customer service employees. Some people are personal horror stories that are shared widely!
So for anyone out there considered verbally abusing a customer service person....you might want to think twice about it if you don't want to be tomorrows convo over coffee. 😅
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Oh, the "don't get paid enough" is so read!
I think the closest I've come to losing it with a customer was when he was ranting down the phone at me about how long a process was taking and I replied: "We are experiencing a backlog right now, that is why I was emailing you on a SATURDAY." (I work in financial services and it's normally Monday - Friday only). He paused, and then said, "Yeah, I didn't think of that."
Abuse is FAR worse face-to-face, but honestly when done via phone or email, I think customers forget that there is a real human being on the other end of that call or email chain.
lilbunnygal@reddit
I'm lucky to have dealt only with verbal or passive aggressive customers. However I have heard stories from other colleagues who have had things thrown at them; nothing heavier than money (coins) or tickets tho.
I also know from another job (where I was supervisor) that we have had to forcibly eject a woman who tried to smack my duty manager over the head with a wine glass. Luckily security was able to intervene before she got to him.
lilbunnygal@reddit
Just also wanted to add that if you feel comfortable enough to step in...please do. We will probably love you for it. :)
Shitelark@reddit
People who call the bank and don't think they will be asked for a bank account number, or a card no., or online banking number.
WVA1999@reddit
"Hi it's me" Surely that should work?
FloydEGag@reddit
I think that’s part of main character syndrome, as if everyone should know who the person is. Mate, Taylor Swift could call HSBC and they’d ask for her sort code and account number.
aaron2933@reddit
How messy they can be
Me and my colleague are the youngest in our team where everyone else is over 30 and the state they'd leave our storage closet had us wondering what their houses must look like
FloydEGag@reddit
It genuinely amazes me that some people can get themselves up, dressed and into work all by themselves without leaving a trail of destruction. Not an age thing either ime, I’ve seen it in people of all ages. Although it seems to be most common in straight men who are married/partnered…maybe because the other half is doing all the heavy lifting keeping things clean and tidy
theocrats@reddit
On the toilet habits of professionals. I work in an office with engineers, data scientists, etc. You know, generally well-educated people.
The toilets always have piss on the floor, boogies wiped on the walls. Shit often everywhere.
I'm glad I'm mostly WFH. I can't deal with that shit.
FloydEGag@reddit
Oh god, this reminded me how years ago I went to the loo at work and there was a used sanitary towel just lying on the floor by the sinks (I put it in the bin using a LOT of loo roll). This was the UK HQ of a massive global company full of MBAs and accountants
dglcomputers@reddit
The fact that a zip up bag at work for clean mop heads that got zipped shut to try and stop cleaners putting dirty ones in there, ended up being unzipped and a soaking wet one put in. You tell them and they don't listen.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
I work behind the counter and I'm stunned to see that fellow people in their 40s don't know how to pay by card. The techniques that I see are baffling. I'm taking smartly dressed, professional looking people waving their card vaguely around the card reader like it's a Harry Potter wand. And when they do get it right, following clear instructions, they ask if it's done yet, when the screen reads "processing. Please wait".
I get that not everyone is that tech savvy, but we all get plenty of practice at it. I'll let pensioners off, but people my age? I don't think I can ever not find it amusing.
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
I get you'd find this annoying, but it's not us, it's the machines. Loads of different designs out there, tap on the screen, tap on top, tap on the side, tap on the symbol. Some take ages, others are instant, you don't know whether it's done or not because your card is over the screen.... whole thing is a minefield. I always feel for the person behind the counter who has to deal with the confusion constantly
themcsame@reddit
I mean, you're not wrong about different designs and wait times.
But I've never felt like I've come across a machine that wasn't glaringly obvious. I've come across different designs, sure. But it has always been the same 'Tap on the symbol, wait for either good or bad noise, read text, continue interaction based on the machine's response'
_HingleMcCringle@reddit
There are absolutely machines that aren't glaringly obvious. The ones with the readers on the side but show the contactless payment symbol on the display sometimes catch me out because they lead you to believe you're supposed to tap the top/display like a most other readers.
I've noticed parking machines also don't conform to a standard when it comes to contactless reader placement. Sometimes there's a single card payment unit tacked onto the front of the machine, sometimes it's just a little nub that could be anywhere around the display.
If you have to think about how this card reader might be different from the last one you used, then there's something wrong with the design.
themcsame@reddit
Note the "I've come across" part of my comment.
I'm sure there are some out there that aren't. I don't believe that changes anything about what I've said though. They will be the minority of machines. The vast majority, ime, are so obvious that no one with a somewhat capable mind should ever have a self-inflicted issue with them.
Tom22174@reddit
I'd never thought about the not knowing it's processing thing, that must be quite frustrating. Mobile payments give instant feedback that it's worked by vibrating which is really helpful
ElChupanibre56@reddit
"whole thing is a minefield" feels like a stretch
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
It's on the top. I tap it with my finger every time to indicate that it's there and tell them "it's on the top there" tap tap. And then I hold the machine out to show them the screen as it says that it's processing. I do understand your point, but in my gaff, there's no excuse.
TheGrebbler@reddit
I work behind the counter as well and I have noticed a correlation between what you describe and how well dressed prople are. My theory is middle class people get flustered easier for whatever reason.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
It's true and very odd. Every now and then, our Internet dips, so it declines and I tell the customer that. I say not to worry and try it again. Guaranteed they'll say "well I know there's enough money in that account" loudly so that everyone can hear. I have to carry on assuring them that it's our connection.
Physical-Cheesecake@reddit
I saw this recently. I was at a self checkout, and my card declined at the same time as the person's on the human checkout, because the whole contactless system went down. She was like, "I've got enough money! I've got the money! And I've got cash too! Omg has someone hacked my bank? They must have taken everything?!" Meanwhile all we had to do was insert our cards and try again 🥲
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
This is me and now I'm all flustered
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
Oh then yeah, then they're just idiots😅
LockingSwitch@reddit
The place to tap is always clearly marked, the process and if payment worked is clear on the screen.
This is definitely a you problem.
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
Without people like you to intervene when you see wrongdoing, this place would be anarchy
LockingSwitch@reddit
Indeed. We're needed when other adults can't work out simple day to day tasks, like paying by card.
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
Thank you for your service ❤️
LockingSwitch@reddit
You're welcome
Niccagediscomfort@reddit
Dude, I just looked at your comment history and it made me sad
LockingSwitch@reddit
Oh, well you shouldn't have looked then.
JavaRuby2000@reddit
Saw a guy getting off the Northern Line at Euston once. He was dressed in a massive purple wizard robe and pointy hat and he'd taken the chip out of his Oyster card and put it in the end of a black and white magicians wand so he could tap it on the exit barriers to walk through.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
What a stark raving legend. That's amazing
Agreeable_Fig_3713@reddit
Well no coz I’m 38 and this is me. Go to boots, Tescos, new look etc - card reader you tap on the screen, but in the nisa and the garage the tap bit is way up the top and the hairdressers is on the fucking side. And even though it says processing we’ve all seen it say complete on the self scan screen before it says it on the card machine. I hate paying by card.
Rocky-bar@reddit
I love paying with cash.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
You're welcome to pay with cash. Much less painful for all of us
InternationalRide5@reddit
As a former shop assistant I wish everyone would have paid by electronic card. No counting up at the end of the shift.
We didn't even take credit cards with an imprint machine at that time.
GeoAnchoa@reddit
Only on Reddit would you get downvoted for saying that. Some people really are sad.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Yeah, but people can just be mean and that's OK, I suppose. No harm done. For clarity, what I really meant was that cash is kind of brilliant because everyone knows how to use it. My phrasing probably made me come off like a smarty pants.
rocketscientology@reddit
i use apple pay and every so often it just won’t connect properly for some reason. it is MORTIFYING every time knowing that the person on the other side thinks i’m one of those mugs who doesn’t know how to use a payment machine as i stand there uselessly tapping my phone against the terminal.
LooselyBasedOnGod@reddit
I was one of those people on the bus the other day. New phone has Face ID and I couldn’t get it to recognise my face then put it under the screen to tap the contactless bit fast enough. 3 attempts it took me …. The shame
folklovermore_@reddit
The bus is the worst place for it to happen in my view, because you feel like you're holding other people up.
LooselyBasedOnGod@reddit
Haha yeah it was bad could feel my face starting to go red 😂
DeifniteProfessional@reddit
The Verifone machines Tesco put in over the past year or so absolutely suck at reading Apple/Google/Samsung Pay/Wallet. Usually takes three tries. Complete crap. And then it finally works and you realise you've not unlocked your phone so you have to try again. Good god it's a pain
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
No you're good.
pajamakitten@reddit
The ones in ASDA seem to hate my card for no reason. No issues anywhere else but ASDA machines just never register my card for no real reason.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Assuming that they're all the same, the self check out ones are odd. If you click pay by card on the screen and then hold your payment up to the machine straight away, it'll just sort of panic and decline. The trick is to let the card machine warm up a bit and then do it.
DeifniteProfessional@reddit
I'll try and remember the "warm up" trick next time I'm shopping. Getting real tired of the card machines staring at me with a vacant expression after I tap them
aaron2933@reddit
I used to find that people will tap their card and withdraw it immediately as if the longer you hold it on the reader, the more it charges you
DeifniteProfessional@reddit
That's how my mum does it, whacks it against the screen and then pulls away as fast as possible. But my favourite is when she squats to enter in the pin on chip & pin. Bloody priceless watching her line up her vision with it. Bless her
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Oh god yeah. I know the deal is to tap, but at least let it blooming register the connection a second.. That's a classic one.
JohnRCC@reddit
Also, sometimes when you tap your card it'll ask you to authenticate by inserting the card and entering the PIN, but often on the continent it prompts for the PIN but you don't have to insert the card!
Got me every time when I was on holiday this year. They must have thought I was a complete moron.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Possibly, but I feel like when you're in a foreign country, you're allowed to be a bit of a moron with mundane things. They must know that you're not from round here, so you'd like to think that they would cut you a bit of slack. I had the biggest faff of my life just trying to buy petrol in france this summer - cars backed up down the road and everything, but I was surprised that people were being nice and trying to help me because I felt like I was such an inconvenience.
