I’m GenX and I still feel like a Square Peg! Am I the only misfit?

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Lucky-11@reddit

Growing up GenX, I always felt like I didn’t quite fit in. I was always out of step. I wasn’t fashionable, I wasn’t into recreational pharma, I didn’t listen to the right music. I was not kool.

I was the same way. I think there are a good number of us who never quite fit in. Whether it was with a clique or a crowd, we never felt it was a place for us. I kinda embrace it today. I am who I am. And I'll find others like me to befriend. I really wish I would've been comfortable with it back then. It took some 30 years to realize this.

You know, the truth is nobody truly feels like they fit in. Some feel they are faking it, or others are "taking pity" on them. While others are just confused. We all want to be part of something. Sometimes it just takes time to realize what that something is.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Very well put! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!!🙂

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Much-Chef6275@reddit

And add to that that GenX is squeezed in between two larger, louder generations...

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penguin37@reddit

Nope. I realized I am neurodivergent and that has given me so much context for why I always felt so different. Most of my friends are ND also (different flavors) and I no longer feel like such a weirdo. I mean, I'm still a weirdo but I feel it in a positive way rather than a negative outcast-y way.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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concerts85701@reddit

Mmmmmm Parker Posey

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thanks for sharing…I don’t understand your reference to Parker Posey.🤷‍♀️

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concerts85701@reddit

My bad. My brain got her folder confused with my jami gertz folder.

I still stand by my mmmmmm parkey posey though.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Ohhhh okaaaay. 🤷‍♀️

So, I’m going to respond to your comment specifically but I’m also going to respond to some general concerns expressed by others…

Thank you for your comments concerts85701. They are valued & appreciated. Actually, I value & appreciate everyone who took the time to comment on my OP. I think it’s genuinely helpful to read other perspectives.

And, I find your comments to be of particular value, concerts85701, because it illustrates my point. So we’re going to use it as the perfect example of what I meant in my OP…when I CANDIDLY confessed, to having the feelings of being a misfit within the construct of my own generation. (paraphrasing)

Before we dive in… Allow me to indulge in some clarification, since so many have misconstrued the meaning of my OP. A misfit within my Gen = A misfit within my Gen. Period. A general misfit would be outside the scope of my post. So, although, It doesn’t necessarily equal a misfit in general—> I’m not implying that there’s anything wrong with that! Soooo…I’m not sinking into despair, struggling with self-doubt, or any other derivation of that theme where I question my value to society.

I DO CARE about the opinions & critiques of others. But, it’s not what you may think. I see it as constructive feedback for my interactions in the wild. You see, I consider myself to be on a lifelong journey of self-improvement, and constructive feedback helps me course-correct. Just know that I am comfortable with the person I’ve become and I’m NOT afraid to be my authentic self.

So what was the reason for my OP? I’d been tootling around under the assumption that I’ve evolved, when all of a sudden, while scrolling Reddit, I’m struck by the feeling that I’m still a GenX misfit! A feeling similar to those from childhood. It seemed significant!

And, I realized via observation (mine of course)that you, and, a great many of the regular Reddit GenX community members possess a lot more cultural knowledge than I. Meaning …you are more richly versed in the collective shared knowledge of our youth. (I’m using the word knowledge as a placeholder, like a proxy, to act as an aggregate term collectively representing our particular gen’s culturally relevant values, beliefs, norms, happenings & experiences, etc.) (i.e. Square Pegs.)

So…back to your comments, concerts85701, (I think) you made reference to the TV show called Square Pegs. 🤷‍♀️But, I must confess…when I chose the Square Peg metaphor, I wasn’t yet familiar with the existence of any other reference/use…let alone some obscure TV show that aired for 1 season in our youth.🤷‍♀️ But, I am now! Soooo-Thanks for making my point!👏🏻

Also…By ‘Hmmmm Jami Gertz’ I’m assuming you were referring to the character she portrayed in Square Pegs? And …you were attempting some humor by making a sort of implied comparison???? 🫤

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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Slowlybutshelly@reddit

I still feel like I am going through early adolescence all over again. Self identity?

