Anon can’t keep it up

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Aggravating-Split855@reddit

My mom told me it was ok and we could try again another day

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Fair_Palpitation7556@reddit

This is what I do. Although I do have an actual reason to take it because I took finasteride so that sucks.

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-boatsNhoes@reddit

Fair statement but you're treating side effects of one medication with another. Perhaps it's just time to let go of the hair so you can continue to have use of your penis?

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Fair_Palpitation7556@reddit

I agree with you once I noticed the symptom I immediately stopped taking finasteride and haven't been taking it for about 10 months now.

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It's terrible for your heart. Furthermore it can lead to priapism and may lead to you losing the ability to maintain an erection on your own after serial use. There are a few documentaries out there on its use, considering younger people started abusing the medication since they wanted to perform as if they were porn stars. Eventually they just lost the ability to maintain erections all together.

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Tumifaigirar@reddit

If any of you actually fucked a few times in their life, would know that especially the first times with a new partner, you can get nervous and get a limpish dick. You get even more nervous and it's over. If she had seen a good amount of dicks, she would tell you to relax, lay on your back, caress you and start slurping that flaccid sausage of yours, you'd be rock hard in 30 seconds.

You don't need to take viagra, you just need to stop thinking this is a competition and fucking relax.

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nyeblocktd@reddit

I had the opposite issue for my first time 😏

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the_fresh_cucumber@reddit

Alcohol can cause it too. Very embarrassing.

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YourAverageGod@reddit

Never a problem getting it up the first time.

Now lasting longer than a couple minutes is a different story

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SvageFlump@reddit

Love the honesty 🤣 Inject a little bit of reality into this post.

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birds_the_word@reddit

You just needed to be wined, dined, and 69ed.

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Tumifaigirar@reddit

Metaphorically you perverts!

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The_Mad_Duck_@reddit

Yep, same thing here. I needed like a good 30 mins of foreplay though...

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IloveZaki@reddit

I had that problem when I was 18 or so. Was super nervous and couldn't perform first couple of times but then got over it and was all good.

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Tumifaigirar@reddit

Exactly.

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Without_Ambition@reddit

It happens every time I have sex with a woman for the first time. Strangely, it's the only time it happens.

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esssssto@reddit

I'm there too my man. No shame. Perfect the finger technic.

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Without_Ambition@reddit

I don't have a problem with it, actually.

It can actually serve as a pretty good litmus test of whether the woman in question has character.

If she judges you for it, that's a red flag. If she doesn't, it's a green flag.

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esssssto@reddit

That's true. The main problem it's when its a one night stand. I feel like i lose the oportunity to have a good time.

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Jonesbro@reddit

What porn addiction does to a mf

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CoinCollector8912@reddit

Or a tumor in the brain

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Eldritch_Ayylien66@reddit

Must be lupus

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jcwolf2003@reddit

More mouse bites!!

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sindisznyo@reddit

I tried the stupid drug

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hi_im_bystander@reddit

You are a black man

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nocturnaleffigy@reddit

This vexes me

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crimsonfukr457@reddit

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nnoovvaa@reddit

Eets naht ah toomah

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halluminium@reddit

This is actually how I got diagnosed with brian cancer! Went to the doctor, nice lady, asks me simple questions. I'm kind of anxious to get into the MRI machine but she says that it's not necessary as they can now detect tumors with sex! Awesome! She takes off my pants and it's limp. completely limp. Whoops, that's embarrassing! She touches it and jerks me off but it's the most limp it's ever been. I don't get to cum and she diagnoses me with brian cancer. She also lied about the sex part, what a bitch! It was just an awkward handjob through three layers of condom. Lastly, she told me the tumor is inoperable and I have 2 months left. Can nofap help me with this? I wanna go back and prove I can get hard!

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Kojiro12@reddit

Fuckin Brian’s, always getting cancer

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CoinCollector8912@reddit

Its not cancer, but a tumor still, so making jokes about it isnt very nice imo. And it can cause serious trouble if not treated.

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Blibbobletto@reddit

Oh my god is your brian ok?

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SpaceBug173@reddit

Why tho? Geniune question. Like, would they see it and get sad? If so, why?

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Buzz______Killington@reddit

Or being nervous at your first time. No need to turn every dick issue into an ad for the nofap bros.

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Extreme-Kitchen1637@reddit

Congrats Anon, you've had you first official sexual experience and lost your path to wizardhood (loser will never learn the joy of casting fireball).

Contrary to popular belief, men also need romantic progression to actually get turned on sometimes, especially when nervous. My advice is for you to change your mindset. You went in as a sub and expected her to do work to please you. You need to get in there as a dom and use her to please yourself. She's a big girl and can take it or at the very least use her big girl words say stop.

