My wife and I are considering moving to Merida in Yucatan Mexico, depending on how things go in the US, any tips or advice?
Posted by 8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit | expats | View on Reddit | 176 comments
I know you hear a LOT about cartel violence in Mexico but that is why we're eyeing Merida. My wife is studying nursing and hoping to get a telehealth job in the US they could work remotely.
It'll be a bit until we could move but general advice is appreciated.
Abject_Lack_1141@reddit
we are moving to Mérida this year. we love it but it is hot half of the year. winter is delightful. many different neighborhoods to consider but it usually boils down to :
‘centro - convenient, vibrant, loud, good bus, uber and DiDi options for transportation, historic, expensive, walkable, always something to do, restaurants nearby
north - options for larger homes with garages and yards, many privados (gated communities) cheaper for the size, not so walkable a car would be helpful, tons of traffic getting to town from suburbs like Conkal, modern, similar to a US condo complex, quieter
tons of YouTube videos on this subject. we’re buying in centro with a pool for summer heat and can’t wait.
good luck
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
My wife and I moved away from Merida too other part of Mexico best thing we could, we lived there for 10 years Merida is not what used too be. Safe nope not that much anymore, rental is borderline abusive overpriced. Food meh expensive and poor quality. Climate is something you have too try not a month a year a whole year then let’s talk. The hype from YouTubers has also ruined Merida. Constant power outages and electricity is absolutely ridiculous expensive too now we pay around 350 pesos pr month before on average 2500 MXN food is 50 percent cheaper.Merida is perfect for a vacation but not for living sorry.
RockinMSMom@reddit
Where do you suggest expats go? We want to land in a good place, not move around and around. Getting too old for that and not physically capable to do so. Any help would be appreciated!
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
I would recommend around Puebla or Oaxaca or Morelos
CustardRich5937@reddit
Please send me an email, ednabryant@gmail.com. I lived in Mexico for 35 years, all over from Cabo to Loreto, Vallarta, Guadalajara , Mexico City , Cancun, Puerto Morelos and Merida , it’s wonderful. Merida is fantastic . I suggest come try it from January to May, this way you’ll feel all the different temps. There are good restaurants, shops, malls and then the ruins are close by, beaches and amazing sights to see. Again, email me and I’ll help you out with the things you need and not let you get sucked in to the traps that most people face when they first come down.
RockinMSMom@reddit
Can I email you? I want to find a good place for a small family to immerse ourselves in a slower paced life but need good Internet service for my husband’s business. But we want to make good lasting friendships with local people, immerse with the culture, learn the language, slow down from the crazy American way. I have so many questions. You are so helpful!
Little_Sense_333@reddit
RN here. Not to be a dream-buster, but I have yet to find any employer willing to let nurses do remote work outside of the country. I have concluded that they are mostly concerned about the security of patients' information. //insert sarcasm: because NO OTHER country on the Earth has the ability to provide data & internet security and/or encryption the way that the grand ole US of A does!//
But in all seriousness, if she still has time, tell her to switch to marketing. Remote jobs galore in that field!
Also, most computer based jobs for nurses require some sort of clinical experience. At least a few years.
This is also me and my husbands dream- to move to Mexico and still earn American dollars.
RockinMSMom@reddit
Second this. And start learning conversational Spanish. It’s actually easy and would give her a leg up in finding good jobs!
kayimm62@reddit
Another RN here. Have you tried work with pharmaceutical companies? You still need clinical experience, but no work with patient's information.
ManyFar130@reddit
It depends on your stage in life, what you enjoy doing, if you will move there part time or full time and your budget. I can tell you this, it’s one of the safest cities not only in Mexico, but in all of North America:’f an it’s booming. It’s very affordable on, pretty much, and budget, close to the beach, has an international airport, and virtually all of the “comforts of home.” And of approximately one million inhabitants, the “expat” (let’s b fair and consistent and say immigrants as we refer to our Mexican neighbors), community is right around 20 thousand. So, it’s not overridden with “gringos”, but there’s enough to find community if that’s what you want. I personally have prioritized learning Spanish and trying to integrate with the locals who are WONDERFULLY warm and kind people.
RockinMSMom@reddit
This is what I want. The simpler life. The US has been awful to our immigrant and I just want to come and immerse myself and get away and slow down and enjoy life. I have friends and family in the Mexican community and I want to move here. I love the charm about everything, dusty roads, fast buses, not needing a car! Putting our plan together now.