Best way is to draw out a bit of cash! I didn't do that, but would have saved me a lot of bother at times!
DisneyBounder@reddit
This is why I prefer using the contactless on my phone. You only need to be vaguely near it for it to register most of the time.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
I'm sort of with you on that, but I've still seen people my age struggle relentlessly. Quite a lot of people seem to think that you have to activate the card and then turn your phone screen around so that the screen is sort of kissing up to the terminal. More often than not, they wind up pressing the lock key during the action and turn the screen off and then wonder why it didn't work. When it does work though - you're right - works like a charm.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
My local convenience shop has a card reader where you tap your card right at the top of the machine (not near the top like most others) and honestly every time my late-thirties self buys something there, I have to re-calibrate my brain a little bit. "Ah, yes, I have to tap it THERE, not THERE." I guess I don't go there enough to have become used to it yet, but I do sometimes wonder if the person behind the counter thinks I'm stupid,
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Not stupid no, just wait for the beep or the little lights to glow up. That's how you know you're doing it in the right bit. And it's not so much of a tap, it's more of a shortly sustained connection that's required. I didn't make the rules nor the technology!
Meet-me-behind-bins@reddit
Genuinely the total lack of interest in the world around them. I work with quite a few adults that have never read a book, don't listen to music, have never been to a museum or concert, don't know whats going on in the world of current events, don't know any basic geography, history, literature, art, anything.
They’ve never read a news paper, never watched the news, couldn't point to more than 5 countries on a globe. If they went to a pub quiz they'd literally be completely out of their depth.
They're not totally thick, they’ve just got zero general knowledge about anything at all, they’re not interested in the world at all.
They have a total and utter disinterest in anything outside of their job, family, pet, or postcode. Its surprising to me.
Wise-Application-144@reddit
Buddy of mine moved to the US and brought his American girlfriend to visit our small, picturesque Scottish town at Xmas, we met them both as soon as they arrived. For context, it was her first time outside the US and our hometown looks like Hogwarts and it was snowing - tourists usually go nuts for the place.
She creeped me out - she just looked straight ahead, didn't look up at the buildings or remark on her environment at all, didn't even look at it. We all went to the pub and she had no interest in the food or drink on offer, just asked my buddy to pick something.
She proceeded to talk about absolute niffnaff and trivia about her life back home, didn't ask any questions about us or life in Scotland. Didn't even ask our names. Just blabbered on about the roach problem in her condo.
It was one of few times in my life that I genuinely felt the chills. I've never seen a human so completely alienated from the world around them.
Mediocre_Sprinkles@reddit
My sister in law is like this. Whenever you meet up as a family she'll dominate the entire conversation talking about absolute drivel about work or her house or her family back home. Honestly you can't get a word in.
Doesn't appreciate anything around her. She went to Japan a few months back and she could only complain about the food. Ask her anything cultural and she hasn't the foggiest. No idea what the Mona Lisa is.
If it isn't directly in her little personal sphere it doesn't exist to her.
BicycleNinjaFrog@reddit
IM SORRY WHAT!!! COMPLAIN ABOUT SOME OF THE BEST FOOD IN THE ENTIRE WORLD!?!!
exhausted-pangolin@reddit
Tbf if you don't like fish or egg Japan is a truly, truly terrible place to visit. She might not have appreciated it beforehand and come away with the largest impression of how miserable every day was, trying to think of literally anything to eat that wasn't a packet of crisps from a shop
Ur_favourite_psycho@reddit
My mum is the same. She lives far away from us, but still in the same country. When she comes to visit she only wants to go shopping, despite the shops being the exact same as the ones she has in her home town. She doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere else. And she always dominates the conversation, just listening to her is exhausting!
simplelivingpls@reddit
God you’ve described my parents too hahaha it’s soooo exhausting sometimes
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
America is where main characters are born. My guess would be she grew up watching Friends, Sex and the City and latterly Desperate Housewives (ugh, painful to even type it) etc. and thus accustomed to non-stop inane nattering about personal problems to the ignorance of everything else around them. What’s scary is people like that make David Icke’s “archon world” theory make sense…
CaptainBland@reddit
That feeling when you've been to the boomer pub quiz and all the questions are celeb gossip from the 70s.
PowerApp101@reddit
I love the questions like "Who was Bruce's assistant on The Generation Game before Isla St. Clair?". Blank looks from anyone under 50.
CaptainBland@reddit
That's me, that's my blank look.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Never had this at a pub quiz, but did once play a vintage game of trivial pursuit that totally stumped me. Especially when the geography questions referred to countries that don't exist anymore.
folklovermore_@reddit
My parents have a Trivial Pursuit game that's from some time in the 80s. All the popular culture questions are absolutely beyond me.
PetersMapProject@reddit
I had that one Christmas. Found an 80s Trivial Pursuit, we were born in the 90s.
It had questions about who represented GB in the 1976 Olympics in 3 day eventing. We were a bit stumped. Turned out the answer was Princess Anne.
Questions about ballerinas from the USSR also featured...
E420CDI@reddit
She had a Reliant Scimitar, you know?
Banana-sandwich@reddit
My in laws do this every year. I once bought them an up to date version. Don't think they have even opened it. I fantasise about breaking in, stealing the old version or at least replacing all the cards with the new ones then winning. One year I will do it.
pencilrain99@reddit
I'm the opposite(gen x) the amount of Countries that appeared after the collapse of the USSR was over whelming.
Then Yugoslavia splitting up made things even harder
In a short space of time we had all these new countries appearing.
JT_3K@reddit
The one thing I note here is the self-protective element. I can talk about the history of the last 100 years, enjoy some art and did fairly well on tonight’s Only Connect.
On the other hand I became less interested in music from around 2005+, have run out of puff for reading (despite having a pile of books on my to-read pile) as life leaves me exhausted, have always been shit at geography and moreover, actively avoid the news as I find it crushing. The last point I feel particularly bad about as I try actively hard not to understand the base conflicts going on in some parts of the world - my mental health just can’t take any more hits.
Realistic-Analyst-23@reddit
I feel the same about the news. There would always be at least one story every day that would absolutely crush me and I wouldn't stop thinking about. I've stopped watching or reading the news. Every now and then I dip back in then quickly nope out again.
toroferney@reddit
On the only connect point, was it easy last night- well easier? Husband and I were on amazing form compared to other episodes!
JT_3K@reddit
Must have been. I came out with about 25pts overall. Normally I’m happy if I get a question
Ok-Train5382@reddit
I just don’t understand people who read the news and get genuinely affected by it. Like a war in Ukraine sucks but it’s not going to keep me up at night.
SeoulGalmegi@reddit
You're getting downvoted, but I agree.
If people didn't read that story, would that have gone to bed thinking everything was absolutely fine in the world?
As for the geopolitical implications..... I have absolutely no control on what's going on. My worrying or being overly emotionally affected by it will do no good at all. And nor will they're worrying about it, either.
It's hypocritical to pretend it's causing you so much distress and then, still, do nothing and get on with your life.
SpiritedVoice2@reddit
It's not hypocritical at all, as you say you have absolutely no control over what's going on - there is nothing to do so you just have to get on with life.
Personally I'd just rather not read it in detail, because it's endless and I'm old and feel like I have seen it all before. I don't just feel like this about war, run of the mill UK politics is an incredibly soul destroying read too, would rather point my brain towards something else.
SeoulGalmegi@reddit
I don't think your position is hypocritical at all.
JT_3K@reddit
Ukraine is an issue in a geopolitical sense, with risk of spilling out in both minor (food/fuel costs) or potentially major (wider war) sense. Knowing I’d end up being involved if it did is a worry atop the knowledge of the direct suffering.
See also Iran and their nuclear weapons.
Ok-Train5382@reddit
The probability of it leading to WW3 that you will be drafted into, is pretty fucking small.
You’re at more risk of getting hit by a car every time you walk out the door.
funkmachine7@reddit
Ukraine Was the beating industry and technological heart an soul of the USSR.
Abandoned despite the Budapest Memorandum, left alone with out choice they will build a bomb.
They have all ther tools and all they lack right now is driver to build it.
And a war for survival that driver.
Fluffy_Juggernaut_@reddit
"Why would anyone care about other people?"
Ok-Train5382@reddit
Enough for it to be so emotionally draining that you can’t even watch the news? Yeah that’s normal
JT_3K@reddit
I’ve done enough high level IT security to be a little tin foil hat on such things. Whether it’s a war, or a “war”, it doesn’t matter, I’d get pulled in.
Ok-Train5382@reddit
You must be riddled with anxiety
SpiritedVoice2@reddit
Agree on the news, I scan the headlines and could probably tell you the top 10 stories of any given week. But I'd rather not think about it and less so discuss it, especially at work.
I think that's ok and I wouldn't feel bad about it, I've been reading about war, humanitarian crises, economic and environmental disasters for 40 odd years.
I have fully formed political views and a moral compass, reading the news in detail is not going to change that.
If anything I try and spend my "news" time reading more opinions now, trying to understand different points of view more.
Throwaway91847817@reddit
Cannon fodder
A900909@reddit
My sister is like this. She told me when we were teenagers she 'didnt like music'. No music at all, just does nothing for her. Doesn't like culture or art, won't read books or listen to the radio, just scrolls on Instagram or tiktok or Facebook. I played Cuban guitar music for her toddlers and they were mesmerised
Kim_catiko@reddit
How does someone like your sister attract someone to breed with? What common interests did they share?
A900909@reddit
He's also mind meltingly boring, we call him man.jpeg. I've come to respect their satisfaction with a small boring life, they don't share interests other than. Idk having kids and a house and a life. It's enough for them, I often wish that was enough for me too!
phatboi23@reddit
fuckin' brutal. not even a PNG
Ur_favourite_psycho@reddit
What's a PNG?
InternationalRide5@reddit
man.jpeg with a transparent layer.
