Whats the polite thing to do if attending a wedding when you dont like the food?

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Wedonthavetobedicks@reddit

As others have said, ask in advance if there is another option (probably vegetarian) as you have a legitimate reason for being more fussy with your diet than normal. If there isn't another option - but regardless - try not to complain about it as the couple are probably already going to be quite anxious about whether the guests are enjoying their big day, and it's nigh on impossible to make everyone at a wedding party totally happy. Worst case scenario: eat the bits you can, put the rest on your neighbour's/partner's plate, and maybe follow Victoria Coren-Mitchell's advice of always having a cheese sandwich available in your handbag.

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GlutBelly@reddit

I love beef and I hate venison; they do not taste the same. Just try it and don't eat it if you don't like it. No one will notice. Anyone that will, will be immediately next to you and if they ask you simple say you had never tried it before and you don't like it. I don't see what the problem is.

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Ronsona@reddit

Venison is lovely, lovely soft meat and doesn't taste like beef. Can I have yours!?

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DramaDodger@reddit

One benefit of adulthood is sometimes having the luxury of not doing something we don't want to do based on personal preference. As someone who recently got married I can assure you we barely had any chance to see how people got on with their food and our priority was that people enjoyed the day as much as possible. So just do what feels right on the day. Try it, don't try it, leave it, trade it off with someone. You won't upset anyone.

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Darkheart001@reddit

It won’t be shot with lead we haven’t shot animals that people are going to eat with lead for years so don’t worry about that. Either request a vegetarian meal, if there is still time or just try the venison and eat what you can. The flavour is significantly different to beef, it’s a dryer gamier meat that has a stronger flavour. I would just try it for the experience, you may like it.

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V65Pilot@reddit

Venison can be an acquired taste.

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brokenbear76@reddit

It can still be lead, but copper jacketed, unless the landowners have stipulated lead free ammunition. Lead is not banned per se, but a lot of game dealers and/or landowners insist on lead free, but it's not legislation (yet)

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ButItIsMyNothing@reddit

Grab a kebab on the way, and skip dinner.

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Liverspoon18@reddit

Others have suggested asking for a vegetarian option. This is the best option so as to avoid food/money waste (assuming you like what the vegetarian option will be). However, given it is a week until the wedding don’t be surprised if the meals have already been finalised and you can’t switch to a vegetarian option, or that those getting married have enough on their plate without making the change for you (no pun intended). Be prepared to eat something substantial in advance and then try to make it through to the evening food via the canapés.

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londonflare@reddit

If your husband is best man you can definitely pull the VIP card and ask for a veggie option.

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Liverspoon18@reddit

I don’t think the best man’s partner is entitled to a VIP card. I wouldn’t even say the best man has a VIP card. The VIPs at a wedding are those getting married.

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Mr-Incy@reddit

Venison doesn't taste anything like beef. It is a stronger tasting meat, so unsure if you would like it if you don't like beef. As others have suggested, either opt for vegetarian with the excuse that being pregnant has made you go off red meat, or just see what it is like and only eat whatever is served with it if you aren't keen on it. As for the other guests, I doubt they will take much notice, or you could say before trying the venison that you've never had it before and if you don't like it, you can simply say that, most people won't care and I am sure one of the other people on your table would happily take an extra portion if offered.

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cgknight1@reddit

There is not vegetarian option?

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Stripycardigans@reddit

Often at single meal wedding receptions you're asked about dietary restrictions when RSVPing (ie. Vegetarian, nut allergy etc) and then told the meal (or you find out when served the meal on the day) I expect it's possible to asked the bride and groom to swap to veggie. But they may have confirmed final meals with their caterers already

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HamsterEagle@reddit

Unless I’ve misread the initial message Vegetarians are shot on site.

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Old_Introduction_395@reddit

* sight

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HamsterEagle@reddit

* shite

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Old_Introduction_395@reddit

No, I was implying, see a Vegan, shoot a Vegan.

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ChelseaMourning@reddit

The bride and groom will be too busy to care. Just say you have an aversion to it while pregnant and give it to you husband. Nobody will mind.

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

You're pregnant and you can't eat it, either ask for a vegetarian option or just leave the meat on the plate

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

Why can't they eat it? Their claim about lead is nonsense.

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

Sometimes you get food adversions when you're pregnant and you just can't eat certain foods. I couldn't eat eggs the smell would make me feel like throwing up.

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

You might do, but the OP doesn't have those so let's not invent theoreticals.

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

She doesn't want to eat it anyway so she should ask for a different option. The post is ridiculous anyway.

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ProfessorYaffle1@reddit

Either ask for the veggie option or just eat the veg and leave the meat. Have a couple of cereal bars / a banana/ something else in your bag so you can eat them if you need something to keep you going.

