A match made in heaven
Posted by ReformedTerrorist@reddit | greentext | View on Reddit | 237 comments
Posted by ReformedTerrorist@reddit | greentext | View on Reddit | 237 comments
BitterAge2477@reddit
It's because their favourite hobby is going on Tiktok and farting into their duvet.
The women who you can build long-lasting and strong relationships with won't be doing that and most likely won't be so active on apps like Hinge.
That being said anon's favourite hobby is his "homework" folder.
rockbird97@reddit
First of all, stop being ugly, and recognize that dating apps are strictly for going out to score puss, not for finding girlfriend material
Polish_Charge@reddit
Used to be same, until I finally met the one. Remember anons, if she's like that she ain't the one
es1vo@reddit
She isn’t into you. She just has nothing to do right now.
CaloricDumbellIntake@reddit
Honestly imagine you’re feeling so entitled that you think you can use other people for your personal entertainment.
God I hate what the internet and social brought out in people.
Sea_Contract_7758@reddit
But that’s just trolling
XbdudeX@reddit
I agree 100%, but also imagine being a woman on dating apps. They get like hundreds of likes a week. No normal person can sort through all that. It makes it weird because those are all people with hopes and fears and such, but they become just a left or right on apps. Makes me sad.
RocksHaveFeelings2@reddit
I met my gf on a dating app, but I messaged her within a couple days of her creating an account. I'm convinced if she had been at it for a while, she wouldn't have matched with me
Xeniamm@reddit
Not necessarily bro, women get hundreds of likes the first day they create the account, no matter what. You can do the experiment yourself.
She 100% chose you.
AssBlasties@reddit
Why dont they just choose one guy they are attracted to or interested in and put their effort into that conversation and then just completely ignore the rest?
Its because theyre completely addicted to the attention and validation
TrashGourmand@reddit
Because men are also just as boring and unreliable on these apps and most of them are just looking for hookups. Do you know how many messages I get from dudes with no personality and nothing to say, no rizz whatsoever who then ask for a hookup? It's absurd. They should be buying a hooker but instead they waste my time.
AssBlasties@reddit
Then just ignore all the no personality messages?
TrashGourmand@reddit
It's pretty much the majority of them. You gotta understand it's like looking for a bar of gold in a garbage dump.
AssBlasties@reddit
And its the exact same speaking to women on those apps. Getting more than single word responses is like pulling teeth.
TrashGourmand@reddit
That's because apps are fucking horrible unnatural ways to meet people and only boring mentally deficient people can tolerate them
VayneSolidor@reddit
Wouldn't you be? Honest question.
AssBlasties@reddit
Probably not no but I definitely get it
CaloricDumbellIntake@reddit
Yeah that’s why I’m not blaming women but the internet and social media. I think most people that would be in that position would act in a very similar way.
GuardianOfBlocks@reddit
Isn’t the main thing in having friends using them for you’re personal entertainment.
dyedian@reddit
I mean, that behaviour is as old as the human race.
homingmissile@reddit
Wat? Buddy, people been doing that since before the printed word. Op gotta learn to take a hint.
If she didn't respond at all, you'd say shit for ghosting him.
When she responds with short replies to be polite because she's NOT INTERESTED, you say shit because she isn't "putting in effort".
If she carried on full conversations with the guy, inexplicably since of course she's not interested, you'd say shit because she's leading him on.
In your book when a person matches they need to be committed already? Ridiculous.
chi_sweetness25@reddit
If she’s not interested then why match?
Low_Abrocoma_1514@reddit
Sadly a lot of people are like that
Bleglord@reddit
You just described the female approach to dating dynamics
Chakramer@reddit
It's a good red flag to look out for though, you don't want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
The issue with the dating always will be that the good ones will stay in relationships. It's sheer luck you find a decent person.
LemonFlavoredMelon@reddit
Then maybe she needs a WoW subscription.
OomKarel@reddit
"Ugh I hate it when guys hit on me! Can't I even just go outside and not be bothered". Same girl probably.
Marik-X-Bakura@reddit
Based on what? The women you make up in your head?
OomKarel@reddit
Oh my sweet summer child. If only we could all be this naive.