A900909@reddit
Man.jpeg who's been to therapy
astromech_dj@reddit
You should call him Jif.
mr-seamus@reddit
man.jpeg is genuinely hilarious. Take a bow.
Justboy__@reddit
Man.jpeg 😂
astromech_dj@reddit
There’s something not right with people that “don’t like music”. It’s such a primal feeling to be moved by rhythm. Someone without it has to be broken.
PrinceFan72@reddit
A friend of a friend is a bit like this. Chatting in the pub, in a group of about 4 blokes. Music is a big topic, he said, "I can't think of a single piece of music that evokes any kind of memory or feeling in me. None". We were really baffled.
Later we briefly discussed my new single life (middle aged in the midst of my 2nd divorce). He lights up asking about dating apps and if any overweight middle aged men would get any matches. The more he spoke, the more our jaws dropped. This guy clearly has done a lot of thinking about that, he's married with kids, and would never act on it but wow. But yeah, no music resonance at all. :-D
Kat8844@reddit
I know this will probably sound weird too but I just don’t understand how someone cannot like music whatsoever, granted I’m a musician and probably more passionate about it than your average person but everyone enjoys music at some level surely?!.
FloydEGag@reddit
What did she do before social media?
A900909@reddit
She used to play video games with me sometimes but not really, do gymnastics, I can't remember much else. Studying? Drinking? Lol. Never really had hobbies or got particularly into anything.
AfterBurner9911@reddit
[Hears a music] "What is that horrid racket?"
senorjigglez@reddit
These people are scary, because they're empty vessels that extremists and populists can easily fill with all sorts of shite.
tokavanga@reddit
All people can be filled with all sorts of shite. And extremists also need people with high agency to do things for them.
penguin17077@reddit
Often these people just have other interests
shanelomax@reddit
FOOTY
STELLA
LOVE ISLAND
BISH BASH BOSH
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
And there's nothing wrong with that. We're just different.
Competitive_Alps_514@reddit
Actually possibility not as they aren't interested.
senorjigglez@reddit
People are always interested in something. "Save our children" is a particularly effective rabble rouser.
Random_Nobody1991@reddit
I wouldn’t use that as a foolproof metric. I’ve definitely moved over to the populist right in the last year or so (variety of reasons from the modern left being insufferable to centre right options being crap) and I’m well traveled, very into history, follow the news regularly, have a diverse group of friends and colleagues who I like and all the rest of it.
What I would agree with is that ignorance combined with a variety of factors can produce some nasty ideas and movements.
bowak@reddit
I'm amazed that you've moved to the populist right if insufferable people put you off. Talk about out of the frying pan into the fire!
OddTransportation430@reddit
Quite possibly but extremists have to be aware of the world on at least some level. Most of these sort of people don't care about anything unless it affects them or their family in a very tangible direct way.
Jestar342@reddit
Which is what the populists latch onto - that ignorance of everything outside of their bubble.
"Those funny looking people you know nothing about are threatening everything that you do know about in your tiny little bubble" is populism 101.
jshcfc@reddit
This is commonly known as an NPC. I'm pretty sure they are put in a store cupboard overnight and plugged into the mains
onionsofwar@reddit
I'm not someone that really believes in there being any kind of 'meaning of life' or some grand purpose, but surely this is a bit of a waste of an existence.
aaron2933@reddit
I've met a few that don't listen to music 'just not my thing' they claim
Like how? They seem completely normal too. I'm not judging but I can't fathom the fact that there's people roaming around that don't listen to music
Lana_bb@reddit
My mum doesn’t listen to music at all. She’s autistic and has misophonia.
GreenGloves-12@reddit
My new partner likes music (as do I) but has told me that his family don't listen to music. I can't get my head around that at all.
iridescent_extra@reddit
I find it hard to comprehend that that's even possible. Are they like, farmers in a teensy little village that doesn't get affected by the world at all or something? That feels like the description of a medieval peasant
sugarsponge@reddit
I know adults like this who live in big cities. Their lives revolve around their families and friends from school. They've just never socially (and maybe intellectually) moved on from being a teenager. Just no curiosity for life at all (and their parents are likely the same).
BB-Zwei@reddit
In my experience, teenagers tend to be very curious about the world.
sugarsponge@reddit
Yes, but socially they tend to be quite cliquey and/or shy with strangers and new situations
daddywookie@reddit
When I see the stats about people without an internal monologue I think about these kinds of null humans. Is it the voice inside my head that is always asking questions and making observations that drives me to always be learning? What would it be like to be able to sit in perfect, vacuous silence?
TheGreatBatsby@reddit
I don't have a voice inside my head asking questions and making observations, I just ask questions and make observations - am I a "null human"?
Thoughts appear in my head as things happen, if someone says something to me and it doesn't contain the information I need, my brain doesn't go, "Hey! u/TheGreatBatsby! She didn't mention what time this event was starting! You'd better ask her!" I realise that I don't have key information and I just ask for it.
daddywookie@reddit
Go back to the start of the thread. Does that describe you? Do you have interests, hobbies, go to museums, read books, challenge what you see and hear? If you do then you are not the topic of this conversation.
TheGreatBatsby@reddit
This is what you said. Don't try and deflect, nobody was talking about an internal monologue before you brought it up.
daddywookie@reddit
The conversation was about people who don’t seem to have any interest in the world. This sparked a similar train of thought in me around studies on people without internal monologues. I suspect they might be linked so raised it as a potentially interesting point.
Null is a term for where a variable exists but has not been assigned a value. This felt like a good description of people who have a brain but choose not to fill it, or otherwise don’t feel the need to fill it.
iridescent_extra@reddit
Probably peaceful. Calling people null humans is dangerous territory and an internal monologue is hardly indicative of intelligence or a "soul", so to say
daddywookie@reddit
Maybe null is too specific to how I use the word, to mean an empty variable. Perhaps neutral or numb might be better. I'm certainly envious of the calm you must feel with a quiet mind.
CoconutSignificant1@reddit
Just because we don't have an internal monologue doesn't mean that it's peaceful and there are no thoughts? It's a different way of thinking, mine is picture/feelings based but I still have the same intelligence and curiosity most people, including worries/stressors/anxiety. My method is different but results are the same, it may even feel worse in some cases as the moments are visually and emotionally repeated, rather than just in words
daddywookie@reddit
Isn’t that an internal thought process though? I think the study I saw referenced said some people had no concept of abstract thought. I’ve been churning a physical puzzle in my head for several days, no words involved at all. It had me awake at 4am.
The thought of not always having something going around, either song lyrics or how to travel somewhere or what I should have said to that person 20 years ago, is totally alien to me.
iridescent_extra@reddit
You can be frustrated at their neutrality and apathy and you can wish they cared enough to change a shitty situation. You can actively dislike them for it. As long as you don't stop thinking of people as people. Idk, this elitist, better-than-thou vibe I'm getting, I'm not here for it. I can't help but read it as a roundabout way of calling people stupid and thinking yourself superior.
If you haven't read it already, you might benefit from a read of Flowers for Algernon. Great depiction of a "quiet mind".
daddywookie@reddit
I’ve read the book, one of my favourites that I recommend frequently. You are generating malice to my comments which is not intended, almost to the point of being overly offended by something which you are creating yourself. I originally responded to a comment about people with no curiosity, which I find both fascinating but also consider dangerous in a complex and interconnected world. We cannot afford to just accept what we are told, as we are told many things detrimental to our health and security by those that would harm us all.
AfterBurner9911@reddit
Null is better than 'undefined', at least your code will still run if you declared the var.
AfterBurner9911@reddit
Not even sure why the original commenter said 'null humans', when there are so many adequate German words which I know for some reason...
FloydEGag@reddit
So what do they talk and think about? I genuinely can’t imagine being like this.
gizmostrumpet@reddit
TikTok, Instagram, TV, the football usually.
Not saying you can't be intelligent/ engaged with the world if you're into those things, but they're the pretty baseline things.
BadgerBadgerer@reddit
Most people are like this. They find mundane office gossip and the minutiae of life endlessly entertaining. I think they really enjoy discussing the boring nonsense that everyone shares in life because it's something everyone has in common and can relate to. But they find anything outside of their own lived experience impossible to relate to, understand, or comment on, so they just don't bother.
I've sat in groups of people where one person has come back from an interesting adventure, or has some unique life experience, but everyone else is only interested in talking about how Harold in HR requested the B45 form instead of the C46 form and how he always gets those mixed up. Harold eh? What a card!
Illustrious-End-5084@reddit
I don’t know of any world news . Don’t watch tv. Don’t read newspapers . Have no clue on current events . Also just work, read and meditate look after my family . Am I thick?
widdrjb@reddit
I drive trucks for a living, and there's a lot of waiting around. I always find it sad and a bit disturbing when I see another driver just staring out of the window.
PowerApp101@reddit
There was an interesting interview with Frank Cottrell-Boyce, the new Children's Laureate (and screenwriter of 24 Hour Party People!) on Mark Steel's podcast. He has worked with a lot of disadvantaged children and he said some of them regard books as alien objects. Like they don't know how to hold them, or turn pages properly. Never mind how to read them. They live in houses where the idea of having a book shelf would be as odd as having a llama in living room.
There is also a surprisingly high amount of people with poor literacy skills in the UK, 16.4% of adults, or 7.1 million people according to the National Literacy Trust. Essentially functionally illiterate.
HalfBlindAndCurious@reddit
I grew up in one of those disadvantaged Communities and I remember being ridiculed for my interest in history and geography etc. Glad I moved out of that years ago but I never actually purposefully read a book until I was about 31. Nearly a decade on and I'm a voracious reader particularly about British maritime history, contemporary European history and political thought and the history of philosophy. I admit fiction doesn't interest me but nor does anything on TV outside of rugby, strongman or pro wrestling but my Audible library is a gold mine. As far as I know my family still have absolutely no interest and the intellectual world and would actively view it with suspicion and even ridicule.
I went to a boarding school for the blind throughout the week and only came home at the weekend.I reckon that gave me the cultural space to stretch my intellectual legs but it took me two or three years of being there in order to not instigate the ridicule of the smart kids, perpetuating the cycle. It isn't just that it was Alien but that some people in those environments are actively hostile.
