Please help, looking to rehome my pet.

Posted by Flowerdecay@reddit | Dallas | View on Reddit | 69 comments

Hello I am in need of help, I have a 6 year old cat that I can't properly care for anymore because there were some changes at my job and now I'm forced to travel for work mostly full time. I have been leaving for weeks at a time for the last month and a half and I have my boyfriend come check on my cat once a day when I'm gone but I feel bad for doing it this way and I feel like I'm neglecting him. I am looking for a foster or a potential new home but asking around with my friends and posting on adoptapet.com has not worked. he is a flamepoint Siamese tabby mix 7 years old, suuuper loving and affectionate loves to cuddle, litter trained, he got a bit chubby after being neutered, not chipped. He is Used to being the only cat in the house but gets along with other cats for the most part. He was vaccinated last year but he needs to be vaccinated again soon. Please help! Even if it's pointing me in the right direction, I've reached out to some rescues but have had no luck either.

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

UPDATE: after talking to several people here I found a loving permanent home for Pepe over the weekend and I just want to thank every one who responded and who checked in to offer support and to offer to open their home to foster. I love Reddit and this community! Thank you!!

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efuff@reddit

Whatever you do, avoid passion animal rescue. They scammed me!

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brina_jatez@reddit

please be careful who you give it to, hope you find a good home for this baby

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truth-4-sale@reddit

Aviod takers from Springfield, Ohio for now.

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SelectCabinet5933@reddit

User name does not check out.

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Gaumond@reddit

I think he is actually serious too.

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GladVeterinarian5120@reddit

Did kitty get a home? Beautiful animal. Vibes are agreeable, too.

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miketag8337@reddit

I’m not saying to ask the ethnic makeup of the people who attempt to purchase your pet, but if they ask whether condiments are included in the deal, you may wanna look elsewhere.

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

Thank you to everyone who has replied and/or reached out, this community is very generous and willing to help, besides the couple of people who have judged me for reaching out for help without knowing my situation or story at all, everyone has been great.

I will update the post when I find a good fit for a permanent home or a foster home.

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fanoftom@reddit

I understood from your story that you had already attempted to get a job at every single other employer in DFW, and the only one available to you is the employer that forces you to work hours that make caring for your dependent loved one inconvenient—since I can’t imagine any other scenario in which it would be appropriate to abandon the commitment you made to them. I’m sorry this happened to your family and wish you all the best.

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Fit-Literature-8414@reddit

You have a limited imagination then.

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Reinadeloszorros@reddit

I DMed you

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StrictReputation8171@reddit

Dallas Cat Lady might be worth asking, at least they can point you in the right direction. :-) I wish I could take him in but I’m not sure how my partner would feel with our current situation. 😭

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fanoftom@reddit

I’m assuming that you just forgot to mention that there were zero jobs available to you that allows you to continue to care for the dependent to whom you made a lifetime commitment of care….otherwise this post would be quite disturbing (the idea of abandoning a dependent because you chose work hours that made caring for them inconvenient.)

So since you’ve already done that research and this is the only employment available to you in all of DFW, I am quite sorry you and your family are going through what must be an incredibly traumatic event, having to say goodbye permanently to a family member. I wish you all the best.

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lpalf@reddit

You already commented 3 hours ago and now you had to come comment again? We know your stance

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fanoftom@reddit

I’m very sorry for what OP and their family are going through. I only wish there were more than one employer in this city at which OP could possibly work. But since there isn’t, they were left with only one option, and here we are. I know it was really hard for them.

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PorcelainDalmatian@reddit

This is a helpless animal. You made a long term commitment to care for it. Find another job. They exist. Honestly, how can you just abandon a family member?

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fanoftom@reddit

This. Like I’ve never understood the concept of “oh my job/housing/personal goals changed so ope guess I can’t be a guardian for this innocent depending on me now! How is that a thing? Swap cat for human child. Now is it OK? Of course not. Same thing.