Marik-X-Bakura@reddit
Have you considered that different women have different perspectives on this matter?
Or that there are inappropriate times to hit on women that make them uncomfortable?
ihatemalkoun@reddit
he isnt into her.
"shes into guys, like me"
MercilessParadox@reddit
Gotta have subway surfers on a screen next to your head so she'll engage with you
dylmir@reddit
This
_Kozik@reddit
I'm not saying it's right. But being a woman on these apps is shit in other ways. Non stop rings and messages from guys you aren't interested in. 1 out of 15 have no effort. 3 out of 10 is just cock pics and sex shit straight off the bat. If you want a taste be a marginally attractive guy and make a grinder profile. I'd would be exhausting. Dating apps being out the worst in everyone
Laslo247@reddit
Oh no, poor women, exactly that excuses their shitty dating behavior
_Kozik@reddit
I don't excuse it but I recognise when I get 15 matches in a few weeks and they fuck me around I might get a good one at the end and I'm a cunt who isn't as nice because I'm over it. I imagine they do the same. Negative feedback loop
iareto@reddit
fallacy anecdotal
Bonio_350@reddit
do you know what a greentext is?
iareto@reddit
ad hominem
htmlcoderexe@reddit
fallacy fallacy fallacy
htmlcoderexe@reddit
idk wtf that icon is but it looks like a dude with a boner standing up getting it up the ass from another standing dude with a boner
datbreda@reddit
Once I matched with a girl like that. Responses as dry as the Sahara, and when I pointed that out, she engaged more than she did during the whole previous conversation
crazybmanp@reddit
To yell at you? Or actually engage? (Only kind of meant as a joke)
datbreda@reddit
To yell, actually. It's like some people can't take criticicm
Spiderpiggie@reddit
Not to criticise, but it’s criticism
datbreda@reddit
Oh thank you. I'm not a native speaker, so I didn't realize the mistake.
htmlcoderexe@reddit
What did you put there? "critique"?
bigmangina@reddit
Dating apps are the best way to find the worst dates.
cain261@reddit
Based off the statistics I’ve read, probably because she’s responding to at least 5 other dudes
tdenstad@reddit
I was on the apps for a few years when they first came out and lived in a wealthy coastal community that attracted a lot of transplant Midwest homecoming queen types, so dating was interesting. Had 4-5 dates with one gal and thought it was going well. Saw her out one Saturday with another guy after she bailed on a casual day-drinking hang we had scheduled.
She didn’t see me, but I texted her the next day and let her know I saw her and her response was something to the effect of: “guys are app-monogamous and women are on them to level up until they find someone out of their league…”
Jokes on her… she’s still single 12 years later and put on at least a 30 rack.
Kirito619@reddit
Have you been stalking her for the past 12 years?
tdenstad@reddit
We ended up having overlapping social circles, so she would pop up on social media from time-to-time.
MenkyuKan_Twitch_VT@reddit
what's app monogamous?
tdenstad@reddit
If you meet someone on the app, you only date them.
TwistedBamboozler@reddit
Dude nothing will ever beat year 1 tinder. Shit was cash
XbdudeX@reddit
I guess people like that don't really feel bad about doing that to people, huh? I would feel like such a piece of shit if I used people like that.
breakfasteveryday@reddit
lol what women like this fail to understand is that the guys out of their league are happy to date casually and hook up but the relationship with them isn't going anywhere.
E11eventhH0ur@reddit
They’re hoping to get pregnant.
JessHorserage@reddit
Or to make it, but never do.
Or fantasies.
DeathByPig@reddit
You keep up on what she's doing 12 years later ??
tdenstad@reddit
Small beach community with a lot of intermixing social circles, so we have layers of mutual friends and she pops up on social media every now and then.
Marik-X-Bakura@reddit
Are these statistics just other greentexts
cain261@reddit
No, the statistics the dating apps have released themselves with the users being overwhelmingly male
Marik-X-Bakura@reddit
…how does that imply that women are messaging multiple guys at once?
Marci_1992@reddit
It's probably in the dozens and she has dates lined up for the next three months.