Nok1a_@reddit
I think I've meet most of them
Bugsandgrubs@reddit
People like this who are proud of it and make it their personality are the worst. The type who have never left their hometown, or won't try anything 'fancy' like 'pasta' (Genuinely heard a woman say that)
byjimini@reddit
It’s not the not-knowing that scares me, but their willingness to then have an opinion on everything.
I_ALWAYS_UPVOTE_CATS@reddit
I have a colleague like this. She's not stupid or a bad person, she just isn't bothered. It does baffle me, but then again she's bought her own house at 22 round the corner from her mum's, and in all likelihood she'll live there forever and that's enough for her. I sometimes wonder if it actually makes you happier to have basically zero ambition.
CheesyGarlicBudapest@reddit
The person I sit next to at work, who is one of my best friends outside of work, has only ever read one book in his life and that was part of an English class in secondary school (Wuthering Heights). Which he said he enjoyed!
I found this baffling. I'm an avid reader and was stunned to come to the realization that a lot of adults just don't like reading books.
IndelibleIguana@reddit
My kids mum is like this. She has two interests. Watching TV and shopping.
---x__x---@reddit
Hey that's not true, they'd absolutely nail the questions about Eastenders.
popshares@reddit
I set questions for the local pub quiz. It's a nightmare trying to get the balance right. Some teams keep scoring full points while others are hitting zeros, and then they complain it's too hard. Nope, you're just thick.
PowerApp101@reddit
Yeah I work with Americans too
Dull-Perspective-90@reddit
Why should people care about things that don't affect them?
BadgerBadgerer@reddit
Living up to your username, I see.
BushidoX0@reddit
My mate Deano wouldn't like this
LauraHday@reddit
I grew up around adults like this and it absolutely blew my mind when I went to university and discovered most people weren’t.
Ouakha@reddit
What do they do? I mean, you got to make effort to be that uninvolved.
TapAcceptable3380@reddit
Yes, I've worked in offices all my life, mostly government, & you'd think that kind of work would bring some sort of level of broader thinking - not a bit of it. Also, most of them can't even adopt the social niceties, that being in a social group represents?!
Isgortio@reddit
I personally avoid the news because it made me dislike humanity for a while, it was always stories about horrible people.
MrPipUK@reddit
NPC’s, they’ll get upgraded soon with chapGPT /AI
unfurlingjasminetea@reddit
They’re just filler in the matrix
BicycleNinjaFrog@reddit
That some adults still genuinely have tantrums in a work context or yell at and belittle other people or even people who are such whingers about like trying a slightly different process if it helps the rest of the team. I find it so hard not to yell GROW UP back at them. Like cmon none of us want to be here but capitalism is what it is so just don't make it miserable for everyone else.
SilentObserver42@reddit
How short tempered people can be. Some people can see red from the most trivial inconvenience.
pinkthreadedwrist@reddit
This is usually because they have some kind of trauma so they are always on high alert and ready to snap.
MrPipUK@reddit
can kinda be built up though, like i’ve lost my shit over some stupid stuff at work, but only cos my life at home was a fucking mess with young kids 😂
hellsangel101@reddit
I lost my shit over a spilt coffee (or so it looked like to some people). In reality it was lack of sleep and that was the THIRD COFFEE I had dropped/spilt that morning.
Future-Atmosphere-40@reddit
Lost my shit this morning with the dog.
I have the rona.
MrPipUK@reddit
at least to humans we can explain why we flipped. That dogs just gonna have to put it down to random as fuck blip in its reality 😂
Future-Atmosphere-40@reddit
Moron human at it again
phatboi23@reddit
i once was running on fuck all sleep and dropped a full English i made...
i was absolutely fucking livid fro the rest of the day.
MrPipUK@reddit
exactly !
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
I was on my period once and my best friend ever showed up at my house an hour before she was meant to be there, meaning she would already be there when I got home from work. Dude the way I SHOUTED at my bf over the phone when he told me she was there.
WHY DOES SHE DO THIS. WHY DOES SHE THINK HER TIME IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MINE. SHE IS ALWAYS FUCKING LATE AND THE ONE FUCKING TIME I NEED AN HOUR, SHE IS HERE.
He asked if he should tell her to leave and I was like NO ITS FINE LEAVE ME ALONE
and then after that I felt so much better and I apologised to everyone involved lol. That was the only time I've ever lost my shit on him and it wasn't even anything to do with him. Poor guy! He even said afterwards he nearly told me to calm down but he didn't LOL
folklovermore_@reddit
For me it's not so much that I'll lose my rag but that I'll burst into tears over an apparently tiny thing. When it's not the tiny thing that's the problem but the tiny thing on top of a whole bunch of other stuff, like work stress or money worries or family members' health or whatever. And then you feel embarrassed because you have to explain you're not actually upset that you dropped your drink, you're upset because there's so much else going on and dropping the drink is the straw that breaks the camel's back.
WeDoingThisAgainRWe@reddit
typically though there's a lot more going on in the background with those people. I know someone who was leaving the club bar, chairman comes in, does a stupid harmless practical joke that happens all the time. My friend punches him out (he was leaving because he'd just been told his wife had a miscarriage just then).
laser_spanner@reddit
People who ask Reddit for medical advice. Just go to the hospital/phone your GP/call 111/ask a pharmacist.
Winter-Bear9987@reddit
I called 111 last night and it took over 7 hours for them to give me a response (telling me to go to A&E) 💀
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
I once called an ambulance for a 75 year old schizophrenic lady who had taken every tablet in her blister pack for the entire week. I called an ambulance and stayed with her, as I was a carer. I sat waiting until 10 pm when I wasnt allowed to stay anymore and left my number for the ambulance workers. I came back the next morning without any calls from them and the lady was still in her chair. Nobody had been. Looking back, she might have just thrown all the tablets away. If she hadn't, she'd be dead now. And the worst part is, nobody would have cared.
pinkthreadedwrist@reddit
You can take an alarming amount of pills and survive. Did she ever see a doctor?
A900909@reddit
7 hours ! They must have liked you, that's good
cmcbride6@reddit
The level of health literacy of the average person is shocking.
On a related note, I'm often quite surprised at people who literally have no clue what medical conditions they have or what medications they're taking. There's often external factors going on, but occasionally, people just have zero interest in what's happening in their own body.
docmagoo2@reddit
And the complete lack of self care and taking responsibility for their own health. Oh you’ve had a sore throat for a day? Have you taken any paracetamol or ibuprofen? No. Of course you haven’t. Yet you’ll ring me and demand antibiotics. Feel like throttling these people
cmcbride6@reddit
Or people who are unable to comprehend that a simple viral URTI doesn't need medical attention
FloydEGag@reddit
I used to have someone in my team who, every time they got a cold, would say they were going to the doctor to get antibiotics. Every single time, I’d tell them not to bother because antibiotics won’t work on a cold. And they’d always reply with some variation on ‘but you’re not a doctor’. No I’m not a doctor, but you know what else I’m not? An idiot!!!
JohnRCC@reddit
People who ask Reddit for any sort of specific, customer-service type advice.
"Hi Reddit, there are some unfamiliar transactions on my bank account, what can I do to fix it?"
I don't know, try talking to your bank???
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
A relatively niche example is the Sims. "Hi I have 750 mods for the Sims 4 and one of them is causing this bug, which one is it?" Er, how the fuck would we know?
77Zaxxonsynergy77@reddit
It's worth noting that a lot of those posts are from Americans who often have to pay a copay fee just to see their gp, let alone the copays for treatment. If they have health insurance at all...
jaynoj@reddit
Freedom is expensive.
super-cuppa-tea54@reddit
My next door neighbour is very ignorant on so many subjects. She likes things like chanting, manifesting her wishes and her daughter and family. She has literally done nothing, been nowhere or has any interest in the world outside of her life. She is a kind person and would help you but she really is an empty vessel. I’m am 70 and she is 55, I have lived a full and interesting life, she has lived in the same area for 40 of those years. Just mind blowing.
neilmack_the@reddit
Not washing hands after the toilet, still testing for covid, and how poorly a lot drive.
SCATOL92@reddit
As a former chef, I can say that most people who haven't worked in kitchens do not have spacial awareness. It's like some people are intentionally trying to just always be in the way. Others seem unsure of how they can move their body. It's just bizarre
GroupCurious5679@reddit
Totally agree with this, it's everywhere too. Shops, town centres,roads. Most people are completely unaware of their surroundings. The amount of people pulling out of junctions without a care in the world is astounding
jaimefay@reddit
I'm a wheelchair user and these people are a sodding nuisance. I cannot move sideways in response to your idiotic decision to come to an abrupt halt in the middle of the path, Janice!
Apple22Over7@reddit
My mum is like this and it's infuriating walking anywhere with her. I feel like in constantly having to pull her out of someone's way, or guide her so she's not standing in a doorway or blocking other people.
Agreeable-Dot-9598@reddit
Ha ha, are you me?
FloydEGag@reddit
It absolutely amazes me how a fairly slim person can somehow take up the whole width of the pavement and you can’t get past them
gizmostrumpet@reddit
People who step off the escalator and then just stop, blocking it.
jonathanquirk@reddit
It’s the people who stop in doorways to matter to their friends who bewilder me. “Oh, am I in the way?! You should have said!” You’re blocking the only exit from work with your overly ample behind while a long queue of people stand right in front of you, what did you bloody think was going on?!
AutisticCorvid@reddit
Part of being autistic for me is that my proprioceptive and vestibular senses (sense of where I am in space compared to other things/people, and balance, essentially) are...not great (I swear door frames jump out at me!).
But, because of this, I spend a LOT of time making sure I'm not in the way when I'm out and about. It absolutely amazes me e.g. how many parents up at my kid's primary school just obliviously stand totally blocking the path at pick up time every single day. They don't seem to be at all aware of other people around them, and the fact other people might not want to traipse through the mud to get to the school gate.
pajamakitten@reddit
Not a chef but I work in a busy, small hospital lab and it can be the same with us. People with no spatial awareness get bulldozed because everyone is running around them, so they learn quickly. This actually translates to the kitchen for me because I love to cook and will have several pans on the go at once.