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alextheruby@reddit

I know Reddit thinks pets are 1:1 replicas of children, but they aren’t lol

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MonSoleil937@reddit

Reddit thinks all family is optional and you should abandon and cut ties with all of them at the first inconvenience.

Yet somehow, pets are family, which means you can never ever turn your back on them. You get sick and die? How could you, you had a cat!

Make it make sense.

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Aggravating-Fee-9138@reddit

Never quite understood this argument. Sometimes people aren’t able to provide for children either… and they’re left with family, friends, or the foster system. Things happen. At least they’re trying to do right by their cat and not dumping them.

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fanoftom@reddit

Imagine the following Reddit post:

“I got a new job with new hours in a new city and now I’m looking to rehome my 6 year old boy. He doesn’t eat too much and has a great temperament. I thought I’d be able to care for him for 18 years, but as it turns out our new apartment complex won’t allow more than 3 people to live in a one bedroom, and I already have 2 children. Would anyone be willing to take this sweetie in? Otherwise I’ll have to take him to a shelter.”

Do you find this post to be

A) Totally acceptable and the right thing to do

B) weird AF, possibly sociopathic?

Personally I’d go with B but I guess that’s just me.

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Aggravating-Fee-9138@reddit

Yeah, that would be really weird. But human children and pets just aren’t the same imo. Not that they shouldn’t be treated with love and respect, but priorities and ways of handling these situations are different. You’re being very judgmental of this person that you don’t personally know that seems to be doing what they think is best for both them and the cat.

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fanoftom@reddit

But human children and pets just aren’t the same imo

Well luckily, this isn’t a matter where a mere opinion is relevant to the discussion.

The fact is that it is morally reprehensible to turn one’s back on a dependent life form to whom one made a lifetime commitment.

But in this OPs case, I am choosing to believe that they attempted to find a job at every single other employer in the area, and this was the only possible way they could support themselves and earn an income. Since that’s the only option that makes this behavior excusable in anyway.

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MonSoleil937@reddit

But if the new home is a better place for the animal, why is it so bad?

If the lifetime commitment is to provide the animal the best possible care and that’s accomplished by having another qualified, loving home take the animal in, how is it violating the commitment?

If the animal is better off this way - was kept alive because OP took them in, and has a good life because OP responsibly handed the pet off - what’s so wrong with it?

People break lifelong commitments all the time (divorce exists). Sometimes the spouse is dependent on the other. Is that morally reprehensible? Or just an unfortunate fact of life?

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Aggravating-Fee-9138@reddit

You stated my opinion doesn’t matter and then in the next paragraph stated your opinion and claimed it as fact. 😒

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fanoftom@reddit

Where did I state an opinion?

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Aggravating-Fee-9138@reddit

You are very dense. Your whole 2nd paragraph. Calling it morally reprehensible to give up a cat to a new family, no matter the circumstance, is your opinion. I’m not commenting further. You can continue to be mad.

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fanoftom@reddit

Ah. I see. It seems you’ve misquoted me, however. I did not mention cats at all in my quote. Here’s the corrected quote:

“The fact is that it is morally reprehensible to turn one’s back on a dependent life form to whom one made a lifetime commitment.”

I guess in my mind, this is a universal truth. However, if your assertion is that the statement above is in fact a debatable opinion, then I am open to hearing that argument.

Cheers either way. G’night!

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SiriusSlytherinSnake@reddit

This comment is so ridiculous given it's not remotely the same and completely disregards the many parents who either have to give their children up or have their kids taken because they can no longer care for them. You are the one who should be put on a watchlist. They are doing the right thing. We tell parents with actual children and adults with elderly the same thing. If you can not provide a good standard of care for your loved ones, hand them to someone who can through legal safe means. You're a terrible person you know that. A promise to care for someone doesn't supersede their quality of life.

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fanoftom@reddit

If you can not provide a good standard of care for your loved ones, hand them to someone who can through legal safe means.

….and posting on Reddit is how one would do that? If it were a child or dependent adult?