BorisDoriss@reddit
I'm back from a one month stay in Merida in January. I'm from London UK for context. I stayed in an Airbnb in the down-market end of Centro. From the moment I arrived I felt the place was wildly overrated. In January it was as hot as I'd want it to be. Everyone is walking on the shady side of the street. I can't imagine it cranking up to insane summer levels in this concrete jungle. There's garbage everywhere in the streets and there's no way I'd call this a walkable city as there are foot sized holes in the sidewalks everywhere. The sidewalks have experienced zero maintenance since creation. I ended up walking up and down paseo Montejo every day to get my 10,000 steps because it's one of 3 or 4 nice sidewalks in town and there are trees. Still it's uneven and you need to concentrate 100% on the ground to avoid tripping. This is a problem all over Mexico but I found Merida to be the worst. Nearby Campeche and Valladolid were slightly better in this regard. I have no idea why so many Americans rave about this place. What decrepit cities are they coming from? To get to Progreso beach I took a crowded bus which took an hour and I needed to ignore the fact the bus driver was the fastest vehicle on the highway. All bus rides are like this but I guess you get used to it. I went to every museum in town and travelled to nearby cities and the Mayan ruins to occupy myself in this city. I concluded Merida is a useful base for a tourist to see Mayan ruins and Campeche. To live here would be crazy in my opinion. There are also lots of cockroaches, sugar ants and mosquitoes. This I experienced first hand in my airbnb. Who knows what the floods are like. Granted the people were very pleasant. But I seriously don't get the hype with Merida.
DeaconBlue760@reddit
All the things you mentioned that you didn't like are reasons why I would love it. Except the trash but if you've traveled a lot to other countries it's just part of it. Most Westerners are quite spoiled when it comes to modern day conveniences. The slow life and run down dirt roads, are part of the charm to me.
nomchompsky82@reddit
For me, I find it hot and boring. I've lived in Playa del Carmen for almost 10 years and I can't stand Merida. The food is good, I'll give it that (there's virtually no street food though, if you like that - I do), but you'll end up living in some suburb and just roasting, it was 132F a few weeks ago. It is very popular with retirees, due to its relative safety and excellent hospitals, but I find it to far too quiet for my liking. My advice would be to visit and spend a few months there before you commit to anything and really get a feel for it. Mexico is a big country, and despite what some people say, there are actually a lot of great options. Merida would be very low on my list.
menno_girl@reddit
What is it about Playa del Carmen that keeps you interested/busy? I just tried dm you but I am unable to.
Cultural_Bit9176@reddit
Merida is far from boring, hot it is, Centro can be loud if you like that. I grew up in Progreso, lived in Merida. They have a fun night life, museums, malls, shopping, parks, nice warm welcoming local Mayan culture and great restaurants. Street food will give you la venganza de Moctehozuma. If I were to move to Mexico, Merida would be high on my list.
visible_octopus@reddit
what about the marquesitas!? also curious about progresso because when I visited the beach towns I didn't see a lot of people or much going on. I'm wondering if it's more built up now bc that was in 2021
askialee@reddit
How's progreso? I'm looking at that city because weather seems better. It it more expensive than merida?
rvgirl@reddit
It's a few degrees cooler than Merida as it's on the water and not inland like Merida is. It depends what type of living environment that you require but you still need AC etc. The biggest complaints are poor electricity and poor plumbing. Electricity is expensive and solar is a huge demand with foreignors. Cost of rentals or real estate depends how close you are to the water, if the rental is owned by a national or a foreignor. Nationals don't tend to upgrade their properties like foreignors do. Merida is the same.
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
I'm a quiet shut in lol, so "boring and quiet," is preferred by me.
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
if you are outdoor person embrace being much more inside. I lived in Merida for 3 years and one day I woke and looked at my wife I had enough I want to leave. Merida is way to overhyped and over priced for mediocre, I live in other parts of Mexico and we moved too Puebla. 1 priority for us was to be able to be out in the day not only early morning super humid by the way, and in the night and again super humid. After 3 years I was at the point so depressed that if my wife said I want to stay I would move anyway. Its just not for me I am person who most of my life spend 70 percent of time outside. I am good at being in very hot climate but not humidity. I had a lots of nausea I collapsed several times. And AC will become your new best friend you go out of your house into a car with AC and then go the a mall with AC. Man at the end I was so depressed I was ready to leave over night. We had a lots of local friends and I do speak Spanish I had all the tools for being happy. But weather was a main factor the urbanisation has made Merida so hot you can barely take a walk any where. And then its dirty lots of garbage everywhere forget about the turist places if you walk a bit way you will see. A lots of garbage on the street.
visible_octopus@reddit
holy shit. is it always hot there? even in February? I was there a few days and wanted to check it out again but I didn’t realize it was that terrible
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
Yes that’s why I moved two years ago to Mexico City best decision ever
rvgirl@reddit
I'm so sorry to hear about your wife being attacked, can I ask where you lived? I am living in Merida and we are leaving for all of the reasons that you stated here. I'm mostly done with the weather, constant maintenance repairs, and the worst drivers I've ever seen other than Jamaica. The yucatecans are nice people except behind a wheel. I'm not a fan of the food except arrachera lol😁
rvgirl@reddit
You will become shut in during rainy season. It's brutal. Most people go to a mall for something to do and you prey that you can make it home from all of the flooding.
rickyharline@reddit
Have you considered Montevideo then? Uruguay is extremely safe and stable. Just very far.