SoggyAd5044@reddit
Umm I'm not really sure what the kitchen correlation is. People are just rude and inconsiderate in general lol. I think I have very normal, considerate spacial awareness but I'm absolutely infuriated on a daily basis by people just BEING IN THE WAY and REFUSING TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. Entitlement springs to mind!
SCATOL92@reddit
People ho are in the way just don't really survive in kitchen environments. There's lots of moving parts and things that can hurt you and very little room to move. You develop a keen sense of "move your arse" very quickly lol . The worst ones for entitlement are people who park their trolleys across an aisle in the supermarket and have a chat while blocking the whole aisle! Infuriating
Suspicious_Worry3617@reddit
Bars too, sometimes it's like an extra sense and a perfectly executed dance. Other times it's breakages
SCATOL92@reddit
Those moments during the rush when you're working with someone amazing and everything just flows are the only thing I miss about bar work!
Electricbell20@reddit
They can't read a prompt and work out an answer.
I'm the unofficial IT guy and most things people come to be with are medium to difficult. They aren't easy to work out or they did something really wrong and trying to fix it..
Then there's quite a few who don't seem to be able to read a prompt and answer it. This isn't picking the wrong answer, they read it and simply don't know which one to pick or action what it is saying.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Goodness, the inability to follow basic instructions! People will read the first line of an email asking for, say, three things. They'll send just the first thing. Then I have to reply back with "Thank you for sending that, can you send the rest of it please?" "As per my previous email" is in daily usage for me.
Throwaway91847817@reddit
Currently sat in my office’s kitchen area. Big sign on the wall saying “please could staff remember that they are responsible for washing/drying and putting away their own cups/cutlery”.
Right in front of the sign is the sink with several cups, spoons etc sat in it, many unwashed. Some cups washed and placed upside down on the dryingboard next to the sink.
People are idiots and evidently cannot read.
EllieEllie25@reddit
User is presented a message saying 'you cannot save until you enter a date in this field', with the error message appearing directly over the field.
They then freak out because they can't save the record, saying they're prevented from doing their job, the system has a "bug", escalate it, and when it finally comes across to me I have to politely point out that the answer is right in front of their face.
I get sometimes system errors are nonsense, and systems can be built with shocking UX, but when it's actually something well designed and people are just lazy I despair.
FulaniLovinCriminal@reddit
At least your lot read it. Mine just click "OK" and then sit there not knowing what they've done. "It's just not working."
So I sit with them, and watch. They get an error saying "you don't have permission to do that. Ask your admin to set you up x permission if you need to do this." but they just click OK immediately, and then sit there. "I told you, it's not working."
FUCKING READ IT.
DeifniteProfessional@reddit
Working as the official IT guy, I concur. People will not read if they can help it
ekinpro@reddit
They call IT with an issue
You tell them you are going to remote onto their computer
"It says XY is asking for permission to control your computer, do I allow?"
WHAT DO YOU THINK TRACEY????
VardaElentari86@reddit
Had they tried turning it off and on again?
Seriously, people think I'm an IT genius for this.
DarthKrataa@reddit
Bulling....
It shouldn't but I don't understand how grown adults can act like crewl children. Most folks just wanna go about their day hassle free, why others chose to bully baffles me.
LifeYogurtcloset9326@reddit
My grandma got bullied out of her church. Can’t understand it on multiple levels.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
How do you get bullied out of a church? Whatever happened to love thy neighbour?
DoubleXFemale@reddit
My late grandmother had a long-standing feud with the vicar’s wife, not entirely sure why.
May have been my gran calling on Rev. G a lot, or the fact they were both drinkers and he’d come home smelling of whiskey…
LifeYogurtcloset9326@reddit
Just old women who spent their life being bitches and never changed I guess. The hypocrisy is unreal though!
Unable-Rip-1274@reddit
I dealt with this at my job recently. I hardly ever see this person as they work different days to me, but they started throwing away my belongings, doing weird things and trying to frame me for them, and posting bitchy instagram stories which were thinly veiled references to me. Some people just love and thrive on petty drama and gossip and need to have it in their lives, and will seek it out even where it doesn’t exist.
TheToolman04@reddit
I learned very quickly many years ago not to befriend colleagues on social media. Sometimes it's just not worth it.
Unable-Rip-1274@reddit
I agree, I only add people I would willingly see outside of work (I think maybe I’ve got three people from previous jobs added!) The reason I saw these posts was other people sent them to me, because they could tell they were about me. Just a ridiculous situation all round.
TheToolman04@reddit
Ooof drama!! Lol
wildOldcheesecake@reddit
My only true experience of bullying was from the middle aged women who I worked with in retail. They also birches about each other.
Ruu2D2@reddit
Worked with girl who refuse to talk to me and one of other disabled memeber of team
We ask her work question and she be like 0-0
Trouble was she was bestie with manager . We report her dozen time . Got told she doesn't mean to do it
marbmusiclove@reddit
Yep been on the receiving end of this one :( awful
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
This I wholeheartedly agree with. I was bullied in my first out-of-university job for seven years. My retail manager had me convinced that I was so bad at my job that no one else would hire me if I quit. I scored 100% in mystery shopper tests.
When I complained to HR, they didn't believe me.
thewearisomeMachine@reddit
Being a bull and being a bully are markedly different activities
DarthKrataa@reddit
Yeah lol
Agreeable-Dot-9598@reddit
I'm always intrigued by some small minded plain looking average men who seem to think they are absolute catnip to any gay males. The female population ain't fightin over ye, why would gay men be!!!!
RiotSloth@reddit
Talking about people my age (50s); how incredibly unfit so many are. My friends and associates are pretty much in two groups; those who look after themselves a little and are quite healthy, and those who have just let themselves go. So many of my friends are physical wrecks in their fifties. I shudder to think what they are going to be like come retirement age.
They can't go up a flight of stairs without puffing and sweating; can't carry something more than a few feet, won't walk further than thirty feet over to their cars.
Genuinely surprised at how seemingly uncaring they are about their own health.
Extension-Base4600@reddit
Some fellow adults still don't understand how A&E works. I get that the NHS is struggling and it's not exactly easy to get a GP appointment but rocking up to the hospital with a mild cold..and waiting around for upwards of 4 hours?! 111 is there for a reason. Utilise it.
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
And why can't people get a GP appointment? For the same stupid reason. Old people have nothing better to do and no one to talk to so they see their GP every time they scratch themselves a bit too hard to get it disinfected. Young parents who bring their 3 yr olds to a GP with a temp of 38.3 degrees C instead of just giving them some baby ibuprofen. It fucks with me so much.
dbxp@reddit
TBF 111 has a reputation for directing people to A&E when they don't need it
PM-YOUR-BEST-BRA@reddit
Meanwhile I'm too worried about wasting their time so I don't want to worry them. I let a genuine concussion go by for 4 weeks and when I eventually was dragged to A&E with crippling headaches and spotty vision they were like "why didn't you come sooner??"
Ok_Space2463@reddit
I used to get sudden sharp headaches that would last for 2 minutes and be really painful. I filled out the online form and it told me to call an ambulance and I didn't believe so I called 111 they still told me to go to A&E. After like 6 hours, respectively the doctors there were saying 'what are you doing here' by the end because everything looked fine.
I got a diagnosis of ice-pick headache from a follow up gp appointment, I don't get them now but I was hoping for 111 or the form to either have a diagnosis or something else. I guess it was stupid of me to give repetitive symptoms as an answer.
skatemoose@reddit
The amount the seem reliant on other people fixing their problems rather than taking responsibility for themselves.
Harrry-Otter@reddit
If Reddit is anything to go by, the lack of people doing stuff I considered very normal, like showering daily or ironing their clothes.
_Monsterguy_@reddit
Ironing is entirely pointless, stop being a fashion victim.
Harrry-Otter@reddit
I’d probably rather not spend my life looking like I’ve just slept in an airport departure lounge on balance.
Everyone always says this but my clothes all look like crumpled up shit if they aren’t ironed.
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
Ironing is not the only way to not have crinkled clothes.
WebDevWarrior@reddit
Maybe you’re just a weirdo.
I don’t shower daily for two reasons. Firstly because I have eczema and over-showering aggravates my skin. Secondly, because as has been constantly stated time and again by scientists and dermatologists, washing that frequently is bad for your skin health.
Once a week is all you need (unless you’ve been sweating a lot). Our obsession with over-cleaning is killing off all the good bacteria and making us more prone to infections.
WVA1999@reddit
Once a week 😂
Impressive_Bed_287@reddit
Surprisingly, the medical advice is more nuanced than "don't shower once a day".
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/showering-daily-is-it-necessary-2019062617193
If you're showing once a day and it's not causing you problems I wouldn't worry about it. OTOH if you find showering regularly sets your skin off then decrease the frequency, and consider using less or no soap or switching to a soap alternative.
mawarup@reddit
if you're not sweating enough to need a shower more than once weekly, you should probably be exercising more.
dbxp@reddit
I find just hanging my clothes tends to do the job but I also WFH and wouldn't buy something if it needed to be ironed
BushidoX0@reddit
Can't agree with the last one chief. Only uron clothes for when I go into the office or attend a formal event.
Dimac99@reddit
I can't remember the last time I ironed and many people today won't own an iron or ironing board. It's really not necessary for most people. As for showering daily, that's not only not necessary but probably not good for your skin. But none of that means that people shouldn't wash regularly or dress/present themselves properly.
ReasonableCourse1679@reddit
Fixing things that aren’t broken, normally something that hasn’t been asked for and normally done out of some sort managerially minded pig headed stubbornness. I suppose micro management falls in to this category of person.
PM-YOUR-BEST-BRA@reddit
I work in retail.
Every day I and more and more surprised about people's awareness of anything around their general vicinity.
standing in front of other customers
watching me put their items through the till and then acting shocked that they need to get their card/wallet out
bringing something to me asking how much it costs with the price clearly visible
clearly being annoyed that the person in front of them is taking too long and then faffing about with their stuff at the till themselves
paying for their items and then double checking how much it came to despite them (presumably) knowing the cost of everything individually and then hearing me tell them their total as well as it flashing up on the card machine and till.