Uncommonality@reddit
"Average woman has 5 boyfriends at a time" statistic is false. Boyfriends Brigitte, who lives in LA & has 2000 boyfriends is a statistocal outlier adn should not have been counted
HATECELL@reddit
If I had a dollar for every perfectly normal conversation that abruptly ends with me no longer getting any answers I would no longer have conversations that abruptly end
Lana_Darkess@reddit
This isn't just dating sites though. By and large, people just don't know how to develop a friendship let alone a relationship. I've tried to make friends with a few people online, and this is exactly what happens. Dry responses, no questions back. Socializing really is a skill that a lot of people haven't learned.
Ciuciaro1@reddit
Should've talked about your shared interest, which is liking dudes apparently.
Sensitive_Potato_775@reddit
Stop using dating apps then. Women receive thousands of messages there, they have no reason to invest anything into conversations.
Laslo247@reddit
Well, what reason they have? Isn't they seeking someone?
CubingGiraffe@reddit
I think they just mean that women (on average) get far more people swiping on them than men do. That means they get far more matches and far more messages. It's hard to go through 20 different conversations with strangers. One makes an impression or doesn't, one blows that impression, one makes it clear the impression was crafted, she's out.
My friend is really traditionally pretty and every single guy she swipes on she will match with because they've already swiped her. Imagine you had that too. You really have to sort and categorize or just get choice paralysis. It's like a job application: it'd be nice if they told you why not, but they have thousands of applicants and sometimes someone else is a better fit.
Laslo247@reddit
Why swipe 20+ men? Swipe 1-3 and deal with them, it's that simple
(I adress it not to you personaly)
AnyWhichWayButLose@reddit
Simp reasoning.
home_rolled@reddit
Monkey comment
EmporioStallone9696@reddit
Every time. I'm so done with that shit. World of tanks never threads me like that
Slip_Snake@reddit
WARRRRRRR THUNDEEEERRRRRRRRRR
J_Man_McCetty@reddit
War thunder has fucked me harder than women ever could
K4rn31ro@reddit
Attack the D point!
764268carrots@reddit
At least Gaijin fucks me…
SquaSH772@reddit
Who needs women when I have the snail(please help I've been held hostage until I get top tier Swedish air)
BanzaiKen@reddit
Have you tried playing Russians and gaslighting Westerners into believing the bias isn’t real?
thiccancer@reddit
If you're looking for bias, just don't look at Russian toptier air... The Flanker and its variants have been bad (and universally considered so) ever since it came out.
DeathSabre7@reddit
Worship the snail
langley6@reddit
Gripen my nuts
MercilessParadox@reddit
Stopped playing war thunder, best decision of my life. I'm married now
Blibbobletto@reddit
That literally happened to me but with League of Legends
RedOtta019@reddit
SO TRUE!!!
Music_Saves@reddit
I would consider myself very successful on dating apps. If you don't ask the girl out within one day of talking to her it's not going to happen. They will lose attention very quickly. Once you have their attention you need to keep it until you seal the deal.
DastardlyDachshund@reddit
The day I realised that you need to treat women the same way as toddlers was game changing for me.
Neil_Ribsy@reddit
Exactly what I was gonna type. Dude's talking about them like they lack autonomy and self awareness and he's actually right (to an extent).
AbortionBulld0zer@reddit
Is it even worth to talk with such women?
Cavozinternetu@reddit
only good reason to play that game is to play Arties and french cars so you can ruin everybody else's day a bit more than you are ruining yours by playing
ilovearty626@reddit
Based, I love arty
Cavozinternetu@reddit
I fucking love sitting at spawn, eating breakfast, watching YouTube and clicking every minute or so only to miss
60TPLewandowskiego@reddit
Ew
60TPLewandowskiego@reddit
I like you
Aeonn24@reddit
World of tanks? You mean tinder???
Blibbobletto@reddit
heh
universepower@reddit
Many years ago when I was a young warthog, I’d move from chat to meet up in as few texts as possible. I don’t understand why people keep flogging this dead horse of text chat with a stranger, particularly if they haven’t got good chat
womerah@reddit
Literally. Chatting is just how you convince the lady you're safe enough to meet in a public place.