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate it! I wouldn’t categorize myself as having an identity crisis, per se. I think, for me it’s more of an epiphany.

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Slowlybutshelly@reddit

Nope. Raises hand.

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Hilsam_Adent@reddit

A: Square Pegs was an excellent show.

B: The root philosophy of Gen-X isn't "Whatever", contrary to stereotype, it's "There is no 'Lane' that fits me, so... fuck it, I'll just drive on the shoulder."

Don't worry about "finding your tribe", OP. Your tribe is the people/experiences/memories you've already accumulated and those yet to come. It may be small, but it's yours, not some pre-determined collection of bland, mass-appeal trash.

That is the real essence of "us". Conformity is for those that came before us and slavish obedience to "the Hivemind" is for those that came after. Embrace the "Unapologetically You" like only we can.

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Personal_Bridge6115@reddit

I loved that show. It was so underrated

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Hilsam_Adent@reddit

Too far ahead of its time, hence why we only got one season of it.

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DelcoPAMan@reddit

: Square Pegs was an excellent show.

Good soundtrack too.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

TV show!!! Okay…now I get it! (Sorry…the misfit in me strikes again!) I didn’t understand the continual references on this thread to Square Pegs! I didn’t know what you were talking about I thought, perhaps, you were referring to a broadway show or a punk band??? It didn’t occur to me that it was a TV show! It’s available on YouTube…I’m going to give it a try.

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Consistent_Sale_7541@reddit

Totally different head!

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WalkingOnSunshine83@reddit

Like, gross me out the door.

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Catlore@reddit

Johnny Slash RIP.

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Magerimoje@reddit

This is excellent. Thank you

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

I am so grateful that you took the time for that pep talk! You are so spot-on with your observations and suggestions! Sometimes, we need to hear it from others, and today, I needed it. Many thanks!

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MorningBrewNumberTwo@reddit

After a certain age, you realize that fitting in with the crowd is overrated, and it really doesn’t matter. Individuality is where it’s at!

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PlantMystic@reddit

Nope. You are not the only one. I usually don't fit either. Or it feels like I don't. I just mostly accept it and do my own thing.

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Pointless_Lawndarts@reddit

Aren’t you essentially pegging yourself into your own hole here?

Were all float down here….

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing! Actually, You have an excellent point! I think you mean something along the lines of: My fiercest opponent IS staring at me in the mirror! I HOLD the keys to my own cage! *And, No one can make me feel inferior, without my consent! Thank you for weighing in! I’m not familiar with the float reference…

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Pointless_Lawndarts@reddit

Kind of.

The way you’ve written how you’re feeling here led me to feel like you’re trying to say that, or you’ve felt as if your experience was fairly unique, and more specifically unique to gen x.

The way you described yourself/your feelings is in fact an almost perfect description and summary of the definition of the phrase “gen X”.

So, ultimately, I’m trying to pat you on the back here and help you deal with how much it sucks to be us, and welcome to the club you have just now learned you’ve always been a part of. :)

Sucks to be us, but at this point, I don’t think any of us would really trade it for any other current living generation.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I’ll take it to heart.

FYI: I regret using the Square Peg metaphor…apparently it could be misconstrued as either a TV show or an intimate act…NOT what I had in mind!

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Hilsam_Adent@reddit

Pegging is a colloquialism for getting fucked in the ass with a dildo (usually strap-on)

"We all float down here" is something Pennywise (The clown from Stephen King's It) would say to victims through projections of loved ones he'd already killed. They (spiritually/psychically) became a part of him (Which was a weird, all-consuming celestial spider/elder God thing) and he fed on their fear, both para and posthostumously.

In this usage, it's about losing what makes you, you in the course of "blending in" with "the whole".

Interestingly enough, the keys to defeating "It" are pretty much what you got out of what he said, so it worked even without your connection to the reference.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Wow 😯 Thanks for clarifying…

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ChaChiRamone@reddit

(“pegging yourself” might mean something different these days…)

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gianttigerrebellion@reddit

😂😂

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Well…I did not know. Thanks for the tip!

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IceLapplander@reddit

I never fit in as a kid, i did not try to fit in as a teenager and could not care less about fitting in now that i am in my late 40's.