ExplorerMental3117@reddit
Hey could I DM you about PDC? I'm moving there in January and I just have a few questions
nomchompsky82@reddit
Sure
Weary-Dog-8532@reddit
so where would you suggest...?
nomchompsky82@reddit
As I say in my second sentence, I’ve lived in playa del Carmen for almost 10 years now, so… 😉
nobods2021@reddit
Playa del Carmen in 1990- yes. In 2025? Hell no.
Oviedo407@reddit
Where would you suggest with a temperate climate, a little plot to garden in and within 2-2 1/2 hour ride to an airport? Thanks
Professional-Host700@reddit
costa rica. left mexico for costa rica . purdavida
nobods2021@reddit
crime
shimmeringnowness@reddit
You must be joking.
No-Height9126@reddit
Where in CR?
How do you find the cost of living and owning a car?
We used to spend a month there right after easter in Jaco.
Actually met with an attorney to look into residency. Too many ever changing financial requirements.....
Ridiculous cost of bringing in your car or buying one.
Locals can no longer afford decent housing due to tourists/immigrants driving up the prices
Professional-Host700@reddit
A lot of that is true. I immediately married a girl that gave me the ability to own a business and apply for residency. I lived in heredity.
Puzzleheaded_Sky2606@reddit
Somewhere in your home country
nobods2021@reddit
Of course we would all rather be on the Caribbean, but the beheadings are a downer 🤮
The-ReV-201@reddit
Hey I live in Merida, if you need some tips or places you can ask me anything. I want to know people from everywhere
visible_octopus@reddit
hey! I've been to merida before and I'm going to visit again. I def would take any info. ive been gathering some for a while so I know some cool stuff to do mostly outside of the city
tellmeyoursewinghack@reddit
We are still getting documents in order but first of next year we hope to have the opportunity to move to Altabrisa and will be looking for a long term rental. Any suggestions?
The-ReV-201@reddit
Sureee, I’m just seeing this. feel free to dm me
WinterAlternative486@reddit
Hi, I have been eyeing Merida for a bit. Could I DM you?
The-ReV-201@reddit
Sure!!
Arcee4180@reddit
Hello, I'm interested in moving to Merida. Can you answer any questions or recommendations.
The-ReV-201@reddit
Hey sure, dm me
EntrepreneurThen0187@reddit
I moved here 3 years ago from Toronto. Love it. I made a quick relocation guide if you're interested.
hueonchileno@reddit
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crossinglvisle@reddit
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EntrepreneurThen0187@reddit
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jessielang916@reddit
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EntrepreneurThen0187@reddit
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crossinglvisle@reddit
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EntrepreneurThen0187@reddit
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i-love-freesias@reddit
I moved to Mexico in 1999 for a year and did not feel safe and chose not to move to a Latin American country because of that.
I chose Thailand and feel very safe here.
My second choice would be the Philippines.
Best of everything to you.
Mariska_Heygirlhay@reddit
That is probably the least helpful comment on this thread. Anywhere in 1999 wasn't that great. I can imagine Mexico would be the same. This post is about moving to mexico. Not thailand. That's literally the other side of the world.
WNC3184@reddit
Mexico and Latin America, 25 years later is not the same.
Puzzleheaded_Sky2606@reddit
It's literally worse
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
May I ask what state you were in and why you did not feel safe?
i-love-freesias@reddit
I don’t think you can convince yourself that any state would be completely safe.
I met numerous expats who had been robbed, and while I was there there was a home invasion where they killed a 90 year old couple. None of it got in the news. It was a vacation area with mostly Mexican vacationers.
And it’s much worse now with kidnappings, too. This includes Mexicans considered wealthy.
What does the state department website say with regards to Americans living in Mexico?
It says the whole country is dangerous.
https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/traveladvisories/traveladvisories/mexico-travel-advisory.html
Novel_Print_2395@reddit
Where exactly is that vacation area with mostly Mexican vacationeers?
i-love-freesias@reddit
Lake Chapala area.
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
It borders Michoacán and Jalisco, aren’t they two very dangerous areas with high cartel presence?
i-love-freesias@reddit
Ask the state department. See link above.
Spascucci@reddit
Mérida has one of the lowest murder and crime rates in the americas, a few years ago It was rated as the second safest City in North America after Quebec
Guttersnipe77@reddit
I did Thailand for a year in 2001. It's safe until it isn't. I had two friends die there. I'm sticking to Latin America.
My choice actually had nothing to do with safety. I speak Spanish, and my Thai is abysmal. I knew I'd never learn how to read it. Loved my time in Chiang Mai, but far more at home in Argentina.
i-love-freesias@reddit
I speak Spanish, too, and don’t read or speak Thai. Hasn’t been a problem. Google translate and many Thais in businesses speak some English.