Also hit some cardio to boost your blood pressure, your heart has trouble pumping for your 300lb ass.

I recommend intervals of 3min walks/3min hard sprint for about 15-20 minutes. If that's too hard progress as 3min light effort/1min hard effort on a stationary bike or pool swimming.

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fuck_boi6969@reddit

Extreme-Kitchen1637 is completely right, gotta get in there like an animal, tear that shit up. Anons gotta envision himself in a 4th quarter scenario, games tied up. You got the ball and just gotta run it down the middle.

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Personal-Barber1607@reddit

nah he need's to do dick curls. 5 set's of 3-5 pounds and his dick will get back into shape.

also stop beating your meat like it owes you money that shit can make you softer then a sundae, because your dick is used to the kung fu grip dry rub extreme 9,000 not a nice soft squishy puss puss.

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doge57@reddit

I don’t know many people who can maintain a sprint for 3 minutes. I usually do a 4 minutes jog then 1 minute sprint if I’m just running. My ideal cardio is playing tennis though where it’s alternately sprinting to the return then jogging to a good position to get the next return

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SuperArppis@reddit

He wasn't a true American... He lost.

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AcanthocephalaNo9242@reddit

An american unable to shoot his load, at an age he can be on some kind of campus?

Impossible.

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vulkur@reddit

Cardio is super important. When you are out of shape, sex can and will cause blood pressure to rise, and blood will be needed to fuel your muscles, and you get soft as a result.

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shellofbiomatter@reddit

How out of shape one has to be to count sex as cardio or for cardio to even become a limiting factor?

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ISV_VentureStar@reddit

Good sex can sometimes completely exhaust you.

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shellofbiomatter@reddit

Happy cake day.

Now I'm even kore baffled. Where are you guys having sex? on treadmills? Some CrossFit style sex? Sex has never left me exhausted, even when i was overweight. Busting a nut, obligatory cuddling or finishing partner off and then just get up and go on with my day.

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TheMoonMilker@reddit

You gotta swing them hips more, dude. And remember to use your shoulders for added power like the dirty apes we are.

And change your bedsheets afterward, like the Good Lord intended. Amen

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shellofbiomatter@reddit

I am. I get bored and mind wonders away before even getting close to being tired, though wife is atleast satisfied enough by that point so i can just give up.

Either the commenter saying brisk walking for 15 minutes is tiring is correct or I'm still doing something wrong.

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Reptilesblade@reddit

This. My last partner was one of those women who put zero effort into having sex and just laid there making me do all the work. She refused to even ride me to give me a minor break. Sex was something that I did to her not something that we did together.

This is one of several reasons that she is now my ex.

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Steebin64@reddit

Tell me you've never made a woman cum with your penis without telling me you've never made a woman cum with your penis. I'm not saying you need to jackhammer for 40 minutes, but putting your partners feelgoods into consideration takes good rhythm, positioning, and adaptability to what theybwant at the moment. All that combined can get exhausting if you're playing the top role for a decent amount of time.

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vulkur@reddit

A majority of Americans couldn't probably walk on the treadmill at 3.5mph for 15 minutes.

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shellofbiomatter@reddit

Oh, so bad. Cardio recommendation makes sense then. Thank you for giving me a better perspective.

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AnotherUsername901@reddit

Cardio is king I rarely party anymore ( twice a year )but I can go Even drinking and on blow.

Take care of your body and it will take care of you.

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PorterCole@reddit

fr kids, do cardio so your heart doesn’t stop when snorting lines

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AnotherUsername901@reddit

Dont do lines makes your blood pressure go up.

A few bumps in between a cocktail and that's it for me.

Safety first 👍

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Jaw43058MKII@reddit

A few bumps to a casual cocaine user is like a handle of vodka for an alcoholic. You think you’re doing a little, but then you wake up and you spend 180 on a speedball, and that migraine you woke up with isn’t getting any better, and maybe just maybe a little more coke would help with that

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HelloYouSuck@reddit

Or when you get a vaccine

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SharkMilk44@reddit

Contrary to popular belief, men also need romantic progression to actually get turned on sometimes

Anon didn't pay his hooker enough to pretend to like him.

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highvelocitymushroom@reddit

Nice pfp

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RenhamRedAxe@reddit

hahahaha yeah it happens the first times.

some may say no, but they have never been near a vagina other than their own mother's at birth.

best thing one can do is just chill go slow and then turn into a werewolf.