MrqsGioGio@reddit
women will never get close to me and my leaked military documents
Matt_2504@reddit
Sorry to tell you this brother but world of tanks is a gold digger
ResponsibleStep8725@reddit
At least it gives you enjoyment.
No-Opportunity5818@reddit
Wait until you experience borrasque gun
-Fraccoon-@reddit
Whenever I used to get a match like that I’d ask her to go on a date right off the bat and talk a lil bit here and there until the date if she agreed. If she didn’t agree she was bored and used you to fix her boredom. If she agreed she still could be using you for her own weird selfish reasons OR she could be great in person. I’m currently dating a girl who’s fun in person and just absolutely terrible to text with. Some people suck at texting and it’s just a fact.
PlusThreexD@reddit
^this. Gotta ask a girl on a dating app out within the first 20 messages. Their interest in you fades fast. Getting them to agree to a date keeps the interest going. And they've got 20 other matches that are also trying to talk to them. Gotta get them in person quick.
-Fraccoon-@reddit
Yes but to an extent. Some girls are different and wanna take it slow and you gotta acknowledge that as well.
paco-ramon@reddit
From my experience “taking it slow” is an excuse to not date, they will ghost you after the third day of talking, once she told me she already found someone else to date while we were talking (and making excuses to not date), looks like she didn’t wanted to take it slow with the other person. In the first day of your conversation you have to arrange a date, preferably in that same week. Is the only way to not waste your time.
veryangryenglishman@reddit
Sure but there would be people who are gold for you who would go for a date quickly too, and the times when you get it wrong with the getting a quick date approach is less (effectively) wasted time or mental/emotional investment - and imo that's a big part of what leads to guys especially getting demoralised and demotivated in online dating
OwnHousing9851@reddit
I've been with one girl that was trying to take it slow and she was the bitchiest fucking person I've ever had displeasure of spending my time with
-Fraccoon-@reddit
Lol yeah those types are out there. Hopefully you figured that out before the date and gave her a hard pass.
OwnHousing9851@reddit
Nah, I thought it'll go away eventually but it didnt. Still fucked her though so we good
paco-ramon@reddit
Same, asking for a date at front was the smartest move, every single time a woman in those apps said “she wanted to take it slow or I prefer to know the other person before meeting them” translated in them sending one word responses until they ghosted you.
-Fraccoon-@reddit
Yeah it can be. It depends on the girl though. I’ve had two relationships from dating apps and both have ironically been with girls who wanted to talk on the app for weeks or a month and take it real slow to feel me out which is fine. Just gotta be blunt up front or learn to identify what side the girl is leaning to which can take a long time and you can always just be way off randomly. Girls are confusing.
Paperthinswole@reddit
There is a trove of other men in her inbox doing the same thing.
GhostofGorilla@reddit
"I just wasn't feeling a spark/vibe" stfu you're the dull one in this situation. I hated using dating apps.
My guys, just talk to women IRL. I did, it worked.
ChickenDestruction@reddit
Apps aren't worth the time and emotional damage
KNGJN@reddit
If I sit at a computer all day at work, only to go home and sit in front of the computer? Where do you suggest I meet them?
stormcomponents@reddit
One in every 100 games of Dota has a wimins in it. So there's still hope.
KNGJN@reddit
I don't play dota :')
Ezures@reddit
Play Genshit impact, its like the only game with 50% female players. But also dont play it cuz its a gacha.
Hesj@reddit
Biggest W in this thread
stormcomponents@reddit
Well that's something in itself, at least.
MobCyco100@reddit
Over 8000 games. There is no hope
stormcomponents@reddit
Shame, because after 8,000 games you've probably got high endurance fast-firing finger muscles.
Blamore@reddit
nothing at all is better than apps, unless you are good looking
BreathingHydra@reddit
Honestly I don't think apps are that bad as long as you're only casually using them and not putting a lot of hope or effort into them. Like put some effort into making the profile and then only use them for a short amount of time every other day or so. IF you get a match that's great and if not then whatever, and if you start messaging someone and they seem disinterested or shitty then just move on.
They still suck don't get me wrong, but if you want a relationship or just sex then it's not the worst thing ever.
amazegamer64@reddit
Go somewhere else after work?