Glad you’re happy.
Bird_Gazer@reddit
My husband and I are planning on retiring in Mexico.
A great source for information is Mexico Relication Guide.
Don’t let the price scare you off she has tons of free info on her site, and lots of free YouTube content.
I think you would be looking at either temporary residency, or a digital nomad visa. If you qualify for the temp residency, financially, you should apply for that as soon as possible, as you don’t need to live there in order to obtain it. The assets and/or income you need are probably higher than what you would expect, and they increase every year. Once you have your temporary residency and renew it for four years, you can apply for permanent residency. You only need to meet the financial requirements once, on your first temporary residency application.
Here is a link for the 2024 financial requirements: Mexico Relocation Guide Residency Financial Requirements.
We will likely retire in central Mexico, possibly Lake Chapala, Querétaro, Morelia, or even maybe Oaxaca. The temperatures are much milder. We will travel around for a year to decide.
Merida, though lovely, and very safe, is extremely hot and humid. If you’re used to that you’re good.
Mexico is an amazing, vibrant country, with good, cheap healthcare, beautiful architecture, history, culture, food, and the Yucatán Peninsula particularly, public transportation, with the New Tren Maya.
I think it’s really underrated on this sub.
Mariska_Heygirlhay@reddit
$500 for free information on the internet? No thanks.
rvgirl@reddit
There is no such thing as a digital nomad visa in Mexico. Please don't make things up. You need to be in Mexico to receive your residency, you don't receive it in the USA. The tren Maya has been nothing but problems, maybe one day it will be up and running 100%.
Bird_Gazer@reddit
You’re right, there is not a digital nomad visa per se in Mexico, I misspoke, but there are many digital nomads there on temporary residency visas. It’s becoming a popular country for digital nomads.
I never said you don’t have to be in Mexico to receive your residency—I said you don’t have to live there. You simply have to finish the process there, which usually takes a day or two, but can take longer (up to 30 days), so it’s good to be prepared.
My husband and I have our residency, and we do not live there yet.
rvgirl@reddit
You have to call it as it is, not what you want it to be as it only confuses others. I live here and know what is happening in the city, I'm a PR.
Jazzlike_Party_7295@reddit
Don't do it.
WNC3184@reddit
I’m arriving to Merida in 3 weeks. Heard great things.
Repulsive_Patient_70@reddit
How are you liking it?
Affectionate_Fly1077@reddit
You will love it. Be sure to not only explore Centro but also North Merida as it is new and modern in North. Almost two different cities in one
WNC3184@reddit
Gracias🤙🏻
Creative_Listen_7777@reddit
My partner and I recently moved to Quintana Roo and we love it! It was a relatively straightforward process to proving our financial solvency and we bought a beautiful townhouse at a great price.
Mexico does have a reputation for being dangerous. While I do think the pearl-clutching about violent crime is overblown , the threat of property crime is holy hell legit. We live behind not one but two gates.
First step is work on getting your Temporary Residence Permit.
tellmeyoursewinghack@reddit
We are working on obtaining our residency permits. I hope it goes smoothly.
tellmeyoursewinghack@reddit
My spouse, adult daughter and myself are retiring in Merida. Trying to find a successful, reputable facilitator I would appreciate any advice or recommendations?
yepitskate@reddit
Merida is lovely but oppressively hot. But hey, you might love that!
It’s beautiful in the centro area, and I love the food.
My husband and I moved to San Miguel De Allende after Roe was overturned, and we absolutely love it! It’s milder than Merida but still charming.
dreaderus_@reddit
I guess if I want to walk or ride Bicyles alot would be challenging here due to heat.?
yepitskate@reddit
Yes, in my opinion it would be too hot unfortunately
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
We left Merida after 3 years and never again
rvgirl@reddit
Why?
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
We lived 3 different places all neighbours from hell. In front of the second house we moved into neighbours there had 5 dogs beside other 3 dogs and on the opposite 4 more dogs barking 24/7 all year. third places we got construction work right beside the wall for over 8 months oh they are not finished while I write. Last year around november my wife got stabbed in the local park roughly 300 meters from here. She got stabbed in her neck and hand by a 19 years old man. Who later revealed he was in a Tik Tok competition and he then 10 min later stabbed another woman. guess what even tough cctv police reports with evidence and the same with the other woman. She got a compensation almost lost her life she got 10000 pesos. buy the way she got stabbed in front of one of the big hotels centro Merida. My wife in Garcia Gineres. To top of the grande finale he is free and not going to jail. Corrupt judge police and combine that with incompetence is Merida safe no F no. And its a well known secret the government does everything to look good so it wont affect the real estate market and the all the other stuff. Prices are out of control no regulations or at least they do not enforce. That is why we move, and also that is why many are leaving. I know this for a fact many local business says the same thing. They feel it and one of our friends who is from Merida closed their business exactly because of it. It is safe until something happens to you, but after that you are on your own. we have spend lots of money to get this dude in jail. Nothing I do not want to live here anymore. By the way we also got told there is so many cases they never get highlighted at all. Or not being mentioned. b I think our reasons why we are leaving are pretty legit. I anyway own my house back in Italy no rent electricity cheaper food is better but same price. Internet 50 percent less with 50 percent more. the same with electronics cars and so and so
Defiant-Job-7791@reddit
Ah, so you were renters. Rental communities can be noisy, and not the greatest places to live.