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
The one thing I've learned from hospitality and retail is that the general public cannot read.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
When I was a teenager, a friend worked in Poundland and had to tell multiple customers that every item cost £1. Of course, these days, the prices have changed and do vary between items (so it's not so much Pounndland as LowCostLand), but back then every everything was £1. I'm pretty sure I remember the shop having big posters that said: YES! EVERYTHING'S £1!
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
Except batteries, they were the only thing in Poundland that was never a pound if I recall
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
I've done retail and I can wholly identify with each and every one of those points.
AutumnSunshiiine@reddit
My employer decided to cancel the sanitary bin service. Tbf at the time I think there were only three females employed and I’m sure one of them had gone through the menopause, leaving just two. One of whom wasn’t regularly in the office. That left me.
If anyone thought I was going to catch a used tampon in the cheap single-ply tissue paper my employer provided, even with multiple layers, wrap it up clots and all in half a toilet roll’s worth of paper, and then transport it to the big dustbin in the middle of the room, where it would then slowly leak out… nope. Flushed down the loo it went.
Tbf I think the real problem was paper towels being flushed in the gents. I’m presuming they used the hand towels to wipe because the toilet paper was so crap, but I never did ask.
CoffeeNoSugar6@reddit
Similar but different situation for me - I’m a male with a bladder disease and have to wear pads. My employer kindly installed discrete sanitary bins in the male toilets and our male union rep has gone into full woke arsehole mode about the fact there are female bins in male toilets. Fucking dipshit.
kryters@reddit
Sorry you're having to put up with this; too many small-minded people about. I'm a little confused that you've described him as woke since gender essentialism is more of an anti-woke kinda thing
CoffeeNoSugar6@reddit
Sorry, my terminology was probably wrong there!
AffectionateFig9277@reddit
That's what happens when you call everything you don't agree with "woke"
kryters@reddit
No worries, easy done!
buzyapple@reddit
There was this debate at my husband’s work place due to a trans individual, caused so many issues. I told my husband to mention men with bladder issues and the need for bins for them too.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
I'm so sorry you're having to put up with this.
CoffeeNoSugar6@reddit
10 years in now….it’s not that bad tbh, I just need to change regularly and be as discrete as possible!
AutumnSunshiiine@reddit
That is a super considerate thing your employer has done. It should be normal for every toilet to have a bin!
Mop_Jockey@reddit
I used to work for one of the companies that would collect those bins.
I got complaints from one office manager that there were flies coming from the bins and they wanted me to come in once a week to clean and empty them or they were going to report me to my manager.
I had to explain to an adult in a managerial position that 1) their contract states one collection every 6 weeks, they're free to change the contract but it'll cost money. And 2) the reason the bins are stinking is because someone has been disposing of their lunch in them and on the odd occasion a bottle of vodka too.
AutumnSunshiiine@reddit
Why on earth would anyone put their lunch into one?! The alcohol I could understand, to hide it, but lunch?!
Mop_Jockey@reddit
In my experience (1.5 years in the job) it's because a lot of women eat on the toilet, (presumably to hide what they're eating?) and there are bins in each cubical.
jaynoj@reddit
Well TIL.
I worked for a really fat woman a while back and whenever she ate in the office she was always eating really healthy salads and stuff. She must've been hammering the calories somewhere between those salads to maintain her heft.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Fair enough... although... are employers allowed to do that? Wouldn't that count as discrimination, even if there was only one female employee?
AutumnSunshiiine@reddit
I think there is an expected “usage” below which they don’t have to arrange for proper sanitary bins and collection. They could have just provided small bins in each cubicle instead, but they would have had to buy the proper narrow style sanitary bins rather than using small pedal bins, because the cubicles were tiny. They’d cheap out on that as well.
blozzerg@reddit
I regularly work and meet people in a casual setting and the number of them that show me AI or fake content is shocking. This week I’ve had someone show me scenes of Disneyland being destroyed and flooded by the hurricane in Florida and it was obviously unrelated footage of flooding combined with old scenes of Disneyland and some sensational descriptions of what’s happened. They just straight up accepted that Disneyland had been wiped out. In reality there’s minor damage and it reopened within a few days.
Same with scenes of cosy cottages and interiors and nice gardens and even famous places on FB which are blatantly AI generated but people share them and comment as though they’re real.
Lana_bb@reddit
I find this both enraging and terrifying.
blozzerg@reddit
It’s weird because there’s no incentive to question it, they’ll scroll past a photo of somewhere beautiful in ‘Italy’ and be all ‘how stunning does this place look!’ and there’s people enjoying themselves with mangled hands and none of the words make sense if you zoom in to street signs and shop names.
Some of these photos have tens of thousands of comments, likes & shares. It is somewhat harmless but it shows how easy it is to whip up engagement on a fake photo.
I’ve even seen AI generated people, like elderly couples, captioned with things like ‘they’ve been together 72 years!’ and people sharing and congregating them. Their hands mangled together, not holding hands lol. How long until these images come with donation links, either to raise money under false information or to gather data for fraud.
Combat_Orca@reddit
It surprises me that this surprises you, haven’t you spent much time around people? There’s always some people who would do this.
Quilmes11@reddit
All the stupid people who have convinced themselves they’re smart, which in turn makes them say insane things with all the confidence in the world. Flat earthers, Americans and “customers always right” people. It’s worrying.
PrinceFan72@reddit
I've worked with many people who have made me wonder how they get through the day without dying. Total lack of awareness of anything past their own nose. Constantly late for work, but will leave dead on time without fail, no sense of direction and could get lost in a car park. No common sense whatsoever. How are you married with kids?
RedViking81@reddit
Signs to wash your hands...? Welcome to construction people.
ancatdubh89@reddit
This could be cultural, as many countries use squat toilets and more western-style toilets might break if used this way.
However, I also work at a university and there are signs in every single toilet reminding people to wash their hands.
Apple22Over7@reddit
Yeah, I used to work in an office building which also ran the Life in the UK citizenship tests. They had these signs put up in the communal toilets after 3 separate instances of toilet bowls being cracked (and in one case, breaking completely) due to people squatting on them.
Ki1664@reddit
People who think they are the main character in life. On the train yesterday, the amount of people playing videos on their phones for everyone to hear, speaking loudly on calls in a quiet carriage. Honestly hope they shit a hedgehog
E420CDI@reddit
r/ImTheMainCharacter
Anaptyso@reddit
It's really striking to me the difference between the early morning commuter trains and a train on the same route at the weekend. The early morning week day train will often be totally silent, with everyone glumly looking at their phones/book/paper and ignoring each other. It sounds depressing and grey, but it's actually lovely when it's early and I'm tired.
The weekend train will have half the number of people on it, but still be horribly loud. So many videos being played without headphones, loud phone conversations, music being played etc. In theory that should feel more lively and fun, but actually it's just massively irritating.
Maybe I'm just turning in to Victor Meldrew.
iridescent_extra@reddit
What you're describing is a lack of consideration for the people around them. I get that it's become a saying for oblivious and obnoxious people in public: "being the main character" but can we stop using it because why would anyone want to be a side character in their own life.
Scratch that, actually. I forgot I was in reddit for a moment.
Diem-Perdidi@reddit
The point of the saying is not that they think they're the main character in their own life (which, as you say, is true of us all), but that they're the main character in general, hence the lack of consideration, entitlement and assumption that everyone else is there to facilitate their fascinating adventures.
You should reserve your ire for the term 'NPC', which is what main-character arseholes call people they don't have to compete with for attention. No, Zane, just because they don't have a broccoli haircut or a TikTok account with 38 followers doesn't mean they don't have a soul and a rich inner life.
iridescent_extra@reddit
Yeah, I hate the NPC term used in real life too. As for calling entitled people 'main characters'... still leaves a sour taste because it brings to mind the worse written main characters, regardless of how the term came about. Consider it an occupational distaste on my part.
GroupCurious5679@reddit
Oh definitely! We went on the flix bus from Heathrow the other day and we had the same problem. The bus was packed and 80 percent of the people were having full blown conversations on loudspeaker. Really baffles me.
Ouakha@reddit
Do adults really watch all that Saturday and Sunday evening crap on the 'terrestrial' tv?
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Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
No, most are either asleep and/or in a care home. I don’t know how anyone would choose to watch that tripe almost every old person I know watches Youtube instead now.
Outrageous_Shake2926@reddit
I am work at a car rental company at a UK Airport. There are several signs saying "Drive on the Left" in multiple languages at our car exit. There is a sign at our car exit saying, "Warning Always Stop" and "Do not Proceed Until Green Light Shows." At the car exit, there are traffic lights and a large roadblocker. The roadblocker has damage!
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
They should put those signs at the exits of those US military bases we have
TheNoGnome@reddit
How much they're all obsessed with alcohol.
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
Yeh and how it’s come to be associated as the only reason to ever go anywhere, anytime where there is no alcohol becomes a quest to find it from somewhere - remember England fans going mad as they were told they could no longer buy Budweiser outside the world cup stadia in Qatar. And Budweiser isn’t even good beer.
And only going to places or events on the promise of free booze. Well I stopped drinking a few years ago so screw anything to do with alcohol. Couldn’t pay me to drink that stuff now
Extension_Sir_7975@reddit
This
Mop_Jockey@reddit
I would assume if you were able to get onto reddit and make a user account then find a specific sub, you'd be able to fucking google it!
WatermelonCandy5@reddit
You can learn more from a dialogue and get several different opinions and theories on a forum.
pleasefuckinkillme@reddit
I think this is more referring to asinine questions with definitive answers. I'm in the Manchester subreddit, and so many of the posts are "in Manchester for 2 days, what are some fun things to do" with no follow up on their specific interests. These types of questions have been answered time and time again, all they'd have to do is search the subreddit.