Mister_DumDum@reddit
You could try not going home to the computer, go drinking or something
KNGJN@reddit
A bar is good if you just want to fug but if you're looking for a gf that's the last place you wanna be.
Mesarthim1349@reddit
Also no one's gonna talk to the dude sitting alone at the bar.
KNGJN@reddit
Oh for sure, I'm very sociable, I'm just scared of women (icky).
Mister_DumDum@reddit
My sister met her bf at a bar, he went home with her and never left. It worked for him you could give it a try
KNGJN@reddit
I spent plenty of time at bars, cost me a fortune, destroyed my hearing, and I'm still single.
That shit only works if you're attractive.
OwnHousing9851@reddit
Try gym, you'll get in shape and either become jacked gay or jacked and scared to talk to women
KNGJN@reddit
I work out all the time, still scared of women
Absolutemehguy@reddit
Lifting doesn't cure autism.
KNGJN@reddit
Exactly
raihidara@reddit
There's your answer.
Siri2611@reddit
This is gonna sound stupid and probably "wow why didn't I think of that"
But join a club.... Like any club, pick a hobby and take classes for it
Yeah it is extra work, you will have to make time for it, but you will have to make time for your significant other later on anyway...
Otherwise your only options are online dating, family/friends and your work....
KNGJN@reddit
I have hobbies primarily enjoyed by guys, also I'm scared of women.
Baerog@reddit
This is the funny thing. People will tell you to join a club or take a class for something you are not at all interested in just to find a woman to hit on in the class.
I couldn't imagine being a woman taking a painting class and half the guys there don't want to paint and are just there to hit on you...
Also "Just be yourself", but also "Take up a hobby you don't like to meet someone (under false pretenses)".
Dating sucks, modern dating seems to especially suck. If you're past your school years and work a male dominated job, you're pretty screwed.
Siri2611@reddit
The idea is to expand the friend circle, not outright try to hit on women in the classes lol
stormcomponents@reddit
I hear advances in VR and AI are pretty impressive.
KNGJN@reddit
Thank goodness
literallyjustabagel@reddit
cant tell if this is sarcasm
MikeGianella@reddit
Welcome to real life. Consider yourself incredibly lucky if you manage to strike up a meaningful long standing relationship if you are like the rest of us mortals so you either embrace it or let it cause you suffering by actually caring about something neither of us can possess.
Anyway, rant over. Sorry if it sounds corny but I had to get it out of my chest.
KNGJN@reddit
Oh no it's fine, I made my peace with it long ago, I don't think I'm BF material anyway. It was more of a rhetorical question.
Bard_the_Bowman_III@reddit
I met my wife on Hinge
PauL__McShARtneY@reddit
I met your wife on Hinge too, and Ashley Madison once or twice, it was definitely worth the time.
ihatemalkoun@reddit
"emotional damage from internet dating"
you people are pathetic
Omegawop@reddit
She's talking to like 5 guys who are all saying the same shit trying to get laid. She's putting in way less effort because the interaction just isn't worth as much to her in the grand scheme of things.
ElementalChicken@reddit
She just enjoys the attention you are giving her while she knows she is not into you
GodofSad@reddit
Stop trying so hard. If you have to work to keep the conversation going within the first 3 messages, just unmatch.
Some people use it to find love, some people use it for hookups, and some people use it out of boredom/a need for validation. If you have to keep the conversation going, you've likely hit the 3rd kind. Just unmatch and keep it pushing.
ReformedTerrorist@reddit (OP)
Smart man.
FindingE-Username@reddit
She isn't 'unable' to keep the conversation going, she just isn't interested at all
As for why she'd match, could be: she likes the attention, she has a few other conversations on the go but wants to keep you on the back burner in case one stops, its possible something you said she didn't like and she lost interest.
FlexViper@reddit
Anon doesn't know that texting is only meant as tool for meetup not for long term chatting. Face to face conversation could make a huge difference in attraction and have a conversation where it actually matters
DickVanGlorious@reddit
Go outside and meet real people. I hate dating apps with my entire being.
Laslo247@reddit
Like some girl would like to meet someone outside, lol
Conman3880@reddit
OP: I decided to do the unthinkable— put in the bare minimum effort to attract another human. Just this once.