I was always a misfit, a weirdo, that person people cross the street rather than pass on the sidewalk.

At times look like a 1% biker with a perpetual angry scowl on my face.
And yet i am a D&D playing geek with a soft heart and full of empathy.

I am also a Dominant Sadist that happens to be a hopeless romantic.

So i guess "a walking oxymoron" describes me best, and i am fine with that.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

I like how you control your narrative!

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Magerimoje@reddit

I'm a triangle peg.

I don't fit in the round hole and I don't fit with the other square pegs.

I'm not a black sheep - I'm the multicolored sheep.

I don't "march to the beat of my own drum" I'm skipping and hopping and dancing along to a string instrument.

I'm not a leader or a follower, I'm the one that wandered off the path and is somewhere deep in the woods.

Weirdos unite!

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

I 💕your response!

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lazygerm@reddit

Our generation as a whole are misfits.

I know growing up and even until now, I still feel out of place.

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rogun64@reddit

I feel like a square peg with everyone and I just embrace it. It's who I am and I don't care what others think about it.

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MissMurderpants@reddit

I’m sorry you feel like that. I never felt I fit in really. I decided to think, so what. Fit in or not people will find me and we can hang out or not. I never really tried to fit in with others. Others became friends with me and we make it work.

I say this as the child of a military dad. Do we moved about every 4 years. I never felt like I fit in and I made friends everywhere I lived. But friends were very ephemeral to me. So I liked me time. Hanging with my family or just doing my own thing.

Which I realize was one of the good things about our generation. We had a lot of alone time.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your experience! My dad was in the military too!

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MissMurderpants@reddit

Yeah, my oldest sibling had a hard time with all the moving. They sometimes still feel like the odd one. They don’t show it but I can see it in their eyes at times.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Yeah…I can certainly relate! I found a way to adjust but My older sister couldn’t. Thankfully, Her coping mechanism was to create more turmoil so we could all feel her misery!

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MissMurderpants@reddit

I’m grateful she was a pretty awesome sister overall.

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RCA2CE@reddit

There isnt a wrong kind of music

IMHO GenX are the greatest connoisseur's of music in the history of the world. We did it right and we still do it right

Our connection to music exceeds everyone else. I don't know a GenX'r that doesn't love a huge variety of music.

Music is so identifying for us, in my opinion anyway.

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torchlitpath@reddit

Even Rolling Stone declared 1984 “The Greatest Year in Pop”.

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Content_Talk_6581@reddit

I quit trusting Rolling Stone when they put Brittney Spears and Justin Bieber on the cover in the same year, sooo.

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RCA2CE@reddit

1984 was great, I think it was peak "new wave" - new wave to me is very uniquely GenX, I mean that's our music and no other generation really relates to it like us.

I think, just my opinion, that there are a lot of little micro-genres bunched into post-punk, which is really just trying to be a more musically pleasant sounding punk that retains the anti-authority, rebellious, meaningful spirit of punk but doesn't suck to listen to. I like punk culture and maybe a couple of songs, but for me some of it is melodically silly - so I prefer new wave, no wave, alt, ska etc.

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KoreaMieville@reddit

https://youtu.be/FJ4Vxp5hdag?si=3HaT_wiV3fr_-o7D

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Ok_Television9820@reddit

I’ve never fit in, ever, anywhere.

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stevemcnugget@reddit

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stevemcnugget@reddit

We're not the first

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jcgreen_72@reddit

You're not alone. Also, does anyone remember the show Square Pegs with tiny baby Sarah Jessica Parker?

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nixtarx@reddit

Why am I such a misfit?

I am not just a nitwit.

You can't fire me, I quit!

Seems I don't fit in...

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PaperPhoneBox@reddit

Maturing is a weird thing, For decades I felt young and out of place and now that I’m almost 55 I’ve finally started settling into being an old guy.

I’m confident in my life knowledge, I know what I’m worth in my career, and mostly I don’t give a fuck what people think of me.