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FourKrusties@reddit

Smell the finger you put in her vajayjay, it’ll get you rock hard

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OutlawQuill@reddit

Wait till he learns that oak exists

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butterfingahs@reddit

You have a mouth and fingers. At least try to use those before giving up. Dudes are WAAAAY too focused on their dick. I had to learn that the hard way too, no pun intended. The moment you stop caring as much about that and putting sex on such a pedestal you'll have less issues actually performing.

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FallenSegull@reddit

You know anon, I recently invested in a company developing a product that could help you. The product is called Spontan, you should buy their entire stock so my stock goes through the roof and I can steal your girlfriend

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throwaway090597@reddit

I have the opposite problem. I put my arm around girl or do anything close to cuddling and I could cut glass. No idea how to solve it. Quite embarrassing if your just trying to chill and watch aovie and not fuck.

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esssssto@reddit

That happens to me as well. I'll be hard as hell as soon as we are kissing but if it's a girl i don't know i get performance anxiety later. They are not mutually excluyent.

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Kingsladexdxd@reddit (OP)

Honestly, too relatable. It gets really bad during those casual-romantic moments

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AutisticHormoneDwarf@reddit

There’s no shame is using viagra, even if it’s just to sit up in bed and admire your own rock hard cock.

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esssssto@reddit

Viagra should only be used if you really really need It. Its a prescription drug. It can be very dangerous.

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esssssto@reddit

It's completley normal to get nervous on the first time with a girl.

You must have some time with relax, if you can't keep going talk with her, maybe you can dress for a moment, watch some YouTube videos you both like, show each other some cool music, get your mind out of It.

After that, you'll probably get hard for good. But even if one of you aren't in the mood, maybe you can get some nice time together.

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themightyscott@reddit

You know you can just tell your sexual partner that you're nervous.

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InkyLizard@reddit

Eh, OOP just needs to find the right person.

I always kind of lost interest during casual flings and felt more awkward than horny about halfway through and didn't even finish most of the times, but kept hooking up with chicks because back at like 17-20 body count was all that mattered in the social hierarchy among dudes.

I never really enjoyed sex before finding my wife, and I believe hook-up culture is both way overrated and way overrepresented in the media. It might sound lame, but OOP should just wait until they actually want to, and not just because society tells them to.

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Salaino0606@reddit

Does it really count as losing virginity if the girl gave up?

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EquivalentSnap@reddit

It’s normal for 18yr old to loose boner from nerves during sex

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Laviathan4041@reddit

Lose*

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EquivalentSnap@reddit

Loose

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cococolson@reddit

Anon isn't watching this thread but honestly your first time is usually pretty "bad" and that's ok. You ARE inexperienced so just be enthusiastic and giving.

Life pro tip: if you eat pussy like Joey Chestnut nobody will think about how long your dick is or how long you last. Penetration is ultimately a "relatively" smaller part than it's portrayed, if you nail foreplay and aftercare you'll get at least an 8/10 score.

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steauengeglase@reddit

As long as you put the effort in and she's yelling "My brain is melting!" you are getting a 10/10.

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dirksbutt@reddit

At 24 y/o there's only bad pussy left that's easy to get, bro should have been focused when he was 14 (sad but true)

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Werotus@reddit

Honestly. I know OP isn't here, but this shit is perfectly normal.

I lost my virginity at 17 and couldn't get hard either due to nerves. Thankfully I had a gf who didn't just ditch me immediately. I've talked to friends and many have said the exact same thing happened to them too.

If this happened to you, relax, it's fine.

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Salamadierha@reddit

Anxiety. Reduce it.

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Br4tm4n@reddit

I had my first time(or at least the attempt) with a person I love in a safe environment, yet still I couldn't get one up the first three(!) attempts. luckily she was patient and after the first win I never had any problems again. It's just a mental hurdle

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vulkur@reddit

Pro tip: If you have trouble sometimes keeping it up, but don't have/want something like Viagra. Use L-Arganine (DONT COMBINE THEM, your blood pressure could become too low). L-Arganine has an effect on blood pressure and ED. L-Arganine supplements usually come with L-Citrulline. That is converted to Arganine in the body.

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BaldLivesMatter93@reddit

Pro tip: dont take supplements prescribed by strangers on the internet. Go to your doctor if you experience actual problems that persist and hamper you in your activities.

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vulkur@reddit

It's just an amino acid. It was recommended by my doctor as an option before trying out Viagra. But you are correct.

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BaldLivesMatter93@reddit

Yea i know its harmless but the way you were selling that had me a kinda way where i just had to drop a disclaimer. You good.