If you buy a home here, it will be much better. :)
Defiant_Concert1327@reddit
The above account is actually realistic. I live in Centro, ( we do not rent) desirable neighborhood and we have many issues with theft, vandalism, trash, crime. gangs are here and so is c@@@@el, but not like in other areas. Is it safe? Relatively, yes. Is there crime? yes. Are service substandard? Yes. It is also way more expensive than just 3 years ago. People need to stop telling the fairytale. Is it safer than many places in the US? Also yes.
Admirable_Stand1408@reddit
All the places we lived where beside owners we where the only ones renting, but we have moved from Yucatan since my post here, we now live in CDMX in a quite neighborhood no regrets saving tons of money living here, and man there is a lots of good places to buy clothes and also tons of superb places to eat. before I was out 1 hour pr day the climate killed me in Yucatan no problem with the heat but humidity killed me. Here we are out more or less from 10 in the morning to 20 in the evening. I feel I live again so happy here
This-Entertainer-875@reddit
Is it easy for an American to get a hospitality job at a Hotel??? English speaking not much Spanish??? 🤔
Defiant_Concert1327@reddit
no
Defiant-Job-7791@reddit
You would have to find an employer that is willing (and able) to sponsor a work visa for you.
Defiant-Job-7791@reddit
You have to find an employer that will sponsor a work visa for you.
SeveralMaximum7065@reddit
Temporary residency prohibits working. You have to get a permit to work in Mexico. They don't want us coming in and taking jobs from Mexicans.
Weekly-Stranger4961@reddit
dont go to merida
WestTF900@reddit
Please no.
saltisyourfriend@reddit
In the US, I'm pretty sure you can't practice telehealth from outside of the country.
Defiant-Job-7791@reddit
Absolutely incorrect. You may do so with no worries. :)
Minute_Tale_4379@reddit
It depends on the license but mostly yes you can. As a therapist as long I am licensed in that particular state I see patients I can practice outside the country through telehealth
Minute_Tale_4379@reddit
But again I work in private practice
Dragon_Flow@reddit
Why, if you're licensed in the US?
Top-Raspberry-1279@reddit
I have only lived here for 4 years and love it, my prior 7 years on Isla Mujeres was too many tourist running everything.
PlasticSeason7190@reddit
Same. We currently have a place in Cozumel, (since 2019) and it's geared 95% towards cruise tourists. Understandable, but it takes away from the overall appeal of the island. So we are looking to Merida as a backup plan.
hmm138@reddit
Take a look at the weather, specifically heat and hurricane trends over the last few years. That would have me reconsidering regardless of how safe / cheap / lovely it is.
SeveralMaximum7065@reddit
I did a full environmental hazard and natural disaster assessment before choosing Yucatán. Mérida is a geographic anomaly in MX. Rarely does it experience devastating hurricane damage. Because of where it's situated, most of the stronger systems turn or never make landfall fully, so they'll get rain and wind from the outer bands, but not a direct hit. Historical data indicates that they get hit with a strong system every 10-12 years, but still don't suffer the devastation seen in other areas of MX. QRoo is a prime example of an area that gets slammed. Up the Western coastline, same thing. Another thing to consider in MX is earthquakes and massive flooding. CDMX is notorious for both. Add to that the environmental disaster that is CDMX. Flooding, while at the same time water is cut off for hours every day. Then there's the smog. In the end, it's about what suits you. I wanted somewhere close to water without the threat of devastating hurricane damage, free of earthquakes, steeped in culture, and relatively safe. Mérida ticked all the boxes. We visited in May-June, and it was hot, but maybe we missed the worst of it? We got rain, lots of rain, and there was flooding, but honestly, the whole month of September is like that where we were living in the US, in a major city, with all of the resources common to major US cities. Impassable streets, loss of power, etc. Every year, hurricanes shut down the coastal areas of the state we lived in. I'm talking devastation. Yet, there are no reasonable disaster preparedness or emergency management protocols to mitigate impact. It's insane. Homes are lost every year, and some years, life is lost as well. The clean-up is insanely expensive, and some areas don't recover before the next hurricane season is upon them. I think Americans have the very inaccurate perception that the US is better at all things. Such is not the case. Ask the people who live in Flint or East Palestine about their water, soil, etc. And as much as we'd like to believe that those are isolated cases, they're not. We have whole towns literally steeped in dung from pig farms, poisoned by paper mills, etc. There's even a fire that's been burning under a town in PA for more than 50 years, making it uninhabitable while polluting the air and water of surrounding towns. The list goes on. Add to all of this that you can't go a week without hearing of a mass shooting and/or school shooting, and I think we are the last people to harp on safety. As far as corruption goes, we literally have a felon in our highest office, who has been found liable for sexual assault. There are more than 30 other felonies that will likely be dismissed as a direct result of corruption. Our SCOTUS is corrupted, with justices being bought by private citizens, and we have a mentally unstable, morally bankrupt billionaire who once worked in the US illegally, calling shots in Congress. We need to remove the beam from our American eyes.