I’m not an asshole, I don’t mean that. I’m comfortable with who I am. So my point is you will get there. When you accept yourself, you feel more comfortable with others.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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Miralalunita@reddit

Dude! On the contrary I feel more comfortable in my skin now than I’ve ever felt before. I feel so connected to my soul now and my body and to be honest, I’m mentally and physically healthier now than I’ve ever been. I feel like I belong in this world and that I can relate to people more! What I don’t like is the fact that many in our generation act and talk as if they were ancient. Many of us are still not willing to seek therapy and medication or meditation if needed and that’s something I’ve learned to embrace thanks to my Gen Z kids 😌 oh and I also hate that I used to like early rap and now I detest it lol

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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Quirky-Pie9661@reddit

https://i.redd.it/b363mgkj7gnd1.gif

☝🏻

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waaaghboyz@reddit

Here’s a Gen X attitude you should definitely adopt: does it matter and why should I care?

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lsp2005@reddit

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6pDH66X3ClA

Friend, squares are the best. Don’t mold yourself to fit in any other hole.

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clicktrackh3art@reddit

Same, but turns I was autistic, so…..

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Zombalepsy@reddit

I always thought that was one of our whatchmacallit’s.

We were the generation that didn’t fit in. Still holds true to this day

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Available_Low_3805@reddit

Yes, you're a unique misfit, just like everyone else.

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lgramlich13@reddit

I struggled immensely, and was largely alienated from my peers by 2nd grade. Only found out recently I'm strongly autistic, which explains everything, and I wish I knew 50 years ago...

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SkipInExile@reddit

Na. Is our thing

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AntheaBrainhooke@reddit

I decided if I didn't fit in anywhere it gave me freedom to go everywhere.

Also, as I've gotten older I've given fewer and fewer shits about whether anybody else thinks I'm weird.

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Glittering_Animal395@reddit

I appreciate this question, and I will always be a renegade by definition. I don't try to be. I just am. I can not biologically or anatomically bend the knee. I survived my childhood, SURVIVED! I was home alone for all of elementary school. I biologically can not bend the knee.

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cranberries87@reddit

I’ve always been a misfit. Was bullied. Very few friends from elementary through high school, made a few friends in college. Picked up better social skills in my 30s and made more friends, but I was always an oddball, never really fit in.

I didn’t figure out until adulthood that my ADHD probably played a huge role - it’s considered a form of neurodivergence. Explains a lot.

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galtscrapper@reddit

I find myself surrounded by millennials and Gen Zers. I am the sole Xer and the sole woman. It's interesting to me, but most Gen Xers just don't vibe with me.

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supershinythings@reddit

Each one of us is unique and different - just like everybody else.

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bg370@reddit

I dunno are you still a fucking slacker, slacker?

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

????

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Regalita@reddit

One size does not fit all!

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LocalInactivist@reddit

Feeling like an outsider is a generational hallmark for GenX. You are not alone in feeling alone.

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ResponsibleType552@reddit

Misfit of science or misfit toy?

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Misfit Toy!

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imadork1970@reddit

I'm a dork.

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LuraBura70@reddit

Same and proud of it!

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CulturedGentleman921@reddit

To be GenX is to be a Square Peg

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StevieNickedMyself@reddit

Yep, and so I left the country :)

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ProfMeriAn@reddit

Yeah, I was a misfit uncool kid that became a misfit uncool adult. I've always been an outlier, and I realized not too long ago that I always would have been, no matter what generation I would have been born into.

There's a price to pay, no matter whether you choose to be yourself or to confirm, unless you are the type of person whose natural self is the social norm.

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LilyLilyLue@reddit

I compensated in high school by going totally new wave chick. I basically didn't really care what people thought of me at that point.

On another note, Square Pegs is an all time favorite show of mine. I mimicked the Val speak of that one character for so long. 😂

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makeitfunky1@reddit

I'd like it if they liked us, but I don't think they like us

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waterbury01@reddit

That is the beauty of our generation. We all are misfits.

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Ok-Local138@reddit

You're not! What you are feeling is, I think, one of our defining characteristics. I know I feel it.

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FlamingWhisk@reddit

Square pegs. I miss that show

What were we talking about?

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Key_Inevitable_5201@reddit

We are a generation of misfits

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letsjustgetalongyall@reddit

I'm only speaking for myself here but I think many will relate.