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SiriusSlytherinSnake@reddit

Is that the standard for legal safe means? To post online to ask if someone can take them and then vet the people? Or is the standard authorities, programs, safe havens, services and the like. Use your brain baby. Think. You don't even hand a newborn over to the same programs you would ask to take an elderly. Why would a cat be the same. Oh but there is something in common with all those, people post online asking for advice for what programs they can use if there are not other options such as loving homes they know will take care of them. People hand their children or elderly parents to family and friends all the time through legal safe means. They don't hand them to strangers because it is not a legal safe method. Cats can be given to strangers through legal safe methods. Your issue is with funding, the law, and standards. Take it there.

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MonSoleil937@reddit

Actually, this does happen with human children.

A parent going through a cancer diagnosis or ending up homeless might lean on relatives and the foster system because they can’t care for their children for a time.

Some parents have to leave the country, with their child in care of trusted relatives or friends, because of a job opportunity that allows them to provide for said child.

In all of these cases, it’s about the child’s best interest. It’s a hard place to be, but it’s all that can be done.

Also, I don’t know what economy you’re living in, but there really aren’t a lot of jobs out there right now. OP shouldn’t have to risk homelessness when they can give their cat a better home that’s more able to meet the cats needs.

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wyja@reddit

You have no right to say this sort of thing. Try to be open when people are asking for help - it takes courage to ask for help when you need it, especially in a situation like this.

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fanoftom@reddit

It takes courage to…..what exactly? Not abandon a dependent on the side of the road?

I mean…slow clap I guess? I didn’t realize the standards of behavior were so low that we’re now congratulating people simply for not doing the most horrifying thing imaginable.

I got mildly inconvenienced in traffic today and I didn’t murder the guy in the lane next to me! That takes courage!! Congratulate me!

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

I adopted my cat back when I was married in a stable home, when I had free time and resources to care for my cat and even foster litters of kittens over the years, feeding kittens from bottles and catching and spaying the stray mothers and fathers through the tcap catch and release spay and neuter program. I went through a divorce which put me in a bad spot financially and career-wise which is why now that I'm on my own all of a sudden now I have to catch up. It's not that simple, my work is kind of niche and that's the only thing I'm good at and know it's not that easy to just find another job.

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Vegetable_Contact599@reddit

I SO wish I could adopt that beautiful baby! But I have a cat that doesn't play well with others

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lavenderessences@reddit

Have you tried cat lady?

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

Thank you I will reach out!!

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medullaoblongtatas@reddit

I can help foster!

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

Hiii! Depends on how old? He does have some boundaries with petting or being touched in some places so it's best if the children are older to understand that.

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boxedwine_sommelier@reddit

How is he with dogs?

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

It's not the best mix, he doesn't get along that well with dogs

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lpalf@reddit

Oh my god look at that face

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mandermania@reddit

Post on the adopt a pet site, it will help you organize and vet people out

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Cheesencrqckerz@reddit

Be careful, according to Donald Trump, “They are eating the cats!”

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

lol!!!

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xoxokaralee@reddit

That’s a gorgeous Monstera 😍

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GladVeterinarian5120@reddit

Like the upholstery on that chair, too.

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

I adopted my cat back when I was married in a stable home, when I had free time and resources to care for my cat and even foster litters of kitten over the years, feeding kittens from bottles and catching and spaying the stray mothers and fathers through the tcap catch and release spay and neuter program. I went through a divorce which put me in a bad spot financially and career-wise which is why now that I'm on my own I have to catch up. It's not that simple, my work is kind of niche and that's the only thing I'm good at and know it's not that easy to just find another job.

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Emergency_Fee_8934@reddit

Let me know if you do not find a home for him. Or if you are unsure about anyone wanting to take him. Take your time and be 100% sure about your gut feeling with people.

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

Thank you so much! I'm talking to several people who have all been gracious and I'm trying to find the best fit.

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krtx@reddit

I can probably foster him after 9/22, but I'm out of town until then. (You can check my post history, it's mostly cat related!)

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Flowerdecay@reddit (OP)

Just dm'd you!!

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