hmm138@reddit
You got pretty preachy at the end there. I was saying it’s too hot and humid for me to consider living there.
SeveralMaximum7065@reddit
Everything before that was in response to you, the preachy part was for some of the others.
RickEII@reddit
Anything you want and need to move to Merida. She made things sooooo smooth for me from A-Z. Trust worthy and very beautiful person. https://www.facebook.com/Meridamoves?mibextid=ZbWKwL
SeveralMaximum7065@reddit
She's our facilitator, and she's lovely.
Cloud-dicebazaar@reddit
Better than Merida expat?
Sensitive_Release222@reddit
I assume you're on your way. I have a house for sale in Centro, Santiago....
StrictCut2054@reddit
As an American who's lived in Mexico and learned Spanish I think most Americans would love it. I visited Merida a few times and I think it's lovely. Don't compare it to America. For example- here I'm used to strip malls, new buildings, crushing growth and development. There- some things aren't recently painted, life is slower and calmer, you need to ask around to get the best food, dentist etc.
The culture is different but please only move down there if you can respect it. I learned to take time to greet everyone and have a friendly conversation. It's really not a bad thing! People are generally warm and hospitality and connection are important. Keep in mind that many folks are social conservatives. It's up to you basically if you want to only mingle with ex pat community or make local friends.
I definitely agree that going there and spending some time will help you get a sense of things.
whonu5@reddit
My husband and I have been coming to Merida for 5 or 6 years. We moved to Merida permanently in MIt'say of this year. It's the second safest city in the Americas. Before we moved here, I often came down without my husband and would often be out very late at night, walking the mile home from the city center at 1 am. No concerns whatsoever. None. The locals are very proud of the safety factor in their city and will often tell you, "you're safe here"; sometimes adding, "you're dealing with Mayans, not Mexicans" lol. We have no plans to return to the US ever.
OskrCC@reddit
I recommend u yo move to Campeche , is cheaper and quiet than Merida.
rvgirl@reddit
And its boring with a shite smelly beach
OskrCC@reddit
Indeed
Willing_Program1597@reddit
It’s dangerous right now.
Too much extortion and other tricky things and it’s no longer a matter of “where” and “staying out of trouble” and safe anymore.
The cartels and police will target anyone who appears to have anything they want - foreigners and Mexicans alike. It sucks because the country and people are beautiful.
But even take a visit in the Mexico sub and you’ll see that this has become part of daily life- shake downs, extortion, being targeted etc
Not the move right now :(
freedinthe90s@reddit
You aren’t lying. Just got back from Mexico there and the feel is sooo scammy/shakedowney compared to a decade ago. We felt like marks the second we stepped off the plane (and we’re from Philly FFS).
elbartogto@reddit
Where did you visit in Mexico?
freedinthe90s@reddit
Riviera Maya and Playa del Carmen.
rvgirl@reddit
That says it all. Merida is definately no comparison to these high touristy areas.
Willing_Program1597@reddit
Yep people used to say “oh stay in tourist areas” and “oh they don’t target tourists”
Nope, anyone can be a target right now
freedinthe90s@reddit
We were targeted on our resort by resort employees. It was a money scam (nothing physical thankfully) but damn it felt awful. Never had that feeling on prior visits.
Willing_Program1597@reddit
Sorry you went through that.
Willing_Program1597@reddit
Being downvoted for expressing empathy? Wheeew y’all are a piece of work
Novel_Print_2395@reddit
Where in Mexico did you feel like marks all the time. I live in CDMX and don't think i've ever felt like that here. I'm a low key person though. There are hundreds of thousands of Mexicans in this city who have more money than I do and aren't afraid to show it
Willing_Program1597@reddit
They already said where
Willing_Program1597@reddit
:( wish it weren’t like that. I love mexico
Spascucci@reddit
Mérida has one of the lowest murder and crime rates in North America, the whole Yucatán state Is located as one o the safest reas in the americas
luna_in_wonderlandx@reddit
Thinking of moving to Merida? Great choice, it's like the hidden gem of Mexico!