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7ootles@reddit

Fucking hell, are you a toddler yourself? Last time I heard someone decide they don't like something they've never tried, that person was three years old. Also here the UK most buckshot is made from steel. *Also*, surely you realize that, even if the buckshot *is* lead, the meat you're eating isn't contaminated unless you end up with the bullet literally in your mouth, right?

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

Shot is never used for deer as that's a crime. Also lots of venison is farmed so may not be shot anyway.

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MoneyStatistician702@reddit

Somebody on the table will have it

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Timely_Egg_6827@reddit

Only issue with shot is if still there you can break a tooth. Think asking for vegetarian option best and if not, eat the vegetables etc on plate and stock up on bed. But venison and beef about as much the same as beef and lamb. Often served in sweeter sauce too. Might be worth a try.

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

Deer isn't killed with a shotgun.

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Timely_Egg_6827@reddit

Fair. More bullet fragments. But always been given that warning when friends gave me venison, pheasant or rabbit.

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

Venison is shot with a high calibre rifle, those other two animals are not. You aren't going to be getting fragments.

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_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_@reddit

Yeah don’t eat that. Ask for the veggie meal. Surprising this wasn’t addressed at RSVP time

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dibblah@reddit

Most rsvps I've seen don't tell you what you're going to eat, just ask if you have any dietary requirements. Entirely possible OP wasn't pregnant at rsvp time or didn't think it was relevant to mention

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_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_@reddit

Interesting. All the ones I’ve gotten have been a check box with 3 options

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

You seem to have decided you don't like something you've never eaten, it's bizarre.

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Sorry_Opportunity_81@reddit

Bonkers isn’t it?

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Competitive_Alps_514@reddit

It's something a parent would tell a child to behave.

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TRIGMILLION@reddit

Eat before you can and just put some bread and potatoes on your plate. No one is gonna cross examine you.

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theoriginalShmook@reddit

There won't be any lead in the meat you're given unless the target was machine gunned. The bullets used are jacketed, so the lead is inside another metal, and totally safe. Use this opportunity to try something you haven't eaten before. It's delicious. Definitely different to beef. If you don't like the venison, leave it after youve tried it and eat the rest of the meal.

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throwaway2302998@reddit

Pick one or multiple: 1. Leave it because they won’t notice 2. Ask for a vegetarian option 3. Tell them you can’t eat it in your doctors advise

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Nine_Eye_Ron@reddit

Ask for the vegan or vegetarian option

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cosmicspaceowl@reddit

I have eaten many terrible vegetarian options at hotel style weddings with a smile on my face and then complained at length afterwards to people who don't know the bride and groom (guys if the venue tells you their veggie option is a caremelised onion and goats cheese tart and you have vegetarian guests you don't hate, please kick up a fuss). I think that's the polite thing to do most of the time. However you have the pregnancy excuse, use it!

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VelvetWattle@reddit

Get a mcdonalds on the way there

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wardyms@reddit

Step one, ask for vegetarian option. Or just not eat it. Nobodies going to care or notice one person hasn’t eaten the meat on their plate.

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baeworth@reddit

Ask for a veggie option, if that’s not possible then take a couple of bites (or pretend to) and then say “oh no, the baby really doesn’t like this” and fake a bit of nausea. You have the pregnancy card, play it!

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Worried-Ad-6593@reddit

Speak up when they ask if any knows a reason why the marriage shouldn’t proceed, you’ll never make it to the banquet. Problem solved.

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Forever_a_Kumquat@reddit

I'm going to wedding next month and the set menu contains zero items I have any desire to eat. I'm just gonna not eat it. I'll take a pot noodle and heat it up in my van when there is a lull. No point making a fuss over it imo, if you don't want it, don't eat it.

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GlorfindelTheGolden@reddit

Take the veggie option?

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Redvat@reddit

Just don’t eat it, the bride and groom aren’t going to notice.

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MysteriousTelephone@reddit

I would do my best to eat at least 50%, and then if questioned say I filled up on the starter, and am saving some room for dessert.

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bishibashi@reddit

Message whoever saying sorry to be a massive pain but I’m worried about eating game while pregnant so can you see if I can switch to veggie option. Put a few sorry to be so sillies and that kind of thing in and it should be no problem, a week out this stuff is just an email they need to send.

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Kitfromscot@reddit

I went right off red meat when I was pregnant, use that as an excuse if you feel the need

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Cultural_Tank_6947@reddit

Ask for a veggie option. There's bound to be one.

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Jazzberry81@reddit

I would say you are off meat while pregnant and ask for the veggie option. Don't waste it.

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PetersMapProject@reddit

Ask for the vegetarian option?

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SpecialUnitt@reddit

Generally suck it up and eat it. If you’re worried about lead then let them know and maybe get the veggie option

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