Don't have kids at all if you're not willing to have a disabled child. Anyone can become disabled at any time. Paralysis, brain damage, neurologic conditions, you name it, it can happen. People have had previously healthy kids who ended up with a condition that makes them forget how to do things that they used to know how to do, and they forgot how to do things bit by bit. Talking, walking, eating. They end up needing help with their feeding tube, to be carried or in a wheelchair, eventually they need help to breathe with a machine. It hurts to lose your child's autonomy slowly like this, but you need to be open to caring for any kind of child as a parent. You need to be willing to feed them with a feeding tube, to use a wheelchair with them, to change diapers for a long time, etc. A healthy child may not always be healthy and if you're not willing to care for a disabled child then you should not be a parent whatsoever, because your current child could become disabled. It is messed up to think that you only want to care for your child if they are healthy. I'm glad you're not my parent, my mom and dad were there for me when I got sick and they still try their best all the time for me and love me the same, they didn't just send me off to live at a group home. They also care for my intellectually disabled brother who needs immense help with everything but is so loving and gentle hearted. My aunt cared for her seven year old when they found out she has a condition that causes progressive pain and she needs infusions and surgeries constantly. My uncle stood by his daughter when they learned she has ASD, and again when she started going blind. I was healthy until I was 16, and now I have neurologic issues and have memory issues and mobility issues and struggle to do anything for very long before I collapse, so I use a wheelchair. You don't know how quickly and suddenly health can change until it happens. Just be thankful that your child is alive, no matter what, and always love them and help them as best you can. Definitely don't have another kid if you don't even want to be by your current one if they ever become disabled, I really hope they don't because it's really hard to go through as a child, but it is even worse to go through that if your parent doesn't help. It is a lot of work to have a disabled child but any child can be disabled. Think about how the child feels to be judged their entire life. You're just the parent but their entire existence is being judged and it hurts. And you're judging them now too, saying they are too hard to deal with, too much work, they make you uncomfortable. Shame on you. I implore you to explore this ableism you have inside yourself.

Everyone wanting to be a parent should be open to the possibility of a disabled child. You shouldn't just give a child up for adoption or give them to the state when they become disabled. Would you want your parent to do that to you if you became sick? Why are their lives less valuable to you people? They deserve a family just like every other child. They deserve a parent who loves them. You don't deserve a child if you're not open to caring for one with a disability, because ANY CHILD CAN BECOME DISABLED AT ANY TIME.