Also OP: Why aren't women putting in maximum effort every time?
Laslo247@reddit
Why aren't women putting in even minimum effort every time?
Sonova_Vondruke@reddit
You got to be engaging. A healthy mix of getting to know you without it being an interrogation. If you're bad as text communication, say so and ask to talk on phone or discord.. or meet up. Jokes are a great icebreaker. Show empathy, passion, excitement... Be more than "What's your favorite anime?"
nurpleclamps@reddit
Have you tried having money and being good looking?
Laslo247@reddit
Ah, yes, two rules
Impressive_Ant405@reddit
I downloaded Hinge very briefly, I'm an average looking woman on the nerdy side, made a meme-y profile to make sure my sense of humour would get across and got overwhelmed by the number of answers. It's not even a flex, it was my first (and last) time using dating apps. I can't imagine what answers good looking women with a good profile get. Must be a nightmare. I'm sorry for men getting no answers and women getting spammed. That shit toxic for everyone
BattleLegal9189@reddit
As a woman on the other side, who downloads a dating app once a year - This is just my personal experience. I get up to 50 matches on my first day there and am very overwhelmed to keep conversations going. I usually just say yes to the people that ask me out on dates immediately. I go on a couple of dates and get ghosted after. I get my first message from a guy asking me something very inappropriate that makes me feel disgusting. I delete the app. I decide I would rather be singe than put up with this modern day bs.
babylegsdylan@reddit
Whenever this happens to me i just start to say the most insane shit i can think of, at that point either we’re both getting crazy or she’s matching - saves a lot of time
Spanker_of_Monkeys@reddit
Probly cuz she's too busy taking Chad's dick to send longer replies
RoElementz@reddit
OP failed to ask her out and instead wanted to have a conversation online… Which is fucking boring.
carrpenoctem@reddit
I miss the good ol' times when you meet a girls irl where she's too afraid to be a hoe bcs you can reach her with your slaaaap
DeathSabre7@reddit
All this talk about most women... Do people keep rigorous census with them or is it just anecdotal?
Alkeryn@reddit
What you do is plan a date instead of chatting forever.
xXxMindBreakxXx@reddit
Taking this from a serious direction.
Remember, you don't have a monopoly on feelings of inadequacy. On feeling embarrassed or shy, of just entirely at a loss of how to keep a conversation going even if you want it to.
Especially with the line "into a guy like me" if she's a nerdy, aunontist tier person and was looking for people like that because it's who she's comfortable with or who she's into. There's a good chance she is dealing with some of the exact same social weirdness other people are. I've talked to women before, attractive women as friends who are on dating apps and have heard them worry about something awkward they said, marvel at how bad they are at making conversation and get super worried when a guy they're interested in goes quiet/ takes hours to respond.
Remembering that you're not special for being an anxious, socially inept little weirdo and that there are literally hundreds of thousands of people just like you is the first step to letting go of this idea that every missed connection is somehow a slight against you.
TheRealApoth@reddit
She probably dropped him after he explained that he was into dudes like her.
NotTomJones@reddit
The worst thing you can do on dating apps is try to chat to women, ask them for a drink/coffee straight up. It’s usually a yes if they’ve matched also you then have stuff to talk about on the first date. If you figure it all out before you’ve met them, you’ll have nothing to say. It’s much worse when that happens in person 😂
STIchargedAsshole@reddit
skill issue
NotTomJones@reddit
Fair play, assuming there’s not much game in OPs arsenal. We can’t all be STI charged assholes after all ;)
No_Print77@reddit
“Into dudes like me”
i_beep@reddit
I had to do a double take before understanding what he actually meant.
Blotsy@reddit
Have you tried asking her to meet up for drinks? Some people just don't wanna text forever.
ohmyfuckinglord@reddit
If they’re into you, they’ll respond and initiate.
Trans_Cat_Girl_@reddit
Then why would they match in the first place?
No_Palpitation_9479@reddit
They get dozens upon dozens of matches. She’s talking to a better one
je1992@reddit
Because while most dude have 10-20 matches at a time, girls have hundreds waiting for replies.