I believe living with undiagnosed ADHD all my life definitely had a lot to do with feeling like a misfit.

Then undiagnosed ADHD is often followed by depression, anxiety and unfortunately substance abuse to deal. That'll definitely exasperate the whole misfit belief.

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labtech89@reddit

I don’t know if I fit in or not but I did not follow the path of get married, have kids, be a grandparent as most GenX did.

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SadieSchatzie@reddit

This resonates. I'm (F56) recently divorced and have been doing a lot of heavy, deep, and real introspection. The one reoccurring thought: From earliest memories, I've always felt like an outsider. Loneliness is built in, too. I assume that a feeling of affinity and belonging would be soul soothing and great but . . .I've not had much success in finding/making community. Maybe this is generational? Hmm.

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ChaChiRamone@reddit

It does for me too. Not so recently divorced (2008) f53 - I have never felt part of a real community or group, not even family. Even work life has been tough for this reason. Outsider status seems pretty permanent… I wouldn’t mind as much if it could be more accepted in mainstream - I guess that’s the point though. Like I don’t mind being a weirdo, I just wish other people could deal.

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katiekat214@reddit

I’ve always been the same. I have a few close friends, about one or two from each stage of life. People come and go from my life so easily, it makes it easy to become lonely. I’ve learned to enjoy being alone instead. I embrace new experiences on my own because I don’t have to worry about if other people enjoy the same things or want to keep my same schedule.

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wildeap@reddit

I suspect we're all misfits. It's kind of our thing.

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iamrava@reddit

don’t worry… alot of us feel like misfits and i personally don’t think i’ll ever really be comfortable trying to be human. 👽

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Franzzer@reddit

It's overrated

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Saint909@reddit

Totally.

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BallDiamondBall@reddit

I've always felt like I'm on the outside looking in. I partied hard during Jr high and high-school not only to try to fit in but also because nuclear war was a real concern (80-84). I didn't expect to see my 20s. I'm 58 now and have been in and out of rehab, and I'm doing pretty well. I'm trying ketamine therapy next Saturday to see if I can clear other lingering issues.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your experience! Positive thoughts being sent your way for successful treatment!

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Skweege55@reddit

"High School Never Ends", Bowling for Soup

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yaymonsters@reddit

Nah your liver is intact and your mind isn’t cloudy from all the bad brick weed.

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MadMatchy@reddit

Nope, but post 50 I just don't care

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everyoneinside72@reddit

I have never fit in. But i also had autism and adhd so that may be part of it.

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ChaChiRamone@reddit

Same… recently diagnosed with both, explains soooo much.

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Cool_Dark_Place@reddit

I feel you. Just a theory, but I think those of us who were early adolescents at the beginning of a decade may have had it rougher, because we were personally transitioning right in the middle of a pop culture transition. Like older GenXers that were hitting junior high in the early '80s, and younger GenXers that were hitting junior high in the early '90s. Very quickly, styles and music that were cool throughout much of your childhood were very quickly rendered outdated and uncool.

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Wulfkat@reddit

Idk about you all but I traded in my white keds, 6 pairs of socks, tight rolled jeans, and a preppy shirt the second grunge came to my small town. I still wear grunge all the time but I’ll never dress preppy again.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

So true! So very true!!

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Barlight@reddit

So if you think your life is complete confusion 'Cause your neighbors got it made Just remember that it's a grand illusion And deep inside, we're all the same

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slipscomb3@reddit

all the same^same same ^same

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

So true! Thank you!

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Shack70@reddit

Sounds normal to me. Nothing to worry about

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lisep1969@reddit

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BottleAgreeable7981@reddit

You can't fire me; I quit!

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lisep1969@reddit

Let's be independent together!

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TeacherPatti@reddit

I don't fit into the generational narrative--doting parents, never played in the woods (brand new subdivision), never shooed outside til the streetlights came on (there weren't any and we all had TVs and a/c), never skipped school, never did any sort of drugs, spent my 20s in college/law school/trying to start a career (that ended up not happening) instead of staying out all night at clubs.