Diem-Perdidi@reddit
Perhaps, but on the other hand 85% of that 'dialogue' will be the same stupid jokes and memes, 10% absolute bollocks from children, idiots and the deranged, 3% escapees from horny jail, 1% incomprehensibly obscure niche references from weebs, furries and turbo-nerds and then maybe, on a good day, 1% actual gold, of which perhaps 1% will be something you couldn't have got with considerably less frustrated effort and growing nihilism by simply Googling in the first place.
And that's a good day on Reddit, a site that is still at least nominally geared towards connecting moderately intelligent and knowledgeable people with each other, rather than monetising rage, hatred and ignorance.
paulmclaughlin@reddit
It's just the one same tired joke actually
inactive_directory@reddit
Based on CasualUK you'd be forgiven in thinking that UK TV is only ever shows Peep Show, Edgar Wright films and Alan Partridge.
Personal-Listen-4941@reddit
It depends on the question. OPs question isn’t one that has a simple factual answer and as such would stimulate conversation. ‘When is Easter next year’ could be googled & answered quicker than posted on Reddit
Mop_Jockey@reddit
Yes, but... Rule4.
Like I'm all for a bit of discussion and getting opinions, but a lot of shit you can just google.
Many subs including this one don't allow billy basic questions and made rules to prohibit them.
mr-seamus@reddit
And in the time they have typed it all out on Reddit and waited for a reply - they could have gotten their answers.
Mop_Jockey@reddit
"but it's just not as personal" "I thought I'd get a better answer" etc
DeifniteProfessional@reddit
I'm going to throw a curveball here in that a large amount of online information comes from forums like Reddit. But there is a balance, a lagged line if you will. You can't be coming onto Reddit asking how to clear your cookies, but asking a question on phase alignment of a PA system opens up a discussion which Googlers will find useful in the future, even though you could learn it yourself
SeoulGalmegi@reddit
(Based on a true story, although some details have been changed to protect the innocent)
Tony_Meatballs_00@reddit
How can OP google what our opinions are?
mr-seamus@reddit
I never said they should.
Nok1a_@reddit
your "For clarity..." prove the whole point hahaha
EaseUsed5465@reddit
What lol
Mop_Jockey@reddit
Not really sure what's confusing you there pal sorry.
EaseUsed5465@reddit
I get it now, sorry. I thought you were asking OP directly, not speaking generally
Tony_Meatballs_00@reddit
What should OP Google?
Mop_Jockey@reddit
OP asked
I replied
I'm not calling op out on anything ffs I was answering their question.
Tony_Meatballs_00@reddit
Strange way to reply lol
Can't blame people for being a bit confused
Mop_Jockey@reddit
¯\(ツ)/¯ apparently the nuance was lost on a few folk but it made sense to me.
Tony_Meatballs_00@reddit
Not sure nuance is the word you're looking for here pal
Mop_Jockey@reddit
Probably not, care to suggest an alternative or shall I just google it?
Tony_Meatballs_00@reddit
Id say you're better off googling breathing techniques
Mop_Jockey@reddit
Strange way to reply lol
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Mop_Jockey was giving an example of something that surprises them about fellow adults. That they consult Reddit instead of simply Googling their query.
TheDettiEskimo@reddit
Google what exactly?
Mop_Jockey@reddit
What ever it is the hypothetical user may be asking...?
You know I'm just answering the question I'm not targeting anyone specific with my comment right?
Healthy-Tap7717@reddit
Another thing that used to surprise me but no longer does since post covid. How angry at the world adults have become and their ability to find fault and pick an argument in anything simplistic and completely innocent.
Mop_Jockey@reddit
I was on reddit way before covid, people love being arsey on here.
Healthy-Tap7717@reddit
Oh I know people have always been arsey but what I think has got worse is people looking for things that aren't there in people's comments or not adding logic to comments.
Even more so people attacking people for using the wrong pronouns for example for talking about a celebrity. I would understand it if the comment was nasty or malicious but if when something is written praising someone but accidently uses the wrong pronoun then is attacked it leaves me floored.
Like drop the person a DM let them know they might want to correct it and move on. It's almost like being woke has incited more anger and hate in the world because people want to constantly judge and correct each other or tell someone their wrong and hateful whilst being nasty and hateful.
5years ago SM (I wasn't on reddit) was bad but I mean now I can't find anything good about it. Wherever you look in comments sections hate is everywhere.
TheDettiEskimo@reddit
Dude I totally read this as you saying it to OP and not just answering the question. Sorry it has been a long ass day 🤣
Mop_Jockey@reddit
To be fair the fact that it doesn't really make sense as a direct reply to them was a bit of a giveaway that I was trying to answer with an example lol.
WeDoingThisAgainRWe@reddit
Yeah, similar one, is typing something completely untrue but not using the fact they're posting it on the internet to take a minute or so to check if it's true first.
DogDrools@reddit
How intolerant they are of anybody not like them. How upset or angry they get over the most minor inconsequential things, their abject failure to see just how lucky and well off they are compared to billions of others around the world.
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
It’s all relative isn’t it. Try going into a homeless shelter and saying well people at least you’re not in Ethiopia. Wouldn’t go down so well.
WeDoingThisAgainRWe@reddit
Adults who can't work out that a door way or the top/bottom of a stair case isn't the right place to have a group chat. Equally people who think it's ok to hold a life door, when there's others in the lift, while they chat to someone outside it.
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
Or in the aisle at Tescos completely blocking the item you want, you hover around hoping they will get the hint but you have to butt in and ask them to please move (have your chat outside on in the damned cafe!)
WeDoingThisAgainRWe@reddit
the supermarket ones are many, leaving their trolley sideways across the aisle. Pushing the trolley in front of someone else, blocking the items they're obviously looking at, while looking at other sections. (I've pushed trolleys down other end of aisle before when people do that).
aytayjay@reddit
I'm always surprised by the lack of foresight or self control my fellow adults seem to have. People constantly amazed that their accidental affair resulted in their marriage ending, or that not going to work resulted in their firing, or that spending more money than they have on a fancy car or holidays results in debt.
There's an awful lot of people out there who are the architects of their own doom and seem surprised by that fact.
Idk maybe I've just reached that age where the people around me are hitting their midlife crisis, it's just inexplicable to me.
Metal_Octopus1888@reddit
In the last 4 years I think a lot of people believe we’re all doomed so let’s do what we want, like there is no tomorrow. Can you really blame them
plantsncats128@reddit
The number of people who don't save any money at all despite having the means to do so. Their go-to financial back-up plan is to borrow on credit cards instead of saving for the things they want or just generally for an unexpected expense. Just generally so many adults seem to have absolutely no financial sense at all.
kindaadulting87@reddit
Half of the stuff people post on r/foodsafety. So many people there thinking they're going to get botulism and not googling.
thecleaner78@reddit
Half the people here on Reddit don’t know how to google or are too lazy to google
jaynoj@reddit
It's the the usual vocal minorities who stand out on any platform.
I would wager that the majority of redditors just lurk in the background reading what others post and comment without interacting themselves.
FloydEGag@reddit
It surprises me how many people don’t know how to google. Loads of colleagues (and my mother) will ask me/others questions they could easily google. Stuff like how to format a table in PowerPoint ffs. I don’t mind helping people but maybe disturb me after you’ve tried googling and come up empty (unlikely).
VanJack@reddit
How bad people are with money. Like people who have well paying jobs, yet have no savings at all, don't know anything about ISA's or any sort of investment, they just earn and spend every month. The amount of people driving brand new cars on finance deals and yet don't even have an emergency fund. I have always taken a keen interest in money and it really doesn't take a lot of money or a lot of time to save quite a large amount, but some people can't even commit to putting a small amount of money away each month because they have no ability to budget their income. It is completely mad to me. Financial illiteracy is a real problem in this country.
lasmargar@reddit
This surprises me too! No idea how people can be so disinterested in their own financial planning.
VanJack@reddit
Especially when money is pretty much the one constant in your life and if you can reduce the stress it causes, that is a very major stress to get rid of. I think a lot of people who are employed just think that bad things won't happen to them. They don't quite realize how close they are to poverty.
Impressive_Bed_287@reddit
Some of it is to do with upbringing and some of it is personality.
My parents never talked to me about money, how to manage it, etc , and I grew up a complete spendthrift. My wife, OTOH, had chats with her dad about money, how to save, invest, etc, and she was absolutely horrified at my complete lack of financial understanding.
OTOH some of it is definitely down to personality. I have always struggled with numbers - I just ... Don't "get" them. The conceptual side is fascinating but as soon as figures get involved it's like I can feel myself feeling asleep while I'm awake. I've had many meetings about mortgages and pensions in my life and after the first three sentences I simply find my mind has switched off. My wife will be asking questions, weighing up options, determining costs and benefits .. I'll be daydreaming about some nonsense or other and won't remember a word.
BushidoX0@reddit
Personal finance is 5% maths and 95% behaviour
Scarred_fish@reddit
That people prefer to believe something some random nutter has written on the Internet that they found via Google, rather than learn from a human right there who has years of experience.
(Yes, this happens a lot on this sub, but also in real life)
WVA1999@reddit
Such a sheeple thing to say
pip_goes_pop@reddit
But they dID tHEir oWN ResEArcH!
NYX_T_RYX@reddit
I'm continually amazed by people's insistence on knowing everything I know before providing an answer.
I work on escalated complaints. I've got one where honestly I've no idea what the customer is complaining about - the people before me left no notes, and it's been 6 months so obviously the customer is pissed.
I asked them to explain the issue so I can help, and for some photos I'll need. They sent the photos, but one was a photo of another phone.
I knew everything else I needed to deal with this, the only thing I've not come across before is "does the company accept a photo of a phone, or do I need to ask for the original photo?"
So I asked my team... Wish I hadn't bothered tbh, what followed was 20Q and me continually saying "well here's the answer you wanted, but I already know what to do... I just need to know if I'll get disciplined for accepting something I shouldn't..."
museumbae@reddit
How bullying and bad hygiene persist into adulthood.
idontlikemondays321@reddit
People that don’t go on holiday but can afford to. They just aren’t interested in it. My life is a countdown to holidays, being on holiday and planning holidays. It’s what gets me through the working week. I just can’t imagine never having a break away from my home and work.