They literally don't play the same game
Far-Outcome-8170@reddit
Anon fails to understand that the online dating ratio is around 12 women for each man.
Either way, app dating will be dead in 5 years because all the men woke up.
Seriously, if you want free money, buy puts on bumble and match group. Their share price has continued to tank since covid.
Econmajorhere@reddit
Hah holding bumble puts when I saw their micro transactions weren’t getting bought due to failure of actual dating.
Whitney Herd destroyed dating for entire generations of women. Now she will destroy shareholder value.
Logey202@reddit
“All the men woke up”
I wish bro, less than a year ago i compared my tinder to a female friends.
I had 30-ish likes
She had over 2000.
Its honestly insane
Winnie_the_Putin42@reddit
It’s probably just because she isn’t into anon but on a side note straight women have to have some of the blandest profiles I’ve ever seen. No effort in their bios aside from a handful of pictures, traveling reading shopping and wine as default interests and the most uninteresting bios if they even have one.
VRisNOTdead@reddit
They are replying to 5 other dudes You need to get them off the apps asap Ask them on a date by weds for Friday.
If they say no only invest in texting sporadically
GitGudSucker@reddit
-gives up instead of speaking his feelings
That too is definitely "not the first time", mf can't learn from his mistakes, he deserves the blandest girl ever to match him and make him feel like he's speaking to the wall
BigJeffe20@reddit
I do find it interesting how some girls you match with will keep answering but give you absolutely nothing to work with. Makes me wonder why they're on the app/what they expect.
wappledilly@reddit
They expect someone better to show up. They will flush the perfect match all for the prospect of “there might be a better one”.
That’s what happens when one side has the power of abundant options.
Extreme-Kitchen1637@reddit
Freezing at the abundance of choice. This is where women then resort to 1 word replys because the value of one stranger is equal to the value of the other 50,
0.02 which rounds to nothing
AnyWhichWayButLose@reddit
Bots?
fourteensoulsies@reddit
fake: anon talks to women gay: dudes like me
delayed_burn@reddit
It’s really very simple. Imagine you’re a girl. Now imagine you have 100s of DMs going on at the same time. Now imagine all the DMs unfold in the exact same way and then finish with a dick pic. There’s not a lot of motivation to for a woman to hold a scintillating conversation with any particular guy. Also all dating apps are pure garbage except for the top 5-10% of men. The women don’t like it either for different reasons.
Burn_N_Turn1@reddit
That "Most Compatible" thing that I would get a few times a week would either be someone 350 lbs, or a trans. After like the fourth time getting one I just straight up deleted the app.
Meet people now by just going to bars, or like co-ed sports leagues and stuff. Way WAY better.
Every-Nebula6882@reddit
You know the matchmaking is skill based right. The “most compatible” tries to match you up with people that the app thinks are in your same league. And it’s based off data from millions of users. It’s really good at matching people who are in the same league.
labab99@reddit
Part of it is also your ability to “market” yourself. I’ve had radically different experiences based on the types of pictures and prompts I chose. Swipe through a girl’s feed with her and you’ll see that the bar for men’s bios is on the fucking floor.
crazybmanp@reddit
Except some apps, most of them do actually use a competitive system for matching. More swipes, means more impressions.
kinglee2015@reddit
down voted for telling the truth 😭😭
Every-Nebula6882@reddit
That’s the way it goes.
Burn_N_Turn1@reddit
I've been told this before. But I've also heard that the "most compatible" feature is sometimes incredibly janky, especially when you live in an average/mid sized city like mine.
Getting the same "most compatible" multiple times, getting people that don't even live in the radius you have set, and that its ACTUALLY based off of how many times per day you visit the app.
But in any case, like I said, I don't even use the fuckin thing anymore. Meeting people the old fashioned way has helped me.....well.......meet people that were way better than my "most compatible's" lol
XbdudeX@reddit
Do you have any examples where you used the old fashioned way?