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
It's listed as the safest, everywhere else seems quite dangerous but Merida is listed as quite safe.
rarsamx@reddit
Hint, the "safe" part doesn't have to do with cartels but with everyday pickpocketing, break ins, etc.
In general, even in areas with cartel activity, the Narcos kill each other and not tourists. In fact, in some areas it is the Narcs keeping the peace.
So, Merida, Campeche, Querétaro, Oaxaca, there are many cities with a good quality of life.
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
How common are break ins? Like if we lived in a gated community and had our own gate and locked our doors at night?
I'm often home alone, since I'm disabled would I generally be OK?
rarsamx@reddit
Then you'd be living a paranoid life for something that's quite rare. Why leave the US if you live with the same fears?
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
Because Mexico doesn't have a looming Project 2025?
rvgirl@reddit
But they have Claudia
rvgirl@reddit
There is a beautiful home for sale in Conkal, gated community, solar etc. 219,000 USD. Look up Nick Besson. I live in SE Merida Centro and we have never had any issues. Neighbours look out for everyone. We have been gone for a month at a time and I've never worried and we dont have cameras. It's like anything in the world, you take safety precautions.
brilliantcell@reddit
It strongly depends on which neighborhood you choose. But as a general rule, assuming you’re choosing the urban north (not suburban), many locals don’t lock their homes during the day. Sometimes, I even forget to lock the main door during the night and everything’s been fine.
Now, if you’re in a gated community, you have even less to worry about. Most of those communities are inaccessible by foot, or are in very well kept and patrolled areas of the city (Altabrisa, for example). I used to live in one of them, I enjoyed doing walks at 2-3 am.
rarsamx@reddit
Then you'd be living a paranoid life for something that's quite rare. Why leave the US if you live with the same fears?
Catcher_Thelonious@reddit
Not so hidden.
Mr_Badaniel@reddit
No use replying to that user. Seems like they're a bot that replies only to post titles
rvgirl@reddit
I live in Merida plus we own/operate an airbnb in one of the nearby beach towns. We have been here full time for 4 years. It's a very safe area and very family friendly. It's important to find the neighbourhood that will personally suit you. There are many things that I like but I'm finding the rain, heat, and maintenance are top 3 brutal parts of living in this excessively hot/rainy climate. I previously lived in a very dry climate, I love summer heat, but Merida takes it to a different level. As far as the big "C" word, it's not a safety factor here except it has been known that some will hide here until they are caught. A main leader from the Sonora C was caught earlier this year, he hid for 2 years. His son goes to school here from what I heard. This leader also funded the build of LA Isla Mall in N Merida which is a very glamorous mall. Also, another C leader got shot in Cancun and came to a Merida hospital for care and they shut down the whole hospital. Other than that, it's pretty good! Hope that helps a little.
I_reddit_like_this@reddit
I live in Merida and, in addition to making sure you qualify for residency, you should to come for an extended visit in the summer/rainy season before making any commitments. Merida is a nice place to live but it's not for everybody. There seems to be never ending revolving door of people moving here without visiting first and leaving after a few months. Living here is far different from a vacation
brittanyrouzbeh@reddit
Can I pick your brain? I’m eloping in Merida in September and would love some suggestions. We have been there before, but I’d love to talk more!
I_reddit_like_this@reddit
Sure you can send me a PM - I'm headed to PDC for a few days so I can respond when I get home on Thursday
brittanyrouzbeh@reddit
Lovely! Thank you!
I_reddit_like_this@reddit
Sure you can send me a PM
Tardislass@reddit
Please visit Merida and see if you want to live in Mexico. We've visited and love the people but the water situation, can't drink tap water and the water levels in Mexico are so bad that only certain neighborhoods get water all the time. Also there is political violence every election.
And working in the healthcare industry, I can say that most hospitals won't let you work in telemedicine if you are outside the US.
I would definitely visit because there is a lot of frustrations Americans aren't used to dealing with in Mexico and it is not for everyone.
Dragon_Flow@reddit
Use of AC is causing climate change. People should move to where they need less electricity.
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
Even staying put I have my AC on constantly so...
Dragon_Flow@reddit
You'll want to run it on high in Merida and you'll still complain.
kgargs@reddit
I’m confused.
Didn’t you all leave in the last election?
Or the election before that?
Or the election before that?
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
This is the first time I've felt unsafe, so why would I have moved before?
kgargs@reddit
the saltiest of downvotes, keep it coming, you all aren't going anywhere
electron_c@reddit
But you’re going down down down
felmingham@reddit
Be ready for the heat. I live jn playa ans it's hot but merida is next level...