OddTransportation430@reddit
I work with a guy like this. Pretty sure he uses his holidays to play video games and watch movies. He seems fairly content. I can't wrap my head around it.
phatboi23@reddit
that's his holiday from work, pretty simple really.
Ethelredthebold@reddit
That's what I do. It's lovely when you don't have to get up, get dressed. Just play games, catch up on films I've missed, finish the book I've been trying to read between shifts. That is what I consider a holiday. It's much more relaxing.
penguin17077@reddit
He probably just likes video games more than holidays, or he is paying down debt/saving up for something or early retirement.
I love travelling, but I can understand why not everyone does.
pajamakitten@reddit
I honestly find travelling too stressful to enjoy the destination. I went to Disney World this year and loved it, I even got lucky in that travel both ways went perfectly (no delays or anything, which is a huge achievement at Orlando airport). The planning was fun too. It is just too much for me though. I suffer from anxiety as it is and travel sets it off more than anything. It sucks TBH.
TurtleFail@reddit
Where's the best place you've been - somewhere you wish you experience for the first time again?
idontlikemondays321@reddit
I really liked New York. Yourself?
littlenymphy@reddit
I like being on holiday but I find the travelling part of it quite stressful so I’m not interested in going often.
I also find it hard to sleep in a bed that isn’t my own so I much prefer day trips where I can get back to my own bed at the end of it.
VanJack@reddit
I am the same. I've been struggling with some health problems for the past few years and anxiety on top of that, often the travelling part takes a lot of the enjoyment away and being away from home ends up being a struggle too. I do go on holiday, but I don't have that constant urge to go abroad like some people, because I don't think the stress is worth it and the toll it takes on my body.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
Me too. I love BEING on holiday, but my anxiety makes travelling very difficult. I get very anxious in the lead-up to the holiday, and my last day will be filled with worry about the journey home. The bit in between is great though!
ketamineandkebabs@reddit
In my work absolutely nothing, working in a zoo would probably be more civil.
Polz34@reddit
As an office manager on a site of 14 buildings and approx. 800 staff this is so true
We literally have signs above the sink asking folk to put their crockery in the dishwasher and still they leave it in the sink, the dishwashers are next to the sink, so you literally just have to bend down a bit, not even move!
For me what surprises me is the lack of common sense, I work with a lot of smart individuals but they just have no common sense when it come to simple obvious stuff
PowerApp101@reddit
None of that surprises me because a lot of people are idiots.
Extension_Sir_7975@reddit
This
Ishart_Elin@reddit
I have some logic to impart. My dick is inside my clothes all day long, it doesn’t touch anything dirty. Now, my hands are touching all sorts of things all day long. By logic, you should be washing your hands before you have a piss as you are making your dick dirty by touching it. In short, my dick is probably the cleanest part of my body, and if you need to wash your hands after peeing, then I think you need to up your genital hygeine
Purple_ash8@reddit
That fully-grown-arse doctors don’t know to prescribe bethanechol to offset antimuscarinic side-effects from other medications (like amitriptyline).
Aromatic_Comfort203@reddit
It’s mind-blowing that adults can manage entire projects at work but still can’t figure out that a trash can exists for a reason, especially when the floor looks like a war zone of discarded food containers.
properperson@reddit
what surprises me is that fellow adults put up with the level of illegal immigration, the state of hospitals, GP's and dental services, The Police not caring any more .... We should have listened to Enoch Powell ....
C0nnectionTerminat3d@reddit
So many are just… so oblivious to other people around them. They just do not care and think the world revolves around them, and anyone else are background characters. I’ve noticed it more since the pandemic ended.
My neighbours will often have loud conversations in their garden, or outside their front door (why??? just go inside) not realising half the street can hear their family drama of the week. They’ll honk the horn of their car to let their family know it’s time to leave or rev their motorcycles at like, 6-7am or long past midnight as if other people are not sleeping at that time. Others will let their children scream for hours on end outside and not teach their children basic neighbourly etiquette.
Some people will not care where they put their things, theyll just walk straight up into the middle of a queue and assume that’s their place (this genuinely happened to me once) or stop in the middle of the path for NO REASON. they’ll park poorly in car parks, they don’t look before they drive out of a street.
Fluid_Programmer_193@reddit
People still don't know how to use a public toilet properly
turkishhousefan@reddit
Some of them spend all of their free time watching Chinese cartoons and arguing with strangers on the internet.
Puzzleheaded_Drink76@reddit
People who can't realise that the customer is mad at the company for bad service/lack of staff/poor quality products not the employee in front of them.
Yes, there are arseholes unfortunately, but there are also people with legitimate complaints and plenty of companies taking the piss.
MotherTemporary903@reddit
I mean people realise it, but it's not that easy to just bear with a smile it when most of these customers treat the staff in front of them like crap.
I mean what do you think is the staff member going to be able to do to change the established policy etc in the moment? I don't understand why you would expose the staff that have nothing to do with your issue to your anger - go to complaints/customer service and file an official complaint. Why shout at the person on the till?
I also think you don't understand how many arseholes customer service staff have to deal with on practically daily basis.
Puzzleheaded_Drink76@reddit
I don't think they are going to be able to change the policy. Although if we don't complain as customers then it does ultimately give companies license to not be very good.
Also when I worked in retail I would feel a responsibility for the service I was providing so it was important for my own sake to have that mental separation. Otherwise I'd have spent my time feeling bad that we'd run out of whatever it was the customer wanted etc.
MotherTemporary903@reddit
Again, complain appropriately.
I would not expect a cashier to log every rant someone has at them as a complaint. So you're achieving nothing and changing nothing. You're just making the innocent person's day worse.
I mean if the service they personally are providing is not up to scratch then that's a slightly different situation, but even then I would question whether they're providing poor service or they're just not meeting my expectations (which may be unrealistic).
But if it's about the quality of service/product the company is offering then you're pointlessly aiming it at the wrong person.
I also think there's a difference between reasonably complaining to staff and "being mad" at the company, to the staff.
SooperFunk@reddit
Their reliance on clichés, stereotypes and robotic language to get through their days.
Every year, every fucking year I have to suffer the indignity of multiple someone's commenting on the changing weather, temperature, length of daylight when we're changing seasons. Shut up, just shut TF up. 😠 😡 👿 🤣
bishsticksandfrites@reddit
Anyone who posts on Reddit about an avoided social interaction/issue rather than engaging in that interaction/issue.
E.g. “My neighbour is using my bin, what do I do?”, or an image of someone using a seat on a train for a handbag.
I simply can’t understand how anyone other than those with severe neurodivergence can get through life without facing up to these minor issues.
dbxp@reddit
I think those with neurodivergence would have already constructed their own systems to deal with such issues
Independent-Guess-79@reddit
I have zero interest in current affairs but pretty much do everything else.
Essentially, I’ve cut out the news and terrestrial tv and I’m 1000% happier for it.
dbxp@reddit
Ultimately there's nothing you can do about it so why worry?
AfterBurner9911@reddit
Not many current affairs on at the moment anyway. Scattering of regional conflict, a couple of politics, bit of economy, you're not missing much.
BushidoX0@reddit
How little they understand being polite and showing the slightest bit of interest in others pays dividends
As an example, as well as making for a more harmonious society, I am convinced that learning the names of the receptionists at my health club is why they turn a blind eye when I bring non-members and never charge them.
I have a lot of these samll examples in my life which just makes for a generally smoother experience
FloydEGag@reddit
Being unable to see nuance in things. Not everything is binary, black/white, good/bad etc. Some people seem to view the world like five year olds do.
Ok_Space2463@reddit
I get surprised by how mean and condescending adults generally are to each other and even themselves.
Kellyjackson88@reddit
Chewing with their mouth open in public.
ChoreomaniacCat@reddit
People who can't admit to being wrong.
My sister started an argument, insisting that a show had been on for at least a month and when she was informed by multiple people that it only premiered two weeks ago, she said "you guys are just retards".
I googled it, told her exactly the date it premiered, and her response was to shout over me, "I don't want to know, I don't care". Cared enough to start a row over nothing and keep insisting she was right in the first place, though.
theromo45@reddit
How they can still function as alcoholics
Lixx11@reddit
A complete lack of awareness of those around them.
CapasSpiff@reddit
I always think the signs in offices are for multicultural work environments where people with different standards and attitudes come together. It sets a baseline.
Having said that, I doubt the signs are required for the vast majority of bathroom visitors to maintain a base level of hygiene that is acceptably healthy for everyone.
The_Salty_Red_Head@reddit
How absolutely fucking terrible at adulting they are. Like, genuinely just tackling life like they're still toddlers and then (like toddlers) are astonished when people call them out on their shitty behaviour.
I know someone is going to chime in with "that's entitlement," but it's so very much deeper than that.
I watch grown adults in jobs that admittedly require at least some brain power, deride and infantilise people in lower paid positions or even just different positions to them that they feel have less "value" and yet these buggers can't even put petrol in a car or wash their own socks. Absolutely incapable of every other single thing in life except the thing they do for work, yet think almost everyone else is beneath them. It's appalling.
mustafizn73@reddit
It's surprising how many adults still forget to mute themselves during virtual meetings, leading to unexpected background noises and unintentional sharing of private conversations. It's become a classic work-from-home blunder!
VanJack@reddit
and the opposite, the amount of people who forget to unmute. It has been like 4 years and people still aren't in the routine of unmuting before you speak, I find it crazy.
angel_0f_music@reddit (OP)
"Yes, you have something to add, Dave? Dave? Dave, you're on mute!"
WatermelonCandy5@reddit
That people care about such small things like signs in a bathroom and don’t just get on with life. It’s too short to have been upset by something like that.
dlt-cntrl@reddit
How childish people can be, and entitled.
I work in the public sector and people regularly lie and embellish the truth to get something done.
When you say that their problem isn't an emergency you get abused.
ukAdamR@reddit
OP your comments don't surprise me. In my experience there is a near certainty that people will abuse/waste/etc a communal resource for their own benefit over a personal resource.
Rocky-bar@reddit
Nothing surprises me any more.
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