I honestly never would have known that I should have done all these things if not for the internet!! I've had a great life :)

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frazzledglispa@reddit

Who wants to fit in with the plastic masses? The mainstream is full of idiots who can't think for themselves. The weirdos are the interesting people. My high school friends that were in the "popular group" were the least interesting of my friends, and the ones I didn't have any interest in talking to after graduation. The nerds, the arty kids, and even some of the burnouts were way more interesting. I had a part time job with the prom queen, and she was nice, but nowhere near as fun as my friend "Wicked Bitch" - a metalhead who swore she was going to start a metal band, and change her name to Wicked Bitch - so that is what I called her.

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LurksInHeartsOfMen@reddit

When I was younger I felt out of step with and alienated from society at large. As I got into my 40s, married with children that feeling faded. Then I got Nextdoor and I found out, My God, I really don't belong here.

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TallStarsMuse@reddit

I’ve always been a square peg in a round hole, my whole life. Fortunately I don’t really care anymore. Efforts to fit in were always futile, and normal is dull and vastly overrated.

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xt0rt@reddit

I can't keep up! I can't keep up! I can't keep up!

Out of step ... WITH THE WORLD!

Good ole Ian got you covered, and yes me too.

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Designer-Mirror-7995@reddit

I accepted it immediately, and gloried in it. Much easier that way.

Still a Rebel.

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Opposite_Banana8863@reddit

I never felt like I fit in. Now with the rapid pace of the modern world I fit in even less.

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Revolutionary_Gap150@reddit

Life is hard for everyone. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something.

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jessek@reddit

Nah I just grew up and learned that that teenage nonsense doesn’t matter as an adult

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LionessofElam@reddit

I stopped caring about fitting in or being cool decades ago. It's one of the few perks of getting older. How lovely to live by the maxim IDGAF now!

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SineDeus@reddit

Once I realized I don't have to fit in and did my own thing I was much happier

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torchlitpath@reddit

I have never, ever felt like I “fit in” as someone who was very smart growing up (and still am), didn’t come from a wealthy family, and who was/is almost certainly neurodivergent. Over the last ten years, though, as our segment of society has become more accepting of one another, my uniqueness doesn’t bother me anymore, for the most part. There are still elements of society I don’t mix well with, usually more judgmental types, but I’ve taught myself not to care what those people think.

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thetommyfilthee@reddit

You sound like you'd probably be happier hanging with Millennials.

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

I probably would! But, only because, I raised a millennial. Perhaps, it’s parents like us (GenX misfits) who played a small role in fostering the positive social changes made by the Millennials. idk…but I’d like to think so🤷‍♀️

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Jolly_Security_4771@reddit

Lort no. I found my weirdo army right out of hs, and we've been weirding it up for 30 years.

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-TX-@reddit

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alf8765@reddit

I've never fit in since I tend to always be the wolf amongst sheep. I've never conformed to any norm and always go against the grain. With the exception of some mandatory conformity during my military career, even then, I still lived in the grey area. However, I've embraced this and enjoy NOT being like the Jone's.

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TJ_Fox@reddit

I've been a subculture of one for about as long as I can remember. Occasionally and temporarily I'd align with one tribe or another, more often I'd come across kindred spirits via books or art or other media. Decades later, I'm forming my own tribal alliances based on shared values and interests born of all that time in the cultural edges and undergrounds. It's a good time to be alive!

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

This is exactly how it feels to be me!!!! Thank you for sharing your experience! I suspect it will resonate with many!

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Golden1881881@reddit

Misfits, as is Jerry or Glenn?

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Breklin76@reddit

Embrace it. It makes you unique.

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BaconIsInMyDNA@reddit

You are not alone. I never really fit in to any one crowd. I was almost always the new kid, painfully shy, taller/bigger than most and had a resting bitch face that made me pretty unapproachable. It also didn't help matters that my parental units were cheap as hell and none of my clothes were "brand" names. I was all around awkward. But now as an adult, I am comfortable in my square peg status and embrace it COMPLETELY! You do you and don't care what anyone says about it!🤗

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SilanceDoGood@reddit (OP)

Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s very much appreciated!!!