MadisonActivist@reddit
Americans need to stop starting their sentences with "I know it's not safe/clean/convenient" and then continuing to gentrify anywhere they touch. It's a privilege to have the option to go abroad, much less to do so on an American salary. Keep wrecking everywhere else and there won't be anywhere to appreciate on vacations, much less go seek asylum in.
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
We looked at the travel advisories, THEY were what said to avoid most states, we had no preference prior to that, that list was what got us to look at Yucatan.
MadisonActivist@reddit
I know I come on strong, but the language of the post isn't the issue. It's the content. We Americans (and other colonial countries at large) really need to slow down and think twice about how we bail en masse to other countries because they're less expensive and good looking. We're experiencing a cultural void here and when we go abroad we often fail to appreciate and assimilate, we gentrify and ultimately ruin what we first appreciate about the places. It's an issue anywhere, but when you figure in the privilege, entitlement, and frankly the money (and passport power) to go about as we do, it's far more pressing as we encroach on foreign areas (and indigenous areas domestic).
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
My wife and I plan to assimilate and learn Spanish, we're working on that now actually (I suck but I'm working on it, I'm new). I'm not super social by my own admission but I know she wants to meet people and be part of the community.
MadisonActivist@reddit
I hear you, and recognize your hand. It's still beyond just reading the travel advisories (far different than acquainting with living conditions) and wanting to make friends, ya know? The point of wanting to live off an American salary (or two?) is a big discrepancy of assimilation, and without really spending time in your potential areas it's impossible to gauge local enthusiasm for tourism vs. immigration. In terms of being trans, I know it can be a hurdle anywhere (shockingly moreso than in the states, as does having many disabilities), so be careful in that regard. As always, fk Trmp and P2025.
derickstones123@reddit
Mexico needs more diversity. It shouldn't matter what the locals think. Different cultures will make it better.
MadisonActivist@reddit
Yikes
8-Bit_Aubrey@reddit (OP)
Also I'm trans so if Trump or Project 2025 happen, I'm not staying here.
Creative_Listen_7777@reddit
This is the expat sub. Take your scolding elsewhere. Not interested.
Willing_Program1597@reddit
Agree
Creative_Listen_7777@reddit
You need to stop telling everybody else what to do and worry about your own self instead.
SOC_FreeDiver@reddit
I've lived in Mexico since 2015, traveling all around. The best thing to do is to ignore everything you've been told in the US and go explore it yourself. Find the place you like, and then move there.
The US doesn't want you moving to Mexico, or even vacationing there. They want you to think it's very dangerous. They want to keep your money in the US.
Just remember, the culture is totally different. Embrace it, don't try and change it to what you're used to. There are rules and laws in Mexico, but people in general have more freedom to cause themselves harm. It's not uncommon to see people riding motorcycles without helmets on. If that makes you feel unsafe, just keep it to yourself.
I've been to Merida. In the Yucatan, beds are not common. Most people sleep in hammocks because it's so hot. I'd say the crime factor is a little higher there than other parts of Mexico.
One of my favorite things about that area was the bars, I think they call them botaneros, you would order a ballena, or large bottle of beer, and they would bring you 3 free appetizers. They were very cheap food, like cucumbers sliced with tajin, or chicken hearts in hot sauce, but it was a great way to get a little recharge while walking around for cheap.
As an American in Mexico, I was surprised to find all the Canadians that live here. Most of Canada spends the winter in Mexico. The US would too if they knew how much fun the Canadians were having.
Learn Spanish. Always try to be a positive influence on the local community. Embrace the good things about their culture. Learn to siesta. Greet people before you start asking them questions. Say "Buen Provecho" to people who are eating. Mexico is great.
Beneficial_Cherry294@reddit
This!! This is how foreigners should express about Mexico if they live here or are planning to. Be respectful of the culture, don't try to make things accommodate you. As a Mexican, I hate when people from the states or Canada come here and they are just so disrespectful to our culture. Or how they act so scared of everything. I get it, moving to a new country is by itself scary, but when you see them being so anxious and condescending. I hate it. A group of some Canadian friends of mine(we are all in our 20s/30s) came to visit last summer, it was so shocking to me how scared of everything they were, food, water, walking, safety. And how condescending most of them were. I think by the end of the trip some of them realized how wrong they were and I love when they start appreciating that, but yeah, I think its so important to just be respectful and choosing the words correctly.
Solo-Mex@reddit
Go spend a summer in Merida before you commit.
LetuceLinger@reddit
It's too hot for me. I need to be comfortable in retirement.
jaxnmarko@reddit
Nothing much seems to be slowing the expanding reach of the cartels from turning Mexico into a narco state, including the corrupt government, so it seems like it's only a matter of time before safer spots get less safe.
ModernPrometheus0729@reddit
My parents moved to Merida and they love it there. They feel so safe there.
thedarkestgoose@reddit
Talk to locals, create a list of what you want, and take your time. Any place can be dangerous. Lived in Mexico for 3 years and never a victim of any crime.