Burn_N_Turn1@reddit
Yeah in my comment above
TyrannicalKitty@reddit
I just want an AI girlfriend like K dammit
HelloChimp@reddit
anon is into dudes
STIchargedAsshole@reddit
he forgot the comma
Magnus_Helgisson@reddit
Default image board answer: because she’s busy talking with fifteen gigachads at the same time.
psycuhlogist@reddit
Average girls match with a ton of dudes. They talk to let’s say 5 at once. They meet 1 maybe 2 of them. They get back on the app and see there are hotter guys then even the guy they met up with. Cycle repeats. They get pumped by the same top 5% of guys on the apps. They say they can’t find guys who want commitment on there but they talk to the same guys, who use them and move on to other girls.
Dating apps are cold asf and it’s also the most common way to meet your SO nowadays. It’s all so effed up.
NCD_Lardum_AS@reddit
Girls can keep a Convo just fine.
The problem is they for some reason can't be honest and just say "not into you".
Much rather get unmatched than stringed along with the most boring convos
Loakattack@reddit
“Into guys like me” I refuse to not interpret that as something they have in common
Upper_Exercise2153@reddit
You are a drop in the bucket of cock that is her dating app inbox
Zesty-Lem0n@reddit
Dating apps are like 5:1 gender ratio. She is comparing you to at least 5 other guys and simultaneously getting bored of the same small talk and looking for someone better to come along and probably considering one of the other 5+ to be a better option than you.
jjkm7@reddit
She’s not interested. If they’re interested I promise they will put effort in, they just like the attention and compliments too much to unmatch you. I know several women who made tinder accounts for fun without any intention of meeting up with anyone
Tristanime@reddit
I have the same but also with girls I ask out IRL. they seem into me when I ask them out but they're not particularly freaky in the DMs.
Unique-Side-2109@reddit
So she can show to that one she actually like that she is not only after looks by showing him he matched with anon and even spoke to him. 🤣
Dadjokesfordummies@reddit
Anon you forgot the comma after the word dudes
RobertB16@reddit
Because there's people on dating apps who just want validation for their ego
Feyhem_01@reddit
Sure anon, she is totally into overweight 30 yo gooners
you90000@reddit
I feel attacked
Calgrei@reddit
Usually means they're chatting with a whole bunch of guys
Stacks_McGillicuddy@reddit
Because the first exchange is to ask them out to have those discussions in public to see if you are attracted to each other. By matching you they have already admitted they could find you attractive, having a back and forth interrogation before you've met only seems like homework.
Jugaimo@reddit
Why should OP feel bad? He put in the effort and got her interested. But she proved to have the same personality as damp bread. Hinge thots without the basic sense of decency to maintain conversation, or worse just use the app as a way to boost their egos, are red flags not worth your time. Just walk away knowing that you are a better person than them.
thegraybusch@reddit
Dance monkey dance. If you're boring she will quietly quit your talks by being lame. It's a pretty common tactic. Ever had a coworker who was annoying you so you gave them dry one note answers? "Oh ya. Uh huh. Mhm. Right..."
Flashy_Narwhal9362@reddit
“›get a match ›cute girl who’s into dudes like me”
She obviously sees the conflict that can happen if you’re both into cute guys and want to avoid any future problems.
davidcj64@reddit
She's got gigachad giving her "my place or yours?" responses and she cares more about those.
AnyWhichWayButLose@reddit
This is virtually all of my experiences with a match on a dating app for the past two years now.
If you don't maintain the conversation or lie about your income you might as well delete your account.
gsf32@reddit
Gay
SalvationSycamore@reddit
Fake
DrEpileptic@reddit
Get some basic chemistry off and settle a date as soon as you can naturally slide it in. Everything else is a waste of time and effort. If she’s scared to meet you in person and/or makes excuses, then move on. Either they know exactly what they’re doing, or they don’t understand they’re meant to take that leap of faith after matching. Dating apps are meant to streamline everything. You get to know people in person, not through text. A quick exchange and vibe check for immediate red flags/chemistry after a match is all you should look for.
Segmentum@reddit
Just ask them on a date and cut right to it.
Garchompula@reddit
People have been complaining about this on r/bumble for a straight decade now.
paco-ramon@reddit
I leaved those apps because my back hurt from carrying the conversation, and average of over 100 matches to finally get a date wasn’t worth it.
MiruCle8@reddit
freaky h
bongoboi-ooee@reddit
Skill issue