Should I get into my mums car?
Posted by MomoNoHanna1986@reddit | driving | View on Reddit | 6 comments
Okay so I don’t drive (vision impaired). My mum usually helps out with that. She’s 70 though. The reason she helps is because I have a kid with high medical needs and we take him to the park a few times a week with our dog. We usually drive to a big park with a long walk. However last week she had two near misses both on my side. One was just getting out of a fast food drive way. She claimed the taxi was speeding but it was on my side again like the last car. The first incident she didn’t see a huge forward drive while changing lanes again on my side. Before this she was going 80ks on a 100ks stretch of the highway. I only check her speed because 10 cars over took her. I’m worried about getting into her car again. Just yesterday I hired a helper to come once a week. But he doesn’t start till Friday. Mum wants to take me and my boys to the park today but I’m hesitant to get in her car with the way she’s had those two near misses. Should I? Am I in my right mind to not get in her car? Please help me validate or invalidate my logic.
Life-Masterpiece-161@reddit
I instructed my children that when they think I should not be driving any longer it’s their responsibility to take my keys away.
MomoNoHanna1986@reddit (OP)
I’m a single parent. I don’t feel confident doing this. She always has an excuse of why it’s not her fault. But she’s not wearing her proper driving glasses and she is refusing to wear her hearing aids. She thinks her prescription sunglasses are enough. I don’t think they are.
truffle2trippy@reddit
No
I know exactly what you're talking about because it happened to me last week
I was with somebody fitting that description and age when she drove.
She came out onto a five Lane Road in the wrong lane. That's fine not everybody knows where they're going. But then she shifted into the correct Lane slowly without a blinker then back into the wrong lane and then back into the correct Lane a couple near misses there that people beat that
Slow is okay Within reason. Shaky is not. She was shaky doing 40 in a 55-65
There is a series of winding turns around the mountain. She was crawling through those at about 15 mph the speed limit is 40 with 25 on the Steep turns. I have never seen an entire train of cars behind somebody I'll start beeping at once in my life
At the very end I don't know what happened but she started muttering to herself and the car started drifting to the left across the yellow line into oncoming traffic and I shouted: rightt!!
She finally ended by double parking in the street
If you were concerned over your safety or hers I recommend she doesn't drive or at the very least you don't get in the car
MomoNoHanna1986@reddit (OP)
I ended up telling her that I won’t let my son, me and the dog in her car. I explained why and she said fine. Honestly her driving has been bad for months. She always has some excuse. It started out with swerving, not staying straight in between the lines ect. And now the two near misses on the left side of the car. The second one was the last straw.
truffle2trippy@reddit
A wise choice
But now in here's the difficult question.... when is she going to decide to stop driving? Cuz the next one may not be a near Miss
MomoNoHanna1986@reddit (OP)
I don’t know. She’s going to the eye dr next week to check on cataracts and she is due for knee surgery next year. I’m hoping a surgery will slow her down. I don’t know if she will ever give up completely. She’s stubborn. She won’t wear her hearing aids in the car either. I think that’s part of the issue and not sure how bad her cataracts are yet.