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cephalopodAcreage@reddit

Happened to me. Offered other sexual favors, she accepted, a good time was had by all. Don't be afraid to give a little

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No-Section-4385@reddit

Anon gave up his super powers.

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Corbakobasket@reddit

Anon is a victim of toxic masculinity

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GoodTitrations@reddit

For me it wasn’t even nerves. I think it was just a mix of antidepressants and realizing it didn’t feel remotely as good as I thought it would. Turns out doing it by hand is way easier and more customizable to your preferences.

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Aribethe@reddit

Penis malfunctions are what got me to quit smoking. It's the worst thing you can do to your dick.

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Kingsladexdxd@reddit (OP)

Anon:

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tukatu0@reddit

( ಠل͟ಠ)

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DaveSmith890@reddit

This is why us Redditors are never sharing our embarrassing sex fails

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cloudxchan@reddit

Anon was nervous in his mid 20's.

Anon will thrive in his 30's or become bluechew addicted

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Msimot@reddit

man i got blue-balled by my wife for like 15 days straight on the promise of the most mind-blowing sex humanity has ever witnessed. we were both ultra hyped, aroused 24/7. we even bought toys, even ones i didn't even know existed. she showed me her vagina one day just to tease and i shit you not it was PULSATING with excitement, like blinking at me, the clit about to explode. you know how when you are erect your cock pulses the same as your heart rate? imagine a pussy doing that. its pure bliss.

she even told me most days she had to wear a pad because she kept wetting herself out of arousal. she even had to tape her nipples because they where hard as diamonds, even her tits started to hurt.

then, fucking fuck shit fuck FUCK... 2 days BEFORE the greatest sex of my life she was like "hey hun... i just quit my job because i got an opportunity at (country super far away). i'm not asking you to come... i want to do this alone and i WANT to be alone. this is effectively me asking for a divorce. im sorry"

then she went to her mom's. and i was so confused and sad my libido dropped to negative numbers. it's been almost a month since she left and i am not been able to masturbate even once because i can not get aroused. on top of being depressed beyond my means, my balls HURT like fucking hell and i have headache and cramps most of the day.

she left me so blue balled i might as well become an eunuch just to end this frustration.

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BadRobot___@reddit

Anon doesn't know about foreplay

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Th0rizmund@reddit

It does happen anon. Being nervous about sex is a bitch.

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6inDCK420@reddit

One time I was down so bad I fucked a really fat chick from a dating app, couldn't cum and made some excuse to GTFO. Felt bad for the girl and felt bad about myself. She kissed me goodbye and I cringed so hard.

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cujoe88@reddit

Anon needs to relax. This is a common thing for dudes. Just make sure the next time you try, be well rested, make sure your hydrated and stretched out. Make a connection with the girl. Talk about things you like. Lots of foreplay, touch eachother non sexually at first. You gotta relax into it. And if that doesn't work, try it with a dude.

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Eldritch_Ayylien66@reddit

Performance anxiety is a hell of a thing

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The_Third_Molar@reddit

Absolutely. When the fight or flight response is triggered the last thing mother nature wants you to do is fuck something. Anon needs to accept that he was nervous and that's ok, it can happen to the best of us. Maybe he should take it slower next time.

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SlowAsFuckBoiiiiii@reddit

Isn’t fireball gonna make things worse?

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Tourqon@reddit

This happened to me my first time, and the second time, with the same girl

Fortunately she was very patient and we made it work the third time

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FactoryOfShit@reddit

Perhaps don't do drugs linked to impotence?

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dushamp@reddit

Nothing a little meth can’t fix 👀

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AutisticHormoneDwarf@reddit

Meth turns that shit inside out bruh sex on meth is basically scissoring

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dushamp@reddit

Coming from experience, not if you’re not taking absurd amounts/aren’t already past the first day of no sleep but def not a good idea to use just a joke

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Naive-Fold-1374@reddit

It could be just cigs, they also change blood flow

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irago_@reddit

Nicotine is a drug linked to impotence

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BaldLivesMatter93@reddit

Real shit. For a fake ass post that was made on 4chan so it could be posted to this reddit sub. Please stop this format to larp robots. This sub should go back to things that are more genuine but w/e

Realer shit

Take it easy its not a race. Communication and not being afraid to say your nervous is best. Just say because she is too beautiful and that she is doing this to you. If she left and wont come back then she isnt worth it. Apparently men are people too and might need some consideration. It seems she didnt even help so im calling pillow princess. Sex aint that big of a deal mechanically just have the mindset of loving your partner and the rest comes naturally. Also dont get too fucked up before. You think it will help your confidence but that needs to be there before you start getting fucked up, so just get a buzz going and let the horny take it from there.

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